How is She Different?
Channel: Mufti Menk
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Women’s Care Conference in Bahrain
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
hamdulillah. He was salatu salam ala rasulillah Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi, Germany.
We always praise Allah subhanho wa Taala upon every condition we ask a lot to be pleased with us and we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to open our doors to grant us every form of goodness, he made us He created us we are going to return to Him, He is the one who nourishes us provides for us cherishes us, He is the one who is in absolute control of every aspect of our existence when we are sick and ill, he is the one who kills us when we have problems it is he who sought those matters out whenever we go through any form of difficulty, it is he who is in absolute and total control of the solution of that difficulty. So we praise Him upon all conditions and we seek protection from the condition
of those who shall be cast into hellfire. Also we send blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the one who was sent to remove us from darkness and to bring us into the light, the one whom when we say he is our Nabhi when we say he's our Prophet, what we mean is that we will follow Him and we will follow what he has said blindly. sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam Allah subhana wa jal, his blessings and salutations be upon him, the one who will enter Paradise First, the one whose intercession we are expecting on that particular day. And those who achieve it or those who are most deserving of it are those who follow him the most, and those who are closest
to him not just by lip service, but by acting upon upon what he has brought. May Allah make a steadfast on it? And may He make us from those who firmly believe that success only lies in following what Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam has brought and there is all failure in doing that which is against what he has come with. This is what makes us Muslim so we send blessings and salutations upon him and all his family and his household and all his companions. And we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless every single one of us, my beloved sisters and brothers in Islam. It is a beautiful evening tonight in this warm country of Bahrain. And we ask Allah subhanahu wa Jalla. To
grant us every form of Shiva, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to grant us the love between us and to make us from amongst those who can learn a lesson or two this evening, the topic that I am going to be speaking on is how is she different? How is she different? She? Who is she? She is a believing female? How is she different from the others? What makes her a believing female? What makes her so important? What is different about her point number one, and we need to know this. A believing female is focused. She is focused she has focused focus upon what focus upon the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala. She is focused upon the goal that she has which is to earn gentlemen to
earn paradise, she knows that this life is absolutely temporary. And she knows that she can go any minute she can go to now or she can go within the next five minutes or within the next five years or 50 years. So she knows that it is important for her to prepare for the day that she is to meet with Allah subhanho wa Taala and that is her focus. Whatever she does, she asked herself, will this please my maker? Will this be something that will earn the pleasure of my maker? Or will it be earning the wrath of my maker? We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to bless all our sisters and our brothers and we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to help us all focus because this focus upon paradise
and upon the pleasure of Allah is what makes us primarily different from the others who are focused upon worldly material items.
When we say well be material items, they are some who are focused upon a motor vehicle, some are focused upon a kitchen so panela you know you have the latest rotomatic Have you seen it? Some are focused on that more than they are focused on there. So Allah Subhana Allah, I know the last lecture I mentioned it in people sent me emails, please tell us where you can buy it. And I'm like Subhana Allah, that is 20 rupees in one minute or in 20 minutes. I'm not too sure now, but we are more interested in good food then we are in paradise in Jenna. So Pamela so Amina, she is different by the fact that she is focused upon paradise, she will try to achieve whatever she can in the dunya in
terms of facilitating this life and making it easy for her to live here. But her prime focus is the affair of it is the pleasure of Allah so if she can achieve the kitchens while she is pleasing Allah she will do that if she cannot. The kitchen is by the way, but Allah the relation with Allah is never by the way.
So focus on matters of the dunya sometimes leads us astray in the sense that when we begin to focus on a watch, and this is what I want on a phone, and this is what I want, or for example on a perfume and this is what I need or an abaya. This is what
I'd like with everything bling bling on it to panela if that is our focus then we will be so happy and so excited when we have those accessories and that handbag and that mobile phone and those shoes and we can walk with that figure with that. You know a buyer looking so beautiful jumping into that car and going to that home and it makes us so happy not realizing what did you do for genuine nap because Allah has given you five more minutes to spend with those items. Now what
you have five more minutes to enjoy the house, the husband, the children and everything else.
it's okay. We enjoying the cool wind Michelle.
So this is the Allah subhanho wa Taala gift to us that he has kept so many things in the world, but he has told a believing female and the believing male, that your focus should not be the items that we have provided for you in the dunya many people when they want to get married, they don't realize that what we are focused upon is actually dunya this man don't have a salary which is good enough for me or my daughter or so on and so forth. Not realizing but he's got everything else and perhaps he might live in a heartbeat he will protect your your daughter in such a way that the man who's living in a castle will not do and who knows the one in the castle might only have five more minutes
to live for five years Allahu Akbar. May Allah protect us all this is why we say the Hadith speaks of focus either attackmen carbona Dena hula hoop as a widow in Fallujah configmap
Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam says when proposals come for your daughters from those who are of Deen and those whose character is acceptable, allow them to be married if you don't allow them to be married because you focused on something else. In that particular case there will be fitna and facade on the earth and what is the fitna and facade corruption and vice chaos and sin that is what is happening May Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us protection. So we are not saying that, you know, look for the poorest person in the dunya. But what we are saying is you can compromise when it comes to wealth, you can compromise when it comes to the type of car you're going to have in the house
you're going to live in, but you will not compromise when it comes to the deen because you are a believing female who is focused upon the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala.
You might have a man for example, as wealthy provides everything for you. He has his bad habits, which you don't know about which creep up later on, to the degree that the children that we get may not be as focused as they should be. Because of the choices we've made for marriage or the choices that our parents have wrongly guided us towards making if they themselves were not focused. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant us the issue of focus.
So to be focused on the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala, to be focused on paradise and to be focused on the eternal life and to realize that this life is absolutely temporary, is what differentiates a believing female from she who does not believe.
Women remember this and remember it carefully. What are you focused on? Ask yourself every day some of us are just focused on having a degree in the dunya? We are not saying that's wrong, it's important that you are educated in the dunya. But are you doing it?
Are you doing that? and paying as a payment your link with Allah? If that is the case, you're at a loss, your focus is not correct. But is that making you stronger for the sake of Allah? subhanho wa Taala? If yes, then Alhamdulillah you've achieved a lot, you know, we would like to achieve in the dunya and in the Africa, you know, the mention of insurance robina
Grant us goodness in the dunya and goodness in the era, and safeguard us from the punishment of jahannam or the punishment of the Fire. So this is something amazing. This shows us focus that will love as much as we would like to have a pleasurable, joyful, enjoyable or should I say, a smooth life in the dunya we would like to be focused upon the earth in a way that we will achieve paradise no matter what happens in this particular world. I will not compromise my paradise. So I will get up for Salah I will make sure I'm dedicated and so on. Let's move on to some some more of the points of differentiation and what makes her different.
The next point we have closely connected to the first one, the issue of belief. Belief is in the heart belief cannot be seen by people. If I were to tell someone I bear witness that there is none worthy of worship besides Allah and I bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is his final messenger and so on. If I were to say that I have just become a Muslim, which means I have declared my Islam my submission openly, but people cannot gauge the level of mind
Men and my belief, the belief is the next step, which would now build my link with Allah subhanho wa Taala. My maker, I bear witness that he will made me Is he whom I'm going to return to, he has absolute control of every aspect of my existence. So if I am unhappy, he owns my happiness, if I am poor, he owns my wealth. If I am sick, he owns my job, I need to know this, and I need to believe in it firmly. And this is what makes me focused and this is what belief is all about. It helps us focus.
So to believe in Allah subhanho wa Taala in his mercy and to believe that Allah loves you. So when a sister believes that Allah loves her, she's different from others. She is different from those who don't believe in Allah to start with all those who believe that Allah subhanho wa Taala is not merciful. Now, we all read the beginning of the Quran. And when we start off reading the beginning of any surah we find this Milan
aim In the name of Allah, most forgiving, most forgiving, so Panama or should I say most merciful, Most Merciful, amazing. One is a specialized mercy and the other is an all encompassing mercy. The first one is that which is all encompassing and the second one is that which is a specialized mercy for those who have believed in that Mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So you need to believe that Allah loves you, even if you are going through difficulty, my sister, Allah loves you, you're going through health matters and issues Allah loves you be focused upon that believe that that is what makes you different from the others.
Allah loves you so much that sometimes he gives you such a great gift known as a sickness which you might perceive to be negative, but your Eman and your, the fact that you are focusing and your belief makes you realize that it's actually a gift of Allah to draw you closer to him. Amazing. This is belief. So I'm convinced that Allah loves me. Even if I kept walking down from here, I'm still convinced Allah loves me and convinced I don't need to become upset if this fan does not work with making a noise or for example, I have a distraction on this. I don't need to get upset. I can rectify it with a smile and I can still be the happiest person ever. Because I believe that Allah
subhanho wa Taala has given me an ability and it's him who gave me the ability had he not wanted it, I would not have had that ability. Amazing. This is a lot. This is the focus. This is what makes you a movement. This is what makes you different from other people. No matter what you have. It does not make you lose focus today. When we have a lot we lose focus by sitting in front of the TV and watching bollywood movies or Hollywood movies or nollywood movies or if you come from Zimbabwe nollywood movies
and we're focused on that Why? Because dunya Mashallah, man, you know, we have everything. We have the whole world, we we have a flick of a finger and the driver comes we have a flick of the finger the car is there, we have a flick of the finger and everything is there. We have a little phone call or a little tapping on the internet and the shopping is at home. Allahu Akbar. So now what's next? I just got to sit in front of the TV and enjoy myself and have a massage every day and you know, look at myself in the mirror. And Nikki is Angela. We're just interested in Mac and everything else. Why? Because we have lost focus.
We've lost focus. So some of us are more interested in making ourselves up when we are in living the real life and focusing on Allah and focusing on paradise. That face is going to be eaten by worms. May Allah protect us, but it's a reality. La Coronavirus, credit card statement but it's a fact you have to face it. If you are focused you will know Mashallah, I am allowed to look great and hamdulillah because that's Allah gift upon me. But if that is my focus, then I've lost focus to be honest with you, I've lost focus completely. That shouldn't be my main aim of existence is the makeup No, like I say when Allah blessed us with so many things and we've got good. We want to show
things. So Allah says I can just take that away momentarily so that you realize that I have given you a gift and you realize refocus, come back to us. May Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless us all.
To believe and to be convinced in the power of Allah subhanho wa Taala is also what makes a movement different from others. What makes her different is that she is convinced in the power of Allah, nothing is impossible for Allah. So if you are a person who has had no children, not at all 1415 years have passed by you will still continue making dua to Allah and having hope that one day he will provide you with what you are asking because you are different. You have conviction and you know that Allah has given you so much in the Quran to show you that others have delivered even after 50 years, 60 years 80 years of their lives love
luck. So a believing female is convinced as to the Quran and the power of Allah subhanho wa Taala I believe firmly and the men as well obviously this is a believer
We believe firmly that Allah subhanho wa Taala can do anything he can do absolutely anything. Nothing is impossible for Allah subhanho wa Taala. That's what I believe that conviction is what kills you when you are sick. Do you know that? That conviction is what kills you when you are sick? And that conviction is what provides for you, when you don't have you? You are convinced because that is the power of a law that comes in and it is Allah who is the provider, ultimately, it is always Allah Who does that for us.
