Manners of the Salaf #10 Honest, Reliable, Dignified, Generous

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The history and character of the Islamic Middle East are discussed, including the importance of protecting one's identity and reputation in the West Bank and the negative impact of sharing secret during romantic relationships. The importance of privacy and privacy in Islam is emphasized, along with avoiding overboarding guests and socializing too much. The segment also touches on the negative impact of actions on others, including false accusations and false dis intentions, and the use of "robe" in Islam.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala Rasulillah early he or SOFIA Germain are big in the name of Allah All Praise and Glory be to Allah and mais finest peace and blessings be upon His messenger Muhammad and his family and his companions and all those who adhere to his guidance. We welcome everyone back to what will be mashallah our 10th and final session with Adam who set off the manners of the early Muslims in their dealings with people. And then hamdulillah we've gone through some of the major themes and some of the anecdotes of how they operated with one another and with certain classes of society in particular.

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And there is so much to read and so much that should be read and some of you even came to me between classes and it warmed my heart saying why don't we have more of this in the English language and I hope that we can, Inshallah, beef up the Islamic library in English across the board in this coming generation, because it is very basic.

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But for instance,

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one of the great chroniclers or biographers imams in Islamic history, remember they're happy we've been quoting him throughout the series, his biography siara Hola, Mundo Bella, the biographies of the noble scholars, has 35 basically generations in it 6000 biographies in it. And this is one of many major books, in this genre of biographies. And so

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whatever we touch here is not even the tip of the iceberg but we asked Allah azza wa jal to benefit us with it. And allow us a share of the blessings and the mercy that he descended into their hearts and into their behavior. May some of it reflect on to us and ours in sha Allah.

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Allah whom I mean,

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we shouldn't say in sha Allah into right we always do it out of habit with we just we shouldn't do that. You know, may Allah bless you in sha Allah, you should never say that. Never say in sha Allah when you're making, but you know, tappings when you're a Gyptian No, you guys do it to not just the Egyptians, okay, stop taking on Egyptians. I baited you guys and you fell for it. Let's get to work in sha Allah.

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So the major themes for tonight of them are sort of the honesty, the reliability, the dignity

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of the early Muslims,

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and also their generosity, different shades of this so one of them he set aside a section here called the iPhone a sin that the cell if we're

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wonderfully committed to keeping secrets and respecting people's privacy. And you know that a secret is like a promise when someone trusts you the secret that's equivalent to you promising

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to not share their information with others.

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And Allah azza wa jal said, whoa, whoa, but I had to keep your promises in the cannabis order because the promise, meaning every promise, everything that falls under the category of promises will be something Allah asks you about on the last day.

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Jabba didn't Abdullah Radi Allahu Allah, and he said that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, either had death or Raju Lu been Hadith he threw melta Fatah for here Amana, when a man mentioned some words meaning to another person through MultiFit, and then they turn their head, then it automatically becomes a trust, it automatically becomes an Amana something you are entrusted with, obviously turns their head meaning they're checking if someone's listening. So if they don't need to tell you don't tell anybody. If you are put by them looking over their shoulder under the impression you're put under the impression that they don't want someone to know it's as if they've

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said to you swear you won't tell nobody. And then you swear, if you will. Not as if you swore because there's no explanation for the oath there but it has that gravity in a sense.

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And ama Dibner aka Rahim Allah, Allah said, laser khulumani. Also the holy Mugello, OSA Yes, literally milanesa while he couldn't know where laser khulumani also holding milanesa, you terminal al Assad. He said every one that you can sit with is not someone you can be comfortable with. And not everyone you can be comfortable with you can trust your secrets with. So he's reminding people to be of that level. The believer is expected to be of the highest level of honesty and integrity and trustworthiness.

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And in a famous ancient adage, it was said to the Arabi to the Bedouin man katifaq its man who consider

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appreciate it

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record time you know when they tried to turn the tire switch the tires on the race car within 12 seconds we just did that to get it back in the race

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they said to the out of the cave kids man Okay, let's see how good are you at keeping secrets? And so he said Malcolm mobila Who Illa Kabul

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in my heart is a grave for sins sin the I'm sorry of sins for secrets mine the secrets are dead. When they go in here. They're locked away for good no one can be able to get them out.

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And, you know,

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he cites the the account is slightly behind it from a mobile Qatar Radi Allahu Han that when

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Hafsa the daughter of Omar

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Radi Allahu Anhu Anna, she became

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husband Lois. Right. Omar was very worried about this. So he went to Earth man and our friend or their loved one. And he said to him,

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why don't you marry my daughter? I can't find someone better than you.

