Mufti Menk – Tafsir – 1st September 2013

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The importance of avoiding cultural embarrassment, being straightforward, and learning from mistakes and avoiding embarrassment is emphasized. The speakers also emphasize the need for privacy and privacy, avoiding limits, and not giving up. They stress the importance of avoiding negative energy and not giving up, and encourage the audience to ask themselves the question of their desire to be a successful woman.
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inshallah we will read from verse number 53 of Surah Al Azhar on page number 569

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we will be learning Amina shine on your rajim Bismillahi Rahmani Raheem.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Muhammad Allah Al Ameen. Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa Tabby Norman Tebbit, allambee son, Elijah Medina,

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my dearest mothers and sisters.

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In my last talk that I delivered at this particular venue,

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I mentioned that a young boy in South Africa had committed suicide

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and that people were blaming his wife.

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I was subsequently corrected and informed that the investigation into this case is still going on. Therefore, we cannot say anything conclusively in this regard until investigations are complete.

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And as the topic of discussion was the need to abstain from spreading rumors, making accusations etc. Thus, even in this case,

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we do not need to engage in further discussion rather, we make to alpha goodness. As for the verses I have just read before you today, they are very important making mention of etiquettes of visiting. We all know that today people visit one another some people sit for too long. Some people have

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No direction in when to visit, how long to sit for and sometimes even who to visit. We visit people sometimes where we end up doing nothing but gossip. We end up saying wrong things. Sometimes when we say wrong things we go to people's houses such that we are not corrected. You know, no matter who we are, we should accept correction my brothers and sisters or here we are talking to mothers and sisters. It's very important for us to know that Allah has placed within the Quran and the Sunnah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam rules and regulations with regards to visiting as well, starting with the house of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, who is it that would not want to go to the

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house of Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, when you have a very good person, really spiritual, He who is teaching us so much goodness, the heart would yearn to go to his house. If you're invited to the house of a pious person, you should be very happy. But at the same time, not all pious people can entertain everyone who would like to be entertained by them, because they are one particular person who has to fulfill the rights of whatever Allah has placed upon their shoulders regarding those whom they live with, and their family members and relatives and others as well. Primarily, and sometimes our visiting and our excitement in wanting to visit can hinder their fulfilment of their own rights.

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You know, you have, for example, people

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who decide, okay, this Sunday, we're going to spend quality time. And perhaps we might do this and go to the lake and whatever else, five minutes before you leaving, all group of people come home and say, well, we're here to sit. Now everyone's looking at each other. Because today, we live in a hypocritical world where nobody has the guts to say listen, guys, sorry, can you come back another time, we were all planning to go to the lake, you know, and don't even be too polite to offer them to come to the lake, you might spoil your trip, Allahu Akbar. You know, just tell them look, you know, it's the wrong time to come with very, very sorry, we will visit you. And we'll even bake a

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cake and bring it believe me, it's better to bake a cake at home, it's lonely, take you 20 minutes if you know how to do it, I can help you. And at the same time, you'd rather go with that cake than to be a hypocrite and sit eating on your chair. When are they going to go? May Allah protect us? So this this is why we need to put ourselves in the shoes of those. And we need to learn a lesson whenever you want to visit you need to visit let them know, phone them in advance. Is it okay? We want to visit you next week or we want to visit you today later on or tomorrow or at a convenient time for you. And when we go we should not be sitting for longer than a little period of time, you

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should realize people have their own downtime, they want to spend time with their family, perhaps they have other things to do if they force you to sit down and handle a but nowadays living in the hypocritical world, people want you desperately to go and they tend to sit a bit longer set a bit longer just to look nice. For what this is the norm. People are doing this and it's happening. So now when you hear people saying sit a bit longer it means get out. Sometimes Allah protect us, really. And this is why we suffocate on the globe, because we don't realize and understand that we need to be straightforward. Let's live a beautiful life. People might not like you for five minutes,

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but they will appreciate your candidness they will appreciate the fact that you were upright that you did not beat about the bush you told him listen, you know, I'm a straightforward person. I really love you. It's so nice that you visited but we actually in the process of doing something Can you come back later so the Quran says in Surah Surah that if you are asked to go back, go back it's better for you.

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With us have we ever visited someone and we just about into the home and they say please can you just come back another time and literally having a huge domestic May Allah subhanho wa Taala safeguard us now. Why the verses that I read today starts with the house of Rasulullah Salah Salem, because everyone wants to go to his house, they waiting for him to invite them as well.

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And when they are invited,

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they go early, and at the same time they sit for so long. So it Nabhi salatu salam wanted to tell them something but out of his goodness, he didn't say anything, because it was his duty to explain the etiquettes of visiting to everyone. So Allah revealed verses to make it easy for him to do that job. Like we are saying today, you know, you've got so many other platforms for example, you could have a recording of this lecture and perhaps just send it to someone or give it to someone and you know they may benefit from it or we can all benefit this Allah has made it easy for us. Imagine we've got teachings of Islam that really make life easy for everybody if we are ready to follow so

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Allah says Yeah, uh you have Latina Amman, oh you who believe into not the prophets house unless permission is given to you for a meal. So when you're invited for a meal, then you enter the house. You know, people

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Sometimes visit a scholar

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unannounced, they pretend that you know what Oh, they think that okay, this is a scholar he is placed in order to serve us so we can go whenever we want. However, they don't realize that these people also have lives. They also have commitments, they have duties, they have chores that they need to fulfill. So make an appointment at least and see when they have time, go there for a short period of time, finish up your business and carry on or see them at their workplace. So sometimes we feel like you know, very,

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we feel very at ease when we see people. And we think that, oh, they've got the world's time for us. I remember meeting in South Africa, a doctor who told me that, you know, he was a top heart surgeon

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or heart specialist, and he says, When people see me, they become sick.

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So I said, What do you mean? He said, they remember that the heart he saw and he said, he said, I'm out for tarawih I'm coming out for salah and he says I've got to worry about who's leading next to me because when this says Salam aleikum, wa rahmatullah wa sallam, they notice I'm sitting next to them, they say, Doc Doc, so he says, You know what? He says, You know, I got this problem. But brother, I'm here for Salah What are you talking about? How you can make an appointment and come and see me at the proper place. Now that you just saw me in the middle of nowhere, you suddenly became sick. So this is the attitude of people. So this eat harms people and out of their goodness, they

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might not tell you, they'll probably deal with you and say, Okay, this and that. Half the time you think it's a hard problem, believe me to guess Allah protect us. So my mothers and sisters, we need to know something that we need to put ourselves in the shoes of others in order to be able to take a look at what would be the best and most suitable thing to do. Look at this. It is etiquette. It's not a direct act of worship, but it is an indirect act of worship, which means to be considerate of others is definitely an act of worship that you might not realize. Not as direct as salah and so on, but you are earning a reward through worrying about others comfort, may Allah subhanho wa Taala make

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us from amongst those who realize so Allah says, Don't enter the prophets houses unless permission is given to you for a meal. And then

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he says

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and do not go so early and wait for the preparation of the food. So someone invites you for lunch. Imagine you invite a group up to talking to mothers and sisters. So I can give you a good example. Imagine you invite a group of sisters for lunch. And you say right guys, we'll have lunch in Sharla and such and such a day at home. And nine o'clock in the morning, knock knock the door knocks what happened the whole group is there. But we still need to cook. We still need to prepay, we still half the time we in our PJs, Allahu Akbar. And that's, Allah protect us so early. That's why nowadays you need to put the time please don't come before 130 Lau Akbar and you now you might have to put

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another time and don't be here after two o'clock because it's over. Restaurant closed, lockable. Sometimes we people invite us for a meal, we end up going so early. And sometimes we end up going so late. So to be considered it is what Allah is telling us. The lesson is start off with the house of the messenger. Don't go so early go when you invited. And when you invite and if you have some work, obviously you may want to meet Rasulullah sallallahu there is a place to meet him there is a way to meet him. But if you want to go to one of his houses where his wife stay, you need to have an invite, and you need to then realize that I can't go so early when I'm being invited for food. Let

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me go after the food is prepared and when they're about to eat. then guess what? Allahu Akbar, look at the almighty Mashallah, We are so fortunate to be muslimeen he says. And once you have had your meal, you see when you are invited into you go in, right. And once you have had your meal, disperse without sitting for a talk, because they didn't invite you to come we'll have a chat. No, if that's what was said it's something else. But come for the meal. So you go for the meal for either time, Tom fantasio voila, Mr. Messina, lady. Don't make yourself too comfy by talking, you know, and by engaging in a chat, sometimes women will tell you straight up you know, we don't mind the meal. But

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you guys you sit for so long on the table that that's what the stress is all about. You know, sitting for two hours after the meal, come on, relax, you know, we also need to sleep or we also have other things to do. So don't make like you're the only people in the world. So to be considered is very, very important. You finish your meal, you can have say a few polites and walk out you know, thank you very much zakum Allah Allah, Allah bless you and carry on. So May Allah make it easy. This is what Allah subhanho wa Taala is saying, Well, almost definitionally Hadith. Do you know why in Kerala come Can you nebbia for your study minko

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such behavior annoys the Prophet sallallahu Sallam and he is shy of asking you to go but Allah is not shy of telling you the truth. So Allah made it easy.