When we make dua, we need to be convinced as we are supplicating our maker that Allah is going to provide this for me, why should we supplicate if we are half hearted saying well, it might not be and maybe, perhaps and so on so many people who have had cancer, may Allah grant them cure has been cured not by medicine alone, but by the will of Allah through his power, where he has given the ability to diagnose it at a certain stage when it was early enough to have cured it.
And I can tell you something else. Sometimes we are affected by that disease and yet through our do Allah cures it for us before we ever went for diagnosis. So we don't even know only the day we die and we need Allah we might know one day you were sick, but you had such a detrimental disease through your we kill you before you even went to the doctor to get it checked and to diagnose it.
My mother and sisters, I pause here for a moment and I divert slightly to say, remember one thing when you are sick and Ill It is your duty incumbent upon you to seek medication. It is your duty to not rely only on you are is a part of it. The conviction in the power of Allah is definitely holistic without a joke, but at the same time when Allah has given you the ability and capability and capacity to go out and seek medication you must do that you must go out you must test yourself you must check yourself you must diagnose as part of your duty unto Allah. He has given you an Amana which is the body of yours this body does not belong to you, it belongs to Allah, you need to look
after it. If someone gave you a car to look after wise, they were out of the country, and you happen to damage it, wouldn't you go and repair it?
before they came to say this car doesn't belong to me before anything happens. I better drive it carefully. I better make sure everything is okay. If I've had a speeding final do I better go and pay up before this brother comes back or whoever comes back. And before I have to give the car back. The same applies to our bodies. They are not ownership of our so believing woman does not just tattoo herself anywhere and everywhere. Because she knows that she does not just see us herself anywhere and everywhere because she knows where the limits are.
Whereas when you have people who are not believers, or sometimes their Eman is weak, they don't even know and sometimes they know but they defy. And they begin to do things not realizing that this body is only a uniform given for your soul to exist in this temporary world for a little while, and Allah will take it away. So I normally say that Allah took a soul and put it into your body so your body has worn the soul. It's the uniform of the soul. One day the the body will take out that soul the soul will come out by the word of Allah, you leave the body and the uniform gone down. You are no longer known by your name or the body is known as the body after that, not with your name. Do you
know what that means?
Every one of us when we die, nobody's gonna say Where's Muhammad? They will say where is the body? Bring the body here is the body at home is the body they they're not going to say Where is Khadija bringing Fatima here bring Abdullah this side here or you know lower Abdullah into the grave? Nobody ever says that they say lower the body into the grave. Bring the body here, bring the body there. Where is the body? How far is the body? What happened to the body and so on? Why is it the body because the soul is gone? Have you ever thought of that? Well, it is a reality. A believing female focuses on that. So as much as we interested in making back at one stage it's all the body no longer
law but what happened to that body it's gone back to Allah so me what what happened to me I've also gone back to Allah subhanho wa Taala whereas the body will decompose in the soil by the will of Allah but with me, I will return to Allah to answer for what I did with the little bit of time and whatever else he gave me in this world.
And the test is for all of us. Parents make the lives of their children a misery sometimes they are not focused, not focused on gender they are focused on pleasing community society, what will my relatives say? What will my community say? How can you wear a hijab? How can you look like a nun? How can this happen? How can that happen? But are you focused on paradise if you are forget about the rest, they will come? They will say Wow, you did it. We can do it. So what are they waiting for you but we are not focused enough and we're not strong enough so we lose everything. So people begin to turn away from the dean because of our weakness and that is a person
Allah grant the strings, my brothers and sisters, really, it is amazing that Allah subhanho wa Taala has given us so many gifts. And he tells us use this whilst you are here. Imagine this is one big examination room, and we're allowed to cheat. How's that?
It's like a big examination hole, you have an examination. And all the result all the answers are right in front of you. You can go and research you can go and check and then write the answer. Nobody's going to tell you that you've cheated because it's in this big hole Allah says, but you better get the answer. Right? So go out and read a lot of us the answers are there. But we don't even want to read the Koran. No. Why? Because I'm busy with learning my song. What song? Are you busy learning? Subhanallah I don't even want to say What song?
So what happened to the Koran? I'm still quite young, you know? That's the answer we get. I'm still quite young. You know?
Why? Because my dad told me that when you turn 30 that's when you can start learning the law about 30
you might not see another 30 minutes.
This is what makes a believing female different from others. She knows what she wants, she knows the temporary nature of this dunya she knows the temporary nature of her body and her existence and she knows that she will change from this particular world to the next in a different existence altogether. Which means in another place altogether by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala so to believe in the power of Allah and the fact that he can do anything and everything when a person is sick and Ill we make do add together with that we do what is known as there were there were meaning they allege the cure, to visit the doctor to try our best. Then we ask Allah we try to Allah and we
are convinced Allah will kill us.
You know when you find someone terminally ill and the doctors tell you that Okay, there are two days left.
Many of us have been told you have had two days left 20 years down the line, we are still as fit as a fiddle. What happened? Well, medicine was wrong. That's what happened. Well, the truth is, it's the power of Allah we try. And Allah subhanho wa Taala provided But even after 20 years, you still have to go, you still have to go. So Allah gave you another 20 years to pack away more good deeds in your bank, as many good deeds as I can, you know, when we're young, we don't have a bank account at a certain stage people start opening bank accounts, they begin to work the salary goes in, they want to save the savings become big and big and huge. And they get so happy why because of a signal from
Allah. Allah Allah Allah.
Our bank account is now 10,000 dinars, you know, the dinar is so strong. Wow. 10,000 that's a beautiful receipt, I can do something with it.
Not realizing when?
Where is your bank balance for the asset? Or where is it? What has happened to it?
