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The importance of knowing the rules of Islam and its negative impact on one's personal life is discussed, including the need to implement certain elements of Islam in daily life and the negative impact of missing family members. The segment also touches on the importance of shaping behavior and finding a balance between happiness and success. The conversation also touches on the natural process of birth and the importance of avoiding negative comments about one's parents' behavior. The segment emphasizes the need for individuals to control their behavior and finding a culture focused on family members and sharing stories.AI Generated Transcript ©
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of the praising Allah Subhana Allah, sending immense greetings and salutations. Upon the final prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
we enter into a topic,
which contains much neglect, on the negligence for many of us,
a topic that many of us seem to
put aside a topic that many of us seem to pay little attention towards.
Because there's some teachings in Islam, which is
academics, academia to study.
And there's some elements of Islam which are practical implementation.
And many of us we know, quite a lot, or we claim to know so much. Even though the Quran mentions one or ot two minute enemy in kalila,
you've only been given a small amount of knowledge. And yet we feel so proud and noble and arrogant of the knowledge that has been bestowed by Allah Subhana Allah upon us all.
Knowing isn't necessarily
a bonus point.
Because we find inside of ferrania you're letting me know Lima Taku, Luna mela falloon cabramatta en de la junta, puluh mulata falloon.
So to say one thing, and not to implement it is very grave
is a big mistake in front of Allah Subhana Allah.
And those there are certain elements that many of us if not all of us know.
But we fail to implement them in our everyday application of Islam.
And obviously, the topic isn't one of tawheed one of sunan that we find
this is a daily application, you can begin to conclude
where our footing is, in comparison to our understanding of the hidden the Sunnah. We're asking, Can I send a low ELeague? Show goodness like last pantalla showed goodness to you.
And as you find in general, you find amongst many that rural America, etc, who writes the concept of tarbiyah cultivation of education.
A man in general,
is asked one or two questions
for what they may have become today. Obviously, that's the blessing of Allah granddad originally, but in terms of dystonia?
Who was your father? Or who were your teachers? Simple.
Then at the latest stage, you may have your own credentials of what you may have become who you may be, but that's the beginning. The essence is about one's parents.
They either must have been some find some damn good parents who gave you some good beer. Or you must have had some damn good teachers.
And that's what we want to focus upon tonight.
Is that kindness that needs to return back to one's parents that many of us have forgotten.
At the moment with all this credit, crunch, etc. that you find is one business don't know here but down south that's thriving at the moment. And that's the old age pensioners homes.
to place your parents in a home speak business.
One person
they were charging him approximate
The 800 pound a week to keep him in a home 800 pound a week.
To someone who heard I think about this,
paying to have your parents just put away from you.
Sounds strange, but you know many of us Muslims, or some of us Muslims, are following exactly the same methodology of thought. Because remember, the wider community has a big influx,
a big input into the way it creates your character
does not vary, started at times to find that people would show thoughts and flowing beards and faces covered that sometimes you find vile, vulgar, repulsive language coming out of their mouths, and even cursing and swearing towards their parents. It's not surprising,
shouldn't be something surprising because the whole culture breeds this concept of separating oneself from one's parents,
that I am a man in my own right? Who are they to tell me what to do? What influence they have upon me and we can see the fit and then the facade begin to take place that
in the disguise of quote, unquote, Islamic practicing that
my father is no longer my Willie, on what criteria
he doesn't pray.
He's not a good Muslim, according to you. So now you are scout free to bypass your father and to marry whomever you want.
And if you go and study the flick of the word, and the role of the Wali, that discussion may take place about etc, there's a person established a prayer it does exist it
but a large portion of
the ownership of the valley remains upon the experience of life.
The father will never choose a person who's going to be corrupt or person who's going to be not having the interest of his daughter at stake. So the experience of life gives that Father that will lead that ability
and that's the point find that some men you find to have the the ferocity ability that the way that a man walks into a gathering
is enough to analyze the individual
and you can see what I'm referring to if you find a young Muslim boy but his pants hanging below and walking in and strolling in you can just in 10 seconds analyze what the lifestyle and the behavior and the character of this individual is.
So we want to return back to not just talking about fine creed and fine implementation of sadhana but fine characters well, especially those individuals that many mentioned the highlighted that the suburb The reason for you being in existence,
in terms of any the natural process of birth, etc, is your parents.
So something has to be returned back to them.
And as any basic elementary student, the Quran knows,
that wherever last time that I mentioned the concept of tawheed and worshipping a birder,
we also mentioned something else. Waka darbuka Allah tabula Yeah, what Bill Wally they need a Santa strange isn't it?
We always emphasize about the hate.
And then we forget to miss the, the ending of the ayah
your Lord has decreed that you should worship only Allah Subhana Allah and you should show goodness to one's parents. Why Buddha law hawala to Sri cobija what Bill barely they need a center
where Buddha law worship only allows parents to Allah, associate no partners to towards him Subhana Allah, and then we find what Bill barely they need a Santa strange again, isn't it?