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For him to tell you just by reading the verse amazing. Some people are shy. So you got to write a note to your guests, send them an SMS from somewhere and tell them to leave low. To be honest, we still feel shy sometimes. But like we said, learn from this verse that to be honest and upright is far better in the long run. And it creates a better environment in society and in the home, than to beat about the bush and create enmity and hatred in the heart. Whereas people were good hearted. So you know, people say things with a good heart. Sometimes they end up saying a few things here and they we all make mistakes, my brother, my mothers and sisters, but at the same time, when we are

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reminded, you know, we can always correct ourselves. Like we say, we don't go for too long, and we don't go so early, and so on.

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This Allah subhanho wa Taala has told us he says it used to annoy the messenger, so it used to annoy him, I think we would be annoyed in a bigger way. annoyed in a bigger way. Like I said, some of you might have heard me say this. When I was young, we visited a house, I still visit the same house sometimes the Auntie's passed away May Allah grant agenda.

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But there was a sticker on her door. I went with my mother once when I was young. And on the door, it said, we were little school kids. And I remember reading clearly that we are happy, what we are happy upon your arrival. But we will be even happier when you depart. Love. And I remember as a kid, after I told my mother what it meant. I think she took it the wrong way. Because sometimes the older generation don't really figure out that is just a joke, you know. And sometimes it might not be a joke. It could be a polite way of saying, Hey guys, don't waste your time here. Now Allah protect us. So my mothers and sisters, Allah says iminco Allah, Allah is the human Allah, that Allah is not

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shy of the truth. Then Allah says what he does ultimune As for the wives of the messenger, when you would like to ask them something, when you want to ask them something, then ask them from behind a screen you see the screen we using right now behind the screen. So you are allowed to ask them something you need to from behind the screen, they will respond to you also from behind the same screen. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah purify our hearts, Allah says that is pure for your hearts and for their hearts. Imagine it is purity. So when these people say no, it's my right and my this and my that well, marriages are breaking, people are doing things, so many things are happening across

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the globe, wouldn't you like to lead a pure life? Well, Alhamdulillah if you would, then you need to know there are certain ways of achieving it. And that Allah has revealed it won't be from my whims and fancies, what I think would achieve purity, I may never achieve purity by that because the owner of purity is the one who made purity and he made me to love Akbar. So if you would like that you need to adopt the command of Allah speak to them from behind the screen when you have to.

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And that too, is confined to that which is important, not irrelevant, unnecessary. So Allah says, that is pure for you, for your heart and for their hearts. And it is not right for you that you should enjoy the Messenger of Allah subhanho wa Taala know that you should ever marry his wives after his death, verily, with Allah, that shall be an enormity. Which means that is something grand is great in the eyes of Allah. So from this verse, it became prohibited for anyone to want to marry or to marry, or even for the wives of the Prophet SAW Selim to marry anyone after them. Those were the women, just the wives of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, were not allowed to marry anyone after

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his death by this verse, because of this verse, that Allah had made it prohibited. So after they, they were known as the mothers of the believers, and they did not marry thereafter, they always spoke with respect from behind the screen, to those whom, who needed something from them, or who asked them a question or two, or whom they taught because they, a lot of people learn to their hands as well. And they always spoke behind the screen. So we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to grant us goodness, then Allah says into vidushi and out of forth, whether you reveal anything or you conceal it, Allah knows absolutely everything. This verse, we can speak about it for a whole week.

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Anything you or I conceal, or we show it, Allah knows it, whether it's good or bad, whether it's a good thought, or a bad thought, or some intention or plan or anything else. Allah knows. And Allah is all watchful, he allows it to happen in order to act as a test for us. Then Allah knows what he will do.