Nobody is saying don't pack away money for the dunya but don't give preference to it because your focus is on the theorem. Every day now that you have packed away for the dunya you need to pack away good deeds with more than that. Because the ACA is everlasting. As for those they will not help you for more than another 10 to 20 years.
When you get a job finally you settle down How old are you 40 years old, you've now settled and everything is okay. The average age of people who are now considered people who have settled down and now they're looking after their children and preparing for the kid 40 years How many years have you left if you're lucky, you have another 30 years to go
and then what then I need to get into the era then then everything I did which was focused upon the era will come to benefit me so don't lose focus that salon that you read the dress code you had the goodness you you had the the all the good that you did will come to help you May Allah protect us and the Toma you engaged in something powerful. The problem with us we lose conviction in Allah power. So we think Allah is not powerful. And we think that he's not going to grab hold of us when we do things that are wrong. And when we when we are astray, if a person doesn't read Salah it doesn't affect a lot, it affects them. The person does not want to dress appropriately, believe me.
It does not affect a lot. It affects them and it definitely affects them, but they don't realize and it will affect them. SubhanAllah
when a person wants to engage in bad habits, it will affect them. It doesn't affect Allah subhanho wa Taala.
The good deeds of those who do good they don't help Allah and the bad deeds of those who do bad do not harm Allah subhanho wa Taala it's for us. This is us. It's all about us. It will help me or it will harm me so I better be focused and I have a beautiful way out and Toba. I can turn to Allah at any time and say Allah forgive me later.
Again, focus again, you know what this might be my last few days in this dunya. It may be my last few days in the dunya. So it's important for us to understand the power of Allah subhanho wa Taala. Something else that makes her different is that she believes firmly in the tech deal and the destiny that Allah, the decree of Allah that He has chosen for her. Sometimes we make a lot of law and Allah does not want to give us something.
We are convinced that that was the best thing that could have happened. That is a believing female. Allah grant us all she found to sometimes we have a disease and Allah says, I don't want you to be cured from this because I want you to die in the condition that you are the closest to me so die with a smile thanking Allah Allah, you made me sick. I made Toba. I thank you, I'm really concerned about going into the astral body, Allah my last few days with the best because I constantly made doba you gave me such a chance and far better off than one who just died suddenly in a huge car crash and has no chance to engage in tober.
wasn't that good for you? So when we get to the app here, we are convinced that you gave me such a powerful gift to be able to get to a sickness which brought me closer to you. Sometimes you lose a child. Sometimes you lose a family member. Sometimes you go through a divorce. Sometimes you go through some form of difficulty sickness, financial loss, marital turbulence, whatever else you're going through a child who is not obedient, whatever else Allah says. That is for you to get closer to me. If that brought you closer to Allah, it was a gift of Allah upon you. That's what we are focused on. That's what we know. That's what we realize because this is why we abroad closer to
Allah subhanho wa Taala through difficulty and calamity.
And like I say we make dua with conviction, but we are also convinced that if we don't receive what we are asking for that that to was the best
thing. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says amazing are the affairs of a true believer. All his matters are always full of goodness, all of them. He's never upset in assata. Shakur for carnivale. When goodness comes in his direction, he is thankful to Allah so it was better for him because he brought in close to Allah. How many of us when goodness comes to us we draw closer to Allah. If we don't we are not true meaning because the Hadith says the Unreal movement amazing are the affairs of a believer. So if we are not if we if if we have a promotion at work and the salary increase in we have millions and billions our business deals are going right and we bought the cars we wanted the
houses we wanted the luxuries, we wanted the perfumes we wanted the accessories, we wanted the buyers, we wanted whatever else we wanted, we've got all of that but it did not bring us closer to Allah then we have lost we cannot call ourselves true believers. We might be believers but not true believers. Because this hadith says when goodness comes to the direction of a true believer, you'll find him thankfully brings him close to Allah Shaka Shaka means a person who acknowledges the gift of Allah by worshiping Allah and obey. That is the meaning of sugar. To thank Allah to acknowledge from Allah by obeying His instruction, imagine someone says oh, I thank you Allah, but you are not
dressed properly. That's not thankfulness. Imagine if you give a person a million dinar.
And they say thank you very much. Thank you very much, and they know that you don't like for example,
let's let me give you a simple example. They know that you don't like
sour milk, for example, just a thumbs up just an example off the cuff. And they come to you after you've given them a million dinars with a whole pint of sour milk can tell you please accept this as a gift. And you're so upset. But you know, I don't like this, you know, it's bad. That's one example. The other example is imagine you give a person a million dinars and they come back and throw eggs at your house.
What would happen is that gratitude, but they've told you Thank you, thank you. Really I appreciate it. their mouth said something but their deeds are showing you something else. Why do we do that with Allah when he's given you your life, your breathing your eyes, your eyes can see without a little knob on the side focusing somewhere No, your eyes can see absolutely everything by the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala and they are automatic focus your ears are automatic. You know you can hear without having had a knob on your ear lobes trying to twist it around. Like it was an old radio that people used to listen to no amazing and yet we are thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala Where
are we? What is happening to us we are losing focus, we don't even know we don't even realize. So my brothers and sisters it's important for us to understand when we make it to our to Allah when we call out to Allah through his gift sometimes he will not give us what we want. Because he knows that is better for us. Don't become upset. The ending of that adage says we're in a sabato bah bah, bah, bah, bah. A true believer
when something negative befalls them or reaches them or touches them or they are harmed by
Something they are patient, they are forbearance.
