Mufti Menk – Social Media Tips

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of social media use and the need for discipline. They stress the importance of finding one's way and following rules, avoiding embarrassment, and not compromising too much. The speakers also emphasize the importance of privacy and learning from past experiences to avoid harmful actions. They stress the importance of following rules and being proud of one's physical appearance, and encourage people to donate their hearts to a marriage site and promote their own physical appearance.
AI: Transcript ©
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Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh

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Smilla Rahmanir Rahim Al hamdu lillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah. Who Allah Allah, he was happy here, Jermaine, my brothers and sisters. If I were to ask you,

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which is it from the social media platforms that you use the most? What would you say? Can I hear the answers?

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Tick tock. Wow, I had a feeling I would hear that. Tick tock, right.

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Any other platforms?

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I can't hear you.

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Oh, tock tick.

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Instagram. What else? Yes.

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Mashallah, sorry, I can't really see the others. But Subhanallah we've got a few answers here. The most popular of all of them is

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the most popular of all of them on Earth is

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at the moment, tick tock. And to be honest with you, the way it's made is that

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when we're sitting with it, we would scroll and keep on scrolling and scrolling and scrolling. Right.

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The time is ticking and talking. Right? Tick tock, tick tock TOC, that's what it is. And mashallah, if I were to ask you, is it good? Or is it bad? What would you say?

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Is it good or bad? What would you say?

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A lot of you are saying bad to be honest with you. It depends how you use it. And yes, a lot of it might be a waste of time. Some of it might be Oh, haram, I remember one of the boys telling me, you know, I don't do the Haram haram stuff. I just do the Haram stuff, you know, and I'm thinking to myself, what's the difference?

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Haram haram means like haram stuff, but not the Haram stuff.

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I just tried to have some personal done. You know, I tried to think good of the youngster. And I thought maybe haram Haram is referring to the major sins and Haram is referring to the minor sins, maybe because I can't think of something that's halal. And something that's halal, halal, you know.

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Can you imagine a guy saying this is halal halal? If that was the case, when he says and the other one is halal? I would think the well that's doubtful, right? It's doubtful, because why did you repeat the term Halal twice. But

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any thing that has come to us

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in terms of technology, we cannot say all of it is haram. And we cannot say all of it is halal.

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It's up to the way we use it. If you use it in a correct way, it's going to be good. If you use it to promote goodness, you get a reward. And if you use it to promote evil, you earn a sum. And if you just use it to waste time, then that's exactly what you're doing wasting time. So don't say that it's bad. Because it is like a knife.

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A knife is either used to do good things or sometimes to do bad things. It's up to you. If you're using the knife, for example, to cut your, your food items, to ensure that you're eating properly, and so on Alhamdulillah Good, you've made good use of it. And if you're using it to hurt someone to harm someone to stab, etc, obviously you're responsible. And that's something that shouldn't be happening. So my brothers and sisters,

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we need to realize we have duties Unto Allah do not compromise those duties because of the use of social media.

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The last few days, we've been traveling from place to place and I've had the opportunity to talk for a few moments about this subject. And I made mention of how a person or should I say a lot of us

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become a little bit oblivious of the time when they're on social media.

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You forget that you know what, it's the time of Salah you need to be reminded and the good from amongst us when we are reminded Mashallah. We take heed, we get up. We fulfill the Salah, and we might go back to what we were doing.

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But a fair number of us we forget it to the degree that the salah time

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passes, and we're still sitting on our phones. We're still sitting on our laptops, we're still sitting on our tablets and iPads, and the salah time came

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But we didn't move. Am I right?

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Yes, I hear that yes means that you know what I'm talking about right? Duty.

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But if you needed to answer the call of nature,

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in other words to go to the loo

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what would happen? I see the youngsters there have laughed so loudly I can tell you what they get up to.

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They would probably answer the call of nature of the phone in the hands walking towards the loo. Open the door phone is still there, they flicking it. Probably, you know, pens down, they still flicking it. Sit on the pan still flicking it, you peeing, and you're still like, oh, still flicking it? You done with your pee, you still sitting and you didn't realize you don't know your pee. You flicking it until someone knocks the door of the toilet. Hey, are you done?

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Oh, let me quickly sort out what I'm doing. That's the level and the extent to which we have gotten to, because that type of forgetfulness, or that level is what breeds the love that I heard from these guys. Am I right? Yes, it's true. Let's not let that happen. We're dignified human beings. How many of us are guilty of having taken our phones to the loo. And having looked at the phone or dealt with it while we were

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answering the call of nature? I'm not going to ask you to show your hands. Because I know well, it's it's quite I can't really see everyone here because it's dark. That's, you know, the crowd is not shown to me so much. But if I did, I think a lot of hands would go up. Who knows? Maybe mine would go up as well.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness, we need to be a little bit more discipline, especially when it comes to the way we answer the call of nature as compared to answering the call to prayer, the call to success. When one happens, the call to success happens. Sometimes

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we're oblivious of it completely. And when the other one happens? We answer it because it's the call of nature.

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Moving on, if we are to look at the content that we have online, there is good content, there is bad content and there is content that is just a waste of time. Ask yourself, how do I use this technology? How do I use social media? How am I using this application? And remember,

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a lot of it should be made up of that which will benefit you one day when you meet with Allah. Whether you like it or not. I know people say well, I was just having fun. It's not wrong to have fun. We don't want to say It's haram. But make sure that you the way you use it is not going to be embarrassing to you, the day that Allah Almighty

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asks you to watch your own videos and then decide whether you deserve to go

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to heaven or

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the other direction.

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You might think well, is Allah Almighty going to really ask me to see my videos?

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Well, the Quran says that Allah Almighty will put your deeds in front of you in a book form and ask you to go through it and see it.

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And Allah Almighty will say to us Ikara Gita Baca cough, Fabien phsyical, yo Malaika has even read your book, read your own book, look at your own deeds, check what you've been doing, go through it, flip through the pages, and then you bear witness against your own self, where do you think you deserve to go? On that day, we don't want to be embarrassed. And that's why we have a reminder, this is just a gentle reminder to say listen, whatever we've done, make sure that it's going to be something that will benefit you in sha Allah, something that's not going to be embarrassing, you're going to see it in front of Allah, and you will regret or you will be happy. If you did good, and

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others followed the goodness, you earn a reward for everyone that followed the good that you try to teach. And if you did bad or evil, and you call people towards bad, even if it was just a joke, you know what, you get a sin for everyone who followed the bad example. So set a good example. Nowadays you have the amount of retweets the amount of likes and shares, the amount of repeats the amount of times people mimic what you've said or what you've done.

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In the millions in no time it goes viral. But guess what goes viral? What goes viral? If you read a verse of the Quran, or if you give give a good message of the Hadith Do you think that will go as viral as if you were to do something silly?

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Which one will go more viral?

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something silly. These young boys are answering me right here, something silly would go viral. And something that's beneficial may not go as viral.

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You have millions and billions of views at some time, meaning with some posts. And if you look at the content of it,

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it's not only just a waste of time, but sometimes it's harmful. Sometimes it is calling in the wrong direction. A lot of us have mimicked some of the words and moved our bodies in sync with those words, of songs of others without thinking for a moment, what on earth am I repeating? What on earth? Am I saying? What is this person saying? Sometimes it's vulgar in nature. Sometimes it's * in nature. And we're repeating it, we're actually hosting it with our own selves,

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as though we're acknowledging and we're happy and excited about it. And others follow us.

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We can do better than that. Did you really have to just to gain the likes and the followers? Did you really have to do something haram haram? I think that one would be haram haram haram, right? Three, some of those words are so dirty, so *, it's not just Islam that looks at it and cautions you about it. It's Christianity as well. It's Judaism as well. And most of the faiths have high values and morals that they preach and promote and teach and stand for.

