Ramadan 2022 #04 Jealousy

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Illa Allah al Amin will be necessary in one who suddenly want to send me more Allah Tamil Gambia your email mill mousseline Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi happy here edge marine Allah Melissa Illa magilton Who wanted Gerald who has either Sheikh salah or BSC Rolla to acyl Waterman bill here will be canister in we thank Allah who believes that he will JLL for having gathered us here once again. And we ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to surround us with the mullah Iike and to cause his mercy and his Sakina to descend upon us and to raise us with the nvra you know salat wa salam, and those whom he has mentioned with them. I

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mean,

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when Allah subhanahu wa taala, created Adam, Allah in His Salatu was Salam. He commanded the angels to prostrate to them, Allah His salatu wa sallam,

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and the angels did so with the exception of a release. He refused to prostrate to other molecules Salatu was Salam. So Allah Akbar is that he will Joanne says, All monarca test Judah in took God Anna how you mean holla Call Attorney mean?

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Worker Lakota whom you clean? Allah subhanahu wa Tada asked him, Why is it that you have not frustrated? What is it that prevented you from prostrating when I commanded you to do so? So Iblees said, that I am better than him. I am made from fire. You created me from fire, and you created him from clay. So why should I prostrate to this creature that you have created from clay? I'm better than him. So you see a bliss or a healer and that Allah had this arrogance within him. That displayed out when Allah subhanho wa Taala commanded him to do so. He did not look when Allah subhanaw taala had commanded him to do something. He didn't look at the fact that Allah created me

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and Allah created this creature. So the fact that he is commanding me to prostrate means I should prostrate and submit immediately. But he thought to himself, I'm better than him. Allah created me from fire and He created him from clay. So he used the intellect that Allah gave him to disobey Allah subhanho wa taala. And he felt jealous of other Malaysians. Salatu was Salam. What is so special about this creation is created from clay. Why should I prostrate to him? He didn't think of who was commanded commanding him to do so. all he saw was this creature is being created and it caused him to feel jealous within his heart of Adam Allahu salatu wa sallam, to the extent that in

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one area, Allah subhanahu Attallah says,

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As Judo Lehmann, Karla Bertell, Tina, he said to Allah, that should I prostrate to the one whom You created from clay, I won't do so there is no reason for me to do so. And this turned him against entire humanity until the day of piano, to the extent that he is our enemy today.

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In shavasana, Kumar,

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death he though who I do, indeed, shaytaan is your enemy, so take him as your enemy. You see, he is our enemy until today, trying to take us to the fire until today. Why? Simply because he was jealous, a feeling an emotion that he felt within him, and this is the danger of jealousy, it can cause us to do that which is extremely bad to the extent that we will harm not only the person that they progeny as well, and the people that come after them as well. We feel that feeling that we feel within our hearts, that burning sensation that you get when you see another human being doing well is actually what causes a person to do wrong to another person.

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You see in the Quran, Allah subhanho wa Taala told us of the two sons of Adam, the two sons of Adam

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what's normally

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been helped the total pool room ban fair to put VLAN in Dyneema. While I'm new telco Ballymena in order to learn NEC, and recite upon them the news of the two sons of them with the truth, when they both offered a sacrifice, one of their sacrifices was accepted, and the other His sacrifice was not accepted. So he said to his brother, I will kill you, I will kill you. Now, this is something that Allah subhanahu wa taala chose, not something that the brother whose sacrifice was accepted, chose and said, I want my sacrifice to be accepted. No, Allah chose to accept the sacrifice of one and reject the other. But the result, the one who is jealous, he says, I will kill you. Now you see how

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that emotion of jealousy actually led him to plotting the murder of his brother. So the name of the one who's his sacrifice was accepted was Habib, and the one who was rejected was copied so have been says to him, but in

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Burnham, La Nina 13. He said that, this is from Allah subhanho wa taala. He accepts from those who are conscious of him. So I have no role to play in this. You see today, we see someone on social media, perhaps they live next door to us or they were brought up with us. We went to school with them. We played in the same football pitches with them, we did everything with them. And today that person is wealthy, that person has achieved Allah subhanahu wa taala gave him a good spouse a good well a good business to the extent that his business grows and he becomes wealthy. Now we are looking at what we what he has. He has a beautiful car, I have nothing. Why did Allah subhanahu wa

