Dressing of Muslims

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Pertinent Matters related to the dressing of Muslims today.


AI: Summary © The speakers emphasize the importance of dressing in public, avoiding revealing one's condition, and being mindful of what is supposed to be covered. They stress the need to be mindful of what is supposed to be covered and not just the fit of the body. The speakers also emphasize the importance of dressing in a conservative way to protect from disaster and avoid embarrassment, and encourage people to try their best to avoid "monster society."
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Five minutes past nine Central African time, Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. And welcome back to all mine focus this evening. My name is the prime Mousavi broadcasting across the world ci broadcasting.com. And you can also catch us on DSTV and mobile streaming audio channel 865. We talking this evening, a very important discussion in Sharla coming up, and this is about the issue of dressing modestly in debt dressing and Islamic guidelines on dressing. And this might be seen as a very simple issue a very, you know, a done deal, something that everybody should logically know, these are things that are taught imbibed within us from an early age. But as we learn from the

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prophets of lower Islam, and we learn from the Quran, for the cure for the cotton from meaning that reminders are beneficial for the believers. And that's exactly precisely why we're talking about this topic this evening. And sometimes we might be earning sometimes we might be on the erroneous side, but we may not be aware of what we're doing to ourselves or what we're doing to others, or those who are under our our direct command. I guess if we're talking about children, are we talking about other members of our family? And this discussion actually came up? What what motivated me prompted me to have this discussion just with a member of the community the other day, outside the

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masjid and you know, he basically quizzed me on some of the topics that we're discussing on air. And he says, Why don't you talk about dressing? Why don't you talk about, you know, the modesty that we see around us and he is somebody who's a businessman, he travels quite a bit and he says, From House to House, he goes sometimes. This was an observation he made. He's quite shocked that sometimes mothers as he described them, dress worse, again, in his words worse than their daughters. And he found this quite shocking. And he says, we need to bring these discussions up from time to time to remind us and that's exactly what we're doing this evening in the company of Mufti smile monk who's

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joining us this evening from Harare. Zimbabwe. Let's welcome him to the show. Sarah monokuma rahmatullah wa barakatu multocida.

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Aaron for joining us this evening and in sha Allah, reminding us or us all ourselves included on a very important topic, where do we start exactly when we talk about Islamic dressing when we talk about modest dressing,

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we you know, we could say that this a certain type of club that's perhaps established from the sun and so on, but before we go to that extent, what is the general guidelines both for male and female, what's the principles that we should be adhering to when we when we dress move, decide?

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name of Allah, most Gracious, Most Merciful. The first thing we need to remember is right at the beginning, when Allah Subhana Allah, Allah created Adam and Eve is salatu salam and Hawa Alina Salatu was Salam. They were not in need of the clothing because Allah had already created them in a way that they're so you know what he would turn the machine was actually covered, or they were no private parts that needed covering because Allah had already granted them that but after we sin was committed and so on, if we take a look at the Koran, the first thing that's mentioned is as soon as that was committed, they, they they found themselves exposed, and immediately they drew from what

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they could get from around them. And it was immediate, that they covered themselves as best as they could. From this, we learn the most powerful points the fact that it is part of not only human nature, but the plan of Allah subhanho wa Taala that we cover ourselves for two reasons. One is in order to get the private part covered in our art and so on. And two is for beautification, you know, Allah subhanho wa Taala enhances the beauty of an individual when they are covered in a specific way. So some kind of light if we look at the Shetty, it has placed a guideline or guidelines, let's use the word framework within which we should find ourselves covering and to mention just the

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general framework of the covering. It is important for us to note before we even see what the general framework is that you see closing is so important that it actually attracts us to the opposite sex when we are clothed properly in the correct way which means the attraction would be the correct manner.

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We would be seeking the permissible means of being in the company of the opposite sex if we are dressed appropriately, we are not mean we would be seeking the wrong means of getting into the company, may Allah Subhana Allah Allah protect us, this is the strength or the power of clothing. And Allah subhanho wa Taala has as I said, laid down this framework, the general framework includes the

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type of covering and that would be the covering that has a material of a specific nature, which means that material which is not too thin, but it is see through and not too thin, that it depicts the shape the precise shape of the organs. So, it would be slightly thicker and I do know people would complain perhaps Oh, it's summer only to this and that, but we are taught now, I should do you know, what would rather cover themselves and face the rising temperature of two degrees because of the correct dress and to be burning in something that would be absolutely intolerable. So, the type of material we use is of utmost importance and this is a ruling not just for females, but even for

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me, and secondly, what you know, the type of covering that is or the type of the type of fit is it should be a loose fit. So, the material should not be so, thin number one, and number two is the fit should not be tight. And to be honest with you, when we do this for the sake of our maker who made us we will find so much of social Blitz manager Blitz you know, goodness within the home. And you know, we will be automatically becoming role models for our own children and so on, without even uttering a single word in most cases. So, generally, we would first talk about the type of materials and the covering, you know, sorry, the type of material and the type of and, and when we need to

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know what exactly to cover. So basically, for a men, there are two things that we need to know. One is the basic our you know, if you really do not have clothing as such, you know, obviously there's a private part is considered from the middle to the knees. But if you do have clothing and you need to dress appropriately cover yourself, you know, your chest, your back end, or what have you, this sport should be actually covered. It doesn't mean that okay, just because the private part of a man in the books says that between the navel and the knees. So now I can pick up like that into the masjid or I can go like that into the public. That's actually a misunderstanding. The truth is, if