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And so Earth man or the Aloha answer, I got to think about it. And he came back to him and he said to him, I have decided to not get married today.

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I'm going to hold off he said and so like I was kind of insulted by this so I went to obika So there are the hola Han and I presented to him I offered to him my daughter in marriage and so I will work with so dear didn't respond anything he kind of just left me hanging. He said for coming to LA he I will Jada mini Allah Earth man. He said so I was more upset Abu Bakr than I was at the North man because at least our friends had something. What could just go sit on me. He stood me up, he says and then I remained several nights very distressed about this. Why is everyone rejecting my daughter until the Prophet salAllahu alayhi wasallam proposed to her in marriage and so I married her to him

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and so Abu Bakr then came to me and said, Perhaps you're upset at me when you presented your daughter in marriage to me and I did not respond to you almost said yes, absolutely. upset at you. And now for Alterna Um, yes. He said nothing stopped me prevented me from responding to you in what you presented what you offered, except that I knew that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had her in mind. He was deliberating proposing to her. Well, I'm actually fgasa Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and I would never betray the secret Arelis of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam Well, I will tell raka Hanabusa lava who Allah He

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was a lemma, lockable to her. If the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam had not married her, I would have gladly accepted her in marriage.

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And NSR the Allah Juan

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narrates about his mother how good his mother was at the keeping of secrets. He said that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam one time came to me you know and as for 10 years just to serve rasool Allah, Allah Allah Allah is Allah Medina and I was playing with the young boys. So he said, lemme Alia or Elena he greeted us all. And that's from his humility is also learned that he would sort of not pass by the boys and he would actually greet children sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and then he sent me off to take care of something. And so I kind of dragged my feet and went to my mom's house first for up to I owe me.

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So then when I came back, he said to me, habit muhabba sec. What held you back like what took so long? What delayed you?

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I'm sorry. She said to me.

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What took you so long?

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I'm sorry, I'm reading this all wrong. It's a very long day. I'm very sorry. For Abdullah to Allah on me. He means I delayed in getting home to my mother. And so when I got home to my mother, she said, What took you so long to get home? So I said the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam sent me on some errant.

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So I said, What errant? What sort of service were you doing for the Messenger of Allah? So I said in the who said it's a secret

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And so she said to me, she didn't what Didn't she say? Come on, I'm your mom. She didn't say that. She said to me, led to help defend NaVi theory Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I hadn't. Don't tell the Messenger of Allah secrets to anyone, not even mom. Right? That's what she's trying to say. And so she saw his keenness on keeping secrets. And so she reinforced you encouraged that he'd be a person like this. And you know, also, that she had mentioned the very important point here, of the secrets that are often overlooked.

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Or this secrets that are between a husband and his wife, a wife and her husband both ways, right? Allah azza wa jal in the Quran praises

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righteous women by saying Happy Allah to live a life that they are safeguarding the private matters that live here means the matters of privacy behind closed doors. What happens behind closed doors, and likewise, it's vice versa it goes both ways. a two way street. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said in them in share the Nasir in the law human Zilla Teneo multi ama the people who have the worst rank in the sight of Allah on the Day of Resurrection.

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A Raju you've the Illa Marathi he were to flee la he film Yun shuru sir Raha that a man sort of become intimate with his wife and the wife become intimate with their husband? What happens sort of

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in the privacy of their rooms. And then he goes out and he he speaks of this he speaks of this secret, the secret is not necessarily an uttered secret. It's not a point of information. It is sort of the interaction

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between the two spouses, you know, the marital relationship has a great sanctity to it. And I can't imagine it ever being more relevant than today. Because popular culture has even polluted sort of the privacy and the sanctity of the marital relationship, where people may overlook the fact that, hey, we're married, we can still talk about it right? And they may even May Allah forbid and guide us speak about their relationship with their spouse to flex somehow in front of their friends, to speak about sort of their health, right sort of their physical health, their spouse's physical health, in that relationship or speak about so how desirable they are to their spouse, or something

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of that nature. And I think I've said enough, I think any intelligent person can read between the lines Allah azza wa jal said in the Quran, Hoonah Lieberson likoma intimately Versa, when you are a garment for them, your wives, and they are a garment for you, for the husband's the garment conceals, of the functions of the garment is that it conceals, so you are supposed to be concealment for one another. You are not supposed to cheapen this and tokenize this by making mention of it to anyone beyond that relationship.