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And he knows how he will deal with it. So let's not think for a moment that we can hide things from our own creator. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness, Allah says

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Laguna hallein

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you see the previous verse speaking about

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the wives of the Prophet SAW Selim that they spoke from behind the screen right? Now there are certain categories of people that they do not need to talk to from behind the screen. But they It's fine if their beauty for example, or if they speak sorry if they speak to them, unveiled.

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So who are these people? Let's mention the categories. Allah says, verse number 55, it is no sin on them, which means the prophets wives salatu salam may Allah be pleased with all of them, if they appear unveiled before their fathers or their sons, or their brothers, or their brothers, sons, or the sons of their sisters, or their own women, which means the believing women or their female slaves.

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And oh, women, keep your duty unto Allah. Verily, Allah is Ever all witness for everything. So I hope we've heard this. It's a beautiful verse, Allah just made mention of these five categories of people, or few categories of people.

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A person's spouse, obviously, their fathers,

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their brothers, the brothers, children and their sisters, children, these are five male categories of males. And then the women of believing women as well as those who work for you. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, grant us goodness and protection as for those who are disbelieving women, and who are not working for a person or then exercise,

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you know, restraint, or should I say, be a little bit more careful. One wonders what could happen, especially today in the age of videoing, and in the age of little pictures, and so on. Before you know it, there'll be pictures of you all over the internet. And it's happening. Of late I've read an article of a way they say that the little cameras on our little devices can be turned on remotely if you are connected to the net, so that you wouldn't even know that people are videoing you, whilst you think you're busy playing a game on your phone, or what's happening or messaging, and others are looking at you and perhaps even taking photos of you and you don't even know through your own

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device, your laptop or your phone. It's happening. Of late, I've seen people in the Middle East, who who are now promoting sticking a black tape on top of the camera. And I used to think it was a little bit harsh. But now that I've read a few articles, and I've actually seen some of these videos, and I've actually been shown how people do that, you'd be shocked how they can hack into your phone, especially if it's an iPhone, may Allah protect us. This is why I say to people, we need to know how to use devices. And we need to learn how to safeguard ourselves, I think with us in this part of the world, not many people would really be interested in doing that to us. But you cannot

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know, you can never know. So just be a little bit more careful how you use your devices, even your laptops, your little things, I would already start putting a little small tape on top of the little camera that's there. Just for purposes of being on the safe side, voila, he The last thing you would want is, you know, you perhaps sitting answering your emails on embed, and people are videoing you and actually playing you somewhere in the world. And they've downloaded it and perhaps they might put it up and embarrass you a little bit later. Believe me, things like this could happen. They can happen with technology. You know, there's so many hackers and people hacking to the people who've

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made these,

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you know, devices into their websites. So what do you think about the device itself? This is why we say just be a little bit more careful who we deal with and how we deal with them as well. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says, The beautiful verse, verse number 56. I think we all know this verse of Bihar, in Allah Hamada Akita who you saw lunarlon Abbey, yeah, Latina amanu sallu alayhi wa sallam Moses Lima, Allah sins his Salah, the term Salah means the graces, the honors, the blessings, the mercy, Allah sends His blessings and mercy upon the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when we say sallallahu sallam, that's exactly what we're doing. May Allah have mercy and blessings be upon him.

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We normally start off by saying blessings and salutations upon Mohammed Salah Salah, that is what is being referred to so Allah since these are blessings and mercy, and honors and graces upon Muhammad Sallallahu sallam, so Allah says, and so do His angels, His angels do the same. Oh, you who believe send your Salah on the messenger sallallahu sallam, and you should salute him with the Islamic way of greeting, salutations assalamu aleikum. So, this when you meet Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam the way to greet him is assalamu aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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We all know even when we visit Madina, munawwara at the moment, that is how we greet Rasulullah Salallahu Salam Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh all As salam o Allah aka Rasool Allah, we are greeting Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam

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and if we are at a distance, then we do the same thing but

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In the form of what we call a Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah. In the older language, they call it durood. Sharif. So we would say Allahumma salli, ala nabina Muhammad wa ala nabina Muhammad in wa barik wa sallam. That's one of the ways of doing it. And there are so many other ways of doing it, of sending this type of durood. Even in Salah we do the same because of this verse. This verse is an instruction it is foreign, it is compulsory, it has been made necessary for us to engage in this type of durood or this type of Salah Allah Nabi sallallahu sallam, it's important for us to know this. So especially like in Salah, every one of us is Allahumma salli ala Muhammad Allah Allah Allah

