Channel: Mohammad Elshinawy
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be limited in what Allah or Coronavirus if he now will begin in the Name of Allah, the Most Merciful the Restore of mercy, all praise and glory belongs to a lot Lord of the worlds. Indeed Allah is deserving of the best of thanks, and the most beautiful phrases and we testify that no one is worthy of our worship, and our devotion with Allah alone, without any partners, and it's a prophet muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a searing tennis messenger. And the truth is the words the words of a lot of the great glories for iron and the wisdom guidance as soon as our Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
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After welcoming back to the beautiful faces to the house, Allah subhanho wa Taala some I haven't seen for quite some time.
We were making it customary, I guess, to speak on Friday nights about what story do you remember?
The story of Prophet Masada said something like that right?
And who's going to shock me and make my night and tell me what part of the story we left off at? I mean, it was a month ago and I don't blame you if you don't remember. But I would love it if you did. Remember is the last thing happened in the story anyway.
Sisters you want to rescue the brothers and sisters remember
it's like a lovely on he was chased out of Egypt bunnies.
Yes, he fled the country. He fled Egypt.
He fled Egypt. And he said I saw the idea he saw a Serbia perhaps my Lord will guide me history to it.
nother phase in the life of masala Salatu, Salam
and Assam for it. This is the only
marriage story in the whole course.
So as much Szilard for those that want to get married, and those that are married, and many other lessons as well. But maybe I'll only cling to the marriage lessons in sha Allah subhanho wa Taala. And continue the story Musashi said in that light this evening.
Even though we've established before the product is a total package, you can take from it, manners you can take from it, our belief system, the same story, the same verse, there is so much in it. And it's of the miraculous nature of the brand that it carries the potential for so many meanings in such a short phrase, something that no human being in reality could ever do.
And tomorrow night, by the way, we're going to be in a new series Saturday nights from now on shall la zona visit here very cool city. We're going to start a series called solid revisited. Why we pray, all the virtues of violin make solid and why we must be making smaller and while he wants to be making sama correctly, and the dangers of leaving solid will begin that tomorrow night when the last.
So moosari salam arrives at a city called mithya. Allah Subhana Allah says in the very next verse where we left off, while Emma, Emma Deanna Wajid Ali who met him in a NASA sport. And then when he arrived at the water, meaning the well of Meridian, he found there, a group of people watering, meaning watering their flock giving water to their sheep, right animals that they heard.
Well, what did that mean to me Hema, Emirati needed to do that? And he found off to the side away from these men were to women that were keeping their sheep away, keeping their animals away special effects,
keeping their animals Zoey
Carla Mahaprabhu Kuma, he said What's your story? What's your circumstances? What's going on? Let's we had to use a little while ago.
They said we will not allow our animals to drink until the shepherds leave. We're not going to mix with the men. And our father is an elderly man for soccer lahoma. So Musashi Lam granted the motor he wanted for them. He did the task for them in their place. So matabele lovely, and then he went off
To the shade of a tree, and he said, Robbie in neelima and xenta ilium and Hayden fapy Oh Allah iron, I'm in a dire need of whatever good you can sit. You said my way You said it down to. So these two verses, first of all
musala arrives, he arrived scared, he saw he's on the run. He's a fugitive in the eyes of
the people of Egypt.
And he does not know if he's safe yet or not. And he's hungry in his thirst. And he left Egypt zipline can feel like a mobile says with nothing but his shoes. And by the time he arrives at Meridian, a long distance away from Egypt, and this land still existence. Today, the million people live there.
Even his shoe strap and rip. Right? So he arrives the world. And you can imagine a person who would be ecstatic to find the world and he's ready to drink. But what happens he finds these two women off to the side, not participating in the race for the water in the world. So he says to them what's going on? They said, we're not going to mix with them. And we're gonna wait till they finish. And our father is an elderly man meaning and we wouldn't even be out here. We're not for our father being incapable of being out here.
What do we learn from this is a number of things. But of what we learn is that the Muslim woman has been honored by Allah subhanho wa Taala. to not have to leave the house, right? And not to go out unless there is a need for her to go out. Right. And we wouldn't be out here unless our father was an elderly man. But at the same time, this tells us that is permissible when there is a need for a Muslim woman to go out right or wrong.
But when she does go out, she's not going to go out without the proper hijab, right? And she's not going to forsake her modesty when she goes out, she's not going to go mixing with women. Look at how all of those are mentioned in one eye.
These are what are called the three levels of hijab.
The big concept of hijab
the first level of hijab is what the first level of veiling is, the Muslim is the home for the Muslim woman, right? A lot of foreign a few booty couldn't.
JD at the Buddha, he says the wives of the Prophet you're not like any other women, right? You're the role models. So remain in your homes and do not come out, make a display of yourself. The way that women in the pre snap at times is to do.
Okay, so she comes out when there's a need. And of course, a sister raising the society may think I'm trying to say what the enemies of Islam are saying, right? The need means that unless she's dying, right, and she's hemorrhaging and bleeding and not allowed to leave the house, no, the needs are really, she has a need to come to the masjid. She may have a need to go to the doctor, she may have a need to go out shopping, she may have a need to go out and work because their husband's not working or she's not married or father's not making enough her father's an elderly man like the women in this verse, right?
