LOL! Social Media

Mufti Menk


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LOL! Social Media – A double edged sword, 3rd talk from Sri Lank, Glad Tidings Tour.

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salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala Shafi lambier, mousseline Nabina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi.

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We praise Allah subhanho wa Taala we send blessings and salutations upon the one who was sent to us the messenger, the best of creation, the most noble of all prophets, the one who was free as a human being from all imperfections, the one whom Allah subhanho wa Taala had blessed with the best of qualities, protected from all evil qualities from the beginning all the way to the end, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to grant us goodness, to grant us the ability to follow the message of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we asked him also to send blessings and salutations upon all the companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household and all of those who

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struggled through

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The centuries in a way that today we are seated here and the dean has come to us, my brothers and sisters, it is important for us to appreciate the efforts of those who have struggled over the years and the centuries in a way that today we are sitting with the man, and we too should be engaging in a similar struggle. The struggle is free from violence, it is free from extremism. It is free from hurting and harming others, but it is full of goodness good nature, good character, good conduct peace, security, stability. That is the struggle of Islam, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to use us to spread this goodness. We all know that Islam has given so much importance to gatherings. These

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gatherings of a social nature or gatherings of religious nature are given very, very much importance in Islam a lot of importance in the in the deen that we follow the religion that we follow. Take a look at Joomla Joomla is a Friday where the Salah or the prayer is not acceptable unless it is read in a group of people Subhana Allah and it is something incumbent upon the males. And Allah subhanho wa Taala has prescribed it not only in the Koran, but made it clear even through the teachings of Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasallam amazing Juma is so important. I need to meet the rest of the Muslims. I need to know what's going on. I need to meet with the others and ask what is happening so

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that if there is someone in need, I can reach out to them. You are my brothers and sisters in Islam, I am a brother of yours. If I am going through a difficulty you should at least try to pray for me. That is the minimum you should at least feel for me. And perhaps if you could reach out to me in a better way, it would be good. But if I were unable to know what's happening to you and I were unable or if I was a person who did not know or was not bothered, can I be called a member of the alma mater Allahu alayhi wa sallam May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us goodness joumana is indeed something extremely important but it is a broader scale. It is for example, a larger circle. We have

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the day of aid as well where we gather and hamdulillah let us not let the day of aid go by without greeting fellow Muslims. Today as salam has become lil Marika. If I know you, I greet you if I don't know you, goodbye, I don't want to greet you. I look at you and look away. May Allah protect us from this? Did you know that this the greeting of Salaam is actually a dua it is a supplication made for the person you are greeting. May peace be upon you imagine Allah you are asking him Yeah, Allah grant peace to this individual Allahu Akbar. The reason why we are at war with each other today is we are not genuine in our salam, even if we make it

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and many of us would love to avoid the Salah. You find some people to this day you greet them they don't reply. They say this man is not a Muslim this man but yeah, I've got one side of Islam, that's enough for you Subhana Allah, the rest is with Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah help us May he make us love one another. We do not want the crisis in the Muslim Ummah, where the downfall and destruction of it comes from within. May Allah protect us from this really protect your heart, protect your souls, protect whatever you have protected with goodness and understand that you need to look after it as an oma as an individual we hold no weight, no value, but collectively we hold a

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lot of weight a lot of value. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the deeper understanding and give us the tolerance to fulfill that which he has placed upon our shoulders as a duty. So where am I getting? The topic is laugh out loud, we haven't yet laughed.

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There is no laughing it was somber. It started a very serious. The reason I started this way is because some time back we had a lot of time for each other. We would see each other we would greet each other we would talk we would have a meal in the home looking at each other greeting our parents coming back. I recall when we got our first thing in the morning we went to our parents and we greeted them as salaam alaikum. At night when we were going to sleep we went to our mothers or our fathers or both of them, or the brothers and sisters, those of us who do have Alhamdulillah and we greeted them as salaam alaikum. Today if you went at night to someone say the Salam aleikum, they

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will tell you You better come back early.

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Meaning you know where are you going?

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Subhana Allah whereas you are going to bed greet your family members. Those were the days May Allah grant us to return to those beautiful days. We had time we could sit with our mothers and we would just speak about anything and everything. Tell her how school was and what happened and my friends and everything else. And it was such a beautiful relationship and we had less problems. The problems were of a smaller nature and less in number Subhanallah this was the gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala what happened to those days there was a time when

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grandma's sick we actually went out to ask her grandma, how are you? Today grandma's passed away mela grant agenda. We haven't even attended the funeral.

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Really, may Allah grant those who still have the Granny's alive May Allah grant and goodness and May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us to fulfill the right and obligation on our shoulders that those grandmas and grandpas have Subhanallah a day will come when your grandma your grandpa, if Allah wills and wishes, may Allah grant those who don't have offspring, offspring.

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So this is Allah and he is testing us really, you need to make the time you need to drop whatever you have, no matter how important it is, there are times when you have to drop it completely. And the problem is today, we are filling the gaps that we have in our lives, the free time we have with something that is not important at all, it holds no value, it has not benefited us If anything, it has harmed us so panela Be careful. Be careful how you use technology, it will make you or break you. So panela Be careful, we fill our lives with that which is irrelevant. I'm sitting with my phone, instead of benefiting with it, I actually am causing my own destruction by this Subhan Allah

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so these are the days where we are tested in a bigger way because of something good that has come into our hands that we are using in a bad way. If I were to ask you is it is a mobile phone a good thing or a bad thing? I think all of us would probably agree that it's something good I mean technology.

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Who says it's a bad thing put up your hands. Okay, give me your phone Habibi

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luck, but we're not prepared. You see, I told you we might say it's a bad thing mean but you're not prepared to give it up which means something is good about it. So use it in a good way. Believe me if I collected the phones I went ahead at least two 300 phones Mashallah.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us at least we laughed out loud once.

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My brothers and sisters technology is not a bad thing, the way we use it makes it bad. So panela a knife is not a bad thing if you were to use it to eat and perhaps to cut the food or to maybe perhaps to make something halal and so on. But if you were to use it to harm a fellow human to harm someone, something, a creature of Allah subhanho wa Taala then you are the one who's responsible. You did something bad you did something evil Subhana Allah, may Allah protect us and grant us goodness, today we have the iPhones and Mashallah the Samsung's? You know, Samsung, someone told me it was actually a Muslim named Sham soon, but I don't know how true that is. Mashallah. And they

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said over time, they actually did not have the dream, the dream?

