Spying, Backbiting, Slander

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Importance of verification of tales and news. Harm of spying, backbiting and slander. From At the Peak Convention in Hong Kong.

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Salam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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smilla rahmanir rahim In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala Most Gracious, Most Merciful Alhamdulillah have been either mean or praise is indeed due to Allah subhanho wa Taala Lord of the worlds wa salatu salam ala VO mursaleen abena Wahhabi Vina Amina Muhammad Abdullah who Allah Allah, he was happy.

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We send complete blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all of them, without exception. And upon all his companions without exception, may Allah bless them all, and bless every single one of us. May Allah bless our offspring, those who come up to the end, my brothers and sisters, we have been blessed. We have been blessed with a beautiful faith. And that faith is the faith of Islam. It is not just a set of beliefs, but it comes with an entire way of life. And if we were to follow it correctly, we would realize that our lives would be so so content, we would be so happy in life, that it would be flowing in such a beautiful way.

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Because when goodness happens to us, we relate it to Allah. It does not make us arrogant, it does not make us proud in the wrong sense. And when something bad happens to us, we are patient we related to Allah we try we may be struggling because we are human beings. But the fact that we believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala keeps us going. And when it keeps us going, Subhana Allah it brings us closer to Allah, every one of us would agree that when we have difficulties in our lives, we become closer to Allah, there's no doubt. We know of times when you are sick when you are ill when you are expecting when you have a pain in your legs, when something's about to happen, you've

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suffered financially, someone has suffered in your home, perhaps divorce, whatever else it may be, we tend to soften up at a certain point.

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And we tend to start calling out to Allah, we tend to start making promises to Allah. So it's one of the ways that Allah brings us closer to him. This is why he says, through the hadith of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in Allah either have Bab they need Allah when Allah loves his slave, when Allah loves a particular person, he then tests them. And the more he loves you, the more he tests you because he brings you closer and closer to him through that test. Some people don't have children, may Allah bless them with children. But as they pass through the years, Allah alone knows whether he's going to give you the children or not, but your duty because you don't know your duty

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is to keep on asking.

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And as you keep on asking, you will notice

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you soften up for Allah, you might start the medical route, you might start various other routes, and then you soften up for Allah and it brings you closer to him. So you might wonder why I started this talk in this particular way.

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I was asked to speak about a verse of the Quran. A few verses of the Quran, related to the importance of investigation and authentication when it comes to news number one. Number two is

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to concentrate on issues

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related to spying

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related to false accusation slander,

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and related to backbiting.

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Did you hear what I just said?

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So I started in this particular way, because every one of us here, we may be the victims of some of these crimes perpetrated by others against us. This is a different angle altogether. People normally tell you don't backbite don't eavesdrop. Don't slander, meaning false accusation. Or you must authenticate before you hear some information. I started off the other way around to say if someone has written about you, someone has spied on you someone has slammed you. Someone has believed something about you without authenticating it, then you want number one,

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inshallah. Your sub and your patience will definitely be a means of your entry into general. Remember that someone lied about you that you're perhaps an evil person and you are not an evil person? What can you do about it very little, especially with social media today, even WhatsApp is enough to cause the damage. This is why to spread messages today is fine.

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more dangerous than it was a long time ago, because a long time ago, if I spread a message, it would move to 20 people in 20 days, today, it will move to 2 million people in two days. You see what I'm saying? So we need to be even more careful, it is so tempting to be the first one to carry the tail today. So we are quick to put it on Facebook, put it on Twitter, put it on Instagram, say something about it, why someone forwarded it and we sent it and it was alive, it was alive. And the people who believed it will not be receiving the message that you might send later on saying it was a lie.

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So that gives us indication that it is even more important to make sure before you forward something.

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I remember receiving so many different types of messages. And I look at it and I say this is a lie. And I'm just shocked at the type of people who send it to me sometimes. So halala

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there was one message that was very popular about the the the moon doing power around the cabin, have you come across that one?

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Trust me, it was a tale to laugh at the Muslims, that's all. And the Muslims at that time I've seen people a wake up. That's the moon, the moon, the moon making around the Kaaba, what a joke. That doesn't happen. It hasn't happened. No, it didn't.

