Raising a Muslim child in the West – #02

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Hello Hello Amanda Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salatu was Salam ala

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l mursaleen mohammadu Rasulullah sallallahu Haile he while he was he was seldom at the Sleeman, kathira and kathira. Farmer by the mighty brothers and sisters. We spoke about the differences between Islam and Western ism last week.

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As you can see, these are two opposing ideologies, two opposing philosophies submission to Allah subhana wa Jalla delallo

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and submission or submission to our own desires, these are mutually exclusive and irreconcilable.

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There can never be a compromise between them, one must necessarily submit to the other

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that is the distinguishing factor the signature of the Muslim that he or she subjugates their desire to the will and pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala we know the Hadees of Rasulullah Sallam when he said that your deen will never be complete until you submit your desires to the religion to the deen that I have brought

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a Muslim recognizes and joyfully accepts not reluctantly,

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not complaining.

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A Muslim recognizes and joyfully accepts that it is the purpose of his creation. The reason why he was created was to please Allah subhana wa and does that in the way taught by Muhammad Rasul Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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That is a bluejay which is loudly complaining about I don't know what

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hopefully not about my thought but

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this is the essence of the kalevala ilaha illAllah. Muhammad Rasul Allah, that there is nobody worthy of worship except Allah subhanho wa Taala. So I worship Him. And Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is the messenger is the last and final messenger of Allah subhanaw taala. So I obey and follow Him.

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There are no qualifiers to the statement of faith, this declaration and oath thanks to which a person enters Islam.

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It is a statement that is applicable to every person who wishes to enter Islam and remain in it. Whether it is in the east, or west, or anywhere else. This is our creed. This is what makes us Muslim. This is our face and our signature.

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We are recognized by this. We are recognized because they obey Allah. obedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala in the way of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam is its essence. And that doesn't change for anyone, or any place.

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My brothers and sisters, is Islam compatible with Western Islam, the philosophy? No, it isn't.

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But is it possible for people living in the West the location to live by Islam? Yes, it is, without a doubt. And that is why I began with a definition. Because when we ask about raising Muslim children in the West, we are not speaking about what we need to do in the location. But what we need to do, combating those parts of western ism as an ideology that are antithetical to Islam. Combat it is Make no mistake, like combat, it requires knowledge, understanding, a clear strategy. Courage, has risk is painful, potentially fatal if you fail, and joyful and rewarding if you succeed.

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It is a serious business, not a mere intellectual exercise.

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The cost and benefit are both very real.

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The first thing to teach, therefore, is to draw attention to the definition so that people realize that there is nothing special about the West as a location that requires Islam to be re engineered and interpreted or changed to suit people in living in the so called West. Islam is Islam, no matter where the Muslim may live. As I said last week, it is like the principles of flight. They don't change for any country. They have to do with flight, not with where you fly the plane.

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Now what are the challenges of raising a child in the West

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the challenges have nothing to do with the location but with Western is

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Which is global, and inside us what we teach our children at indeed before that, what we need to come to terms with ourselves

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the following 11 things. Number one,

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goal reset. These are the strategies to deal with the challenges, goal reset, first and foremost, check, guide and mold their standards and goals and aspirations for that, even before that, check your own.

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I've spoken to many young boys in America, children of our Mussolini's, as well as children of by non Muslim friends. What strikes me is that there is no difference in their goals and aspirations.

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That is, in my view, the first red flag, the first one, the road depends on the destination. If you want to change the road, you must change the destination. As an exercise, when you go home today, sit down with your family and ask them to write their life goal.

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You write your own,

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then check to see where Allah subhanaw taala comes into it.

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See whether Allah is mentioned anywhere in this language, I know I am letting the cat out of the bag, at least for you. And for those young guys who are sitting here. But doesn't matter. Be honest to yourself because at the end of the day, you can only fool yourself.

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And if you say that, oh I am completely focused towards Allah subhanho wa Taala when you are not

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believing you're not fooling anybody. It doesn't matter what anybody thinks. What matters is that you're fooling yourself and I don't think that's a good idea.

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Number two, course Connect course correction.

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Bring Allah subhanaw taala into your home. Now you might say well, this is a strange thing to say. Because Allah is in my home.

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I'm a Muslim after all.

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Think about this. If that is the case, then why did Allah Subhana Allah say, yeah, you alladhina amanu Oh facil Mecca further one Watashi wa in the whole la Komodo movie.

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Why did Allah say that? Oh you will believe or you will believe binzhou mean Muslims. And remember Allah subhanaw taala is addressing at that point in time. Even though the Quran is for everybody for all time. At that point in time, all you will believe is oh is the Sahaba fossils and Salah there is no Billy stronger than what they believe. Yet Allah subhanaw taala is saying, all you believe enter into Islam fully and totally and completely, and do not follow in the footsteps of shaida verily and truly shaitan is your own enemy. Why is Allah saying that if merely being a Muslim merely being born, a Muslim may merely living in a Muslim home was sufficient for one to be considered a Muslim.

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So

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bring a light into your home, bring Allah subhanho wa Taala into your conversation, bring a light into your budget, bring a light into your aspirations.

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I'll tell you what I mean by saying bring a lion to your budget. Talk about Allah subhanaw taala His glory, His Majesty, his generosity, his forgiveness, His mercy.

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Encourage your children to donate to charity and measure it. That is the meaning of bring Allah into your budget.

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I know we have many in this congregation who are big donors to this budget.

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And hamdulillah your big donors to many worthy causes Muslim causes across the world, your big donors to massage in your back home countries.

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Now check

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what your children are donating. Because if they are not, then you know what that means.

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You know what it means for all those

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places that you are donating to. If your children are not donating, you know what that means.

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Check the programs you watch on TV.

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If you have TVs, I don't have a TV. I haven't had a TV for the last 30 years. And believe me, I don't miss it. My wife doesn't miss it.

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We have a lot of time Alhamdulillah and we are not exposed to at least some of the corruption that is there in the world. And that has nothing to do with the West. As I told Western ism is a philosophy. Universal just like Islam.

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Doesn't matter where you live. Western ism is there. If you want to imbibe it, just like Islam is there if you want to imbibe it

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So watch, check what programs you're watching on television. What books do you read? reread?

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What kind of conversation do you have? What is its content?

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All these color aspirations

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and focus

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and results.

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If you talk about the dunya constantly, that is what will dominate your life.

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If you never talk about the author, it will never be your focus.

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Number three, set boundaries.

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Teach them

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respect for boundaries, by respecting them yourself.

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Boundaries are the essence of parenting.

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Teach them that being Muslim means to recognize and accept the supremacy of Allah subhanho wa Taala geladeira and that obedience and allegiance is only to him.

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This is the most fundamental principle which must be taught, practiced and demonstrated. This is what drives every decision and action. This is the safety belt, put it on or die.

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Number four, forget popularity. You didn't get elected to the position or mom or dad. You give birth to your children.

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Focus on being inspirational, respected, and held in all not liked.

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It's okay to be liked. But it's also okay to when to not be liked. It is necessary to define boundaries without fearing unpopularity.

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Whether it is in parenting, or in religion, or in politics, all corruption DNS when people who should know better, remain silent when they should speak.

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Corruption begins with all our masks with teachers who speak to please their audience who speak to please those who donate to their institutions

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who speak to please those who pay their salaries.

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Forget them. If you don't believe that Allah Subhana Allah Jalla Jalla Who is your Zakho Jehovah Timothy, that he is the one who feeds you. And anything else is only a means and the one who gives you can change the means and give you if you cannot speak with integrity and with courage.

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Tape your boss. Don't speak. But never, ever

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remain silent about something that you should warn the people about. And never, ever promote something that you know, inside yourself to be wrong.

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Because on the Day of Judgment by Justice, believe me, people in positions of authority, and it begins with the allameh begins with the scholars because they have the knowledge be and then it goes on to anyone with authority.

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And said cool, Luke O'Brien. He said all of you are shepherds.

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On the day of judgment, it will be very tough for those who had the authority and misused it.

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Christianity, for example, if you look at it is losing people in Europe is losing members in Europe, even though the church to be popular has legalized everything which the Bible privates.

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But it is gaining converts in Asia and Africa, where it's not so flexible. And where local cultures also support boundaries. People need definitely rules. A free for all may sound

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nice, but it is free for some at the expense of others. Boundaries like seatbelts, restrict some freedom, but save lives. Security is inversely proportionate to convenience.

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Number five, Allah first.

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Teach them to love Allah subhanho wa Taala which is an outcome of sugar, which is thankfulness and attitude of gratitude, where we are thankful to Allah subhanho wa Taala for his mercy and blessings. Allah said about the believers that they love him more than anything else.

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He said out we live in a shed on the regime Amina nazima Tokido mindu nila and then you have bone on God Billa well, Alina armano eyeshadow, Allah, Allah said which means and of mankind are some who take for worship others besides Allah subhanho wa Taala as rivals to Allah

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Law, they love them as they love Allah. But those who believe, love Allah subhanho wa Taala more than anyone or anything else.

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Number six, love Allah subhanho wa Taala geladeira Islam is submission and submission is always difficult, except when it is because of love. Remember that without love,

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glory and majesty of Allah in the heart. Obedience becomes a burden,

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force, or so called logic are not substitutes for love, because they can both be countered to one's own detriment. In Islam, the fundamental rule is that we obey Allah subhanaw taala because He is Allah, we pray, because Allah subhana wa inteligente delallo told us that that is the way to get close to him, and we want to be close to him. We don't pray to discharge electricity from our heads in sudo. I mean, all these funny theories get

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promoted. From time to time people said somebody said, such data is done so that static electricity will get discharged from your body into the ground. Law hotel, believe me if you are doing sudo for that yourself as invalid.

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We don't pray for that reason. We don't pray because bending and standing up is good for the joints are good for decision.

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We don't fast because it's good for health or to lose weight, or to know how poor people feel.

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being poor is about insecurity. It's not about hunger.

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We don't give Zakat to ensure distribution of wealth in society. We don't do much to reinforce or show solidarity with the global Muslim ummah.

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We do all of these, because we love Allah subhanho wa Taala and because he ordered us to do this, that is not only sufficient reason, but it's also the very best of reasons.

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After all, love begins, where reason ends,

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Allah Subhana data audit us to establish Allah as a way to remember him and our really and to reinforce our relationship with him. The relationship of Rudy yet he said, in nany, and Allah hula Illa Illa Anna, for our moodini will give me a solid victory. He said Verily I am Allah La Ilaha Elana none has the right to be worshipped but I so worship we and perform and establish a Salah acaba de Sala for my remembrance, Salah is the meter, it is the criterion, it is the standard for all of life. Whenever Rasulullah Salah was asked about anything he answered in terms of Salah as he did in the definition of of Hassan in Hades degrade our Salah, its quality, and our attitude towards

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it demonstrates and is a measure of the state of our email.

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As allotted is said that if I'm writing an animal if I'm riding a horse or a gavel, or whatever, and it misbehaves, to me, this is an indication that there was some fault in my Salah. Therefore, the animal does not obey me, because I did not worship Allah subhanaw taala properly. Salah is the physical manifestation of the caliber. It is the physical manifestation of La ilaha illAllah Muhammadan rasul Allah, lai Lama there is no one worthy of worship except Allah. So I worship Allah and ask Allah subhana wa era I am ready, how much I worship you. Allah said refer to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa he was Abu salah and also relies on us and taught us how to worship Allah. And

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he said Sir Luca righto Mooney who sadly Oh kumbhakarna li salatu wa sallam, he said, worship Allah as if you can see him and if you cannot see him know that Allah sees you.

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Right?

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Does is is restricted to Salah alone No, this is Ali Hassan it is the manifestation of excellence in everything in life.

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But nevertheless Allah gave us the example of Salah to measure this against

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my brothers and sisters. Salah is the physical manifestation of the caliber of Allah subhanho wa Taala it is a demonstration in action that we worship only Allah subhanaw taala and we follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam, Islam begins with Salah. So therefore, let us honor Sara and let us ensure that

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Do we

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fulfill its obligations and fulfill the obligation of establishing Salah?

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I ask Allah Subhana Allah Jalla Delgado to be pleased with you and never to be displeased. ask Allah Subhana Allah to give you the tofik to reflect on and think about some of the things that I have told you and to measure yourself and then to chart a way for yourself going forward. Robin has chosen our lambda field on our handle Anaconda nominal conciliate. Robin Allah to the globe and our bodies have eaten our habit. anomalism Khurana cantle Wahab robina atina dounia has an ATO villa.

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Was Allah Allah Allah Nabeel Karim? Allah Allah, he was ibH main burrata. gannawarra me. Well hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.