Mufti Menk – Ramadan 2010 – Durban – Reminders – Day 04

			Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
		

			smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu lillahi wa kafa wa sallahu wa salam o Baraka, Allah Abadi, Hilary in
Ubud. All praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala blessings and salutations upon Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
		

			May Allah subhanahu wa Allah bless him and all his companions and May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless
every single one of us and our offspring those to come up to the date of piano, Allah subhanho wa
Taala keep them on Deen, I mean, honor the llama beloved brothers and sisters and dearest listeners.
This evening we commenced a surah
		

			this surah Allah subhanho wa Taala has placed it in this particular order. For some reasons, some of
these reasons we will know and some we will never know. But all we understand is it is dedicated to
the women folk. And it is named after them and Missa Missa meaning the women. So we had the issue of
the Jews the issue of the Christians and now one of the main issues that the non Muslims use against
the Muslims, the issue of the women. So Allah subhanho wa Taala has clarified it towards the
beginning of the Quran, making clear the status of a woman compared to what she was at the time of
ignorance, the time of Jah helia the period where they traded in women, when a man had to owe
		

			someone money and he passed away the person he owed money to would inherit his children, his female
children or his wife or his mother and so on.
		

			And Islam prohibited that a woman shall not be treated like a commodity, and at the same time, she
shall be granted such respect, that she will be allowed complete and total sole ownership of her own
wealth. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to understand the status of women. So this
evening, naturally, we will be making mention of verses that will be clarifying the position of
women, Allah subhanho wa Taala in the opening verses makes it very clear how he created human
beings. Yeah.
		

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			people be conscious of the one, you're a boy who created you from one soul, and from that soul, he
says, what color kamin has jaha from it, he created its power, which means according to the
narrations, Abu huraira, the Allahu anhu reports and this hadith is correct. Some have tried to
point fingers at it, but
		

			it does not reduce the value of a woman if she was created from the robe of men, there is absolutely
no need to fret over that man was created from dusts that does not reduce his level or from soil it
doesn't reduce his level. So there is no point to be apologetic and start pointing fingers at Abu
hurayrah Allahu anhu and start pointing fingers at the narration to say no, this is invalid and
incorrect. It does not reduce your status at all. Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding.
		

			So a female as Allah says was created from a male and read this verse. If you know the Arabic
language wahala Caminha. There's no two meanings for that. Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us
understanding. Then Allah says, amin humare.
		

			Kathy Oh aneesa.
		

			From the two of them, he caused a multitude of male and female to grow. And this includes every
single one of us. In this picture, we see that a female is involved in my creation and yours, a
female was involved. This opening verse already shows us the level of our mothers, without them we
would not be here. So be careful. This is why immediately after that Allah says, What?
		

			There are several meanings of this verse I will mention one of them. Be conscious of Allah, with
whose name or whose name you use when you are talking to one another. You know, we say well, law II,
we take an oath With the name of Allah. Allah says Be conscious of that Allah and be conscious of
the wombs that gave birth to you Subhana Allah. Be conscious of your relatives that are connected to
you via the wombs of your mothers and be conscious of your own mothers.
		

			And your wives and your daughters and so on. They have a level they need your they need your
protection, they need your respect. This is what they need. May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us
the ability to be good to our women folk. Then Allah subhanho wa Taala says immediately after that,
he is mentioning the protection that a female child requires from us as males. Allah subhanho wa
Taala speaks of the orphan child, more so the female from amongst the orphans, Allah subhanho wa
Taala instructs us to look after her wealth, and to look after the orphans wealth in general male
and female, not to steal it not to usurp if not to cheat them out of it, to make sure that we give
		

			them their view, to make sure that if we are looking after orphaned children who are not our own or
who are not related to us so closely, and we are, who are, we are allowed to take from their wealth
only according to what we have spent on them. And if we are wealthy, Allah says better you don't
take wealth use your own, it is better for you, you will be considered from amongst those who are
looking after an orphan child. Thereafter, Allah subhanho wa Taala addresses the issue of
inheritance in great detail in which surah not the surah of inheritance, the surah of women. Why is
it the case? Let's try and understand because many men very sadly happened to cheat their women out
		

			of inheritance. Many of them are guilty, sometimes outwardly appearing to be so pious and so holy,
and yet they have conned their women folk and usurped the wealth after the death of the one whom
they are supposed to be the heirs of. So we ask Allah protection, remember, inheritance is a very,
very serious topic. And it is very important that we understand and learn the rules, one of the only
subjects that are discussed in great detail in the Quran. If you notice this evening, there were all
the portions that were being mentioned and I repeated twice or thrice, because Subhanallah these
verses are such that if you are not concentrating properly, they may confuse you may Allah subhanahu
		

			Allah grant us understanding.
		