The call of tawheed the corners of oneness of Allah Subhana Allah, devoting yourself to lust panda Allah and then somehow we forget the second part of the ayah about showing goodness to one's parents Surah lukeman the surah the 31st chapter Quran described as the sort of tarbiyah of cultivation this certain main sutras inside the Quran, if you go back to them, and you study them you'll find a great focus
of holyoake of character tarbiyah cultivation.
Amongst them you find sort of the 49 chapter Quran. Some of us are on the right if you want to create the ideal Islamic Society, then implement these 18 verses.
The end of SoTL farrakhan, the 25th chapter, Koran talks about the characteristics of a bad man, but the characteristics should be upon this earth.
Likewise, the beginning the first 1112
or so to me noon, the 23rd chapter, all talking about the character of the believer
suited and we find teachings inside there sort of ISRO we find teachings inside there. And then we find inside sort of lokman another concept of tarbiyah of how lokman in era Sam says to his son with called Amano leibny Hua Hua Zhu yeah punia to Shrek Bella in a shaker la fullmoon alto in
LA C'mon gives an admonition to his son. And the first teaching that he teaches him is Yamuna LA to Shrek VEDA. Never ever come and share with Allah Subhana Allah. In Ashika novel Mona Alvin, shake is the most biggest oppression that you can do upon yourself.
And as we find in two locations, are the Quran exactly identical verses exactly inside the same surah and different instances in Nevada yaku Shira kabhi yaku Medina Delica de Manisha
Allah Subhana Allah will not forgive the associating of partners with Allah subhana wa Yakubu medulla delicately Manisha forgive him everyone's Other than that, besides that Subhana Allah so if a person dies upon shared you've just sealed your own coffin.
In Domingo Shrek Villa he called haram Allahu alayhi
wa wellner wamalwa Paulina min and so on.
So that's the Quran inside so to murder, whoever can be shared with Allah Subhana Allah faqad haram Allahu Allah.
Allah Subhana Allah has made it out on Haram. haram Allah shucks yet. Hello, Jana.
We haven't made it Haram. folks haven't made it Haram. The Quran is made it haraam that the person who dies upon shared agenda
will never enter into paradise. So that's the first therapy that the father or the mother gives to the child to teach him about the oneness of Allah Subhana Allah, that devotion and commitment towards Allah Subhana Allah, Paulina salatu wa new Suki Rama Rama Murthy lillahi Rabbil alameen la sharika lahu Obeidallah, Kermit Juana over muslimeen say my prayer, my sacrificing my living my dying, is who dedicated towards Allah Subhana Allah, associate no partners in those actions, and I submit myself amongst the first and fourth most individuals who submit to Allah subhanaw taala.
Then we find in the same surah the latest stage, verse number 14, what was seen an incentive Beware the day he
we enjoined upon him to show goodness to his parents. A legacy a Basia? You know, many times this word comes inside, inside the Quran
that indeed we did give Basia to the people before you enter you, Anita cannot worship only Allah Subhana Allah. So a legacy is like a will something that remains for as long as this dunya will remain,
that we've told you to be good in it towards your parents.
In other location, we find his legacy continued inside SoTL Anka booth, the 29th chapter, the Quran was signed in Santa BYD, they
were given the advice the legacy to human beings, to mankind, to show goodness, to show kindness to one's parents. Another location we'll find was saying in in Santa BYD day he a son.
We've given the legacy upon the human being to once again show kindness, goodness
to one's parents. So this covenant was present previously as well as the findings of the Quran with the hudna meetha bernisa. In that buena in de la vinuela Dini, a Santa, we took this covenant from benissa in that you should only worship Allah Subhana Allah and you should be dutiful,
bound to show goodness towards your parents.
Also in prophetic teachings in a hadith ala Amelie a Buddha, he Subhana Allah, which action is most beloved to Allah Subhana Allah,
Allah to Allah Bhakti her prayer upon his prescribed time.
Then what comes next, from a which Amel comes next beruwala Dane showing goodness kindness to one's parents, from a den which action Then comes a Jihad to feasibility.
Now think about that in quite detail.
Pray upon his prescribed times or limit. Begin to have a discussion if a person is offering
a supererogatory prayer
nanofiller asuna
should they break their prayer? If the parents are calling them?
great discussion begins to take place depending on whether the need of the parents, whether they can sustain themselves whether they need extra help, etc. But in general, you find the simple answer is, one can break their prayer and respond to the call.
And as you can read the famous and you had the that we mentioned about the person didn't respond to the call of his mother and the curse that fell upon him.
Something to think about if to such a degree, that you're doing something supererogatory
it's better to lead that action and to respond to the call of one's parents. And also we study the Quran closely, even more closely, we find that one specific parent is given preference over the other.