They don't lose hope. So it is better for them. It's better for them. What's better for you? It's better for you to be patient. Don't ever question Allah, Allah, Why me? Why did my child have to go? Why did I have to suffer this cancer? Why did I have to be affected by AIDS? May Allah protect us all? Might Allah grant us cure? Even miraculously? I mean,
why did I have to be this? And why did I know? Don't ask that question. Thank Allah, if this is what you want, this is how you want me to go. I do not compete with you. You are my makeup, but I asked you to kill me through your mercy and your power. That's the proper way. Your life this is how you want me to go. I'm not going to compete with you because you are my maker. You made me in the first place so you I belong to you, you own me totally. You owe me completely Allah. But I beg you to grant me Curia Allah from this disease I have I mean,
that's the way we should be looking at it. I don't want to compete with the decree of Allah. But at the same time, I can never ever
suffer May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us protection. Whilst we don't want to compete with the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala we should be making dua that Allah grant us the cure. And Allah open our doors. No one wants to die, but everyone is going to die. Like I always say, how many people want gentlemen put up your hand?
Everyone who wants to die now put up your hand?
No one, how are you going to go to gentlemen? If you're not going to die, but you might say, Well, I don't want to die right now. Believe me the weakness of man, no matter when death comes to him. He's always upset. But then why are you making me jealous? Allah says, Okay, this is your agenda.
I don't want to die. I don't want to die. So what happened to the agenda? Come on, we want to give it to you. Just
to the gift of a true believer is actually death because now you're going to get what you want. It's like a child saying, oh, man, make me first in class. Okay, I went to her first in class, and in the price, when is the price giving? Oh, it's on Sunday in the evening. I'm not gonna come.
I'm not coming. Because why I don't want to go. It's nighttime.
Allahu Akbar, when are you going to get your prize? So we need to think about it carefully. Death is something you have to go through.
That is a door and every single person is going to go through it. But the question is, have we prepared for it? Have we tried have we been focused upon it? Or are we just focused upon this and that and so on and so forth, you know, we have our schools, and Mashallah our children are doing very, very well in the school, my child can read the book with the eyes closed now, but come to Iran, they don't even know a word.
Come to what the religion is supposed to teach. They don't know a thing. And Allah has only written 14 years for that child. In 14 years, the child is going to go. So when the child got May Allah protect us all. But it's happening. This is reality. We need to talk about it. And we need to let it wake us up because without it, we won't wake up. So 14 years later, your child is gone. Now everyone is going to be bragging in it to say wow, the child was first in class for so many years. The child was very intelligent. The child was this the child was that the child was topping mathematics topping this topping that but you will be sitting there lamenting Yala, the child is in the grave.
In the grave. We've never heard that the angels will come and ask you what were your results for mathematics?
Is that what we were taught? So whilst we are importantly, looking quite focused upon the dunya and the secular education, we should not lose focus upon that which is more important. Allahu Akbar ballito theory
sudo to Allah powerful. It's read almost every week in the masjid in Juma and Allah says, You have given preference to the dunya. Yet the era is better and it is everlasting. So that which was not everlasting we focused on it. Why? Because we will last.
I am not at all calling for us to take our children out of the schools no ways. I probably went to some of the best schools that were available to me.
But all we are saying is be focused, be focused on something greater, do not do one at the expense of that, which is more important. That's what we're saying. That's all there's no further statement.
So you can have the highest education when your child qualifies as the top surgeon in the entire world. You can be so excited because they are known as a Muslim surgeon.
Allahu Akbar, not just as a surgeon who's shy of his or her Islamic identity. Oh,
Then what did we do, we're not prepared for the.
So we are convinced in sha Allah that Allah will help us, Allah will guide us, we also accept the deal that Allah has chosen for us. That's what makes us different. We have to accept it. But we don't blame the deal for our failure. We don't blame predestiny and the degree of a law for our failure, if I was lazy, and I did not work hard, and then I failed, I need to have a little bit of the blame. You know, sometimes you have people, they tell you make two other I get married, you know, you make two I've got a daughter and make her mad. And they don't give you the other side of the story that you've had proposal after proposal after proposal after proposal. But whatever Allah
sent to your door, you just kicked it out. You just kicked it out. If you have a reason to, to obviously decline, no problem, you may but for no reason. You don't have that.
So you've made such a big blunder by turning away when Allah sent now when it's late, you saying so panela, you know, make make dry, but unless I sent you so much, but you threw it back? What should I do? Now?
Sometimes we blame the play, but it was my technique. Allah says, hang on, you are also to blame, like a man who came at the time of the law. And he had stolen they want to cut his hand. He says, hang on, hang on, hang on a minute, I believe in predestiny. And it was this time that I was going to steal. So how can you cut my hand because it was designed already written next to my name?
But amuro meaning was one up even more interesting. He says, Oh,
you know what, go ahead with this execution. Oh, we'll do whatever you have to because it was pretty stunning that we were going to cut his hand as well. Look at that. It was pretty stunning that we were going to cut his hand as well. You want to play games? Well, we can tell you the reality. This is why we say Allah sends you a lot. We tend to wait we are to blame as well. But don't let it depress you because you can always pick up from a lesson such as today's. You can always pick up make Toba to Allah and start afresh. Go again, try don't make the same foolish mistakes as the past. Allah subhanho wa Taala, bless us, may he open our doors.
So like I said, Don't blame destiny for your failure. But when things have happened to you, where you've tried your best, and still it was out of your hands and so on, and something has occurred, you will surrender to the decree of Allah. You've been for every form of chemotherapy, every form of cure. You've tried this, you've tried that still you are suffering and now you are in your last May Allah grant us all goodness and gentlemen, you need to embrace the fact that I'm going to meet my Allah and I hope in his message, because if I were to ask you, are you going to enter Paradise through your deeds or through the mercy of Allah? The correct answer is only and solely with the
mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So have hope in the mercy of Allah. That's why I said, one thing that makes her different is she believes firmly that Allah loves her.
