JAR #52 4 Situations Were It’s Permitted To Cut Ties With Relatives

Mohamad Baajour


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AI: Summary © The importance of kinship and finding one's own connection with relatives is discussed, as it is a form of keeping ties of kinship. The majority of people are considered kinship members, and it is a form of keeping ties of kinship. The speaker emphasizes the need to be mindful of one's actions and avoid harming family members, as it can lead to severals of relationships. The speaker also offers advice on how to handle difficult situations, including cutting relative relationships, warning them to avoid touching their deane, and cutting a family member's relationship with a family member who is causing harm to their household.
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah here where a kid was beloved handily, Lao salatu salam, ala Rasulillah Olam, aluminum and found now and finally Mr. Lim tena was in the element. I mean, we ask Allah azza wa jal teachers would benefit us, benefit us from what he told us and increase us in knowledge. My dear beloved, brothers and sisters, I ask Allah subhanaw taala to make me in you, from the people who listen and apply. Tonight's topic is extremely, extremely important. We get so many questions about it and in sha Allah to Allah, I ask Allah subhanaw taala to help me cover it from every aspect and ask Allah subhanaw taala to make my

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everything I say, sincerely for his sake. And that topic is Salat, run upholding the ties of kinship.

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is a followed upon every Muslim is an obligation upon every Muslim to uphold the ties of kinship to uphold the relationship with with the relatives.

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Allah subhana wa Taala told us in the ayah that we're here every Friday, the first Iron Surah Nisa at the end of it what duckula Lady Tessa Luna be he will or ham and feel Allah through whom you demand your mutual rights and do not cut the relationships of the kinship.

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There are so many rewards for keeping the relationship with with relatives. First, like we said, it's an act of obedience. When you are

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connecting with your family members.

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You are actually performing an act of worship a bada second Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, a man came to him and said you had a soul Allah tell me about a deed that gets me to Jana and the Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim

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Rasul Allah says salam said, worship Allah with no partners do not commit any shirk, perform your Salaat give your Zakat and sell run amok and unite the ties of kinship Subhanallah So, it is a means to get into Jannah third Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that Allah subhanho wa Taala promised that he will connect with the people who connect with their relatives and Allah subhanaw taala will sever the relationship for the people who severed the relationship with their relatives Allahu Akbar, Allah, Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, because the word the Arabic word kin is a ROM Subhan Allah so Allah subhanaw taala promised that he will connect with the one who connects

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with his family and disconnect with the one who disconnect with his family. Can you imagine? Allah subhanaw taala disconnecting from us, Allahu Akbar.

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Fourth, reword Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said whomsoever, like his risk, His provision to be increased and his life to be extended. What should we do here Rasul Allah, he should uphold the ties of kinship, also the Hadith in Bukhari and Muslim. So there are so many rewards for keeping the relationship with our family members.

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Who is the person that is considered as Walsall, who is the person that is considered as he or she are connecting with their with their family members?

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Let's all allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that he isn't Bukhari, the one who maintains a relationship with his relatives only because they maintain the relationship with him or her is not truly upholding the ties of kinship. He's not really a Walsall.

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The one who truly upholds the ties is the one who does so even if they break the relationship. Lacell Walsall, Bill McAfee, Yanni. You want to consider yourself a person that is connecting with relatives. That does not mean if they visit me I visit them if they give me a gift, I give them a gift. If they call me I call them

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that is not considered Scylla. That is very good. You're doing a 700 are bad. I mean, you will be rewarded for that. But are you considered a Watson? No. So, as I said, I've said the wall sale, the one who connect, you have to when you connecting something that means is broken, right? So Allah Azza wa sallam said that the one who connects is the one who calls and try to connect with the people who are disconnecting with him. That is the one who are we talking about right here? So that is considered the Watson?

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Who are the people who are considered from our kinship? Who are the people that if we

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connect with them,

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if we keep the ties with them, they are the ones who are considered from the ties of kinship? Who are these people, the scholars different two kinds of people. First, they said, one group said, The One Who Is mom to you is a tie of kinship. And you have to keep ties of kinship with them. And your father, your mother, your brother, your sister, and below any their children. And, of course, father and mother and above. Okay, and father and mother and your paternal and maternal uncles, and aunts. Okay, the people that you cannot marry, these are one group. As a matter of fact, both groups agreed that these people are definitely from the kinship that you the relatives that you should be

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connecting with all the time. The other group added to them, they said, No, whomsoever is related to you through these people are also your next of kin. Yeah, that means

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the aunt add to the list that you mentioned before, add to them, they're the cousins, Gianni your cousins, their kids also. So they added to them, the sons and the daughters of the aunts and the sons and the daughters of the uncles. Okay. So, the majority of the people, they say that the Muharram are definitely the relatives that you have to stay in connection with your father, your mother and above the end their parents, your children, your your uncle, your uncle's, your aunts from both sides, these are the ones that you are if there's any marriage, no marriage is allowed that means they are your mom. So these are the people that considered the we are supposed to always

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keep a relationship with them, okay. Now,

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the wife's family are not from the family that the husband is supposed to be connecting with, okay. The wife's family, that and similarly vice versa, the husband's family, the wife is not supposed to be like to she will not be sinful. If she does not connect with the husband's family. Of course, that does not mean we be rude to them and we disrespect disrespect them? No, we do always the best to our in laws, and we treat them with the utmost respect, but am I sinful? If I do not connect with my sister in law, my brother in law, it's not under the Salat Aram

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How we connect? How do we perform the Cebada it varies depending on the person. Okay, for example, the way I connect with my parents, is different than the way I connect with my siblings. And the way I connect with my siblings is different than the way I connect with my maybe uncles and aunts. Okay. So

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the kinship is to be kind to them, to visit them, to call them text them,

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email, maybe being helping them financially, all this is a form of keeping the ties of kinship. All this is considered solid run. There is nothing in our deen that gives us a period of time after that you will be considered as a quarter as a person that severed the relationship with the parents, with the family members. Okay, so there's no specific time. Maybe with my mother, if I don't call it once a week or twice a week, she will be upset and that she will consider that as as kata. But with my cousin or with my uncle, he doesn't really care if unless I call him maybe once a month. So it is depends on the earth. It depends on the custom and the norm of where where you live.

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Now, what is the danger

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of severing the relationship severing the ties of kinship. First, Allah subhanaw taala told us in Suruc Mohammed for her like I say to interval Latham and to see do fill out what a cocktail or hammer comb. Hola II can leadin Allah, Allah Allahu Akbar. So the first major

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punishment of the person who cuts the ties of kinship is that he will get or she will get the learner of Allah, the curse of Allah, that means they will be deprived from the Mercy of Allah my brothers and sisters, this is very huge. deprived from the Mercy of Allah azza wa jal Second,

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our Amel, our actions are presented to Allah every Monday and Thursday, like Rasulullah sallallahu told us and everyone will be forgiven in sha Allah except the one who has a problem who have severed the relationship with his relative, he or she will be told, leave them alone until they reconcile Allahu Akbar. So all my actions will be on hold until I fix my relationship, my salon, my camera, my hygiene, my Quran, reading my charity, all on hold until I fix that relationship. So my brother and sister tell me what is it that they have done to you that is worth that all your actions are on hold?

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What if I die in that period? SubhanAllah. So that's another another punishment of the person who cut the ties of kinship, third layer tool, Jana Carter and Allahu Akbar,

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he will not she will not enter the Jana, the person who severs the ties of kinship, Allahu Akbar. So this is

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a major punishment. So it's not a small issue. This is a very big punishment. So we have to really be very careful on how we treat our relatives. Now, we come to something extremely important. Are there situations where am I where I am allowed to sever the relationship with my relatives? Yes, there are four situations where you are allowed to sever the relationship with your kinship. Number one, if your relative commits a major sin, and you advise them, that's very important, and you advise them to stop and they did not listen. And you felt by severing them, they might stop then cutting that relationship is allowed. Okay, then cutting that relationship is allowed. But make sure

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you advise them first. Second.

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You have a person, you have one of those family members who commit shirk, and he does specifically or she does sell and letting them into your house will ruin your house.

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And you have warned them again, you advised them to stop and they did not then you are allowed to cut someone who is performing sad and might ruin your household. Third,

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the family members that cause harm to your dean.

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What does that mean? Every time I mixed with them, every time I connect with them, I feel that my dean is getting low. I feel like I want to stop praying. I go to their house and the music is always blasting and they're mixing with each other and there's a lot of haram being conducted. Or every time my children go and visit them, they come back changed and they feel like they're away from their Deen I advise them again. And if this did not work, I am allowed. I am allowed to sever the relationship with this kind of people after advising them forth. The people whom you connect with them or connecting with them will cause a harm that you cannot bear.

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Because we are supposed to be very patient when we are connecting with our family members. Many people say I texted them I call them they did not reply. It's okay. Keep calling keep texting, you will be getting the reward in sha Allah Tala for trying to connect with your family. A man came to Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam. And he said he had a sort of Allah. I have relatives whom I tried to keep in touch with, but they cut me off.

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I treat them well, but they abused me

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I am patient unkind towards them, but they insult me Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he said, If you are as you say, then it is as if you are putting hot dust in their mouth. Allah will continue to support you as long as you continue to do that Subhan Allah. So, you will get the support of Allah azza wa jal look what the man said I tried to connect with them, they disconnect me. So, if you are trying hamdulillah Bala mean, but when you are allowed to cut the relationship for example, if you keep doing this the promise of Rasul Allah says, alum, you keep connecting, and then it reached a point that that family member will tell you listen, if you call me one more time,

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I'm calling the police. If you call me one more time, if you if you visit me one more time, I'm calling the police, then that's it, you know, you tried your best and this man does not or this person does not want to connect with you anymore. You are allowed to cut them. But always keep in mind that

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the connecting with the family is a form of a burden. And not every form of a Bader is very easy to perform. We have to have utmost patience, especially when it comes to family members. And keep in mind that forgiveness is done for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala sometimes that person does not even deserve my forgiveness. But for the sake of Allah, everything is easy. And also loss SLM told us, Allah does not give the person who forgives except more glory and more honor. So my brothers and sisters, let's try to connect with our family members as much as we can try to always be the people who start the salam again, now the month of Ramadan is coming before the month comes this person in

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your family that you do not talk to this person in your family that you have not maybe mixed with for a long time. Just a text message before Ramadan comes. Ramadan is about to come. May Allah subhanaw taala bless you and bless me. May Allah make it Ramadan mubarak for me and you. Salam aleikum, wa Rahmatullah if he or she answers Allahu Akbar, if they do not answer Hamdulillah you have done your best and

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you're that you're destined sha Allah to Allah. And keep in mind, the shaitan will do everything possible to stop you from pressing send. But send it do your best and keep in mind that you are dealing with Allah azza wa jal, the one who does not forget anything, the one who counts everything by the mustardseed. May Allah make me a new from the people who listen and apply. May Allah make us always connect our relationship with our family members, may Allah subhanaw taala make our last these are these and our last words that ilaha IL Allah, I love you all for the sake of Allah subhana colomba Hamrick. Nisha Delilah Hila and Mr. Rocha on a Toby lick

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