Funerals – 3 What to do if you are in the presence of a dying person

Mohamad Baajour

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The speakers discuss the funeral of their children and the importance of graduation and avoiding wasting time. They emphasize the need to avoid wasting time and offer advice on handling difficult situations. The segment also touches on the loss of a woman in Egypt and the importance of burying after a shower. The conversation ends with a discussion on the cost of moving body parts and the use of coverings to bury individuals. The conversation also touches on a brother's visit to his son's death and the importance of paying debts and burying them in the right spot.

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah here. I'm gonna get

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smoothed out under the last slide was salam ala Rasulillah Loma Linda my info now and finally my limp tena was it no Inman hammer. I mean, they ask Allah subhanaw taala teachers would benefit us benefit us from what you told us and increase us knowledge. Ask Allah Subhana Allah subhanaw taala with baraka and this gathering, and make us from the people at the end of the gathering, they will be told Kumu my foreign knuckle get up all your sins are forgiven. I mean, you're behind me. So handler but I mean, we are studying the etiquette of funeral according to the Kitab and Sunnah. So, since we struggled and strive to live our life on the Kitab and Sunnah, let's also die in the proper

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way on the Kitab and Sunday inshallah.

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Last week, we mentioned the DUA that if you say it before

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you on your deathbed then lentinus sooner than the nor will not touch you. And we said we have to keep repeating this when the time comes in sha Allah to Allah, it will be easy for you to say it and to utter it I would like to just for the debate to move a little bit to the left rather to the right little bit.

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Just not my idea

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so inshallah

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sooner or later I don't think there's anything funny as

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sooner or later we will be in this box

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sooner or later we will be in this box is just we are taking turns that's all we're doing all this 4000 square feet home or this pieces of food that we use for our home it will boil down to maybe one sheet and that's it. So Subhanallah

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I would like

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to ask if anybody would like to volunteer and give it a shot and try to be in there already

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leaving leaving space to breathe you really lose

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okay you have to come this way

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is

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very strong

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you can make this as your pillow

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you can go and drag yourself but nobody wants

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let's keep this

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keep this one for you to breathe for the cover

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Duna ina anemia Loihi we wish

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for you in a bill Khun Dena come to turn.

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Only come mouthy lady will killer become some

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become total Joung

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Subhan Allah one

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at the end of the day,

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we all gonna lay down here

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one week

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10 days

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we will be forgotten but

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hardly, Who amongst you is remembering for her.

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Who amongst you remembering blood Rita her summary, two weeks old three weeks old finish that Denise is going to continue. Nobody's gonna stop. US done finished one week, 10 days if you're very special, maybe one month

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limitless.

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For this day, we have to prepare ourselves. For this day we have to prepare ourselves for this day.

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We think it's very far.

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But it's very near Allah he's very near. So

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any opportunity we have here, this is not just just to learn the lesson. And the opportunity we have to do good to not waste it. If you're neglecting some of the Salawat

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Hurry up. If you're missing measure Jaquan wake up professional come to Fraser and Gemma, if you're dealing with anything that is haram, stop it immediately. When you come here, you cannot say bring me back. Rob big old, one of the stuff used to have a grave in his living room. And every time he sins a lot, he used to go down and lay down for a little bit and then he says luck, build your own luck, build your own Yama bring me back, then he comes back and fix everything. But there is there will come a day that when you say you're on your own, there's no doubt there's no going back. There's no going back

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and the opportunity and the problem you have with any brother for the sake of Allah. You know, if you have a problem if you have a problem with Brother Bilal, may Allah subhanaw taala give him long life and good Anna Don't you wish that he would come back and tell him Please brother will forgive me forget about what happened between us Subhanallah so any problem you have with any brother any problem you have with any relative family member for the sake of Allah forgive them Jaquan forgive them

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those issues that you're having with your wife with your spouse on a constant basis all the time forgive and forget

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every day we should think that this you know I prediction now maybe I'm not gonna make it to Fisher I pray treasure when you like normal the Allah and when you wake up in the morning do not expect the evening and when you go in the evening do not expect the morning

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Subhanallah let's check up on Bill Helfrich sure he's okay

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scary

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anybody else would like to try.

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Anybody have the adults like to try.

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Now you're going with your choice one day, you're going to come without a choice. Now you're choosing to come and try

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last one Inshallah, then we will continue with Allah control

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and I want everybody who's trying and just like as if he was given another chance for life, not a chance to come and do good

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Subhanallah

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now, we have a, you know, we're leaving an opening here for a person to breathe. And subhanAllah as you all know, in our countries, we don't have this box, they put you they put you as you are, and they they

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untie the ribbon and then they slide you with the land on the side to make space for others and could be like,

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over 100 degrees down there. Or it could be very in a place that is extremely extremely cold. But Subhanallah when

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the Amyl that they say I'll cover some local ammo, I'll cover some local ammo. The grave is the sum dupe is the box of our armor. So no matter how hot or how cold, it is around me, my family in sha Allah Allah will make it a breeze. Miami will make my stay in their region. That's why when we make dua for the for the person who is dead, we say Allama del Cobre who wrote that and Montreal the agenda, so it could be around the Marriott agenda, or it could be a whole for the whole from the Hellfire but the only

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Think is yeah, what is that this is the time to decide what is it going to be?

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When I get there, it will be too late.

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Allah when I did this on purpose for myself first to wake up and

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concentrate on what matters, concentrate on what matters

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and put my priorities in order. Like we said in the other day, you did not go to Hajj yet. And you can afford to go to Hajj and you keep delaying it. Why? What you're going to tell Allah subhanaw taala it says here who's next? Allah, it could be me, it could be anyone. And we have to prepare the answers. What is your answer?

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When you will question Allah is asking you I give you health, and I gave you wealth. And you've been delaying cash for 1015 years. Why? What are you going to say? Because the question could be tomorrow morning

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you've been abusing your your your spouse, you've been neglecting your parents. What are we going to answer? Like I cannot this be a lesson. So we could make Toba in sha Allah Tala ask Allah subhanaw taala to forgive us and ask Allah I like I always repeat yeah Allah make our last deeds our best deeds make our last deeds our best deeds because Don't be fooled Don't be fooled by your man now this was a Salam said in Malou we'll have a team actions are by the way the end

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So may Allah make our last deeds our destinies inshallah

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if I can

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even shall not added let's put this back and continue with our lecture

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thank you for calling for bringing this May Allah reward you Zack Allah here

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we're probably going to need more stuff from you soon.

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If they come back and

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we said last week one that there's if you say it when you're on your deathbed

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lentinus Oh Nara Rasool was excellent said now will not the fire will not touch him who's going to remind me of that

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now the louder

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before lashari.

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Excellent. So he said that this was almost I said and said this is the your last words

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lentinus sonar Hellfire will not touch that person who say this was

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on Oahu

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in Lemoore

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La ilaha illAllah la sharika La La ilaha illAllah La

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ilaha illallah wa Quwata illa Allah I have a couple left and if anybody needs it, we could send it to him by text inshallah. Now, this is where we ended last last week.

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Now I am

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in the presence of a person who is dying, okay

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam he said either terminal Maria I will make it for who are your final mother Iike you Amina Allah and Kowloon. If you are in the presence of someone who's dying, who's dying, make sure you only say good things. Why? He said because the angels are saying mean to every dollar you say at that time.

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So at that time you have one make sure you make a lot of dua for the brother or the sister who's on his on her deathbed make a lot of Aloha mahalo Aloha Mahalo, Aloha Maxim. Katsumata, Allahumma curriculum hula hula in number, make a lot of DUA and be careful. At that time you have one lot of people because of the emotions

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they start saying things that are not right.

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Yeah, for example, a woman lost her husband or her husband is right there he's about to die. So she starts screaming

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Yeah, Allah take me with him.

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The door is Mr. Yeah, but that time, be careful my system.

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Be careful when it happens. I'm not joking. Sounds like a joke. But a lot of people say things at that time that they are not thinking about it.

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So be very careful because the angels and Allah, Luna Amin, so make a lot of De La mcfa Allahu alumna Phil LEE Well

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welcome who are kibbutz and Hassan may come out of for for the for the brother or the sister on the deathbed

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avoid there are some

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things that are not prescribed that people do to that person

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for example very common thing they heard that this person about today they say let's turn his face to acapella

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there's nothing like that in the Sunnah.

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This is only in the

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macabre. But in the when he's when he's sick. On his deathbed, you don't What did you get this from? Yeah, one. Anything in our deen anything about a young man committed to the convener. The dean is complete. So whenever we want to do something, especially a bad because it's a bad

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I have to have

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evidence from the Kitab or from the Sunnah. Otherwise, I am claiming that I know something that a suicide Salam and the Sahaba did not know.

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If there is anything in it, he and his Salam would have done it, or the Sahaba would have done it here one. Because why? Why are we discussing this? And I really want you to attend every single week, because at that time, I can talk to you. You're very emotional. Brother, what are you doing? Leave me alone. You know, it's very touchy situation, I can talk to you. Nobody can talk to anybody at that time. Now we understand we are we are learning what to do in these situations. So facing the camera

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facing the Qibla for the person who is still alive. There's not It's not from the it's not from the sun now.

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Can we visit a person that is non Muslim? Who is dying?

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Can we

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Yes, we have deleted Right. Right. Masala Salam and Jewish boy. And the Jewish boy took shahada right? What is a suicide and said Alhamdulillah Allah the uncover who mean another

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Hamdulillah that Allah saved him from the NARA at this moment, so if I have the opportunity, that is this guy has no family, nobody and I had the opportunity to visit him on his deathbed. So let me go there and remind him of Allah subhanaw taala remind him

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though Hayden, Allah one, there's no son, you know, you never know. You never know. There is a

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our chef was telling us the story. He said

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two brothers.

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They were passing by in the hospital. They were walking in the hospital in Egypt. So they're walking by they passed by a room, they saw

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a mother

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and a woman old lady

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taking her last breath. So they walked in quickly. There was nobody there. They said Mama Mama saying that.

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They told her c'est la ilaha illAllah. So the woman said ilaha IL Allah and she died. So the people were the guys were so happy. And 100 Allah Allahu Akbar. So, few minutes later, the sun came. They said, I'm sure we have great news for you. Is that what the 100 Allah or bad? I mean, your mother's last words were Ilaha illa Allah, you are so lucky. He said what lucky? I am a Kati I'm Christian.

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I'm a Christian. What did he do?

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You know, in Egypt as Christians and Muslims, so it turned out the guy was going to pay the bill. And

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Allah Now you're asking what is? Allahu Allah? I don't know. All I know is Salim said man can

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Allah Allah Allah Adam, what is the ruling on this woman? But Subhan Allah so you never know. We try our best to tell the people you know and we leave it to Allah subhanho wa Taala know

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now the person died.

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Okay, the person died. What should we do? The first thing

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you are there and

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the person has his heart stopped

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you close his eyes

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The first thing is you close the eyes but it's a delete the evidence is from the hadith of Abu

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was as a hobby that also salaam closed his eyes.

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I will Solomon Abu Salam.

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Almost Salam reported that also salam visited the selama after his gaze became fixed. Because of that he closed his

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eyes and he said in a row, either Kobe doc, Debbie, Debbie or Hornbostel when the soul is taken, the eyesight will follow on hearing this some of the relatives started weeping so as soon as I said and said let's head over and fusi can be higher. Finn and Mara Amina taco don't do not say anything except good things because the angels are saying Amin to what you say and then Rasulillah Salam start making dua to Allah hyung McFeely abhi Salam WaterFire the Raja who fell madly in with Luffy RKB if you log in work for a learner, whether you're blind I mean, we're saying no, we're not we're Allahu fie. How lucky is

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that for Salah Salem made for for him when he was when he just when he just died.

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Next Next thing we do is after you close the eyes and you make dua, you cover the whole entire body, you cover the entire body, the entire body should be covered with a sheet of cloth or a garment I Isha or Yamaha reported on the assassin and passed away he was completely covered with a soft with a soft sheet and this hadith is in in Bukhari

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and I will finish with this then yeah when you have to rush and call brother

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Kadir

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rushing with the burial to not delay. The Sunnah is to rush. People think that the Hadith means Rush is to carry the body and run with it. This is part of it. But everything has to do with rushing with the janazah it's recommended because rushing larger in general is not recommended. Right? Thrashing and doing things taking decisions not recommended here.

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It is recommended to rush when it comes to the

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burying the body and performing the action as at this moment your name has changed from soy and soy to janazah Your name is Janessa brings Janessa take this Anheuser you name is Janessa SubhanAllah. We will all share one name, which will change from Ahmed Abdullah Juma Mahmoud Bobbitt Illa Janessa.

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s3 will be Janaza thing Ken at fin tech co signing for Hey, you're on to the moon. When Tekoa you're with Eric Fisher run through the owner who and record Hurry up with the funeral. If it is good, if it is for a good person, you bring it forward to its good destination. And if it is, other than that, you are dropping evil from from your from your shoulders.

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So if someone can we bury we're coming to that later. But can we bury at night?

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Yes, we could bury at night you can bury after a shower after maghrib you can bury at night. You can bury after any solid. Okay, here because of the you know the cemeteries are closed. But we're talking about in general children that you could bury at night. Now here we come. Like I told you in the beginning. All this stuff is general. But when I come to the issue, I will tell you the opinion of older folks. Now we have a issue here coming up.

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Can I send the body overseas?

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Can I send the body overseas? This is a very common question that takes place a lot of times and I'm sure brother Canyon have faced this question many times. And I just found out from him. Surprisingly, that it is cheaper to ship the body than the doctor buried here. Usually when I was in New York, it's three times more. I don't know how come it's here it's cheaper or not. But we're not looking for cheaper. We're looking for something right. We're not looking for for cheaper.

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Now. Imam Malik Rahim Allah Imam Malik said the issues you're allowed to move the body. Imam Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah He said, It is my crew to move it more than two miles.

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My crew to move it more than two miles

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in the neighborhood. That's what we're doing now. As long as it's in the city. It's good. But definitely according to Madame Hanifa it is my crew to move the body out of the country. Imam sayin mcru He did not specify the two miles but he said this mcru To move the body out of from the place that it died.

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Now, Imam Shafi is the only one who said It's haram.

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Imam Shafi said It's haram to move the body haram to move the body from the place that had died. It died here. It is very clear now.

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Subhan Allah had a hadith but

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I'll share it with you. I had it in Arabic but I'll tell you what it means English Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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was next to a person who died in Medina.

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Long story short at the end of the Hadith, or sama sigh Salam said

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his cover will expand from here to his place of birth.

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His cover will expand from here to his place of birth in Jannah.

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So, imagine the cover become from here to Pakistan or to Egypt or to Syria. This is how spacious become the cover. If you bury it far from where your

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motherland is, so yeah, when we have to tell the people that the Sunnah, and we have Hadith here that Rasul Allah says, Allah on the day of odd that that Muslims were carried to be buried in the backyard. But then it was announced, that was also salam commands you to bury the dead one in the place where they were killed. So that was after my mother, the narrator of the hottie. Jedermann Abdullah, he said after my mother had already loaded my father and my uncle on on both sides of the, of the camel. So she brought them back.

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She brought them back because the Sunnah is to bury the person where where they die

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in the city that they died in. So we recommend now the question would come What if the person put in his was he shipped me overseas?

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Happens a lot. What do we do?

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Let's give you a general rule. Anything in the was a year

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that is Mr. Herb, or sunnah.

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We do it. Anything that we're saying here, that is against the Quran and Sunnah we don't do it. Like I told you that at the time, the guy he ordered his family to bring a band and sing his favorite song on the graveyard.

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I was there I saw the music playing what is going on? He said, My father he asked me I love my father. You love your father your hubby? What are you doing?

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You bring him a band and

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what will see you tomorrow See ya my father will be upset with me if I don't fulfill that.

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No. So if there was CEO has something to do with against the Kitab and Sunnah. We don't we don't perform it. Now. Like I said, some people. They said, You know what? Okay, it happened. Also in New York, a brother was coming to visit his son. He was from the sun from Egypt. He's been trying Subhanallah when he's been trying to get a visa for like, five, six years.

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And he got a visa and he landed in JFK and he's going to take a car to Pennsylvania the son lives in Pennsylvania. He came through JFK he died in JFK.

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He died in JFK. You've never been to America. Never.

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The son is alone here.

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So he asked this you they said you know what? He has nobody here he has no you could send them over there. But if you want to send them these give him the okay. You know, but these are very rare situations but somebody here or because they have the whole family's here everybody's here. Why are you going? Why are you sending your buddy overseas, stick to the Sunday Jaquan and bury whatever you die in sha Allah to Allah and that will be closer to the Sunnah and be in the latter Allah we will get the pleasure that is recommended by Rasul Allah Islam, that you will be opened and expanded in your grave till the place where where you were born.

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I will leave that because it's very important. The next step is you pay the person's debts that's going to be the beginning of our topic next week, pay their debts and what did our solar system do when somebody owed a dinar and a half?

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dollar a month and a half. We'll talk about that next week. If Allah kept us alive, if Allah did not keep us alive, make dua for me Inshallah, and I will make dua for you. Now Allah forgive our sins. Now let me go nasties over this these Subhan Allah will be

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a stockbroker