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And so these, this sort of shameless exposure or disclosure of the bedroom secret is

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what he highlights here. And we need to just always keep in mind that many times he says, the secrets that you disclose or you share, you may not know just how damaging it is to let it out, right? Just think of any secrets in society, how many relationships that could break how many

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goals that were on route to being achieved good things that you got in the way now. Because people be little underestimate the notion of Al Majelis ulama, that private gatherings are a trust that is to be protected at all costs, except if someone is conspiring against the Muslims, except there's no way to help someone that's on a crash course. Let's keep that as the exception. Let's not sort of widen that sphere that would be displeasing to Allah azza wa jal subhanho wa taala.

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The next one here, I'm obviously being selective.

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He speaks about their treatment of guests.

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You can remove a lifer, whether it's a California female by now home, so they honor their guests. But on the other side, also, they don't overburden themselves for each other for the guests. Right. And we'll get to that in a second. But first, let's establish the Prophet alayhi salatu salam did not leave this up to culture. This one is a facet of faith. Man, can you let me know Billa he only omega if you can. Bifur everyone should know the Hadith that whomever believes in Allah and the Last Day must honor his guest. And in Bukhari and Muslim there is a more elaborate wording.

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We're in the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Phil, you couldn't lie for who Jay is that lets him honor his guests by granting him his award. Jay isn't here kind of those mean award? So they said, Well, my job is to who what is that? What is it that we should award our guests he said, Yo Ma, who will ala to someone is sort of visiting, especially an out of Towner, they are to be awarded for a night and day, he says. So it's three levels, what the alpha two Thalassa 2am. And they are to be hosted for three days

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for firmer can our Adeleke ever who Osaka and whatever is done beyond that is charity.

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In other words, would you do beyond three days is up to you increase your award and your good deeds, the first three days are mandatory. And the first day especially first day and night, you should go above and beyond

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what is above and beyond mean, some of the scholars said this means to feed them better than you would ordinarily eat.

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If you can afford that obviously, you feed them better than you would ordinarily eats. But it's mandatory on you to feed them from what you would eat for those second two days. Right.

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After that, it becomes a charity as we said.

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And we should all know the Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tried to honor his guest and he could not honor his guests because he had nothing in any of his homes. None of his wives had anything to serve to the guests. And so he said, Manuel de feu, Al you lay your full life out Rasulillah who will take in the guest of the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And so a man from the Mossad went home and told his wife I've accepted to honor the guests of the Messenger of Allah. She said, Well, we don't have anything at home either. So I don't think of how many homes in Medina, how many nights they had nothing. He said, Well, she said, I only have food for the kids. He said put them to sleep, distract them till they go to sleep. And then prepare whatever you have for the guests and the guests came and they put out the lights so he could not see how much the others the hosts were eating. And so they kept pretending to be eating with him so he would not feel awkward and he would still eat.

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And the two the husband and wife went to sleep that night hungry as well.

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And so the next morning the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam initiated when he saw them and he encountered him, he said to him, look at the ajibola hoomin Sania eco Mabhida eco my Laila, Allah has marveled. Allah has been amazed if you will, by what the two of you pulled off this beautiful conspiracy, right? Well, that's what the you two had pulled off with your guests last night you went out of your way

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to honor him even when you didn't even have enough for yourselves. And it is said that this incident was the reason why Allah azza wa jal revealed in Surah Al Hush, where you see Runa Allah and footsy him well, how can I be him Kasasa people that give precedence to others over themselves, even when they have a standing need for it.

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Now to balance it out the Prophet alayhi salatu salam also said to people, you should not stay in people's homes until you embarrass them. You should not stay in people's homes until you forced them into sinfulness in one narration, Leia handily Muslimeen and up Miranda, he had the female, you should not be inconsiderate. It is not permissible for a Muslim to stay with his brother to the point that he drives him into sin. They said, Yeah rasool Allah, how does he drive him into sin? He said up Marinda, who when I say Allahu Ukri hibi he stays there, and he

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doesn't have anything to honor him with.

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But how's that a sin?

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If you don't have it.

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Some have said that this would require of you to go

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find it from others borrow money for your guests.

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Because it's almost like it's a

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financial liability the same way my kid has to eat. My guest has to be honored. Right? And so this is the default. And so you now be considerate. Don't put your brother through that where he says no, I'm not gonna borrow money, right.