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Come on, we can do better than that. So what I'm saying is, when you see something on social media, and you'd like to mimic you'd like to repeat, etc. Ask yourself, is this vulgar? Is it * in nature, not in terms of what it looks like. But in terms of what is being said, the words can be so immoral, so unacceptable for a believer. It's not worth your while. Because when you post that, in the same way, that if you were to post a verse of the Quran and get a reward for every letter that is uttered, as well as everyone who benefited from it, you would get a sin. If you posted something evil for everyone who listened to it, everyone who perhaps became attracted to it and

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reposted it. And it continued and you know what? Shaitan is too intelligent. He makes people want to repost those type of posts more than this type of post because he wants you and I to lose. May Allah Almighty grant us goodness.

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It's just a call. It's just a call to say let's be responsible, Inshallah, the way we use it, think a little bit before you do things, both brothers and sisters.

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I called a youngster.

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I told him, You know what, I want to speak to a crowd of people about social media. And I just want to see your phone. He says, No shit. You can't see my phone. I said, oh, so I'm not allowed. Why is there something private in it? He said, Yes. I said, but you're a young man. Are you married? He says no. I said, So what's all private about it? You don't even want me to see. He said, No, I'll be embarrassed, embarrassed about what Who am I I'm not gonna tell anyone. He says, but you just told me you're going to give a big talk about it. And you want to see I said, the reason why I want to see it is I'd like to see the type of people you follow.

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I won't take your name. I won't embarrass you, but I just want to learn. He says okay, do

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so I got his phone.

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I looked at

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Instagram to begin with. He was following a lot of girls. A lot of them like so many. And I'm like, Okay, what about the boys? What about the shares? What about the, you know, he says, But I follow you. I said, Okay, I'm one guy, anyone else?

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And you know what, there was a lack of people who promote goodness, those who are going to remind you of Salah Zakka. I said, Why don't you follow Shea said no, you know, they, they the way they talk and what they say it just puts me off. Okay? So when someone tells you pray five times a day you're put off when someone tells you dress appropriately, you're put off when someone tells you read your Quran you're put off. So what puts you on then

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all these girls?

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May Allah Almighty grant us is so I told him Okay, tell me something. How many of these girls do you know personally? He says, Yeah, quite a few. I say have you DM them? He says, Yeah, I've DM a fuse. Some of them reply. Some of them don't reply.

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So I said, Would you mind if I saw your DM? Is it No, no chance? No chance? Not at all. No chance. I said do you really

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lies that some of the girls you're DMing are actually boys pretending to be girls. They're catfishing that's what they're doing. Subhanallah and you're they're busy thinking, Ah, you look cool. Do I want to see another picture? Can I send you something else? Does it help you? You have so many so many. You're planning to get married in a few years, perhaps or whenever? And how will you make a choice there are so many that you're lying to every one of them how much

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as Subhanallah you love them or how gorgeous they are. It's easy to say you know, gorgeous

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And subhanAllah it's also easy to say I love you. And it's so easy to say so many things. You're hot.

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Holy now.

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I should do how

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Allah speaks about being hot as well. Not just people can be hot. Sometimes when you don't know which way to look and what to do. Fire of Jahannam can also be hot, and it's even hotter

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so the guy says they're hot. I said, Can I tell you something that's even hotter? Mashallah. He was excited. Tell me Tell me.

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I said I don't want to sound like those checks. You say they put me off but I want to tell you now to jahannam Be careful. Look at the way you're heading. Look at where you're going. You can be polite to people, but when you start following so many of these people what beats me is married men would like to follow so many of these women in as though you know what? Oh, wow. And the other one you flick up and who that is even Wow than the previous one and you flick them? These are three wives Mashallah. And then what happens is, you go further

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Gaff lamb. Mashallah. Beyond the Wow. Right? Until you get to Yeah. Because that's the last letter of the alphabet, right? How did it help you? Here is your spouse in the case of married men, your own wife, your own family members, your daughters, your mother, you don't find any goodness in any of them, but anonymous random people who don't want to know you, and your wowing over them

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in a way that embarrasses those who are right next to you?

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Is that what the Muslim should be like? Mashallah, did you know that some people do not realize the ruling of lowering our gaze

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applies to the mobile phone as well. So the young man says, Well, I've been lowering my gaze, I keep my phone down, you know, I keep my phone down. I don't look up, I look down, you know, no, don't cheat yourself by calling yourself and making yourself feel good that I'm lowering my gaze. How do you lower your gaze when it comes to your phone, it's not by lowering your phone.

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It's by flicking up, continuing to scroll. When you see something that you're not supposed to be seeing.

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As soon as it comes onto your screen, you scroll it up because you don't want to see further. That is the first novel it means it's the first

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The first glance, as they say,

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I'm sure you guys know the rule. Right? The first glance is yours. The next one is against you. That's the Islamic rule. Okay. So if the first one is yours, and the next one is against you.

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I recall years back,

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there was a guy who was looking at this woman, and he's just looking at her like this. And he's looking at her walk across, he says, Hey, we don't say but you're not you're supposed to lower your gaze. He says this is still my first glance, relax.

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The meaning of the first glance is as soon as you see something in or lower your gaze out of respect, out of respect, in order for you to appreciate that this person is not going to be judged based on what they look like, based on their shape, their size, based on their race, etc. They will be judged as a beautiful human being created by Allah give everyone an equal chance. May Allah Almighty grant us goodness, the beautiful teachings of Islam, the beautiful teachings of the Almighty would help us respect one another. Respect the agendas, respect the people, make sure you speak to them in a way that honors them, not just speak to the pretty people or to those whom you

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think are pretty or to those whom you think perhaps are good looking. And leave out those whom you think are not good looking Subhanallah Is it fair?

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Is it fair? It's not fair. People might the same people might not find you good looking at all. So all those whom you think wow, wow, if they will look at you if they were looking at you, rather than saying this

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Mila they will say all the biller

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Yeah, not everyone you want to marry wants to marry you. Have you ever thought of that?

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Not everyone you think this is spouse material would ever think that you are spouse material, they would think you are spice material.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us. So remember this, we were supposed to be responsible. The first glance, as soon as you see something that you're not supposed to be seeing, turn the page, move it on, go to something better, not something worse.

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So Masha Allah, this young lad, opens up his Tiktok. And guess what, he only had people who would, who wouldn't ever have reminded him about Allah. And then I told him, I said, Young man, you know, what? Do you realize that on the Day of Judgment, you would actually

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be embarrassed? Or be proud of how you use your mobile phone?

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He says, but I'm still young. I'm going to live for a while. I mean, I hope I said no, you can't tell how long you're going to live. People have gone your age and even younger than you and people have gone later on, you don't know when and I'm not dooming you. All I'm saying is discipline yourself. Just discipline yourself, slowly, but surely start following right people. And then I came to this beautiful point that I've been repeating the last three days. And I want to say it again, because it's extremely important for us to know, one of the blessings of Allah I mentioned it in Jumar today is that Allah Almighty doesn't say to you that if you don't have any bad deeds, that's

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the only time you're going to go to heaven and to Jannah. He says to you, if you have more good deeds than bad, you will go to Janna, you'll go to Paradise, which means he knows you and I might falter, we might fall. But I'm doing more good than bad. I've fallen less times than I've done good deeds, I've reached out to people and so on. Allah's justice makes mention of a scale of the day of judgment where he will put the good on the right side, and the bad on the left side. And if one tips the other, that's the direction you go. SubhanAllah. So imagine, when you're using your phone, and there's a little bit of haram stuff that's happening. It's not right. It's wrong, right?

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It's wrong, right?

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Is it wrong or right?

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It's wrong. So if there is some stuff that is wrong, have you looked into your phone to consider what amount is right? And what amount is wrong? How much of good am I doing through this device? And how much of bad am i doing through this device? I'm not condoning the bad. And I'm not telling you it's okay to do the bad. But I'm telling you, if you're doing more good than bad, there is still hope.

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There is still hope.

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And you should still be working on eradicating the bed.

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But some of us Subhanallah we enjoy it. We enjoy the likes, every little I look back at your phone, how many likes is it 10? How many likes 15? How many likes or 16. I've never had 16 in my life, how many likes 160. Big deal. Those likes are not going to get you to Jannah if the post itself is not in the right direction.

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It needs to be in the right direction. Be responsible, say something good. Drop in a good word. Have a few posts. In fact, I can ask you a question. How many posts do you have?

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That you would be so proud of that you'd show Allah subhanho wa Taala to say Allah look what I did. I actually one of the days I it was just a five second clip, but I told people to do something to give a charity for example, how many posts of that nature do you have?

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You need to know that those are the posts that would benefit you long term real benefit. So there is something called sadaqa jariya. You know, what's a sadaqa jariya it is a charity, the reward of which continues after your death. For example, if you drill, the borehole are paid for the drilling of a borehole and people are benefiting from the water of that borehole, what would happen is after you've died, everyone who's going to benefit from the water, you continue plucking the reward for that for as long as that water lasts, even though you've died

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because you did something that would that the benefit of which would last beyond your life. That's called a sadaqa jariya. So if you have posted something thought something, the people who benefited from it and those whom they benefit and those whom those benefit and so on. You keep on getting a reward right up to the end of time if that lasted that long.

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The same applies in the opposite direction. If you did something wrong

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You earn a sin. And sometimes you have a sin that is Jharia in its own way, it continues after your death because the harm of it

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is actually reaching people more and more, and you're gone. For example, when you post * stuff and distribute that which is vulgar or immoral, according to the standards taught, then you need to realize that if that is reposted, you're clocking

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positive or negative.

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Negative, you're clocking minus deeds.

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And then because it's silly, like we said earlier, it's going to be reposted a lot. So you're clocking more and more. Did you need that? Was it necessary? Do you really realize that you've achieved nothing and because a lot of people will like it and share it even beyond your imagination.

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We ask Allah's mercy. Let's be responsible. My brothers, my sisters, one of the biggest mistakes, one of the biggest mistakes that the young are making, and even the old, exposing themselves * online, be it a video call, be it a little video clip, be it a photo, whatever, you can only regret when that happens. You don't do that. You don't do that it's not a matter of legal or illegal, it's all wrong. It's all wrong. Subhanallah we shouldn't be doing that. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us is I'm talking about those who believe you want to know the rules of Islam. Here is what Islam says, Don't display yourself * online. And here we're talking to people of all ages.

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You are responsible, you need to know the consequences of that there is a price that is paid.

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And it's something we need to talk about because even the young people as young as five and six are exposed to this. And nobody talks about it. Be responsible, you did not need to do that.

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Nowadays, there are hackers who can hack into your phone at any time. No matter what you have, the more it says encrypted encrypted end to end and beyond. I promise you everything is hackable. It only requires someone who knows a little about technology. And they can hack you while you're standing right next to them. Or even if you're far away, would you like him to tap into a video call you're having even if it's just within you and your own spouse sometimes.

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Think about it.

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Don't become paranoid, but just don't do things like that. Was it absolutely necessary? May Allah subhanho wa taala, forgive us? May He strengthen us. This is social media. This is what we're talking about. And that's why I've said even if you go on to a marriage site, and you're looking for a spouse,

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you may not realize that as legitimate as that site might be sometimes there are people out there who are just having fun. Playing with your mind playing with your heart. Do not donate your heart to someone just because of a few words you might have heard from them.

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You don't you make sure you have a physical meeting. At some point. You make sure you know what you're doing. You make sure you you get some parents or folks involved. You make sure that there's responsibility and then you can step by step move towards the right direction, until it ends with a beautiful marriage that is blessed by everyone in sha Allah, especially that which is not in the disobedience of Allah Almighty and then you get the blessings.

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But to donate your heart and to start believing the promises made by someone you met on a marriage website from day one that's a little bit childish.

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And like I said at times there are people out there who are not who they are claiming to be sometimes they show you photos and videos of other people and you think oh this is the person little do you know if you were to meet them in real life, it's someone else completely

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mashallah, I see even the podium doesn't like what we're saying.

