Choices For A Purposeful Life

Mohammed Faqih

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Recently Mr.

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Sahni, told you about,

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dear brothers and sisters,

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I have to be very honest with you. I was talking to a colleague of mine, right before the last session.

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And I was very nervous about this particular topic.

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Because I know that

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it will be held against me, whatever I say,

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will be held against me.

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And I knew that I had two options. Either I can come here and perform

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and try to impress,

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and in the process, violate the very topic that I'm supposed to be addressing and talking about, or I can come here and speak to myself

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and address my own struggle

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and try to connect with anyone else that has the same

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struggle

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that I find to be a lifelong struggle. And that is to live a purposeful life.

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So I decided to come and speak from the heart

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and turned off my device where the notes were.

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Brothers and sisters,

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Allah subhana wa tada created, as I remember one time asked me this question, just to provoke my audience, I said,

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Why do you think a loss of health Allah created women?

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I really want to know,

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and the very next day,

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and it was a series of hotdeals short talks.

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Of course, people came a lot of people came that were not there. Because of that question that I asked and I said, I will address the answer to this question. In the next. On the next night, this was during the month of Ramadan.

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So many people came, obviously many sisters came as well, just to see what this new Imam is going to be saying about this.

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And of course, everyone was

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waiting for me to say, the wrong thing.

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So I said, as far as I know, a loss of Hallo to Allah created women for the very same purpose that a loss and how Allah created men.

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And the dilemma that you and I face every single day, every single morning,

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every day, Allah subhanaw taala gives us another opportunity to either live by and for that purpose.

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Or to distract ourselves and turn away from that purpose and get caught up with trivial things.

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That's the dilemma that we face every single day, Allah Subhana Allah made that purpose. Very, very clear.

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Allah Subhana Allah created us for a lofty purpose. subhanho wa Taala created us for himself,

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to be for him, and to live for Him. And our motto in life is supposed to be the very model that the prophets and messengers came with.

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In a sauna, tea window, Suki, Mama, Mama macky Villa hero benign me.

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Last Jedi gonna

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be

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what I

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mean? Say that my prayer,

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my worship,

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my sacrifice, anything that I give up or give away

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in my living.

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I continue to live my continuous living every day, every moment. 24 seven.

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Why Mati and my death, whether it is a minor death every night I go to sleep, or ultimately

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the final moment in my life, from the beginning until the end, it is for a law, the Lord of the worlds will be that he can america and i was commanded to do so.

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live in such a fashion that reflects this purpose, we'll enter one muslimeen I'm the first of the believers, that's where the profits and as for us will enemy non Muslim in I am of the Muslims, those who submit their lives, their passion

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and everything they've got

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to Allah subhanho wa Taala the Almighty.

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Otherwise, this life is a waste.

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And the beauty of this motto that Allah subhanho wa Taala gives us in the Quran. The beauty of this principle is that it does not leave anything out, can be doing whatever you're doing.

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so long that it is within the parameters of the Sharia

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so long that you're not violating the teachings of our prophets, peace and blessings be upon him.

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So long as it's consistent, and it's in alignment with the Quranic principles. You can be doing whatever you're doing in life and still fulfill that purpose and be rewarded.

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However, there is a choice that has to be made brothers and sisters.

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One lesson I learned

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from

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my class that I teach, and every time I go over this particular section,

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the class that I teach among Institute called rules of engagement, Islamic code of ethics, we talk about habit changing.

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How do we change our habits, because this is a struggle, we start a particular pattern, a particular regimen

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we want, we were told today to start playing piano live.

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And very often,

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and conventions or gatherings like this, people get motivated. So they start something. But the unfortunate part is that after we leave, it fades away, the effects fades away. And we don't keep up with whatever we started at the conference at the convention.

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So one of the problems is that we don't know how habits change.

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So there's a this famous book that most of you are familiar with, that talks about what it takes to create a habit.

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And in that book, in the very first section of that book, The mystery is resolved.

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And for those who were asking me earlier, in a session, when we were talking about how do I know that the Quran is relevant,

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we're in the 21st century, somehow, like every time I attend a session, whether it's on leadership, or time management,

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or any of those workshops or seminars, and I'm talking about seminars and workshops that come from a secular perspective.

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While they're discussing things every time there's a beautiful concept or principle that is useful, there is always a Hadith, or there's a four Anak verse that actually confirms that. And they just keep popping in like so Pamela, the prophet just talked about that.

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So this principle is that habits are found at the center or at the intersection

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of three things. knowledge, skill, and desire,

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knowledge, skill and desire. Knowledge, answers, presses a very key question, and that is how to NY

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and that's where in many cases we fail. How?

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And even most importantly, why?

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What's the purpose? Why am I doing what I'm doing?

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If we answer this question, and in many cases, people don't like to really address this question. We don't want to face it.

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Skill brothers and sisters, it is something that you either possess naturally Allah Subhana Allah has blessed each in every single one of us with the skills and capabilities

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to fulfill this purpose for which he created us, Allah subhanaw taala will not burden us with something that we will not be capable of fulfilling or delivering.

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So you either have it or you have the capacity to acquire.

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That shouldn't be a problem.

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Then comes desire,

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and that is what is really missing.

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In the lives of so many people. Do we have the desire

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Do we have to desire to commit to this purpose or not? in everything that we do, whether it is my personal life, and personal choices, whether it is that major that I choose, or that career that I pursue,

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or in my family life, the way I approach marriage, the way I conduct myself

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and behave within my household,

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or my involvement and engagement in my community, and in the greater society in which I live?

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Do I have the desire to fulfill that purpose for which Allah subhanaw taala created me?

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So these are the two things that are missing the skill is their brothers and sisters. And if you have the desire, you can acquire it if you don't have it. But the two points that are missing in many

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of our lives are the first one.

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And the last one, the knowledge, which addresses and answers, why, and how, and the desire.

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And that's a decision that you have to make.

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That's a decision that I have to make for myself.

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That's a question that I have to answer for myself.

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Very often. And I know that the day unfortunately started with a story where I was quoted,

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I come from an area that is devastated with an increase in a rise

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in divorce rates amongst Muslims.

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And you know, I see the problem even with those marriages, 10 years, 15 years, marriages last a decade and two decades, I see the problem

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in these marriages,

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as I am conducting

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nicaea ceremonies

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where people are totally heedless as to what the purpose of marriage, or the purpose of this is. And we approach various like we approach everything else in life where we do things,

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because it's about time.

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And in some cases, just for the heck of it.

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Why did you choose this major? I don't know. I guess,

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sister? What is so special about this brother?

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I don't know. He's cute. He has a beautiful smile.

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Brother, what is it that you're really looking for in a marriage? I don't know. All I care about is Miss America. And

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speaking of Miss America, we're not related by the way.

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I am fulfilled with a que. That's him.

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So

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then after that,

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the marriage itself,

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where you have people who totally forget the purpose of that marriage, in fact, they even forget

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the very vows and principles upon which that marriage was established. And I remember one particular case, where the couple got very nasty with each other.

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And it was a conference school.

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On one end, the brothers speaking.

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On the other end, she's responding to him, everyone is waiting for the other one to make a mistake.

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And at one point, it got out of control that they were not even listening to me that I had to scream and I say, Are you listening to yourselves? Can you please tell me? On what basis Did you two come together?

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They said what are you talking about? I said, what were the basis upon which this relationship of yours became legitimate?

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I said In other words, I want you to remind me of the very worst vows that you to exchange in order for this to become a valid marriage.

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And they were not able to remember so

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they were not able to remember a very simple statement that many people repeat Why? Because when the time come, when the time comes, when that moment comes, everybody wants the Imam to get through it real quick. Give us the short version.

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And they just want to repeat what the Imam is saying. They're not really paying attention to it.

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Why because the purpose is not really clear. We repeat we repeat words and we make statements that are lost of Hana with Allah refers to in the Quran as Misa Pan haleiwa

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This is a

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Serious covenant.

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This is a serious covenant. People normally say that I take this person, or I give you the hand of my daughter.

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And I accept her hand in marriage in accordance to the book of Allah and the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And when I reminded them of this idea, or that part, yes, yes, we remember. So I said, Tell me,

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where in the book of a law or the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam? Do you find the type of attitude that you're having? And you're demonstrating with one another right now?

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Tell me, tell me, where in the book of a law or the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam? Do you find the type of issues that you are right now complaining about?

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And that you're pointing fingers at each other? Tell me where do you find these issues that rocked your marriage, in the book of Allah, or the son of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. The problem of this marriage is that it did not start on the basis of the book of Allah and the tradition of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. Nor was it maintained

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on the basis of the book of Allah, or the tradition of His Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and chances are that it will not end on the basis of the book of Allah and the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And that's why we ended up having tragic events like a Muslim brother, few years ago, stabbing his wife to death, after a marriage of 15 years.

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This is very unfortunate. Why because the book of a law and the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was not there, why to begin with the purpose was not clear.

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The purpose was not clear. And that's what living a purposeful, purposeful life offers us brothers and sisters, a chance to live a meaningful life, a fulfilling life, a life that pleases Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the beauty of this message of Islam that we have is that it provides us It provides us with a model

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and a choice.

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So lots of hands on with the ANA at the end of sort of says to us

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will in

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LA

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I'ma

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say that, um, but a human being like you.

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And I received a revelation.

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It is revealed to me that your Lord is one.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala, who created us

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to whom we belong,

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to whom we should offer this

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hearts

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to whom we should subjugate the passion.

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Our lives should be dedicated for him.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala says famine can

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be whosoever hopes and believes in meeting his or her Lord. Whoever believes in that whoever has that vision,

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whoever is focused on that destination, and wants to live a life that is consistent with that.

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folly, amen. This is the answer. Let him work, you have to earn it, you have to work for it.

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That should be the focus of your life in whatever it is that you do.

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And the degree that you're pursuing,

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you could be doing it to please Allah subhana wa tada

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in the marriage that you're about to start, or you're about to fix, and maintain and keep and fight for.

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You're pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala. When the Quran talks about

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relationships, right, that reached a breaking point, Allah subhanaw taala gives us a second chance.

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And we are told that if the couple want to rectify, want to reconsider, and if they have their intention in the right place, then Allah subhanho wa Taala is capable of bringing back that love and that compassion that faded away back into the mess. And the loss of Hannah with Allah will make their efforts succeed only if they are serious, and if they're sincere, and if they want to live for that purpose.

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In fact, even those parties that get involved and trying to help a couple makeup

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and we're

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Work out their differences, Allah subhanho wa Taala will assist them and guide them to be successful, ie the Swahili waka La Habana Hama only if they desire if they're genuine, about their attempt

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to bring back these two individuals together.

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So Allah subhana wa tada is capable of doing that brothers and sisters, we just have to make sure that we really want it that we are ready to commit. For men can ar judicata be fully amen? Let him work in whatever capacity

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he or she has some people say yes, Hamdulillah, I figured out what I and I really want to address this.

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Because it's a disease. It's a very destructive disease.

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And now a person can be sitting in their basement

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or in their room on their desk. And they can reach the entire world through Twitter, Facebook and YouTube and

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and some people have

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this idea. So yes, I do I do work. My work is that

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I critique

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and analyze

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the work of the activists

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can tell you what is wrong with what they do. So that's my job

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to pinpoint the problems.

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And give them no say hi and blog about it. Some people are very good critics, Mashallah. They can tell you exactly what is wrong with them. In fact, they may even be able to tell us that, though, and the whole world is at the verge of really at the verge of a disaster.

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But when he asked for the solution,

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they don't have a solution.

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So what's the point? What's the point of pointing out what is wrong? If you cannot provide a solution? What are you trying to do?

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Who are you trying to impress? What kind of popularity Are you trying to? Are you one of those people who's just looking for more views and hits.

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Because nowadays, we live in the world, in a world that really celebrates

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and embraces extremes.

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And in order to be popular, and for you to get the highest number of heads, you really have to do something very stupid and very, very extreme and put it capture it in a digital form and put it on YouTube.

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So some people basically have have done

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have seen that to be their role, pointing out what is wrong. And for those brothers and sisters, I say brothers and sisters.

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And this is a word

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that I just

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I wish that

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someone will really listen to that video clip of Sheikh Mohammed and has an adult, a champion and one of the greatest stars of our time.

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Where he said, Please do not preoccupy yourself. And I'm just roughly translating.

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His words were precisely chosen and picked.

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That I think someone needs to take these words and translate translate them as accurately as they put

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out there as a lesson for all Muslims.

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He says this Deen of Allah azza wa jal will be preserved and protected.

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It is not you and I that will save this Deen and preserve it Allah Subhana Allah the Almighty himself said in national agenda Vic we're in Nevada have Allah will preserve this Deen and those who work for this Deen are one of two.

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Either someone who is not sincere

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and

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know what they're doing. And sooner or later people will resent them and they will be exposed.

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So you don't have to worry about them. A loss of habitat is not waiting for you to go and expose them.

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They're doing that themselves. They're they're going down a very destructive path. Or it is someone who is sincere

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and they're doing their best. And these people are one of two types. Either those who do what is right and what is correct.

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And Allah subhana wa tada will double reward them

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or those

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who do their best and may not end up doing what is right and a loss of handle to Allah will reward them for their

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10th.

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So you don't have to really worry yourself about them.

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What you need to do is make sure that you're from the second type,

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the type that does his or her best to work for this Dean, and fulfill their purpose.

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Brothers and sisters,

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I urge you, and then you're on my way here, one of the things that really, really, really disturbed me and threw me off

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was the fact that I saw a lot of young men and women.

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Really, I thought the direction of the main

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hall was very obvious, we've been here all day long. But there were people going around like they were lost.

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And I don't know why some of our children are considering going to a Jacuzzi at this time.

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I thought that they either should be with us here, or they should be sleeping, or they should be doing something constructive, this is not time for them, then I realized that it's just part of that lack of purpose.

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So it is about time brothers and sisters, that we basically pass on this type of thinking to the next generation, let them think for themselves, let them decide for themselves, let them think

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and figure out their purpose in life is

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and let us guide them to live for. And by that purpose. I say this and I asked the last panel to Allah to make you and I have those who listen and follow the best of where they listen to. Hello, hello.

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Peace and blessings be upon him.

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So long, it's consistent. And it's in alignment with the Quranic principles. You can be doing whatever you're doing in life and still fulfill that purpose and be rewarded.

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However, there is a choice that has to be made brothers and sisters.

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One lesson I learned

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from

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my class that I teach, and every time I go over this particular section,

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the class that I teach you the institute called rules of engagement assignment code of ethics, we talk about habit changing.

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How do we change our habits, because this is a struggle, we start a particular pattern, the particular regimen

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we want. We were told today to start praying family.

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And very often,

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and conventions or gatherings like this, people get motivated. So they start something. But the unfortunate part is that after we leave, it fades away, the effects fades away. And we don't keep up with whatever we started at the conference at the convention.

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So one of the problems is that we don't know how habits change.

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So there's a this famous book that most of you are familiar with, that talks about what it takes to create a habit.

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And in that book, in the very first section of that book, The mystery is resolved.

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And for those were asking earlier, in a session, when we were talking about how do I know that the Quran is relevant?

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We're in the 21st century. So how am I every time I attend a session, whether it's on leadership, or time management,

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or any of those workshops or seminars, and I'm talking about seminars and workshops that come from a secular perspective.

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While they're discussing things every time there's a beautiful concept or principle that is useful, there is always a hadith or there's a four Anak verse that actually confirms that and they just keep popping out like so Pamela the Prophet just talked about that.

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So this principle is that habits are found at the center or at the intersection

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of three things. knowledge, skill, and desire.

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knowledge, skill and desire. Knowledge, answers, presses a very key question and that is how to NY

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and that's where in many cases we fail. How

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And even most importantly, why?

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What's the purpose? Why am I doing what I'm doing?

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If we answer this question, and in many cases, people don't like to really address this question, we don't want to face it. Skill brothers and sisters, it is something that you either possess naturally Allah Subhana, Allah has blessed each and every single one of us with the skills and capabilities

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to fulfill this purpose for which he created us, Allah subhanho wa Taala will not burden us with something that we will not be capable of fulfilling or delivering.

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So you either have it, or you have the capacity to acquire,

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that shouldn't be a problem.

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Then comes desire.

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And that is what is really missing.

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In the lives of so many people, do we have the desire? Do we have the desire to commit to this purpose or not? in everything that we do, whether it is my personal life, and personal choices, whether it is that measure that I choose, or that career that I pursue,

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or in my family life, the way I approach marriage, the way I conduct myself

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and behave within my household?

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Or my involvement and engagement in my community. And in the greater society in which I live?

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Do I have the desire to fulfill that purpose for which Allah Subhana Allah created?

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So these are the two things that are missing the skill is their brothers and sisters. And if you have the desire, you can acquire it if you don't have it. But the two points that are missing in many

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of our lives are the first one.

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And the last one, the knowledge, which addresses and answers, why, and how and the desire.

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And that's a decision that you have to make.

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That's a decision that I have to make for myself.

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That's a question that I have to answer for myself.

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Very often. And I know that the day unfortunately started with a story where I was quoted,

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I come from an area that is devastated with an increase in a rise

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in divorce rates amongst Muslims.

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And you know, I see the problem even with those marriages, 10 years, 15 years, marriages last a decade and two decades, I see the problem

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in these marriages,

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as I am conducting

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nikka ceremonies

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where people are totally heedless as to what the purpose of marriage, or the purpose of this is. And we approach varies like we approach everything else in life where we do things,

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because it's about time.

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And in some cases, just for the heck of it.

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Why did you choose this major? I don't know. I guess,

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sister? What is so special about this brother?

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I don't know. He's cute. He has a beautiful smile.

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Brother, what is it that you're really looking for in a marriage? I don't know. All I care about is Miss America and jilbab.

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Speaking of Miss America, we're not related by the way.

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I am fulfilled with a que that's K.

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Then after that,

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the marriage itself

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where you have people who totally forget the purpose of that marriage. In fact, they even forget

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the very vows and principles upon which that marriage was established. And I remember one particular case where the couple got very nasty with each other.

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And it was a conference call.

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On one end, the brothers speaking

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on the other end, she's responding to him. Everyone is waiting for the other one to make a mistake.

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And at one point, it got out of control that they were not even listening to me that I had to speak and I say, Are you listening to yourselves? Can you please tell me

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On what basis? Did you two come together?

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They said, What are you talking about? I said, what were the basis upon which this relationship of yours became legitimate.

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I said, in other words, I want you to remind me of the very worst vows that you to exchange in order for this to become a valid marriage.

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And they were not able to remember so

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they were not able to remember a very simple statement that many people repeat why, because when the time come, when the time comes, when that moment comes, everybody wants to amount to get through it real quick. Give us the short version.

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And they just want to repeat what the Imam is saying. They're not really paying attention to it.

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Why because the purpose is not really clear. We repeat, we repeat words and we make statements that Allah subhanho wa Taala refers to in the Quran as meetha Holly Eva.

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This is a serious covenant.

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This is a serious covenant. People normally say that I take this person or I give you the hand of my daughter.

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And I accept her hand in marriage in accordance to the book of Allah and the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And when I reminded them of it, yeah, oh, that part? Yes, yes, we remember. So I said, Tell me.

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Where in the book of a law or the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Do you find the type of attitude that you're having? And you're demonstrating with one another right now?

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Tell me, tell me, where in the book of the law or the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam? Do you find the type of issues that you are right now complaining about?

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And that you're pointing fingers at each other? Tell me where do you find these issues that rocked your marriage, in the book of Allah, or the sin of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. The problem of this marriage is that it did not start on the basis of the book of Allah and the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Nor was it maintained

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on the basis of the book of Allah, or the tradition of his prophet, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And chances are that it will not end on the basis of the book of Allah and the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that's why we ended up having tragic events like a Muslim brother, few years ago, stabbing his wife to death after a marriage of 15 years.

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This is very unfortunate. Why because the book of Allah and the tradition of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam was not there. Why to begin with the purpose was not clear.

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The purpose was not clear. And that's what living a purposeful, purposeful life offers us brothers and sisters, a chance to live a meaningful life, a fulfilling life, a life that pleases Allah subhanho wa Taala. And the beauty of this message of Islam that we have is that it provided us It provides us with a model

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and a choice.

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So most of Hannah with Anna at the end of solitary says to us

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will in Emma I'ma

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say that I'm a human being like you.

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And I received a revelation.

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It is revealed to me that your Lord is one.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala, who created us

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to whom we belong,

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to whom we should offer this

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hearts

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to whom we should subjugate the passion.

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Our lives should be dedicated for him.

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Then Allah subhanaw taala says,

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Whosoever hopes and believes in meeting his or her Lord, whoever believes in that whoever has that vision,

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whoever is focused on that destination, and wants to live a life that is consistent with that

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fully Amen. This is the answer. Let him work. You have to earn it. You have to work for it.

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That should it be the focus of your life. And whatever it is that you do

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and the degree that you're pursuing.

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You could be doing it to please Allah subhana wa Tada.

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In the marriage that you're about to start, or you're about to fix, and maintain, and keep and fight for,

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you're pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala. When the Quran talks about

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relationships, right, that reach a breaking point, Allah subhanaw taala gives us a second chance.

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And we are told that if the couple want to rectify, want to reconsider, and if they have their intention in the right place, then Allah subhanho wa Taala is is capable of bringing back that love and that compassion that faded away back into the mess. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will make their efforts succeed only if they are serious, and if they're sincere, and if they want to live for that purpose.

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In fact, even those parties that get involved and trying to help a couple makeup

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and work out their differences, Allah subhanho wa Taala will assist them and guide them to be successful. iriga is La La Habana Hama only if they desire if they're genuine, about their attempt

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to bring back these two individuals together.

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So Allah subhana wa tada is capable of doing that brothers and sisters, we just have to make sure that we really want it that we are ready to commit for men can ar judicata be fully amen? Let him work in whatever capacity

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he or she has some people say yes, Hamdulillah, I figured out what I and I really want to address this. Because it's a disease. It's a very destructive disease.

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And now a person can be sitting in their basement

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or in their room on their desk. And they can reach the entire world through Twitter, Facebook and YouTube and

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and some people have

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this idea. So yes, I do I do work, my work is that

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I critique

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and analyze

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the work of the activists

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can tell you what is wrong with what they do. So that's my job

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to pinpoint the problems

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and give them naziha and blog about it. Some people are very good critics, Mashallah. They can tell you exactly what is wrong with them. In fact, they may even be able to tell us that, though, and the whole world is at the verge of really at the verge of a disaster.

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But when he asked for the solution,

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they don't have a solution.

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So what's the point? What's the point of pointing out what is wrong? If you cannot provide a solution? What are you trying to do?

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Who are you trying to impress? What kind of popularity Are you trying to? Are you one of those people who's just looking for more views and heads.

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Because nowadays, we live in the world, in a world that really celebrates

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and embraces extremes.

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And in order to be popular, and for you to get the highest number of heads, you really have to do something very stupid and very, very extreme and put it captured in a digital form and put it on YouTube.

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So some people basically have have done

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have seen that to be their role, pointing out what is wrong. And for those brothers and sisters, I say brothers and sisters.

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And this is a word

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that I just

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I wish that

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someone will really listen to that video clip of Sheikh Mohammed and has an adult, a shantytown, one of the greatest stars of our time.

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Where he said, Please do not preoccupy yourself. And I'm just roughly translating.

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His words were precisely chosen and picked.

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That I think someone needs to take these words and translate translate them as accurately as they could. And out there as a lesson for all Muslims.

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He says this Deen of Allah azza wa jal will be preserved and protected.

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It is not you and I that will save this Deen and preserve it last panel to Allah the Almighty himself said in the national agenda

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We're in anahola Hospital, Allah will preserve this Deen and those who work for this Deen are one of two.

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Either someone who is not sincere

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and

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know what they're doing. And sooner or later people will resent them, and they will be exposed.

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So you don't have to worry about them. A loss of habitat is not waiting for you to go and expose them.

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They're doing that themselves. They're, they're going down a very destructive path. Or it is someone who is sincere.

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And they're doing their best. And these people are one of two types. Either those who do what is right, and what is correct.

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And Allah Subhana, Allah to Allah will reward them,

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or those

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who do their best, and may not end up doing what is right and a loss of handle attalla will reward them for their attempt.

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So you don't have to really worry yourself about them.

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What you need to do is make sure that you're from the second type,

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the type that does his or her best to work for this Dean, and fulfill their purpose.

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Brothers and sisters,

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I urge you, and then you're on my way here, one of the things that really, really, really disturbed me and threw me off

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was the fact that I saw a lot of young men and women.

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Really, I thought the direction of the main

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hall was very obvious. We've been here all day long. But there were people going around like they were lost.

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And I don't know why some of our children are considering going to a Jacuzzi at this time.

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I thought that they either should be with us here, or they shouldn't be sleeping, or they should be doing something constructive. This is not time for them. Then I realized that it's just part of that lack of purpose.

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So it is about time brothers and sisters, that we basically pass on this type of thinking to the next generation. Let them think for themselves, let them decide for themselves, let them think

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and figure out their purpose in life is

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and let us guide them to live for and by that purpose. I say this and I asked the last panel to Allah to make you and I have those who listen and follow the best way to listen to follow

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through