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we do not have clothing, or if we really need to remove, then that which needs to be covered at all times would be from the navel to the knees, for a male, but

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in the case of almost all of us we cannot afford clothing and so on, we should be covering very, very well. And this is why with us we are taught that even when we get to Salah you know the Koran speaks about hoodies enough to come in that couldn't be less you make sure that you adorn yourself correctly. And what Reena means is to wear the correct vest which is

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not belittling the status of the masjid and the status of Allah subhanho wa Taala itself. So we were planning that would be covering ourselves, you know, if you were to go for a meeting with a, with a one of the the top people around, maybe that would be that person would always be lower lower than a Muslim, Hannah Montana. So we need to be dressing in a specific way covering that when it comes to a female, then the entire body besides the hands, feet and face that must be covered. There are lots of hands on with Allah bless us and then she should make an effort also, to to to cover the face, you know, like we would always say if he's a religious injunction, it is something that a female

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should be inshallah by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala getting to in terms of the stage, but the bare minimum would be the set of Salah you know a person is not allowed to fulfill Salah a female, if he is showing, for example if her legs are showing or if more of her hands are showing besides gifts, up to the risk and so on. So, it's important for us to know this and we should understand that it is the nature who made us who has ordained it and he does not ordained things for nothing you know, everything he has sent down. If we follow it we receive fruits in return and we will we will taste and feel and benefit from the fruits of following the instructions of Allah subhanho wa

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Taala if we discard them, then we will definitely you know have to push the brittleness of having allowed the fruit to rot if I can work with that way or by

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of having discarded that entire gift of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So the gift of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah are not just, you know, another day in order to benefit Ummah, but in fact, in order to benefit us, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to give us, you know the correct understanding of what to cover number one, number two is how exactly to cover it in terms of both the sick as well as the material and bearing in mind that this is to do with both male and female. And one point before we move on to anything else is that the issue of looking is extremely important in the sharing are or should I say has been given a lot of

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importance has been made mention of specifically because the eyes are actually sometimes guilty of having instigated the inner self proceeding something that is not possible, because we did not control ourselves in terms of in terms of we looked, now, lots of Hana. Bless us, for one mighty, my brothers and sisters, we are to control our eyes for the sake of abroad, you know, the amount of coolness that we feel in our own homes, with our own spouses with our own family members, we feel so contained, so comfortable, we feel so much in terms of appreciation of the spouse we have, and so on. Whereas if we allow our eyes to wonder, we become people who are never ever satisfied. And this

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is the beauty of lowering the gaze is a person will then become satisfied with what they have. We are not bothered about lowering degrees. And a lot of people have this nice notion or they think, you know what, those were the beginnings of a long time ago that things have a long time ago used to lower their gaze a good afternoon we we can come on, we can look for like my brothers and sisters, do you know that there is a payment that is actually paid as a result? I mean, it's like a fine that you pay for having looked in a certain direction, that's fine is in the term, or should I say in the form of thoughts and ideas that bog your mind that perhaps, you know, prevent maybe your sleep

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unnecessarily, sometimes perhaps makes you wonder that things that will never be yours are never used unless you do something totally wrong. Like the heartbeat says that, you know, the gaze is like a spear of the devil. You know, once you throw that data onto your, you know, the car, should I say if you're a hunter, it would be the gazelle or whatever else you would follow it to until until you actually mean so to speak. Now Allah says goddess, so a person's contentment is lost. And at the end of the day, they live regretfully, because they know that I've lost so much I lost my family, I lost my I lost my that I lost my children, I lost whatever I lost, because my game, you know, had I not

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looked in the first place had I not followed up in the first place, I wouldn't have been sitting in such a big loss. So imagine if you go back to the salon, where love is about Gina and about adultery and fornication, where he says one, as you know, it's one of the few things that he says, didn't even come close to it. And even if I shouldn't have also explained that it starts off with just a deed, you know, the look. So let's be careful, because it's not good enough for us to say, Okay, I'm covered up. But you know what, looking at people that need to speak, your mind starts working. And you know, nowadays with technology, so easy to actually push forward the the the cause of the devil

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as much as it is easy to push for good cause we forwarding messages, and things and so on. So by the will of Allah subhanho wa Taala let's understand the importance of covering what is it that's to be covered how it's supposed to be fitting, meaning you know, the fit should be loose. And at the same time, the type of material that we use should not be revealing the organs of our body. And like I said, males and females included, there are lots of hanahan with Allah bless us. I do know that a lot of males are guilty of different things for females

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for both, and even the clothing for both now.

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Let us perhaps at that juncture

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zoom in a bit on this concept of a job for for males, because as you correctly point out, just over the weekend, we commemorated as a new event on the calendar the world he jumped in and the first thing that people think about when it comes to hijab is you know, the the niqab. It's it's the scarf, it's it's all types of manifestations of the hijab for females, what exactly is the hijab for men? And what are perhaps some pertinent pointers or pertinent observations that we can make of where men are falling short in terms of their obligations to to fulfill their job.