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The most that scientifically does happen is at a certain time of the year. The moon is sorry, the sun is directly above the Kaaba, that's correct. So if you want to see the Qibla, you walk out and you see which direction the sun is, and it will be in that direction. I have seen it with my own eyes. And it is generally the direction that we do know. Well that's because the sun is right above the Kaaba at that particular moment. They give you a time. But to tell me the moon is making tawaf around the Kaaba, make special. And then we throw in, we say this is a drought, Mufti mink, I don't know if you've seen that one day. To make it sound like it's true. You just throw in something, be

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careful, we are living in an age of video shopping, photoshopping editing, you know, cut and paste we living in an age of real

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difficulty. hardship in that sense, it's become so hard to distinguish between right and wrong. For those who are trigger happy, those who just stay on their phones and just click click, click and they read everything, believe everything forward everything. Wait. When you start forwarding things that are not authentic, what will happen, you start losing value for that which is authentic, because it doesn't sound as juicy. When someone wants to tell you a lie, they have to add some juice to it, you know, they have to add some marination to it, they have to add some cheese to it right to let it become a little bit tasty. Okay, so they will add so much to it. When you are used to those

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type of Tales. You won't want the plain truth just like that. So if someone has lied about you, you need to go back and seek comfort in the stories of the Sahaba of the Allahu anhu and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam they lied about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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So if they lied about him, they will definitely lie about you and me, you and I. They said he was a madman, they would say you are a madman.

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They said he was a liar. Cheater. They called him kazaa. They called him a poet. They said he's just a poet, and he's coming with powerful poetry. They accused him of being a magician, a sorcerer. Many of us are accused of being people who've done black magic on people who we don't even know.

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I know in a lot of cases you see, when people deal with black magic, what happens is

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you have any mom who does Rokia and so on and after a while sometimes if there is a gene or if there is some form of effect of it, sometimes the gene begins to speak, okay, it happens. And that gene would speak into the voice of that particular person or the voice of anyone else.

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And the Imam or the chef would ask the jinn

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Why are you here? Listen, some of you might have seen this.

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So the genie will say I am here because so and so sent me to kill this person. I don't know if you've ever heard this, okay.

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So what what happens is

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they don't realize the gym is lying. The gym is telling you a lie. And in your case, you've just believed a gym. So what I have done, for example, is say you are lying. And then the gym changes the story to say no, I was sent by such and such a person, another family member. It's usually a family member because the job of shapen is to destroy your family. Fiat alimony. I mean who

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Federico Nabina Lama, he was Mooji Baqarah, Allah speaks about what the shaman does. And one of the primary aims is to destroy the relation between husband and wife and to break up families in that particular way. So they say your mother in law did this, your sister in law did that normally they pick on the women. And normally what they do, they say a name of a person whom you might have had a difference with. It's normal in an extended home to have differences among yourselves. It's normal, it's absolutely normal. If you've got more than a few brothers and sisters, and more than a few relatives, if you do not have some differences with some of them, you're not normal.

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So it's absolutely normal. Now, if some someone with a big beard comes to you and says, you know that brother is jealous of you, so he sent a shaper to destroy you. That's it. In your mind, it's effect, but voila, he eats alive. Well, like it's alive. Maybe he doesn't like you may be you had a difference. But what they did not do anything against you. This is shapen that's harming you, affecting you making you want to destroy your home, find out authenticate, like I said, if the genies told you are lying, it brings a second name. If it's told you are still lying, it brings a third name, proving that everything is a lie.

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You cannot believe shapen imagine

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something is stolen, you catch the thief. And the thief starts telling you another story. I'm not the thief, but I saw you You are the thief. And then the thief starts taking names of others No way. I won't believe anything, whoever sent you, and whatever you are the one who stole You are the one who is here, get out or we punish you bring back whatever you've stolen, and so on. So if you have saved someone or you have been saved from the effect of a gin or shavon, that should be good enough, do not pursue who did it and why they did it. Because it's wrong. It's always wrong. It's always a lie, no matter what they can say. But that lady, she goes out to the magicians and I know she's very

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bad. And she's evil. She keeps on going. Don't say that. That's shaman and trapping you further. That's the trap. Do you think when he leaves, he's going to leave your house in order. No way. He's going to want to break it even further. Remember that he's going to want to break it further. So he will lie to you again and again. such a way that when he's gone. Your family is broken forever. I know brothers and sisters who don't speak to each other for 20 years, based on what someone with a beard told them. It was magic done by someone else. Why? Why break someone's home? It was a lie. Who did you believe? You could never have known the unseen in order to know what happened you need

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jabril la salatu salam to have come to you with information and I'm sorry, that has stopped because it's called revelation.

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When the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, there was a Jewish young man known as libidinal asamblea hoody. He took some of the hairs of the profits of Solomon he tried to be with him, and the effect lasted a while more than a month approximately, and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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They are clear narrations in Sahih al Bukhari Sahih Muslim in so many other books of Hadith that make mention of the fact that one day as he was lying down, the two angels came to him one at his feet and one at his head, and the one is asking the other What happened? So they said Mata boo boo, that means someone has tried to be reaching. So who is it then the other one says it is libidinal asamblea hoody. What did he do? Who's talking? The angels are talking not fun?