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The dream, so you say say it correctly. However, let me tell you that the same device you can correct your dream through the device, did you know that you can actually have applications that teach you that sadri not pornography, Allahu Akbar. But today, take a look at the Muslim countries in the Muslims. I'd like to believe we are affected in a bigger way.

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With the menace of pornography than others.

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Go and do your studies. I don't want to name countries may Allah protect us I have done so in the past. And I thought I'd rather have made the draft than to have mentioned the name. May Allah grant us goodness, may Allah protect us all. While law he pornography destroys you. There is no good part of it. Not at all. It is only full of destruction. The sooner you get out of it, the sooner you will be able to lead a proper life. The more you fall into it, the more you have this derogatory outlook towards the opposite sex and you have a wrong feeling within you and you are unable to satisfy your own spouse, you are not happy because you want absolutely everything that does not belong to you,

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and that which belongs to you, you don't want it.

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That's what pornography does. And people get hooked to it. It is a worse, it is worse than a drug. It is worse than cocaine to be honest with you because it is so addictive. It destroys you from the top from the brain. People don't understand there are several researchers one might argue that what you said is wrong. It's not worse than cocaine, to be honest, go out and research and the researchers are showing different things. They destroy you from the top all the way to the bottom you become a person who cannot concentrate in Salah you are trying to say Allahu Akbar and an image comes into your head. Allahu Akbar. What is that? May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us really

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pornography is such that when the person continues in it, and they repent from it, the repentance needs to be so strong and you need to occupy yourself with something very powerful, something that will definitely take your time in a way that you do not go back because if you have a free moment, your mind will want to take you back you will have these withdrawals. And then what happens then is if you drop again, you will need to engage in tell by once again.

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Be strong. My brothers and sisters in law

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have cases it's just a phase. It's a phase that comes and goes, but it better go quickly. May Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us, may we and our offspring and the oma not be from those who even need to go through it as a phase. It's not a need. Not at all. It's something Haram. But what I mean is maybe not even go through it not even as a little face.

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And those who have been

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tested with that, may Allah strengthen you, brothers and sisters, don't lose hope in the mercy of Allah. Because shapen comes to you after you've been hooked into pornography. And I'm only giving you this one example. We may give more examples a little bit later. But shavon comes to you after you've been hooked on to pornography and tells you you are too far from Allah to turn to him now.

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You are too far from Allah to turn to him. Now. If that is what shaytan is making you feel remember, he's got a more solid grip upon you. Then Subhan Allah, Allahu Akbar, he's got such a solid grip upon you yet. He's weak.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala tells us in a Qaeda shape Arnica novare Indeed, the plot of the devil, very weak, very, very weak, it was weak, it will always be weak, but we become weaker. And we allow someone or a creature who is weak to overtake us don't do that. This is why people look at social media and they start saying very bad. Well, law Hey, my brother, my sister, if it is coming between you and Allah, cut it out. If you are not disciplined, if you are struggling with discipline regarding social media, cut it out. If you have a problem with Facebook, where it's causing your marriage, cracks in your marriage, or it's about to break your marriage, cut it out. That's the

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solution. So panela those who are disciplined those who know how to use it, those who are strict those who know where to draw the lines, those are the ones whom Yes, we will say use it in a beneficial way. That's what we are saying. Even with your mobile phone, trust me, if it is coming between you and your spouse, cut it out. Start using the landline once again. In fact, you will really be so so delighted not to be having a phone ringing all the time. Some people struggle with headaches. There are some researchers showing one wonders how true it is that it is it causes cancer. It causes problems. It causes difficulty hence the rise in cancer. May Allah forgive us. I

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don't know if that's true, but I have read it.

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And you ask people who stopped using phones for example, you know, some people are on the phone 25 hours of the day where they get the one hour extra? I don't know. I think they add on an extra battery after that. Have you seen those batteries?

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25 hours. May Allah forgive us. And yet the person who's right in front of you, your father, your mother, the Hades is at her feet is paradise.

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At her service is paradise. That's what the Hadith says. Correct narration Subhana Allah.

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And yet, we are not at her feet. luck, but what I mean is we don't even talk to her she irritates us because someone who is just conning us is busy telling us how they love us. And someone who really loves us such that they brought us up. We haven't yet told them. I love you, mom. Why I'm too old now. I'm 45

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How can I tell my mom I love your mom. I really love your mom. What's wrong? That's your mother. You might make her cry. If you say to that age, cry tears of joy, warm tears that roll down her eyes, but we don't have time for her. Guess what guys? Can I tell you something? There is another guy on the other side who you think is a girl and you busy saying I love you and I really love you. Show me your photos and do this and he's busy sending you you know some actress's photos and you say Ooh, I got a man.

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Really, we are being calmed by by the by the mobile phone by the devices we have by Facebook and various other things. Have you not read the stories of people who have done this people who have gone the young girls and they are busy thinking there's a young man and when they finally meet, there's an old 73 year old man who can barely walk? And he says no, it was me and if you try to run away they become violent. Haven't you read the stories? There was one a few days ago in the newspapers and in the on the internet. The news feeds about a person who actually traveled one continent to another in order to harm someone he made over the social media. Why? Just because she

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didn't want to marry the guy.

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May Allah forgive us. We become too attached to that which we're not supposed to be attached to. So we struggle and suffer mentally emotionally. someone tells you I love you big deal. So Hannah today everyone is saying like I've said before, how many times have you written lol without laughing?

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I have done it

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you know? They told me what does it mean? I said La la la

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la la Cava can Allah forgive us Really? lol lol and you haven't laugh so how many times would people be telling you I love you and they actually haven't allowed you they just trying to get to you they just want to use you they will want to just have a little party with you and next thing they will drop you out and they will be telling another 50 girls at the same time the same thing yes well ah what's happening ask the youth and they will tell you true

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not true. Okay they try to nod their head you can make them after the cameras leave which Allah Allah forgive us really do not do that do not abuse people they are someone sisters, someone's daughters, someone's mother's someone's for example, and and so on, just like you have you would not like your relatives to be abused. Why are you abusing others? quite simple. That is the hadith of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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Today in the Western world, they are teaching you to say don't abuse a female before abusing her. Think for a moment before getting the beef before even thinking about that. You'd rather ponder over the fact that she is someone system. She could have been your sister. She is someone's mother. She is someone's daughter. Well, that's taken directly from the words of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam. He says when a man came to him and told him or messenger

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I want to

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commit fornication. Wow, I was a builder. Then the lol definitely stands for La hawla wala quwata illa de la la cama. Imagine, he had the guts and the courage Well, the message was for us, he did not commit it. But he said the word perhaps you might have had the idea and he wanted help. And this is why my brothers and sisters reach out for help. And all you who are helping others do not abuse them.

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Oh, you who are helping others do not abuse them. Today we have a sickness where someone comes to you for help, whether it is financial health, whether it is any other form of help, and we abuse the status Allah has given us the wealth Allah has given us to try and lure them into sexual misconduct or something of that nature. abuse them in some way. May Allah forgive us Really? May Allah strengthen us. Where is the oma heading? Come on. We need people who have values, we need morals. So Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam looks at the young man and says, hang on, come here.

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Would you like it for your sister? He says No, I wouldn't. Not at all. Would you like it for your mother? Someone does it? He says no. Would you like it for your daughter? No. Well, they are all sisters and mothers and daughters of someone. So how would you He says, I understand. I will not do this. Well, I will never do this. Amazing. Today the West is teaching us something after they have slid into difficulty.

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But we have the ingredient from a long time ago the Muslims lead a disciplined life. So discipline that Subhanallah if you have to follow through Islam, your problems will be minimized. nobody's saying you won't have issues and problems those are tests from Allah, but they will not come in as a punishment, you will understand that Allah subhanho wa Taala is testing amazing.

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So let me say something, something very, very important. Islam has the solution to your problem. The problem with us is we don't want to follow the solution. Imagine the doctor tells you you need to drink this. It's a little bit bitter, but you need to have it morning, afternoon evening. In fact, let me make it more interesting. The doctor says you want to really be cured from this huge disease you have you need to get up at 15 minutes past two every morning and have five spoons of this fallen you'll be getting up at 30 minutes past to and waiting another two minutes as soon as it clicks. 15 you'll be drinking because you want cure. We need cure for the diseases of the heart Salah is the

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beginning point together with is still far and asking Allah forgiveness. Ask us forgiveness. He loves you. He loves you so much He created you and He wants you to turn to him. He has given you so many opportunities so many people will come to you you will hear it from so many different people. So turn to Allah Don't lose hope in the mercy of Allah subhanho wa Taala he is the greatest He loves you so much. But make sure that you turn to him before it is too late. Never ever be from amongst those who says Islam has too many rules too many regulations. Too many restrictions. I don't want to follow them. Well if you if you do that.

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Then get ready to suffer the same way those who have quit have suffered. They have struggled. Take a look at those who do what they want. They do as they please, and they think YOLO I'm sure you've heard that you only live once. That's what the youngsters say. YOLO every little while it comes back. yolo yolo they tell you You only live once Come on. Let's go to a party. Did you try out the drug? No, I haven't. Let's go. What are we doing sniffing glue.

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sniffing glue you will get stuck on to the devil. Or Oh, Bella. Bella, forgive us really

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Don't even try it there's no point in testing

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motor vehicle

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Mashallah This is the one benefit of social media is we can have number plates here on WhatsApp and we can read them out to you Mashallah, we can even have photographs of the vehicles if you guys would like to see some Hana law. These are the vehicle numbers the vehicle numbers is that k i seven double 03 Mashallah brother. There is a $1 million prize awaiting you outside.

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LG, LG. Sorry, here we are 404078 that sounds like a 40 inch screen LG Did you hear that? 4078 then C double a, a two double five H e seven double six one k x 9382 and k l 2775. These are number plates of some very very good vehicles that are about to be auctioned, Mashallah, so if you'd like to save your car inshallah you can actually get up and we will make drive for you like I say,

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you will make driving Allah bless those who have the courage to get up and move their cars may Allah grant and goodness and their families and their their spouses and May Allah bless them in every way and their sustenance and may they be able to afford another 10 vehicles like those with the condition that they park them in the right place.

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What more do you want me to say my brothers and sisters Here we are. And we are just talking about how to use technology correctly have a vehicle a car is a gift of Allah, it is something it is modern technology to be honest with you so sophisticated, why put it in the wrong place? May Allah forgive us Really? Why put it in the wrong place? So my brother's Mashallah I see a few people have walked out I hope they are the ones May Allah Subhana Allah Allah bless them all, and bless us. May He forgive us all. So the point I was raising was Allah subhanho wa Taala has placed rules and regulations because he knows what we need for happiness. So if I think I only live once and let me

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do what I want, I'm going to pay for it. because let me tell you let me give you examples. Take a look at those who have had affairs just because they've got no values or they let go they let loose May Allah forgive us all for whatever we may have done in terms of sin, none of us are perfect here. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Yes, indeed perfect. Like, like we said, free from defect from the beginning to the end, Subhana Allah with us, we have all these defects and so on, we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to forgive us. But at the same time, never let yourself slip intentionally and you haven't turned back to Allah. Take a look at those who don't believe in Allah, they want to do what

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they want. So they will come into marriage and say, You know what? I want you to sign the document here before you marry. What's the document?

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I will not cook, put it down. Okay, you won't cook. I sign it.

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Every Sunday, I will go back to my father's house.

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Wow. Okay, let's compromise make it a Saturday.

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Every Saturday, what will happen? You go back, he's gonna go to the clubs, isn't it? So you thought you were a big deal. But what happened? It resulted in something bad. It resulted in some I'm just giving an example. But people are doing this today, they are making conditions that are absurd. You know, if it's a condition that's still good enough to say, Look, don't stop me from wearing my dressing and so on. And my duties and what have you and whatever else in terms of goodness, Mashallah fair and well, but at the same time, those who are doing things that are harmful, the harm will come back to you.

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You know, you think, okay, what's wrong with a party? It's just a leavers party at school. What's wrong with it? And that says, Look, don't go, Oh, you can go but let's make sure it's disciplined. Let's make sure come back at a time. Let me come with you. Mom says let me come with you. Let's go together so that I can monitor I don't need monitoring. You think I'm a child? Wallah? How many girls from very good homes have come out of those dances and those parties? Pregnant? May Allah forgive us? Really, it's happening good homes, people are struggling and suffering. They have perhaps not discussed it with others. But trust me, it was just a little party. It took two minutes,

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five minutes and next thing, the whole life was changed. We are not saying it's the end of your life. No, we're not saying the person was bad. But we're saying look at what one slip can do in terms of change of your life. It changed. I'm in no ways judging people. But what I am saying is when we slip we pay, what type of payment Well, perhaps Allah chooses. Some people have a payment that is much more higher in price than others. Take a look at some of the heroes and heroines of today

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on the television and so on. Look at their real lives. Don't look at the lives on the screen. That's just a show. Anyone can act. I can act anyone can act I'm sure you can all act you know, but take a look at the real life of the person. And you will find that it is disaster upon disaster in most cases, most cases. And this is an honest opinion. In most cases, it's a disaster.

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It's not something we're following. And guess what the mobile phones we have the applications we have the relationships we have the Facebook's we use the Twitter's we use and various other things we use the four scores we use and whatever else the meet and whatever else it's called, that we people are using, a lot of it is giving opportunity to people to act, that's all they are acting, they are pretending whom they are not in real life, do not just see what is photoshopped, don't just see a photo that is perhaps, you know, completely changed and edited. Because like we say, you want to be like the girl on the TV, when you won't be able to be because even the girl on the TV is not

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like the girl on the TV.

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You know what that means? herself, she doesn't look like that. It's just completely, you know, five layers of makeup and so on. And she's just pretending like She's so happy. And when she goes home, she's so sad and angry and upset, and she doesn't even want to go home. And you want to be like her, oh, that's my heroine. But look at the real life of the person, real life. If you had to interact with him for a day, you would get irritated. And this is what's happening in our marriages. We meet someone on the internet. I'm not saying it's wrong, but I'm saying the way the follow up is done is perhaps wrong. In a lot of cases, if the follow up is done correctly, where you get responsible

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people involved to meet the person physically, and to try and check up who they are and what they stand for. Perhaps it can work and it has worked. But take a look at the bulk and what's happening. You meet someone and you allow yourself, you know, you allow yourself Subhana Allah to be released to that person, in what way. So the father will tell you my daughter has not left her room. She's such a pious child.

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And here comes a proposal. And she says no. And the father says, Well, she's a very pious child, she doesn't leave her room, she does not go out of this house. today. You can commit sin under your blankets in the darkness when there's no even electricity, believe me because your mobile phone is still working.

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As soon as committed how person gets involved. It starts off in different ways. And then you've got a problem at home and this is why we say strengthen your relationships with your children with your family members. So when they have a problem, they can talk to you and you help them out of it. Don't scold at your child and shout them and abuse them just because they've done something wrong.

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No help them because if you abuse them they will seek comfort over the phone with someone anonymous who is going to be a predator who's going to actually harm them more than anything else but they don't know any better.

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But at that moment of you know low for example, when you when you're feeling low or you have this low self esteem low morale, so to speak, and someone comes in tell you why you're gorgeous. Trust me they don't believe you gorgeous what a day will come with this I never thought you were gorgeous. I just told you to to trap you, la Carmela not make us from amongst those who fall for this. So a person can commit a sin from their phone and you won't know they've allowed themselves to be released to an anonymous person. And this is happening in our homes. May Allah protect us in our offspring.

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And then you find the if they have the courage to confess to you that okay, I'm in love with this person. And sometimes you hear something weird Who's this person? Hey, Dracula from somewhere

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where it's where's this person from?

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You know, the tricks of James Bond. He cannot do them in real life. Did you ever know that?

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This is just an act. It's just a movie. They busy telling you things that are not real. They making you feel nice. So you feeling big? And what happens? Sometimes, or you know what? When parents are strict and the people come to us and say are my father's disagreeing? No reason. This man resists Salah, this man is a good Muslim. This man has this this man, you know, he says the deen and he's such a good man. My father is just rejecting for no reason.

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How do you know he resists Allah. He just told you have you lived with him? Do you see him getting a forfeiture? Have you seen things lavaca.

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You know that having been said, I need to address this issue. Very importantly, my beloved fathers who are seated here.

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Do not be unreasonable when it comes to the marriage of your daughters don't.

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The worst thing that is going on today is when a daughter is married off. And five years later, 10 years later, she tells her husband, I never ever wanted to marry you. The guy I wanted to marry my father did not want me to marry. So I ended up fixed with you. Trust me, you My beloved father, share part of the blame.

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Don't be unreasonable. Sometimes you've got to allow your kids to make a little mistake something you think that is not ideal. Talk to them, convince them I'm not saying don't try to present your opinion presented try and convince them give them the time give them a chance. And if they're still adamant and so on after explaining to them, sometimes it might be not all the time, but sometimes it might be worth it.

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while allowing them to go into something that you consider not ideal, who knows it might work, it might be something better than you thought. And if it doesn't work, they're still your daughter, they're still your child, they will come back to you and love you and embrace you. And you don't have to rub the salt into say, I told you, I Oh, I told you because that's what parents like to do.

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Parents love to do this. I told you business. And nowadays, elder brothers and others also like to do the same thing I told you, I told you anything happens, I told you. So this is why there was a young boy who came to his mom, and he says, Mom, you're gonna tell me I told you. Mom says What happened? Well, I'm not telling you.

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So thereafter, like I was saying, The worst thing is for someone to come up years later and tell you I never ever wanted to marry you. I love someone I met on Facebook. And you know what, I really wanted to marry them. But my dad said, No, so I'm stuck with you. This is why we say my brothers, my sisters, understand the nature of the social media, it can make you or break you. I'm not saying that there are no successful marriages of people who have met online. No, there are some websites that do assist in this regard. And although there was great animosity at the beginning, regarding embracing these websites, the scholars are slowly with lots of restrictions, assisting in this

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regard, because it's become as difficult as it is to marry the right person, the choices have really expanded, and at the same time, we have technology that can help us achieve something. But remember, there are crooks as well. On the other side, there are foxes, there are cheats. On the other side, there are vampires on the other side as well could be. This is why I always say when someone sends you a friend request, be careful with them. You know what, I'm very sad to say something that has now happened, there was a time when every person is considered innocent until proven guilty, right or wrong.

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Today, we would still believe the same because the law cannot change, although some countries might look at it another way. And they are slowly trying to change their law. Maybe not written but the law is beginning to become everyone is guilty besides those who we think are not. However, when it comes to us, we still believe everyone is innocent until proven guilty. When it comes to social media, for your sanity for your goodness, be skeptical of every single person that wants to develop a relationship with you be skeptical does not mean they are guilty, it means Watch out, anything could happen. They are people who are abusing it. So many people collect money using the names of

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scholars and using the names of others. And they have nothing to do with it. In reality, the person himself has nothing to do with him. So it's quite easy to make a page using the name of someone else. And then pretend to befriend others and pretend to say you know what, we have this cause and that cause and we're collecting money. To be honest, it's up to you to verify if you didn't is your fault. Same applies marriage. And this is why a lot of marriages are breaking. Because when you end up living with the person, three days is more than enough to figure them out. Three days.

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You already start feeling uneasy. Oh, I thought this person was really good. Look at this three days, and you already fed up and you go to leave the whole life with him. This is why when you getting married, tell yourself 100 times I'm going to spend the rest of my life with this person. Am I really sure about it? Tell yourself I'm going to spend the rest of my life with this person. Am I really sure about you? We are human beings. We are not chameleons who can change every day, one day, this wife another day. That's why people are becoming fed up of themselves. So what they do they start swinging. I don't know if you've heard this. It's happening in some nations at the moment

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where people go to a party and they swap wives because they fed up. Guess what happens shavon penetrates the home and shaytan comes in effect the person a dirty person is who chipin attacks then this person starts seeing things when they start hearing things when they become literally enslaved by the devil because the genies around everywhere they are they are affected by the Jinglun they don't even know and sometimes it becomes clear to them. Those who have made Toba and turn to Allah have come out and confessed that this is the type of life we've LED. And now that we found the law, we are so happy we are so good. You know another issue for example, very big disease. We love to

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take photographs of ourselves and put them up in a way that people are not supposed to be looking at.

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What this means is okay if there is a photograph, for example within the limits of the Sheree Alhamdulillah but you have women you know they want to show themselves in the greatest of beauty like I've just said two things happen. One is the makeup which covers you completely and makes you look Mashallah so gorgeous. And you know that when you look in front of the mirror without that makeup, you're actually quite depressed. May Allah beautify our women and our men Mashallah.

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Secondly, on top of that, you've actually photoshopped the picture. So you look like a cartoon character Mashallah flawless. flawless. And what happens? We put up these pictures, we have profile pictures. And guess what? When people say You look gorgeous, we say JazakAllah. Hey,

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you look gorgeous, amazing. May Allah reward you for what you just said, Come on, man is saying it for a reason. Why did you have to show yourself and if you have a close group, your family and so on, it depends. Obviously, we know the limits. We definitely do know the limits, but we forget them. We don't think about them. So think about it carefully. Because many marriages are breaking. You have a wife who's starting to be praised by anonymous men across the globe, and even by the Friends of the husband, and what happens next thing, you find them in bed. And that's the complaint that we have today that this woman ran away with her husband's best friend, how many stories would you know,

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May Allah forgive us? We're not judging the people. But we saying it is a crisis. It is a problem that causes disaster upon disaster. And where did it start with a few photos on Facebook, and then we have the leg showing. And then we have the arm showing, we want to show the chest and we want to show everything else. And Subhanallah before it was only the food.

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Now it's the cook as well.

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Now I recall a statement made by one of the youth when he saw food, you know some of the youngsters they just want to eat. When you get slightly older, you appreciate what it looks like you see the little design on the food and you say oh, you know, the person's a little bit more mature. at young age. You just whack it. Whatever is there you eat your Burger Burger. It must taste nice. Alhamdulillah lavaca so a person tells me you know what? This food looks gorgeous. I wonder what the person who cooked it must be looking like.

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So I told him Oh, there's the chef and he was a fat guy with a long big hat. This is how you I said

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Mashallah, Allah forgive us. Really. This is the internet. This is what it does to you your imagination races well be well beyond your capacity of running. This is something you need to know your imagination races well beyond your capacity of running your imagination. You cannot keep up with your own imagination. This is what happens. Why because it's beautified. Well, you see this my trust me if you saw this brother in real life, you would not even want to look at him twice. Obviously we are with all due respect, but I'm using the term brother because we don't want to use the word system. But sometimes people pretend like oh call just be honest a look this is me normal

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general me and that's what it is. So panela don't try and impress beyond

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who you really are.

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So taking photos and putting them up. Yes, sometimes it's something good you've seen something Mashallah you want to share it with the others, you've had something important, you want to share it with the others, it's important for you to share it with others if it's a good message, because let me tell you something of prime importance, in the same way that

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you can use media, the social networking and social media to earn paradise very quickly, quicker than before. Did you know that before if I were intending to talk to 1000 2000 people, it would only be possible here like for example, a hole of this nature, Mashallah, we've got several 1000 here this evening. Alhamdulillah Allah accept a soul. But today I can speak to a million people before I know it 20 million 30 million. So para la how if I put up something interesting, even if my account is unknown, something interesting, the whole world it reaches the world. If it is good, you get a good reward. If it is bad, your sin is multiplied. While I

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calling him, Allah speaks of others, but the lesson is for us as well. They will hold the burdens their own burdens on the day of judgment and the burdens of many others, they will hold them on their own shoulders. So one reads the Quran and says, Is there no contradiction here? The contradiction being one place Allah says you will never shoulder the burden of another. And in this verse, Allah says people will be holding burdens and the burdens of others. It's a simple explanation. You never ever hold the burdens of others unless you are connected to that burden. Unless you are a person who caused that then you are responsible. So this is why we say May Allah

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forgive us how you use your Facebook is very important. And how you use WhatsApp is extremely important.

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whatever else it is, nowadays, there are so many different platforms I can if I were to read them, we'd be here for one hour, and I still wouldn't have made justice to it or done justice to it. So whether it's Viber or WhatsApp or telegram or anything else, you know, Skype or Tango, or mango, whatever else it is.

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We need to be responsible because the people are divided.

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Get into several categories. There are some on either extreme or a lot on either extreme. Some would say No brother. Just use it man. Come on, have fun. Have fun, fun. If you enjoy. You know what it stands for Allah forgive us Really?

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Subhana Allah, Allah subhanho wa Taala Forgive us, we think it's just a moment of fun not realizing its destruction. How long does it take to destroy your life? Take a look at some of the International personalities whose lives have been destroyed because of one nude photograph that they sent someone as privately as they thought WhatsApp was WhatsApp is not private. Not at all. Anyone can dig up your entire history of WhatsApp if they're ready to pay a little bit of money.

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That's what I was told.

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So don't think it's private. Anyone can pick up on it, your history, everything. Whatever you've done on YouTube, whatever you've watched on your computer, whatever was ever seen, your Wi Fi hotspot is registered and you know, the websites you've gone to. It's known. And guess what? While you were busy watching the porn, May Allah forgive us. They were busy photographing you without you knowing you are being videoed, it's quite easy to turn on remotely a video on the phone. And even on a PC, a PC is even easier. Did you ever know that? When if you didn't, and if you're doubting what I've just said, Go and Google it. And you'll see. This is why once I saw a man, and he actually had

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stickers all over his phone to the front of the battery, what's going on is I don't want anyone to take videos of me. And that's when I learned about it. I said, Oh, are you sure? He says yeah, okay, that might be another extreme. But at the same time, we've got nothing to hide. We should never be able to hide people who have something to hide. We should never be people who have something to hide. I've got nothing to hide. If you want to search your search, and you carry on and you go for it. But take a look at how some top personalities have dropped. I'm sure you've seen the news of late. There are people who've done things some time back. And guess what they're being nagged

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because they did not use technology correctly. They allowed their lusts their desires to overtake them, when it came to the use of social media. This is what happened.

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So Mashallah, when have we used our phones to contact our brothers, our sisters to solve problems to invite people towards goodness, when have we used our Facebook and our Twitter to retweet something of goodness so that we can get a reward for everyone who's seen that message? We are building our paradise in a far more easy way than those perhaps just before us. Why? Because we have

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opportunities that they did not have. Today, you can reach a million people like I said, whereas others would have struggled to reach out to even 1000.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us but their intentions were far greater than ours. They were far more sincere than us. This is why a small droplet of what they've done is better than us. Let's take a look at the statement of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam regarding the Sahaba, the Sahaba Lila Juana, we cannot compete with them.

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For one lady enough, see ba ba,

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ba ba, ba ba ba da da Maulana sefa do not speak bad about any one of my companions. The Prophet sallallahu wasallam says, For four I swear by Allah, if you any one of you were to spend

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gold equivalent to the weight of Mount Hood, which is a massive mountain in Madina munawwara it would not be equivalent to a handful of what they spent, or even half a handful.

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It's the sincerity. It's the timing. And everything that Allah intended, the value was far greater. But Allah has blessed us with opportunities, use the opportunities, your mobile phone will bear witness for you or against you on the day of the AMA. So use it in a way that you will be proud of it coming up and saying this, I was only used by this man or this woman to spread goodness and to do something good. Like I said, we don't have time to phone our mothers. But we've got time hours on him for these free calls to people who are just counting us how much they love us. The day marriage comes, they run away.

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It's happening.

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You tell a man if you're serious, come talk to my father.

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And he says wait, wait, give me a little bit of time. What time time to just take you to bed deflower you and walk out.

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This is what is happening. I'm not ashamed of saying it because it's a reality. Protect yourself from it. One of the most powerful things that you have is your Eman. It's a gift of Allah and the discipline that comes with it is only to protect you nothing else is only to save you from the dunya and and the evil of this world as well as the evil of the next lavaca.

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So don't let people fool you. Really and then we

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It comes to the day you say, Look, I'm giving you a deadline. If you're not going to come to talk to my dad By this time, then I'm sorry, I have to move on. And you know what? In your heart, you really want him to come. He never ever had an intention to come not at all. And what he'll blame you on top of that, you put pressure on me. You put pressure on me.

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I'll go away. Don't put pressure on me. It's okay. Okay, I'll give you one more month. You still putting pressure on me? What's all this? How can you make yourself so cheap for what? Tell the man you come you talk then we will speak.

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This is how it should be. May Allah subhanho wa Taala forgive us and strengthen us really, we cry tears, we become depressed, we become sad, we stop eating, we lose our health based on the relationship that went sour that was never really there. We thought that it was there, the other party always knew it wasn't. And they pretend to you that they struggling and suffering when they are not this issue of pretense It is really something that happens on social media.

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Social networking, law cover. And this brings me to another point. And that is my brothers and sisters. The profiles we have what we write about ourselves, let it be something respectful. Let it be something decent, who we tend to follow who we tend to retweet who we tend to, you know, share the status of make sure it is someone responsible, who's saying something good. You don't want to arrive on the day of judgment and having lost just by one inch. lost the success of Paradise, just by one inch. Last Why? Because I retweeted some new girl who was perhaps calling people towards evil. Look at the swear words that are flying around. People have no shame to use the most

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derogatory terms on Facebook and Twitter. And they get 100,000 retweets, Allahu Akbar.

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When we say Quran and Hadith, no one wants to retreat. The minute you say the speech of someone else, there's a few more retweets. The minute you talk nonsense, there is a lot of retweets. And the minute you swear it's complete. It's like the whole world is cheering you on carry on this way, which is to to like think of another one.

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You have people who show photographs that are full of nudity and Haram. And that which really when Allah tells you to lower your gaze, and how it's worded in the Hadith is powerful. When we are told lower your gaze, the gaze is a sphere from the spheres of the devil. Voila, it's exactly that if you have seen something

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that your gaze was not lowered for and you are not supposed to see it. And you, you know, looked at it a little bit more what happens. The image stays in your harddrive at the back. In the hard drive at the back end what happens? It keeps coming. We keep reoccurring, you want to do something about it. You know, those who are involved in pornography at one stage, if they don't help themselves by coming out of it and engaging in Toba and they go further. It doesn't just stop at a watching stage. Now you want to act now you want to perform they start recording themselves engaging in those type of acts and what happens somehow someone somewhere gets it out of your phone. And sometimes you

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might share it with someone you think is your boyfriend or your girlfriend. Next thing is online and you don't know where to hide your face. You become suicidal. May Allah forgive us? So don't do that. It is silly. It is actually stupid. May Allah forgive us? It is something absurd but people doing it does not make it right. Perhaps they have nothing to live for. We have the dean we have respect and responsibility, high morals and values because we want to lead a life full of goodness and happiness. We don't want to leave lead a life whereby every other you know, everything wrong is happening and then we lose our happiness itself.