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That's a very, very important point. And I think many people have also asked me to, you know on about advice on this particular

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aspect and I'm so happy that today we have the opportunity to discuss it with a much broader audience. To be honest, you know, the female he jabbed

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extends through to from the dress code, you know, to the way they speak, you know, when I say the way they speak, I mean govern, their speech is governed by a dress code is governed and so on. Exactly the same applies to the male as the gaze is governed, by the way we speak is governed and at the same time, the the what they dress with is governed. This is why the Koran speaks of something important Allah says, what he does with dakoda radica you know, at the closing of piety, that is what is the best clothing of piety refers to so many things one of them is your character and your conduct that is an extension obviously, of your clothing because you can be dressed however, you

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well, in terms of Islamic dress code, but if your character is such that you're vulgar or you you don't have morality, morality or decency in your speech and so on, then what's the point you know, you dress Mashallah, he's got this nice beard and, and handler, you've got this job on or Kuta on or whatever else you've got on. But the Subhanallah the way you speak, It's so dirty. And it's so what you know what else a lot of the men don't realize part of their job is to speak to, you know, to make sure that you are a good word and not an unnecessary speech. Like, just like the women if you know, for female answers the phone, for example, part of the job is to be polite, decent state to

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the point and no, no sort of flirting even in the voice and even in the tone. That is part of the job of a female. But you know what, it also applies to a men. So if I were to speak about changing my tone, and if I were to flirt and if I were to unnecessarily ask you the questions of the best part of me, actually flouting the hijab rules that are upon me, because I also need to speak properly. If you take a look at the reason. Another reason sort of

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stuck with me. And he says, Nina,

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tell the believing men first, before we even the women starts off the register with the ruling to deliver instruction to the men to lower their gaze and to protect their chastity and protecting chastity. You know, we were talking of where we are lacking, to be honest, a lot of the men and the boys were very tight, you know, those tight jeans, they might seem evil in the mics with everybody else. But to be honest, as we can do better, and you know, I'm a person who really tries to abstain from being judgmental, and on a one on one, so to speak, but to speak about an issue that exists in society is our duty. So for us to encourage in the best way possible that the sweetest words we can

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use, is for us to say, inshallah we can do better. And that would include myself, you know, even the way I dress back even the clothes that we wear, or the goods that we perhaps can modify the material on it, you know, people now have the capital as well, I know, when I was in Moscow recently, I was quite surprised by you know, the sippy cup of the talk and so on. And I'm thinking to myself, you know, where are we heading in the beginning to look more feminine because the way it's being cut is wrong. But the thing is, a lot of youngsters You know, there's nothing wrong with it, you know, I'm covered. Okay, that's only one stage. It's like what we tell the sisters when you move from a

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miniskirt which is unacceptable to a jeans that covers your entire leg, what we will tell you is and this is something that that that is obviously a statement, which is based on what is occurring in reality on the ground, you know, we need to be realistic as much as we would like to be idealistic, but the truth is, when you are realistic, you can help more people. So, if a person has shifted if a system has shifted from a manuscript to a to a jeans, we will tell her look, we know the argument, Dr. Sharma, you can still do better than improve but at least it's a step forward, you have to acknowledge improvement. You know, the problem with us is we do not acknowledge improvement because

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for us, you know, she's still a stranger. I've got weaknesses so do you answer that everyone out there have a different nature so you acknowledge that this system has done so well by by by abandoning that miniskirt and putting on a trouser We are not saying that that's ideal. We're not even saying that that's acceptable in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa Taala but between us we know that she's made such a great effort now The same applies to the moon but the moon ones need to tell them because perhaps they are not known as feminine they're known as masculine so we need to come out and you know, address the issue to say look, this time to loosen them up a little bit, you know,

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perhaps you need to know that it's not supposed to be fitting some of us now and the boys have gone as far as showing their undies in public you and I know that and the whole world knows that there's no point for us to pretend like it's not there. And not sure so that they want to show the brand of undies so there's a big cabinet sticking out. And on top of that you have a shirt where you know half of the buttons are open the hand

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The chicks are showing. And you know, we have this tight fitting shirt that is wrong. That is, that is, you know, as bad as a woman who's wearing a tie jeans and so on. And there are lots of kind of Goddess. So if you really important for us to know that, to remove the way he speech is important to, you know, to improve on what he says how he says it and so on is very important to improve on, he's gained very important to improve on Allah grant us all goodness of that, and you know, protection from from the disasters of a bad day. And at the same time, we need to know that the price of clothing, you know, I have found my own personal experience, that the type of clothing,

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there is a constant, upward movement in terms of earning closeness to Allah, throughout our life, you know where I am today is better than where I was yesterday, no matter who I am, because I can still improve. Like I said, even if you were in a quota or sold as we would call it, or whatever else, there is scope of making the material a little bit thicker. You know, I know of some people they were a little short on the need to be honest, we can improve on that, because the idea is to cover yourself in a way that the material is correct as well as the weight is not tanky does not expose a does not expose your organs, unless for example, the wind is blowing, that's an exception,

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because a lot of

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the wind is blowing for example. For example, say, we walking and so on and you know, sometimes part of the shape of the logo, whatever else happens to be depicted in a very slight way in that particular instance, the onlooker is actually reminded not to let the gaze drop back which is prohibited. Now I do know that a woman is generally more beautified, you see. So this is why the Koran uses the term Xena, for a woman married to Dina Xena tahona she should not display her beauty. So there is much less that a man needs to cover a compared to a woman because a woman's hand would be appealing, you know, her part of her leg would be appealing and so on. Whereas with the men,

