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The Rope of Allah Through Character & Etiquette

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Musleh Khan

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hold off man oh Rahim

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in Alhamdulillah Hina Meadow who want to start you know who want to stop hurdle when are all the below him in short all the unforeseen or see Dr. Merlino me yesterday he level phenomenal de la de la mejor lil follow her dr la what a shadow unless you Allah Allah Allahu Allahu Allah Sheree Kala y shadow Anna say Eden I want to be you know Mohammed Abu who was Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa early he was sotheby woman sown or learner Ji was Stan obeso Nettie Li o Medina, Baird.

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Salaam wa Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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Well, just just a quick correction on the full fast food thing. I am cutting down and I'm on a very strict diet. Guys. I'm trying to lose. I'm trying to lose some weight actually.

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Brothers and sisters, a whiny fella.

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I welcome you here today this evening. And as the brother has mentioned, my topic for you today is how do you hold on to the rope of Allah subhanho wa Taala. And really, I'd like to rephrase it and say to you, how do you hold on to the rope of Allah subhanho wa Taala and don't say a word, don't speak. But you focus and you concentrate on yourself, yet you still cling on to the message of Allah, the message of his Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam holding on to the rope of Allah. It is an obligation on every single Muslim in the entire world of this ummah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it is the whole purpose of our creation. Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the heavy

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he meant to come home atone wahida for anara bukem for our boon or for an Arab bukem Fatah cool. So Allah tells us that this Deen it is a religion for you. It is your own man.

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And it is only one oh my own mutton wahida and Eliza Waddell, he is your Rob, he is your Lord your Creator. So worship Him and fear him as much as you can. The main concern here that we will discuss with you insha Allah

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are some characteristics and etiquettes that you want I should follow throughout our daily lives, and it causes us to be close to our religion. It causes us to be close to Eliza. It causes us to whatever you and I are doing throughout our days, we are always following the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and this is the main concern of every single Muslim. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us in a good acceptable Hadith had Ethan Hasson water wahoo a Tourmaline. That whomsoever seeks pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala at the risk of displeasing people. So whoever says to themselves, I am only going to be concerned about pleasing Allah azza wa

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jal, regardless of whatever my cases, regardless of However, people look at me or DM me or see me or judge me. This is my only concern. It is Ally's origin. Then the Hadith continues, and it says that Allah subhanho wa Taala will take care of him. Number one, will protect him from any animosity or hatred that surrounds him. So Allah azza wa jal puts mercy in that person's life, simply because they chose the dean, they chose to hold on to the rope of a law. And as a result, it is it's by default, you get the protection of a lot and you also get the care. However, the Hadeeth continues, but whoever seeks the pleasure of the people at the risk of displeasing Allah. And this is something

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you will find in various aspects of our community. You find that there are people that will say or judge their lives and think that as long as I have a good intention, it doesn't really matter how I do things Allah knows best. This is a direct result of the Hadith, that you try your best to please people and please what they expect of you. And in that process, you end up displeasing Allah azza wa jal, what is the Hadith continue to say? Allah will abandon him and also cause the people will also abandon him. Eventually, this is what happens and you all see it. If you haven't seen it, you will see it

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that a person who is involved in sin, and a person who wishes to stay away from the Sunnah or stay away from Allah's religion, in order that he or she can live a peaceful, satisfactory life with those around them. It is, by default this person, not only will they find that their life may have some difficulty in it, and as we've mentioned in the past, even if their life is flourishing, even if they're living the most comfortable life alized xojo says, or can early can, Arabic either a hurdle Pura ye avani in aluminum Shetty, this is the son of Eliza, which led test people in these areas. Sometimes Allah tests people by taking away things from them. And then there are many times

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allies of a jet will test us by giving us more. So don't think for a moment that just because somebody is blessed with all the Naira and the blue, and the car art and the lad and things like this money, wealth status, no matter where it is, don't think for a moment, Allah loves them. But you say to yourself, either this could be a sign of love, or it could be a very severe test from Eliza Jen. So brothers and sisters, first and foremost, we want to speak to you in a very general and formal fashion where we will discuss with you some of the general things that you and I can always adhere to, that we can always hold on to that causes us to hold on to the rope of Allah azza