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Muhammad in commercial later Allah Allah Allah Allah Ibrahima innaka hamidou Majeed Allahumma barik ala Muhammad Allah Allah Muhammad Ibrahim Allah Allah Ibrahima innaka hamidah Majeed, this is the bare minimum that we should be saying inshallah, by the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala. He accepted from us remember, when we send blessings and salutations upon Mohammed Salah Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah raises our status 10 times

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10 times so we are blessed tenfold. So it's actually an act of worship, that is great. Then Allah says in the Medina, Luna Allah, listen to this verse. It's very, it's very stern. And it has in it a very serious warning.

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Verily, those who annoy now you rune Eva here is translated as annoying, but it also refers to harm to harm in any way.

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Verily, those who harm or who try to harm obviously you cannot harm Allah, but people try, you know, they engage in all forms of Satanism and all forms of weird things. Those who annoy Allah and His Messenger, Allah has cursed them in this world. And in the Hereafter, he has prepared for them. A humiliating torment. humiliating means disgraceful that which will humiliate a person.

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Verily those who annoy Allah and His Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah has caused them in this world.

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Allah sorry, Allah has cursed them in this world. Allah has cursed them Lana, humann, la COVID dunya Allah, Allah has cursed them in this world and the next so those who try and harm the messenger, Allah has cursed them in this world in the next end, for them, they will be a humiliating punishment. Now, one might ask, how would someone do this? Look, my mothers and sisters we say we are Muslim in and we believe in Allah, then we lead our lives in a way that we are an embarrassment to Allah and His Rasool Allah, Allah.

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That's bad. We lie, we cheat, we steal, we deceive, we can't be swayed. We make people's lives difficult. And people know us as muslimeen, what's your name, and you give such a beautiful name, and then look at your action. So this is harming the reputation of Muhammad Salallahu Salam in a very big way. Because when others look at us, they say these are the followers of Mohammed, look at him, they crooks and criminals, they do business with them is very bad that women are so hot, you know, for example, that women sweat the widows who work for them, and they so rough with one another, they they abuse their daughters and daughters in laws and whatever else and mothers in

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laws, they don't respect their own parents, and so on and so forth. So all the teachings of Islam are discarded and thrown away.

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What does such a person expect besides humiliation? You know, my mothers and sisters.

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I was out in the West Indies last week. And from there I went to the UK.

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And to be honest with you, Mashallah, as much as there is so much goodness that is coming out. Sometimes when we watch people, we start thinking to ourselves, you know,

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people have lost focus sometimes. And that's why as soon as they find the path, they become brilliant people once again. So why do we lose focus? Can I tell you the main challenge, the glamour and the glitter around us? That's why.

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So a lot of young girls,

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they don't know why they're alive.

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And I think even some of the older people, men and women, not just young girls, but you notice it more in the young girls environment has such serious pressure upon them to dedicate most of their lives to fashion. That's what it is fashion. So your clothing is what you live for. You live for beautiful clothing, you know, and the latest trends and the styles that's your life. You live for it. That's it. What happened to the earth here? Well, it by the way, we hope that we get paradise, but for now, it's not important. Why? Because the environment has put so much pressure on me and I need to look like someone I am not. So the fashion statements are such that

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If you take a look at the origins of makeup and face painting, you'll get a shock that, you know, if a person had to put a little bit say, for example, to look a little bit better on their face, or they got the moisturizer and one or two other things, perhaps here or they Mashallah handler No, we're not saying that it's wrong. But when we become obsessed with it such that the makeup gets to the degree of Satanism, did you know that just like the Hindus.

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And we need to say this because my mothers and sisters, whether we feel bad or not, the truth of the matter is reality we are here to guide, we are not here to play the fool. So just like for example, the Hindus would weigh a little, a necklace, something that looks like a necklace, on their heads in a way that it sticks out at the bottom, just above your nose, and it comes down as a necklace. Just as that is an act of worship for them. Fashion will make it seem like No, it's just a norm. So you start finding the Muslim girls do that completely. And they think it's just a statement of fashion, not realizing that it's an act of worship that belongs to a different faith. And another thing, face

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painting is the uniform of

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satanist rituals, they are not allowed to engage in their rituals without painting their faces, and making their eyes such that they become demon like so now you find the corner of the eyes being hooked up and flicked with a black paint going up, your face is supposed to look as white as possible, and your lips are supposed to look as dark red as possible, then you can enjoy worshipping the devil correctly, meaning that they act of worship. So sometimes pressure is such from society and environment in the name of faction, that our girls don't realize that we actually engage we are more appropriately dressed to walk into the temple that belongs to for example, the Satanists than

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to walk into the house of Allah. That belongs to the Muslim in Why? Because fashion has become our religion. It's our religion. In the name of fashion, we give up the deen so now you have a beautiful cloak but we mess it up by adding something on to it. That really defeats the whole purpose of wearing the cloak. Now the reason I'm saying this is because Mashallah, in our society, I don't think it's such a big problem. But when you travel abroad, you get to see things and you get to you get to ask yourself is this what then life rotates around fashion? That's it, nothing else. It's all about the latest scent, that's the smell. It's all about the latest looks, that's the makeup and

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it's all about the latest clothing. That's the fashion you know the names and the styles and the designs that you are allowed to dress properly Mashallah, you are allowed to smell good, Mashallah, you. I mean, when you married, you have to because of your spouse, and whatever he likes, or whatever one another would like Alhamdulillah. But there are limits to everything, my mothers and sisters, and we're saying a balanced statement here. We're not saying throw away everything. But what we're saying is, be careful. Don't let it go beyond the limit where you lose focus as to why you are living. We are not living in order to be fashionable. And in order to follow the latest

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trends because trends are faster than you can ever move. So no matter what latest you have today, within the day, by the end of the day, there'll be something later than what you have. It's just that you don't know about it. But the minute you start finding out, we become so fashion enslaved that people will lead us in through to a hole a snake hole and we'll go straight in. That's what the Hadith says hatillo Salah could become a bit less electrical, that even if they were to pull a straight into a hole that is belongs to a reptile, we would walk straight into it, dive straight into it get bitten. So we should ask ourselves, why am I doing this? What's this all about? You

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know, am I just a little fashion slave? If that's the case, you know, people have dedicated TV stations they spending billions of dollars on fashion. Do you know that the makeup industry is bigger than the oil industry?

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Do you know that? Allahu Akbar

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Allah grant us goodness

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so this is why we say Mashallah, yes look, you can look good Alhamdulillah you can dress well, but it needs to be limited in the sense that let's not fall prey to it. Remember, you need to go to gender. So we need to not compromise the deen like people are asking you you know this breathable this entry that is the adult in it is anyone debating it? If it's Yes, throw it out. Don't Don't risk your era.

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If someone is debating it, you can do better. You know, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness. This is why face painting is something we need to abstain from because, you know, it starts off with one thing and it gets to another yesterday I was on the plane reading an article about music and how the world is so upset with the way music is going that the non Muslims are saying that music is an intoxicant, and you

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It's being used and it's being abused because it might have started with light but didn't tell you stay away from it. So now what has happened, people are going into something so bad that apparently they are provoking the world into doing that which is promiscuous and illicit through music. And they calling it Okay, the new generation of musicians and dancers are doing things that are absolutely vile, completely unacceptable. Somebody I if I recall, the name was Miley somebody, and I read it in yesterday's paper and it was such a dirty article, I wonder if there was if there was a video on that, how dirty it would have been. And yet they say that the non Muslims are complaining

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about that.

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And we busy debating that it's permissible. No, it's permissible. These guys are too hard and strict, you know, it's allowed Come on a little dance here and they come on you know, it's come on you know, you got stuff it'll You know, that's the tip of the iceberg. They say, give you a finger, they take the whole hand, this nevermind give you a finger, they take the whole hand, they biting your whole head of Allah protect us and then we still say no, no problem, you know.

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So my mothers and sisters, this is how we would harm the reputation of the messenger. In fact, we cannot end up causing harm to it, but we would be harming ourselves in fact, and at the same time, people would get the wrong image of who Allah is, and who Rasulullah saw seldom is such people cannot achieve goodness, they cannot achieve, you know,

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peace and contentment in their lives. May Allah grant us forgiveness may make us more focused, like I said, You enjoy what you have in the dunya but remember your abode is the Arcana we are not in this world in order to become slaves of this type of thing, but we are here to become slaves of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we will enjoy within the limits of Allah. And in the next verse, Allah says, When Medina meaning those who harm believing men and women, undeservedly undeservedly means,