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although that would be appealing to women and so on, but a little bit more his hands would be exposed to these, obviously, he needs to work and so on. But unnecessarily No, we should not, you know, it's something extremely important. And I think a lot of us can do much better in terms of the job of, of the move, or it's actually a term sheet job, but to use it for the males, you know, some may raise a little query and say, Look, that's not the term used in the,

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in the hobbies and so on. But what is using the foreign leader, you know, the clothing, and we definitely need to come to it and understand that clothing for men in machinery is made up of your character, your conduct, your gaze, the way you know, your clothing, how you cover it, how much you cover and with what you cover. So we ask Allah Subhana Allah to Allah to make a strong inshallah and I want to just before we move to another point, make mention of a very interesting encouragement to all my brothers out there to say, do you know what, if you were that which would go below your bottom inshallah, by the way, Allah subhanho wa Taala. If it were to go to your knees, or just above

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the ankles, in terms of dress code that would identify you as a Muslim, it is far better for you than anything else. The reason I say this, is not only because that's what we've been taught, you know, from the chain coming down, from rasulillah, on and on and on, but on top of that, it prevents us and protects us from it prevents us and protects us from sin as well, reminding me that also, the beard is part of the closing of a meeting, merely supposed to have a bid. Now let's strengthen our move as well to grow their business part of their clothing is part of their identity is part of the requirement that Allah has laid down. And I know that we have some very, very good men who may have

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that weakness, but I am full of hope that you know, we can achieve some encouragement and I normally tell the young boys that you know, if you using Gillette you know, it's easy to miss some time and have one here every day that you miss out. So by the end of the year, you will have 365 days, you know, going down by a loss of knowledge. And, you know, strengthening yourself in that way because

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if we dress appropriately say I have a beard, I'm dressed as as identifiable as possible to a Muslim. In that case, I'm automatically restricted from a lot of things. People would respect me differently just like a woman would interpret. for her to be pulled into sin would be a little bit more difficult than a person who is

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uncovered and so on, although bottom line is depends on the topo and so on, and this is why I love his departure stuff was added to hide even the clothing of piety not necessarily, like I said, piety in terms of the type of clothing but even piety in terms of the consciousness of Allah is part and parcel of your

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way that you could close yourself is with piety with the consciousness of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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it's half an hour into the discussion. 30 minutes past nine Central African time you just joined us we're talking about dressing Burton reminders relates to Islamic dressing. For both the males and the females, any questions you might have? You can call us Dallas live zero double 14947 double 07 and in South Africa with text message number is 32414. We've got questions on hijab, you know, females hijab, Islamic garb, fashion garb that defeats the objective of hijab. We also got questions on sports t shirts and the permissibility of wearing such such garb on a regular basis. Many more questions to answer we'll be back with this discussion after a quick break.

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Hello, my focus continues with tonight we discussing hijab and modest dressing for both males and females. Our guest is Mufti Ismail menk joining us from Zimbabwe is bad before the break, we spoke about the concept of hijab or the past for for males and how we should be more cognizant about this discussion that comes up and perhaps it's it's applicable to youth it's applicable to older people, males and females, sports t shirts, you know, obviously they've got slogans, they've got words, they've got advertising on them. What's it some general guidelines, anything we've got to say about sports t shirts?

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You know, I think

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what is very, very important for us to know is that as the body we have is an Amana from Allah subhanho wa Taala how we cover this Amanda is determined by Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, due to our weakness, sometimes we allow ourselves to do things that perhaps we are oblivious of, or we might not know even sometimes. And maybe sometimes we just think there is lighting and so on. Very interestingly, I was in Dubai not so long ago and one of my friends took me to a Masjid there and at the door of the masjid is the more of the more he's one of the keepers of the masjid. And he's His job is to send away anyone who is dressed in anything besides, you know, what we would term the

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Islamic dress, like, you know, sold and so on. or smart, casual with no numbers, no adverts, no signs, no nothing. And he tells you this is out of Allah. And Allah subhanho wa Taala it's not the freaking status to have a gift of this nature, please, can you change and come back. And I was shocked because Dubai is so modern. But it woke me up to say Subhan Allah, we in our countries, and perhaps even another massage in the same city. We don't even have those restrictions, we've never thought about it. And on one hand, I was meant to stop others coming to the machine. And I said to myself, well, you aren't allowed to have rules and regulations because people's addiction is

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becoming so bad, but half the people are actually showing top of the hour when they go to food without even giving backing an eyelid. So when it comes to the sports, t shirts and so on, I do know Mashallah that you know, we all play a little bit of sport here and there differently and so on. And we would be more comfortable in gear that is permissible to wear in the shediac. In terms of a tracksuit and so on, and you know, that which would be below the anchor below the moon 10s of the males. However, we should know that one is we should never ever be allowing ourselves to do that which is prohibited completely such as, I think some of the big some of the football teams and so

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on, they've got animals and you know the eagle and perhaps a little lion and so on which is quite well drawn in terms of clarity, you can see clearly how it is according to what I was actually told what some of them even have more of a devil sort of an image some of them have snakes and so on. That it's not befitting the amount of the body that Allah has given you and such brilliant health for after insulted by putting on it.

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You know, animate objects which are definitely prohibited to wear. Now lots of handholds to protect us also, no matter how much you might be supporting a team and so on. Be careful of just putting the T shirt on based on the fact that you support them. They are restrictions you know

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You can, similar color may be bought, you need to know that, first we must not have anything enemies on it. And it must not be advertising messages cheap and dirty. Sometimes the words written on some of the T shirts are so dirty, so bad. Why should we use the beautiful house? You know, sometimes for good shoot, but unless kicked us in? Yes, we might have made an effort, but it's still known. You know, today I was making sure you did for each house was selected. And I thought for a moment.