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We're guilty. We're guilty. My brothers, my sisters, it's important for us to realize let's be responsible let's be intelligent. The other day I had someone who said oh, I've donated $10,000 Did you receive it? So receive what donated way? No, but didn't you message me on YouTube? It's a true story. I didn't message anyone on YouTube. No, you spoke about so so and they showed screenshots and I said that's not me. Did you not click on this Can you not see there's no tick did you not click on it to see this person's only got one follower. It's probably their other accounts for like it. And you are conned into believing that you must send X amount of money to some corner of the world

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If that's the case, why are you on social media when you don't even know how to use it, they'll drain your pockets. They'll finish you up emotionally mentally, because you don't know how to use it. Not everyone who looks nice is nice. Hello, it's just a filter.

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It's just a filter. A lot of us are guilty of not even liking or loving ourselves. But we love the filter.

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Can I take a selfie? Yes, hang on, Flick, flick, what are you doing? I need that filter, Flick, flick, oh, I can't get the filter, leave the selfie. It's okay.

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As bad as that. Muslims are taught to love themselves as Allah made you look in the mirror with all your pimples with all your marks with all your flaws. That is who you're supposed to love. Because all of us have flaws. Perfection is for Paradise. It's not on earth. Every one of us without a single exception has something wrong here or there may be a nose slightly this way, a nano centimeter somewhere this way, that way, whatever it might be a nanometer, this way that whatever it might be, but we have a little eyelash this way one hair stray that way. Some line this side here, a few dots and spots this way. That's what makes you human. That's what makes you beautiful. Those are

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your marks. We used to call them beauty spots. Why? as ugly as they might be to some they're actually beautiful.

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It's a beauty spot. I have one big one. Now it's covered with my beard right here. When I was young, I had a big black spot.

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And once or twice people said, Oh, you've got a big black spot here. You know, as a so what is a beauty mark? Man? It's my birthmark. It's amazing. It's beautiful. You don't even have one. Come on. You should be paying for it. You should tattoo on onto your face and stuff. Well, okay, let's not do that.

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But I'm proud of it. I love the way Allah has made me It's okay. Your hair is amazing. Your eyes are amazing. Your nose is absolutely superb.

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Look at the sister sing. Yeah, you think so? Right? I need a nose job. I need a nose job. The amount of emails I get from people asking me is a nose job permissible. I'm like, gosh, the world doesn't love its nose.

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What's up with the nose? Can you breathe? Yes, I can you Okay, fine?

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If there is hair in your nose supposed to be in there? Because that's supposed to be filtering some of the bacteria and whatever else coming in.

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So you don't know.

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You might be curious, you want to know the answer. You're allowed to do a nose job? Do you want to know the answer?

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Allahu Akbar. Even the young people want to know the answer.

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If there is anything wrong with your nose wrong, meaning it's not normal, to bring it back to normal is permissible in Islam. But if you want to play with it and tamper with it too big to small, little bit this way, no, no, no, you can't do that. Because you will never be happy with the outcome you won't.

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You know

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there are so many things that just come to my mind. But let's leave them because we're going to get into all sorts of things regarding changing yourself. But to be honest, my brothers, my sisters, we must be responsible when you when you're in love with a filter. When you are in love with yourself

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using a filter more than you are without the filter, you need a bit of help.

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You need help, you need to love yourself without that filter. That's that's called liberation. That is true liberation. Because now you're being a real person. And I tell you one of the negatives of using all the filters, I'm not saying it's haram I'm talking about. Some of them are not acceptable. Some of them are okay, but that's not the topic. What I want to say here is

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sometimes one of the negatives is

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we show flawless faces, and we see flawless faces, we start believing the whole world is flawless, except myself.

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I'm the only one who's got blemishes. Look at all these faces. They're flawless. They're amazing. And everyone is thinking the same thing at the same time, but no one is discussing it with the other. So we're here talking about it. You follow what I'm saying?

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Everyone is thinking wow, they are all flawless. How beautiful is this? But everyone has flaws. Everyone has something like I said with them something this way or that way. If you're going to look if you're going to take a microscope and search. Definitely you will see.

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No one notices it. No one notices it. No one's scrutinizes to that degree. No they don't.