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Now Allah subhanho wa Taala strengthen us Oh really, we are at an age where we are so fortunate to witness technology, you know, you have the phone Mashallah it has a lock, the lock with a thumb with a thumbprint and so on. It's now old it's actually old technology. And it's come on to the phones it's come on to various other things Mashallah, we are witnessing face recognition and everything else so good Alhamdulillah but at the same time, my brothers and sisters, that very technology is being used carefully to degrade and drop the oma. People are trying very hard to drop us. And this is why every time even if you're opening your email, or sometimes you're opening just a normal page,

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you have an advert. What What do they advertise about? Friends, something of that nature. Something about adults and the inquisitive mind might want to say, okay, you know, I'm a good man. Let me just click, watch out that first click is where you go wrong.

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Don't let that inquisitive mind. Make you drop because I tell you what can happen. People can later on check your history, one day when they want to nail you for something and say well, this

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Man has been doing this and this and this and they've got it all down in you, like gulping to say, how do they know? And sometimes they could be like, How do you know? How do they know? Allahu Akbar? How do we know? Allah subhanho wa Taala really protect us. So sometimes we just inquisitive and we end up doing one thing. You know, some youngsters who spoken to me. And a lot of youngsters are very good at heart. They have a problem. Sometimes they have a different nature. Some of them have the problem of pornography.

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And you know what they tell you, they say, You know what?

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When I it's just like some magic that's happened on me. It's like I just click and before I know it, five hours have passed, internet is used, money is used, everything happens in five hours later, I'm feeling so weak, and I haven't slept. And now it's the time for fudger and just before further, I go to sleep. So I've missed my budget, and everything has happened. And that's gone. Sleep deprivation because you did not know how to use your phone, my brother, my sister, a lot of us, myself included, need to put our phone aside and switch it off and say listen, the world can wait I need to sleep.

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I need to sleep because the phone is so magnetic.

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So sweet. So beautiful. So nice. That we want to spend more time with it. lavaca you cannot marry your phone my brother. You cannot marry your phone my sister Subhana Allah put it aside, go to sleep, you will get up the following morning. You won't know why you're depressed when you eating your mouth. Yo, yo, yo, perhaps you there is an odor from your mouth and your stomach is changing. And you don't know why? Well, you did not sleep correctly. Your eyes are bloodshot. You don't know why people think you're on drugs, you're not on a drug, that drug you're on another drug known as looking too much at the screen. Really, take it out, make sure you know what's going on, have limits

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set yourself. This is my sleeping time and I will sleep here at this particular time.

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You might want to allow yourself a 10 minute leeway, but don't get carried away no matter what it can wait, how many times do people go and check and refresh their pages? refresh the page? Why I want to see what happened.

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He actually said he likes it.

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Like, Mashallah, what's that? So how are you getting so excited more than when your husband tells you he loves you?

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You say, Are you just lying to me? You didn't take out yesterday.

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Come on. Look at this, the people whom you're living with whom in the world to you, they are supposed to, you find fault in them because they are right in front of you. And there's this flawless person according to you, who actually has more flaws than your own husband or your own wife. But because they are only showing you that which seems to be the good side of them. You can't see the bad side. I know of people who have divorced their spouses in order to marry someone they've met online. And after they married, then they come back and say Guess what? biggest mistake of my life. This person is a million times worse than the husband I had before. But guess what? Some other

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lucky woman has got him. And she he's happily gone. He's continued and he's out. And you're the one who stuck. Why? Because you couldn't control yourself. That's all. You didn't understand the deception of the social media.

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You know, social media, like we said from the very beginning, it has its positive and it's negative. The sad reality is a lot of us are getting stuck with the negatives, because we still too excited about discovering what it's all about.

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So you see a they've got this app, did you use it? Oh, I haven't used it. It tells you who is right in this hole right now. What do you need to know that for?

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What do you need to know that for? Yes, if you'd like to come Mashallah to a talk and you want to create, for example, an awareness or a page to say who is going I need to lift and so on then Alhamdulillah but today, people have this habit where you will go out with your friends, but you leave your wife at home. Come on, who's more important. You go out with your friends and you leave your wife at home?

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I don't know why you're looking at me so hard. Maybe some of us have done that already here.

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But really, you go out with your friends. I mean, come on. Who comes first here? Your wife comes first. They can call you a chicken they can call you whatever they want. I'd rather be a happy chicken than to be depressed turkey

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I'd rather be a happy chicken having been called a chicken but I'm so delighted every day pepper pepper pepper Al Hamdulillah Sawa. Mashallah. But at the same time, a person who's just everyone thinks he's Nacho, you know, he's the guy he's the dawn you know, but his life is in a mess. What's the point? His friends are impressed but his spouse is not there Allah help us strike the balance. We are not saying divorce your friends but we are saying when you marry, they become secondary inshallah. Tomorrow we're going to talk about that.

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They become second Yes, they do. They become secondary. May Allah subhanho wa Taala grounders, goodness and ease. So my brothers and sisters let us use this social media and technology and our phones and laptops and what we whatever else we have

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To learn the deal to correct our surgery to correct our recitation to join Islamic universities or whatever else we have on there to join schools to join some learning, you know, something to do with learning to benefit ourselves Come on Allah will question you some people have already done it. A lot of people have done it Subhan Allah, they have benefited they have changed their lives because of how they use YouTube and how they use the internet. You know, there are some people who say don't ever go on in the internet to find out about your deen that also is another extreme because sometimes the you know the access you have to a scholar is through the internet sometimes. So, we

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are saying you may go on it but discipline you know your lines if you are in doubt ask those who are real life people. What do you think of this, get an opinion and then you may continue Subhanallah this particular talk of ours is being beamed across the globe life Mashallah. The brothers and sisters who are watching mela bless you and those who will be watching it later. May Allah bless you to those who will be seeing it perhaps after I'm dead. May Allah bless us all and make it a means of our entry into gender. But it's there so people are using technology in the right direction. Subhan Allah we are being left out. Why? Because we are still busy discovering what the sites are all about

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the friends you know what? Come on. It's enough. It's enough. Live a real life. Don't live a fake life. Don't live a life that is photoshopped. No have the real life because in real life, there is no photoshopping

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law cover. May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us in May he opened our doors. My brothers and sisters I've only spoken on a few aspects of social media. Previously, I've spoken on different aspects of social media. So if we have heard the previous talks and today's talk, it's more of a follow up and now technology is progressing. Things are becoming easier more and more people are using technology. Even the older people are embracing WhatsApp for the first time I know of some older people who refuse to use anything besides a Nokia 3110 and the Nokia 6110 Do you remember those? See all the old people saying yes because they've got them in their pockets Mashallah. We respect you for that

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but there are some who have now gone beyond that and they've said look, it's becoming cheap. It's free to message each other. You know, you have a little WhatsApp bundle in my country. There's a WhatsApp bundle you pay $3 and do what you like for the whole month. Wow.