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What did he do? Well, he he put not on a call, he tied them 11 of them, blue in them and put them under the rock under a certain well. So what is the solution? Well, the solution is to get it to untie those knots with each untangling of the knot. One of the verses of the last two sutras of the Quran was revealed hence could have been Fela could have been as the two combined have 11 verses the most powerful in terms of protection from Japan, from the gym, the last two surah

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of the Quran. So how did he know revelation? So when someone else tells you about it, you asked him the gibreel alayhi salaatu wa Salaam come to you. If the answer is no discount what they have said that's it discounted. They are they are causing havoc in your home, they are causing havoc in your relationship and all this will be accusation for no reason.

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unfair accusation. So my brothers and sisters, when something like this happens to someone where people have accused you say for example of anything, go back and read these stories, and you will find out I shall the law was accused as well. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was accused of being a womanizer

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He was accused of being a person running behind wealth, but he was a religious man. He was an A be of Allah. He was the best of creation without a doubt. And yet he was accused. Why was he accused?

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So that we who came later on could learn that there are really some bad people who like to accuse others. Are you one of them?

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I'd like to hope not, don't accuse others. If you have accused others of what they are not guilty of you have joined the ranks of those who caused harm to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, those who are cursed by Allah subhanho wa Taala. You know what Allah Subhana Allah Allah says,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Those who accused the believing women and men of that which they are not guilty of, have indeed burden themselves with a great burden.

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When levena Meeny Mina TV Magda Sabu falcoda

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Bina

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where Allah subhanho wa Taala speaks about those who have harmed the believing women and men with that which they are not guilty of at all, they have engaged in a big slander. Bhutan, Bhutan means a slander. And if mama Benin means that clear cut sin, it is sinful, don't do that. So there are two sides to this one is to be accused. And the other is to accuse, to accuse is a major, major sin and to be accused.

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You will need to bear suffer. You need to bear patients, you might want to do something about it within limits. Don't react in a way that makes the problem even bigger. Sometimes we react in a way that we become even more depressed. You know, nowadays, the age of social media, and the way it's become the age of the internet. If someone swears you online, your best bet is to ignore it.

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The minute you respond, you have made them popular. You have made that swearing be known to people who wouldn't have known it had you not replied. So you need to think carefully before you do things. If you have been affected. Don't just respond. Like everyone says, Hey, you know, just tell them, just answer them. Think about it. Sometimes just be quiet, say a block that person maybe, depending on what they've said, ignore them. See whether it carries on or not.

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And you will have to bear patience with every droplet of patience. Your rank is increasing in the eyes of Allah. Look at Ayesha delana she was the purest of the pure of women.

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She was the wife of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, the daughter of Baba Casa de la. A person whom a lot of the deen has been brought to us through that's who she is. And you know what happened? The hypocrites wanted to find fault in her so they accused of adultery.

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They accused of adultery. In today's terms, they accused me of having an affair.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala let that

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proceed. Let that pass for a while. He didn't respond to it immediately. Why? Because he wanted the categories of people to be clear.

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Here is the tail. Do you believe it? That's what I wanted to see. So the tail was created by a man known as Abdullayev Miss Abdullayev, no baby, no saloon, and it was spread by people. One of them who spread the tail was a person known as Mr. hepler data. He made a mistake. He spread the tail and there were a few others. The person they were claiming was having an affair was a man known as Safari blue Apple,

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a very good man, also known by Rasulullah saw Salaam as a very honest man, really good. He used to come to the house now and again. And the person he was accused with was I shall have Ilana. What was the statement, these two having an affair.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala, after a period of time, decided to reveal versus to say, those who created the tail shall be served a severe punishment. You create a tail, you have a severe punishment, those who spread it now not those who created it, those who forwarded it, those who spread it, they will have a share of the sin and they will be punished accordingly. According to the share of their sin. You know, there are no shareholders in the crime.

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And Allah subhanho wa Taala says the winners are those who, when they heard it, they said, This is nonsense. We don't want to hear it. And I don't believe it's going. My brothers and sisters for you and I, the best thing is just say, I don't believe it. I don't want to hear it and throw it out.

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The problem with us today, you see a man walking with a woman. You don't even know what's the relation? And you start saying they're having an affair? We do it, don't.

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You see a married man. And suddenly speaking to another woman, maybe she's married as well to someone else. And the two are just talking about something, maybe they might have just crossed paths or whatever has happened. And suddenly, the two are having an affair. What happened? You joined the ranks of Abdullah hypnobabies saloon. He's the one who created the team. And Allah says he will have a severe punishment. Be careful. Watch out, authenticate.

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You know the age of WhatsApp, we need to be careful how we use our phones. You know why we use emoticons without really meaning them. You know that? You know what's in the multicam show? You do right.

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So now you have this heart that comes about.

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And you have these roses and flowers, the tulips and everything else. And you have little abbreviations for I love you or for perhaps other things, I miss you and whatnot. And people say it without meaning it. People send the heart to hearts. And they send I love us. Love you. Bye. What do you mean love you bye. Is that like a way of saying Santa Monica? Your other users, Salaam Alaikum. It's much more honorable, you receive a reward. But that's the way some people just say goodbye. They say Love you. Bye. They don't mean I love you is a difference. You know, one is with deadbeat and only without.

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So sometimes you pick up that phone and you see

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having an affair straightaway. People think wow. But you don't know that's an honorable person on the other side. It may be their culture, it's maybe their style. It's wrong. I'm not saying it's right. But don't jump to conclusions. It's dangerous. You will break your marriage, you break your home, you destroy your relationship out of something that could be solved within five minutes. Because

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not every message you see that sounds dirty, is actually indicative of a dirty relationship. It is wrong. I'm not saying it's right. Don't get me wrong, it is wrong to have that message. But

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it does not mean there is something deeper unless you have strict clear cut evidence in that regard. That's why we say yeah, are you ready? Nah, man. Oh, you who believe that's our theme.

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Before I even carry on, let me tell you, if you are a true believer,

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every time Allah says oh, you who believe you want to hear what did he say? You know that? Because you consider yourself one of those who have been addressed. That's why so if Allah says yeah, I you Allah, Nina, man Oh, and you're not bothered. Something's wrong with your Eman.

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Imagine if you're a bank manager. And I say all bank manager you say yeah, what it means you're the bank manager, isn't it? But if you're the bank manager as your bank manager and you walk in the other way.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us I've given you one silly example but the example at hand is far greater and higher. Oh, you who believe? Are you really believe as well then you will say what tell us we really want to know. Yeah, you

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know, what does Allah say?

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Allah subhanho wa Taala. Says

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sutra,

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that sutra, the whole sutra. You must read it, please read it. It has in it what is more important than the United Nations Charter. It's a sutra speaking about relationships, what you should do, how you should treat each other, the men, the women, how you should look at each other, don't spy don't eavesdrop, don't backbite and so on. All these things are made mention of in one short surah. So Allah says,

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When a person comes to you with information, the term used is far safer. Someone who is sinful has come to you with information about another. How do I know he's sinful?

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I tell you there are two or three different explanations, but I love the one explanation.

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That is perhaps the best that I have seen. Where the fact that he has come to you with a tale about someone else already means he's sinful.

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Because he's backbiting where you are. Did you hear that?

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The fact that he has come to you with a tail about someone else, he's already sinful because he's backbiting. If he was a proper believer, he wouldn't have come to you with a tail, he would have only gone to those who can rectify the problem. That's what Islam teaches. If I see a person drinking alcohol, if I go around talking about them, I have taken their sin on my shoulders, that's what happens. But if I messaged the brother, brother, you know, I saw you today Mashallah, I was so glad to see you. But I think that might have been a bottle in your hand. You know, my brother, I'm just letting you know, I have weaknesses. You have weaknesses, but try and give this up for the sake

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of Allah, you know, it's Haram, it's a major sin. You have a concern. He might not like you. But you did the right thing. You told him, Hey, look, don't do this. You did not go to the dunya to the whole world and spread the tail. Or you might want to go to someone in authority over a child, you saw a child in a nightclub? Well, what were you doing there? Sorry. But anyway,

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you saw the child in the nightclub. And he went out and you said, Hey, I'm going to your dad. And I'm telling you that I saw your daughter in the nightclub, for example. That's not wrong, because you want to help them to stop them from doing that again. So first, you might want to try with the child. Say, listen, if you're not gonna quit, I'm gonna have to tell you that that's a good step to start with, right? And they say, No, no, no, I won't do it again. Thank you. Don't do it again.