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So don't worry. Your jaw may be this way that way your teeth one this way one that is

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It's okay. If it's really bad. Like I said, if it's abnormal, you're allowed to bring it to one to what is normal.

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But if it's normal, don't play with it, leave it be happy with it. That's your identity. That's what you look like thank Allah. Someone somewhere somehow will love it as is.

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When you get motor vehicles, you have the latest cars, everyone. Wow, did you see the latest this in the latest that? What's your favorite car? Tell me what's your favorite motor vehicle?

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Lamborghini SubhanAllah? Have you seen the latest Lamborghini?

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It's like an SUV, right?

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I tell you, everyone's excited about the latest cars. They are people who invest millions in vintage motor vehicles. Do you agree? Old cars, the ones that barely move? What do they do they buy it, they pamper it. And when they pamper it, it becomes mashallah an engine is put in there that starts rattling beautifully, and you have a beautiful sound and they proud of their cars. I swear in a similar way that Allah has created diversity in the way we like motor vehicles, he's created a similar diversity in the way we like people. Some like tall people, short people, some like fat, some like thin some like this way, that way, some like people with a big nose and you are here

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trying to make that no small, or trying to shave it or clip it or whatever else it may be. And you didn't realize as is some people would die for what you have.

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People would die for what you have.

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But no, the tall ones want to be short, the short ones want to be tall. The big ones want to be small, the smaller ones want to be big, just be who you are. And Allah knows this is true liberation. When you love yourself for who you are, you are truly liberated in Islam.

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And that's why Allah says, Don't do things to impress people impress yourself.

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I'm doing it for myself.

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May Allah Almighty grant us goodness, we go to the gym, we should go to the gym. Because we want to be fit, we want to do things for ourselves. But if we're going because we want to compete with so and so. And we want to, for example, show off that we're going to be bigger than this one. And that one, different parts of the body showing this way. And that way, it doesn't end and it will not end and you end up doing the silliest things just because you want to compete with someone, you can concentrate on other things in life that are more important. Allah is not going to ask you right? Was your butt bigger than hers? Or was hers bigger than yours? That's question is never going to

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come. It's something totally irrelevant. You might feel good about the strength you have or whatever else it may be, you might feel good about something that you do have. But trust me, there is a limit to things, there is a limit to things don't become so engrossed that everything is about this. And then you start watching everyone in the world. And you're just dying, because you know where near

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and a lot of it is filtered. And that's why nowadays you see the filters, it's not just about,

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you know, covering the blemishes on your face.

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It makes you slim

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Subhanallah it makes you slim.

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I can take a picture of myself and I can appear Big or small, just because of a filter. May Allah Almighty forgive us, my brothers and sisters, it's such a beautiful topic, don't you agree? We're talking about something amazing. We're talking about something beautiful, I don't mean to doom anyone. And I don't mean to tell you get off social media. All I'm saying is we need to be responsible, the way we use social media. And don't be duped and conned and don't follow the wrong things. And remember, we're answerable to Allah, we're going to be we're definitely going to be meeting with Allah. And on that day, we need to be proud of the fact that we've used things in the

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right direction. And if you have used things in the wrong direction all along so far, it's not too late. We can change we seek the forgiveness of Allah and we asked him to grant us the strength to do the right thing. The minute you are determined Inshallah, from today, I'm going to start increasing the amount of good I do, both in the posts that I post as well as

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what I watch and what I benefit from. It's not all about posting, you know, when you see people commenting, negative comments, harsh comments, immoral comments, if you click on their profile, it will tell you zero followers, zero following. It's just a brand new account or it's an account of someone who's created that account just to comment on everybody else's

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That's quite common.

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So how you use it, as well as what you post on it, what you benefit from, inshallah we can all improve on this. I've spoken about this

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For a few days and today I see my time is up I was given 40 minutes on the dot where we've just clocked 40 minutes. So may Allah Almighty forgive us and grant us goodness I really enjoyed myself here with you guys today and I pray that you all enjoyed yourselves. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us in every way Akula Kohli Harada SallAllahu wasallam albaraka Island Nabina Muhammad

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