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wa jal Wallen, the first thing that no matter what age you are at, no matter how old or young you think you may be, you are never disqualified from falling into the position of holding on to the quarter end. And this by mean the essence of the poor and is to read it and recite it as much as you can. Now this is not an appeal for you to recite for an each and every single hour of the day. Because while law he I will tell you, and many of us here are witnesses to this, if you dedicate only five minutes a day to the poor, and your entire life will change in all aspects, in everything that you do. This is why Allah subhanahu wa taala tells us that all of us want to simply have the

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law hegemony I'm sure you've been hearing this a many times today, that when you hold on to the rope of Allah Eben or a bus or the Allahu anhu tells us that the rope of Allah is the core and hold on to the poor end, however, you can, whether it means reciting it, whether it means studying it, whether it means analyzing it, whether it means whatever the poor end is for you hold on to the poor and and recite it. And once you fulfill those obligations of reciting it, then you take it another step and you try to fulfill a some sense of understanding some sense of insight what is a law really telling me what is a law saying to me? Because it is a level of ignorance, believe it or not, when a person

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becomes a limb of the clearer to the poor, and he becomes a beautiful reciter with all the Tajweed and all of its implications. But if you ask him what does one word or one sort of generally what it means what is it talking about? And he or she can tell you, this is still a level of ignorance that is in the person a level of javin that there are lemme teach us.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam continues to tell us in another authentic hadith, a NEMA Borth trulioo Tammy McCallum, a hillock and Hadith that you and I have always heard, even as a young child, we've been hearing the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was sent to perfect a hillock and manners. And so this proves to us that you hold on to the rope of Allah through your etiquettes, the true Muslim, he doesn't care what people think of him. The true Muslim, whether people slander him, put him down or stare at him. He ignores all of these minor, superficial or miniscule issues that surround him, especially now in our times in our society, wherever we are, this is something that

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you and I face probably on a daily basis, but the true Muslim knows how to overlook that.

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These minor miniscule issues and still he can hold on to the rope of Allah subhanho wa Taala. For those of us here who don't know how to recite the Quran with Tajweed, this is a task for you. This is a task for you. Can you imagine that when you pick up a novel and it is in English or Somali or Arabic, whatever it is, and don't you listen to yourself that when you read the words, whatever language it is, you try to read it as well as you can. When you read English, you make sure that it sounds like English to you. Can you imagine a person reading a simple English novel and constantly making errors in all the pronunciation of all the words?

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This is something that is like a shameful act. In front of anywhere you go. And people will say to a guy who doesn't know how to read anything, that guy doesn't know English, and they look down on him. How do you think it is when a person doesn't know how to recite the poor and the words of the Creator somehow know who What are Allah, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us that the person the reciter, the half of me is like a citrus fruit is like a citrus fruit. Whereas the person who is not a half or is not a classical reciter of the poor and is like a dry date. You see the difference? Just look at the citrus fruit. Just take an orange for example. And put it beside a dry

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date and look at the difference observe for yourself. One of it is sweet, is tasty. And majority of people when they eat it, they are pleased with it. They love it. It's healthy, everything Everything about it is good. Whereas one it is the complete antithesis is the complete opposite. its appearance is bad,

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it's odor might have it might have a problem with it. Everything as you look at a dry date or a dried fruit, you can see for yourself the difference between that and something that is fresh. Also brothers and sisters, as we continue to discuss this point about reading the poor and often and being close to it.

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We continue to mention

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that as you do this, continue to make dua that Allah azza wa jal protects you from being lazy. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was always known to raise his hands and make dua to Allah azza wa jal calling upon him and say Allahumma inni are all who became in a castle. Can you imagine the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to ask Allah Oh Allah, I seek refuge in You from the evils of laziness from the evils of laziness. So let's put this into perspective. Let's say a brother, he wakes up at fudger time, and he praised his schedule. And he goes to work all throughout the days for 12 hours. He's 12 hours. It's very unusual that you find somebody here in Toronto working beyond

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that. So he works for 12 hours. So let's say he's home at seven or eight o'clock in the evening.

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Once he gets home, he has his dinner, he spends time with his family, and then he knocks out he sleeps.

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And then this is the same system that he has each and every day. And then he says to you that I can't find any time for the poor and not even five minutes. I can't find it. While law he is lying to you.

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And all of you sitting here, if you're ever in this position where you feel that you don't have the time you can't spare a moment you are lying to yourself. Let me tell you how. A chef bimbos or AHIMA who law

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one of the great scholars of our time, he used to sit in the car and as many of you know, he was a chef that was blind. So he used to have a driver. Do you know that the shape of rahima hula finished a volumes of books, finished reading volumes of books, whilst only sitting in the car with his driver. That's it. He had a special series of books that he wanted to read. And he designated only the time that he sat with his driver that this is the time that he would finish this will or he would read this book. Other than that as soon as he steps out of the car and says okay, close the book are now reading down no more. In the past you will find many scholars have done this. Many of

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them are

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Even as they perform their will do, you will find that some of the Mushaf used to have a person beside them. And they would have that person to write for them as they perform mobile. Some of the scholars including the amendment know Li Rahim Allah have put together authentic books, just during their daily chores, during their daily chores. And so the person here who finds themself, that they are working hours and hours and then they only have a small portion of time for the for themselves and their family. That time that they go to work that time that they return the breaks that they have, even if it's just two minutes, hold on to the rope of Allah Subhana who What are other

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brothers and sisters we continue

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another appeal of how do you hold on to the rope of Allah through the etiquettes and manners is that this is number two, you try to live a very moderate life in this dunya. And whatever the level of modernity is, so for some of us, being moderate means that whatever I get, I'm happy with it, and this is it. Others strive for much more. And don't think for a moment that it is hot on for you to strive to live a very comfortable life in this dunya the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam praise the wealthy person, as long as they use the wealth in a good manner. They use the wealth for a large soldier they use the wealth to do the right things. The prophets I send them praise this person and

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praised wealth in this manner. And so being moderate in how you live your lifestyle and how much wealth you acquire. This is also an aspect of our etiquettes that helps us to hold on to the rope of alarms. So again, don't be of those that Allah subhanho wa Taala asked a rhetorical question in sort of castle. isle how Komodo castle had the Zulu Toma macabre? Are you still in a state of play where you are trying to collect as much as you can? You're trying to consume as much as you can. When is this going to stop? Or when is it going to relax itself and become moderate? had to resort to macabre? Is it going to end when it's time for you to reach your graves? Whenever I look at the

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surah

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it's very frightening to know how Allah azza wa jal is speaking to us here. I mean, it sounds profound. It sounds like Allah is refuting us allies upset speaking here. Hat assortiment macabre Are you going to be in the state until you reach your graves.

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And the Sora has an interesting story to it. Once there was a time when the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Abu Bakar or the Allah Horan. And there omoto rhodiola one and faultily model the Allahu anhu for individuals once that there was a time when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam walks out of his home after the vote. Those of you who have been to the Middle East, you know what after vada is like outside, it's hot, it's sunny, and most of the Middle East still observed that when during that time stores are closed on everybody stays indoors. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam is walking outside

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and he sees Abu Bakar and he sees our model without the alarm horn. So they see him that also solo Holly was someone they asked him out of solo, what are you doing outside at this time?

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So the prophet SAW Selim turns the question on them and said What are you all doing here? And they said Yasuda law we are hungry and we are looking for food. lahoma Stein. The companions are the people who should be the richest people in the world. They should have the most wealth because they're the ones who carried Islam to us. Yet you find companions, you're searching for food on the hottest time of the day. And Abu Bakar and Ramadan, the Allahu anhu they lift up their garment and they showed the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that each of them had a large stone tied at their stomachs in order to constrict and hold the hunger that they were feeling.

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What do you think the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did? He lifts up his garment and you find that there were two stones

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sallallahu alayhi wasallam two stones

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so they see a another companion.

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And this companion invites them to Yuval outside, he invites them to their home. He sees all of them gathering speeches. He says come in. If you need food, I have food and they sit down he goes and he slaughters a sheep and he

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prepares it and he brings it with some bread.

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Remember the Hadith is very specific it mentions sheep, or meat and bread, two items alone. And I want you to pay attention to this. Only two items are mentioned. And so the prophets I send them is sitting Abu Bakar donor Omar and the third companion now they are all here sitting now we have four people, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam orders that faulty model the Alo mine had come, because she has not seen this type of food in a long time. Order her to come. So she comes and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in he tells all of those who are sitting there eating this food. This is a lie. Allah azza wa jal will ask us about this extravagance that we are enjoying

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this amount of food that you and I are enjoying right now. Eliza Jen will ask us about this film Allah, Luna Yama, Ethan and in Noreen. So there will come a time where they were asked about how moderate the war in their eating in their sleeping in their lifestyle, and today Masha Allah.

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Today, we want everything from the rice to the salad to the sauce to the desert to the Jews and bring a milkshake and bring this fruit and bring that fruit. And then subpanel this is okay to an extent. But the problem is, is that when you finish eating, you find that half the rice is sitting on the floor, you find that half the food is still sitting there. We don't realize that allies so what actually is going to bring us what you say you have Sibyl now, you know on this food is going to bring us a count and he will ask us Yeah, phoolan

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or Ahmed or Mohammed, or sila or Fatima and he will ask us this day you ate this food? Why did you leave it? Don't you realize that there are people out there who are still searching for the same grains of rice that you and I enjoy. So hold on to the rope of Allah azza wa jal by being moderate in your lifestyle. And another aspect of this point is the way you and I we take care of ourselves, the way we groom ourselves the way our appearance is, for the Muslim, human being the Muslim whether they are male or female, there is one common characteristic that we all share together, and that is cleanliness in our appearance. Do you know that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam hated the

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person who was scruffy, who was untidy, he disliked this person. Even if he didn't know him, he disliked him.

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A person who might have their clothes and their garments all you know all over the place, their beards are sticking everywhere. The prophets I send them dislike this untidiness. And actually, it is a sooner It is actually a sooner that a person combs his beard combs his hair, and dresses with whatever attire that he has whatever he can afford. This is not an appeal that you go out and you buy the most expensive garments, and you wear it and you sell hamdulillah. Now I'm clean and non groomed to perfection. This is not the case. There are scholars today and I've met some of them

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who live even at this very moment in our age in our time, who live with no less than two garments. There are men of our time that still live this way. And when you sit with them and you watch them, you will think that these are truly the wealthiest people on earth because of the way they take care of themselves. Imam Malik Rahim Allah.

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He was always noted for one a very important part of his life. an Imam Malik each and every time he would come and begin to discuss and narrate ahaadeeth he would go into his home and he would find the cleanest brand new garment that he could find. He would even cut his nails. He would trim his moustache, he would make sure that he is groomed to perfection, so that he would be mustard so that he would be ready to narrate the the hadith of voto Sol sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And as a matter of fact, there are many instances where scholars have come to visit Mr. Malik in his home and he says to them, wait, wait outside. I will come to you.

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What do you think Imam Malik Rahim Allah is doing. He goes back into his home, he showers himself, he gets the best clothes that he can find only to meet his guests. And he says yes, how can I help you? This was something that was constant with Imam Malik or Hema hula. And many of the scholars of our time, they still uphold to this type of adherence to their cleanliness. And so brothers and sisters, this is not an appeal, that you all go to this level. But to be conscious and aware that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us half of our Eman, half of our submission to Allah is through our cleanliness. How does it feel that when you pray beside somebody, and there is a

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strong odor coming from that person? How does that make you feel? Doesn't that distract you? And it distracts your relationship to allies? So again, it causes you to be unaware. How do you think the person who is causing that order What level are they at in front of Allah.

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And so cleanliness, brothers and sisters, it is an urge, it is an appeal, that each and every time of our every moment of our lives, we try our very best to groom our appearance for the Muslim, Wallah, he is beautiful on the inside. And as well as the outside. The Muslim is a person when you look at him, you see beauty in him. And when you speak to him, you see beauty in him. This is what the Muslim is. And so brothers and sisters, if you ever find yourself that you become lackadaisical with this pointer, then this is an appeal hold on to the rope of Allah through the etiquette of cleanliness. The next point number three, choosing proper companions, and this is something that I

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seclude only for our youth and our youngsters. And so for the adults, I asked you for your indulgence and to bear with me for a moment, as I address the Shabaab, youth, teenagers, youngsters, high schoolers, university students, I speak to you now and I say to you, choose proper companions, your friends will define you, your friends will define who you are, you may think that you are a good person, you don't do anything wrong, and everybody loves you and you're just moderate type of guy.

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Realize that just by simply having the company that is opposite to you. So let's say you have friends, that smoke the drink that do hot on things or even if they're Muslim, and they never pray, realize that you are also associated with this type of person. And the Prophet salallahu it He will send them tells us in an authentic hadith that a human the person he is on the religion of his friends, he is on the way of life of his friends. So authentic hadith in Bukhari, one Muslim, a person is on the religion of their friends their companion, so look to see who it is that you befriend. Who is that person that you stick with? That you talk to? That you seek advice from that

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you can find him whenever you have a problem look and see what kind of advice do you get back in return? If you have a problem at home and you say to your friend man, my parents my mom, my dad, I can't stand them. I can't stand what they are how they treat me. Do you listen to what the friend says to you? Does he say to you?