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That's amazing. WhatsApp bundle but it doesn't mean that you need to be so typical that because it's free, you make you abuse the system. You know some people have a problem when something is free. They become so typical that they want it

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they want it you know I recall

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in fact let's not give that example but perhaps perhaps we can give you another example.

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When phones back at home they said you know landline was losing because of the internet and because of the fall so they said okay, landline to landline 59 minutes free Wi Fi so you pay your monthly subscription and if you're calling another landline is 359 minutes. So you know those have got nothing better to do they would phone speak for 59 minutes 58 they put an alarm Did he say hang on a phone you back in two minutes, put the phone down, pick it up again and dial again. Come on you abusing the system. You don't need to talk about everything. You don't need to talk so much make the dhikr of Allah it's better for you. Praise Allah Allah I love you say it in English in any language.

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Oh Allah you are the greatest Oh Allah I love you all helped me to develop a link with you. Oh Allah protect me from evil Oh Allah strengthen me so I stay away from bed. Oh Allah strengthen me so that I can fulfill my duties unto you all make me a better person. Allah make me such that the day I die I'm the closest I ever was to you and Oh Allah have mercy on me. Grant me Jenna grant me the intercession of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Allah helped me bless me grant the goodness can't my family goodness my children, talk to Allah. Imagine how much I just said in less than a minute. Imagine if we had to speak to Allah for one hour. A lot of us would probably say I don't

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know what to say. But with Allah the beauty is you repeat the thing. You repeat it if you say Subhana Allah you don't just say once you say it a lot of times Subhan Allah May Allah subhanho wa Taala help us really so use it correctly, it does not mean that the thing is free that you just need to use it to sell

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it's become so so cheap to sell really so free. But if you look at it, the other side the flip side it's become equally cheap. Or should I say when I say cheap here i'm not talking of cheaply I'm talking about that which is cost free. It has become cost free

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to do good deeds as well.

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You can do a lot of good deeds so many beautiful messages lovely clips, Mashallah people are sending reminders to one another reminder my brother to good my sister do good Mashallah Baraka you have the daily reminder you have so many other different platforms, Mashallah you have the hadith of a day if you whatever you want you

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can see you can listen. Different people use different platforms for different reasons. Select those who are doing good and Subhanallah benefit from them if that's the case, and share it with others. Don't just be, you know, miserly and have that only for yourself, share it with others and you will see by the will of Allah Your heart will be at peace and ease while you were discipline. You understood the values you are supposed to live by, on and off social media and you gave value to the real life people over those who were distant you know, in Islam, there is a ruling. If I'm talking to someone

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you are not allowed to come in and just button without permission. Did you know that?

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If I'm talking to you, it is disrespectful. So for a third party to come and say, just barge in and take over the discussion. That's very bad. So imagine today we allow

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a phone really we're sitting on the table and I've watched this

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at a restaurant people went Hey, let's go out to eat Okay, let's go to eat. Everyone's on their phones. What are you we don't know this watch them. You can take a photo of them they won't notice they all on their phones each one all on their phones. And then one guy says what are we having to eat? This is I just choose

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to Okay, what you you we're here to talk you We're here to get together. A meal is a social event that is very valuable. Very, very high in value. SubhanAllah and here you are just on your phone. And now they've got a new one. I don't know if you've seen it. We're going for a meal guys all of us. Let's go so everyone's gonna say put your phones in a stack. First person to pick his phone pays the bill.

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And guess what? wise jack comes with another phone in his pocket.

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He comes with another phone so his phone is there but he's still on his phone. Now Allah forgive us. Really? If people have to think that up. It means there's a problem.

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Put it down mealtime turn your phone off. The world can wait. Honestly.

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Right now I'm speaking to you. My phone is in my pocket recording this as soon as it's over. I'll try and push it up on the net inshallah Muslim Central audio by the will of Allah. It's on flight mode because I don't want you to imagine it brings you in. Hello, guys. Hello. Hello. Hello. I can't hear you try again. Hello. Hello. Put the phone How would you feel? You think this man is mad? He's crazy. But to be honest, a lot of people are doing that and they're not crazy. They just overtaken they're intoxicated by technology. That's what happens. You become you somehow you lose your senses. Take it easy, put the brake on, you've got the latest vehicle Mashallah doesn't mean you just drive

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at full speed. You've got to slow down and stop this red traffic light come on.

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And my brothers and sisters, the worst thing you could do. May Allah forgive me. Forgive us all. The worst thing you could ever do is to be on your phone, texting while driving.

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You are putting the lives of others at risk. You are committing murder, they might call it culpable homicide. But to be honest with you, you are guilty of doing something Haram in the Sharia. Because you cannot drive and text at the same time. It is impossible, totally impossible. Something somehow will happen. And I'm sure those of you who have tried it myself included I told you Allah forgive me Didn't I start with that? Allah forgive us all we need discipline. And this is why I'm talking to you. We share things in order to encourage us to do the right thing. That's what it's all about. So I recall I tried to text and I look up and before you know you go to slam the break or you go to

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make a quick turn. You're lucky. That was a law telling you Hey, the next time you might go straight into the law can Allah help us my brothers and sisters beautiful topic. We can continue inshallah, but perhaps next time, we might have new technology to be speaking about and we might be speaking about new things. today. We've just spoken about a little bit. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us makers from amongst those who can protect ourselves from the evil of social media. May He make us use it in the right direction. Or sallallahu wasallam albaraka la Vina Mohammed Subhan Allah Subhana Allah Mohammed Ganesha La La Land