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taala give him this is where jealousy comes from. You're actually questioning the choice and the decree of Allah subhanahu Uttara. Yet if you look at your own life, Allah Allah, Allah is that he will gel Allah gave you in so many ways. Allah subhanahu wa taala blessed you in ways that he has not blessed that person. But Shavon is drawing your attention to the fact that that person has moved and this is why the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us on Lulu Elam and who are do not comb. Look at those who have less than you, one atom Lululemon, who are felt welcome. And don't look at those who have more than you. Why. Because when you look at someone who has less than

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you, naturally, you feel grateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala and grateful that Allah gave me what I have, I have a car, he's riding a bicycle, he, if you have a bicycle, you look at the one who is less than you the one who is walking, if you have two legs and you are walking, you look at the one who has no legs, and cannot walk. So in this manner, you become more grateful. What social media has done is it has painted the pictures, the best parts of everybody else's life. And let me put this into perspective. When you go on to your account, on Instagram or on Facebook. What do you do? Do you actually put the pictures of you and your spouse fighting? Do you put up those pictures? Do you

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put up videos of the arguments that happen within your home? No, you put up the best part of your life with them. So you take a picture when you are at the beach, perhaps you know, at times, hugging each other, etc. Why to display to other people that our life is hunky dory beautiful, lovely. We want people to admire our lives. The same is going on in everybody else's life. They put up the best pictures that they have for others to see the goodness and naturally so they want to paint a good picture of themselves. But we don't see that that person driving that Lamborghini or that Ferrari or that Bentley or is flying in a private plane is overwhelmed with debt perhaps we don't see the bad

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parts of their lives. We don't realize that they can't sleep at night. Every day they take pills to go to sleep. Allah Allah subhanahu wa taala gave you less, but you sleep easier at night. You see comparison Someone once told me that comparison is the thief

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of happiness. Comparison is the thief of happiness. And this is the cause of jealousy when we compare what Allah gave us to what Allah gave them. We're not supposed to be doing this in the first place. You know,

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the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says that if la Harmon Islam, the one who has accepted Islam, he has won, he has succeeded while losing Kapha and he has been given enough sustenance, what cannot I will love to be my TA and Allah subhanahu wa Tada gives him contentment with that which he has happiness Shakur, and hamdulillah Allah gave me this meal that I have today. Alhamdulillah I woke up in the morning and Hamdulillah I have a spouse Alhamdulillah I have so much in my life, what can now who love who we tell? Allah makes him content with that which he gives him so he doesn't look at others and say look at what he has or when he sees the bounty of others he

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says oh Allah give him more. Oh Allah give me more Oh ALLAH zit who America will female Le O Allah grant him more and grant him Baraka in that which he has, knowing that when I make a dua for this person, one shaytaan runs away, he doesn't want to you you to make that dua. So any feelings of jealousy that may creep into the heart are immediately removed, they are gone. Why? Because you made a beautiful dua for that brother, or that sister. You see someone has a good appearance on social media, Allah subhanahu Attallah gave them good looks Alhamdulillah we thank Allah We ask Allah to bless them in that and we leave it we leave it why? Because that is not what Allah chose for you.

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Allah chose for you something else focus on that. And in this manner, you will become grateful. You see

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this this son of Adam, Bobby, who was jealous against his brother, he actually killed his brother la

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Viva co2 e de Cali upper to like in me for from LA Hello Bella. I mean, so HERBIE, then tell Scobie that if you are to extend your hand to kill me, I will not do so. I will not extend my hand to kill you. And the reason is, I fear Allah the Lord of the Worlds, the one who is jealous has a problem with his Iman, his faith, his belief in Allah subhanho wa Taala because he is questioning the decree of Rumble is that he will Jellal and this is why have been says to Kobe and I will not do so because I fear Allah subhana wa Tada and he killed his brother. He killed his brother. And later on Allah subhanho wa Taala says, For us Baja Amina in the mean mean Edgerly the leak, and he became from

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amongst those who remorseful of what he did, he regretted his actions. And this is the end of the person who is jealous. When he carries out an action against the one he has carried. He is jealous, for or against. What he will do is if he has some sort of a heart he becomes regretful, remorseful. Why did I do what I did? Imagine this person killed his own blood, the very same blood that ran through his veins. That was the blood of the millennials. Salatu Salam, he killed his own brother he took his own brother's life. Do you see the danger of jealousy? And this is what it does. It burns you in your heart, and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us er como el hassad for in Al

