By The Mirror

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How are you

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hi yah

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Hi yah

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love one on

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one Close

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right

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when I want to be lurking on fusina Wanna see

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me may not even know who Fela mandala when we're utilizing her

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while she was on Isla Illa was the whole Sherry Keller where she had won a Muhammad and rasuluh and that Yehuda subhanho wa Taala if he could tell you he'll carry him. Here are you Hello lady in Tekken law have to call it

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the phone

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Morocco,

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yeah. You

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said either your sleep

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comes on Oh.

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What are you up

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for differs if it was a novena and that thing the US doc al Hadith he Kitab Allah wa Kaden, have you heard the Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Warszawa OMO Remo welcome. Data can be that could be that in golla

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Cynefin. Now, some men that

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along the call Level Kuru submit kuruva alginic. Ask Allah subhanaw taala the turning of the hearts to keep our hearts steadfast on his deep

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respect to the brothers and sisters as we all prepare for the month of Ramadan. spiritually. There is an answer that we have to give

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extreme attention and matter of vital importance

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that we should

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start fixing before the month of Ramadan, hoping that it will be practiced in Ramadan and hoping in sha Allah to Allah that it will stay with us till the day we meet, not bill al Amin, amin or Bran

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and that is

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our relationship with one another.

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Our clap our manners, our treatment to one another.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has been blessed. One of the greatest blessings that ALLAH blessed him with is the blessing of concise speech. Yarny few words.

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That means a lot. You could write books with a few words.

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So with a few words in sha Allah from one of the hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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we can summarize

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and built a great foundation for our relationships

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Subhanallah

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the elegancy of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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the Hadith we will be discussing today. Three words.

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Three words.

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If every leader of a masjid implemented with his congregation, they will have peace and tranquility. If every teacher implemented to the students, they will have prosperity. If every father implement this hadith with his family, he will help him he will have love and harmony. Three words a min min min

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done.

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The believer is the mirror of his fellow believer.

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And when the suicide seldom used the word mirror, we cannot translate it as image photo no mirror means mirror.

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When he said you did a fly,

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you cannot apply that to a mosquito. So here he said mirror.

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Why

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mirror?

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Why the word mirror?

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Lend me your hearts, hoping that Allah subhanaw taala will make my words from the heart to the heart.

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First characteristic of the mirror is that the mirror tells the truth.

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The mirror tells the truth.

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If I stand in front of the mirror, wearing a white thumb, wearing a shirt a dress

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and I have a stain on my thumb, the mirror will tell me you have a stain

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this is the way it's supposed to be the believers with each other. I see my brother committing a sin.

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I see my sister committing a sin. I tell them

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this is wrong. I'm gonna build my roof when the handle munkar ordering good and forbidding evil

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because as soon as I said and told us later you mean who had to come you are not a complete true believer until you love to your brother what you love to yourself. So I see my brother has a stain on his job. I see my sister committing a sin I immediately speak to them and I tell them

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all the ALMA Ravi Allahu

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Rahim Allah whom written adda Leo you will be

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used to say he used to make a dua for the person. He used to say May Allah have mercy on the person who gifts me my shortcomings. He called it as a gift and he made draft for him. Now, if you try to correct the brother or to correct a sister, they get very offended. You're talking to me? Do you know who you're talking to?

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Know the believer is the mirror of his fellow believer he sees something wrong. He fixes it. You see your sister

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posted a picture in appropriate picture on Facebook.

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While others are saying Masha Allah so cute, so beautiful. The rest of the brothers are commenting on the sisters picture so cute.

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You as a true believer, you say no, my sister. This is wrong.

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Every time someone look at this picture, you will be getting sin, and they will be getting sins. Which brings us to the second characteristic of the mirror.

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I do not tell the sister openly in public, I send her a private message.

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I send them a private message sister. This picture isn't appropriate. Take it off.

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This is exactly what the mirror one in the mirror tells you you have a stain, it does not scream. And everybody in the room knows that you have the stain. No, the mirror is very sensitive. One table could shatter the mirror. So you have to be extremely careful on how to give the message how to give the advice.

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That's one of the characteristics of the mirror silently, quietly it gives that image

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unfortunately,

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we have a habit

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if I have problem with brothers, so and so I go to the whole community before I talk to brother so and so.

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This is wrong. Absolutely wrong. This is not the action of the believer.

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And the most important part of the advice is the method. How

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do you deliver this message will determine the outcome. If your intention is sincerely to fix the problem, to advise your brother, then you do it secretly and silently.

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not see her Phil mela phobia.

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Giving advice giving advice in public is disgrace.

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That's not advice.

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Allah taught us how to give advice.

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When the worst man ever created,

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said, I am your Lord.

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When the worst man ever created slaughtering babies,

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enslaving men and women.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala with one order you could destroy him.

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Instead, he sent him to prophets

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to prophets

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and he told them hola hola, hola, Colin Lena, speak to a third round gently

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speak to surround gently. When we give advice to one another year one, Allah He

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is very sad the way we speak to one another.

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There is a formula

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that we have to understand and engrave

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in our heart and in our mind when we are giving an advice.

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And this formula is, you and me are not wiser than Musa and the person I'm talking to is not worse than frown.

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No matter how big is the sin, the person I'm talking to is not worse than frown. Still, Allah subhanho wa Taala said to the prophets go and speak to him gently.

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Brothers and sisters

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Another characteristic of the mirror

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is that the mirror

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doesn't give up.

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Every time you come with that stain, the mirror will tell you you have steak

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the shaitan is gonna come and tell us because you spoke to him about smoking already how many times you're gonna tell him how much it's enough. No, Allah said were that kill the in the Quran. tenfold what meaning every time you see them, remind them and there will come a day that they will thank you so much for reminding them.

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But again, if you use the right method

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another great characteristic of the mirror my brothers and sisters

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is that when you clean 50% of the stain when you clean 10% of the stain the mirror tells you Mashallah.

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You're doing great. Keep going.

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It's getting cleaner.

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You see a brother was smoking a pack of cigarettes. Now he's them to he's down to five, six cigarettes a day from one pack. MashAllah Brother, keep going hamdulillah encouraged him this is exactly what the minute does. When it sees that you have cleaned a little bit it tells you you cleaned a little bit Keep going.

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Keep going.

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Encourage them.

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Similarly, when you clean up everything

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the mirror does not remind you, you used to have a stain.

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Allahu Akbar, Allah Subhana Allah, the eloquence of a solar system.

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When you come clean to the mirror, the mirror does not remind you.

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When we see a brother, who used to be a DJ, DJ, a dancer,

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and musician, whatever. He used to be involved in many sins and Allah subhanho wa Taala guided him. Allah guided her.

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Some of us you are talking, you forgot who you were.

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Who are you to advice used to be a gambler. A drunken you want advice in this now?

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Big Sally small for sure. Eman? Allah says in surah prodrug. Big Sally small forsook by the Eman after somebody becomes a believer after somebody have repented. Don't keep reminding them of the past. Encourage them. Ma sha Allah may Allah accept your repentance.

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This is the true believer how he treats his fellow believers

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another

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Rate characteristic of the mirror Subhanallah is that the mirror shows you both

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the good and the bad,

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the clean and the dirty.

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The mirror tells you all your soap is spotless, great, beautiful, except that spot.

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The praises you

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not only concentrate, my brother when you have a problem with your wife, you concentrate on one of those one on that problem specifically and you forget that she has 1000s of great qualities but the shaitan make you persist and look only at that

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shortcoming and create fitna between you and your wife. Similarly, my sister, the shaitan does the same to your mind about your husband.

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Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Yeah rasool Allah. He was asked about Abdullah have namah namah Raju Abdullah

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low can you suddenly believe

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he praised him first. He said Abdullah is an excellent man. Excellent man. But I wish he used to pray for him.

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Drunk Sahabi Sahabi who was drunk? Came to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to perform the head on him. After a Salah Salem performed the head.

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He did the punishment. Some of the Sahaba started cursing the men learn Allah. May Allah curse him how many times he came drunk to the soloists Isilon doesn't he learn

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as soon as SLM was very upset. He said do not assist the shaitan against your brother.

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Do not assist the shaitan against your brother in know your Ebola how Rasulullah he found something good in the man he said do not assist the shaitan this man he loves Allah and He loves His Prophet.

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You can always no matter how bad that person in front of you, you will always find something good about them. Another characteristic of the mirror

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is that the mirror does not exaggerate the stain.

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Neither it belittles it.

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You come with a stain like this it will tell you the stain is like this does not make it like that.

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If you see a brother committing a minor sin, do not tell him you're a Kaffir

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and if you see somebody missing salad every single day for the past seven months you never played treasurer, do not tell him it's not a big deal. Don't worry about it.

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Tell him exactly what he needs to hear. Because you will be questioned in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala about this advice and keep in mind that one of the rights of the Muslim upon his Muslim brother and sister is to give them the proper advice.

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Another characteristic of the mirror Subhanallah

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if you have a stain

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on the back of your scalp for your shirt,

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the mirror will not discuss it.

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The mirror discuss only what she sees.

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I came to discuss a problem with you I have a problem

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with my brother. Oh I heard you have a problem also.

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With your parents, I heard you have a problem

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with your wife.

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You start discussing things he never came to discuss.

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And you start looking for things

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that the man or the system did not mention called Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam men treated.

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treated.

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Women treated the Allahu wa sallahu Well, I will see our three daddy oh come Acharya salatu salam whomsoever seek

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his brother or his sisters faults Allah who will seek his faults. And Allah seek someone's faults, he will expose him even if he or she were inside their own home.

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I come to discuss with you and matter. Let's concentrate and help me solve this issue.

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Another characteristic of the

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of the mirror

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is that the closer you get to the mirror, the cleaner is the image

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you saw a brother from very far coming out of a club or a pub or a bar

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and you immediately judged him

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and you start

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spreading? Are

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you pretending to be a chef pretending to spray in the masjid? I saw him with my own eyes coming from the bar.

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And when you get close, and you asked, you found out that his car was broken, and he went inside to ask for help.

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Nobody have assigned you as a judge.

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Me and you we have already enough faults to look and start fixing ourselves. Concentrate on yourself. You will be questioned about yourself. You're not going to be questioned about everybody around you. Concentrate on our own faults. And do not assume

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in Jah Confessio on the nether infected the year. No. I heard this is the worst statement you could ever say. I heard. They told me

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and I start spreading the news. I want to send an email to the board complaining about an issue I see see 200 people

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if you're serious about fixing the problem, you go straight to the person in charge and you discuss it with them.

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Another

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great characteristic of the mirror is that the mirror does not differentiate between black and white, r&b or an r&b rich or poor.

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It still gives the advice person with authority person without authority. The mirror will still give the advice a call or call the head of staff or Allah or staff who in our whole referral right.

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salat wa salam ala Mala and via bad i mean mirror. To me.

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The believer is the mirror of his fellow believer

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and one of the greatest and most important characteristic of the mirror.

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The mirror does not store the image

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when I stand in front of the mirror and the mirror saw the stain, when the next brother comes and stand in front of the mirror, the mirror will never tell him you should have seen the brother before you. You should have seen how dirty is his toe? Never.

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Never.

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This is Riba. This is backbiting

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This is a major sin

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that you will wind up on the Day of Judgment giving all these Hessonite you worked so hard for you will give them to that brother yet Ubik bit that already that sister

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the true believer, just like the mirror

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on the person moves, it's done.

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No one knows anything.

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Man Cetara Muslim and

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Cetara Hola, yo, yo man.

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So ever covered the sins of His brother, or his sister, Allah who will cover as soon as on the Day of Judgment, Allahu Akbar.

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I trusted you with something I came and I told you. I'm going through this difficulty I'm addicted to this addicted to that you went and told everybody

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that's not a true believer. The true believer will cover as much as he can. And he help as much as he can. By respected brothers and sisters, we check ourselves every single day. Before we leave the house to make sure we look at the mirror and we check our hair is good, the hijab is perfect.

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The short is Ira and

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similarly,

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every once in a while, kill your ego

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and ask that brother

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or that sister that you love and respect. Ask them

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Do you see anything wrong I can fix?

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Is there anything wrong I can improve?

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And make sure my brother and my sister

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that you pick the right mirror

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because the mirror has a stain and if the mirror is dirty is gonna reflect the wrong image.

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Pick your right mirror.

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Make that person that you consider your Helene, your best friend righteous and marijuana Dini Khalili?

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If the mirror is dirty is going to tell you that everything's dirty.

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Make sure you choose

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the right mirror. The right friend.

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The right

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Sister that when just like the mirror, when you come happy to the mirror smiling the mirror smiles back.

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When you come sad it's sad with you. This is the brother that you want to hang out with. This is the sister you want to be with my sister

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who will assist you when you when they see you going on the right way and they will correct you when they see you going on the wrong way.

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Subhanallah there are some brothers like Rasulullah sallallahu sallam said a nurse Madden Can I add in is that what football people

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are like gold and silver

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like there are some brothers that when you see them is gold. When you talk to them, it's called when you do business with them, it's gold and there are others just like your rusty piece of metal that you can't wait to finish on dealing with them

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my brothers and sisters

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make sure you choose the right mirror so you won't be on the day of judgment from the people who will say

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Yeah, well you're not

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yeah why in the tourney in Florida and kalila

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on the Day of Judgment

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Woe to me I wish I did not take so and so as my best friend

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he took me to the wrong places

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he made me drink the wrong things and smoke the wrong things

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mixed with the wrong crowd

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we should be amongst the people whom

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even back then do

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the best friends on that day they will fight you told me to do that you told me to do that you told me to go there. You told me to buy that except Elmo talkin the pious ones may Allah make us all amongst them

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include this new DUA

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on your list of drugs.

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Allah Allahumma

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Kemah center country has sinful okay

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some people say that this is when you look at the mirror

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but this is very weak and it's fabricated as a matter of fact, but the dye itself is authentic but has nothing to do with the mirror. Your Allah just like you have perfected my creation. Perfect my manners

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Allahumma Kemah has Center

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has sinful

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