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There are some people here who cannot make to us, and you've chosen me, you've allowed me to get into such that position without even thinking no headache, no nothing and handed in. And I said, Can you keep me this way up to the end of the day I die, I don't ever want to come across the day, when I put my head Institute and suddenly I've got a big headache, or I really probably you know, I can't get into that position because of some reason. Now, the same would apply for us when it comes to clothing, we should be ashamed of ourselves if they have not given us the, you know, the, the good, prim and proper shape that Allah has given us and so on the say, the body that has blessed us with,

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and we are using the body to advertise some Tom, Dick and Harry across the globe, and you know, some daikichi statement or someone else, you know, sometimes we have

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people who are really promoting wife and evil behavior, which is unacceptable in Islam, and we are busy promoting them on our T shirts. And then it is not just the sports as you might think it's just the sports here, but

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there's no such thing, just

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coming into back what was born. So I'm not trying to be hard or something, we're just

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let's take a look at really standing in intention.

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And then you find becomes less inshallah, because the owner of the house, we are trying to please Him. And at the same time, we are saved from so much in terms of damage that might happen to our bodies, May Allah forgive myself and yourselves, for even we may have done that has displeasing in any way. And nobody really make us stronger in this regard. So as much as we'd love to wear clothing, you know, to to kick a ball around and so on. It's important for us to know what type of clothing have we won and we know of, you know, great Muslim legends, for example,

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a brother like Hashim amla, for example. And I definitely do know I'm happy and proud to dimension this as well, that he may Allah grant in goodness and strength and success in the DMV. But definitely worth making mention of the fact that he's gone to great lengths, great, great lengths to ensure that he's not advertising that which was just in the middle of a game. So we need to learn from this. And I think he's also close with the beard, which is proper. And this is something we need to learn from who says that you have to be clean shaven and you have to be doing this any doing that in order to, you know, to be recognized as a spokesperson or even in order to be able to be

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acknowledged as a human, which is what some people think, you know, I am prim and proper. And the rich man, I've got a big business, I'm a CEO of a company, or

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CEOs of bigger companies and they've got much more in terms of acquiring their clothing. And they have to go to a far higher up the ladder in terms of achievement in the sports even though

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they've also achieved much more than us in terms of supply when it comes to clothing, so we can learn from them in China. So I hope that some of these role models can actually be a means of inspiration for us all when it comes to the sports field. One thing I definitely need to offer my brothers I am going to say this because I'm passionate about it.

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The House of Allah subhanho wa Taala and let's please take out those teachers that even if they put a number on it, according to what I've learned, and according to what you do know that never ever in the history of the time Islam has been one of the Sahaba and so on in the great scholars of the demon those who

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have got the deal from

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infinite writing on it, you know,

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with any form of writing you know, that's largely not only does it distract people but advert or whatever even if you can number what you come into the house of Allah subhana wa tada and I know this happened to 111 of the boys came to me and said given what

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number is it range rule number I'm just trying to think and I'm thinking

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somebody came into the machine with a number on the on the T shirt, and it was a sports feature for some football team. And the distractions which is number but the distraction is the guy who spoke to me afterwards is telling me I was in grace trying to remember who I

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Who's number but he's actually in that particular team and I'm teaching the poor fellow see she only came into the machine with one number written on the T shirt, what's the big deal, his father will probably swing any admin who tells him Don't come with this *. But he doesn't realize the concentration that an innocent person would have had with these major for summer which is the plug in the most important pillar of Islam and you just match that concentration away one wonders what type of payment you will have to make for having been the reason for snatching away of the concentration of those who came in time gifts of the greatest of all with Allah subhanho wa Taala

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and and here we are in the same home distracting them from the aim of the visit to the house of their own making it something very serious but sadly you know, like I said we just superficial. So this is why I respect some of the local brothers that are seen

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when they get to the machine and I've noticed this in Cape Town as well when we get to the machine boots which are not proper or you know sold on top not to say there was something haram underneath, but so that nobody can actually be distracted and so that they feel also that hey, look, this is the house of Allah. So you know, one might say okay, are you preaching different clothing for the house of Allied different clothing for outside the reality is that we should be in clothing that is standard and acceptable both inside and outside but the house of Allah Subhana Allah has far more important than anywhere else. So if I for example, were on the field or somewhere, you know, working

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with my overloads and so on, then I came out of a love minimum respect of the licensee to get me going properly as if you were actually doing that can you ensure that I'm dressed appropriately in which we're talking about move? Allah Subhana Allah to Allah bless

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mineable Allah mean, another issue that we've got to deal with, from that observation, perhaps, that I mentioned earlier on with the smile, which is, of perhaps older people of parents dressing in a way that's unbecoming, perhaps, if we could put it that way of, of the age. And when we now look at younger people, youth growing up, and, you know, trying to convince them to change their dressing ways. And we contrast this with with with the example of their parents are important is the example of parents and their dressing. And when we look at young people today, and when parents have that power over the young children, to dress them in a certain way as they grow up, what are some of the

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unfortunate things some of the trends that we pick up in young children and the way that they are being dressed that actually feeds into them dressing in modesty, modesty later on.