So we returned back to those are yet inside sobre la commande, verse number 14, to complete the puzzle. To complete the ayah we find was saying an incentive Beware the day he hammer Allah to
Allah when we've enjoined upon mankind to show good to his parents, and in specific, his mother, Hamlet, who won an honor when his mother carried him when and Allah when hardship upon hardship
is something to reflect upon. In other words, we find what was seen and insert into the world a Cerner Hamlet, who called her water to go to her.
We told you legacy to take care of one's parents, show goodness towards them, and the mother, who carried him with hardship and brings him out upon hardship.
And then even more specific, the Quran then even goes to describe that what is this hardship that some of us have forgotten, that no man can ever understand? For ajah Alma hardware at NASA,
she came to the tree and she grows the roots of the branches the tree the the main part of the tree,
or the autonomy to
remember this is Maria Marie salon, had no relationship any man in her life
hasn't been married, the pains of childbirth, the pains of carrying the child the pains of what could happen in the future. She utters these words that become historic,
and for all women
are delighted me to kubla Khan tuna salmon, see I've only had died before this, and was something totally forgotten.
And you study the science of the delivery of a child without that pain, the child will not be delivered.
And no man will ever experience that pain, that come becomes a form of expiation for the mother for the woman. And like Christianity, we studied the ethics of Christianity, that bearing of a child and carrying the child the mental struggle, etc. is all signs of a punishment and a wickedness because he tempted them at a salon
to eat from the tree forbidden tree. And because of that, read the Bible in great detail you find that this is the punishment she has to face in this dunya but whereas Islam sees it as a form of expiation, a blessing and for those 40 odd days afterwards does not have to offer the prayer etc. is the blessings of Islam and how Islam sees the role of the mother.
Likewise, individual came in as mana Hakuna CB host Nisa Huberty have to be Hosni, so
man came and asked that who has the most right for my companionship for me to show goodness towards who has that most right.
Your mother, for men,
for men,
for my man, Allah Buddha sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
He said your mother, then whom? Your mother, then whom your mother, then whom your father.
The Samburu had I think about this, the prophet man. She said that three separate occasions to him, and he's asking three separate questions.
Who has the most right?
For my ultimate companionship and goodness.
Your mother, your mother, your mother, and then your father, Abdullah number. In relation to this verse we mentioned Soloman Some of us have mentioned this as well. Abdullah miromar in he saw a man carrying his mother on his back and performing the tawaf.
So when he saw Abdullah neuromotor the Lord and whom I approached him and said to him, you know, do you think I fulfilled the role
of my mother, the duties that I owe to my mother.
You know what 11 year old said to him,
you carrying you in your
backhand performance power
is not even equivalent to one contraction of the many contractions you had on many nights.
Something to think about.
And even recently, if you study the earthquake that took place inside Kashmir etc,
there is one individual
and he cannot even imagine this point of respect with one's parents. And it also sounds to cultural.
One son, carried his mother for a whole day,
brought her to the doctor, got a treated, picked back up on his back and walked all the way back home.
makeover you can't even imagine something like this
is not possible for someone living in the Western world to think that we would do something like that.
To carry on his back to get a treated, lifted up again, and finish.
But what we find inside as society reviling, cursing while at the Coloma affine?
Are answers Don't even say off
of uni is a big word in Arabic language.
Big word Don't even say that.
And what do we find in our society?
A BJ?
My father's excellent. A father doesn't know. What is my mother know?
What did he know about life? What do you know about experience
that you find that psychologists write this concept about what many of us are living in such a society as well, that we become too full of ourselves.
And you find that when a person has a child, you find that in general, the child thinks that you know, using the word linguistically and in this dunya that, you know, my father knows
everything, whatever topic he talks about, but as the child begins to get slightly older, he thinks that you know, I know 20% 30% of things that my father doesn't know. You know, when it comes to Xbox and PlayStation, you know, as you get older, it becomes difficult to keep your fingers and move your finger so fast and and know all and games etc. and everything that exists around us in society. They're going to get to their teens, most children, they think, you know,
well, you Hubby, is foolish. I know more about the world and around me, etc.
And when I hit the age of 1920 finish, I'm more important than my father.
That's the psychological build up inside this country that people train you to have.
And likewise, even when it comes to the concept of freedom that you find people portray that.
But you know, a damn good teach in a damn good parent
will always make sure there's a gap between you and then
that's something that we forget. They may be Sometimes a person may Excel and break that gap. But the natural norm is
that the more you grow up, the more wisdom that you find will begin to develop in them. Sometimes in our own life, there's many things that our parents said certain things that now years later you think you know, that's exactly what my father said to me.
And I was too arrogant to route except at that stage. And he said to me one day you're going to accept it. And that's exactly what happens. Camerata Dini didn't. What goes around comes around. And as somebody that I mentioned, is trivial. The story about the concept of goes around comes around that one day one individual said to his father, come on, let's go to I'll come with me. Let's go to the to the beach. Show to show you this nice, beautiful scenario,
picked up his father and threw him in the beach, got rid of him.
Years later, when he had his own son,
his son grew up,
said to him, Abby, come with me. I want to show you a nice beautiful place. He's workplaces, if you've got to show me I've seen many of these places all around this area. There's nothing special going on in one place I want to show you.
So he goes with the son goes to exactly the same location. And he starts laughing.
The son says, Abby, you're laughing.
I'm about to throw you into the river into the ocean and you're laughing about it.
He said the reason why I'm laughing is some 20 years ago, I bought my dad exactly the same place and I decided to throw him in that river and I did. So what goes around comes around
if you believe or you behave rudely harshly, incorrectly towards your parents, stubborn, arrogant, rude, foul mouthed towards them.
Don't be surprised
Tomorrow, that when your kids grow up, and they behave exactly like that to you,
then that time you're going to sit and reflect, you know, damn head. That's exactly the same way I used to speak to my father.
Look inside the Quran when he talks about Ibrahima, listen to his father, his father is a carrier used to make the idols
How does he address him? Yeah abiti Lima tabula shaytaan
Yeah, but is a form of high of the Arabic speech that you find in impressed Love, love and devotion on my father. Why do you worship the shape one
years later what happens?
He son is a believer. I mean, the last time that I showed him inside the dream that he has to sacrifice his son.
Yeah, Buddha in honor of him and me and me.
Or my son I've seen in a dream. I have to sacrifice you. What's the response of a smile?
What's the response? Or the ability?
Oh, my beloved father.
What did Abraham say to his father who's a cafe? Yeah, Bertie. kimata de Newton. Yeah, but if
Satoshi Dhoni insha Allah who mina savarin
see how it revolves around
cafe father, believing son, believing father, believing
exactly same words exactly same expression, but totally different scenarios, that allows parents to send data to be a lesson towards us of how we should conduct ourselves.
Likewise, if I'm not forgetting the father, as well, we find a Hadeeth in the rate in the city of Amman, Muslim, Yahtzee, Wellington, Wellington, Illa. And Nikita Humam Lucan, for yesterday for your tuckahoe there is no way that a son can pay back his father, except for to find him as a slave. And then to purchase him and set him free. Sheriff Hadeeth highlighted the most ideal and generally it's not possible. It's not possible for man to find his son as his father, sorry, the slave and to purchase him and set him free. So it's impossible for you to ever pay back your father,
you and your wealth,
belong to your father.
Likewise, define
the anger of your father entails the anger of Allah Subhana Allah
we don't reflect upon that duty sometimes. Everything else may be in right place when we be praying, we may be living life according so now, everything's there, but something is just not right within the heart of the individual that something is missing.
There's a missing link. There's still some contentment I still haven't found.
A maybe that Ralph have that Ill feeling or that Ranko that feeling inside your heart could be that your father may possibly be upset with you. Three supplications are answered without any doubt in the hadith of in the city of Eman Bihari, a father who prays for his son, a traveler who prays was on a journey and an oppressed individual. These prayers are answered by Allah Subhana Allah. So imagine your father's angry with you.
There are some fathers who may not pray for you. They may be cursing you.
They may be cursing you. They may be reviling you and that there, unfortunately may be traveling back up to a loss of Hannah Diana.
So what do we give back to them back to the mother and father because if you think back in today's Western society, and we know most of us, we grew up with our parents.
Do you ever remember a time when your father said to you know,
in general, most of us grew up in South Western society. You want a pair of trainers.
And you don't just want any pair of trainers?
You want a pair of Nike tn
125 pound 150 pounds. I don't know what the price at the moment.
And what will your parents normally do? Or what your father do normally buy them for you. Give you the money. One reason why we spoil our children, especially the Asian culture is we've given them everything. They don't need to work hard. They don't know what a hard day's work is. They just take over the family business whatever it is strolling for an hour, half an hour and and get on with their life and they think that they're working hard.
And our parents when they came here, they had to take care of their children, their family and the family back home and the community and established an Islamic environment and best suitability and they fulfill that. Now the trust lies upon us
and we can't even take on the
Roll the trust of our own families, why? A lack of Baraka, a lack of blessing inside our approach and understanding of Islam.
So we find that as they get older, their natural son knows that they're going to, they're going to die.
They're going to go into a state of weakness if they reach that age. So it's upon the Muslim, to show that companionship and that goodness towards one's parents when they're getting to that age. Once again, you find psychologically that you find that parents as they become elderly, they become once again, like, children,
if I'm mistaken, and let me know,
if your father says,
This is why you say it's black. He says, No, it's white.
What do you have to do, you have to accept it just like a child. Because their mental state and the ages returning back to the same concept of being like a child, or unmentioned, a low low, the hollowcore, common darphin allows him to create from a state of weakness for Magellan badly darphin over the Northeast state of weakness gave you strength, gave your ability to Magellan back over in Darfur was shaybah.
Then after that, you find after this over becomes weakness, and becoming gray haired or becoming feeble, becoming old. That's the natural norm that we find. So one returns back to that same role that they began with as a child. And even you find that the bodily components etc. What happens, can't control their bowels, etc, whatever it may be.
And for us, it may seem really gruesome, etc. But it's people out there who wash their parents, who bathed their parents take care of their parents,
that may be a suburb for them, to help them to get swiftly into paradise. That service that they do. For us, it may seem repulsive, and you know, maybe get a cleaner today or get someone else to do it, or hire someone to do it. But it's a large portion of people out there in the Muslim community, in Muslim world, who still have these ethics that we may see them as culture, but they see them as Islam.
We see as a culture.
You know, we want to criticize the cultural approach that cultural approach is deep teachings of Islam.
And that's you find that this woman by journalists by name of Susan Duncan, Emma Duncan wrote this famous book, breaking the curfew.
And in this book, she writes as a journalist, as she travels through Buxton, she meets numerous politicians and people in power Gen Z and Nawaz Sharif. And as he put, you know, lots of different personalities that you find there.
And she visited so many different ministers.
And in a journey, she has to mix with a certain young Muslim man.
And on that journey, obviously, being a non Muslim, any she drinks and he offers a drink, and he sometimes joins in drinking with her. And they went to various ministers and they would openly drink and she would drink, etc.
One day, they went to the boy's home.
And so the father served the drinks. She drank.
He made drunk as well. I don't remember exactly what took place or do recall. It she looked at him. He didn't drink anything.
When it came at the house, she said throughout this journey, various occasions, we sat together you join and you would drink, etc.
Why don't you drink today?
He goes, my mother probably knows that I drink. So my father, but I never drank in front of his face. She writes in his book, this is a great big slap in the face of the West. We don't have such etiquette teachings.
Yes, we all sin. Remember that? human beings with sin. But Islam says to curtail and control and keep the head sin a hidden sin.
I've seen grown up men at the age of 50 or 60. walking by past their parents and smoking and as soon as they see their parents placing a cigarette inside the hand and burning their hand grown up men.
What we find in our society
when we was growing up in school, most non Muslim what would happen to them
their parents will say to them go and buy your own cigarettes, your own facts. Don't smoke mine.
That's the normal known for them. They don't even see as a sin if you want to do it on your own back.
Same thing is beginning to now take place amongst Muslims as well. You may be doing is sending something incorrect. Keep it to yourself. Don't think will I do it may as well just let my children get involved in Saudis evil actions. Likewise define the concept of the harem that we are
A large portion of Muslim community the complaint about our children don't listen to us.
Because sometimes the earnings that we do are Haram, you have a fully licensed restaurant,
selling alcohol selling liquor? Well, it's only to the non Muslims that are customers. The Hadith in Sahih, Muslim is clear about the 10 individuals of different categories that you find.
So you may have not drunk or you never drank in your life.
But eventually, someone in the family has become an alcoholic.
Via that business, or the earnings of that business, there's no burqa left, and everyone to come to the environment say, Well, what should I do about my son or my child now?
We find the concept of
drug dealing inside a community is going to such a level.
And if you talk about it's just a great big taboo, that's a real issue that we're dealing with is a large portion of Muslim youth who involve the trafficking of drugs, the Bradford connection, 14 million pounds worth of heroin that you find.
But we won't address these issues. And part and parcel of the reasons why we're suffering from this is because the type of lifestyle that we had, that the role of the machine is to educate the child. It's not my role. It's not my task I paid the machete should just teach him.
So where was you as a father?
that gun crime the culture that you find inside this country of violence, of problems of many of the teenagers has been concluded once again to studies that there was no fatherly figure in the home.
There was no fatherly figure, they had no one to look up to no one to respect no one to control them. So they go out in a rampage and they behave in this manner.
You know, as a side point, we as Muslims, some of us are creating exactly the same society without even recognizing it.
You know, how, in our concept of reviving the sun, getting married, two, three or four times
may sound strange, but that's the reality of what we're creating inside our society and your revival of the Sunnah.
You're leaving your children
at what
leaving the state of negligence
is not one of those Sooners that you have to do
that you sinful if you don't do it, but some people have placed such an emphasis upon it and not focus upon what is it really mean our region Lupo Muna Allah Nisa, Bhima fondo de la dama. Bob, what does that mean our regional over Mona Lisa, the whole concept radula Obama you study in the Arabic language understanding. It's not just sexual Carnage desires.
That's what it means. It means the ability to take care of everything around with your family. Yeah, your Latina Emmylou, Sakuma alikhan na
Are you believe save yourself and your family from the hellfire.
That's the prime role of the real family member or the head of the family member kulu Qumran wakulla, comas rolanda. Yet he, all of us a shepherd is a leader and is responsible for the flock underneath him not someone else's responsible, not someone else's going to come and give that type of beer.
