Mufti Menk – Effects of Bad Habits

Mufti Menk
AI: Summary © The importance of Islam's rules and regulations in achieving happiness and success is emphasized. The speakers stress the need for dress code, avoiding distraction, and living a life that is miserable and enjoyable. The speakers also emphasize the importance of weighing one's own behavior and avoiding bad habit. The speakers stress the need for leaders to be leaders and not just partying, and caution against the negative impact of prying into people's spouse's phone calls. The speakers also emphasize the importance of disciplined leadership and embracing change in order to enjoy one's life.
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salaam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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smilla rahmanir rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala nabina Muhammad, Allah Buddha Mohamed el amin, ala alihi wa sahbihi wa viene woman who son in Isla me, Dean, Baba, we praise Allah subhanho wa Taala sin blessings and salutations upon Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, his entire household, all his companions, may Allah bless them all, and may He bless every single one of us, and grant us goodness in this world and the next beloved brothers and sisters.

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The religion of Islam

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is a religion that has a lot of rules and regulations.

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That is, in fact such a great blessing that Allah has taught us and trained us and given us instruction. without us having had to put much effort in order to govern the lives of mankind, the lives of his creatures, so that they may achieve success in this world to start with, and then the next. So that's the first point we need to get to understand. Allah says at the beginning of su of Baja, Baja Ma.

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starting beginning of the surah, Allah says, We have not revealed this Quran to you all Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in order for it to be a means of distress for you. That answers a lot of questions. It answered the questions even of Omar of new Qatar.

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And it will answer the questions of a lot of Muslims and non Muslims. Why are there so many rules and regulations? Well, they are not there in order to be a means of distress, to cause you discomfort to block you from doing nice things. No, they are there in order to act as a reminder for those who have some form of consciousness of Allah, the humility, humbleness, may Allah subhanho wa Taala grant us the fear of his in a way that we understand His mercy, I mean,

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so if Allah has placed rules and regulations in my life and in yours, they are there only to ensure that I lead a happy life, that I am content that I can smile upon all conditions, that I can be a happy person. From this we understand that the more we adopt the instruction of Allah subhanho wa Taala, the happier we will be as people and the less happy we are as people, it is indicative of the fact that we are further away from the instruction of Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, if a man or a woman has nothing in this world, but they are still happy, perhaps they are still close to Allah subhanho wa Taala. He did never promise us he did not promise us that we will have the millions and

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the billions of the world nor did he say you will all have good health, none of you will lose loved ones. If you are close to me, I will ensure that nobody dies amongst your relatives, did he say that? Not at all. If you are close to me, you will never get sick. Did he say that? If you are close to me, nobody will be jealous of you, nobody will be irritating your life. He never said that did he say if you are close to me, then I will ensure that you are the richest person in society. He did not say that. But he did say if you are close to me, I will ensure that you are always happy, you are always content.

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contentment needs to be translated and understood. Very simply, it is a condition of the heart, that is upon peace upon tranquility at all times upon Allah, the mind is also very content, the mind is happy with what Allah has provided. And this must not be misunderstood. It does not mean that I must sit back and relax, be lazy and not do anything. No, I work as hard as I have to. But whatever I achieve as a result that will be from Allah subhanho wa Taala I am happy with him. And when I face adversity and difficulty that comes in my life, I should do as much as Allah has given me the capacity to do in order to protect myself and in order to come up with myself together with praying

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to Allah subhanho wa Taala knowing that whatever Allah wills shall happen, and ultimately I will still be happy upon that condition. May Allah grant His goodness. Some people are sick with a small flu and they are so depressed

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and other people have died. They have been diagnosed cancer may Allah grant you cure, but they are still happy. They die with a smile, going to meet Allah subhanho wa Taala

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Knowing that there are those who might die before them who have not been diagnosed with any disease whatsoever. This is the plan of Allah. So it all depends how we look at things. When we perceive things when we look at what happens to us, when we look at people around us, how we look at them, is what will make us better people or worse. Now, Allah subhanho wa Taala help us to look at things correctly.