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They might tell you But Uncle, what are you doing in the same nightclub? That's a question you're gonna have to answer later on, you know,

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but at the same time,

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you at the same time, if that doesn't solve the problem,

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and you happen to see this happening again and again, for somehow I don't know how I'm just having a good heart, you know, to think that you did it the right way. And you saw it again, you might want to take it up further. So you will take it up further. What will you do you then speak to the parents maybe or to a brother, elder brother. Hey, look, I saw your sister and I saw her in the nightclub and you know what? She was knocked out knocked out meaning perhaps drunk or whatever else, but you did not put it on Twitter. Hey, guess who I saw today? The Club. Wow. That's what the dunya is doing today. Send a WhatsApp message on your group. It's not Zilla, this sister was in the

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nightclub this brother was drinking alcohol. Are you a true believer if you are and you are a true believer who is concerned about Allah and Rasulullah salamander oma, you will want to solve the problem not to spread it. That's the thing. You want to resolve it. So I saw you doing bad I went out and I tried to resolve the fact that I'm going to someone with a tail about someone else with story with information. I already know this person is sinful. That's what it is. Now this neighbor is referring to news and information about someone else that is negative. How do I know that because of the rest of the verse, Allah says, when a sinful person comes to you with information

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about someone else,

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further obiano make sure you authenticate thoroughly before you believe it

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in another para para meaning rewi of recitation.

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set that up by two. It means the same thing. authenticate, make sure that you verify the information thoroughly before you believe it.

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Why

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Allah says because you might just fall in the following sin, you might fall into the following sin what is the sin

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to Cebu como vija, Halla fettled, to be who Allah for

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me, because you might just wrongly

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accuse some people of something and then regret it later.

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You have wrongly believed something about people and then you regret it later. Why did that happen? Because someone came to you with information and you did not verify it. That's why. So when someone comes to you with a tail, no matter what the tail is

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authenticated? Firstly, ask yourself, does it concern me if it doesn't? Well, make draft for that person? Perhaps tell them sometimes Keep quiet. I don't want to hear about it. I don't want I don't believe in the How can you not believing I am telling you, I don't believe in silver. And I don't need to believe it. And I don't want to know it. It's better for you to make a mistake. Thinking that someone is good than to make a mistake and think that they are bad. That is called hospitals done in Islam. Because no one means to have a good feeling about someone to have give them the benefit of the doubt 70 times. You see someone for example.

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You know, it's the height of it.

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You see someone, for example, walking on the street towards, say, a nightclub. I'm going to give you these little examples. They're coming to my mind right now. So say you see someone walking towards a nightclub and you drove past, believe in your mind that they might be walking to the masjid, which is just half a kilometre away. They were only passing they were lying. If you're making a mistake, it's better to make a mistake, believing them to have done a good thing than to make a mistake, believing them to have done something that was bad and they didn't.

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You see someone walking into the club, think to yourself inshallah they're going inside to get someone out luck. That was the uncle who we spoke about a few minutes ago. Okay.

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So this is called hospitals one when things go missing in our houses. A lot of us who might have helping hands, the first doubt, I think the maid must have taken this first thing. My earrings, I'm sure they went missing. My sister. You put them somewhere so safe that even you don't know where it is. I promise you. And you know what? You're accusing someone Keep quiet. Did you see evidence? No, you didn't stop saying that. It's a major, major sin. Stop it. you accuse people of things and lie with the list can go on and on and on and on. But do you know what Allah subhanho wa Taala says in the same surah

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says, while it just says to love, you know, that means

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do not spy on each other. Don't spy.

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Some people enjoy spy? I will just fine. Don't spy on your husband, on your wife, on your parents on your children. Perhaps on anyone else. Don't spy. Not spying? No.

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Not at all. One might say, I'm allowed is my right. What right? I tell you what,

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say for example,

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someone is doing something wrong. Okay.

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And you start spying. You might get such a big shock.

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That you won't be able to forgive them. But the sin was not committed against you. It was committed against Allah. People say, you know, my husband cheated on me. I say no, he cheated on Allah.

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He cheated on Allah. He might promise you things. That doesn't mean anything. Let him promise Allah. People don't understand what I said. Sometimes.

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My husband cheated on me. That's what they say my wife cheated on me. For example, people say these things. Hang on. Before that. They cheated on Allah. The Covenant was with Allah. But I tell you what.

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I have known of cases and I'm going to tell you a fact of people who have cheated. They come for help. And they say I cheated. It lasted a while. I regret it. I made Toba, please help me. I want to know what to do.

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They come out of it. They get closer to their spouses than they ever were. The spouse doesn't know anything. The spouse does not know what happened. This happened and they became stronger in relation with the spouse. Are you listening? so strong? The bond is powerful. The spouse doesn't have a clue that 10 years ago, there was something that happened here. It lasted six months. It was very bad. But guess what? They turned Allah forgave them. Allah had mercy on them. Allah help the relationship grow because Allah is a fool, Rahim had you spied on him, the family would have been broken to pieces, you are not gonna follow Him, you will not be able to forgive the person. So Allah says

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don't spy Leave it to us, we will bring that man back, we will bring him back and inshallah we will make him from among those who are the best to his wife, but he went through a problematic issue.

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There you are. How many people have sacrificed in their marital lives in a way that when they come out of the problem they were in they are closer than they ever were in the past.

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It has happened to a lot, maybe the majority in different levels on different levels.

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But for those who want to set traps and put you know what, the world is filled with sin, can anyone here tell me they have not simply put up your hand?

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Put it up Hi, if you have never committed a sin, put up your hands.

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Nobody, not one, you know why khulumani mahatva every one children of other human beings sufu committed to hapa doesn't mean a person who committed one sin

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means they commit sins.

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But Allah says

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the best of those who commit sins are those who

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Constantly repent May Allah forgive us keep on repeating May Allah forgive us May Allah forgive us.

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Allah May Allah forgive me repeated morning afternoon evening night when you are going driving walking at work every little while. Allah forgive me say it in your language sometimes it's more powerful it will hit your mind what you are saying Oh ALLAH forgive me I've done wrong in my life Forgive me or Allah forgive me repeat it because one day you will die if you get used to repeating it every day, the day you die, you would have already said it on that day.

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So

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a person who is close to Allah subhanho wa Taala Alhamdulillah. As soon as they sin, they will turn back to Allah. You know what Allah says in the Quran? When Medina

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law has

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been those who have committed immorality, Yes, speaking about sins, adultery, fornication, etc. They were not caught. They were they didn't do it in public. They didn't have any witnesses against them. It was private. They did it secretly. No one knows. They know Allah knows, perhaps the person they committed the crime was knows that's it. No one else knows Allah covered them alive them. You know what Allah says? Those people who committed such sin of immorality and oppress themselves, if they remember Allah and seek forgiveness for that sin, Allah will forgive them and you know what Allah says, Allah will forgive him. And on top of that, Allah says, Allah will grant them Jana.

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Allah will grant them Jenna.

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Subhana Allah, you and I, we don't forgive for a sin committed. Allah says I will give that person gender as a result, if they've repented.

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The reason I say this goes back to spying, spying, why is it prohibited? It's prohibited? Because Who are you to pry into the lives of others whose answerability lies with Allah not with you? That's what it is.

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Their answerability lies with Allah not with you. Yes, if they are usurping your rights, then you have the right to say Listen, my rights are you saying you're not giving me this and this and this? Or you're not fulfilling my rights?

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They might tell you what, you are not fulfilling my rights. Let's talk about it. It's my right, it's your right. But if it's the right of Allah, hang on, hang on, stop spying.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. It doesn't end when people get to joy, excitement. You know, sometimes you have pornography, which is a crime. It's terrible. It's horrible. It's something unacceptable. It has an impact. It impacts society at large.

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But you know what?

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Sometimes

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in today's world, I have come across people who habitually forward dirty messages to their friends, because morality has been degrading. And suddenly there are these wrong images. I'm not saying it's right or wrong little video clips, dirty ones, and they begin to forward them number one, you are getting a major sin to have forwarded it. Number two, you are getting a major sin to have downloaded it or seen it or perhaps seen the whole of it. For example, you know, someone might have sent you something you don't know what it is. You download it as soon as you see it's nonsense stuff Rola turn it off. You know what, you know, this stuff needs to be genuine. It must not be a fake stuff.

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You know, what's the fake stuff? What What do you want to hear about it?

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They say there was a man.

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And this is actually a true story. It happened I won't mention the city or the place. There was a man Mashallah he came bearded manner, you know, and he came for some purpose to a city where he was not used to it. He comes from a city that was quite strict, you know, that women dress very modestly in his city. So when he entered this one city, where everyone's semi naked and nude, you know, showing whatever they have. So he sees these legs and it starts with a lie, it looks away, you know, loudly so the hosts driving the car, they are wondering, what's he saying so loudly? He says, No, there was a woman there, you know, stuff about the way she was dressed, you know, stavroula and

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after a little while, and

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he kept on doing that the whole day. These people they got used to it, okay, whenever he sees a woman who's not dressed properly, he just says estavela and he looks away. That happened the first day. It happened the next day. It happened second day, whole day. So third day, what happens is, the man is in the car, and he's driving so the driver, they got used to it. The driver saw something like that as well. So he says stuff little luck. So the chef says, Wait, wait.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, Allah forgive us.

