Ask Musleh – I’m about to get married – How do I know if my partner is sincere?

Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, brothers and sisters, and welcome to Ask Muslim. So today we're talking about your potential spouse and how sincere he or she is when it comes to the religion of Islam. So this is not going to be a discussion about the actual relationship, but it's more or less than their Islam. Are they really a practicing person when they say they are, and do they have to depend on you for themselves to become more practicing. So these are some of the things that we're going to look at. The first thing is that we always want to know is that we don't have the right to really judge someone's Islam. If somebody says that they are interested in the

religion, and they want to be Muslim, or they want to be more practicing, we have to accept that and only Allah knows what's really in their heart. However, having said that, there are some telltale signs of a person sincerity. Number one, here's what to look out for.

The first thing is that you want to make sure that that person is actually showing a genuine interest in the religion. And by that I mean, they're not always depending on you, to show them what the religion is all about. They're not always depending on you to give them the articles to show them the websites to show them the videos, to get them to a class to get them to a conference. They're not just waiting for you all the time. But they're also taking an initiative within themselves to make their life better. And the reason why I say that is very simple. Allah says in the Quran, in Allahu Allah you Hi euroma bill Coleman hatay you lay you may be enforcing your, Allah

never changes the state of the people unless they begin that change within themselves. So Allah says that there has to be some kind of interest within you to want to change, you have to want to do that. And this is why Allah says and this is my second point, Allah azza wa jal says,

well, RLM will be monitoring and in sort of the puzzles that Allah azza wa jal is has the most knowledge and is most aware of the person who really, really wants that guidance. So these are your telltale signs, you want to make sure that you're not doing all the work for that person, but they're doing a little bit of the work, you'll guide them through that as well. And the second thing is, know that in your heart, that the only Allah knows if that person is really for real, if they're really being honest and sincere with you, the next thing that you want to look out for ism is you want to see results before asking questions. And what I mean by that is, wait for that opportunity

where that person comes to you and says, I looked at a YouTube video of this shape or that shape. And it was really interesting. Get some tools in your hand get something that you can show or you can see that this person is actually make putting an effort, they're actually doing something on their own without, you know, even without depending on you. So they'll come back and they'll give you that kind of feedback. They'll say to you, oh, yeah, I remember I read it in a book somewhere. So and So once you have these little telltale signs of interest from the other party, it's a good sign that that person insha Allah is committed. The last and final advice that I want to mention

brothers and sisters, is make sure that whatever you've given that person when it comes to Darwin, that they're taking it seriously. So if the brother, if you say to a brother sisters, that you want them to go to the masjid at least once a day and pray one Salah in a congregation, try to see that for yourself. Try to see that the person is making an effort access to you know, yeah, I actually went to this semester, it was really interesting and so on. If you want her to wear the hijab, let yourself see that she's actually trying to make an effort. She's wearing the hijab to go to the ministry and then it starts off that way and it keeps building and building see some results in sha

Allah that things are changing. So having said that, brothers and sisters May Allah azza wa jal make everything easy for all of you and bring sincerity you know, hearts always and forever, was said mid Kumara matola.

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