The Beauty Of Forgiveness

Moutasem al-Hameedy

Channel: Moutasem al-Hameedy

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Jumuah Khutbah on July 7th, 2017 @ the Abu Huraira Center.

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had he had to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa early he was sending Sallam or Sharon memoriam to her wakulla Desert in Buda wakulla. Allah Allah, Allah, Allah Allah,

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all praises due to Allah, we praise Him, we seek his aid and we ask for his forgiveness. We seek refuge in Allah from the evils of ourselves and the evil consequences of our actions. Whomsoever Allah guides, none can lead astray, and whomsoever Allah leaves to go astray in and can guide I bear witness that no one has the right to be worshipped, except a loss of Hannah what Allah alone, none has the right to our ultimate love and devotion but a loss of Hannah what Tyler and I testify that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa aalihi wa sallam is his servant, and His Messenger. Indeed the best speech are the words of Allah. And the best guidance is that of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa early

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he was a lump. And the worst thing in the religion are the newly invented matters for all the newly invented matters and religion or innovation and bid and every bit that is misguidance and every misguidance leads to the hellfire.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala describes the believers

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as people who forgive

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so he says And lo and behold on well Calvary mean Elia well

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feen Anis will Lahu your Hebrew myrcene in Salah describes the believers as people who suppress their anger. And they have a grudge, they do not act upon it, they suppress it. And not that's not the only thing but they also go a step further, where they forgive people, they pardon people will fit in and in US will law who you heck will machine a machine and Allah loves those who do good. Those who offer help to others, those who are good to others. So this is a primary description of the believers is that they are ones who forgive for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada. And

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during the hypothetical if the slander were the hypocrites at the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. They falsely accused the wife of the prophet SAW Selim alysha of committing Zina. And they spread that rumor, and they spread that slander. And they violated the reputation on the life of the prophet SAW Selim himself and the reputation of his wife. And this was a great predicament. It was a very difficult testing time for the prophets of Salaam and his family and for the believers in general.

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And shadow, the Allahu anhu was tested severely during that time.

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And during this period, some of the believers some of the Muslims themselves, they had these slanders and these rumors, and unfortunately, they just carried them. They just said, we heard this. We heard that and they conveyed it to somebody else. Some people might take this as an innocent incident. It's not a big deal. It's something that I heard, right. But in Islam, this is a very big issue. This is a very big issue. The Prophet sallallahu Sallam says Keffer build model, he can even and you had the subequal Lima summit. It's enough, like a person has lied enough, he's definitely a liar. If he conveys everything he hears, if everything you come across you go and convey it,

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you have definitely light, you have definitely fallen into a light.

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So when you hear something and you spread it, and sometimes you don't even spread it in a in a straightforward way. But you say, I heard so unsalted such and such. Do you think that's right or wrong? Do you think it's real? And that's how you spread the rumors. This is how good people spread rumors. This is how good people slander others. This is how good Muslims can fall into a grave error by saying something they have no certain knowledge about. Some of those Muslims spread those. They were asking, they were inquiring or they were just having a conversation. We had a shadow below and this and that. So that's what they conveyed. And the last panel, Tyler reprimanded the Muslim, some

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of those Muslims who did that

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it felt a lot fantastic teleco vlcfa como de una BFY de como la sala combi, and that you receive it with your tongues, Allah says you receive it with your tongues. What does that mean? It means that you don't receive it and think about it and scrutinize it, whether I should say it or not. But straightaway, you receive it on your tongue so that you convey it as soon as you hear it. So you convey it and you spread it without questioning it without verifying it. And that's problematic. And that's the first lesson undescribable when you hear something, don't spread it. Good news, bad news. Don't spread it.

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Especially on social media, you find something happening straight away, you'll find it all over the internet. This incident happened all over the internet. And we think we're doing something good. We're raising awareness. But most likely we are creating chaos. And how often a lot of the news that are spread are actually unreal. Or even if part of them is real, then not the whole truth. So you will be creating mischief just by spreading and sharing whatever you like the easiest thing you can do on social media and that's what most people do is to share and sheron sheron sheron sheron here and we don't realize that even if something is true, you're not supposed to share it. You know,

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you're not supposed to air it. Allah subhanaw taala says, What do you

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mean me? I will have fear that we will ever do hula Vasudeva will remain home Allah Allah Allah de and I stumbled upon a woman last month that describes the hypocrites. He says whenever they hear something that pertains to the safety and the security and the welfare of the Muslims, they spread it they they air it. Then Allah says they should refer this issue to the people in charge, and the people of knowledge and the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam because these are the people who are able to scrutinize it and really verify

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If there is a benefit in airing it or keeping it secret, because not all news should be spread.

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If something is true, it doesn't necessarily mean that you should spread it. There are good things that happen or there are true things that happen. You're not supposed to spread them.

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And the Muslim history is full of these incidents. Back to the story. So some of those innocent Muslims good Muslims in the Muslim community at the time of the Prophet Islam, they heard that news they had heard that slander, so it spread through them because they were sharing it, they were talking about it.

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And they were reprimanded by Allah subhanho wa Taala. One of them was misled. No atha misled. No FF is the cousin of Abu Bakr radi Allahu anhu. And he was a poor person that Abu Bakar sponsored him fully, he would give him an offer him funds on a consistent basis. He used to spend on him, he used to provide for him.

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And he being the daughter of Abu Bakr, radi Allahu anhu, when a loss of control revealed the reality of that story of that lie, and he exposed the hypocrites and the people who were spreading this.

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Mr. haben author was found to be guilty of this. So what did abubaker Allahu anhu do? He said, I'm not going to pay, I'm not going to pay him anything. I'm not going to provide for him anymore. That's it. I provide for him. And he slanders my Muslims my daughter, and he speaks without knowledge and he got involved in this is a slander is a huge lie.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala reveals a verse. Lots of panels, Allah says, Well, I tell you all fugly. minko will actually fugly minko Masada you to Aruba while Misaki in Omaha, Julian Effie sebelah well yeah for what he asked for him to hipbone.

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Allah Subhana Allah says those who offer good those who do good to people to the poor to the to the margerine and to the to the people in need

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them not hold back their their charity, they did not hold back their funds and their help and their assistance to people and let them Well yeah, for Well, yes, I let them forgive let them pardon. Allah to Hepburn and your fellow Allah, Allah. Don't you love that Allah forgives you? Don't you love that Allah forgives you and abubaker only allow I never heard this verse. He said, that I are indeed My Lord. I love that Allah forgives me. So what did he do he forget he forgave his cousin Mr. Fattah, and he gave him back the funds. He gave him back the funds. So that's a trait of the believers is that we forgive people commit mistakes. People wronged us people harmless, but still,

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we have forgiving hearts and the prophets Allah Allah says in the authentic hadith it's in a total a book to him by the Prophet Solomon says fella tone of lathan

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when leadin fcba will live in fcba they were in come to hell if an alien three things by the one in whose hand my soul is, and I swear by these the three things.

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Man aka sama, lumen sadaqa Fatah Sadako a charity will never decrease a wealth so giving in charity give for the sake of Allah.

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Why am I doing an mov limit in in lazada hula hooping multi amateur is and if a person forgive someone who wronged them, Allah will increase that person on the Day of Judgment with more honor.

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One more effort to have done Bab Ms. Ella tiene el Fattah Allahu alayhi, Bhabha, focalin and any person who asks without a need, who asked for help for money without a need, then Allah subhanaw taala will increase them in lack and poverty. These are three things the prophet SAW Selim swore by In the name of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So if a person if you forgive, Allah will give you honor, if you pardon people and clear your heart of all the grudges and all the hatred and all the anger you have towards others who have wronged you, rightfully, you have a right to hold a grudge but you still forgive them and let them go. That's a sign of goodness and a loss of penalty if you forgive,

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Allah will forgive you. If you forgive Allah will treat you the same way. So I will always forgive your sins. So forgive the people but he there is a limit because there's a common question that comes What if someone keeps wronging me and when I forgive them, they take advantage of me. That's a valid question. That's a valid and important question. And Chico Islam Samia mo loudhailer he answers that question. He says forgiveness is is a Nafisa is something you do extra it's men do it's it's encouraged in Islam it's liked but

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It's not an obligation. You do it out of your own accord as a gift, as a higher so it's not not necessarily an obligation. But he says, lF woman do bond when a slang word. So forgiveness and pardon is some kind of extra thing that you do for the sake of a lot smarter. You don't have to do it, but it's encouraged in Islam, whereas fixing things and justice is an obligation is an obligation which we call what we call a slap in all the fixing things, but in everything in its right place, establishing justice, having a situation being settled properly, where everyone gets their rights, that's an obligation.

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Then he says what up the Diem women do B lol word GB lay Seminary in Islam. And he says giving precedence to what is liked and encouraged over the obligation is not part of Islam is not part of Islam. So you forgive when someone has wronged you and they moved on and you move on. That's it, you will forgive someone when they have wronged you and they regret it so you forgive them and you let them go. But if someone is taking advantage of that, and they consider this forgiveness to be weakness, and they keep taking advantage of it. You have to take practical measures to put a limit for that person.

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Or at least keep away from them. Keep away from them. How often you will find this among friends, how often you find this among families, among in laws, among siblings, that a person is forgiving everyone takes advantage of them. They keep wronging them and the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says they're young money and New Zealand who a believer should not put themselves in a position of humiliation.

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You should not settle for humiliation as a believer because it doesn't go with faith. It doesn't go with a man because a man puts his and it puts honor in your and it puts dignity in your heart.

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So the companions asked what key for you alone? So he said you're a little left sir Who Lin Bella Imola, Yoko, they said he puts himself in a situation or in a position where he takes more humiliation or hardship that he cannot handle.

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So Muslims should not put themselves in a position of humiliation. So we forgive. And we release the anger and the grudge in our hearts. But when someone takes advantage of that, there has to be a limit. Something has to be done.

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And this shows that in Islam, you don't take one principle and apply apply it across the board in every situation. Islam is an equilibrium of different principles that function together. And you have to see how they coexist together. You find someone taking one principle of Islam, this happens a lot with some students of knowledge, they they learn something, and then they want to apply it in every situation. And when they see someone going against that rule, they think this person is committing a sin, but they don't realize that sometimes this person knows more than what you know. And they know that in that situation, your principle does not apply.

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So this is why usually the scholars say to the students of knowledge, do not rush to criticism.

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You have learned to Hadeeth when you see someone going against it, you say this person is going against the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Or you're in a situation someone's that someone tells you the promises and said such and such but you know, you know through your knowledge through your experience, that in this situation, this hadith does not apply. You know, another Hadith applies. Another verse applies. Another principle of Islam apply applies. And you can see the whole context, but that person can only see this one Hadith. And then when you say thank you, I don't take this is not the time to apply this advice. They say you're going against the Sunnah of the Prophet

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sallallahu sallam, and they don't realize it's the limitation of the knowledge and the impatience that they have.

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So in Islam, yes, there is forgiveness, there is pardon. It's a beautiful aspect of Islam.

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But when someone takes advantage of that, when the principle of justice is compromised, and the dignity of a believer is violated, no,

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we have to put a limit. practical steps have to be taken.

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And it's not by responding with aggression, but most likely by withdrawing and keeping that person along. Because if people know there are foolish people in this world, you find them everywhere you come across them, you have to deal with them.

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If you stoop to that level of foolishness, you've just become another fool. And that's it.

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So with such people, you just have to walk away and leave the situation for them.

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So preserve your dignity and preserve your honor. And this way, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says

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Hadeeth reported collected by Buhari, he says In short, one nurse mentor Kahuna su Takahashi.

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In limine, shchedrin SEO multi ama mentor Rocco NASA Takashi, one of the worst among the worst of humanity is someone or those that people avoid them out of fear of their evil,

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out of fear of their evil deeds of the evil actions, evil attitude, evil words, evil conspiracies, evil company, and so on and so forth. These are the worst on the day of judgment that people avoid them because of their evil.

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So it's a good thing to when someone compromise or when someone takes advantage of your forgiveness is that you withdraw if you cannot withdraw, then you have to be firm, but with justice, also with justice. And when a person grows and matures, spiritually and intellectually and socially and emotionally, these people can take more injustice from people without retaliation. And is what Allah subhanaw taala says its ability he has an idea for either lady Bina kwabena, who

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can actually amin WA, aka Latina, sobre, como la la,

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you know, pay back or push back against evil with goodness, with goodness. Lo and behold, you will find the person who has enmity towards you turning into a very close and intimate friend. And who gets this Allah Subhana Allah says, Those who have patience, that's a high level of patience. And these people have been favored and given something special by Allah subhanho wa Taala, great gift from Allah subhanho wa Taala. So when someone matures, in their religion, in their, in their hearts, and in their manners, these people can take more abuse from others, and without retaliation, and they will keep forgiving. But not everyone is capable of this. Not everyone, the Prophet sallallahu

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Sallam he was harmed, he was pushed back by his people yet, yet he would say allama filippone family, Allah, Allah forgive my people, because they do not know not everyone is capable of that level.

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So these are important principles that we have in Islam. And in order to make it practical, what I would

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advise to say over this week, find out a person who has wronged you in your life, and they moved on and you moved on, forgive them. If you have a grudge, if you have anger towards them, if you have anything in your heart towards them,

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forgive them for the sake of Allah in your heart, forgive them, for the sake of Allah subhana wa Tada.

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Forgive them for the sake of Allah. So remember what they have done for you. And you realize there's no way they can take advantage of your forgiveness now, just forgive them for the sake of Allah. And if you want to make it more powerful in your life, it would be great if you contact them, and tell them that you have forgiven them, that you have nothing against them.

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And you will be surprised sometimes in certain, especially in social situations, in human interaction, especially among families and in laws, that if you call someone and you tell them, Listen, you know, whatever happened in the past, I forgive you, you'll actually find out the person saying, I thought I was going to forgive you. Because in these situations, each one of us sees themselves on the rights.

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social situations are very complex, you fought you think that person wronged you, they think you wronged them. That's very common. But that doesn't matter. The response of that person doesn't matter. What really matters is that you forgive for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala hope and remembering the Hadith of the prophets of Salaam, that if you forgive someone who has done injustice to you, Allah will increase you in honor on the Day of Judgment. So during this week, find out someone in your life that could be alive that could have maybe, you know, made it to the next life.

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But forgive them from your heart, from the bottom of your heart for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala forget them, forgive them, let them go and forget about their injustice or the harm that they caused you and move on. And you will see how powerful the impact of this will be on your heart Apple only had was the federal law

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad, wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa.

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So the description of the believers again, is that they are people who forgive and they let go. Because when you hold on to a grudge, it burns you and it affects you the most. So for the sake of Allah Subhan Allah to Allah forgive and Allah subhana wa

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Allah is Forgiving to the people who forgive others. So when you forgive someone for the sake of Allah, Spanish Allah hope for the same from Allah subhana wa to Allah Himself. Hopefully the same from your Lord Allah subhanaw taala because we wrong Allah subhanaw taala day in and day out, we don't give a last month Allah his rights every day we do this. And we will be surprised on the Day of Judgment how much we have wronged Allah Subhana Allah to Allah. So when you forgive the creation of Allah, their Creator, will forgive you if you do that for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So this is just a general advice to myself, and to my brothers and sisters, that have this beautiful

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principle and know its limits as well. So you know, one takes advantage of it, know its limits, practice it in your life. And if you can practice it on a daily basis, I promise you will find so many beautiful changes taking place in your life. Because these ethical principles of Islam are practical. They are consequential in the sense that they have consequences. They have results, they impact your life in ways we don't realize in ways we don't see. There's what we call Baraka. Baraka is unseen. Its blessings that cause abundance in whatever we have, but we cannot account for it mathematically, we don't know how it happens. And sins have Sabbath, the sins have filth in them,

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that we don't see with our eyes, we cannot smell with our nose.

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There is this hidden, unseen part of whatever we have in existence. But because we live in the in this life, we don't see the whole reality. And these have real consequences. This is why there are so many edits from the prophets of Solomon that when a person does a sin, that Allah will prevent him from some provision, some abundance that was coming through the way of that person, Allah will stop it because of a sin that person committed.

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So these are I mean, whatever is good and bad, whatever its them tells us is good and bad, has practical consequences. And this is what makes us Muslims, we believe in the world of the unseen. We believe that what Allah subhanaw taala commands us to do is essentially and primarily good, and whatever law prohibits us, is essentially am primarily Bad, bad for us in this world. And in the next, these are things we have to believe in, we have to believe in. So we ask Allah subhanaw taala to help us abide by the beauty of Islam and appreciate it and practice it in our daily life. Again, upon hearing the death of Sheikh Abdullah Sheikh Abdul Rashid

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Rashid, have mercy upon him again, and when a Muslim Omar loses some of the people of knowledge, it is a disaster. It is a disaster because these students have knowledge of these scholars who are enlightening the Muslims and showing them the way of Allah SubhanAllah. Their presence sometimes is so powerful in any community where they are. And they cause ripple effects, that sometimes because most of these scholars, they don't get a lot of reputation, they don't get a lot of popularity. And we seem with the the world of the social media to be completely consumed. With this kind of popularity. We think that's the real deal when it's actually not. There are people who are creating

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a lot of change. And especially those great scholars in silence, they are changing people's lives in silence, and in a quiet fashion. They are creating a lot of impact. We don't see it because we have caught up on the hype of social media. But we don't realize that a lot of the hidden ones are among the scholars among the worshipers among the the righteous people in Islam that they are creating powerful impact. And this is the thing probably that keeps the Muslim world together strongly because these are the people living in a corner either for suddenness, these are the what are but these are the stranger ones who they themselves are righteous and they fix others when everything

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becomes corrupt around them. So we ask Allah Subhana Allah to forgive our scholars, and we ask Allah to preserve the living ones among them and help us benefit from them. allama filomeno will be natural must be minimal. Minimal and watch allama furlanetto Nova Nova slough and FEMA now with a bit of damage on sadhana tomika Furion Allah mchunu Salafi nominatim enough equally Makana la macchina da da da da da, la family him Deena Mahima and Robin attina dounia Hassan, Hassan Joaquin, when supernovae Columbia city, una Salama Alamo serene hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen