Ask Musleh – How do we bridge the gap between parents & children?

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh brothers and sisters and welcome to Ask Muslims. Today we have a really important question that comes from our mothers and fathers and they're asking, how do you bridge the gap between parents and children? And more specifically, how do you communicate with them? Because let's face it, guys, you know, the children today, the teenagers today university and college students, they're going through so many different pressures that us parents were not used to seeing, we probably have never experienced it in our whole lives. So how do you deal with that? The first thing that you want to know brothers and sisters parents, is one Hadith of the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he says men like your ham law, your ham, whoever doesn't show mercy to others is not going to receive it in return. Now, this Hadeeth here is a very general heading. But what I want you to pay attention to is the context of or the the context of the Hadith. What exactly was happening that caused the prophecy set him to say this, this hadith took place when a man who saw the prophets I said them kissing children on their foreheads, that wasn't even his own. And the man comes up to the Prophet says, Solomon says, I have 10 children, and I've never kissed them the way that you do. And that's when the prophets I said to them said to him, if you don't show

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mercy to others, you're not going to receive it in return. The point is that this Hadeeth happen. And it was an happen because of a circumstance that dealt with children. The most basic fundamental rule when you're dealing with children, doesn't matter at what age as long as they're under your guardianship is you got to be kind, you've got to be supportive. And you got to make sure that you always have that big brother, little brother, or that parent child relationship, that they can always come to you that they can always speak to you that they can always communicate to you, and that they can always share their problems and concerns with you. Remember, parents, if your child is

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not coming to you and speaking to you about their problems, then guess what, there's a good chance that your child might be speaking to somebody else, and that somebody else might be telling them who cares what your parents think, or don't worry about praying, or take off that hijab, you'll look like my grandmother and all that sort of thing. I just discouraging them about the whole Deen in general. So you want to make sure that the first thing is that you always play a supporting cast role for your children. Number two, you always want to be merciful. You want to be kind member, children are not furniture that you just move around, and you put it here and you put it there,

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communicate with your child, ask them how's your day, how you doing? You know, how's life, how was school, like just simple little things, to at least open that door to communicate with each other. And the last thing is really, really important. And this is to have private time with your kids have a time where you put aside all of your responsibilities. You put aside life in general and it's just you and your kid, you guys are sitting for dinner, they came home from school or you came home from work and it's just you and that child alone. Just talk talk about life. Talk about why the sky is blue, talk about why the wall is green, talk about white, talk about anything, but the point is just

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open that door of communication. And it doesn't always have to be okay son, take out the trash. Okay, my child, you know, go clean up your it doesn't always have to be you ordering them around and telling them to do this and to do that. If you do that in sha Allah, then hopefully with the total faith of Allah azza wa jal, you will be able to begin the process of bridging that gap between you and your children. So I hope that helps guys. May Allah azza wa jal Bless you all for listening said Mr. alikum, warahmatu Allahi wa barakato.

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Okay, get series

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that almost every single parent living in this part of the world will ask themselves, especially when we moved over from our countries, and I'm just talking about the wrong thing. So I need to stop. Get to the point.

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This is how I put on my game piece.

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Okay,

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okay, no, seriously.

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Salaam Alaikum, warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. And I want to laugh.

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I could feel it. It's like right here. I could feel it like it wants to just come out. It gets the subject, because the subject is not formal. That's what I'm used to. I'm not used to this like relaxed kind of recording. Most of the recordings are

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is always serious.

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Okay, I'm ready