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The panel are two things that play a very big role in the way people dress, the appearance, that environment in the home, and the environment of those who we mix with. So environment outside an environment inside. And primarily the environment inside, if it is powerful, if it is strong, if it's a close knit family, where people are talking to each other, you know, the orphans of each other with respect, we remember that you know, your dad and your mom. As much as we feel okay, we can be your friend, but you have to know there is a difference in the sense that that is your dad is your mom, people who are lost with Hannah what Allah has automatically placed this respect within a

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little child of those who brought the child up as the child is growing. The problem is, when our children become unruly at a certain age, a lot of the times it's to do with us spoiling the child without actually realizing and noticing that it's our doing that has spoiled the child. So Allah has placed this child after having given the child of an Amana and a gift to us, placed them under our guardianship, so that they can be nurtured in the way that they watch us and they just repeat. That is the natural instinct of any little baby as they growing, if they watch and they want to repeat the unit. So this is why all of us who have children when we read Salah, one year old daughter, or

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son would probably fall prostrate with you. No one spoke to her she probably can't even talk yet. But she felt prostate and she's fighting to where maybe you're, you're dopey you know you're hacked, or maybe a burqa or whatever else that's placed on my lap. So I'm not showing you the book, I have kept them naturally within this little child of yours as they're growing up the ability and inclination towards meeting you copying you. So if we ourselves do not dress appropriately, that child is going to go beyond the point because the heartbeat tells us

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you know, the best of people the best of generations mind and then the next and then the next you will notice a downward movement in terms of morality and a lot of other things in the increasing same as the generation. So we would like our children to dress appropriately.

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to aim at about 120% to get at 100%. And we've ended 100%. We'll probably be talking at about 80%. May Allah Subhana Allah strengthen us all, but we're talking the 5% we're going to be clocking in at minus five.

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This is exactly what we need to talk about. And, you know, it's food for thought whereby after this program, for example, we will all myself included, you know, sit and think about what was said and think about No, Mashallah we definitely need to improve. There's always room for improvement. You know, people say, Oh, that's, that's far off. Because it's like telling you, you know, when are you going to be doing something? When are you going to be able to recite the Quran off by heart? Well, to be honest with you, you start a verse a day will come a day when the teacher has completed your Dharma, you know, but the same applies to your dress code if you dressing so badly right now. And

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you've got so many things that you want about not worried really about a week sometimes you have to hear the truth as blunt as it is, that we dress in order to impress the rest of mankind, not impressing

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the owner of mankind, the creator of mankind. So if we are to dress that way, what's going to happen to our own children, like I said moments ago, or the loss of Hannah Horace Alice plan is such that they follow so if for example, a mother living you know, tight skirt and so on.

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The middle child might wear a tight skirt with a no slip, and that

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is why there is a famous Arabic scene, which each goes as follows, you know, my wife is a Monica Monica Monica Baba Rahman carrozza Manama, Akina Margarita Zamani.

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They're different wordings of the of the same quotation where it is said that what we consider, okay, today, what we consider fine today was actually yesterday, and what we consider to be today will actually be considered Okay, tomorrow, you know, meaning in the future, I always sit and think, you know, you see that women with special, you know, wearing all sorts of clothing. And when you start thinking to yourself, my mother or my grandmother, will I ever imagined her this type of clothing? And the answer is no, you don't because Oh, they considered completely suitable. And today, it's considered sometimes it's decent clothing. And tomorrow, you know, they will come up, we

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will come across clothing that we considered perhaps to do, and we'll get to that what's wrong with this, there's nothing wrong with it, and so on. So generations are changing, it's up to us to slow down degradation. You know, it doesn't mean people become very

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apathetic and they start saying, you know, what, we're not interested. Nevermind, whatever is supposed to happen is stuck a little creek is gonna get worse is the happy cookies, it's the heartbeat is telling us is going to get worse so that we can, we can actually slow down the visitation because slowing it down isn't a bad, you know, trying your best to not to have that degradation at all, is such a big issue, we will be returning from amongst those who tried. But if we don't try it, or what do we expect? It's a very, very big issue. Because, you know, once I was cooking with certain items, and we had some men who came in with chains, and he came in with

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jewelry, and part of a men's dress, is that he is not allowed to wear jewelry, even if it is made of wood. You know, people ask you, oh, can I reflect? You know?

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It's not gold, you know, can I read this, but the truth is in jewelry, not allowed. There's one exception that's like a silver ring. And that's to some of the scholars have said, you know, it's not something highly encouraged, because

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in order to stamp these letters, because he could not read and write, but still, we will still say okay, no, no problem, let's make the exception of the ring. Besides that, nothing will change, even if that will change your look is no that would take it off. Once I was thinking of this argument, there was a certain brother with a chain and I remember him making mentioned quite clearly that, you know, we act feminine, there's a chunk of our children becoming mela protectors, but you know, gays and lesbians and so on. And I mentioned it once in one of my talks, and to be honest with you was a brother in front of me, who had quite a few chains. And as soon as I said as he pulled his chains

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off, he took out his his limbs and his little bracelets and everything but earring and whatnot, while I was talking, and I saw him doing that, and he put it all on one side. And up to this day, he's now a friend of mine, and he doesn't really do that. I'm not blessed in so many ways. But the point of the of the matter is, we're learning it has affected people. Why is it not affecting the rest of us? May Allah Subhana Allah, Allah grant us goodness, if we are going to be willing to change, our children are going to be piercing their eyebrows. I've seen people who feel, forget about the eyebrows and so on, even on the backs of peers. And the good thing here and when you look

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at the data, we just got wonderful change that think of your changes, the child will be protected from earrings. Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.

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So this is why we say even though the month you'd like your daughter to dress appropriately, you know what if you

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covered, you know, property by the will of Allah, Allah protect your kids as well, you know, the goodness seeps through the families, it definitely seeps through our children, I definitely does. It's not like my son is separate, and my son, you know, so and so.

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And he lives with you after his generation, this is our law, we don't need it now.

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Like the two of us, let us be surrenders to you, and from my property, you know, keep them on the road, let them be upon the beam, and so on and online is affected, the generations where after where as the beam was kicked in, when in terms of Lulu, and profit would be things that it's not going to happen too often in the sense that if you train hard, along with a piece, particular, you know, your project that loves to give us, one of the best things to do, my brothers and sisters, we still buy, because we're so simple. Sometimes we commit sins without even knowing to do the things because so many things are happening on the globe to do we take it for granted. And you know, picky matters, we

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think in within the eyes of Allah, if you something big, like a lot within sort of rule regarding these little accusations that people make, and so on, that they people think they do, but in the eyes of Allah be

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Something like making something huge Nexus, so not forgive us all, I really encourage everyone, myself included, to improve on our dress code so that our children feel that, you know, this is the type of dress we'd like to wear. The new scenario, one lady that I've come with, and I must make mention of it.

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The worst scenario that I've come across, the reason I'm making mention of it as well is it's really rampant in society. Daughters grow up, fathers are buying them dirty clothes. When I say typical girl, she's just young. But you know what, there are people raping kids of six and 10 years old, dirty minds out there, we are dealing with a hyper sexual society who are seeking solace. And that's it and you have to face reality. That's what's on the ground. You know, today I was reading an article of some research that happened somewhere in the Western world. And they were saying, you know, it was such perversion in the in the findings. And I was shocked, I should be like, so

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difficult that people still want to argue about the dress code. I also, you know, seeing a little clip on how the bikini was invented in 1960, by a Frenchman, and how it was totally to be understood is not allowed. And so if you go out on YouTube, you'll find the little clip is a christian movie, which speaks about how the beginning was invented, and how bad it is, and how devilish and so on. But today, we are busy drifting from left to begin, wow. People are thinking, you know, what's wrong, you know, who are these people to tell my sisters, we're lucky, we ended up paying for these things, you know, you don't realize the payment of these things comes in terms of your happiness,

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your goodness, your health, your children, your offspring, your worries, your own everything that's in the basics, like, one of the most important things is just because when other money was created, if you take a look at all the verses in the Quran, you really agree with the stories made mention of the story of in covering up is made mention of Come on, we need to cover up as well, the first thing that happened, they covered with us, because they didn't have anything with us. Nobody's telling you to draw a leaf. Imagine, nobody's telling you to draw a leaf, people are telling you, my sister, you got beautiful clothing. There are lots of mannahatta Allah bless. So the issue that I was raising

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with last issue was it sometimes our daughters are trying to re you know,

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to wear the hijab and so on, we just got to

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go to the to young Come on, you can just stop taking it from now. So from a young age, we buy them little mini skirts and beautiful You know, we take little pictures of them and we get excited he cappucci loops and so on. These are the type of statements that have an impact in their heart. And this thing comes back to haunt them later on. Oh, I was looking hot because my dad told me that while you're looking so good, come on, you need to be people when they when you're little Scott is a martial law. So sweet. I think there are families that do do that. But we've always just been reminded to say, you know what, when you go to just properly common property come into positivity,

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it will encourage you. The problem is we only have negative comments. Are you looking like a nun? Are you looking like this, who's gonna marry you and so are the people who would be interested in marrying you if you elated are the people you're supposed to be still apart from. And the people who are interested in marrying you when you're properly covered other people who perhaps would make better spouses. So this is something that we need to learn if the plan of Allah take a look at divorce rates wholesale, may Allah protect us. It might not be indicative of the building, but it plays a role. It plays a role. Because sometimes, you know, I know of a lot of cases where people

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get together at the at the age of 2530. And they're already married. But the spouse the manager has to move at least to her own place sometimes because we look around the club or we met her somewhere where she was similar to when we commented about her legs, and then we exchanged numbers and that's how we happen to get to know each other and listening and we got married. So what attracted to you to her was the lead dilemma and when when

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When she tried to cover up and grow closer to Allah to when she had, perhaps a child or something of that nature, and then you started to look at avenues. So now what happens is, is that the whole concept of job like I said right at the beginning, it makes you attractive to the opposite sex in the correct way. And it makes you want to be the hierarchy makes you want to take the right steps. Whereas if we abandon the job and what would happen is, you'd be attracted to them in the wrong way you'd want to already before married everything is finished and sorted you know this, this Mika has, just by the way, this is already we've had alpha keep Norma protect us. And Allah says, Goddess what

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like these other disasters of the oma, I know I've been very direct. But at the same time, while I,

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it is a disaster that affects myself and yourself, we live in the same world, we live in the same part of this world. And we are facing the same challenges. And it's about time we spoke about these things to say, you know how important jetty is this evening can make us make a little bit of silver to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We can throw out those buildings that would that would displease Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, and you see Allah from today, it's your pleasure. And I'm just interested in pleasing you, if I were to die tomorrow, I love you, let me be covered. And this is one of the most powerful statements that I've heard in a long, long time is my dear sister, look, the day that you

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are in shrouded with your coffin from covered from top to bottom, not be the first day that you will be covered properly. And that when I read that I actually shifted and I, I you know, I think at that time, it was some time that I actually put it up on some of these social networks and so on. Because to me, you know, it sends a shiver down your spine because it My sister

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is never covered properly. But you know, a day will come when you have to be covered properly, completely talked about it. So why don't we get started now to say Allah have mercy on us to be that we are in our lives and hammerheart to Allah bless us all, we cannot really we cannot do justice to this beautiful topic, because it affects all of us. And the trains, you know, what sells today, if I can do

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is bet which is provocative and effigies appealing in terms of sexual,

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you know, appeal. But at the same time that people would then buy the type of clothing, they would build one to show that they would be happy that people are attracted to them. You know, I can't believe it. As I was growing up, you know, it was never ever in our character to commend a woman on you know, a strange woman to say how you looking, we wouldn't have had the guts to do to say you're looking looking well. I didn't actually come across people, Muslims with big beard come across women who are Muslims in the mall. And I heard the uncle to martial law system, you're looking at martial law. And she says,

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Come on, what are you talking about? What is that?

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job, my sister, but that is appealing. And you actually thanking the mentor having glared at you? And you thinking exactly

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what you just said,

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Robin, you say you know that love to give you what are you looking at, you know,

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he forgotten that. It's a powerful point that that's been raised to say, the West has taught us that, you know, when someone's shown everything, you gotta say You look lovely. And she says, blush, you know, now we

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are using the martial law. And suddenly she says Dracula, I mean, come on. Allahu Akbar, let us wake up a little bit from that number and realize that's totally how we actually feel thank you for staying with us. And thank you to those who see what I wanted you to notice. And you know what?

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Making the future good.

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Take a look at how we degraded ourselves, you dropped ourselves to quite bad low and you don't even realize, like I said, there are lots of extremes. And that's such a powerful

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situation that we've just spoken about. And it's a loss of animals, Allah who's making us speak and, you know, talk to each other this evening, like I say, will lay the encouragement is for me. I don't claim to be anyone any better than anyone else. But at the same time, it's our duty to talk to one another to try our best, you know, to motivate one another because each closer to Allah Subhana, Allah to Allah, Allah is going to be something great. A very, very important point also, and I know I'm taking quite a bit of time, but I think it's the opportunity not to be missed, you know, the system, for example, there is a stage of the job where you get to way and my sisters, this is utmost

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important. Let's listen carefully. You know, one is you put on a clock, so now Mashallah you've achieved and you know, we, we appreciate all levels of modesty. And if you remember your movement, closer to Allah is between you and Allah, you know, the effort you are putting with, nobody's going to be a judge. We're not allowed to be judges but we can keep on encouraging one another. So once you get on the clock, Mashallah you've achieved such a good status and so on thereafter,

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Ask yourself, does this cloak have any beadwork on it, if it doesn't have beadwork, you know, that is of a color not of the color of the material of the cloak, then perhaps you'd like to know that there's another level. And that level would be to get that beadwork the color of that material so it could be black. And after that there is another level which eradicates for beadwork was no deed whatsoever on the clock anymore. Now you're talking, now you're getting this, now you're hitting the right now you've got to a powerful level, and you might have a smukke tilcon no beadwork, no nothing, the material is good. You have your scarf is no beadwork, there's nothing on it, that's now

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a very high level. And now you can get to an even higher level. And you will find when we get to that level that you are so contained on that particular level that you don't no longer want to appeal to people you just want to have this company appropriately covered yourself and meet Alhamdulillah and I presented it and it stops there and Mashallah, you know, the sisters will probably notice and learn from you more than anything else. Because to be honest with you, a lot of brothers who might, you know, South London and I to the wrong things. It's because there's something different something shines you know, we have a suit might wear a nice cloak, it's on the Lich King,

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the gold champion hanging out, and so on. Sometimes we tie our scarf we have all killed, but the little top part of our chest is showing and you see the skin and the contrast in the color is such a blind man would notice. Like a woman innocent you don't even realize that they're showing that name, looking

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statements lie about and so on. And there are lots of hands on with Allah forgive us. I think I've put my point across. And I'd like to hope that Allah grants me the strength and every one of us individually for all the input all the guidelines, all the reminders this evening. I think one thing and everybody could take out from the discussion this evening is on whatever level we are, as regard to modesty with regard to adherence to the Sharia dress code, there's always room for improvement and this includes people who are considered to be dressed islamically and those who perhaps at the at the other end of the or the other rung of the ladder or wherever you are, there's always room for

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improvement coming closer to Almighty Allah and through our outward dressing. It's also an a reflection of what's on the inside shukran for your time this evening and May Allah tala or given give us all the ability to ensure law practice and take to heart what has been discussed tonight chukar in a cinematic mode of Manila Baraka to

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six minutes past in the Central African time and that's the end of all of my infocus this evening, where we inshallah have been rejuvenated and got something to think about some things to practice and work upon. inshallah, within our own lives and the lives of our family, the end of the show, inshallah, podcasts of the show tomorrow, available inshallah on the CI website ci podcasting.com, and a Twitter feed of what has been occurring on the show available twitter.com forward slash gentle Islam until next week as salaam alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh