Moutasem al-Hameedy – The Trait of Rifq – Forbearance

Moutasem al-Hameedy
AI: Summary © The history and cultural characteristics of Islam are discussed, including its natural traits and temperament, the importance of understanding its natural beauty, and its need for patience and consistency. The importance of riff and understanding the natural beauty of people is emphasized, as well as the need for a strong spirit to approach Islam. The negative impact of lack of fear and anxiety on people's behavior and behavior is also discussed, along with the importance of developing healthy behavior and avoiding rushing into things before their due time.
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All praise is due to Allah. We praise Him. We seek his aid and we ask for his forgiveness. We seek refuge and protection and Allah

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the evil of our intentions and our actions. Whomsoever Allah guides, none can lead astray and whomsoever Allah leaves to go astray, Nan can guide I testify that there is none worthy of our worship and devotion but the Almighty Allah alone.

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And I testify that Muhammad Sallallahu it he was early he was selling his his servant, his slave and His Messenger

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or you who believe. Fear Allah as you should be feared and die not except in a state of submission and surrender to your Lord as Muslims, all mankind, be dutiful to your Lord who created you from a single person. And from him he created his wife. And from them both he created many men and women, and fear Allah through whom you demand your mutual rights and observe the rights of your kin. Surely Allah is Ever and all watched over you, or you who believe. Keep your duty to Allah, fear him and speak the truth. He will direct you to righteous deeds and will forgive your sins. And whoever obeys Allah and His Messenger has indeed attained a great achievement. The best words are the divine words

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of the almighty Allah. And the best guidance is that of Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu it he were early he was salam. And the worst things in the religion are the newly invented matters for all the newly invented in all invented matters in religion, or heretical innovation and Bidra, and every bidder is misguidance.

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After the conquest of Makkah, in the year of eight after hijra,

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the tribes the Arab tribes in the Arabian Peninsula,

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majority of them decided

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that the message of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was the truth from the Creator from Allah.

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And they started

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flooding into Islam, accepting the way of life of all the prophets and the messengers, submission to Almighty Allah, obedience to His command,

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seeking his face alone.

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The tribes were considered to be at the same time political entities, so they sent delegations. They sent representatives from amongst themselves to go and speak to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam give him the Bayer the covenant of obedience, their formal acceptance of Islam as a tribe to live by Islam

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and this was named in the history of Islam, but I'm ill will food the year nine of July, the year of delegations.

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Because the different tribes, tribes were sending representatives and ambassadors to meet the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and give the BIA

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and connect to the Prophet salallahu Salam in an administrative sense, meaning that they would answer to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa salam as a central authority.

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And one of the tribes Benno abilties.

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They approached Medina,

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among other tribes. And as soon as the representatives of the delegation reaches Medina, they rushed to the masjid and nibbly the masjid of the Prophet salallahu ad who was selling them to go and meet him, meet with him, for the first time, give him the BIA

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and talk to him about their tribe, and about what this kind of beta entails. But among this Dr. Ben who Abdullah is there was one of the leaders who did not go straight to the masjid of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam instead, he took to the side of Medina.

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He washed himself

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and he puts on new fresh clothes. Then he catches up with his

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group in the mystery of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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So as they were talking to the Prophet SAW Salem, the Messenger of Salam recognizes this special behavior from this man and the prophets I seldom appreciate that and he says to him, in Africa hustler teeny you hit boom Allah you have two traits you display two traits that Allah loves

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and she'll mall and Anna

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This easygoing nature, you're not in rush, you're not hasty person. And him. Well, Anna, Anna is patience, as well.

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You're not pushy.

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You're not in a state of haste. You're balanced. You have this beautiful, balanced, easygoing demeanor about yourself. You take your time with things rightfully.

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So the man said, O Messenger of Allah, Ya rasool Allah.

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Marcus Latini jobelan Allahu Allah, Hema, and make this up to Homer callable Giovanna Kola, who led him he said O Messenger of Allah, these two traits that you noticed in me Are they built in me in the sense that Allah wired me in that way, created me in that way or is it something that I have conditioned myself or I have learnt?