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Hassan Quran Hassan Atacama Kulu now will help us that beware of jealousy for indeed jealousy eats away at the good deeds in the same way that fire eats away at would. Have you seen how there is a fire that is being kindled and people keep bringing wood adding it why? Because the fire is eating away at the few in this manner. If you have done good deed Salah sia zurka Hajj sada that has said that jealousy will not allow you to enjoy your life. It will burn away at the rest of the good deeds and

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And this brings us to a point

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the actions of the heart are ignored a lot of the time. So we ignore the actions of the heart, and we focus on the fact that we have to perform our salah. But the actions of the heart are equally important, if not more important than the actions that you do every day. If you are to come to your Salah, and you don't think of Allah subhanahu Attallah you don't concentrate on Allah subhanho wa Taala then in reality, what you are doing is you are rendering a Salah without a reward. Yes, perhaps you will not be punished, you will not be punished for having performed that Salah because you did it will for Allah subhanahu Attallah but you will get no reward from it. Why? Because you

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didn't think of ALLAH SubhanA wa Tala you didn't bring him into your mind and heart. So there is no reward for you there. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us in Nagaraju Lala I am sorry for min Salah T wala is a level I mean who Illa nice for her. Oh Rooby Roo ha Oh, to throw her Oh rush Raja, that a man comes to his salah, or he leaves his salah, and he will benefit nothing from that Salah except for half of it, or a quarter of it, or a ninth of it or a 10th of it. Only 1/10 of your Salah you get reward for why because you thought of Allah subhanho wa Taala in this. So you see the benefit of the actions of the heart are muddled through the actions of the heart, the

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heart feels jealousy, the heart feels sincerity, the heart feels hatred, the heart feels arrogance. These things need to be worked upon, in order for us to benefit as Muslimeen in order for us to benefit as those who believe in Allah subhanahu wa Tada. You know, when it comes to jealousy, it can actually lead us to doing absurd things. And there is a joke that is told. And I've, you know, tuned it such that it is perhaps more Islamic than it was before. But there is a profound lesson to be derived from it. They say there was a man who found the lamp, right you know the lamp that Aladdin has the story from the fairy tale. So he rubs the lamp, and the genie comes out of this lamp. And he

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says, Look, I will grant you three wishes, that if I can fulfill I will do. So the man says okay, that's good. But the genie says with one condition. Whatever I give to you, your ex wife will receive double of that. So he says, Okay, that's fine, at least I'm getting something.

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So he asks for a million dollars. And the genie goes wherever he gets it from he brings that million dollars gives it to him. But next to him, he gives his ex wife $2 million.

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So this man is looking at his million, but he sees his ex wife has got to

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now he's becoming angry. He's becoming agitated. So the next thing he thinks off, he says I need a beautiful home. So the genie builds him up a beautiful home. And right next door to him, his ex wife receives two homes. So now he's looking, he says this is not possible. Man, this is too much for me to take. My ex wife has double of what I have. This is a problem. And plus, it's not his wife, it is ex wife, some of us who would actually hate it if our wives received double what we received Allahu Akbar. But this is his ex wife. And she is receiving more than him. So obviously, there's some problems there. On the last one, he says, let me use my brains a bit.

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And he tells the genie he says, You know, I need you to scare me, but only half today.

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So

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obviously, the genie will scare his wife completely today, and she will die God. So this man was jealous of what his wife had received his ex wife. So he it led him to asking the genie to scare him half to death so that his ex wife would be completely destroyed and gone died over. You see what jealousy can lead us to? It can lead us to looking at what others have, even if we have more than we need and more than we can imagine. This in this case, he had a million dollars he had a home, but he was not happy with it. Why? Because the person next to him and more than him. So it's important for us to focus on that which we have Rasulullah sallallahu

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He will seldom tells us of a man who is bankrupt. He asked the Sahaba the Allahu Anhu. In fact, I tell you, I'm gonna manually move this. Do you know who is a bankrupt person? So they said, I'll move to the Safina men in Mala dyrham Allah who in devil wala matar the bankrupt person from amongst us is the one who has no dead hands. He has no gold coins and he has no goods as well. Such a person is bankrupt. Why no money to put in his pocket and no goods to sell as well. So he's bankrupt. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says I'll mostly zoom in on my tea, man yes to multi Amma will be Salatin was sada cotton was a yummy what can shatter MHADA what cassava what kala mother