And then we want to come back and complain about the upbringing of our children etc, that we find no we have to predominantly take that role within their own hands.
So we also find
that the concept of towards our parents as we find work with lahoma
any general huddle liminal Rama,
lower the wings of humility, of compassion towards them.
Don't raise your voices or limit of diversity mentioned in front of them. Don't raise your voice above your parents after you find some that really matter. So if you find some strange writings that comes
that some of them will watch the eating with a mother
don't want to place their hand on something less their mother wants to eat that piece, morsel of food etc. that she wants that.
No, but for us this sounds once again culture sounds trivial.
Sounds something in a way out anyway talking about reviving the sauna but with this concept of reviving the sauna amongst away some of them highlight early move to ski the highlight. Not to walk in front of your parents
walk at the side or walk behind them.
Never go ahead of them. And we all know the famous Hadith talking about the concept of seeking a form of intermediary of actions
of gaining ourselves into into paradise of the three men inside the hadith of Bokhari are not mistaken of how they were locked in a
in a cave, and a great big boulder came and it trapped them in. So what did one of the men say?
He highlighted that every night he comes home and he doesn't go to sleep, except by giving a bowl of milk etc, to his parents. And then he goes to see his own children and his own family members. By Europe, you know, one day I was delayed,
I came back late, and I found my parents were asleep.
And my own children were crying and waiting for the milk etc.
You know, you're up what I did. I stood then I remained there, until they awoke. And when they awoke in their sleep,
I presented the bowl of milk to them, and they drank it and they went back to sleep and I went to my family.
So he could have come back at a different stage, he could have gone home, but he remains there. You know, you're a burden that sincerely for your face, total sincerity, and showing respect not to show them any harm any difficulty. And so we know that a slight amount of the rock in the open and the rest of the headache continues in the rest of the journey, which doesn't concern us at this stage. But once again, it shows a concept of immense respect and devotion, to be shown towards one's parents.
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made a man's nose be rubbed in dust three times the form of disc disgrace according to the Arabic language, that he finds either one of these parents or two of his parents at the state of old age. And he does not enter into paradise.
Because you know what?
Your prime opportunity to serve your parents. It's presented there right in front of you, that this is your door to paradise.
And you don't take that door.
You're a wretched individual. That's what you become,
no matter how great you may claim to be.
But you're Richard, according to Sharia.
Because you have failed to enter into paradise. And you find any various narrations talking about some authentication that paradise lies underneath the feet of your mother.
And some of them even highlighted some of the some of their mentioned that when their mother died,
they highlighted now only have one gate. And when the father died, he said I have no gates to enter into paradise now, because all opportunities been taken away from me. So imagine many of us have parents who may have left this dunya, etc. They may not be alive.
Then those were two gates to get into paradise.
And we lost that opportunity to stroll into paradise.
We find that a man increases in wisdom and behavior is defined according to either Bella, Bella or ballerina Santa when a man reaches his strength and reaches the age of 4040 is the age of wisdom. 40 is the age of Nobu over the age of prophethood. Call her up be Nina Coronet Mythicality. And Allah, Allah when the day that's when a man at the age of 40 the prime time of his life, then begins to reflect and begin to think,
oh my lord, if only I could give you any thanks to you, for the blessings that the bounties are placed upon me, that I should be grateful towards the end my parents and for some people, it may be too late. And you find out what do most parents, what are they calling towards? The experience of life is calling towards goodness as the AI continues. I mentioned as well. wahama yesterday, sir Neela Have a look at me, in the world of lojack for your khulumani illa when they're calling out all my son, or my daughter Believe, believe in Allah Subhana Allah in the word Baba, you have, indeed the promise of Allah Subhana Allah is a reality is true. And this individual turns around and says,
These are just Tales of the ancients. Ancient fables and tales you're telling me about? I'm going to go back to face Allah. There's going to be a date judgment is going to be dare resurrection. What type of stories are these?
We find out amongst Muslim youth.
That's what we find.
Ancient tales these are there's no returning back to Allah Subhana Allah, there's going to be no accountability. And you know, this ain't
entails doesn't just come from people who may be the average individual,
this sophisticated educated Muslims.
They believe that they think that the earth around all of this is just
ancient tales. You find some of them in a snobbery in their academia and the richness and a portion of that you find
that when standing next to their, their father, or someone we mentioned, because the father's doesn't speak English with an accent or something. And the author Who was that man next to you don't know who that man was.
Just ignore him.
Think about that. That's what some of these people reaching the level of their snobbery of education they think they become, they don't remember that the Father may be washing dishes to make sure you get to a damn good school, you have a damn good education. There is a nice that he spent trying to make sure you got the best education now you become what you become. And this is the way you treat your parents and your quote, unquote, I'm a civilized educated individual. That's what these civilized people do with their parents. As we began with, they throw them in that old age pensioners home because parents are getting in the way of my life.
And that's exactly what some of us are beginning to follow.