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Forget about them. Just do whatever you want.

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This candidate Do whatever you want. Or does the friends say to you a tequila These are your parents allow orders you to respect them. So be just try to respect them. Be respectful and caring to them overlook their mistakes. Sure their parents they have emotions. Sure they might lose your patience. have respect for them, even if you disagree disagree with honor.

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So children

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do you remember that famous Prophet Ibrahim Ali who Sallam who was his number one sworn enemy? It was his father. His father was his number one enemy. His father actually tried to get the entire village during that time to go against his son to get rid of his son. He tried many times to kick his son out of the home because why his son came with the heat. And his father was the complete opposite. His father was a tradesman who used to build and create idols for worship.

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on what the sun

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Respond after his father kept telling him I hate you. Get away from me. I will have you killed. I will have you removed from this village. His response to his father is

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yeah Betty, oh my beloved father, I will ask Allah for forgiveness for you.

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I will ask that Allah forgive you and I will leave. This is his response. So whenever you disagree with your parents, whenever you find that you have company that have nothing good to say except instill in your heart hatred, instill in your heart, since you need to recognize who it is that you befriend. Because there will come a time

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where you will stand in front of Allah azza wa jal and Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us how to choose our friends in so little for con. If you ever want to know how to choose friends, go to suitable for con. And Allah tells you how to choose the friends that you should have. And he tells us that if you choose friends that are disobedient to the poor and and to the sooner you will come on the Day of Judgment, biting your knuckles in fear of Allah. And you will see later and later in your How I wish How I wish that I could have taken that friend who was upon the Quran and Sunnah. How I wish I had that friend to stay with me How I wish I could be with that person throughout my

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time.

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The dunya as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us

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an authentic hadith narrated and it will hardly one Muslim

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dunya meluna this earth is cursed. And just so that you and I don't sit and we think well, not everything is cursed. I mean, this part of it is curse. This thing is cursed. Not everything is cursed. Look at the look at the wisdom and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he says melona Murphy. So everything in it is cursed. So that takes out that, that that thinking immediately with the exception of three things, three things are exempted from the curse of allies. So number one,

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the cruel law, remembrance of Allah, whatever that means for you, whatever the Sunnah, tells us and teaches us how to make remembrance of Allah

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wamalwa Allah Who?

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Anything that helps you remember Allah, so students, let me give you an example. Suppose you're walking by yourself.

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And you're in the university campus, or you're at high school and you see something how long and you look at it, and you say a stuff at a law. You have made the court of law, you have remembered allies. So again, let's use the same example. Let's say you and a friend now are walking at school or walking outside. And your friend sees something hot um, and you tell your friend, yeah.

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What's wrong with you? You know, you stop him, you helped him wamalwa low. Anything that helps the remembrance of Allah, it is also exempted from the curse of Allah. So just by you helping somebody remember Allah,

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you are exempted from this curse. Why demon omotola. Man, this is the third category. And that is the student of knowledge or the scholar and those who are like the layman, when it comes to knowledge, the average Muslim, because the prophets I send them knows that not everybody is going to be scholars. So even if you are a person just struggling trying to get by trying to learn a bit of Arabic, trying to learn just how to read, you are exempted from the curse of Allah. And so students, be careful who it is that you choose to be friend. And be careful who it is that you choose to seek your advice. And parents I have this to say to you realizes that if your children are not coming to

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you, asking you for advice, asking you for guidance, realize that they are doing it with somebody else.

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If your parents aren't if your children are coming to you, and if you don't take the initiative and ask them how was your day? How was school? How was that exam? Why do you look like this to the you look down, you look sad, You look upset and you don't have that inquisitive mind to understand your children realize that they are opening their hearts, their thoughts and their mouths to somebody that might say to them. Don't worry about your parents. Okay, if they're not there for you, that means they don't love you. Leave the home run

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No way, this is the advice they will get. And so choose the proper companions. And this is will assist us to hold on to the rope of Allah. Number four, how do we behave as a community? What are the etiquettes? What are the conduct that you and I must have, as a community, coming to the masjid, coming to the conference, in interacting with each other as Muslim brothers and sisters? How do we behave?