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And then there's another net

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variations like the body where it says well I handled that who and you and yesterday we are in there who had you hedger who and there is not permissible for him to remain in his home until he embarrasses him

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now what if they're like not from out of town? Or what if like we are quasi guests like not exactly guests like we're brothers like me Casa su casa type stuff right? Like what should we do if you're standing long term friends

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he says it was from the head D the guidance of the self the early Muslims to not go overboard in honoring the guests.

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Why why do you think that is?

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Yeah, because you're going to sort of make him feel emotionally guilted into reciprocating at an equal level. And that can only be sustained for so long. You know, people nowadays, wish they weren't invited to the wedding so that they don't have to give money.

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Right, because there's like a, almost like a running tab. It is true like in general, the Prophet SAW said when he was given a gift, he would like to return better than it. This is an established Hadith about the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam. But in general, when you have so much interaction between a person you have to give each other more room, you have to sort of lower the bar on each other. Right? Even the Quran as a brother here on one of the WhatsApp groups groups in the valley, he shared the narration of an SL Basia Rahim Allah, that when some of the his friends among the scholars came over his house, and he was sleeping, and like they didn't want to wake him up, but

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they were also hungry. So they grabbed something from his, from his house, and they started biting into it. As they were biting into it. They he woke up and so they kind of got like, unsure like, Ah, did we mess up or not? And so he smiled very big smile, because he was happy that they felt comfortable enough to do that in his house. Right. He smiled a very big smile and recited the end of the I also do become laser Alikum, Juna Hoon and Kulu Jamie and LH data, or your brother, this is a long list of those that basically can eat without permission, right in your home, your your mom, your dad, your right, that sort of thing. So the idea ends, the end of the list is what or your

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friends, laser Alikum junuh, when there is no blame on you to eat together, or individually. Right? That's not the type of guest guest that needs your permission to say to start eating, right? Because you know, if you're a guest also, you shouldn't walk in someone's house say,

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well, we got here. And that's why we're talking about sort of differentiating between the friend and the guests a little bit. Anyway.

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Ignacio Rahim Allah narrates this is him citing proof that the seller used to keep the bar low to keep the relationship salient. And we should do this, when you invite us to your house. Right? Don't go overboard. Because I'm gonna have to now invite you to my house and go overboard. And then the next time you invite me over your house, I'm gonna say no, because I don't want to do this again. I don't want the cycle to start again. Just keep it simple. Well, like we have broken we have broken the system of visitation because we go overboard in sort of honoring our guests. So then we just stop being guests for each other.

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Am I right? I see all of you nodding. You guys know I'm right. Please, follow instructions.

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You're gonna say it's not in my hand. It's none of my business. She did it. I know. I know. That's why they need to attend these talks.

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Because you can't do this on your own. So I'm your um, your iron wall. Blame it on the chef. If not a sakura him a whole lot narrates from chef at the selama Yeah, it's the last lecture so I'm really being Cavalier here.

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He says the hell to Allah cellml Pharisee I entered upon the great Sahabi Salmela Pharisee Radi Allahu Han for us Raja Ilya Hubbs and women ha. And so he brought out to me some bread and some salt.

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By the way, bread was like medium. It wasn't like the lowest of the low. Like if you had bread it's like all Mashallah. You got bread in those societies. It's true. Like, in the Battle of bed that the prisoners said the non Muslim prisoners said, every time they had bread, they would give it to us and eat the dates themselves. Because the Prophet SAW Selim told them treat your guests treat the prisoners well.

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So they gave us the better of the two options, the bread. That's what I used to say. So here, he's saying he brought out to me bread. It's not like you know,

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a roasted lamb, but at the same time

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It's not just dates, some dry dates, bread and salt for call Ali when he said to me

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Lola Anna rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Anna Hannah and yes I can never I had only I didn't, let's make a left to like

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had the Messenger of Allah this is not just the Sahaba thinking of this, this is the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had he not prohibited us

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from going out of our way for each other, I would have went out of my way for you. Right? You don't put your tastes your preferences, your norms ahead of the guidance of the messenger of allah sallallahu I said because all the masala all of the your best interests are in following this. Sometimes we have good intentions and they backfire on us like going overboard with the guests and follow them Neriah Rahim Allah also he narrates.

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He says in NEMA to call for a nurse to be tech leaf. The people broke ties with each other as a result of them going out of their way for each other. Yazoo Ah ha ha ha ha

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one of them visits his brother fair to Kelly Leffler, who? And so he goes out of his way for him for Yocto who then he can I know and that becomes ultimately a reason for not inviting him a second time.

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And yet Kela fella who may let me follow so that he doesn't have to go through what he didn't do for me in response.

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kulula He didn't mean Houma FEMA and Ziggy fire Shimo Who are we actually who then he came in Roger Ely, everyone else stays in their own house. And they're prevented or prevented by their their dignity, hmm, right, prevented by their dignity from going back to their brothers.

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And if the hudgell hates me, he mentions that from the realities of the Sahaba

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from I'm sorry, the realities of the sociability of friendship, one of the rights that make a friendship real and lasting at a fee for and who be led to khalifa who while at the Kalevala use of light in their burdens by not obligating them with things nor obligating yourself for them.

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So that was with regards to guests. Number four is where

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the fourth one here, he says the Antifa funa MFE ad notice that they

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choose to restrain themselves from asking people for anything, or depending on people as much as possible.

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You know, the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam he said at the dune earlier Jairo. mineralia the sofa that the upper hand is superior to the lower hand, meaning the giving hand is superior to the receiving hand. So every single one of them wants to be that person that is giving more than they receive, and trying to never be on the receiving end. And he also told us all Allahu alayhi wa sallam La Serena and Kathrada Allah kin Alina call calm and true riches is not in having many possessions. But true riches is not having any needs for possessions, right to be content at heart, with your little is truly being rich, because of a little is not going to be enough to feel like you

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have enough for little is not going to be enough then guess what, Allah will not be enough either.

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So the true riches is to not be dependent on material riches.

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And Abu Hassan may Mooney Rahim Allah Allah said my father said to me,

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lemma or aytu kodra Amir amadablam, a moon in the monsoon lemma Righto when I saw the status that my paternal uncle, my uncle or Omar ABMA, Moon had with a monsoon, monsoon is the Khalifa.

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The eye basically, he said when I saw that my uncle was actually a big shot in the presence of a monsoon. I said to him, lo and Nick I said Elta, Ameerul, Momineen and yacapaca and yucca aka cochlea

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and you're clear agricultural Yeah. Why don't you ask moon to sort of like designate for you some land somewhere give you some some real estate? We can build a farm we can make a business that like that for a second so but he felt like he didn't answer me he ignored me. Fell hashtag la so I kept nagging him like, come on. This is your chance. Like you know, you have a golden opportunity. He likes you. If I'll have too early, I started nagging him and he said to me, I will tell you my son, he's saying to his nephew, my son

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You are asking me to ask him for something that he has already offered me multiple times and I didn't accept it.

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It's not even just about can I have they stayed away from it's here and you you're the one that says no. And even the same era Hinata he speaks on this type of behavior among the self, the early Muslims, he says because they understood and cut the raka in the nurse.

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Because the stiffener, you can assume that your value in the eyes of people is proportionate to the your ability to stay away from taking anything from them. The more you ask someone for something, or the more you accept some some help from someone, the less they respect you. You know, they say that if something is free, you're usually the price, right? Something is free, you're usually the price because now they own you. Even if you didn't ask for it,

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not in visitation each other's houses, but that is the idea. In terms of dependency, and vitiated nil hateth Rahim Allah said I heard and more if a neuron saying it is will mean is they're gonna woohoo and in us that the dignity of the believer comes from the fact that he has independence from the people. And this is attributed to the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam as well, in the Famous Five advices of Gibreel Alehissalaam.

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And Muhammad Muhammad said, I said to Abu Bakr Illawarra teach me something that will bring me closer to Allah and closer to the people as well. People will love me as well. He said, As for what brings you closer to Allah, it is asking him, the more you ask Allah, the more he loves you. And as for what brings you closer to the people, it's not asking them? Isn't that nice? The more you ask Allah the more he loves you. And the more you ask the people the more they hate you

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is had female VAD nurse you hit back and nurse the Prophet alayhi salatu salam though there's some controversy in the chain. He said this interest yourself turn away from what's in the people's hands and the people will love you

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and ever more IWEA who was one of the children of the very wealthy so heavy cavalry Malik Radi Allahu Han,

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Abu more I always said, I had seen myself.

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I got to a point in my life, where I was working hard.

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by night and by day with my axe, like doing hard labor to make a living. He's working like in coal mines. He's breaking rocks he's building to make a living.

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And so someone said to him, Why do you trouble yourself so much? Like why do you work so hard? Are you are you killing yourself? He said, It's true. This is hard work in Alagna, Daratumumab add gel weminuche Ijarah for wotja Dinner Hammond and Hedgehog. RT s Hello, Elena. He said, Because we sought money from people's hands to get it from my dad to get it from someone else right to get it in people's hands. And we sought money through stones through breaking stones and building and selling with them. And we found that making money out of this hard physical labor is actually easier.

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It's less humiliating, right?

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There is we have 15 minutes sha Allah to close out the few sections I want it. So this next section was how they indulged foolish people. And we've covered this in terms of patience in terms of forgiveness and otherwise, but there is a particular principle they lived by which is called Madera just how you

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hide your true colors and not show frustration to people that are sometimes obnoxious, sometimes evil actually immoral and corrupt.

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And if not Allah Allah first of all, if not Allah Allah

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Rahim Allah Allah He said, let me just begin with this narration before it comes to the chapter there related. He says in NEMA general as Allah or Sfia Healy la Hakuna Lea hottie mean, who mean whom the hottie mean whom Rakuen and AOL call. It became sort of Allah's way with his chosen servants, that they get abused.

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Quite often not saying they should accept it, but they just happen to get abused. That's their destiny. So that they do not have any

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settling for His creation. Like people don't appreciate them so that he looks for Allah right? People don't compensate them so he looks for Allah. People aren't just with them. So he

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He sort of brings his complaints to Allah. That is of the ways Allah keeps them detached from the creation and attached to the Creator. He says Rakuen an ill health they don't attach to the creation of a euro 10 mean Who are they him because of how protective he is of them. Lose the AJA human Cooley che in hatherleigh Allahu Anhu. Che he sort of drives them away from everything in this world, everything is disappointing, so that nothing will busy them from him.

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And so in that way, they'll attain the highest station.

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you the Aluna nurse,

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what is mudra Mudra is basically to play along with someone. Right? That all means to hide. So like you're basically hiding how you really feel from someone who's not being very pleasant not being very agreeable.

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And this happens for a bunch of reasons this happens you want to win their hearts over or you don't want your own headache or whatever it may be.

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And Abdullah and Masaru Radi Allahu Allah and he said how lately NASA was ill whom were De Luca, la tech, lemon, law tech lemon, who

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mix with people, that's the preferred thing to do. Like you know, you can be abused by someone and syphilis, I don't wanna deal with anyone. But the prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam said, The believer who mixes with people and puts up with their harm is better than the believer who doesn't mix with people and doesn't put up with their harm.

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So it must be saying, currently NASA was a real home mix with people meaning physically was a yellow home and hide from them meaning like, hide from them what's in your heart, right?

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What the NACA law tech lemon who and your as for your religion, don't subjected it to,

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to deterioration? In other words, don't compromise your principles, but don't sort of lock horns with people. That's what he means. And that's important. Why didn't you exclude say that? Because people always say, well, that's compromise, you're being a hypocrite, you're not sort of speaking your mind. And, you know, don't fear anyone just don't mince words, you know, only fear Allah say it how it is no, that's not the way it works. There's a difference between sort of indulging people out of your good manners, which is what we're talking about here. And between compromising your religion and your morals for people. That's hypocrisy. Right? And so to give up some of your worldly comfort,

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for their religion, for their Deen, or to give up some of your worldly comfort, for worldly comfort, that's fine, right? Like, I'm not going to tell you how much I don't like you're not you're not you. I'm not gonna tell you how much I don't like you. Because it's probably going to cause me a bigger headache to tell you how much I don't like you. Right? So I'm just gonna keep it moving. I'm not gonna speak my mind that's not compromised. That's not the fault. That's not to face sickness. No effect is when you you give up some of your religion for some of your worldly comfort, like their approval of you. That's, that's the difference, right? And sometimes a lot of times this outwardly

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could look the same. But Allah knows what is the driving force? What is your primary intention here, your primary gain? Are you doing it for the sake of you know, your dean or your dunya,

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their dean, or your dunya these are important factors and it will become clear with some of these examples of Java

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it comes up so many times, so I'm not going to drag you through the entire chapter.

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so I'll begin here Robin is Zubayr Radi Allahu Allah narrates that I Isha are the Mother of the Believers, the wife of our Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam she said one day, a man asked permission to enter the prophets house. salAllahu alayhi wasallam so he said, then hula hula for Bitsa Abdullah Shira lb et cetera hula Shira, let him in.

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What an awful Klansmen this is, this is not a nice guy.

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But then when he entered the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah, Allahu Allah. He was speaking to him very politely, very gently. He's being very sweet with him and his thought was salam.

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So when he left I said, I was narrating all of this. So the Allahu Allah, Ya rasool Allah. You said what you said what a horrible guy. And then when he came in you were so soft in your words with him. And so he said to me, AI Asia or Asia in the short run Nassim and zealot and in the law he Metallica, who are where they are who are NASA. It's unfortunate.

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Oh or I Isha. Some of the worst people

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in the sight of Allah are those that people

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protect them.

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cells from so they don't become even more vulgar. In other words, I didn't do anything wrong. I haven't changed my mind. I didn't approve of his behavior. I just let him in. Because if I didn't let him in, he was probably going to become even worse, right? He was probably going to go out to people and tell them don't become Muslim, or let's leave this religion of Islam or something of that nature. So I indulged him, I indulge them even at my discomfort for the sake of the dean, his dean or the dean of his fellow Klansmen.

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And they they said to ignite after a great temporary scholar, he mentioned this in his book at noon, someone said to him,

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Allah said to the Prophet sallallahu, ALA, so someone's asking Him this question. Allah said to the Prophet Alayhi Salatu was Salam, et de fabby. Let's see here ACEN for either levy vena cava Vina, who are there were two in Cana who Allah Yun Hamid, respond to cruelty with kindness.

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And suddenly you will find those that whom between you and them is enmity are suddenly your warmest friends, right like when people's hearts over by not reciprocating in kind when people are being cruel. He said, we heard Allah say this, they said.

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But then we also hear that for you to express something contrary to how you feel is hypocrisy. So how do we protect ourselves from hypocrisy while obeying Allah's advice? Like how do we reconcile these two values? So he said to them, and NIFA hypocrisy is harmful. Jimmy? What if Banyule kabhi mod was sharp? Ma is her alias.

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So I might have heard him clearly it caused a sharp, he said hypocrisy is when you show beautiful things, and you sort of hide negative things. And you know, you're you're keeping to yourself bad things, showing good things. For a bad end, you're conspiring for evil outcome. So in a movie Mikasa the matters are judged by their intentions and what is the objective from them? He said, As for what the idea is calling us to, it's to express to outwardly be good express yourself in a beautiful way to those that are expressing themselves in an ugly way. For the sake of bringing out the best in them not for the sake of hurting them, right. You're not trying to like set them up playing possum

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to backstab them or something like this. That's not what it is.

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And Abu darda, Radi Allahu Anhu It was reported about him that he used to say this is a hobby in Len let the neck Shirou fee would you hear aquire mean we're in polu BANA Allah Tala ano whom you will sometimes find us next year next year hear me smiling, smiling in the face of people while our hearts are making against them. Like May Allah get rid of you right in here what here I'm smiling ear to ear right this is not hypocrisy

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and lotsa be said in Naka tell canasa kula whom Bill visionary you are to meet all people with a smile.

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Deaf father the Deaf Rhoda Lena teen ba CERAM ba settimana work disable your whining ba sadeem Abdul because that is the way to repel people's grudges in the easiest

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of methods the easiest ways and to win over brothers

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with the least amount of money without having to spend anything. And one of the hook Emma the men of wisdom of old used to say man Arafa NASA, Dara, home woman Jayla who mount our home whomever knows the reality of people what people are like people are all different right? Whomever knows the reality of people that are home

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basically indulges them he is not straightforward with them. And whomever is ignorant of the nature of human beings mouth ah homie constantly argues with them. Like where do you think you're gonna get by locking horns and arguing with everybody?

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That was the second to last if I'm not mistaken, the last one. This is very short, but I just wanted to read it for you in the end. He says this LF can or Yachty funa. Olia Allah He while you are doing it, I had a mean home. Whether you had a bonus

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home that the seller for keen on recognizing the nearest servants of Allah to Allah the Olia Allah has chosen servants

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and they would not oppose them they would not spy to them they would not get into conflict with them. And what was

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very nice to find him saying here, he says and they understood that the LDS the wealthy you know, we see the wealthy like the st even though the word saint has a lot of like connotation from Christianity. So the translation is a bit sticky, not the best translation but there is a notion of the way he you know, of Allah azza wa jal, he says they understood that the Olia of Allah are found in all of the different kinds all of the different corners of the Ummah of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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whether it's from the people of Quran are the people of knowledge, like scholarship, or the people of jihad, or the people of business and trade and farmers, he says, and he's mentioning now today, our challenge here is that we have a very tight

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conception of what our when he is, he says, and

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the Muslims who think that the Wali is only someone,

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Kala Illa, Phil Bula Hillman to him, he says, except people that are sort of have no wit, you know, sometimes you see someone who's like,

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you know, these notions of someone who's like, three quarters crazy. And they say, Oh, he's madly in love with God, right? Someone who sort of like doesn't eat or drink and its clothes are ripped, and he, he can't walk a straight line and say, Oh, leave him alone. He's a weenie of Allah. It's possible. Also, it's possible. He's saying, But this notion that this is the way this is the iconic Wali, he said, is a huge problem that crept up on this Oma.

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He said, well, more than one minute Muslimeen. And also mistaken among the Muslims, are those that don't recognize the Alia of Allah except in the history books, that they don't exist. They don't live alongside you the people of Eman the people of tequila.

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They don't have to be people that performed miracles, right? They don't have to be people who, who died and are found in a book or they have some big shrines somewhere in some parts of the Muslim world.

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Or some hope but some sort of dome is built over their grave or otherwise.

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And then he says, they could be all around you. So be very careful. That's what he's trying to say. value them and also

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don't get in the category of someone who disrespected who opposes the idea of Allah who without justification. He said because Allah azza wa jal said Manhyia Li Wei Li Yan, whomever shows hostility, enmity, animosity, towards my Elia for the oven to who will have they need to know I have declared war on them.

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Allah is very protective of his Olia. That's why he wants you to widen the concept, at least in the context of this chapter. And I'll read to you three anecdotes and with them we close in sha Allah The first of them is the hubby Rahim Allah Allah said in the biography of Hadees or hoorays

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ignorance man or Ravi Rahim Allah, Allah have mercy on him that he said, led to the idea hadn't had to Allameh mer Bina who were being Allah, don't get into beef with someone until you find out what is between them and Allah.

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That means what? Sleep everybody alone, you don't know. Right? But it could also mean if they appear to be closer to Allah in the correct understanding of what that means. Then play it extra safe. It's not worth it.

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He says until you know what is between them and Allah. Listen to the methodology. He says for in yakun more Sinan for in Allah Allah you slimmer Julio del wetek Because if this is a good doer fairly is a really Allah who will never leave him out to dry just because you don't like him. You're going to be the problem in a minute. Your problem is not gonna be with that person. It's gonna be with Allah himself right Allah who will not surrender him to you.

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Call our India Kumasi and for our Shaka be Amelie he and NIAC fee occur. And if he is an evildoer, he's actually not really at all then his evil deeds will do him in you don't want to sort of build a campaign against this person. You're wasting your time. So either you're destroying yourself or you're wasting your time he's saying the second narration they know already mentioned with his chain all the way back to the chevron Abdi Melaka plant. Let's see who said

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I heard him there again as if you had an arena while he was in bed Dan saying

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but Apple hasn't Apple has him is to celebrate the dinar one of the great sages of Islamic history and spirituality. I will have him said lead to add to IDN Raj Jhulan wala to now see Ben who do not take a stand against anyone or show them enmity had Nomura EDA said Irati he been a who have been Allah until you verify his private affairs between him and Allah subhanho wa Taala meaning you understand intimately what he is like, for Intego Allah Who Surya Ratan Hasina, if his edit hidden attributes are good, then Allah azza wa jal will not desert him because you don't like him. And if his sort of reality his inner reality is evil, for God caffeic MSL we are who then his evil deeds

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are enough, and

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you will never be able to outdo his evil deeds. What does that mean?

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Whatever you do to him, it's not going to do more damage than what his evil deeds are going to do to him. So stop wasting your time. You notice the symmetry between their words? This reminds you that even when centuries apart, the seller used to inherit these principles from each other, right, they think the same way. And that's why it's beautiful to not be left out of these mindsets.

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And how could you How could you put yourself in such a reckless position when Allah azza wa jal has said man ideally when he and for that and to who will help whoever opposes one of my earlier than I have declared war on such a person may Allah azza wa jal protect us from that and enable us to to earn more ground in the in the path of Wilaya of nearness to him Allah whom I mean, it's like liquid everybody will stop here with the book in preparation for Ramadan. And may Allah make our share of this not just hearing and speaking and listening, but allow us to internalize some of it for the better and remind us about it on the Day of Judgment when the good deeds will heavily involve our

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good manners, and I love better our mountain manners and yours and purged from us our our ILL manners Allahumma Amin SallAllahu Sallam Obata kind of Vienna Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Adrain