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Where is the stuff? So when you delete things you say, Allah, you must be genuine

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You must be genuine. I say stuff. Because I mean Oh ALLAH forgive me. That's what it's supposed to be. It's it's not that

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it's not that I'm just saying it for the sake of it. No, I mean, I mean it genuinely. So we delete those things. But if you see such a message in the phone, for example of your spouse, investigate,

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investigate meaning you know what, don't jump to a conclusion, you could just break things. I'm not saying it's right. It's bad. It's wrong. It's very wrong. But at the same time, are you there to help? Or are you there to pick on someone? That's a question you need to ask. Are you there to help? Or are you there to pick some pick on them? If you're there to pick on them, you can pick on them now, even without that pick on anything. I don't like the way you talk. I don't like the way you look. I don't like your nose, your teeth also even your tongue, I don't like it. You can pick on anything your toes, whatever else.

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But if you're really there to help, you will be able to assist Look, this is terrible. We don't want this to happen again, each other's you know, don't have friends like those, tell your friends. That Look, I don't want messages of this nature, whatever else. Now Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us help guidance and assistance.

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Regarding the sin of backbiting, you and I need to know that backbiting has been interpreted in the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Many of us when we are told brother stop backbiting, what's the first thing we say? But it's true, isn't it? We say but it's true. You say, you know the sister was so bad. She was like this. She was talking like this. She was arrogant. You were talking about the system. Someone says brother stop backbiting, but it's true. What I'm saying is true. While I want to tell you, Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, if it is true, then that is backbiting because if it is a lie, then it goes under the term slander.

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One is Reba. Reba means backbiting. And one is boy Dan Bowden means fabrication of a lie. It's a lie. And it's backbiting on top of that, so it makes it a slander.

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So what is the sin of backbiting?

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The Hadith says the cuca Huckabee mokara

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to mention about your brother or your sister that which he or she would dislike if they were there.

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So I'm talking behind someone's back about something they would not like if they were there. That is Riba. So the Sahaba. asks, oh messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what if what we're saying is true.

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So he says, If what you're saying is true, then that is backbiting. And if what you're saying is false, then that is both done, it is even worse.

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So Allah says, while Iota Bah, boo, bah, bah, don't backbite each other don't talk bad about each other.

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I want to present a challenge to all of you this morning. What is the challenge?

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When you talk about others behind their backs, only say nice things.

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Are you ready for the challenge?

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Very few people said yes. Did you hear that?

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When you talk behind the backs of your mother in law only say nice things.

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Okay.

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Nobody said yes.

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When you talk behind anyone's back, only say good things will lie. Your spirituality will increase your closeness to Allah will increase. Someone says the sister say yeah, Mashallah. She's so good. Alhamdulillah You know, I've only known Well, you don't have to lie to say I've only known good things about her. But you can see Mashallah, she has a lot of good qualities and handling, you know, she's a really good person and the handler, yes. If someone wants to do business with someone or get married to someone, or engage in a deal with someone, then the issue of backbiting drops,

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it drops. So someone wants to marry someone and they say, Please tell us how is this person? Oh, very good Marshall. And you know, that they are drunkards, they are on drugs. They are liars. They have illegitimate children, for example, you have to say, Look, my brother, this is only a man or between us, I have to say because I have been requested. It's not backbiting Why? Because this is bearing witness. It's like when you go to the court and the judge tells you, right? What did this man do? You say, Look, I know he's told, but I can't say it because it'll be backbiting Come on.

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Or people don't want to report to the police because they say if I go to the police, I'm reporting behind his back, isn't it? I don't need that's no wrong. You need to know the limits of it.

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To get your rights

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You're allowed to say anything. Now you hate blah, blah, blah. So

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Allah says, Allah does not like that you speak bad.

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Except if you are oppressed yourself, you stole my money, I need to tell people, hey, this man stole my money, because I want the money back number one, and I don't want others to be bitten with the same man. That's not backbiting. You need to know this.

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But I just go out general and Sunday to everyone and I start saying things. This is a bad man, he steals people's money. No, he doesn't steal people's money. He had a problem with me, and he didn't pay me my money or he stole my money, etc. You explain exactly what it was your side, it's up to them to go to him and get his side before they deal with him. So for example, someone wants to marry a person. They say, look, we want to get married here. What do you know of the person? And you say, Well, I I'm letting you know, Amanda, Amanda, that this person has a weakness of drugs.

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Well, law, he in fact, if you lie about that, and you know it, you are sinful, because you are dooming someone else's daughter. Imagine your daughter, your sister, or you if you're not married, you want to marry someone, and you asked people who know that he's on drugs. How is this man and they say very good man. And they know that's a major sin. That's called bearing false witness. That's called Shahada Tzu. The prophet SAW Selim has warned about bearing false witness, you are being asked to bear witness about someone, you are not being asked to backbite about them. There's a difference between the two, there is a need for you to get up and to say things someone says, Look,

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I'm about to do a million dollar deal with this man, he is your neighbor.

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What do you have to say? Is he a decent man that I can do the deal when either you say don't do the deal, and you stop there? Or you say, don't do the deal, because we have five people have had a problem. He's taken their money Jazakallah head, you will be rewarded for having saved me from that. That's not backbiting. Remember this, that is bearing witness. So don't lie. And don't bear false witness. Don't say he's a good man. And don't be shy. Well, I know of some cases where I have told people, why did you say that? He was a good boy, when you knew he wasn't a good boy, you know what they said? They said, Well, we thought maybe Allah will give him a good wife.

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How can you say that? If that was your daughter, you are dooming them to living with a guy who has bad habits and qualities that you know about, you can say the guy was on drugs, that's the last we know, he might have could you can find out, it's up to them to go to others and to ask again and again, sometimes they might be satisfied.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the understanding between the two here.

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So this is the difference between bearing witness about someone and the diff and backbiting about them that fighting I have no purpose, I'm just talking bad about them. There's nothing there is no achievement. I just want to do them down in the eyes of the people. So I stand up in the public who I mentioned to people, hey, you know, this person is like that. And like this, so much so that even if you speak about their qualities behind them, it's called backbiting. You know, that's just, she's a bit fatter. That's backbiting. Did you know that? Did you know that?

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It's serious.

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It is very serious. May Allah subhanho wa Taala. Forgive us, a lot of us,

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the speaker included, we need to become more conscious about this issue.

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We need to become more conscious about this issue. That's why I say try your best to say good things about others try your best to say good things about others behind them. Let's move on to the last part of this talk.

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We spoke about spying and backbiting. We touched a little bit about slander.

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I told you the difference between backbiting and slander is one is

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to speak the truth. That's backbiting behind someone's back. You're saying the truth behind someone's back without it being the bearing of witness, then that's backbiting.

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But if you have lied about them, then that is a slander.

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A slander is so terrible

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that when I show the olana said a statement about severe injury or the law about how short she was, she just said he is quite short. You know, some people are short and tall. And it depends that's from Allah subhanho wa Taala to say it in in a nice way while she's told you know, Mashallah, you know, that's something else.

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And some people might, you know, like being short, for example, say, Oh, she's short and hamdulillah you know, she looks so cute or whatever else. That's something else but to say, short, you know, you know what, that

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means

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the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, voila, he, if that statement in the form of a droplet was put into the ocean, it would change the color of the whole ocean.

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That's only to say someone was short, what about when we speak real, real bad things? And that is the truth. What about if it was a lie?

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Imagine the Quran says, Are you a boy? hadoken

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coolala

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fuckery

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would you like?

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Would any one of you like

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to eat

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the carrion

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which is the flesh of his dead brother.

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And everyone just likes that.

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eating the flesh of his dead brother is equivalent to backbiting meaning speaking the truth about someone behind their back in a way that if they were there, they wouldn't like it. What if it was alive? It's even worse than that. It's worse than eating the dead animal. It's not eating a dead animal eating a dead human being.

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It's worse than that.

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And this is why if you read through or to know you will come to realize that Allah subhanho wa Taala has indeed spoken about the story of I shall have the love and He cleansed her name. He cleansed her name from seven heavens and she always used to say I am the one who Allah has declared my chastity from the seven heavens. This is why Gemma believes that those who accuse I shall be Allahu Allah, and those who accuse I shall the law of immorality. After the Quran was revealed to clear her name. They cannot claim to be the followers of the fate of Islam, because they have negated the verses of the Quran

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and to negate the verse of the Quran, you are not a submitted Islam means or a Muslim means one who submits.

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Islam also means sufficient together with peace. And yesterday we heard from Chef poseen that Islam also means I shall love all mankind. Wow, Mashallah. Allah subhanho wa Taala help us that was something good we learned right? May Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless you all, may Allah grant us all goodness and ease. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us engaging is still fall in the true sense. May Allah subhanho wa Taala gather us together again, here or anywhere else in his obedience and at the same time may he unite us in the same way he has brought us here or sort of Allah wa salam o Baraka and Amina Mohammed Subhan Allah Subhana Allah alarm I'll be handing a shadow Allah Allah Elantra

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