That they're getting in the way of my life.
And that's you find that even when it comes to such a degree, that some parents have that ferocity, they have the insight not saying this becomes a soldier, that we should use this for all parents.
But when Omar said to his son in number, devotional, your wife Lika.
And obviously he loved the the men's love towards her. He asked the Prophet moms, what should I do, instead of your father said if he said it, Dave also, because Omar was one of those individuals who had inspiration given to him.
He had that form of divine inspiration. He had the ability to see the foresight of certain things. So he should have been his father this instant because he's not speak of his whims and desires or, as we may speak our own cultural background, our language, our tribes, etc, is speaking out of justice and equity and seeing something isn't right about this woman or this journey individual.
A Buddha we find a man came and said, I have a wife and my mother orders me to divorce her.
I heard the Prophet Muhammad from saying the father parent is the middle of Paradise, lose it or keep it.
So take that advice. So if it's justified the code the Sharia, in his current context is correct form without any person interest than a person even to such a degree needs to listen to such advice.
So it's all something to ponder and to reflect and to think about the
the sublime mini prestige position of the parents even greater than jihad. You know, as a lot of individuals out there, thinking a gang out in the path of a lustful bandana. You know, for somebody who studied the whole psychological concept.
Some of them are just trying to run away from the responsibilities.
That's what some people are trying to do and try to use that as a as a decoder. We're going to do something Hadith in Bukhari, Muslim jarnagin, foster jihad, a man came and sought permission to go out for Jihad for color, I usually duck. He said, Are your parents living colonists? for FEMA for Jade,
go back and make your Jihad and struggling taking care of them.
These are general principles inside Islam that people say, well, any Jihad for the line, I don't need to listen to our parents, I can just walk out and do whatever I want to do. Where do such teachings come from? Where do such influences come from?
So placing everything in context had these is quite clear, an explicit man is seeking permission to go out and do a noble action. But the Prophet Mohammed advised him to go back if your parents are like to go back and to take care of them.
Even if your parents are quote unquote, Kufa, disbelievers non Muslims, but there's another problem we find Muslims who say become Muslims, you know, why should I show respect to to my parents or treat them well, etc, who are carefree or kathira?
What is the Sherry I say about this? of our treatment towards them? We find what so a hippo Murphy Jr. maroof.
The Quran says remain towards them in a companionship of goodness. Something which is good.
If your parents are non Muslims, and they say to you, son, wash the car, wash the car, and they say paint the house paint the house. It is a cleanup cleanup. It's got nothing to do it. Dad, you're filthy careful.
I'm a believer now. There's no link. There's no relationship. Nothing to do with it. But if you say son, let's celebrate Christmas together. Let's cut the turkey. Let's drink together. Let's go and call them Christ today. Then
happens, then you draw the line.
That's where you draw the line. So you find out to greet them on their greetings we find this festive period, a moment of prosperous new year, etc, that we find
the way of the believers will lead the nilesh whodunnit zoo.
Well, either Maru biLlahi marukai Rama, once again to see part of the believers is at the end of Soto upon
will Nadine Allah shadow nuzzo don't who don't stand testimony to falsehood, false speech, vanity evil practices, mmm for sereni evening, Kathy mentioned is
in the celebrations, the politics and the days which are specific to them, that person should know and engage in any form of reading towards them. But any other occasion as how they are, how they hope is take care of them. So to hear the death of so and so or this harm you that's allowed in Australia for Muslim to do conduct themselves. So once you'd have that towards that balance, a smell that we find are the lowdown on any asking that her mother, hear moussaka, she's a polytheist she's coming to where he or she but she's coming to meet me and to see me and to visit me. What should I do? She's worried. The Prophet Mohammed says to her Nan city,
make the ties of your mother strengthen the ties with your mother. In number two filmer of
obedience is in the good things. There's no obedience in the bad things. So imagine the more and more that people become Muslims or people become practicing then begin to show goodness towards their parents. It'll be such a great impact upon them. Images don't may not become Muslim, but it shows a better image and a devotion of the teachings of Islam. The only time we give up the obedience is when they encourage disobedience. As we mentioned in the concept of shark in the Quran is Villa injure haidakhan Etosha Kabhi malissa kabiri monferrato terumah la Maria
Manon, so we're in tjahaja they strive against you, they forced you or they convinced me to do something, don't obey them.
Show no devotion to them fell out of their hoonah That's it, you draw the line this is as far as my relationship goes with you. Likewise, in Surah lokman once again we're in Jeddah, Allah and to silica beam La Silla Kabir in Fela today Rama was ahead. Hey, Boomer, Deanna Ufa with tibial, sebelum and nirbhay from a merger co founder,
Chairman. So once again, wasa hibou, Murphy dunya meroofer remain a good comrade companion with them in goodness inside this world is how Muslims should be towards any one's parents, whether they're Muslims or non Muslims. And that relationship with Allah mentioned even spills over and you find Allahu Allah to be Manzella till
the aunt, the maternal aunt is in the position of the mother, because you find that the aunt, the holler, resembles the mother the most in a voice in etiquettes in a speech as the most right to take care of the child as well. And likewise keeping ties
in so you find the whole concept that you studied linguistically, Rahim goes back to the concept also spreads to concentrate mercy and compassion and that soft place of the room that we find that one should keep the ties with the family members. Keep good ties with them. And you find even some element brings various narrations talking about a hadith or certain artha that we find that even the family members, the Friends of your father,
they use your goodness towards them, the story of the lead neuroma, whereby once he saw an individual God Dan gave him his donkey to ride gave him his turban and say look how the easy in the bedroom is satisfied with small things.
Why did you do such actions because he was the friend of my father.
So thank goodness to them is a way of showing goodness to one's father. In our role very similar to Roger Lee would do a V
to show those people who your father loved had association with to show goodness and kindness towards them. So in conclusion, find his concept what all that we mean discussion in discussing we go back to various works of Dave, even basic works like the collection of Rio de Sala hain and other books on a hadith that you find the concept of the hareem led in the chapter is talking about severing the ties of one's parents, mineral kabaya amongst the major sins, the major sins and you can go back also look at him the hobbies and cupboard 80 or 90 or any major sins that he collects inside there.
Amongst the major sins you find, obviously first is Alicia COVID
Laser Canada, and then you find one who could validate severing the ties of relationship towards your parents. minute Kobe. Shut Morrow, Julie Wiley de he from amongst the major sins is for man to swear to curse to revive his parents.
Yes. So boo Rajan for your boo, boo.
You curse another man's father.
And you know what happens? He swears at your father.
So you are really cursing your own father. So one should be carefully one's tongue. Don't say something to someone else's mother or father. Because then they could say something about your mother and father, and you've just actually cursed your own mother and father.
And we know the street language a moment isn't many of the Ufa talking is that your mum your dad isn't it type of language that they use in his study what that means, what it really means.
As you're reviling your own parents, showing disrespect towards your own parents, or cocoa mahat suffering, suffering the ties of motherhood, the rights which belong Jenny to one's mother.
And amongst the signs of the day of judgment that you find a famous Hadith, the hadith of gibreel la Salaam at the end of the Hadith, you find that concept What are amongst a shot What are amongst the signs of the day judgment you find inside the wording will tell you that Emma to Roberta, you find a slave girl will give birth to her master otter mysteries.
One interpretation by the 11th hadith
of this interpretation of this section of the Hadith is that you will find disrespectful children
treating their parents, like slaves.
treating the parents like slaves is one interpretation that Allah made regardless Hadith.
Something to begin to think about that is amongst the signs of the minus signs that the judgment that people begin to show disrespect towards their parents to sins are punished immediately in this world, injustice and disobedience to one's parents. In the most authentic of a man How can we find this hadith is authenticated by the late muhaddith. Shanaze 14 Alberni Rahmatullah le two sins are punished immediately in this world. injustice and disobedience to one's parents. Swift punishment is brought upon you in dystonia, watch your living. So in conclusion, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to make our children following the characteristics of the believers and SoTL for iron or bunnahabhain I
mean, as well Gina, was Rhea Tina kurata
tokina I'ma make our children to become the coolness in our project, the coolness of our eyes. Mmm so up, making a mention to save this verse highlights. Because many of us think coolness of the eyes refers to what the earth rising at the coolness attendance of our eyes, goes to this interpretation that they become the coolness of your eyes, in this world. That when you see your children or Peninsula, upon righteousness, upon piety, on good actions, praying, reading the Koran, reciting fasting that rejoices your heart. But we rejoice unfortunately in our heart seeing children involved in haram haram actions we thrive upon that. You know how in our culture, what is it you know, the
child is, is dancing. Oh, look, he's dancing. Everyone. Look, he's dancing.
But if he's praying or doing something else, oh, what's happened to him?
Everything's topsy turvy for us. The real supplication that believer is to see his children in a state of righteous that becomes coolness of his eyes inside this world. Likewise, once again, what can you leave behind many of us We can't leave behind. We can't maybe leave behind other actions, charitable actions, but manually give a good trivia to your son or your daughter. While Adam saw a doctor who are righteous and prays for you righteous due to praise for you, that goes to Allah subhanaw taala will benefit you
someday to begin to focus more on the closer people closer to us
and make them become benefit as an individual who would benefit as deeply when we turn back to last and then trying to go and maybe at times benefit other individual to say is incorrect. And seek those individuals and benefit them and the ones close ones around us will begin any to forget them. May Allah Subhana Allah give us a tofik and ability to remove this hypocrisy in everything that I've mentioned nothing being textual in academic research. Because most of us I can point the finger at my own self are negligent in many of these things that we've touched upon about our parents and give us a strength and ability to live true to these words become those individuals. Aladdin esta maroon
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