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Mariela Harada was Africa. dama Hava the one who is a bankrupt person from amongst my ummah, is he who comes on the day of the AMA, and he has a lot of sadaqa he has a lot of Salah he has a lot of Zika but he has killed this person, and he has taken the wealth of a another person and he's accused another of doing something bad. So that is a bankrupt person. Why are you bombing Hassan a TV so it will be taken over you hadoo mean Hassan a TV so it will be taken from his good deeds, and given to that person and the one that he has wronged, then it will be taken from his good deeds and given to the next person and the third person and the fourth person until he has no good deeds left for

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Infineon Tatsiana to who is an insanely teehee to Midori hat highly to Naturi have enough.

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And when they are no good deeds left, then this person's bad deeds, the one whom he has wronged, the bad deeds will be taken and placed on his scale and he will be burdened by them until he falls into the fire until he falls into the fire. This is a person with Salah with sadaqa with cm with Hajj, all of these things he's done them for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa Tada he comes expecting good reward from Allah, but he didn't have a good time. So he swore at another person, and he shouted at the other and he killed another and he did X, Y and Zed. He did so many wrong things against others, that he was a bankrupt person. So

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this can emanate from jealousy within the heart hatred within the heart, ill feeling within the heart. If we don't pay attention to this, when we feel these emotions, they have real repercussions in our lives. They cause real problems in our lives, we need to remove them or take them out of the house. And as a result, we will feel happier we will feel more content, our lives will be more blissful for us. So in this manner, we will actually be able to enjoy our lives and become more content with that which Allah subhanahu Attallah has given us one last Hadith and we end off in sha Allah Abdullah ignore Amma even allow sorrow the Allahu Anhu was a Sahabi who was sitting with the

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companions of the message of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was there. So he said from this door, there will be a man who will enter upon you and this man is from the people of Ghana. So the Sahaba Radi Allahu Anhu looking at probably expected Earthman Abu Bakr Omar to walk in one of the great companions of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and they noticed it was a man that they did not really know. So he walked in just a normal man, someone whom they did not expect. In fact, he was carrying it he said he was carrying his slippers under his arm.

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So, they let it go the next day or sooner allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is sitting with them again. The same man enters he says yet who are they coming in huddle Burb? Raju min. Little Jana, a man from the people of Jana will enter upon you from the store. So they look and they see the same man. The third day the same thing happens. And now at the light normal house. He's thinking that what is this man? What does he do that is so special about him that he has already been given Jana. So he goes to him and he says, Look, I need to stay with you for three days. I've had a problem with my father and I'd like to stay with you

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For three days, down,

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so he goes, and he stays with this companion for three days and three nights. And every night, he tries to notice does this man wake up for 200? Salah? Does he wake up to remember Allah subhanho wa taala? Is he reading the Quran at night perhaps for hours on end? And nothing he notices nothing except that when the man turns over in his sleep, Allahu Akbar La ilaha illa Allah Subhana Allah. So at the end of three days, he says, You know, I want to ask you, this is what Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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This is what he said. And I'd like to ask you, what is it that you do that is so special that made you from the people of Jannah. So he says, You know, I haven't done anything special.

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Except perhaps, when I go to sleep every night, I clean.

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I clean my heart out from hatred, and from jealousy. And I leave no enmity within my heart for my fellow believing brothers. Except that I have removed it. There's nothing I'm clean. And I sleep with this. So I'm delighted No, I'm gonna go to the house actually says to him, you know, I think this is what is the quality that will enter you into Jana. We think it is easy to do. We think it is easy to remove jealousy, to remove hatred, to remove arrogance from the heart, but it's not as easy when you actually try to practice upon it. Think of your worst enemy. Think of the person who has really caused you problems in your life today. And ask yourself when you go to sleep today, are you

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able to let go of that hatred? Are you able to forgive him? Are you able to make a good dua for that person? Oh Allah, guide him Oh ALLAH forgive him. Oh Allah grant him goodness. If you can do this, then know that you will be granted

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that which the sahabi was granted which is Jana May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant that to us, and may Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us the ability to understand who they are one ideal hamdulillahi rabbil aalameen