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be radium accessible, they accuse them for that which they have not done. That's what Allah is saying. When you accuse a fellow believer or believing male or female, of that which they have not done, when you make the life of a fellow believer, male or female difficult. Allah says phipa de tomoloo baudin. And what if mama Bina, then they bear on themselves the crime of slander, and plain sin. So it depends what exactly you we have harmed the person with, if we've harmed them with an accusation, then we have burdened ourselves with the crime of slander and the plain sin, and if we've harmed them in any other way, then we have shouldered that particular sin very important, like

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we say, as you do to others, so it shall be done to you. Number one, number two is when we do something, we are actually putting a coin into a machine and the product of it will come out from the bottom of that machine. There you are. So when we want to talk big mouth, Mashallah then remember others have bigger mouths.

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Remember that when we want to harm people, remember, there are others who can cause more harm to us. Remember that,

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like when one man was beating up his slave at the time of Rasul Allah, the processor tapped him on his back, he turned around, he was so embarrassed, the process of him says, I just want to tell you, Allah has greater power over you to destroy you completely. Allah has greater power over you than you have over this weak slave of yours.

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He says oh messenger I free him for the sake of Allah just as well he did.

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Just as well he did. Today we abuse our workers we talk to them with a bad tongue. Our parents our daughters in law, our sisters in law our brothers in laws, our sons in laws, our mothers in laws, our whatever our real mothers are real brothers and sisters. We saw rough with them we accused them we labeled them we we believe they have dirty hearts Why? Because we have a dirty Earth. Whenever you think dirty of someone it is because you are dirty period is over.

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No matter what is because you did there's no other way out of that.

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Not at all.

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Someone might argue and say no, I'm a clean person. Why do you think 30 of them find an excuse? If you knew that daddy daddy says if this 99 excuses for them, let them have them. But we only choose the one the one slight possibility finished. Why? Because we need to learn etiquette that's why we need to control ourselves. We need to understand my paradise lies in me really becoming a good person making life easy for those I live with those I'm around those who interact with me when they are left. They must be left with a smile on their faces. Mashallah.

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beautiful wife, you know we just had a lovely chat with the sister of of ours in Allah. And you know what we've just Mashallah we live with recharged so much positive energy while it happens. Some people you just look at them and negative energy affects you and you feel like so depressed. Why? Because they themselves have the sickness. And some people in the lowest of time, when they are struggling and suffering, you look at them and they have such a sparkle in their eyes, so much positive energy that you say yeah, Allah, imagine we don't even have one 10th of that problem and we are negative, you are so recharged just by looking at them and they give you that smile and they

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greet you properly y la como Salah my sister, how are you? Just that much is said in such a positive way that you feel so good. So keep yourself in the company of those type of people because it will help you to become that type of a person. But every day we negative we get up we screaming we shouting, you know raising your voice. raising your voice causes a lot of negative energy, a lot of negative energy.

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So we raise our voice in the morning, we scream at our own children from the morning, you know, we've just read Salah to come on, we need a bit of peace in the home. And next thing is yelling at the kids come on, you're ready to get late for school and so relax, relax, there's still a few days left for school martial

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law. And we start yelling, speak nicely with respect, show love and let the smile come. You know, even if there's something negative that has happened, you can deal with it in a positive way to eradicate it. May Allah strengthen us all really we need to try hard, try hard to be good people try very hard and inshallah we can achieve. This is why we say you know, when we attend lessons of this nature, my mothers and sisters we achieve a lot while we achieve more than what others achieve after paying money. People pay money to go for counseling people pay a lot of money. But to be honest with you the Quran and Sunnah is free counseling, free and it's far better than what anyone can provide

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completely. So So shaytan always comes and says, Don't go, just don't go. So when you fight yourself and you go, you know what you've learned and still say that I'll come and tell you no, no, no, you know what this and that. And of late, people have been saying so many weird things, you just got to relax. If you fall to those weird statements, you will never mean to achieve.

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Like the yesterday I was listening to a talk on the way back of one of the scholars and he was saying look at the mountain climber. Now the mountain climbers how dangerous it is to climb Everest, but they try they they companions and colleagues have died already something but they keep on trying. And they achieve more and they suffer and they struggle. And it's not a joke. To climb mountains is not a joke, you need to be fit, you need to know what you're doing. You need to know what provisions you need to know so many things and they struggle and so on to climb a mountain imagine. And they are so passionate about it. Look at the cyclists, they struggle, they suffer they

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go but they cycle everyday. The same applies with the swimmers and all of them. And we we want to climb the mountain to get to gentlemen

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to climb the mountain to get to Jenna. And still we're not prepared to not even to struggle that bad, to be honest with you. Nowhere near real mind mountain climber. Nowhere near his struggle. We just got to get up. We just got to force ourselves to be the best of people. That's all force yourself. And you don't want if you force yourself for a little while it will become the norm and you become a good person. We just sitting back and judging everybody, everybody. She's like that. This one's like this. That one's like that. So our day ends, and we eaching for tomorrow morning that we can go back and find the sister again. Yeah, tell me what we think about again, eating

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May Allah protect us.

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So now that the verse says,

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This is the last verse that I read today,

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powerful verse.

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Or prophet.

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My mothers and sisters listen to this carefully because it can change your life.

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Oh prophets, Allah wa sallam Allah is addressing his most beloved.

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Allah is addressing his most beloved saying, oh, Prophet,

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tell your wives, that means those who are most beloved to you. Who are they your wives, he was asked once a question. Would you love the most he says, I

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the process. Allah was asked, Who do you love the most? He says Asia

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probably alone.

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Then he was asked,

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and from the men.

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He says,

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a Buddha,

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her father, a lot of work. Imagine a man his father knows the closest person to him.

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today they'll call you a guardian. They'll give you all sorts of names. You will say my father in law is my darkest show me you know, Allahu Akbar. Allah protect us. This was a link that was even before that powerful link

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He says, Who do you love the most? My wife? Imagine if you had to tell some. Imagine your husband had to say if someone asked him who do you love the most? This is my wife. That's a coal mine who's wearing the pants here, man. How can you say that? So what I do,

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it's got nothing to do. So what? And if she tells me come home, I'll come home right now, that doesn't make me or whatever. You know, they call you petticoat government and whatever else they can say what they want. So long as I'm a happy man. I'm happy my home everyone is so when I come home, they're excited. That's how it's supposed to be. And all your friends think this guy you know what, he's a *. So if the if a * makes you a top men in your own big deal hamdulillah all other people, they could be matches, but at home, nobody wants them. Nobody likes them. In fact, the wives will tell them why you came so early today. We didn't expect you at this time. You know, we still

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needed a bit more peace in the house for another two hours. So who's who's in a better position Tell me May Allah protect us may make us from those whom at home, they can't wait until we get back.

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So Allah is saying, All messenger, tell your wives and your daughters. These are the most beloved people to you tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies to screen themselves completely.

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This is when they are leaving their homes.

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That will be better, that they should be known as free respectable women, so as not to be annoyed, so that nobody will harm them, law you yvaine they won't be harmed. And Allah is Ever oft forgiving, Most Merciful. We stop there. That's one of the most powerful verses regarding dress code in the whole Quran.

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Allah saying, oh, beloved, oh Prophet, tell those whom you love the most your wives, your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks over their bodies as a screen to cover themselves completely. This is better for them, they should be known as respectable women, and they will not be harmed. My mothers and sisters, we will talk about this next week in Sharla. But I want to leave you with a thought.

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I have had so many emails from so many different sisters from across the globe for so many years, telling me how they have been liberated completely after putting on the hijab, just the cloak and after like we said they're releasing themselves from the clutches of the male dominated fashion industry. Remember that? So I just want to let you know one thing.

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When when

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are you going to improve your dress code? That's the question you need to ask yourself. Go back today and ask yourself the question 20 times when am I going to improve my dress code and together with your dress comes your character because there's no point in dressing for top to toe covered completely and you can hear behind the bocce F's and B's Hey, that's a tight one man. Allahu Akbar. Imagine you would have to look 10 times to to just hear something coming from this person here. He left and she said oh my Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness, Allah protect us. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all my mothers and sisters Allah protect you. Grant your goodness and

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happiness Allah safeguard all of us. Grant Jenna to the Muhammad Have mercy on us the day he takes us away. Really we should love one another for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala and we should be able to feel it. You know, forgive me if I've said anything that might have been a little bit hurtful to anyone. Believe me that's not my intention. The intention is always to boost people's spirituality to try our best to serve for the sake of Allah to help one another you make to add for me we make dua for you inshallah, and that's the way we will progress Mashallah, we hope to see you again next week. Until then, also Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad Subhana Allah Hamdi

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