Mohammad Elshinawy – Manners Of The Salaf #4 Guard Each Other’S Honor

Mohammad Elshinawy
AI: Summary © The speakers discuss the importance of protecting one's Islam, including the use of language in protecting one's reputation and the importance of showing one's actions and weaknesses to others. They also touch on personal experiences and interactions with different people. The speakers stress the need for gentle advice and avoiding giving too many false assumptions. They end with a brief advertisement for a video about the Galatians' movement and the importance of giving advice to others.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah Allah Allah He was a huge man you know big in the name of Allah All Praise and Glory be to Allah Who makes financial peace and blessings be upon His messenger Muhammad and his family and his companions and all those who adhere to his guidance. We welcome everyone back to our manners of this LF manners of the early generations of Islam the earliest and best of Muslims,

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anecdotes that are arranged thematically, based on certain beautiful qualities they had. So in sha Allah, we can imbibe them we can absorb them up and sha Allah exhibit them ourselves. The I guess the overall theme for tonight's set of qualities is that of guarding each other's honor guarding the honor of your brothers and sisters. And there's a section that we ended with but it's been a while so the review will help inshallah I will reiterate it or review it here and then move on to some subsequent sections, but they all fall under guarding the honor of one another. And this section the author says yes, to ruin our rottenness that it was from the great manners of the self that they

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were very keen on concealing the flaws of people. And of course, this is a quality not just of the believer, but this is a divine quality, it's the quality of Allah azza wa jal

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himself when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in Allah Hi ye Yun, Satya, Allah is a person out of Allah, Allah is one that possesses intense higher, high E means he has intense Higher, higher is modesty and shame, right? But of course, in a manner befitting his Majesty not in the manner that imperfect creatures like ourselves have it intends in his higher and sits city it means in intense in his desire to conceal people, right? The hadith continues to say you hipbone higher our city, he loves all forms of hire of healthy shame, and sit and concealment, then it gives an example of one of them and it says for either tesselaar Hadoken, failure status, and so on. One of

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you is bathing, let him conceal himself, let him make sure he's not visible. But of course, this is not just a quality of the believer should have regarding their physical nakedness or lowering their gaze from the nakedness of others. Any form of concealing the believer is a means of You, yourself being awarded by Allah more concealment in this world than in the next. In the other authentic hadith in Sahih. Muslim the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Man Cetara Muslim and whoever conceals a Muslim Cetara hola who for dunya will akhira Allah who will conceal them, conceal their vulnerabilities conceal their flaws in this world and in the next.

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Even if those flaws are not just natural imperfections, like even if those flaws are actually evil acts Yes, even evil acts even sins. If a person is committing a sin that only you know about.

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You should advise them privately, right? Because that's it mission accomplished. You don't have to You're not forced to you should not want to put it on full display or speak to others about it rather, you're not allowed to. And also if you're going to address it publicly, you can address it publicly also anonymously, right? It was from the the habits of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he would sit on the member sometimes and say my ballew acquirement What is it with people he would leave it generic like that speak about the quality. I don't have to shame this person and other people also could have this flaw, right could have this misunderstanding could have

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this misconduct. What is the matter with some people who do X or Y or Z. And if someone were to even come to you, and admit to you committing a certain sin, you are not to you are not to probe unnecessarily. And even then, if they were to admit it themselves, you are obligated to try to conceal them. We get this from when the Prophet alayhi salatu salam was approached by a man and he said to himself, aid I fornicated I had a haram relationship. He kept diverting him or trying to send him away. So he does not expose himself fully in a manner that would necessitate on the Prophet alayhi salatu salam to carry out the prescribed punishment. And he would say to him, you know, for

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Allah, Allah could have banter. Maybe you just kissed her, like, maybe it's not the full blown worst version complete iteration of that sin. And when he would say no, he would say what is the matter with you just go back and seek forgiveness mean don't complete your sentence. Go back and seek forgiveness and repent to Allah azza wa jal subhanho wa taala. Ultimately, this man insisted on what insisted on exposing himself to get the guarantee that he will not have to face

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On the Day of Judgment, he insisted on the prophets Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam carrying out the penalty on him. This his name was Maris.

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That was from his pious caution. But then after the punishment was carried out the prophets Allah Allahu Allahu Allah wa salam went to the man who was asleep. He was a servant in Medina and a slave. The prophets, Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he went to his master, the one who sort of had ownership over him. His name was his Zell. And he had taken in my eyes and raised him and had worked for him. And he's the one that advised Mary's when he fell into this problem to go tell the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went and said, Oh, has Zell Lo, Cetera who be Tobik cannot play it on luck. Why didn't you? And again, this is an expression, it

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isn't meant literally. It says, Why didn't you conceal him with your garment? Meaning Why didn't you do anything in reach? To protect this from getting out? Why did you tell him he has to come confessed to me that confession is not necessary for a person to be forgiven. So he had commanded him to conceal matters, even though matters had admitted it to him. Let it stop there, don't tell him go admit it to me and so on and so forth. This is the default. And it's even more necessary in the Sunnah when it has to do with people of refuge and esteem, you know, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, it's reported about him that he said, the loo that will hate it, I ferati him, you

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know, basically held up those who trip among the people of high status, be more forgiving with the people that have a distinction in society. Why? Because when they fall, everybody falls with them. Right? When they mess up, they influence so many other people to mess up. So it's not actually in the best interest of anyone to have sins promoted and spoken about this way.

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And it could also be a sign of a person consciously or not

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liking that indecency and misconduct be spreading in society, because when you're speaking about it, why is this something desirable? Is it something like fascinating is this interesting? Should we be talking about how this person murdered that person and this person fornicating with that person and this person betrayed that but should we be discussing this, this normalizes it in society and when you do that, it's as if you are among those who want it to be normalized, who want people to go numb to the to these acts and become desensitized to them. And Allah azza wa jal said in the Quran in a Latina you hipbone and she Alpha hisher those who love not just those who do, those who love that

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indecency morality spread have been cursed by Allah azza wa jal in this world and the next

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one our beloved Miss Rudra, the Allahu Anh, he was approached by a people that said to him in the Falana, and tuck total hater who camera this person, his beard drips with wine, this wine dripping from his beard, we see it, he said in Allah azza wa jal, Anna, Hannah, Anita, just to see where any of her Elijah che and

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that we were forbidden in Islam from spying on others, meaning we don't know for sure that he drank this not someone who drank it spit in his face or something of this nature, right? We don't know. And there's no way to know without breaching his privacy, and we were forbidden in Islam from spying on others. If it becomes crystal clear, then we will, of course, report that up to the authorities escalated up to the authorities. If it were crystal clear that he's doing this.

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And Halima Muhammad Rahim Allah He was asked

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either ruli mominul Rajul al Fujio, are you about aubenas If it is well known about a man confirmed that he is a corrupt, wicked individual, should we warn others of this person? He said Bell USTAR Allahi

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Illa Annie Hakuna Dariya No, you should conceal this person, unless he is calling to this evil. It's not enough to confirm it. Because even if you confirm it, that's still not going to spread it you have confirmed it. But then when you spread that confirmation among others, you're spreading it among others, and also it makes it difficult for a person to repent. Right. The Prophet SAW Selim said

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that about our rottenness, F said to whom our kids tend to sit down. When you're constantly chasing after looking to expose people, you will ruin them, the people you're trying to expose, or you will nearly do so. If everyone society knows me as such, and I can't shake off this negative reputation I have I

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I might as well write, if everyone says I'm a thief, no matter what, I'm an alcoholic no matter what, okay? Whether I am or am not putting in the work to get away from this, the label is still stuck. Okay, then I might as well do it

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and you know, there is the idea of the psychological barrier, you know, like when you know that your kids did something wrong, and you turn a blind eye, you conceal the fact that you discover this many times, it's in their best interest. Because when the barrier is broken, oh, they already know that's it. My parents see me as a bad person. Right? That makes it even more difficult for them also to about face, and they continue doing it now publicly. Everyone knows that's it.

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And if not, Raja Ibrahima hola last anecdote I'll read for you here from this section in the Rajab reports that some of the early Muslims used to say at the rock to Coleman lemme Aquila, home are you born for the cattle? Are you bananas?

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For the Coronas hula hula yoga, I came across some people that had no flaws. They were fantastic people upright moral individuals.

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And then they got into the business of mentioning the mistakes of others. Are you bananas? For the record on NASA? Whom are you been so people started talking about their flaws?

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In other words, Allah stopped concealing them and or they started developing flaws, the first of which is that they're always speaking on being honest and fair with them.

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And he mentions many examples, I'll share with you a few of them from a Cemani who says I asked Abu Salah Al Baghdadi about everyone. So if Nisha CROA or Shukla and he said this man is a shouty does not give us Salam we don't give him Salam o Allah ke now Soho Sana, but he is a reliable narrator when he hears things he locks them in accurately. You know, there's like these sectarian

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camps in theology between the the ethnicity and the Ashati. And otherwise, this scholar is saying, Yeah, this man's from the other camp. You know, I totally disapprove with the way he believes or understands or teaches his army, the the creed of the Muslims, and that's why he doesn't give me Salem and that's why I don't give him salaam but you know, he's a good narrator. He's a he's a trustworthy narrator. And this shows you the great equity and piety to be honest fear of Allah they have and they have Rahim Allah mentions in the biography of Hadees of northmen Allah G. Al Hemsley, he says Can Amoud 16 And they're beaten like in a hotelier this man was so precise, so reliable and

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his narrations although he is an innovator although he practices some great deviant sees meaning in other places and I remember him I didn't hammer him a whole lot

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mentioned is half of Natalia is half I'm gonna Julio was basically contemporary imam of al Sunnah contemporary of Imam Muhammad.

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And Imam Muhammad mentioned him one day and he said lemmya Buddha and juicer Isla Hora San Mithila is help. So this man is have sort of like his intellectual, peer and arrival he would say no body crossed over into horizen the lens of hurrah son like is half way in Canada you holophone Afia Shia even if he disagrees with us on some issues for in the NASA let me as a U haul if I go home Baba because people have never stopped disagreeing with each other. They're constantly perpetually going to be in disagreements.

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Abdullah Abdullah Mohammed Al wallrock Rahima Hola. This is also a wonderful narration he says I was sitting once in the gathering of Amma didn't humble Imam Muhammad again.

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And so he said to us mean Aina welcome Where are you guys returning from this journey of yours? So we said mean Mejlis EB kurai from the gatherings the classes of avocado. And so he said oak Tubu on who document everything the man says Take from him look benefits from him. October and who for inner who shaken solid because He is a righteous elderly man. He is a righteous scholar old man full of gold and so we said to him Inaho Yata on a lake but he

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he bashes you this man you're saying is a righteous man. He bashes you he's telling us the opposite. Like don't take from him.

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And so Mr. Mohammed said for you che inhaler T che one slaley Hoon, but Boulia b What can I possibly do? This is a righteous man as I said that has been tested with me on his test that like i What do you want me to do you want me to fail the test as well and reciprocate? You know, I tried gonna have to fudge some details here. But one of my teachers

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are so happy to holla at

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We were sitting in,

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in Mr. Hadrian city years ago, but I cannot forget it. And they were asking him about that particular very popular scholar in the Muslim world that has filled the internet. With bashing of darkness Allah has slowly. They were We were behind closed doors. And he's listening, listening, listening. And

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all of a sudden he says, Guys, what do you want? You want me to speak bad about him? This is a scholar of Islam, that probably prays hours every night. You want me to fall into the whole the ditch of going after someone that could be very close to Allah. He has been tested with me and I've been tested with him. We're each other's tests. I'm just hopeful I don't fail the test. And then he actually went on to discuss certain excuses. I actually know why. He may honestly genuinely think I'm sort of some conspiratorial double agent that hates the old man is trying to destroy it from within. I was blown away by his manners. And then he went on, you know, to speak on other scholars

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where he learned this from the fact that some of the most pious people in the world sometimes could have misunderstandings and Allah is just testing us with each other. So the fact that he was being bashed or Illuma Muhammad Rahim Allah here being bashed by Boko Haram did not allow them to forget the virtues of that their counterparts in these in these exchanges.

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And remember that you know Allah finally in his biography, and there's so many examples like this abandoned Datalab al kofi.

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You know, an imam at the hubby Rahim Allah just so you'll you'll picture it here. He has a book called Mazandaran accidental, basically the scales of reliability. This is a niche science within the science of Hadith. How do we know our transmission of the a hadith is sound traceable all the way up to the Prophet SAW Selim. So that's why he's always talking about people, right? He's always he asked to sort of classify every single person so that when we find them in the chain of narration, we know what to do with that. So this is why remember the hubby's constantly being mentioned here. So in resilia, tidel There have been when he's speaking about the biography of a

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band Metallica label kofi, this scholar from Kufa, he says she Yun Jeld lackey now who saw dukhan Lana cidco, who Allah Hebei, dato, that he is

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like a defiant Shiite that's what he said, Sherry from the shear gel, very adamant, you know, obstinate, stubborn about his positions. But he is an honest man that we get to benefit from his honesty. And he is the only one harmed by his persistence in that position.

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And this shows you that they did not just paint everyone with the same brush. As you know, even among the Shia, there are the earlier Shia that had some degree of preferential reality for uneven ABI Taalib Radi Allahu Allah and on the political level, right. Then there are the later doctrines of the Shia, which are just dishonest, right? They tried to revise the entirety of Islamic theology and history altogether, and law. And so he's saying he's not one of those. He's an honest man committed to the truth. He has this, you know, untenable position. But as a narrator, when he's not opining, he's actually just narrating to us verbatim, we benefit from his reliability.

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The next section, he says here, yeah, I'd say yeah, I'd say have your own Anessa bigger throttle mahasin. Well, I and Sunil Maha Sina? Well, I have a tonal irif

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not very different from the section before it, but basically, you measure people by the abundance of their virtues. In other words, you don't just accept the fact that they have some virtues, if they have more virtue than vise or more virtue then problematic behaviors or beliefs, we are going to consider them a good person, consider them an upright person irrespective

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and remember that however, you know many times in that same book that's why he's constantly being cited here. When he mentions qualities of people he often invokes the Hadith of the Prophet SAW Salem in terms of his methodology, engaging people and he says, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to us, either Bella Velma or CO Latane Let me ask me, Elizabeth, that when water reaches a certain amount qualityin is like two basins of water. A little bit of impurity should not be held against it. You have a lot of water and something tiny falls inside can you make a little from it? You can make a little from it. Can you benefit from it you can get it from is this water is this

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filth? No, it's water. You don't define someone by sort of what represents a minority or a miniscule aspect of their of their legacy.

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And he says that I even have to borrow a great Maliki Imam Rahima Hola. He says when my Navara female sadhana 30 You will never read through his books. Then Allah Humann Zilla to whom and see artillerymen it becomes very clear how expansive this man's knowledge is how encyclopedic this man of Babel Bara Enola was working on where to go where to find me and how sharp is intelligence was was said and vision

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and how once again, salient his thoughts were what kulula had a new hurdle mencoder Here you talk a lot rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and naturally every single person you're going to have to take from their words and reject some of their words except the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he's saying he's an ocean of knowledge. And at the end of the day, he's just like everyone else, meaning he's not a prophet. And that was from the great Insaaf Have

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you ever have your MO Allah? He said, and so if any Imam is mistaken in his he had in his discretion, it is unbefitting for us to forget his overwhelming virtue and to withhold our mentioned our admittance of that rather we are obligated to seek forgiveness for Him and seek excuses for him.

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Maybe this may be that May Allah forgive us and him they're right upon us that we pray for them.

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And even hudgell hate me, Rahim Allah he says it is from the qualities of the noble believer to constantly bring it to mind within oneself, the good qualities of their brothers and to forget their bad qualities. And that is why YBNL Mobarak Rahim hola said Al movement manual global. Vir while munafo your global Alpha rot, the believer seeks to excuse people, and the hypocrite seeks to catch people.

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The believer looks for a reason to excuse them. The hypocrite looks for reasons to say Gotcha. He looks for the gotcha moments.

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You know.

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Some of you are with us when we went through the biography of Illumina Tamia, Rahim Allah remember the Tamia when he came to Egypt, he had written so much about groups of extreme Sophie's, that had conflated between creator and creation, they just blurred all the lines, they were Monus they weren't awake that they will do that otherwise. And so some of the followers of these extreme Sophie scholars jumped in the Tamia, the mobs gathered in the streets and he got jumped, okay. When he got jumped, his brothers gathered around, and his students gathered around, and they were about to launch like a counter offensive on this group of Sophie practitioners on these mops. And so even

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it's AMI Rahim, Allah said to them,

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number one,

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if you avenge me, you are no longer from my group. I'm not accepting this, you're not allowed to sit in my gatherings anymore. You're not going to be one of my students. If you take part in this back and forth, number one, he says number two,

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I have forgiven them. And that is why and number three, how could you penalize them for something they may be rewarded for?

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How can they be rewarded for this? He said, because these people are IOM, they're masters. They're not scholarly. They're just Layman and the layman has no choice but to depend on the scholar. And so they believe the scholars who said to them that I am an enemy of the religion, right.

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We're reliable in their eyes. Therefore, they had no way of knowing and therefore they deserve to be excused.

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It's really crazy to think about it. He said the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said the person who performs HD head exerts their all and is mistaken gets one reward. Whoever exerts their HD had their discretion and is correct gets to rewards so they're at least rewarded once. So how can you beat them up for this?

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And that was from his great humility Rahim Allah Tala.

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And our Robbia said that ABCD and Rahim Allah the famous seven he said volum only Efika until the Quran, Amin who's sy Mata alum Wozzeck to Morocco. It is an oppression of your brother

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that you mentioned about them the worst quality you know in them, and you suppress. You can seal the best qualities you know about them. It's a principle you want to live by. It is oppressive of you to mention your brother's greatest, you know, flaws and not mentioned alongside it, the good that you know of your brother. That should be the default and the norm and how we see things. Lastly, I think lastly

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he says young

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Hoonah well I have shown that they extend sincere advice and they do not humiliate others. And you know that the prophets Allah Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam said Do not say Ha, Deen, this deen is about nasiha. And they said to whom is this mostly? How do you messenger of Allah? He said to Allah and his book,

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and His messenger and to the

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leaders of the believers and their common folk. And so obviously not see her now can't mean advice, right? Because if you're giving advice to Allah, that can't work. What do you mean? The deen is mostly how to who to Allah to his book to His Messenger, to the leaders and to the masses. Because now see how at its core is not advice. Naseeha means to be sound at heart towards someone. That's what it means, you know, to not have defects or not have disease to not have ill will. And that's one of the better translations of do not say that this religion is all about having goodwill. And it's a discussion we can have at a later time with want to break down every phrase of the Hadith.

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But essentially, it is about having a sincere commitment to Allah, his book, His Messenger, the leaders and the Muslims. If you have a sincere commitment, you're actually looking out for their well being, then your advice, when there's time to advise will match up to that. This is the this is the way to understand it. And that is why the early Muslims, they used to say that, you know, whomever you advise privately, this is not the HA and whomever you advise publicly, this is for the hat. This is just the humiliation. Why? Because if you're really intending to better a person with your advice, you probably would not be extending it publicly because who accepts public advice? It's

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humiliating. So one of the signs to know whether your advice is actually Naziha coming from Goodwill, is to see how you're extending it. That's the idea. And that is why this section is about really how you're giving advice to others.

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And before we get into that Jedi, if not the law, the Allah Han said Baotou rasool Allah I gave my pledge of allegiance to the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah economy Salah what Eater is occur when no silly coolly Muslim, on the basis that I would commit to establishing the prayer and paying the zakah and having Naziha sincere Goodwill for every lesson Muslim and Abu Hurayrah Radi Allahu ansaid that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I will move me no morale movement.

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The believer is the mirror of his fellow believer while movement upward movement and the believer is the brother of his fellow believer. Yeah Khufu, La Jolla atta, who he restrains him from destruction protects him against being destroyed. Why a whole to whom in whare he he and he covers his back you know I have your back meaning what you don't see coming I'm going to compensate for your blind spots that's the idea but going back to the first word of the Hadith al movement mirror actual movement the believer is the mirror of the believer what does that mean

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let's go guys

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What does it mean to be the mirror of your brother

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it means no see, huh? What is the mirror do why do we keep mirrors guys

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to see what we can't see? Right?

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Yes, and so you look at the mirror to remove the blemish to remove the crease to remove the dirt to remove the stain to remove any imperfection the believers serve this function for one another they have goodwill they constantly want to protect cleanse clear their brothers of any impurity any deficiency any inferiority

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yeah him no Marina Rahim Allah he says Mara a to Allah Raju and Paco hopper and Illa sets out to who will have to no Xena Amara who? I've never seen a man mistaken except that I've concealed him meaning as best I can. And I preferred that I better his condition. Why am I stuck? Well to Roger Dunphy, what GBM Renea crow who and I never confronted a man to his face with something he hates. Well, I can obey in law hopper. Obey Allah Who? Hopper who female beanie Urbina, who for in Fabula, VALIC, our electronic tool, and I only speak to him off to the side privately. If he accepts my advice. That's great. If he doesn't accept my advice, I walk away. That's it. Maybe he looks at that

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later. Maybe you'll think about it on his way out right.

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And then for the 11 al Rahim Allah used to say I'll mute me no yes to answer welfare judo, yeah Tico while you are here that the believer conceals and advises, whereas the corrupt person exposes and shames and that is even that of your word says the people before you when they would see their brother their brother fall into something inappropriate they would instruct them bailiff with gentleness.

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And so he in that case would be rewarded for commanding and forbidding his brother in the right directions. And one of you nowadays simply tears the curtain down on their brother for Estelle liberal Aha, who Oh, yeah, Tico cetera who and he provokes them towards anger and humiliates them in front of people.

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You know, like on YouTube nowadays, advice for so and so and response for so and so as if that's actually going to do anything for anyone, right? You're, you're hiring the likelihood of someone not accepting your advice, or not being receptive to your advice, knowing that you don't do it out of goodwill. Of course, on the receiving end, we spoke about this, that humility in practice means pushing yourself pressing yourself to accept the advice even if it comes in the nastiest, the forms, but here we're talking about, the giver of advice has to be extending it was in the most likely form that it would be accepted, or else you're not actually looking out for them.

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And as we said, always a huge difference between declaring the hack the truth to someone, and between actually inviting them to it, facilitating for them a higher likelihood of accepting it. That is what no car is about.

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And if not best, what the Allahu Anhu he was asked about

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commanding the Sultan to do the right thing, meaning advising the rulers and denouncing the wrong as they may do, so even Abbas what the Allahu Anhu man, he said, and this was reported by and Raja in January or January, or Hichem. He says in Quinta fairyland. Wala Bucha for female Beynac Albania if you have to advise the ruler, make sure you do it between you and Him only. Like if you want things to work out better set it up in a way that has a greater likelihood of it being accepted. And a man said to miss out of Nikki Damn, do you do you like that someone inform you of your flaws? And he was honest He's not like us. Yeah, sure. Of course. I'm open to hearing no he said listen, in Canada now

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see Hannah um, when can you read do and you need any fella he actually is sincere about it. I'd love to hear it. But if he just wants to scold me,

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I'm I have no interest. And Ibrahim Abu Bashar Rahmani Raheem Allah he says that I said to Sophia Abdul Reina I saw Rocha and Yehuda Ilica Are you book would it please you that your flaws be gifted to you somebody identify your flaws for you it's supposed to be a gift because it helps you escape these flaws.

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So he said to him mmm in Sadia can find out from someone friendly. Yes. Well, I mean more between our shamaton fella but if it's someone just scolding me or someone gloating over the fact that they caught me doing something that no I have no desire to hear it.

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And if not ASAC yet, he mentioned the Haruna Rashid you know her on the Rashid was one of the greatest Khalifa of the entire owner really, but of the best dynasty.

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Haroon Rashid one time was making Tawaf around the Kaaba.

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And suddenly

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a man came to him and said to him, yeah, I mean, oh, Mr. President, in the arena and Okay, Lima kabhi. Kalam, in fee he ran over to in fact Tamil who elect Vitami holy, I want to tell you some tough words, and you need to be ready to handle them. Are you ready to handle what I'm about to tell you? The Honest, cold, bitter truth.

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And so how Rana Rashid said to him worth no while an amateur Iranian wala Kurama No, I have no respect no regard. I have no care to hear what you have to say. And then he explained why he said the bass Allah Who men who will hire you to Minka ILA men who are showroom mini for for O'Meara Ania Kula who code and Lena. Allah sent to someone worse than me. He means around someone better than you. He means Moses. And he instructed Moses what and sort of PA say to him coal and lay in and say some soft words. Be gentle. Right? So I don't accept that. You have to say to me tough. You're not better than Musa and I'm not worse than for Alan.

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And in the whole of the history of the callups for a CLT Rahim Allah Allah

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He mentioned that allow sama era you know Allah said to our Rashid st one or Holland Rashid. I'm sorry I heard Rashid prompted him for advice. And he said to me, I asked my email for like Anna watch for Kelana saying, Why are you so cold towards us? You never give us any advice? Like, do you want us to be doomed? Or she'd had some had some had some had righteousness in him. Raveena Hola. Why are you being so cold towards us? You never communicate with us. You never give us any advice.

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And he said to him what law here I mean, I swear it is because of the distance between the two lands. Otherwise I would have come to you more often I would have come sooner. For LM Mata for Raka, Nurse Esma whole smart EU Kelemen Shedinja. And then after everybody sort of dispersed when they were finally alone, right in the tent, right outside the cab outside of public eye, when they were all alone, Allah smart II spoke to him very sternly, within private, right, very sternly.

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And Rasheed, you know, was very grateful for this, and

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and he gave him 500,000. I'm sorry, 5000 dinar for his advice. And basically, as the generations mentioned that last one, he said to him, Listen, Don't delude yourself. You know, you're generous to the people. He was known to be very generous with one hand, and you're very tough. You're always you know, spilling blood with another hand. Don't think that will get you

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a clean slate or get you an escape on the day of judgment. And so to be being gentle with your advice is something very important. You know, one of the contemporary scholars today, like Dr. Hakim Murad, he has a beautiful saying.

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He says when people's defenses are too strong, it's probably because you have not used the weapon of mercy. Gentleness, mercy, being compassionate right?

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And you look at how the Prophet alayhi salatu salam did it you know, when the the famous this three Hadith and you know, we can close with them, when the

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when the young man in the height level Imam or the Allah who came and said, Yeah, Rasul Allah, permit me to FortiGate. Right? You will know the Hadith. He said to him, would you like it for your mother? He said, No, he said, likewise, he wouldn't like it for their mom said, Would you like it for your sister? He said, No, of course not. He said people wouldn't like it for their sister either. Would you like it for your daughter? He said, No, no, never said likewise, he wouldn't. You want him to imagine what it would be like if the exceptions are made to this rule in society. And then he went on with his aunt feet as maternal on then he went on with his paternal aunt and so on.

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And so he gave so many examples on purpose. He dragged it on and in South Sudan on purpose to really help illustrate in his mind how much mayhem there would be in the world like this. But then he didn't just do that. He didn't just help him submit to Allah with this rational component. Then he put his hand on his chest and he said, Allah Who muck for them, but who will how sinful Raja who wish to be Sodre Oh Allah, forgive his sin, and help him protect his private parts and heal his chest. That burning passion that's harassing him inside. The narrator says it will Mamelodi Allah who answers and this young man stopped looking around after that day. You get it stopped looking

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around. Yeah, he's always walking the streets looking around. He was bewildered by his lusts and he was able to keep it straight and keep his head down and live properly. Ever since that interaction with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Then you have the other Hadith and say Muslim I believe.

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Have more Alia even al Hakim a salami in Omaha, we have a heck of a tsunami.

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He entered the masjid and he was not from Medina. So he wasn't getting all the memos. He wasn't getting all the updates in Islamic law. And so when he entered Medina, he enters the prayer and someone sneezes and says Alhamdulillah so more valuable. Hakim does not know that speaking to others in prayer has been now outlawed. It's no longer allowed. And so he said to the man, your hammock Allah.

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And so

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the people all stared at him in the prayer, doing no talking, right? We finished this three years ago, like where you been? And so he looks at them. And he says, What is the matter where you guys? Why is everybody looking at me? Why is everyone looking at me

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during the prayer, and so then they had to escalate further and they began to strike their thighs with their palms, I guess.

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Like shut Enough, stop, stretch your mouth. And so they sort of exhibited in whatever ways were allowed extreme objection and anger at this man. And then the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam finished the prayer and then he turned around and he said Who was the man that was speaking? And then he said to him, this Salah it is unbefitting

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to include in it anything but the remembrance of Allah, this Viet Subhan, Allah and hamdulillah and the recitation of the Quran, nothing of human speech, interpersonal conversations.

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And he was so moved, right? He was so moved by this.

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You know, he said, me, me, my mother and my father be rancid for him. I've never saw anyone before him or after him like him. He didn't scold me, he didn't humiliate. He just told me, the Salah is unbefitting to include in it and it's communication between people. It is only a vicar of Allah and the recitation of the Quran.

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And then you know that the third and final

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example of his gentleness and how he was able to break through to people as the greatest educator of all time, so Allah Allahu Allahu alayhi wa sallam is the famous hadith of NSN Bukhari and Muslim of the man who urinated in the masjid. Right. He didn't know protocol. He's from out of town, out of town, you just pick a tree. You know, you're he's a desert roamer, he's a desert dweller. He's a nomadic Bedouin. And so he walks into the masjid finds a concealed corner, a quiet corner, he unbuckles, if you will, and he begins to urinate. And the Sahaba are so offended this sacred site. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam not just from his gentleness, but from his wisdom. He

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said, Don't interrupt him. Because you know, if you interrupt him, it will make things worse. You'll just he'll be running and you'll be running behind him and you'll just dirty there the a greater square footage of the masjid, right, you'll soil a wider section of the mess. And then after that, he said to them, now go get some water and spill it over where he urinated. And then he said to him, this Masjid is a house of God, no impurities or to be left here. And so when he saw how rough they wanted to be with him, and how gentle he sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was with him, he said, Allahu Mahamuni or hameau Hamedan well at Santa Ana shahada, oh Allah have mercy on me and have mercy on

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Muhammad and don't have mercy on anybody else alongside us too. And so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, had had Giotto ASEAN, you've restricted something very wide mean the Mercy of Allah Subhana Allah Allah is wide enough to include all of us to accommodate to fit all of us. You know Allah.

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If you allow me I'll share you know, one final

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incident that one of the Messiah in in the midst of the nebo he shared with me

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one night he was very fun to use Medina born and raised and man of the Quran has many students. He says, you know, one of my favorite spot and scholars is from your country. He asked me where I was from and he said, you know, from Egypt, she had a shot Ali Rahim Allah. He said I one time so I shot it in a dream. And me and him were entering Masjid in February. And it was packed and the economy was going off and everyone's rushing in, but there's no more room. And so he turns around, and he says to the people coming Hurry, hurry, come in. And then like there's no rule. He's like, just go and he pushes them into the Masjid. Somehow, they sort of make their way through the rows and they

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find spots. And then another group comes and he just just go and he's pushing them inside the Masjid. Right. And he goes somehow, even though it looks full, they're making their way through the road in their finding room. And another Third Fleet comes they just go and he's pushing them inside the vessel. This allows him to begin and somehow every time we think there's no room there's room. He says in that Chef a shadow your hand Allah He said turn to me turn to this Medina and scholar and said to me, Hakka Rahmatullah the Mercy of Allah is like that. Every time you think there's no room, there's room. And he was using it as an example. Actually, the reason we had that conversation, he

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was kind of venting to me about how some people are just so critical of others, never giving them time or room to grow. So it's as if they want them or assume that they have to be locked out of the Mercy of Allah and our standards, whereas Allah's Mercy is much wider than we can even imagine. Subhan Allah homie hamesha Allah, Allah and Mr Khurana to Lagos Allah Allah Azza wa are going to be in a Muhammad Ali earlier savage Marian, go ahead

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the Hadith from Joomla so I said in Joomla, about a hadith, Hadith Ilija inside Muslim and yes, I didn't complete the Hadith because I was being run off the member by the clock. And so this hadith is the hadith of Saudi nebula so the Allahu Anhu and so I'm Muslim. It says the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam entered and pray to Allah cause in the masjid have been no more Alia there's a neighborhood known as the neighborhood where the family have been and why we live and so he prayed to lock us in their little neighborhood Masjid he raised his hand to the sky for the Alpha weed and he made lengthy DUA and then he turned to us and he said sell to Robbie telethon for Afghan if Nene

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woman or anywhere Haider. I asked my lord for three things He granted me two of them and he withheld or declined me one

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He said I asked my lord to not

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exterminate My Ummah with some universal famine or epidemic

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for argania, and he granted me that your Alma will never die off be exterminated by some medical issue right or hunger or starvation. He says who I sell to who Allah you sell literally him. So I usually go multiple Sanatana Dharma for atonia. The second one was sell to who Allah use Allah Tala him or the woman sila Bucha, Mr. VRBO of the home. And I asked him to not empower against my own any external enemy that would exterminate them for Afghani hands. So he granted me that as well. We'll call and he said, Well, I wish them I lay him and be Acharya, even if the all of them from their farthest corners of the earth come together against the OMA. They will not be able to do that was

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the elder who here's the third one was sell to who Elijah Alaba home buying a home from an app for men and Isa and I asked him to not allow their aggression to be against each other. The infighting and the divisions right, I asked him to not allow their aggressions to be inward facing against each other Femina Ania he withheld that from me and he said to me, I had to interview and I have to bother him Baba or SB bother him Baba wallow.

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whatever raffia say fulfill Mattila Miata, Ada Kamsa.

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To the point they will kill one another and take each other as slaves and when the sword is pulled out in my OMA, it will not be returned until the day of judgment. I mean, this will be a perpetual cyclic thing that will continue to happen until the day of judgment that doesn't mean all times in all places, but that aspect will continue rearing its ugly head within this oma in sha Allah, we are of the exception to that.

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That's the Hadith any other questions?

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Sermon has started

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So this is controversial.

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the chef is and handbell is different from the Hanafis and Malik is on this the chef phase and Hanbury say that you must pray to rock as entering the masjid, even if the whole buzz going on. Because the prophets Allah Allahu alayhi wa sallam.

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This is like Muslim hater jabber or the Lavon.

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He said, either duckula Hadoken will email my job and you saw Lee raka chain or later Joe was female.

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When one of you enters and the Imam is preaching, let him pray to rock us and let him be brief in them, keep them short and sweet.

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The Hanafis and Maliki's have sort of an explanation for why this is not a universal rule. However,

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I'm handling, let me behave and just say I'm Hanbali. And the Hanbali takes the verbatim outward apparent meaning of this hadith. And that's it and Scheffer is do as well.

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Okay, but obviously, what literature was for him, I tried to get through it, you know, without invalidating it by how fast you're going with keep it short. You know, also sometimes and I'll take the opportunity to say that people stand there when the event is going off the beginning of the hotbar and wait for the event to end to pray there to lock eyes and you shouldn't do that. Even if the event is going on prior to rock house why? Because listening to the heartbeat is mandatory, right and repeating after the event is recommended. And so if you have to choose obviously if you become before you don't have to choose you could do everything to lock eyes and repeat after the

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event and hear the heartbeat but when now it's your choosing. Then we need to prioritize listening to the heartbeat which means getting through our tutorials. Listen to the hotbar over repeating after the Athan the mandatory will take precedence over the recommended Allahu Allah does that answer the question with a cache of sisters any questions?

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Yes ma'am.

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That yes

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sisters do you have any questions?

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Oh, that Yes. Wasn't for me. Okay. Brothers, anything else?

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Just ask aloha and get home see if everybody so I want to come on

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