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The prophets of salaam said Allah has built them in you as natural traits, natural personal

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So he said that hamdulillah Hilah de Jabulani Allah has Latini home Allahu Allah Surah

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all praises due to Allah that Allah created me in a way that Allah gave me two traits that he Allah admires, and His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam admires these are the two traits.

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So the Prophet SAW Allah when he was salam expressed his admiration.

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And he highlighted that these are two traits that Allah subhanaw taala loves and him will enter him is forbearance, which is a form of patience.

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When a person is Haleem, and Haleem is one of the names of Allah. So Allah loves these traits, because Allah possesses them himself. Because they are positive. They are inherently good traits.

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And him Allah isn't him. And shame is someone who's able to be patient and composed.

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They're not obnoxious. They don't act on impulse. They're not easily aggravated. They have so much inner space that they can take much of pressure, much of provocation and yet stay composed and balanced. That's forbearance, its inner strength. It's balanced, that is not easily disturbed inner inner balance that is not easily disturbed by the givings of a situation

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they don't get

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angry easily.

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They don't get intimidated easily. They don't fall in anxiety easily. It's this type of people that's Haleem.

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You might try to anger them provoke them, and they won't respond in kind.

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They won't be provoked.

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It's very hard to disturb their balance.

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We'll enter the second one is patience, the opposite of being in rush the opposite of haste. There are people who are very quick to react

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without calculation, without proper contemplation, but when someone has this patience,

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you know, they give things do thoughts, before they act, they calculate and they measure to me, they they try to weigh up the pros and the cons of what they do or what they are about to do. And they act with clarity, that Selena

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and these two traits are found in an Arabic word that is called or description or trait that is called a riff.

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riff. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, in the authentic hadith, in Allah Allah He upon your headboard riff

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were in Allah European eyelid riff mela Europe the island owns.

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In this hadith the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says Allah is our favorite part. One of the attributes of Allah is that he is raffia.

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And graffia is the one who possesses the two traits that we just described. unfilmable

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we're in Allaha europei eyelid lift imala Europlug Ruth. So Allah Sophia, and he loves riff, he loves this trait. He loves this personal traits and when Allah loves something, Allah rewards for it. When Allah loves something, it is good. When Allah loves something, it is positive.

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And is extremely

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blessed and beneficial.

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So Allah is Lafayette and he loves Rif. So Allah loves the people will have this trait about themselves.

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And Allah rewards and compensates for lift more than he gives for its opposite.

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And anything that possesses riff that possesses this trait or this character.

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It would be beautified. It's a beautifying factor and not in terms of aesthetics, not in a sense of cosmetics. But this is genuine beauty meaning moral beauty. That means it's anything that has all the things that have this kind of forbearance and this patience and this easy going demeanor.

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Any issue or any behavior, or any endeavor that possesses these traits, or is conducted in this spirit is blessed.

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And Allah will reward for it. And Allah will give more for it in this life and in the next.

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And it would be beautiful. It would be moral and it would be good and it would be positive.

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And whenever the street or the spirit is taken away from something, then this thing becomes ugly. It turns into ugliness and is pickable

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a horrible thing.

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So why this straight what is so special in the street, actually so important Islam that Allah and that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam advised us to take it as the spirit with which we approach Islam itself. We approach Islam with this trait. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in another authentic hadith, in her that Dena Mateen. For a while he law V he believed

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that this religion of Islam this way of life,

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the system of Islam is solid, profound and deep.

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So approach it with riff.

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The way you approach it, the way you practice it, the way you learn it, the way you engage in it should be based on the spirit of riff. Again, we said forbearance and patience. You don't rush into things

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you don't

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act on things based on a hasty spirit,

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you take your time you let things

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grow naturally

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in her that Dena Mateen, for oclean ofI Hebrew riff, and it is here where the other statement came about when I can go fishing in lezana, who woman who's the I mentioned in LaShana. That when the riff is found in something, it beautifies it and gives it a positive charge. But when it's taken away from something, it leaves it ugly, and negative.

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So this is how we are supposed to approach Islam. So let's look at this trait. And its component, this Thrift, which has the forbearance aspect and the patience aspect, how does this impact us, we should have this in all of our affairs. Why? Because first, it's a divine trait that Allah loves and Allah wants us to have, Allah wants us to develop. Some people possess that naturally, some people have to work towards that, and the person will be rewarded.

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So what about these traits? Let's start with the first one. So this is divided into a shame and shame is forbearance composure. Again, as we said, your error in a balance is so stable, and powerful, that is not easily disturbed.

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So someone tries to intimidate you, you cannot be intimidated, because you have so much richness inside so much content, and stability and strength inside. That anything that comes from outside only affects the surface, but doesn't disturb the deep waters of your being.

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So whether it's fear,

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whether it's a violation,

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or any kind of provocation, the person is able to keep composed, stay composed and maintain their balance.

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What's the opposite of this? The opposite of this are people who keep swinging between different moods. You say they hear a positive word. They feel elated, they are high, and they start daydreaming, and they be they they indulge in their fancy dreams.

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They hear a negative word. They are ruined, completely devastated.

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What does that mean? They don't have any real substance within them. They're easily disturbed.

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They're easily provoked.

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theek fear takes over them. Joy takes over them. Sadness, overwhelms them.

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throws them completely out of balance. Joy makes them transgress. And Allah subhanaw taala mentioned that this is actually a trait of humans that they need to work against. Allah says for example, can in Santa lyoto. Stocking up.

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But humans, man, when they become rich, when they have the resources, they think that they are self sufficient. They think that they can stand on their own. They think that they are better than others.

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They develop this huge ego about themselves just like Otto and

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the rich person at the time of Musa alayhis salam from the people of the Pharaoh.

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When people advised him with regards to his wealth, to use it wisely, to use it to support good means and good causes. What did he say? He said in Mr. Ott, who am I was given that, because of my excellence because of my expertise, because of my knowledge, because of my wisdom because of my status. That's what I was given these. It's my excellence. So they they take credit for that. That's what humans do.

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And this is why so many of the scholars of Islam they said there are in nominal rebirth, Banda, your special who in alpha

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we're in the Levina law you have seen that among the creation of Allah there are people who cannot be set right, who cannot behave well except with poverty and lack. And if Allah were to give them wealth, they would be spoiled and they would go astray

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Wamena nasem under your solution for Lilina

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well as Cara hula hula said, and there are people who can only be set straight with what abundance and wealth do

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If they were to experience poverty,

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they would lose their focus and their path and they would go astray.

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Allah knows Allah says in the Quran Hello basalt Allah Hoodless Collier de la fille Abdullah ki Yuna zero GPA in Maya. In the hobbit a bad day, Fabio rhombus had ALLAH given risk provision to his creation without limits without abundance, they would have transgressed.

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But Allah says according to precise measure,

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Allah indeed is well aware

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of his servants and he sees all of their affairs.

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So that's lack of forbearance, lack of composure, lack of balance, there's no him a person is easily disturbed. They easily respond in very deep ways to a very simple external impulse, or any external stimulus. That's their problem.

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A word can send them up or down.

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Whereas the believer is balanced.

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They're not easily disturbed. Why because the heart is connected to Allah.

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And this is why Allah says also in the Quran in insana, fully a helluva ADA Messiah, who shall who just who were either Messiah who Pharaoh man or ill, mousseline,

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man, humans are created in this kind of swinging nature.

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Either Mr. Hill, how you maneuver that when good comes to them abundance, wealth, they hold it keep it to themselves, they act in miserly ways.

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Well, either Mr. Hill shot Romanova

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either muscle, hermano muscle shadow the zoo. And when evil comes to them, when hardship comes to them, they are taken over by fear and anxiety.

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They're completely thrown out of balance. They are depressed

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by the external conditions in normal saline, except for those who truly pray and observe the prayer. Why? Because they have a man. Their ocean is deep and stable and connected to more than the immediate reality that makes them Haleem. Forbearance someone who can handle life. So that's part of a riff.

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That's part of a riff, they don't have this greed about life. Impatience don't take over them.

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And discouragement does the does not break their spirit. That's the issue. They are balanced.

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They are balanced, they are not fully open to external circumstances to shape them. No.

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They have a set point

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of balance and positivity that cannot be disturbed by external circumstances. Why? Because they attend to a bigger, wider spectrum of reality, because they are connected to the world of the unseen. They're connected to Allah subhanho wa taala.

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The second trait, and by the way, human greed, human competition, human aggression, anger, violence comes from lack of him

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from lack of forbearance.

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And that's what humans are doing. You know, the big corporations, the big businesses, the big sharks, the whales in any society. They always want more, they have billions, and they can't get enough. They want more, even if that means millions of people starve to death, they don't care about that.

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What's happening in the world is clear abuse

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is just a masked and come up with camouflaged type of dominance,

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and subjugation and slavery.

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But it's just done in more subtle ways. So it is more soft, so people don't realize it. But it's more pernicious and more evil and more destructive.

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Why is that because of lack of shame. People are aggressive about their, their desires and the temptations and their personal goals.

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And the second one is what Elena Elena says that you are not in haste. You know that things take time. You don't rush into things.

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You're patient.

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You take your time with things that's not inaction.

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But it's a balanced approach to things shows that you're not when temptation does not overtake you.

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You take your time to study it, to understand it and to act with dignity. But when someone leaves

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acts this beautiful trait what they do a temptation will make them denigrate themselves, sacrifice the dignity and put themselves down for the sake of what a little benefit or gain.

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So this is why this companion when he came, he didn't rush to the Prophet SAW Selim, he thought I would meet the Prophet salallahu Salam in an appropriate fashion traveling through the desert for days or weeks means the person really needs to clean themselves and put up some new clothes, and be presentable because you're talking to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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That's wisdom. That's that's the good thing. Whereas the others didn't have the patience. They just rushed to the Prophet SAW Salem to meet him, even though they were in a state that might not be ideal for that kind of meeting.

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And this is how all Muslims should behave in all of their affairs, religious matters and worldly matters, in the way we raise our kids,

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the way we do our work in our jobs in our business, the way we treat our families and our spouses, the way we the way we deal with any situation,

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personal interactions, things like that, do you find some people are so quick to get angry, without even understanding what the situation is, and they would act on their anger, then they would regret it act on impulse, because these two traits are the opposite of impulse.

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Or you will find someone

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who would easily harm their child. Why? Just because they are not in the mood, just because something angered them.

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It's lack of risk.

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It's lack of books is risk comes from yourself from your neffs from your ego, whereas forbearance and risk comes from the heart

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comes from a pure heart. Even with religion, Allah doesn't want us to approach religion with our neffs with our ego, we need to approach it with what with the wisdom of the heart.

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So that's why the prophets of salaam said approach this Islam with risk, you will find people rushing and the scholars segment Rahman Al Badulla, the Hanbang who Joomla that whoever wants to learn the knowledge, the knowledge of Islam all at once, they would lose knowledge all at once, you would not learn things take time, the purification of your heart takes time. The DEVELOP development of yourself takes time. developing better trades takes time, removing your sins take time.

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Everything takes time.

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You need to recognize this nature about this life Apollo Cola, there was a federal law and you were looking for stuff.

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayidina Muhammad Ali, he was hard to hear the Mahi and all that. So it's important for every Muslim to develop to develop these two things. Don't react with so much you know, strong feelings and imbalanced to any situation.

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Be from those alcohol demeanor live those who hold back their impulse, study it, process it and then act with wisdom. That's him. Second one. Don't rush into things and don't haste and don't push things before the due time comes about because that would spoil them and destroy them with everything religious matters, and worldly matters, relationships, personal affairs, your health as well. For example, your level of fitness, your business.

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Everything has an appointed time. Your rush will not bring it about before its time. It might actually destroy it. And the scholars always say Minister Angela sheet acapella awanee If Tullia beheaded Manny, whoever rushes something before it's due time, then they would be rewarded with losing it altogether.

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So have these two beautiful traits that Allah subhanaw taala loves and rewards for and they are again found in one word, one of the traits and attributes of Allah the description of Allah Allah, Allah in Allahu Allah for your head, but if Allah is raffia and he loves to be that type of person, we ask Allah Subhana Allah to guide our hearts to purify our hearts and correct or actions, alarm or fiddling when you know we want me to be Muslim you know when a Muslim that Allah here even unwholesome word Allama fildena don't obey now why so often? Most often if you empty now with a bitter Kodama now when sadhana omal Catherine Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Abdi Kabbalah

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