Allah loves her.
Then we have the issue of purity. And believing in female is always pure, pure in what pure and absolutely everything in the way she speaks in the way she dresses in her interactions in her company in her heart and in her mind, purity of the heart. So the qualities are removed of jealousy, hatred, and this love of gossip, the love of sin, everything is taken out. That's what makes it different. So she's not jealous. If another sister looks more gorgeous, she's happy, Mashallah. Wow, sister, Allah bless you. Mashallah.
Yes, I'm not jealous. But those who are focused on the dunya Do you know what they would say?
No way. She can't be looking better than me. Not at all. I'm not going to speak to her. Then we go around spreading rumors about her. We make life difficult for her. And then she cries and she's depressed and she becomes this and that because neither is she focused. nor are we we busy fighting a little battle in the dunya not realizing that as soon as you click the age of 40, your first wrinkle comes in unless you're living in Bahrain.
Bahrain, I think it's at 50 May Allah protect us.
So this is what happens my mothers and sisters we cannot be focused on little matters. We cannot be focused on these small things.
We cannot be jealous of one another. No, we cannot start envying you know they've got a car I need the same car. Well, you know what she wakes up every morning Where are you? Where are you watching movies until 12 at night on the internet busy with whatever else now you have nine and we chat and we don't chat and everything else is there. And what do we do? We busy on that until two in the morning we go to sleep when it's time. I've been called out and he says hi.
And we busy heading in another direction. In fact he says a salad to help him in a no Salah is better than sleeping. We just in our beds at that particular time. What happened to the Salah gone, then we are jealous of the sister who's got how that's loss of focus.
What makes her different is she is focused on purifying her heart. She knows that I need to purify this heart, I will take out from it jealousy, hatred for others, deception, I will take out from it malice, any form of evil that is in it the love of sin, the love of the dunya that exceeds the love of Allah is very, very bad, it is actually completely forbidden.
If you love the dunya more than you love Allah, there is a problem.
So if trying to earn
the comfort of this world, we are earning the displeasure of Allah we have done wrong.
And we need to remember this and we need to know it. So purification of the heart, purification of the mind is extremely important as well. She is different because her mind is pure. When she sees things, she doesn't jump into conclusions that are negative. Rather, she jumps into the most positive conclusions. Her mind is pure, she she has a clean relation with people she has clean understanding of what's happening. And when she communicates with people is very pure. And this is why we say another point is purity of your companionship.
What makes her different is her friends are all pure people. When it comes time for Salah, they're fulfilling Salah when they're going out, they're all dressed appropriately, that's what makes it different. That is what makes it different. Otherwise, what's the point? Allah protect us. So to vet your friends, and to make sure that you mix with those who are going to may help you achieve that which you are focused upon in terms of the accuracy. That is what makes him different.
purity of companionship,
your purity of interactions, you don't just interact with anyone and everyone because you know that Allah created you and he knows best how your machine operates. simple way of wording it, someone's made a Toyota, they will tell you how the machine operates, you will follow the instruction because you know, Toyota has put in this and this is how you operate it. So when Allah made you and me We are more sophisticated than a Toyota. So he sends the Koran and the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to us in order to tell us how we will be operated in order to achieve success and the best mileage from our fuel. And yet we want to turn away thinking No, I can interact and intermingle. And
I can do what I like with who I like because you know what, I'm an adult, and I'm responsible. And Allah says, hang on, you don't know, the heart and the mind are the most powerful organs Allah has blessed you with. Never, ever give control of them to anyone besides Allah. Otherwise, you will be hurt and hurt very badly.
A lot of people are struggling and suffering depressed because they gave their hearts away to someone they met on the net. And that person is used and abused. Can I tell you, there are a lot of people who suffer because there was a password. There was a password made up of eight characters that was used in order to use them, to get to them to abuse them. What's that password?
I love you. Eight letters. And he continues telling I love you. I love you and he's lying. He doesn't even know what love means he's not focused at all. If he knew what it meant, he wouldn't be telling you.
He would be upright. So that was the password. Once he passed, what did he did he entered straight into your heart. I love you too. Wow, Allah protect us. Then what happened? We are lost. We are gone. Because a year down the line, we are crying, we are depressed. And you can't even tell my father or my mother nothing because they don't have a clue what was going on. And they will tell you you're a fool. But it's their fault as well. They did not play a role big enough in your life to know what was going on. This is why we save your focus, you will know your children are a nygma You must be focused upon them as well. That is Allah subhanho wa Taala who placed a duty on your
shoulders to look after your kids. That's what makes her different. She is focused, we're going to get to that inshallah.
So don't allow this password. Don't allow this password that people are trying to be a password straight into your heart because anyone could say that and press enter and that would be the right password. And so now we are caught we are hooked. And what happens shake man's got grip of us, like I say and I'm repeating this, the heart and the mind are the most powerful organs Allah has given you and blessed you do not allow people to control that nobody shall control that besides Allah. Don't hand it over to someone. No, it belongs to Allah, we will only do with the heart and the mind that which will please Allah. Yes. So when you're married, you have a spouse that handler within the
limit, you will be able to give a portion of your heart and your mind to buy the will of Allah. Why because that's what pleases Allah. But if you give it elsewhere, believe me you're not focused. It's going to come back. And believe me, I'm a counselor. I know what
joking about it comes back to haunt you. Because everything that's rosy the clubs and the nightclubs and the glamour and the nightlife and the parties, people are focused on parties come Friday night, they're at a party. What party? Well, we went to a party, we had fun and we danced and we we had music and everything else. What happened? You're not focused on the Acela? Not at all. Did that party help you at all? No. What do you want me to sit and read the Quran on a Friday night? Allahu Akbar? What an answer. What an answer. No.
Allah grant His goodness, how can you leave the home in the morning without having read one verse of the Quran? How, but we do.
What did I say one verse of the Quran, I challenge you. You want to make a change in your life. Before you leave the home every morning, please, can we promise one verse of the Quran let's put up our hands. When we read one verse of the Quran before we leave our homes in the night Alhamdulillah Believe me, it will change your life. It will change your life. And read it with its meaning understand what you've just read. And you'll see the words of your maker, the one who made you, if you think you falling in love with this one, and that one because of how nice they look and how hot they are, and how sharp they are and how wealthy they are, and how beautiful they look when they
walk in and talking and so on. Believe me, the one who made them should primarily be the one whom you are in love with completely.
That's what it is. But we lose focus. It's Allah subhanho wa Taala, who made us in the first place.
That's what makes her different Subhan Allah. So we spoke about interactions, purity of interactions, purity, of companionship, purity of the heart and the mind. That's what makes her different purity of her dress, because she knows when Allah has instructed me to dress in a specific way, which is beautiful, it is absolutely gorgeous. And Allah knows why he has told that to us. So what makes it different is she does not compete with the law of Allah. Not at all. She knows if Allah told me this, I will follow it because I am the creature of Allah, I want paradise I want Jana. And to be honest with you, I will do what Allah subhanho wa Taala wants of me. And that's it.
That's what makes it different. We don't want to compete with Allah. No, I'm still young, I can move around, make it I can do whatever I want, I can show my legs, I can do this and do that. Well, the one who's attracted to you to marry, you would have been attracted to your legs, then what will happen when he sees legs better than yours, he's now attracted to those.
Same applies to your hair. I always like to say, you know, the shampoo, everyone wants to show how nice it looks when the wind is blowing on my hair. Because I've got thick hair, suddenly you start losing the hair, that's Allah tapping your shoulder telling you put on a
law cover, put on a scarf. And you really don't want to well, we take out a little bit more of your hair.
You're not always the case, but I'm just giving you an example. Don't be offended.
And if he was attracted to you, because of your hair, wait until you were expecting you might lose a little bit more hair than he might look at someone else's hair, then there's a problem in the home, why we will not focus in the first place. He must marry me because of my deep mind. Those two things can get better, not worse.
Not to say that he must not look at what I look like, That's correct, you need to but that's not the focus of it. I can compromise a little bit here and there when it comes to looks and size and age and so on. Those are all things that can compromise. But when it comes to the dean and the whole look, I don't want to compromise. That's what is meant by it.
Then we are focused on purity of speech. What makes her different is she doesn't swear.
Do you swear?
What makes it different is she doesn't hurt people with her time. When we say hurt people with a tongue meaning at a vulgar words are two falsehoods, accusations, gossip. She is away from gossip. That is a true believer. If she's not, there's a problem with her. He man.
She is pure from backbiting. That's what makes her different. What makes it different is she doesn't backbite when others are backbiting she can get up and say my sisters, I love you so much. We are busy backbiting, I'm going to leave, please follow me when you are stopped or when you have stopped backbiting so that I can return and we can discuss something more positive and you walk away. And they're like, Why did she actually just walk out, they can say what they want. They've learned the lesson.
So if they feel hurt, because you are applying the moral that they took is that you are focused upon the pleasure of Allah when they were focused upon chatting about others. So what makes it different is she's worried about her life. And if she's worried about others, it's only in a positive way, not in a negative way. So I'm worried about the poor. I'm worried about the needy. I'm worried about those who are astray how I can get the message across to them, but I'm not ever a person who will stop bothering about this person committed this sin. So let me spread it across the globe. Did you see what she did? And you know, this one did that and that one did this. That's not my business.
What makes her as a believing female, different she considers all this sin. She knows liar the whole gender attacks. Someone who carries tails will not enter Paradise easily. Allah subhanho wa Taala protect us. So we don't want to be carriers of Tales. My mothers and sisters, I really hope that we can take a page from today's lesson.
I really hope we can, we can change our lives, believe me, we can change our focus, and we can become the happiest of people because as I say, who is the owner of happiness, it is Allah and I'm not alone on happiness. All these temporary pleasures are exactly that temporary pleasures. That's what they are. But the ultimate pleasure that is a law that is the focus we should be upon. And this is why we say change your focus back to Allah you will be a happy person goodness comes you happy sadness comes or should I say evil comes in you still smiling at the tequila that he has chosen for you. And you go through with a lot of patience and Allah will reward you for the patience, like
Allah says, in your facade Do not
a lot recompenses those who engaged in sub without limits unlimited. get what you want. Why? Because you were happy at what we chose for you.
So be focused, be happy. Be happy with what Allah has apportion for you, what makes it different, she is focused work to work hard on certain aspects. Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we've spoken about the purity of speech, and we've only touched on it obviously, there are details that you would perhaps want to add on it on your own, you would know what is included in the term purity of speech, we don't lie, we are upright people, we want to utter that which is good, that which will be written next to our names as goodness, we will read the Quran, it is the best of speech. We think Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Then we have
the point I'm making mentioned on about working very hard to do what to serve Allah, to serve my husband, to serve my family, to serve my children. That's including my family, and my community and the oma at large and humanity at large. But that's the order.
So now people tell you know,
he must serve me Who am I to serve him? Well, hang on. There are rights on both sides. Nobody is saying that you do not have rights. Nor is anyone saying he does not have rights. But the term used is work hard on your marriage work very hard. laziness is one of the biggest components of the breakages of marriage is laziness, lack of dedication, lack of focus, wasting time with other things that are not important today, people are
wasting their time on mobile phones so much that if they spent one 10th of the time smiling at their spouse, like a mad person, they would still solve the problem.
Forget about your phone, 10 minutes, look at him and smile. That's all.
Believe me, he would just look at you and smile back.
You solve the problem.
Obviously, I'm telling you something that's on a lighter note. But the point being raised is we spend so much time on items that are few times people whom we don't know, we will never know we will never meet. We haven't a clue there are probably it's a person who's cheating me on the other side pretending to be someone they're not, and so on. And this is Allah subhanho wa Taala has given me a gift of a husband and a spouse or children and so on, and I spent no time with them.
And this doesn't mean that the men should not be dedicated as well. They should be extremely dedicated. You have no excuse. You know, we say don't suspect your spouse. But we also say don't give your spouse reason to suspect you. Both of them are equally important.
We ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to help us work in our marriages. Too many people are unhappy for petty reasons, Petty issues, things that can be resolved and solve why we're not focused. I don't realize I've got a few more days in the dunya. What am I trying to do? I've got children to raise, I've got a couple of to prepare for a grave to prepare for lavaca Alexander's focus. So that's what makes her different she knows. She knows that a sacrifice is required of me to serve to serve who to serve the cause that Allah has instructed me to serve.
Allah bless us and make us have meaningful benefit to everyone around us. The last point I would like to mention this evening.
What makes her different is that she is not enslaved by the adverse environment around. I touched on this at the beginning. Let me say it again.
She is not enslaved by brand names. By trends. Imagine you have a trend people are doing things. So we all want to
Do that everyone has their hair and it comes down to the front and it's painted pink. So everyone has to paint it pink. Why? Because that's what Beyonce did law. Allah protect us. If that is the system of operation, we've lost focus. So what makes her different is she is original. That's what makes it different. She is original, she is herself. She knows I'm a believer, I owe my life and my existence to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, I don't owe it to the trends around me that are an Islamic if there is a good trend of people who are reading the Quran, people who are engaging in halaqaat and engaging in different forms of learning and getting closer to Allah than that is a
brilliant trend. Mashallah. But we are talking of the evil trends around us. a believing woman is never ever enslaved by the trends. Rather, she is original, she remains on the same thing, no matter what the world can come up with all sorts of things. Do you know if you take a look at the shoes Subhan Allah, may Allah protect us, a lot of women are guilty of focusing on shoes. So when you open the cupboard, you have 45 pairs of shoes, you have the clothes and the court shoes and you have the high heels and the slopes and the sandals and so on pink and green and orange and purple and move. Like I said, I don't even know what color that is.
But they've got all the colors. Those shoes are not helping them walk towards paradise. Why? Because they're not focused. I'm focused on shoes. When you get to the grave. Are they going to ask you how many pairs of shoes Did you?
That's what's gonna happen? Not at all? No way. Your shoes are so irrelevant that you are buried without him. Perhaps your children are fighting this pay I'm going to take no I'm going to take okay you take one I take one.
Ella safe goddess. I'm not saying you're not allowed to have shoes. Please just know we'll see everyone barefoot, Allahu Akbar. But are you focused on shoes, because it's the trend. They were this type of shoe. Now I've got that one the way that you can operate with a shoe that's beautiful, comfortable, lovely. And it serves the purpose of your feet. Do you know a lot of sisters sadly have calluses on their feet and blisters because they are using shoes that they do not fit into that are so uncomfortable, but just because they want to wear shoes that are acceptable in the eyes of those who are the slaves of the trends and the brand names they will do that.
So if that's the case, we have a bit of panel beating to do by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala. The same applies to your dress code. The same applies to everything else we don't need to be or what makes her different is she is not enslaved by the trends and the brand names and so on. She's not enslaved by entertainment and parties and nightlife and what have you may Allah subhanho wa Taala help us be focused on the mean he helped us be focused on that which he would please Him and may He take us there and may He make us the best of people who have the best of character. My mothers and sisters, my brothers and fathers who are here this evening Mashallah. A beautiful evening in this
beautiful city in this beautiful country of Bahrain. And Allah subhanahu wa tada brought us together for a reason. And the message I've delivered for you is pertinent to me to start with and thereafter for every single one of us, may Allah grant me humbleness and humility and the same to every one of us. May He make us love one and other than pure true love which is for his sake, someone asks What is the meaning of loving you for the sake of Allah to be honest, we could translate it to mean I love you in such a way that everything from you that will bring me closer to Allah I love the fact that it is in you by the will of Allah you will help me get closer to paradise and anything that is
negative I will help you recognize it and I will help you eradicate it because that is the love In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala it is for the pleasure of Allah to get closer to Allah May Allah subhanahu wa Jalla grant us that particular love We are here only and solely for his sake I hope and I pray what I've said is not just entering one year and exiting the next but inshallah it is something that will meaningfully change my life. Make me focus make me refocus. Make me look back into my life and change a few things such that the day I die I tell myself Yeah, Allah you've given me such a beautiful life time to prepare for the day I'm meeting with you. Here I am. Yeah, Allah
Take me with the mercy of yours can't me gentlemen, may Allah grant us the Shahada the day he takes us I mean, and Allah Subhana Allah to Allah grant us the good words of the of La ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah wa salam, the day he takes us away, may he make it easy for us to go and May he be very, very merciful upon all those whom he's taken away, and may he be merciful upon us the day he takes us away. May He grant us the intercession of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam bearing in mind that we would only deserve it to his mercy and through the trial May we all be from amongst those who can try to be focused because that's what makes all of us different from those who are
totally hopelessly unfocused May Allah protect us all.
Subhan Allah subhana wa salam, O Allah Allah