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The reason I start in this particular way is many Muslims feel that Islam is so tough to follow just because they have laziness in them. Just because they want to do as they desire.

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If your son happens to dash across this road outside this mountview Masjid, and he's just running across What will you do? You love your child, don't you?

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You will Yeah, you will perhaps scream What are you doing, you might run behind him hold him, you might admonish him Don't ever do that, again, why he's doing something dangerous. He's going to die. And he looks at you and says, Dad, we were only playing catches, you know, catches, we only were touching each other. So I was just running away from everyone that says, You know what, you could have died. This is what I didn't die.

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That's what we do with Allah subhanho wa Taala. He tells us don't head in that direction. You lose contentment. You break your home, don't go in that direction. It will result in your financial downfall. Don't involve in this thing here. You will become sick. Don't do that. You will lose your IRA. Don't do this, because this is what will happen. And we say no, I was only playing catches. That means I was only fulfilling my whims. I needed the money. So I had to go into the deal. Whether I was deceiving people or not was besides the point, at least I got the money. So then when Allah says you could have lost people say, Well, I didn't lose. You see that? catches example.

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Exactly the same example. When we are told get up for Salah. We say Well, you know what, I don't have to come on. Nothing's happening to me. I haven't been gearing up for failure for the last 10 years. Nothing happened to me. I'm still a healthy person. Well, you could be running across the road playing catches for 10 years, the 11 years still has to come Allahu Akbar. Allah protect us. So we don't understand sometimes that Allah made us when he says getter for Salah. That is the way of opening the door of contentment for that day. You haven't got up the door is closed.

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You want to open the door. Say for example, you've missed the Salah. May Allah protect us but Manama and Salatin owner sia ha funny, you suddenly have either the Cara ha, whoever sleeps over mistakenly a Salah or forgets it some human reason, as soon as they remember they must fulfill that Salah as Kaaba. So they've missed the work, they've missed the time of that Salah, as soon as they can, they must fulfill it recompensing still by the word of Allah, we will be able to open the door of goodness for that day, still, by the will of Allah, it may not be as wide the door as it would have been had we caught up but by the will of Allah He will still open it for us because we've got a

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concern to please Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if we don't get up for Salah to do you know, we will pay for it.

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And I'm being very serious. For example, Allah tells us to dress appropriately. That's a beautiful word. It's a broad statement. It's Translated by different people differently, because each one is on a level, but we can improve on our dress code. And this applies to the boys as well, the men as well. When we talk of dress code, it's never only for the women. Like what some people think, no, it's also for the boys for the men wearing too tight. Your jeans are very tight, my brother Don't do that. You know what we can see? How's your backside, my brother? Don't do that. May Allah protect us? You know, we need to improve our dress code. If we don't my brothers and sisters, we pay for it.

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And if we say Well, I've been wearing this for so long, and I haven't really paid for anything. So who are you? Well, you might come and tell me I'm free to do what I want. Why are you telling me Well, you just as free to run across the road here and now. That's what it is.

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And then we might say nothing's happened to me. Well, you know that when Allah says something he definitely definitely has kept behind it my protection and yours. All you've done is you strip that protection, that's what you did. took it off. So when a person is no longer under the protection of Allah subhanho wa Taala anything can happen.

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Not necessarily immediately, but after some time, but with Allah subhanho wa Taala there is a door and that door is the door of repentance and Toba. Allah loves you every single one of you

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Allah loves you so much so much that we feel the link with Allah subhanho wa Taala when the devil tries to come in,

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distract us or draw us apart and distance us from Allah subhanho wa Taala we still feel the guilt, that guilt that is felt is actually the love of Allah subhanho wa Taala that we have that makes us feel that particular way amazing. So Allah makes us feel because we love Him and He loves us. He makes us feel that guilt, you know you've done this. Now, don't ever do that again. So you say yeah, Allah, I will never do it again. I seek your forgiveness. And Allah says, I am so happy that you have turned to me. I was waiting for you. I have forgiven you and you are as pure as the day you were born.

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Allah is waiting for you, my brother. Allah is waiting for you, my sister, He is waiting.

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Therefore let's turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala before we are bumped or knocked down by the vehicle, as we are dashing, just to enjoy our little game in the world.

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Because this dunya is full of lusts and desires. And the deen has come to us to control all those desires and lusts. It's all about control. And with that control, Allah says I will give you happiness, contentment, a man commits adultery. Is she expecting? Is she pregnant is you're not pregnant? What happened? Is it my child Oh, no, now what? So the man is living on edge the payment for that adultery is far more than the few minutes of pleasure that the man might have derived or the woman. But we don't realize it because for us, dashing across the road takes three seconds Allahu Akbar, when you're not down, what happens? Allahu Akbar, you are in the hospital for two

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for three years.

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So it is not worth it at all. Allah just puts rules and regulations not for us to be distressed. But in order for us to achieve contentment when you have access to sin, and you have not sinned, the contentment you feel within your heart is something unmatched. We cannot describe it, we can only feel it.

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The love of Allah, and we remove from our hearts the love for sin, to the degree that we become so happy when we don't sin, and we tend to forget about it. We don't even bat an eyelid in that direction. As time passes, may Allah make a strong

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because every sin has a bad effect, and every bad habit as a bad effect that will come to haunt us or to visit us unless we repent. And if we repent and tell, sometimes Allah subhanho wa Taala

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may forgive us completely. And sometimes we may taste a little bit of what we have done as a result, if a man for example, decides to cut his hand off, so he's cut his hand off. And then he says, Oh Allah, forgive me, I made a mistake. You know, we were just playing games to see who was brave. I was the bravest. So I cut my hand of Allah may forgive him, but he will have to live his life without one hand. That's what it is. So Allah has forgiven him, but he's got something he has to live a person who's made a mistake. And they have, for example, engaged in illicit behavior, fathered a child who perhaps May Allah protect us is illegitimate, that particular child, as we

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would no innocent child, may Allah grant us all protection and goodness, but the person will have to live with that, and face reality, even though Allah may have forgiven them completely for the sin that they have committed.

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SubhanAllah I hope you understand what is being said here. We are living in a country, that we enjoy the freedom of almost everything in this country, freedom of absolutely anything and everything. And Allah says, There are rules and regulations Allahu Akbar. So what we did, through the freedom, we chose to be muslimeen. Through that freedom, we chose not to engage in certain things, because those who are exercising that freedom, to the extent of making them do what we would have termed very unacceptable a few years ago in the same country, speaking of the fathers of that freedom, who would love who would have looked at it as something that was outside the fold of that freedom. To be

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honest, they are leading a life that is absolutely miserable.

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A few days ago, I had a chat with a group of youngsters,

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non Muslims, and I was talking to them we were at an airport waiting to go to flight, and they were asking me questions you

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Look like Jesus and so on. And I started talking to them and answering them and telling them things and so on. And at the end of the day, I asked them, so where are you working? They all had very good jobs, brilliant jobs, they had good salaries. None of them were married. I said, so what's happening? No, no, we don't want to tie the knot. What? So I said, so what do you do? He says, you know, we earn our salary. And we must live it up. I said, What do you mean living up, he says, I drive a Porsche. The other guy says, I drive some car. The other one says, I drive something else. And he says, Come Friday night, we are partying, and we enjoy ourselves, we go, we have a bowl of a

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time they at the club, and we really do whatever we have to the music is kicking, the girls are there, the women is there, the wine is there, everything is flashing, it is such a kick, we actually have whatever we need, and whatever else the dragon all sorts of things we want. Everything is done. And it's such a beautiful life. It is so sweet, so smart, because we've got the money, and we can have what ever we want. And that's it. And I'm just listening

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when I dropped the bombshell,

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and I said, So according to you, that's what life is all about.

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What if you were to die? What have you done to prepare for the day you die?

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You know what I was told? Please don't even talk about that.

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That means you are living a deception. You really don't know what life is. And then I asked him more questions. And believe me, they were all depressed, depressed, but they did not know they were depressed. They are living this fantasy life. They are paying for just fulfilling their desires. They have no clue what's going on. They don't even know their own limits. And they think life is all about partying, to be honest with you. They have no relations in the home.

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They have their friends are the only should I say the only people they mix with are those who think the same. And those who are having the same they party all day, every day that they can come weekend it's a party come Monday back to work. That's like a machine. Where's the spirituality? Do you pray to God? No, we don't.

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You don't pray to a god, you don't believe in a god? Well, you know, God exists. But I you know, we need to just enjoy life we still young. So have young people not gone before. When you know, God is understanding, you know, because he gave us the money and all that. So he'll know that, you know, we were just partying, a stone villa. And I'm sitting and I, I speak to these people. And I think to myself, they are actually these are non Muslims, but they are actually Muslims who do the same thing.

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To them life is all about partying, is that what it is? So now you have the depression, there comes a stage, when those bad habits returned to haunt you, you get to an age. Okay, then I started speaking now a little bit more. So when you are 55? What will happen?

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While we will still party? What if you have arthritis? May Allah protect us all? What if you have a disease, you can't dance anymore? Well, then we will sit and watch.

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And what if you know you're not attracted to other women are not attracted to you anymore? Well, we will pay them to be attracted to us. Look at the answers. And these are people who are talking to you and they are to themselves, they think we're making sense. Then I said, Well, what if you get to 70 and you now cannot move beyond the hospital bed. We'll see. When that happens. I don't think it'll happen. I go to the gym anyway.

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I go to the gym. So it's becoming a culture of godlessness, remove Allah from the equation completely and just enjoy your life. That's what people are trying to say. Yet we don't understand the rules and regulations Allah says, We have placed them so that you can enjoy your life in the true sense the contentment when you get to the age of 13. By now you should have a child or two by the word of Allah subhanho wa Taala you need to pass the torch on the candle on because we need to carry on you know, today I was speaking to a group of friends. And I was saying leaders of those who prepare others for the leadership that they have at that time. So a leader is known not by his

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followers, but by the number of people he has prepared to take over that leadership

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as a leader. So we are all leaders in the Sharia. Every one of us could look camera, we could look

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at every one of you is a shepherd. Every one of you is a shepherd and each one of you is responsible for his or her flock. So when I am growing a little bit older, it's not all about enjoying and partying and so on. So many young people who have had a brilliant upbringing given to them by their parents fall into bed.

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company for a few days. And that changes their life irreversibly. For a long, long time, or should I say, in a very dangerous way, how I give you examples of so many young girls

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stopzilla May Allah protect us, the number is increasing sadly, who up from brilliant families and brilliant people, very good at heart, very kind, very compassionate, perhaps even sometimes fulfilling their salah and so on. Get into the bad company for a few days. And sometimes they talking about hey, I'm looking for a place to have an abortion. We know what I'm talking about. No one knows. Mum doesn't know dad doesn't know. Nobody knows. But this little child is depressed. Why? Because of the visiting of that bad company back. And it's haunting us so soon. So quick. It happened so fast. And what was it? It was the flashy life? We went into the nightclub. We were

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dancing. We were a bit high. That's the word as it is the high heels are they but nowadays when they say high, they're not talking of Hello? No. Are they talking of the high heels? Are they talking about something else? Allah protect us. So they were a bit high. And at the same time, what happened? All their happiness went down the road. Bye.

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Goodbye. To what? To your future gone? It could be Allah may forgive you for the sin. But you may have to live with the stigma of it for the rest of your life.

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Why? Because that bad habit we had of going out to party every time partying partying, you say But life is boring, man. I'm a Muslim. I'm not supposed to go anyway. Oh, is that it? You're supposed to be using your energies in a proactive manner. You're supposed to be using your energies do something good. The problem was asked, we don't have enough little youth clubs where we're doing the right thing.

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Reach out to people have a little halaqaat of Quran have something going and don't make it boring. And don't make it too long. You know, we had a beautiful recitation of the Quran here this evening, to be honest with you.

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It was so beautiful in more than one way. One is the recitation was powerful. The meaning was solid. The pronunciation was brilliant. But the timing of it was just dead. Right? So panela if someone nowadays with the youth stretches a lecture a little bit too much the next lecture, the youth are not there. So when you have a little club, for example, for the youth, young, whoever it is boys or girls, or whatever it is, don't waste their time on things that really would bore them. So you have a chef come in, and he's talking for two hours and everybody's yawning. And you know, he's such a dry person looking at you no smile, no, nothing blasting you one way, who will come back to your

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halaqa The following week? Nobody? To be honest with you, you might also have doubts.

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Because we did not do it the proper way. But keep it interesting. Ask the people what would you like to do. And I firmly believe having mixed with a lot of different types of youth, that we need to engage in different types of activity to protect us from bad habits.

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To protect us from something worse today I was reading for example,

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an email someone sent me to say, you know, it's prohibited to visit, or it's prohibited to go to a comedy show, for example.

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Okay, technically speaking, we might say it's a waste of time.

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But if you were to weigh a nightclub where there is things happening, and you are to weigh a Muslim who's coming to you, and telling you something meaningful, perhaps on a lighter note or something else, the thing is when we are weighing the two, in that particular case, we will revisit how we look at this particular item. Because I tell you, we are drowning, the youth are drowning. And if people don't know that they are not swimming, that's the thing. Really, the youth are drowning, and why are they drowning? There are so many bad habits that are made so beautiful to them that they think life is all about those things, and they do not look at those habits as bad anymore. Do you

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know when you sit and this is now the adults as well, in front of your television, and you watching movie after movie, it is such a bad habit that will come back to haunt you. One is you become brainwashed by styles and things that happened the way to talk the way to do another. It wakens the shape and in you because there's so much of * and *, even in those movies that they say suitable for family viewing.

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That now you find your children have watched somebody who's perhaps engaging in behavior that is not befitting a Muslim in the movie, and they start doing it in real life. Why? Because we were sitting with

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Dad, it was a nice movie dad say, Dad wants to watch it again to Sunday. There you are that, who's paying for it, that bad habit came back to affect your own children.

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So it awakens within us the devil, we start doing things we don't realize I could have cut the lawn outside for my neighbor, hello.

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I could have kept the lawn outside for my neighbor, I don't think we would actually do that in a rush to for us, he must pay me, Who does he think he does he think he is we wouldn't even go and offer,

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it would have been better for you to wash your neighbor's car might give you a ride in his new Mercedes lover.

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But we don't think of that. Because for us, that's something rotten, that's bad. Whereas that something good, we need to have the heart to do that. But if we have these bad habits, where we just want to sit in front of the television, we don't take our children out. We don't show interest in our own wives and family members, parents and so on. Later on, life becomes so boring for everyone. Then when the child is suffering,

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in one way, we come back and we say why is my child suffering? We don't say Where did I go wrong? What happened? Perhaps I've been doing this and that. So we have talks of this nature to wake us up, take an interest in your children, you don't know. Just spending moments with them talking to them. It's far more interesting, then the television.

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You know, sometimes when I'm at a hotel, and you have a television, and I tell myself, not even for the news, I'm not turning this thing on because I've got a phone. And on way, I can just check what the news is, I can see what I want. And then I can turn it off. You believe me the amount of time that you save by turning of that thing is amazing. It's amazing. What do you need to sit and watch movies? People say? Well, you know what, it's just a movie, I can sit and watch it and so on? What meaning does it have behind it? What is it that you're trying to achieve? If it is a lesson, if it is something powerful, and so on, by all means Alhamdulillah we may make use of some of technology.

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But if it's just a waste of time, it cannot become a habit. No.

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people sit on the phone.

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And one of the worst habits is

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to make yourself available for everyone who wants to get hold of you, everyone, so you sitting on the phone, you either on WhatsApp, or BBM those are the famous ones now on Samsung, you can actually get BBM they struck a deal.

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I'm being honest, you can go to Samsung Apps and check the BBM they'll give you a pin and everything.

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But to be very open with you. We need to limit the time we are on our phone.

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If you cannot, it's a bad habit, and it will visit you visit you meaning it's gonna come back to haunt you.

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Because if you're accessible to everyone, not everyone has a good intention. And you sometimes the devil might come to miss your intention. So you say hi to someone. And before you know it, your intention is so bad, because the devil has come in just because you've got the time to do that. So you're not saying I love you to people that you don't love. And here's your spouse, you've never said it to her.

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And I know of one man, you know a person that we became close to later on. And his wife saw a message on his phone. And he said I love you and the message came up. So

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she went into the phone and this is actually another bad habit to pry into the phones of others, no matter who they are you pay for it actually, even if it's your spouse, if you pry into your spouse's phone, believe me, you pay for it with your happiness and contentment. You know, you might look at me and think well, aren't I allowed to do that? The reality is that is there a relation between them and Allah, if they are fulfilling your rights, leave them alone. They are linked with allies between them and Allah subhanho wa Taala. Those who want to disagree, don't agree, you pay for it. That's all I'm saying. We've seen it happening. When a man says I love you. He does not mean it nine times

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out of 10. The only time he means it is when he's telling it to his wife by the will of Allah.

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So this man, he says, I see the people are just looking at me looking at me, Hey, I'm honest with you. I'm telling you, you pry into the phone of your spouse, for example, you will see things that are really not worth seeing sometimes, and you won't understand them and you create a big discord when the man who really loves you the most in the world and your dissimulation is destroyed because you saw something and he could not explain to you exactly what was going on. And you play the role of Allah because he fulfills all your rights, everything put together.

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And you think like someone says, you know, my husband cheated on me and I say No, he didn't. He cheated on Allah.

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If you say he cheated on you, he might

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Do it behind your back. But if he's convinced that he cheated on Allah and you stop it completely See the difference? But sometimes we don't understand. He's my property. Well, if he's your property, then yes, he cheated on you. And you know what, you're not gonna be happy, Allahu Akbar, because we are not as merciful as Allah subhanho wa Taala. I've spoken to people whom they've said one thing is gone wrong in my in my marriage, but I'm ending my marriage. And then I tell them, there are other people 30 things have gone wrong in their marriage. They stayed together, and they dealt with all 30 things. And they all of them are eradicated, and they are the happiest couple

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That's how it works. I see someone nodding their heads, tell her tell her, she needs to hear.

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No, we don't ask for trouble. So I was telling you about this couple. And the wife sees the message. And then when she goes into the phone, like what I was telling you, when you have time you say things to people, not realizing this is supposed to be diverted to your spouse. Then what happened? She saw more messages. I love you, I adore you. You are my this and my dad. And then she confronts him and says, Why have you been sending messages to? And this man was one shot. Don't use this, please. He says to you. What do you mean, look at this useless. But I thought it's your number. That's the number I wrote.

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What do you mean, but I'm sending you messages every day. You try to tell me it's the wrong number.

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mela projectors look at how men is visited by his bad habits. That's the point I'm raising.

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The same applies to a female visited by bad habits, they come back and they haunt you why it was not worth it. So now you lose your children, you lose your spouse, you lose everything around you. Not everybody's understanding. And everyone's living a depressed life. Why? Because your bad habits came back to haunt you. A person who drinks a lot.

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They might say no, I don't harm anyone. I just I just got a habit of a bottle. People tell you sometimes, you know, it's encouraging to know that they seek help. Yes, but at the same time, you know, I just drink a little bit voila, he that is totally unacceptable. And if we are to continue with that bad habit without engaging in Toba, perhaps it will come to visit us in a very nasty way. very nasty way. People who have a habit of swearing

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you know, some people even with their friends, small little thing are you this and this we're big, big swear words, but their friends, they don't realize a swear word by major pieces. The heart Even if it is said jokingly, of the person whom it is used against. So if I'm joking with you, and you my best friend, but I have a habit of saying swear words. It's such a bad habit that even if you know that I'm your best friend that I'm just saying it but it will pierce your heart in a way that one day you will get so fed up of it, that you will actually come out and get irritated and say hey, can you keep quiet? You've been trading me for so long. And I don't like the way you're doing things.

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And then you say but I thought I was your friend. Why do we say this? Allah says in the Quran, we have not revealed these laws, these rules these regulations, in order for them to be a means of distress, but rather in order for them to make you lead a content life full of happiness and contentment, and full of success. So vulgar words are not to be uttered. Even jokingly don't. When we say Come on, you know, I've seen the young generation say come on get a life man. What do you mean get a life we try to tell you something about the real life the life after death. Allah you telling us to start enjoying life? Is that what you call get to life?

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If anything, we have a better life than yours, my little boy, Allahu Akbar.

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Allah grant us goodness, why? Because we've disciplined ourselves.

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May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all, the bad habit of

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for example, gambling.

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It is such a bad habit, that if a person goes into it, there are two things that happen to start off with. One is the excitement, the excitement, and the other is the tug of shame.

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So with the excitement, the person is now whoa, I'm starting a new investing here. I'm going to multiply my money and it's going to come and you know what, that other uncle or that man or that person taught me what to do? How to do this thing here. I don't even know what we're talking about. But I just know that it's gambling we're talking about but the details of it. Don't ask me you lose your money, believe me.

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the excitement is there. Then shapen. Buju says, don't just come once Come, let's see Vinci, but the first time you win a bid. So my my 29 became 40. And then the guy comes and says, imagine that was a million, it would have been 2 million. Because you're 20 became 40. That was 100%. So that's the pool of the devil. So now we become more excited. So now what happens I borrow from him. I take from him

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You need money, you know, I need this. And I need that. And we get this and we get that. And after a while we've gathered and collected so much of this wealth. And when we've got it all, and then we go gambling, what happens?

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Everything lost. So I owe this man 200,000 and this one 400,000. And then I'm ducking, diving no longer in the master, no longer to be seen no more friends, and now I'm busy doing one thing and another. And I've got nobody around me why you had a bad habit, it came back to visit you, that's all. And it visited you very severely in a nasty way. Very serious. So that's why we say, quit the gambling whilst you are healthy and you haven't lost anything. And say, Allah, I've made Toba. I know, I've seen so many lives being missed, even if I didn't see lives being missed the fact that you've been prohibited, I know, it's for my betterment. rather enjoy the 20 rands that you have than

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to wish for the 200 grands that you do not have.

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That's an Islamic law.

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Enjoy what you have, rather than searching for what you don't have. Because when you start wishing for what you don't have, you may start doing something wrong in order to get there and you're never going to be happy with what you have yet, had you been looking at those who have less than the 20 you have, you would appreciate that 20 by all means, by all means. Now, Allah subhanho wa Taala help us look at things in the correct perspective.

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We have the habit of laziness, laziness visits us, when you are young, and you are growing and your parents begin to tell you You know what, you better work hard, work hard, and we just, you know, so what my friends are playing I need to God, yes, you play but there are limits, not all play. You need to make sure you work the balance between work and play as you're growing up.

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Because if we are lazy, sometimes we fail. I know the exams are starting in Sharla. Perhaps in the next day or 2am. Allah make it easy for all of you, all those who are writing in all our children, Allah subhanho wa Taala, bless them And grant them success in the dunya and the ashira. But without hard work, don't expect to achieve

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because laziness is such a bad habit that when you have important exams, very important, say for example, the end of secondary school or final exams at the varsity and so on. And you have been lazy. If we have been lazy, what happens? One failure can change our future. Sometimes it can change the future. So now you have results that are mediocre. Are you going to rewrite? Or are you just going to be happy with those results? Well, when now when you go and apply, for example, for a job, you may not get the top notch job because you were lazy. The laziness is visiting you. And it's knocking on every door that you're knocking on with you.

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So this is why we say eradicate the bad habit. It has an effect and an impact that will come back in a negative way. We work on it. The laziness needs to go.

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And this is why we say if we were disciplined, and we found joy in obeying the instruction of Allah and we were happy to get up for Salah confederal, your laziness is dealt with.

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It's dealt with you are a disciplined person. When someone says come on get up you up. You know, when I need to sleep, I still have Salatin Asia to read Let me read it then asleep. So you're a happy person because you are disciplined. So if you take a careful look at the laws of Islam, they, they actually prepare every one of us to become a proper leader, proper leader, you have leadership qualities in you if you're a good Muslim, why? Because you're a straight person, you are happy person, you're a very just person, you don't have laziness, you don't have bad habits, you're a sober person, you really have time for your family, you have time for your relatives, you really are

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positively contributing to society, and so on. All those qualities or qualities that are required in a leader. Tomorrow, when you up for elections, for example, they will vote for you because they know this person is a proper example. This person really will do something good.

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So this is what Islam does. So never, ever look at the laws of Islam and think for a moment that these are deceptive or these laws are they in order to make us depressed. And in order to govern our lives in the wrong way. I always tell the young girls

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and I'm going to say it again because it's very, very important. I always tell the young girls that you know, when you do not dress appropriately. Those who are attracted to you are those who like that type of dressing.

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So then you end up getting married to people who are attracted to the wrong things in you. So now you're married. And it might look all rosy because oh you married the dawn last October.

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Yes, now you excited. But one, two years down the line when you want to become a little bit religious, you know what happens?

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He says, Hey, I don't I didn't marry a nun. I didn't marry a nun, you now want to become a person who so religious, I didn't marry a person who's like this No. And then you struggle. Now in the home, this polarization, one is in one direction, the other one is in the other direction. Why? Because initially, when we met, we met for the wrong reasons I cannot develop anymore. So if you dress appropriately, properly, those who are attracted to that type of dressing will understand or they will want you in marriage, for example, for the right reasons.

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And as they marry you, they will know we've married the mother of our children who will develop with us, not only to earn the closeness of Allah, but to prepare the next generations.

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And this is why we always say one of the reasons of divorce today is because people are irresponsible. very irresponsible. You have a person he's married, but still doing the morning is with his friends, where are you? Come on those were my friends before you came into my home, when you should have rather married them.

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It's true. Your life must change. You'll be back home, after Salah Croatia, you there with your spouse, that is more valuable than being with 50 friends outside Believe me.

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And one of the worst habits

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is to be outside after Salah to Asia when you're doing nothing constructive.

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And I want to end on that note. The reason is, do you know Salah to Asia

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depicts the end of the day. After that. You either do something constructive or reclined Go and sleep get up early then and you can read your Salah whether it's federal or tahajjud

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90% of sin

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is committed after Salah tonatiuh

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amongst the youth.

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The drugs come out at night, the clubbing at night adultery at night whereas the gambling at night. Everything else night most of it happens at night.

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So look at how blessed the teaching is. We get irritated when someone says please after Isha Go and sleep.

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If you want to change your life, get to bed early and get up early. As a good Muslim Your life will change. May Allah subhanho wa Taala bless us all. I end on that note and I'm very very serious about what I said. And may Allah grant us discipline in our lives in a way that we see the fruits of the discipline. Just like when you have a bad habit, you may see the haunting of it come back to us unless we engage in television. We also have the good habits that will always come back with the fruits in order for us to eat from and to enjoy in the dunya and the ashira May Allah subhanahu wa Jalla grant us all discipline and goodness masala Allahu wa Sallim wa barik ala nabina Muhammad

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Subhan Allah Subhana Allah, Allah Allah Allah and Luca Juana Timberlake,

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