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Number one is that you always try to have a generally positive attitude, no matter what the situation is, no matter how bad things may be, no matter how rough times can be, you always try to keep a positive attitude. And this is something that my mother happy Lola, she constantly instills into my heart because there were times when I was in Medina, things used to get rough, okay, being a single guy in Medina, by yourself, trying to figure out how to cook, putting sugar when you're supposed to put salt and all that sort of thing.

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And then you seem to give up, and you say, you know what, I can do this. And there were many times, this is something personal, I'll share with you there were many times where I felt I needed to leave, and I couldn't study anymore. Because things do get rough. Life does get difficult when you leave a house, where you see your mother and your father and your brothers and your sisters and everybody. And you leave all of this for the sake of Allah azza wa jal, there is a hardship as the salaf used to tell us, anybody who wishes to prepare a path of seeking knowledge, let him put on his metal shoes, prepare for hardship, it's going to be tough. And there were times I felt like I was

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going to give up. And I would tell my mother on the phone, I don't want to stay here, I'm coming home. No, you have to stay. Be positive. Think about what the rewards are. My mother was the one who would remind me Do you know that there's a fish out there making dua for use upon Allah. And we all know the Hadith had tell eternal filma. Even the fishes in the sea, the animals that live in the sea, they make dua for the tolerable or in sorry, mom says, you know, maybe this fish that I have here in the house, I should have just left it in the ocean, we can make do out for you.

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So this is what I say to all of us here always we keep a positive attitude. We always think that Allah azza wa jal, whatever he does, there is a purpose behind it. Realize that one of the attributes of Allah is that he doesn't make things or doesn't create things without a purpose. And if you and I don't understand the purpose, what is our ruling cemetery now? What are we hear it? And if we don't really understand the wisdom behind it, we obey. It's authenticated. It is from the Quran and Sunnah. So we accept it. And so brothers and sisters, this is how we behave in our communities and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us in an authentic hadith in Bukhari,

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one Muslim, the best of people

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in their attitudes is their attitude towards others. So the best of you is the attitude that you have towards others. How do you treat people? How do you speak to each other? How many times have you seen that when somebody wants to give advice they might blurt it out. You know, you might be sitting in a mesquite or somewhere and a brother or a sister, she sees something that is hot almond cheese, and all of a sudden you hear the South you hear this voice, brothers, this is haraam. And you should follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And everybody looks and say, Oh, is this What's going on?

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emammal Shafi Rahim Allah, this used to happen to him a lot. Whenever you read the CEO of this email ally, you find yourself there is nothing that these people are not going through the we see here in our lives. They've gone through everything. Imam Shafi Rahim Allah

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used to confront this, that there were people who would wish to who disagree with him or they want to give him some advice about something, but he would only listen to them based on the manner the attitude that they would present. So the person who would complain or the person who would give advice with a loud voice and embarrass himself and others, with an emammal chef, if you do ignored them, you walked away. There were times even narrated, that he would actually turn his back to the person speaking

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Hola Hola Hola. So this is the how the level it is when somebody gives advice, and they don't present the attitude where that advice can be accepted. scholars of Islam today teach us that if a person does not know how to conduct themselves in advice, let him remain quiet, for he is late, almost hekla, dour. He doesn't deserve to give Tao until he changes this attitude. And this is based on the Hadith, and many areas in the Quran that Allah subhanho wa Taala orders us to keep a good attitude amongst each other in the main owner.

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Okay, the believers, they are brothers to each other, they're close to each other, they speak to each other well, they treat each other well. And hobbies that you want. I know constantly, we hear it none of you truly believes and the hour and the Day of Judgment unless he loves stories Brother, what he loves for himself.