			This is how much your mother gets, this is how much your wife gets, this is how much your daughter
gets Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of all this in Surah Nisa, in order to show you that a
woman you are not allowed to treat her as a commodity and inherit her as a person but over and above
that, you must give her her share from the inheritance of your own father or your family member and
so on. Allah subhanho wa Taala make us conscious of this. And at the end the law says if you are not
going to deal with your estates in a manner that is decreed by Allah, then for you May Allah protect
myself and yourselves is a severe punishment for a long, long period of time in the fire of
		

			jahannam. All my
		

			colleagues
		

			well,
		

			whoever transgresses goes against the limits of Allah subhanho wa Taala does not want to resolve
their matters of inheritance, according to the Sharia, for them will be the punishment of hellfire.
The words used are Holly Dunphy which means dwelling there in forever them of a Syrian say, if you
are Muslim, you will stay there for a long, long time, but some of them have a Syrian go as far as
saying if you have denied these laws, you lose your Eman. So you die a non Muslim That is why Allah
uses the word Cali than visa, which means you will dwell or one will dwell in jahannam forever and
ever May Allah subhanho wa Taala save goddess. It's not worth the 10,000 rands the 100,000 rands the
		

			million rains, the 10 million rains, believe me, give them away, have a big heart. In fact, be
honest, because believe me, no matter how big or small, that amount is, the punishment that lies if
we have usurped, it is very, very great. May Allah subhanho wa Taala, safeguard myself and
yourselves.
		

			Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about seeking forgiveness. And Allah says Toba is not for the
person who constantly commits sin one after the other you go against this rule that rule the other
rule the other rule Until when death comes to the person then they say now I'm turning to Allah.
Allah says in this Surah Surah tonisha Toba is not for such a person. Toba is for a person who has
committed a sin and then regrets it and turns to Allah subhanho wa Taala. And when they
		

			Turn to Allah Allah will forgive them once they are still healthy once they are still fine once
they, once they have not seen the angel of death, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a turning
point. Believe me, Gone are the days of sinning with Allah subhanho wa Taala protect the soul. It is
time we changed our habits. It is time we became examples and the addresses for myself as well as
every single one of us. We need to become exemplary the way we treat our women folk this evening. We
have dedicated this whole surah for women folk and that is from Allah subhanho wa Taala. Let us look
at what Allah says immediately after he mentioned this issue of Toba and turning he says regarding
		

			the womenfolk Why should you
		

			live with them in goodness, live with them with the norms with that which is the norm that which is
acceptable, live with them in a beautiful manner addressed them with respect. In the same way you
would not like your daughter to be addressed by someone else in a harsh manner. Don't address your
wife who is the daughter of someone else in the same manner. Sometimes we address our mothers in a
manner that we would not address our own daughters in so we ask Allah to grant us protection.
		

			Many of the young generation very sadly, and I'm going to say this because it is a crisis. They
don't understand why they are marrying. You bring in someone's daughter in your home every night you
find yourself up to midnight outside with your friends. Sometimes sadly, in the casinos, drinking
sometimes sadly intoxicating and the women are suffering in silence. Sometimes they don't even know
you are on drugs for 10 years and 20 years. Then they find out the problem Allah protect us, my
children and yours may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us a turning point. These are the blessing days
of the month of Ramadan, the eve of Ramadan, and these nights that we have are so powerful these
		

			reminders are from Allah subhanho wa Taala for me to change my bad ways and for you to change your
bad ways and habits. And nobody can stand up and say I don't have a single bad habit because that
would be a lie. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability firstly to acknowledge where we
have a weakness that is the most powerful step forward to acknowledge your weakness, and secondly,
to do something about it to seek assistance and seek help. Never be too embarrassed to get up. No
matter who you are and what you are worth. Never be too embarrassed to get up and seek assistance
from those who are helping May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability to reach out to one
		

			another to assist one another in goodness and to abstain from promoting vice. Now Allah subhanho wa
Taala protect the soul.
		

			Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about who the Muharram are Muharram are those who are so closely
related to you that the job does not apply in the sense that your daughter and your mother and your
sister and so on, there is a list that we have read this evening that is in Surah Nisa, as well. And
it is appropriately in the surah because it is connected to whom you cannot marry. That is a circle
of people you are not allowed to marry May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the ability or the
acceptance to respect them as well. And may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding I'd like
to mention a very interesting point. A person who cannot respect the mother of his own children will
		

			never ever find his children respecting their own mother. Let's understand this. So if someone
cannot respect their wife, who is the mother of their own children, they are encouraging their
children to disobey not only them, but they started a circle where the children will not obey or
will not be able to respect their own wives the day they get married. This is why some of the llama,
they say that when you want to marry a man, just look at how the father treated the mother. That's
it. I don't know whether this is actually applicable. It's not from a Hadith, but I think it seems
correct. Because if someone was brought witnessing fighting and, and squabbling every single day
		

			brought up in that manner, what do you think they will do as a result, they will continue doing the
same and the circle continues. Someone somewhere needs to break that. And it is occasions like these
blessing seasons like Ramadan that are there for us to change completely and to break the evil
circle and to get into a circle that will be full of goodness, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant
that to us.
		

			Then Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about how important it is to be honest in your business. And in
the same way we said don't eat someone else's wealth in inheritance. Allah says don't eat anybody
else's wealth what for any reason whatsoever. Don't eat the wealth that belongs to someone else.
When you have done business, a straight deal you may eat, but if it is any business that you
		

			crooked. The Quran says abstain. The reason is when we contaminate ourselves by putting a morsel of
haram into our mouths, we have naturally created energy that is satanic energy. This is why when we
were young, our fathers used to tell us say Bismillah before you eat, because if you don't shaytaan
will eat your food, and we never used to understand what that meant. But if someone eats a morsel,
okay, maybe it's not as serious as that when it comes to not saying Bismillah out of forgetfulness
there is always a way out to say Bismillah Allahu Allahu Allah. But when a person puts a morsel of
Haram in his mouth or her mouth, do you know that that energy that is derived from that will only be
		

			utilized by Satan in order to achieve that which is prohibited in order to go in a direction that is
wrong, and this is why you find then we cannot control our eyes because what we ate was Harlan, our
thoughts are dirty because what we ate was Haram. What we touch when we touch halaal We are not
satisfied. When we touch haram We are very happy because our our motion we put in was haram when we
walk we walk towards the masjid we feel lazy, because the energy derived is haram. But when we walk
towards casinos and nightclubs and drugs and so on, we find the energy from where no one knows. But
it is the Haram mode. So this is why it's very important for us to abstain from that which is
		

			prohibited. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us all.
		

			Then Allah subhanho wa Taala after saying that addresses the men and women who say I have made you
males and I have made you females do not wish and hope to be the other and don't wish and hope for
that status which I have granted the other or the opposite *. You need to be pleased with what
Allah has given you. Yes, sometimes we might you know, people utter without meaning it that I wish I
was a man so I could do this and that. But if a person says that out of being displeased with Allah
subhanho wa Taala, then this is what is meant in this verse, or Allah.
		

			Allah Allah ob,
		

			ba, ba Ba, don't hope and wish for that which Allah has granted some of you above the others in here
it is referring to male above female and female above male. And we have in some instances women, or
the females have a higher status than males when it comes to childbirth and looking after the
children and being a mother and the level of a mother and so on. So a man should not be upset with
Allah that He is a man not being able to go through that. The same applies to a woman she should not
be upset with Allah subhanho wa Taala to say, why am I going through this? There is Allah He has
chosen that for you, you should be pleased with it. Make the most of it may Allah Subhana Allah
		

			Allah grant of steadfastness, then Allah subhanho wa Taala beautifully look at the sequence. He
speaks about marriage, and he speaks about nica, whom you are not allowed to marry and so on. Then
he makes mentioned so beautifully about what to do when there is a problem in the home. Say for
example, the husband and wife are not getting along what to do. Allah says, What in his tomb
shikakai, NEMA father Otto hakama, mean, Lee wackerman mean,
		

			when you are fearing a split between husband and wife, then a person should be appointed from either
party, which means the man comes up and he appoints a trustworthy person from his side. And the
woman must come up and appoint a trustworthy person from her side. But that's not it. What a lot of
people don't know is once you have appointed and a person representing you, those two will meet and
whatever decision they arrive at.
		

			You must accept it. There is no choice. Some people think that now I've appointed say my uncle, and
she's appointed her father, for example, the two of them have set and arrived at a conclusion. And I
come up and say no, it's not suitable for me that is sinful. The fact that you, you have
		

			the fact that you have put up somebody or you have appointed somebody from your side already would
mean whatever they say you are ready to surrender to it. So in Islam to solve a problem, you don't
leave it at your discretion, when the to decide that this is right. You surrender to it. That's what
Allah says. And you read Islam.
		

			Powerful verse, Allah says, If both parties intend to solve the matter, it will be solved in no
time.
		

			But when one party doesn't want to resolve the matter, one party is not sincere. A party goes into
an arbitration only wanting to prove who was right and who was wrong. In that case, forget about
solving the problem. You might find out who was right and wrong, and you might never but you won't
solve your problem. Leave what has happened in the past start from where you are now if you have to
raise
		

			Certain major issues you may raise them not with the idea of finding out who was right and wrong,
but so that they are not repeated again in the future. But then you solve your problem resolving
turn a new leaf May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us all a new beginning especially in spirituality
in May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us elevation every day thereafter, Allah subhanho wa Taala
makes mention of how there are certain people whom when there is a problem, there are many, many
they claim to believe but when there is a problem, and they are called to arbitration to resolve
their matches according to what Allah and His Messenger have said, they turn away. Allah says those
		

			are hypocrites. Allah says those Allah will deal with them severely in the dunya and in the era. And
yeah, Allah makes mentioned very clearly alum Tara in Aladdin, I assume una
		

			mano Bhima de la la cama de la mina kominek. You read una Taha como ella pavo, Waka omeo ob, do you
see people who claim to follow what was revealed to you and what was revealed before you they claim
to be believers, then in order to resolve their disputes, they want to run to the non Muslims. They
want to run to others. This is what Allah says. And Allah says what either ki la junta Allah when it
is told to them, come, come where Isla De La Ilaha Illa Sunni Muna patina also una casa de, when it
is told to them come, let's solve our matters according to the Sharia. Let's solve our matters
according to what Allah and His Messenger have said, you find the hypocrisy turning away because it
		

			doesn't suit them. In another sutra in Surah, Allah subhanho wa Taala says clearly that there are
certain people who claim to be believers when there is an arbitration, they quickly take a look.
Will I get more according to Sharia, or according to another law, wherever they are getting more
they run in that direction. These are clear verses in the Quran. They describe a large chunk of
people may Allah protect us all never make me from amongst those as I said moments ago, if you are
going to lose militarily, so long as you decided that your problem will be resolved according to
Allah and His Messenger you have already won Subhana Allah.
		

			So Allah subhanho wa Taala. After making that clear, he then instructs us. He says, Oh you who
believe follow Allah follow the messenger and follow those in authority above you on condition that
they are instructing you within that which was stipulated by Allah and the messenger. And if there
is a dispute between you and those in authority above you, you will go back to Allah and His
Messenger rule and lo and command and you will resolve the matter. This is what Allah subhanho wa
Taala says in a beautiful verse in this Surah Surah Nisa and after that Allah subhanho wa Taala
makes mention of how the messenger was sent in order to be obeyed. Alma
		

			mirror soon in Newport Beach is Neela. Whenever we have sent a messenger down, we have only sent the
messenger so that they may be obeyed by the will of Allah. So we need to obey Allah Subhana Allah to
Allah and he sends messages for us to obey those messages. Now they come people who say no The
sooner we don't believe in it, we only believe in the Quran. I wonder if you've come across such
people. They are called Quran Yun, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam warns us openly about
that. He says Allah Yoshiko Ania tiara Julian jellison Allah Erica t yaku has Akita biLlahi Maharaja
dynorphin him in halleran Atlanta wamalwa nafi him in Harlem in Harlem na he says Allah in the
		

			Quran, Allah mithila Houma the Hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam warns us he says very
soon a man will come reclining on his sofa. That's the word used in this narration, reclining on his
reclining chair saying, look, this is the book of Allah, I accept it. I don't accept anything else.
And the Hadith says, Behold, I have been given the Quran and the Sunnah together with it. May Allah
subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding. So here, wa salam ala rasulillah leota. We have never sent
a messenger except for him to be obeyed. Here we are. We have included the Sunni in here. Here is
the verse For those who wanted to know what the verse was. There are some who have even challenged
		

			that Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us understanding. So Allah subhanho wa Taala then makes
mention of a very important point saying, We can never call our selves true believers. Until we
accept that which the messenger has decided when there was a dispute between us. The messenger
decides something that decision is final. We are not allowed to have any form of negative feelings.
		

			within us regarding what Islam has stipulated, if there is a law in the Sharia, it is a law, that
law we are not allowed to go against it. nor are we allowed to feel in our hearts any form of
negativity regarding the laws of Allah subhanho wa Taala. If that's the case, and if we are going to
feel negative, Allah says you are not true believers. Listen to the verse. Salah pika la mina una
Hata you Hakeem Oh kaffee Masha de la Vina whom ne We swear by your Robbo Muhammad sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, they are not true believers, until they consider you the judge in their disputes,
whatever you have uttered is final. And they should not feel an iota of negativity in their hearts
		

			regarding the decision made by yourself, which was inspired by Allah subhanho from Allah subhanho wa
Taala. So as muslimeen there are laws in Islam in the Sharia so many laws, regulations, some we
might be weak, where we have faltered, but we never ever deny the laws of the Sharia. Nor do we feel
in our hearts for a moment that this law is primitive. If that's the case, how can we call ourselves
believers? There are so many problems on the globe today, do you know what the reason is, they are
if I can use the word wise corrects, who really want to change the Sharia thinking that now we need
to modernize this rule and that rule, that's why we've got problems. Whereas if we were to go back
		

			to the original rules of the Quran, and the sooner our problems would be resolved, but when we try
to modernize and change and try and give you where it is not given and try and remove the do from
where it is given, then we will find the whole world going upside down as we notice now May Allah
subhanho wa Taala protect us all and bring us back to the right side.
		

			Then Allah subhanho wa Taala makes mention of another very, very powerful point and obviously, the
points are many. I'm just going to mention it because the sequence is so beautiful after this, Allah
says look, you want solution to your problems and we all do in sha Allah. Allah says, Allah tada
bonell
		

			are they not going to try to understand the Quran? Are they not going to try to understand the
Quran? Believe me if we do that we will succeed. Listen to another verse in Surah sada Allah
subhanho wa Taala makes mention of one of the reasons why he revealed the Quran is so that we can
look into it and try to understand it so that we can succeed. Let's hear the verse.
		

			Allah subhanho wa Taala says in Surah Saad.
		

			Regarding the Quran he says, We have revealed this book we have revealed the Quran so that it may be
understood. Listen to the verse kita.
		

			Bow,
		

			Juanita.
		

			The book that we have sent down is in order for them to contemplate over its verses and for it to
act as a reminder for those who have a sound mind. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us
understanding I normally present a question
		

			and I'd like to end with this question.
		

			We have lived many of us for several years, Mashallah many years, Mashallah 2030 4050 years, how
many of us have understood even a small portion of the Quran? How many of us have made an effort to
try and understand the messages of the Quran? Let's be honest. Many of us are so old well, law, what
are we going to give Allah subhanho wa Taala when he asks us, the most powerful column, the most
powerful words of mine, you never bothered to try to understand them. You never bothered to try and
look into the meanings of these words. What did I say? What was my message to Angela? How are we
going to answer Allah subhanho wa Taala. Don't worry about what people tell you. Shaytan comes in so
		

			many forms, and so many shapes in order to tell us stay away from the Quran. Stay away from this and
from that will lie It is my duty and yours Allah has revealed the spawn so that we can contemplate
over its verses. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala makers from that.
		

			And the bare minimum is to attend the lessons of Tafseer in the masjid that are nearby to us. Let us
make use of the Allah MA in our midst. If we don't have a Tafseer session in our Majid, voila, he
get hold of the Ola and tell them we want at the FSI lesson, once a day once a week and let's all
attend and make sure we go to others and pick up our friends and go in at
		

			Because that is the way to succeed. That is the way really that we will be pleasing Allah subhanho
wa Taala and we will be solving our problems. All the solutions to our problems have been revealed
by Allah subhanho wa Taala. But the biggest problem is we don't know revelation itself. So what then
is the difference between us and others? May Allah subhanahu Allah grant us the correct use of the
Allah in our midst, who have been carefully selected and chosen to be living in our areas and
localities? And may we not be lazy to attend such lectures and may not be lazy to attend the weekly
or the daily lessons of Tafseer or have ideas of any other beneficial talk that there is in the
		

			masjid or in any other place? May Allah subhanho wa Taala use us for the right reasons. May He grant
us knowledge until we meet again tomorrow in sha Allah wa sallahu wa salam wa barik ala nabina
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