The need to keep ties with their families these are all legitimate needs. But not everything is in need though, right? Like window shopping is not any right or wrong. You guys know window shopping is right on you just walking around the mall already have the need, that you're not going to be buying anything. This is not a need, you know the
narrative and sooner. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was asked or messenger of Allah, what are the best places on earth? And what are the worst places on earth? He said, I do not know. Until gibreel brings me the answer. That's why no one should ever be embarrassed. I don't know. Mr. drama was awesome tonight.
So typically, Sam came to the realization from a lion. He said, Where's the man that asked this question. And the mannequin for the reality salon told me the best place on Earth are what? The houses of Allah and the worst places on this planet are what? So it's marketplaces due to the prevalent evil that exists in the market. So a person shouldn't be hanging around in a marketplace or in a mall, right? Unless there's a need. So this is the first level of Egypt very quickly, right? The level of the house.
The second level of a jab, the most common usage of hijabs and when there is an age she can leave the house right. But she leaves with the proper attire. She leaves veiled, not showing any of her adornments and the woman herself. She's in adornment, right, so she covers her entire body, say for her face and hands according to some of the amount right off the bat that debate on hf here was the point is the hegemony in the physical hijab as the profits of a
normal Muslim and elsewhere
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do not forbid the female slaves about loving the women from the houses of a loving them, I said, I let them come out unperfumed meaning when they come out for a need, like being in the machine learning their religion worshiping a lot, right?
He said, Let them come out unperfumed you know the proper HL, she's not calling her attention by revealing her body, nor does she have a sense on her right that she's going to be calling it the attention of men. So the second degree of a jab is when you do leave the home, you leave the home for a need with the proper HR. And then when you leave with the proper agenda is a third degree of the job now, and that's the job of attitude. The issue of how you conduct yourself. That's called higher that's called modesty. And modesty is for men and women alike is the most signature characteristic of our religion. And it is beautiful in both genders and it is more beautiful in the
As the profits are inadequate,
or colloquialism higher indeed, every religion has a Kudo, a character trait, something that's easily noticeable and all of its members. And the signature trait of the Muslims is higher the shaman is modesty, right? Also, this verse contains proof that it's permissible to talk to a woman or non Muslim woman when there's a need moosari Samson, what? What's going on? What's your circumstance? Right. And this also shows By the way, the virtue of Masonic photo setup, that of all the people he is the most needy and he's not even from the town and he was the one that was more noble than them all and he said to the woman How can I help you right for some people they have this
very limited understanding of being religious stuff I don't speak to them and whatsoever What if she has any
speak to women was whatever she's in trouble dude like Be a man you know, man up this is a woman right? If there's any he's allowed to speak to her and speak to her within the parameters of course, what is appropriate and what is permissible what is necessary? Nothing more.
Nothing more than that as a separate long subject. I don't want to get into with inshallah rose gonna turn into a class. Okay. So he gave them water. Right? He granted them water. And then he stepped off. He didn't say By the way, my name is Ibrahim is My name is masala.
And, you know,
if you need anything, I'm just gonna be over there here, right? I don't know anybody in this town. What's your name? Right.
He did not even ask them for payment. Forget socializing. He didn't even ask them for payment, even though he needed it.
And this is the ideal state that when you do something for the sake of Allah is a very important listen. When you do something for the sake of Allah. Ideally, you don't accept you definitely don't request payment for it. That's the ideal state. But the prophets of Allah said, When wealth comes to you from Allah, without it being in exchange for your dignity, the lady Shafi laughs the Hadith says then except, but he didn't ask for it. The height the ISS, he grabbed the water so much Oh Allah in a way and then he turned away To what? To the shade. And he said, Oh, my Lord, in neelima and center in a Yemen.
I am in dire need of whatever good you can send down to and from his wisdom he said, Oh, I live in dire need of whatever good you can send down to me. When you make do it, especially for worldly matters. He had a worldly need right now. He was hungry and scared and needs new shoes. You ask Allah for the highest you ask Allah for the good because you don't know what the good is. Don't say Oh Allah I'm begging you give me this job you don't know if this job is good for you. Oh Allah give me this wife I need to marry this man. You don't know that could be the person to drag you down. Right We said today in the hot wallet everything that comes your way is relative could be for you it
could be against you except the man so when you ask for something worldly not to be man not religious. You ask Allah for the height anything in your life and the profits of a mother to send them the height that are very beautiful long Rocky's to make it
he begins by saying a lovely lovely work
on my sky your knowledge of the unseen only you know what tomorrow brings on? What are the logical health and by your ability over the creation only you are in control of things on
the map a little higher the higher the good give me life so long as you know that life is good for me I don't even know maybe dying today is better than nine tomorrow. Maybe tomorrow I go straight
whatever funny that I'll internet warfare to hire only and put me to death when you know that death is better for me. So when you ask a while you always ask the love of like
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Ah z a cache of a Mercer play teller. One of the two atlases comes to him walking upon modest. She said, Indeed My father is inviting you, to repay you for the water you granted us.
fella magic of solving puzzles are alleged to have majority real body mean. So when he went musasa went with her to her father. And he told him the story of the events of brown running from Egypt and all this, he told him, let's don't fear you are safe from the oppressive people, many, many benefits in the desire, I'm just going to linger on a few of them. Obviously, the the evil of Freetown was widely known, right? To a degree that
this man said to him, don't worry, you see, I mean, this is not this land here. You're You're beyond his jurisdiction. We know what he does. He has no control here. Nick Jones, every
one of us so he made the door accent or low whatever good you send to me, I'm in need of it. And then she has so one of them came to him. The immediacy of the responses
when a person uses do it correctly, and we spoke about drive in the last session last month, so I'm not going to linger on it again. But when a person uses do I correctly is constantly calling upon Allah, Allah Zilla, Jen does for him more than he ever expects. So he asked, Oh Allah send me whatever good. And he got immediately with that, not what's about to happen. And he said, He's about to get more than new shoes. You want to get shoes and food and water and a wife and a new job, everything. Yes, with this drop.
So one of them comes to him, tell him she is the hero walking upon modesty. So the way she walked was modest. All right, there's another pillow another way you can recite these atunci one of them and the wording of the Act Napoleon are brilliant in this manner, they can be recited to carry multiple meanings once again, one of them came to him walking upon modesty. So the way she was walking was modest. Or it can be recited for jets who whom attempt she so one of them came to him walking comma.
In the pilot upon modesty, she said mean the way she's talking is modest.
So this is in the order of the words they're in entail that she was walking modestly. And even though she was speaking was modest.
It was reported authentically
and said she came walking upon modesty. She came with her face covered like this, he said over lavonne, meaning she had her face covered in front of musalla his center. And this is over the many, many proofs that Nipa exists. Islam is a part of Islam. I'm not saying it's an obligation, this is the bigotry. But niqab is a part of our religion, and a part of highest part of modesty. Because the scholars of Islam all agree that this is a virtue, a woman covering her face, this is must have this is recommended. And some will go farther and say it is even obligatory. But they all agree that it's at least Mr. Hat, why am I establishing this? Because there are people out there unfortunately,
religious people out there that got polluted with politics and other stuff
that came about nowadays and they say things like the problem is not from Islam. niqab is actually how long? how the world is? How did you get that photo? He said, because it's not from the Muslim religion. So it was added to Islam and it's from the custom of the Jews. So if you add something from to Islam, that's called an innovation and that's how you Mashallah 2014. Right? guide us and protect our hearts.
But the point is, this is a part of Islam, and the wives of the Prophet SAW Selim used to wear the niqab. And it's a virtue by scholarly agreement. And whether it's obligatory or not, is the only valid area of debate. That's the point. But it's a part of modesty. And this is why we said that modesty exists for men and women, and it's even more beautiful in women.
of the proofs, this idea, she came walking upon modesty. What does that mean? She came walking in a manner that was modest, she was covered up entirely.
And of course, if a hijab is supposed to conceal the beauty of a woman, and the apex of beauties were in her face, right.
So she had her face covered on corpses. And then how did she speak modestly? The eye says it clearly. highlights in the abbey at the room. She said my father invites you to come over for dinner, right? My father invites you, to repay you for the water that you granted us. On this third big difference between my father invites you
Between, come, you're invited for dinner.
And also what we learn from this is something very, very subtle, but very, very important.
So one of them came to him upon modesty, she said,
my father invites you to grant your reward for what you did. What's her name? What's the name of this girl?
And honestly, it shouldn't, isn't to be discussed. Allah subhana wa dalla spoke about her, you through her quality, meaning that's the most important part you need to know about.
See, the 4am teaches us by what is mentioned to us and the poor and teaches us by what it doesn't mention to us, you see to some people, and this is something unfortunately, we inherited
from the traditions of other nations that they sit there they debate, What was her name? And was she the older one or the young girl you find this in the books as well, the tree Adam Alice ate from was an apple tree or a cherry tree. This is what the prophet SAW said, I'm used to seek protection a lot from you say, oh, Allah protect me from knowledge, it doesn't benefit. Right? If there was benefited known her name, it would have been there. And if there was benefited, known in the companions would have asked the prophet and What was her name, but they understood best at what Allah teaches us through what he mentioned. And when he's silent about some kind of without. So her most important
quality is not her name that's going to benefit us in any way. What's going to benefit us is this beautiful quality that she had of Hyatt remember this quality of Hyatt, because it's going to qualify her or her sisters that are not clear honestly on it to be worthy to marry a prophet. And I'll explain why when I get there shall we want to jump the gun I have to build the suspense are also embed storyteller, you know.
So he comes to her license
comes to him,
he says, narrates human costs, the stories and it's sort of a loss of the soul of this chapter that will relate to you very do so the puzzles, the stories, this is out there. This is the reason why it's called Total puzzles. When he tells them the causes, the man says to him, let the half don't feel natural to help yourself safe
to tell me,
one of the two of us says one of the two daughters, she says, Oh, my father hired him.
Indeed, the best person you can hire is the strong and the trustworthy. And this is a jam packed of lessons. I don't know how many will be able to mention. But one of the two said not mentioned which one once again, oh, my father, these are all for manners, right?
Instead of the man of the rights of your parents, and legends of me, he wished me well as him she is
something he learned from the prophet SAW Selim himself, your parents, you don't call them by their name. She said, Oh, my father, and you don't walk in front of them. Unless there's a need like someone's about to beat up through that stage up in front than you Mashallah, you know, what, you don't walk in front of them that a reason? There's a reason you had an open door for that, that's awesome. For your mom, that's great. Well, you don't walk in front of them as if you're the leader, and then the follow it doesn't work. That's what attention is up level knowing that you sit in front before them. You wait till they sit and they pick their seat and you said, This just shows you also
have understood from the prophet SAW Selim that parents are royalty. You don't walk in front of the king unless you're the one rolling the carpet in front of them. Right? Right. You're the guy with the gun. You're the Secret Service chicken, if anyone's gonna assassinate our king, right? And you don't sit before the king, everyone all rise and we stand there and the king sits and he fixes his pretty dress and then he sits down right? royalty in Islam parents are that they're royalty. There's no way they are to be treated. Yeah, empathy. Oh, my father, is that God hire him. While you do an awesome job. Why would you hire that a woman and intelligent woman understands that her worth and I
have to mention this live in the US understands that her work is not in her making a living. You see people outside and on TV, they tell the woman you're not any less than the man. Why don't you put you know, the work clothes on you go out and you earn a living.
And this year, I have a right to work. You guys ever heard that women have the right to work? Sure women do have the right to work. Don't get me wrong. The woman has the right to earn a living and feed herself to feed her family especially if she must, but who in the world considered work or write that get past you? I have the right. Do you know that every single man if he had the opportunity, it's not working. He go home to one leg on the other and saying you know I'm on
vacation permanently. He only works because he has to, he has to feed his wife and his kids. What do you mean, I have a right to work.
And they said that to you and kept repeating it to us. So you think that it was a privilege to work, and you let go of a job that the man couldn't do raising the generation of tomorrow, men would fail trying. So they can raise your kids for you with the television or through the babysitter or otherwise, who's gonna turn on the television, by the way, right? And they can have tomorrow's generations. And you're like, Yeah, man, I make as much money as my husband's. I'm just right. The wise woman who says that Allah protected her from this, and if she has the opportunity to relieve herself of a double job, because being a mother is a full time job. Right? If she has the ability to
relieve herself, she should be happy about that. And not feel disadvantaged because of that.
So she found the opposite. Oh, my father hire him meaning he could do it instead of us. That's awesome. That's great. I have enough in my life.
Yeah. Oh, my father higher. Why in a fire or minister Jonathan power? You will I mean, because the best person you can hire
is someone who's strong and someone who's trustworthy.
It was said that her father said and how do you know he's strong and he's trustworthy.
She said, As for his strength, this was recorded.
As well, I believe, that asked for his strength. When he was by the well.
He lifted a boulder rock, he moved out of the way that 10 men couldn't lift. And you know, the strength that we spoke about this last month, he struck a man one time the man drop did,
unintentionally, it was an accident. He removed the rock, the 10 men couldn't move and asked for his trustworthiness. When we were bringing him to you when redirecting into our house.
He said to us, or he said to me, walk behind me.
And if I make a wrong turn, throw a rock in other directions. I know which weeks ago, meaning of his trustworthiness is that he was not secure about himself, wanted to make sure he would lower his gaze, we did not want to walk behind her. So he wouldn't be tempted to keep looking up. So I'm gonna walk in front of you, and you direct me where to go from behind. So I knew that he was just with no one's around. And still he insisted to be, you know,
he says about this incident, something very beautiful, is also Nancy Pelosi. He says the people with the greatest philosophy of
intuition. You know, you can tell something, and it's not really clear, but you can just detect subtle things. This is called philosophy. You know, even a non Muslim can have the dunya level. You know, someone is really good at business real good businessman. You give him an offer. He says no, I'm not interested. See why it's perfect. I've seen that a million times. But explain it, I can't explain it that's gonna fail. That venture is gonna fail. He had his intuition he he has a knack for it, you know, he's seen the in and outs of business, he can see a poor investment from a mile away, right. But that's just underneath the surface of the believer as the lmsc to the forests of the
disbelievers. Like the example of the sun to Canada, a world of difference this person sees with the eyes of the man Allah grants an image of his life, to be able to see things as they are to see the important things not just how to make a few bucks here and there. So number one says the people with the greatest philosopher effort were three he says of workers so deal
when he insisted that only the honey faster, right?
Leave it let the Muslims in the shoot on their own. What is the honey factory? He said the matter was too dangerous. He saw in his explain it but he knew that he had to pick armor.
He didn't leave it up for grabs. So he just took the advice
of a few others. I said almost every factor has to be and everyone's had no sense of when he's gonna beat us up and No. And he said, No, he's gonna be good trusting. And he was, he says, As
the leader of Egypt, who saw Yusuf Ali Salaam, being sold as a slave and he said, I say and found out that
perhaps you will benefit us or we can adopt him as our son who have benefited them. He brought their their country out of famine, right you Somalis Ceylon, and then he led them to Allah in the hereafter as a prophet. He sure did benefit them. He says, He says number three is and that young girl who said oh my father hire him. He is strong and he is trustworthy. How did she figure it out from a few subtle moves Mossad is celebrated
From her sharp wisdom, yeah, but the stages. So did the father do? The father said come marry my daughter.
He said the next day or moving on now in the region, okay, okay.
I wish to marry you to one of these two daughters of mine, Allah and Ronnie. Ah, on the condition that you work for me for 80 years. That ma'am dashawn femininity and if you complete 10 years that's from you, that's up to you. I'm not going to obligate you to do it.
Why am I worried when I show panic? And I don't wish to make things difficult for you, meaning it's going to be eight years and it's not gonna be crazy work. I'm not gonna you know, turn you into a sleeve. I'm not gonna overburden you.
says that God insha Allah him in a Sala hain. And he tells me Sorry, sinner, you're gonna find me in sha Allah by Allah permission, one of the righteous
mislead, read the last item and I'll explain. So musala salaam says radica vainio vein that's between me and you meaningful, that's the deal between you would set a Yemen as an alien, probably.
Why not a whichever of the two terms I fulfill, there is nothing to be held against. Meaning if I do eight, fine. And if I do 10, that's fine as well. But it's up to me, at least eight and I may do 10
while laguan and men who do Akil and Allah is a witness over what we say.
I'm just gonna pull out a few quick lessons from me as we close the shop. I know it may be a little long today.
He says to him, I wish to marry you to one of my two daughters. You know, in our cultures, that's humiliating.
How can I go to a guy and tell him marry my daughter? He needs to come to me and beg me for my daughter, Sam. But the wise men looks for his daughter, a husband.
You know why? Because even if your daughter's a good girl. And even if your husband's a good guy, even if your son's a good guy, even if they're religious, right? They still need your guidance on marriage. Because marriage is something that automatically makes you bias. You have interests in it, right? So even if you're religious, and you've had a good upbringing, and this is all true, and everybody assumes it's about their kids, by the way, but let's say it actually is true. Your kids are good kids. Still, they're going to see things when it comes to marriage, it's going to be clouded in their judgment. So it's better than you nominate people not so much forced marriages
guys, just in case someone hears me and thinks I mean that or this is gonna get uploaded to YouTube and someone's gonna say how much you know, it's pro forced marriages, forced marriages. How long Islam? Okay.
But you go a nominators, and hey, pick from this one. How about this one? How about this one? That's from the wisdom of a man that she picks? Yes. She picks from people that are qualified.
Before she goes in, pick someone with a bias judgment or he goes and picks a girl with a judgment, you go looking for them. So that whoever they pick is within a circle of qualifications, they're all qualified, because everyone
and by the way,
this is what he took is not to have anyone any offers over
and above So listen, I can't.
I can't. And then the profits of a mob wanting to send a married Huff's and then invoke us to live told the borrower you know, you probably held it against him, you probably had some bad feelings in your hearts when I didn't, you know, get back to you regarding your daughter. But the Messenger of Allah had mentioned her.
And so I couldn't write I would have but I couldn't the Messenger of Allah mentioned that he was interested and at the same time, not going to leave she also did not I'm not going to tell you the secrets of the Messenger of Allah sauce Allah, so get mad at me No problem, but I'm not gonna step on Mr. sauce Adams interests, nor am I gonna disclose his secrets. So the point is the same thing. He looked for his daughter.
By the way, that doesn't mean also that a woman isn't allowed to look for herself. Because Khadija levana is the one that picked the province or send them send someone to him to inquire if he was interested in marriage, right within the parameters within the guidelines. And
the woman came and offered herself to the province awesome. And he didn't denounce her act, right? He didn't say what you're doing is wrong and this is against highest is against modesty. He didn't say that. That's why also when I say modesty, we need to understand it in Islamic context, not just the shame that we define what shame is no, no, no. But he's also simply wasn't interested in marrying this woman. So America so hello to Mr. Davila, Mary meters engineer.
He said go find something a wedding give them up. Right? even have an iron earnings. I don't have any of these not even an iron rings, not even an iron ring. He said what do you memorize
Paradis Li memorize this. He said, I am married to her on or in exchange for what you know of the poor me, the new teacher the poor and that, you know, that will be the most.
So once again, it's not hard for a sister to look for herself even.
I wish to marry you to one of my two daughters. Obviously it doesn't mean go pick either one, or I marry you, you don't know which one you'll find out on the wedding night. That's how long by the way the scholars agree this is not right.
That marriage contract is a contract. It's more sensitive than even a sales contract. So there has to be clear terms. Kenzie, I'm married to my daughter. And he has three daughters. He didn't tell you which one is married. This is the contracts invalid. Right? It's a fifth point, you can put it on the side. If you don't understand it. We'll talk about it later. But just to clarify the word. Also, he said, I'm married to one of my two daughters. In exchange for you working for me, it's yours.
That doesn't mean that this in Islam is the boundary, you know, the Islam, we call a boundary in English. And that is a horrible translation. And there's no word from 100 English, we say that without is wrong. You know why dowry is wrong? Because that is what that is. Seems like it's saying, but I'm gonna clarify that salary is an English word. And English has its own meanings to it, right? In the English culture in Europe and America, the likes, the wedding gift used to be called adultery. But the problem with the dowry is what? That it's given to the father of the girl. In his lab, this is not the case. In Islam, the motto of the woman is given to the woman. That's her money
that no one has the right that doesn't have to be money. Usually, it's one has monetary value, right? But the point is, that's hers, no one has the right to touch it, she has the right to stipulate, and she has the right to keep that. So when he says I'm married to my daughter, that you work for me for eight years, it doesn't mean this is the wedding gift. I'm giving you my daughter, so you can work for me. But like us, if you think about he's giving him more than the loader, I'm giving you food and drink and everything else, meaning you agreed to work for me,
we were going to understand it to agree with our shediac. Right. And what you get, that's something separate you give the wedding gift and the wife I'm going to permit for you to marry. And
I don't know if I'm gonna have time for this. And this is also shows you that it's permissible to marry for reasons other than Dean.
So long as Dean is your number one reason. And you're in conformity with this. Because the problem is our family said a woman is married for four reasons. Her religion, her wealth, her beauty and her status. So pick the woman of beauty.
So pick the woman of the This doesn't mean the woman of beauties to be ignored, doesn't mean you should look for a woman that you find beautiful, or a woman for example, it has well, or a woman that has status, it means Don't you dare pick those qualities over Dean. But if a woman has been and she has been in beauty, then you pick the one with the beauty.
Okay, moving on.
So he said I want to marry one of my two daughters in exchange for you working for me for eight years. And if you finish 10 that's even better, but I'm not gonna hold it against you.
And this is the issue of ease in marriage as well as part of our Sharia. Making marriage easy. We make marriage so complicated, so complicated. And this is very odd Islam. very honest, lemon.
law needs to warn the people in the number and tell them, don't raise them up the wedding gift that you stipulate My daughter has to receive this amount of money. He says the unimaginable to me, because this is a reason a catalyst for hatred. You know, when the guy has to spend 20,000 on the wedding hole and 40,000 50,000 mom, I met one brother in Brooklyn right to pay 90,000 as a wedding gift to his, you know, fiance lawsuit, they weren't gonna let him marry her.
You know, the fathers that do this, by the way, among many, many things that go wrong. I just want to tell you how, what you're doing. You're putting a price on your daughter. Okay? And you're a fool for putting your price a price on your daughter. Because no one else no matter what price you put, you're still selling they're short, because our daughters are not worth money. Right? They're wrong. As Malcolm X like him, Allah says these are our women we die for our women see the price of our women is our blood, isn't it? In Islam, that's the price of our women, right? They're wrong.
So when you put the price regardless of what the price is, you still sold their shorts.
And are you saying that your daughter is better than the daughter of the messenger?
in us, I think sooner or soon generally one of the for the scenario. They
came to the Roman sulla Laval isms and yet also not even even like consummate the marriage execute finalizing the marriage between me and who would be married.
He said what
to give us the wedding gift, but you have to get a wedding gift. So what are you going to do? He said to me, where's your help me a shield?
He said, I have. He said give it to her as well. Some simple things are being made. Oh, married married tonight. Okay, married tonight. You guys agree anyway, right. And that's another very important lesson, press pause and the follow up story. I'm going to marry you to one of my two daughters. That means that the Father understand that his daughters would accept because the acceptance of the girl and the permission of the girl is one of the conditions for the validity of the marriage contract. There's no forced marriage in Islam, right? He understands that his voters would accept it. And this is natural in some cultures.
Or else it wouldn't be valid to begin with our message over consuming the Americans Where's your shield, the shield is here. So he gets to fault them on the line and they're married. That was their gift. Because the point of the moment is what a sign of commitment, something that's valuable to me within my capacity, I'm giving it up to show signs of seriousness and worth to this woman. That's what the month is all about. In reality. So far, some of the lavonne have her ma was a shield,
a shield for war that she's never going to use, but it was a sign of commitment and value and worth family.
And then she used to give it to the loved one to use it in the battle and she would get an award for it from what was the final thought.
So simplifying, marriage is very similar. Okay, I wish to marry you to one of my two daughters in exchange that you work for for eight years. And if you do 10 that's up to you, woman or even a shopaholic. I don't wish to make things difficult for you. certegy dooney insha Allah, Minnesota hain, you're going to find me if a law permits. if Allah wills one of the righteous and a righteous person always does. He understand that his righteousness is dependent on the will of Allah. He didn't say, Don't worry, I'm a good person, you're gonna find that I'm going to keep true to my deal with you insha Allah, I'm going to be a good person with this deal. And then something else to learn
from this in sha Allah, I'm going to be a good person. We're talking about business here. I'm not talking about praying and fasting. We're talking about a business deal. True righteousness, of the ways to recognize it is to see how a person deals with others. You know, very beautiful narration
very happy that Americans are more
credible, but don't want to listen, I don't know you. Well, that doesn't harm the humility. I don't know you with that doesn't mean you're a bad guy does because someone doesn't know who you are. So, Phil, Tennessee, when you go find me, someone who knows you, someone to vouch for you, that you're credible. So he went and brought a guy so I was interrogating the second guy tell him you know him?
He says yes, RF.
Allah, Allah Allah.
Allah franjo. Perhaps you're his neighbor, you can you see him going in and out. And you see it goes in his house. You see what time he comes in and out, right? Does he go clubbing at night? You know what he does? You're his neighbor. He's an obnoxious neighbor.
Mr. Medina, he said, maybe you dealt with him, you know, in money. You had business dealings with him. Right? To see how honest he was. He said, No, I never did business with him.
He said, maybe you traveled with him for 90 days at a time? He said, No, I've never traveled with him.
said, maybe you saw him in the messages. You know, he prays and he takes very long time praying. He said yes. He said, You don't know.
He said, Go away. You don't know this man.
You see someone being devoted between him and Allah does not necessarily mean he's righteous automatically have the clearest ways to know that he deals with a lot on all levels. Not when he has time he comes in likens his heart and the message No, when there's some personal interests involved when there's money at stake when there's hmm there's difficult that someone's insulting you or someone's with me day and night, I can't put on a show forever. He's traveling with me. He lives my neighbor, we're dealing business that's how you test someone's righteousness.
Understand that? He said, I'm gonna hold true to this deal or Moosa and insha Allah, you're gonna see that I'm a righteous person. By the way, I deal with people
That's between me and you mini deal set idml Elena poboy, Fela or divine Ali whichever of the two of the terms I fulfill.
There is nothing to be held against me will love RMF woodworking, woodworking and Allah is a witness over what we say.
First of all, musala has landed the 10 years, eight years.
And that's because he was of the Marcin. Remember we said that of the definitions.
Excel is to do what is more than the obligations. I don't know if we discussed it or not. But there's no time for that definition of Excel, that you do more than once. Why should
Sorry, I didn't Jubail a Jewish man came to him and said to him, which of the two terms they must have fulfilled the age of the 10 years? He said, I will not answer you until I
have a lot of the leading scholar of the Arabs. So they went to they went to the Lavanya, with a companion of the prophet SAW. So I didn't really relate to him the question of this Jewish man
said he fulfilled the most complete and most perfect of those two terms, meaning 10 years, he said, because when the Messenger of Allah speaks, it's the truth, meaning I heard this in the Messenger of Allah was not up for debate. It was 10 years. That's one thing. You know, when a person gets married, he's a nice guy. He's great with his in laws, until he gets married. Right. And then it's just like, the righteous person, that truly righteous person deals with Allah subhanho wa Taala. Irrespective of circumstances, even if peoples are treating him differently, he doesn't treat people differently. He deals with a lot. Right? I'm not saying this man is treating him any differently.
I'm saying what happens to us after we get married, he still fulfilled the 10 years. And once again is of the signs of ease when it comes to marriage, he did more than he had to do. That's also why
when we save the monitor should be easy meal father's don't make it difficult on a qualified, you know, groom, a qualified bachelor, at the same time, the bachelor supposed to do what he can, in his capacity, he should give as much as he can, there is no cap to what it is, when I said 90,000, I'm saying they made it a burden on the guy to pay the 90,000. But if the guy's a millionaire, there's nothing wrong with him giving millions of them all right, but don't make it a burden on him. And once again, if it's not a burden him he should try his best to show worth and to that family.
So he fulfilled the 10 years. And he worked as a chef. And this is as the profits loss and lemon law v law one and there is no profit except that you work as a shepherd. Because of this, what this instills in a human being have qualities and he's going to go back and I was one of the messengers of Allah to free the people who've been with us for aid from the tyranny of Pharaoh. But I just want to mention one last marriage lesson here.
That he said well lavoir lemon appunto key whichever of the two terms I do determine where the a and I will generally the two terms I do then there's no harm against me it's up to me completely and Allah is a witness over what I see. The first before it said what that he was told in sha Allah I'll be righteous and the second one he said and once again Allah sees what we do notice how similar these words are.
So the father in law was very similar to the son in law
and the girl her most obvious quality was what
huh? Hire and have the most obvious qualities or musala cinemas also hire
you know of the of the greatest proofs of that one of my favorite hobbies.
The fear of the
unknown can levina adaboost
Oh believers Don't be like those who annoyed moosari cetera. And then Allah acquitted him
of what they said. And he is one that has high repute, high esteem in the sight of Allah. What does this mean?
mean? The whole believer is don't be annoying to your prophet the way the others were annoying to Sally, Sarah, how are they annoying? The Masonic prophet SAW Selim explained to us and he said
used to be Seamus, this became prevalent amongst them. And when they were shameless, they used to accuse musala salaam because he was not like them, he had shaved he had higher so they would be naked for example, in front of one another. And he would refuse to take his clothes off in front of anyone. And he always had his skin covered. So they said oh, Sally, Sam is no better than us. He just covers his skin because he has a skin disease. They are no Musa.
So Allah subhana wa tada acquitted him of the accusation How? One time when musala says the words of the Prophet Musa went off in private to be in a street not very sweet but often private and
he put his clothes down on a rock and he went into the stream began to be so Allah subhana wa tada was over all things capable and says to be and it is, he commanded the rock to get up and run away with his clothes. So it's right away. So musallam runs out of the stream the river and he's chasing the rock saying that will be hedgehog filby hedgehog.
My clothes rock a rock, come back here with Mike loose.
And he continues to run after the rock. And he passes by umbrella a group from venomous rock. So they see musala salaams body. And they notice they recognize that he had no skin disease, rather, he had the most perfect body of anyone
among them, so Allah acquitted him of the accusation, and then massage and he grabbed his pose and put it on. And he threw the rock of eating, he said, so even until today, if you were to see that rock, you would see two or three or four or five marks on that rock from the striking of musala is
the point, he was known for his head, and his wife or his wife, sister, but the same family, the qualities are gonna be there, we're known for their higher, and the father in local distrust in a luncheon in Sha one going to be righteous and musasa loves it. And Allah is over what I see a witness. One lesson I want to pull out of here very important lesson regarding being married or getting married, that no matter how hard you look, and how good you investigate, and how sure you think you are, the spouse that you get
is the spouse that you deserve
your qualities, you will find them in your spouse,
you know why a spouse is a risk, it's one of the things that a lot provides for you. And he provides for you on the basis of your relationship with him. But you know, it's not even like any other kind of his there's something very strange about marriage.
That, you know, when it comes to like risk as in money, Allah subhanaw taala could give some of those that he loves money and give some of those that he loves poverty. You know why? Because some people are better off with money, they're thankful, and some people are better off with poverty, they're patient, and the other way around, ruin them. So he gives them a different kind of risk you get to me,
because it suits them. But marriage is not like that.
Marriage is you're about to live behind four walls with an individual. So that individual is going to leave a stamp on you gonna rub off on you. So Allah subhana wa, tada puts you with someone that has your same religious commitment, because they're not gonna affect you, they can affect your deen, for sure. You understand. And that's why they set up the early Muslims, they used to see if you want it, you have to be faulted.
You gotta deserve it. You can try all you want investigate and research, embrace the heart and all that. But at the end of the day, a lot turns hearts this way. And that's what and if you want faults, if you want a wife like that you need to be I
don't think you're gonna live a life however you like. And you're just gonna get a righteous wife in the end doesn't work that way.
To the degree of your commitment to Allah, Allah will give you a spouse so that you can continue that commitment until you meet them.
In good or evil.
He was a pioneer and he was given a woman a pilot, he put his trust in Allah, his father in law, the family man was one of those that put their trust in Unless,
of course, you know, I know what's gonna happen. Now, most of the people here, unfortunately, and this is the epidemic and all the messages are not the youth, and they're already married. So saying, okay, fellas, you know, but what if I'm more religious now than I was when I got married? This is a trick that shavon plays on many people. No, no, no, we see the rule even applies after marriage.
The rule applies after marriage, when you improve yourself, alone, improve your spouse for you. So stop blaming your spouse that you're not religious enough, they're slowing you down. Many brothers that I heard from the loop and
they have this excuse, and we all love excuses to hide money, excuses, and lock men up to our obligations. And fellated money Oh, well, I used to see in Neela, RC,
Hulu, Hulu p that,
indeed I disobeyed A lot of times, and I find the effect of that in my riding animal and in my wife, meaning my car breaks down like this will be a lot and my wife breaks down and this will be a lunch she gives me a hard time.
Of course his few sins. It was easy for him to notice what's for us our sins, there's so much noise, it's hard to notice why our wife is treating us like that, and why my husband is so cold hearted and harsh, right? But understand this is something
you can notice it you will see your flaws in your spouse and your spouse's flaws in you and your positive qualities in your spouse and vice versa. So when you client with yourself, your spouse will find with you and this is the case nine times out of 10 if not more. This is the standard and the rule and there are small exceptions to it. So metallics didn't get married. So a woman must be fitting to be married to a prophet and a messenger of Allah. Allah sent this woman his way and his family his way so that he could continue developing into one of the greatest human beings ever. Right continue on that road.
And then he leaves Egypt. In the next verse that we're not going to get into. That's our appointment next month if we're alive and healthy, may Allah unite us and do upon the rest of affairs. Are there any questions? I know I was just machine learning a little bit this evening.