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Furthermore, brothers and sisters,

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in conclusion to this portion of the topic, I say to you,

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that a person who has good luck, we'll be at the highest rank of the Day of Judgment, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us and our authentic hadith, that the person would good a holla will be at the highest level of gender,

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they will be at the highest status. And so this is also a indication that this is the description of those who will enter Paradise. The people who will enterprises will always be those who have good luck, good manners. And mind you Before we continue, just because I say that we have to adhere to our etiquettes and our HELOC and our manners. This is not an exemption that we have to seek knowledge and learn No, but this is how you tie two things together. How many times have you met people who are doctors who have PhDs in Islamic theology, or they have PhDs in whatever knowledge, but when you speak to them, they have the worst luck. They can't speak they addressed you in a very

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aggressive manner. They're me they're upset in all of these things. Whereas the person who has a moderate style is very low in knowledge. As a matter of fact, he may know nothing about Islam. But every time you meet him he smiles. Every time you greet him, he greets you with with care and love. he greets you as though he is looking forward to seeing you again. He gives you that indication that level of comfort that you He loves you for the sake of Allah. This is where you want to be

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seeking knowledge brothers and sisters. It is secondary from a HELOC. a HELOC is here, seeking knowledge is beneath it.

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emammal chef is his mother told a man with Sheffield akima Hola. When he was getting himself ready to go and study with Imam Malik and Medina. He she tells him to allama min Amelie he kabalarian me go and learn from his actions first observe him, watch him watch how he sits watch how we eat. So watch how he interacts with people. Then go and study from him learn a HELOC first, then you will be able to grasp and accept knowledge.

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Brothers and sisters we continue. At this point here in our short discussion,

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I wish to adjust address only the brothers and sisters I will address you immediately after. But as for the brothers here, this portion of this discussion is for you.

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And so brothers I asked you

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that as a Muslim man, there are certain etiquettes that will help you hold on to the rope of Allah, whether you realize it or not. And they are the most trivial things, the most simplest of things that you can do. To hold on to the rope of Allah. Number one brothers is to the importance of the layer, the beard.

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Brothers and sisters brothers realize

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scholars don't have differences of opinion on growing a beard. This is Bill Maher, all scholars of Islam past and present. Are it ethical? They agree that it is legit for a man to have something on his face? That is called a beard. Now how long should that beard B should it be this length that that length? This is where the T laugh comes in. But we won't we won't be speaking about that. What this here here, what I want to mention to you is that

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This symbol of our Muslim character is enough to cause us to hold on to the rope of Allah azza wa jal. Why? Because it preserves who you are. Do you know that just by having a beard on your face, you would look in the mirror every single day. And you will always remember that you are a God fearing man, that you are a Muslim. You will always have this inclination in your heart and in your mind that as you look at yourself in the mirror, you could do anything you want to this beard, but because you have that beard and you have it and you recognize it, and others recognize that you have something called a beard on your face. It is consciousness of allies so adyen and realize brothers

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and sisters,

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brothers, when you grow this beard, realize that Allah azza wa jal is rewarding you each and every moment that you keep a beard each and every moment. And what is it, it's just some hair, you don't do anything. And if you really want to put it into a practical sense, it's even cheaper to grow a beard and to shave it right. You don't have to go on by anything. You don't have to shave. You don't have to trim you don't have to go barber you don't have to do nothing. You just keep a nice beard. You comb it and do what the prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam encouraged and what he used to do use olive oil. And this is a natural cleansing material for the beard natural cleansing element. And

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as you all know, olive oil is a miracle from Eliza. What teeny wa zaytoun Allah swears by the olive Can you imagine that in the poor and Allah talks about the olive itself? So olive oil, it is something that Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam used to groom his beard with and use to keep it healthy and clean. And those of us here who Masha Allah, may Allah azza wa jal reward you that you have a beautiful massive beard, may Allah azza wa jal increase you and the way I say this is that once you keep that beard, do not forget the other aspect of that beard and how to maintain How do you maintain that beard? Because you find that there are some Muslims that Subhana Allah May Allah

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guide them. They judge people based on their appearance immediately they judge them even on the beard. The beard is always a hot topic for some brothers. And I remember meeting a brother who said you know we were sitting for a thought you know, brother masa and I saw this brother with a long beard. And as he was eating his beard was in his food.

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I don't want to be a part of this kind of a religion. This is what the brother said. I don't want to be a part of the vehicle filthy this is

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I turned to the brother of a segment Eliza which will give you hedaya give you guidance.

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Because you do not realize Yeah, this is just a small flaw in the brother Okay, fine. He needs to push himself back and eat in appropriate manner but the beard, it is a son of the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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and it is something that every single man when he adheres to it, he practices it realize that allies so agile is rewarding you for it. Another aspect brothers and sisters and we have mentioned this so we will just zoom over really quickly is our cleanliness, our tidiness. I see that many of us here and as I speak to you might notice I want to speak to you at a personal level. I want to speak to you as a brother to a brother. I see that many of us here have coffees or hats on on our heads. Let me tell you something that I shift water a shampoo at half your the whole law once told me I had my hat on my head, okay, this is in Medina. And it was twisted to the side like this. Because as a

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matter of fact, you know, when I heard that I had an opportunity to meet the shave. I got ready quickly in my home. I didn't even iron my throat nothing. I was so excited. I was going to meet shave my daughter. So I got myself ready quickly and I just put the coffee man and I ran to the masjid. And when I met to the chef, you know what the chef told me? I'm kind of embarrassed to say this, but Alhamdulillah the chef changed my life. He said Yo, instead of a fix yourself,

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fix yourself. So what did I do? I just kind of fixed my throat like this. And he said

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your your Koofi are up here, fix this. And I said what why I'm confused. I don't know what to do. So I said share, you know, at any show me what what should I do? And the sheriff took his hand and he fixed my hat. And he says How can I get a Muslim?

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This is this is how the Muslim is the finest details. The final

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miniscule things. And as a matter of fact, from that point on, you better believe that I had the best coffee. The best job. I was always slicked out and ironed and I was good and ready to go every single moment. This is what Darla Rahmatullah him teach us. This is how they encourage us. And even if you don't wear a Koofi and you don't wear a thong that doesn't matter, whatever it is that you wear, however it is you keep your hair, whatever it is that you do, you keep yourself in the conduct in the manner that your appearance is pleasing to Allah and to pleasing to those around us.

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Thirdly, brothers and sisters, especially to our brothers,

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is that I discuss with you another aspect of how we conduct ourselves, how we conduct ourselves, in our domestic relationships with our wives

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Wallahi brothers and sisters, let me tell you, never you will find in the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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that he ever argued with one of his wife.

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He never came into a confrontation with one of his wife that the wives tried to do that with him. That's another story.

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But the prophets all along while he was solemn, handling his wives, showing his superiority, showing his power, his strength over them. This is something unheard of in the Sunnah. Not even a thought Eve Hadeeth is written about this, that the prophets I send them used to do this.

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Instead, what did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam do? Whenever there was a problem with him and his wife. And there were some kind of you know, there's some kind of issue comes up, and the wives get upset, what did the prophets I send them used to do? First thing that he would do is he wouldn't give them time to cool down or to relax, give them their space, not to sit and argue with them and say, well, what's wrong with you? Why are you behaving like this? Why are you doing this? I'm the I'm the one who takes care of this house, you need to respect me. And in some cases here, and I've received emails about this, some cases, some of the men use physical force against their

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wives, Muslim Brothers, may Allah subhanho wa Taala bring correction to them. These are the people

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that come and with this type of relationship with your wife, let me tell you, it will be a direct reason that causes the marriage to be ruined. A person like this whole handles their women, to this man

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is like a little clown who handles their their the situation like this. It's kind of funny actually. It's never happened.

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who handles their manners in this in this in this way, brothers and sisters.

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It is something that is hated by Allah subhanho wa Taala and is hated by little salsa, love while he was setting them in his son. So we will wrap up in sha Allah tala and I will conclude with mentioning just one final point for our sisters directly to them. And we will conclude in sha Allah who Tyler for the sisters, I conclude with you. And I say to you, your hijab that you wear is who you are, it defines you. And never for a moment, should you think that your hijab is only an outside garment that you wear that beautifies you the essence of the hijab is internal it's within you, how you speak, how you talk, how you laugh, how you how you talk, how you discuss with each other, how

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you communicate, how you relate to one another. This is the internal hegemon that is more superior than the external hijab. And we receive complaints constantly brothers and sisters, especially to our sisters constantly receive complaints that sisters come to the masjid and they want to hear call Allah and follow suit, and yet they hear laughter and chatter and crying and things like this. Sisters realize your hijab is not only an external part of you, it is the internal part of you. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that shyness alhaj it is a hallmark. It is the essence of being who you are being shy and being moderate. This is the essence and this is what

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defines you. May Allah subhanho wa Taala indeed shower His love and His mercy to all of our brothers and sisters. May Allah subhanho wa Taala shower his fertility

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And care upon each and every one of us. These are the words that I leave you with brothers and sisters. Hold on to the rope of Allah subhanho wa Taala through your blog and through your etiquettes will Arthur Dhawan and Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen salam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh