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Jumuah 091 Tazkiyya Wal Tarbiyya Part5

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In Alhambra, Lillah

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wa Salatu was Salam.

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wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa

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My dear brothers and sisters and elders. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. We continue with the series of hotbars on tarbiyah. entitled tarbiyah begins at home. And we're delighted inshallah, maybe we complete this part today. And then next week, we go to the next part of the tarbiyah series.

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It's coincidentally, I have been invited to Bangalore.

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Next week, weekends, I'm here on the on the Jamaat, so don't worry about the rhythms on the weekends, and then to Mangalore the following weekend to talk to a very diverse group of people in medical, medical students, doctors, business people, and so on, on the issue of therapy, and I am very happy about that, because I am convinced that the reason for all the problems that we are facing today, whether there are domestic problems in our families, or whether there are problems in society.

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And this is unfortunately, this is not even restricted to India or to the Muslims or to some country, this seems to be global, it seems to be universal. When I travel across the world Alhamdulillah every country I go to, I hear the same

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complaints, and I hear the same concerns from people who are Muslim and from people who are not Muslim, there is no seems to be no difference. And this is a strange thing, because we are the people who claim that we have a solution to the problems of the world. But I don't know where the solution is because we don't seem to have that solution in practice, in our own societies and in our own communities, even in our own families. So if people, somebody who didn't even claim to have a solution, if they have a problem, okay, so they have no solution. That's why they have a problem. But we are the people who claim that we have a solution. We say that Islam is the best way of

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best way of

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living in this life, whether we are whoever we are.

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And that is the thing, which will make us win in this life. And then we find that we have the same problems like anybody else. So something is wrong, obviously, either our claim is false, which means that we really don't have a solution. And we are just lying. Or there is a problem with how we apply the solution. Because we have the solution like people, somebody might have a recipe of a have some nice thing to eat, or they may have the prescription for a medicine. But looking at the prescription and reading the prescription every day, is not going to cure the illness, you have to actually eat the medicine if you want the illness to be cured. And I think that is where our problem is. And this

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eating of the medicine, I am absolutely convinced is the issue of tarbiyah is the issue of the upbringing that our children have in our homes. And there, the issue is not with the children, as I said, the children did not create the world that we live in today. We created this world, we created it and we gave it to them. It's not their fault. It's not their fault. It's our fault, because we did it. It's our dounia we have done it. And we created whatever we created. I am not saying that we are evil, and we deliberately did this, I'm sure we didn't do it deliberately, but it happened anyway. So it's somebody did it deliberately, we kept silent and so on. So therefore, we ended up

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with the kind of society we have. So there is no sense in blaming the children, we have to look at ourselves. And that's what I'm saying. tarbiyah begins at home meaning with me with myself, me, me as a father me as a mother, me as the grandmother grandfather. So just to give you a very simple example. If a child, a small child, maybe five years old, or six years old, or something seven years old, if the child says to the Father, he says to imbaba we go to the Masters on Fridays, no.

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What is that side saying? He's making a statement which is good or bad.

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But why is it bad?

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Because exactly because he thinks that the Muslims is a place you go to only on Fridays. Now I am sure the father did not sit there and the mother did not sit there with some evil design and they you know, drilled it into the child we must not go to the mercy that we must go No. He This is what I mean by saying children listen with their eyes.

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You did not tell them but this is what they see you doing. Now I am sure you have your reasons you say you I everybody has a reason Believe me. Everyone has a reason. Right? Everyone has a reason that reason does not make that thing right. people today who have invaded other countries and why

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slaughtering the people there. They have a reason.

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They've got a reason. But does it make that action correct?

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reasons me nothing, something is right or wrong by itself when it is compared to a standard not because there is some reason which I have given? No. So let us be very clear, if our children are learning things, it is up to us to be clear about how they are learning those things. And it's not rocket science, it doesn't come out of the womb, they are learning those things, because we are teaching them is all that teaching deliberate? No, it is not deliberate, but it should be deliberate. And that's the point I'm saying, Let us live thoughtfully. Let us not live by default. Let us not think that just drawing breath means to live to live is not only to draw breath, the name

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of breathing is not living. Somebody who is in a coma is also living. He's also breathing but you don't call that life. And we are like people, many of us, Allah, Masha, Allah, Who we are like people who are walking around in a coma, right? The only difference between us and somebody who's in a hospital bed is that that person is lying down on his back, and we are walking around. But there is no other difference. Because our brain is also not working. Nothing is working. When I'm saying brain, I don't mean the motor functions. I mean, the actual thinking function, the decision making function, which seems to have male a product has seems to have died, Allah Allah, maybe he's not

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dead, maybe sleeping, Allah is dead.

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So do think about this. And that's why I want to ask you this very simple question before we go today, which is to say, what do you want for your children?

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What do you want for your children?

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And this is the homework I want you to do. I mean, as you know, it's my way to give you all kinds of homework, I have no clue whether anybody actually does it or not. But anyway, it's for me to give it for you to throw it away.

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I want you to do this, if you're interested, before you go to bed tonight, you sit down with a piece of paper

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and write down on it. What do I want for my children?

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Whether you have children or not, even if you are not married? Even if you are a young person, you know, insha Allah, may Allah subhanaw taala give you dozens of good children.

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They will all bring their own risk, don't worry, how will I feed them? You're not feeding them anyway, I love them. So don't worry about that. Right? So the point I'm saying that right down, don't go to sleep tonight. Will you do this? Yes.

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inshallah, the only guy who's shaking his head is a 10 year old kid.

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So what do you want for your children, I want you to actually write this down for yourself, because that is what you have to focus on. If you really want this thing for your children, then you have to do something to make it happen, right? There's no magic. There's no magic, how did the Sahaba

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get what they got? Because they follow that principle and follow the principle they followed was, they had like, we have

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a criterion of behavior, which is the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu sallam,

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and they followed this criterion.

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Yesterday, somebody came and met me and he thought it you know, people talk about these things, and they say, well, so and so and so and so, we are all We are a group of selfies. Sasha hamdulillah every Muslim should be a Salafi, you should not be a hallowee right? You should follow the Salah, not the Caliph. So every Muslim should be a Salafi. But I said since you are telling me this, what does it mean?

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What is the meaning of say I am Salafi or we are selfies.

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What does it mean?

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It means that you will not trim your beard it means that you will pray with with your head uncovered, is that what Salafi means or does Salafi mean that you follow the Salah for Salah hain who are the Sahaba is one image mine to the tee, you follow everything they did, whether it is in aqeedah whether it is in Nevada, whether it is in Camelot, whether it is in Maharashtra, your your society or whether it is in o'clock manners, is this the meaning of surfing, if that is the meaning of Salafi al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen I will say I will I will call out from the members of the world that every single Muslim should be a Salafi because it means that we will bring alive the

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Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam but if being Salafi means something else, then May Allah protect us.

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And this applies to everybody right applies to everybody. I'm just saying this because this is these are the statements which are made before me. And that is the reason why the Sahaba had Baraka in their lives because they followed the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam, they did not pick and choose, they did not do selective obedience. Selective obedience is this obedience. Selective obedience is disobedience because you are selecting what to obey, which automatically means that you have selected what you what you think you need not obey.

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So selective

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Obedience is disobedience. And we do not we don't want to do that. And therefore be very, very clear. I remind myself when you let us be aware, and let us be aware, be aware and be aware, two different things, both very important, right? Let us be aware and be aware that a day will come when all arguments and all these smart aleck answers will become null and void.

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And the reality will face us.

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And at that time, the door behind us will close, never to open.

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There is no running away from that there is no turning back and saying, Oh, hold on, hold on a minute, I'm coming back, I just come.

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When the reality when that door opens, this door closes. I don't know how many of you have been in high security place. That is a principle that is that is adopted, you enter a place and the door behind you closes. And only when that door closes, the door is out in front of you opens. Right? And then you say and I'm saying hi security plays. You don't have to think of a jail. Go to the Bird Park in Malaysia in Kuala Lumpur, the same principle for birds. Because if you leave two doors open the bird fly away. So when you enter the door behind you closes and the door in front of you opens and therefore you can go in door closes. Same principle applies in our life. When the door in front

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of us opens, the door behind is shut.

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And that's the reason why it's very important for us to wake up before we are woken up.

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I mentioned to you about the reward for the one who follows the Sunnah and what is the reward what Allah subhanaw taala promised Allah subhanaw taala promise the one who follows the sooner that Allah subhanho wa Taala will love him

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that Allah will love him, put him into a boon Allah ha for you. Habib qumola we have a local law for him. Allah subhanaw taala said say to them who claimed to love Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah Allah to follow my son not to follow me. And Allah subhanho wa Taala will love you. I told you last week's homework was reflect on what does it mean? If Allah subhanaw taala loves you reflect on this, Allah loves me, therefore what does it mean? The biggest problem with us today is that we do not reflect. We do not spend five minutes of time in silence, just to think just to reflect and that's a great tragedy, the whole our whole life is filled with noise. Some noise Something must be yapping around

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in our in our vicinity all the time we have made it like this. It's either the television at home, or it's a car radio, I'm saying even listening to lectures.

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Don't even do that. Keep a time when you do nothing. Just sit silently.

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sit silently and reflect on your own life. Don't say no, no, but I'm only to a good even a good thing. Don't do it for it for a while. I'm not saying don't listen, but keep some time in your life where you just sit silently with yourself by yourself. reflect on yourself reflect on your life and say Where am I going? Where is this road leading to bleeding me to that will not happen if you are listening to something or you can take the noise out of your life

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and reflect and that reflection inshallah will produce some good things.

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Just Allah will focus on having a life he says at the time, the one holding on to the Sunnah of the messenger and the one who adheres to the Jamaat of the Muslim will face great difficulty This is with reference to the Hadees zombies are seldom. In Sudan, Timothy, were rasulillah salam spoke about times to come. And he said that it will become more difficult for a person to hold on to a Sunnah than it is to hold a live color red hot, burning coal in your hand. And hamdulillah Today we are no very we are nowhere close to that. We are nowhere close to that there's nobody who prevents us from following the Sunnah if we want to follow this and those of us who do not follow those that

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do that because we don't want to we don't want to follow those sooner that is as simple as that. Right? No one can no one forces us nobody anywhere in the world forces us not to follow the sun. But nevertheless, I'm talking about a time in May Allah Subhana. Allah protect us from such times. Because even when there is no force, we don't follow the sun, what will happen when there is force.

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And so he says that the time will come when the trials and tribulations will be like somebody trying to hold on to a live call. And that is the

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is the health service, where he said the one holding on to it sooner will have the reward of 50

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I'm sad about this Hadith, he said that the person who holds on to my son at a time like this will have the reward of 50 and the Sahaba said of us or them and hlsl instead of you.

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The reward of the of the actions of 50 Sahaba. Rizwan IRA was meant to hold on to one so now Muhammad Rasul Allah

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We ask Allah subhanaw taala to give us this reward, even though the times are not equal to what he's mentioned in sha Allah.

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My brothers and sisters,

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as I mentioned to the Saudis is from from Suren theory, and what this of course means is that is talks about the reward, it does not talk about superiority, it does not become that we will become superior to 57 it means the reward of the deed, right. Just as as a side note, this is like saying that when you do Salah to Doha,

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to rock out of Nashville, when the sun comes up, Allah subhanaw taala will give us the reward of one Hajj and one Amara. Now, this does not mean now that you pray two rakaat osato 100 for now I don't have to go for Hajj because I got the reward, but no, it is. It is not the action has to be by itself. The action is not the the the reward does not mean that the action has happened. The action is independent of this. The reward is just for us to understand the magnitude of the reward that it is mentioned in this way. Brothers, sisters, children listen with their eyes. And not only children listen with their eyes. everybody listens with it with his or her eyes. Make no mistake, your wife

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listens with her eyes. You listen with your eyes, your parents and your children, listen with their eyes. People don't care what you say, until they see that you care. People don't care what you say. People don't care what you say, until they see what you do. You can talk till the cows come home It has no effect. One action is worth a million words. People say and actually people say a picture is worth 1000 words. I say an action is worth a million words. And therefore we have to focus on our action. What is it that we are doing? Allah subhanaw taala mentioned this and he said yeah, you are Latina armano Lima taco Luna malata falloon Guevara maakten en de la he and dakolo malata followed

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in order to serve Allah subhanaw taala said oh believe Why do you say that which you do not do? Most hateful it is to Allah that you say that which you do not do to say something and to do something else? What is the Arabic word for this? to have something on your tongue? I have something in your heart. What is the Arabic word?

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The fuck? Yes. So let us free ourselves from the voc let us free ourselves from hypocrisy. Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned in many places in the Quran, it is not my intention now to, to quote all of those is but believe me, it's mentioned in more than one place where Allah subhanaw taala negated what a person said and said that in their heart is a disease, famous Ayat of Surah Baqarah, where Allah subhanaw taala mentioned this and in other places, my brothers and sisters, the first sign of Allah subhanho wa Taala. his displeasure when we exhibit hypocrisy is that he removes respect for us, from the hearts of people. Love is an outcome of respect. We love those we respect. We cannot

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love somebody who we hold in contempt. So when people love when people lose respect for us, their love also evaporates.

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And this is the result of saying something and doing something else. Or speaking about lofty ideas, speaking about lofty ideas and lofty ideals, and speaking about

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speaking about great things, but doing something else having a life which is in the dregs of all kinds of which is, you know, talking from the mountaintop and living in the gutter, that's not particularly intelligent. My brothers and sisters, if the child sees you doing something, that child will learn to do that no matter what you tell the child.

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So ask yourself, what is it that I'm teaching the child?

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You tell the child don't tell lies. And then somebody calls on the horn and you tell the child I'm not here. And the child says that he said, He's not here.

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So what is the child learning? child is learning that yes, you should not tell lies but it doesn't apply everywhere. There are times when it is good to tell lies.

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That is the lesson the child is not you didn't actually say that to the child. But this is what the child actually learnt. Children and this applies across the board and then what happens when you do that? Respect goes out of the heart.

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Respect goes out to the heart then you tell the children don't tell lies the child's Aya Tell me about it.

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You won't say it in so many words. I mean, children are, if not respectful, at least they're clever. So they don't want to

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they have to still go to you for money and so on. So they don't want to you know, antagonize you unnecessarily, but believe me they are not respecting. There's no way they're respecting it.

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Very important for us to understand that both as parents, as teachers, and today as simply as Muslims. We are in the public eye.

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We are in the public eye. We there is no such

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thing as a private life,

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everybody is looking at us and everybody is interpreting our actions as the actions of Muslims, they are not interpreting them as the actions of a man or a woman.

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And many times people fall into this thing and you know, people complain, you say, Why do you have to say Muslim? After all, it's a it's a, it's an ordinary man. And you know, if somebody else had done it, you would not have said the same thing. You know what? Absolutely right. If somebody else had said it, they would not have said the same thing. Let me give you an example. Right? May Allah protect us? I don't drive. So therefore I am not guilty of this particular one. But

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how many of us jump red lights?

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Many times, right. But what do you say? And what do I say if we are parked if you stopped, and a policeman jumps or red light,

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or a car with a red light on top jumps, a red light to red lights? cancel each other?

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What do we say? And at that time, somebody says, I wanna be in Santa Monica. After all, he is also a human being No, don't do it. He's anyway portulaca.

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Tara, was it was

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all my other proposals to trigger you to understand what I'm saying.

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You're conditioned to say yes.

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I am saying that what will you say if I if somebody says nobody and after all, he's also a human being? Don't do it is not human being he's a policeman, despite being a policeman is jumping a red light. Now what kind of a policeman is that? Is that Is it justified or not justified? What do you think?

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is justified? No. Of course, of course, it is just your wife because you said you are a policeman, you're wearing the uniform of a policeman, you are supposed to uphold the law not to break the law. I don't care whether you're a human or a Gino, who cares. If you are a policeman, the responsibility of upholding the law is much more on you than on anybody else. And if you think this is unfair, wake up the world is unfair.

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So therefore, now if you say you are a Muslim,

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you loaded this onto yourself.

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You loaded this onto yourself. So in a way as I said, being a Muslim and being on the Sunnah is a protection against the world because people will not invite you to do something wrong. But at the same time, it's the responsibility. So if somebody says, oh, but a Muslim did this, you know what he is speaking the truth? That is what people should say. People should not say after all, he's a human being No, he's not a human being he is a Muslim. Therefore, the world has a right to hold him to a higher standard of behavior than the hold anybody else. What is my delille for saying this? My deli is the sabarimala a much mine, the sub i used to say Kuru Misra become like us.

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They presented themselves as as the example we are the example be like us. You want a good life be like us What is the meaning of be like us don't speak that don't speak lies.

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One simple thing, don't speak lies.

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But something will happen. Of course, when somebody has to gain from something even a liar will speak the truth. Speaking the truth is when you have to speak the truth and you have to pay a price.

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What's the big deal about speaking the truth when you're getting rewarded for that everybody's doing the truth? Even even even a you know, endemic law? Liar, sorry, that was a slip of the tongue

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will still speak the truth?

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Be very, very, very clear. Let us be very clear with this. And Allah subhanaw taala mentioned Joseph don't say something into something else. This this saying something or doing something else is hateful to Allah subhanaw taala. And the first thing that happens is removes the respect from the heart. We tell our children don't curse. We tell them don't use bad language. What kind of language is this?

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Then ask yourself, what kind of language do you use?

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What kind of language do you and I use? I know masataka. But that's the whole point is to keep it under control.

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Not use those words not use that language because you tell the child Don't curse. But the child hears you cursing. What do you think the child is? Understanding?

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What is the lesson is learning he lessons the lesson he learns his curse if you can get away with it?

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Because you're cursing but you can get away with it. That's the lesson is learning not Don't curse, curse. If you can get away with it applies. I can give you a lot of examples. I'm not gonna do that. I'm going to leave you with some thought in this matter. As I said write down what's the homework for today? What's homework? What do you want for your children? The homework today is to write down don't go to sleep unless until you fill up your paper and say what do I want for my children.

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My brothers and sisters. I wanted my

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myself when you that it is not important what is happening in the outside world. What is important is what your child comes back home to.

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The outside world is in any case, not in your control or my control, we can change what's happening in the outside world. So forget the outside world doesn't matter.

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What matters is what does the child come back home to? When my child comes home? What is the atmosphere in the house? What is the atmosphere in the home? Is that atmosphere in the home a benchmark, a standard for the child to judge the outside world against or is there no difference between the atmosphere in the home and the atmosphere outside?

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Which one

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because believe me if the if there is no difference between the atmosphere in the home and the atmosphere outside, then the children are only going to learn whatever comes to them. But if there is a difference when the child comes home the child is faced with people behaving with dignity. The child is faced with true piety. The child is faced with the consciousness of taqwa of Allah subhanaw taala. The child is faced with parents who are really and genuinely concerned about pleasing Allah subhanho wa Taala. The child is faced with a situation where Allah subhanaw taala is not a a concept is not an academic discussion is not a some intellectual theory. Allah is real. Allah is real. We

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speak to Allah, he hears us. We asked him he gives us we cry before he comforts us.

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Does the child come home to that? Because while I believe me, if the child is coming home to that, then no amount of corruption in the world can corrupt the child. That child will face the world when he goes out there, the child will stand in front of that world like a huge rock stands in front of the ocean. The waves can only smash themselves to smithereens on that rock. They cannot move that rock.

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But for that to happen, that rock has to be molded inside the house.

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What does the child learn? What is the benchmark when the child comes home? What does the child See? What does the child hear? I've said this so many times that I hope it's happening in at least some people's houses. Do your children. hear your voice? Not the voice of saddle handy, not the voice of missionary Rashid alafasy. May Allah Allah bless them And grant them great damages and accept the recitation of the Quran. I'm talking about your voice. Does your do your children hear your voice reciting Quran?

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What a tragedy. If you are in a home where your children have never heard you reciting the Quran,

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man or woman? What a tragedy.

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Imagine the children have heard you cursing the children. I've heard you yelling and screaming children. I've heard you talk to you about all kinds of, you know stuff which I can talk about here. But your children have never heard you reciting or

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What a tragedy that is.

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I've said this many times and if Allah gives me I will say it many times more.

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But I hope somebody will let us do something about it.

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Recite or on in your home. Let that be a memory of your children long after you're gone. How do your children remember you by the sound of my father reciting Quran by the sound of my mother is happening Cora when I think of my father or mother, I remember the voice. I remember that voice reciting Quran

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give them this don't deny our children. Well, I swara This is the wealth that you can give to your children doesn't cost you one cent. But that is wealth, which is not only wealth for you for them. It is wealth for you. Because while I can tell you with complete certainty, the child who remembers you reciting Koran will not forget to make dua for your McFerrin when you are gone,

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has to do automatic. Remember my valor is adding Khurana hamdulillah. I do.

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Allah subhanaw taala does not a single day goes in my life. When I do not pray for my father in the Hadoop Institute.

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Every single day of my life, whether I'm traveling, whether I'm sick, whether I'm as long as I'm alive, I pray for him and for his forgiveness.

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Every single day of my life, ask Allah to accept those drawers in Sharla. Why? Because my memory of my father is what I've told you many times waking up at 230 or two o'clock in the night to play the sound of him in the bathroom making the bucket knocking and so on handle.

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And then after praying with his wife reciting Quran I told you my father was no curry.

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I'm sure he made many

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any mistakes it does read, but he decided to run whichever way he knew.

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And he always tried to learn. But my memories of him reciting Cora, and then he would wake us up for for the

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first memory many memories. But the first memory of me that I have of my father and my brothers and sisters will all confirm this

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is this memory of the hedgehog, and recitation of Quran.

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And the reward of this is

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not a single day passes, when I do not pray the hedgehog, and make dua for him in pseudocode, and ask a lot of you

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give this to your children. What prevents you from this? Give this to your children?

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right away? Will you do this? inshallah.

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My dear brothers and sisters,

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remember,

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we live in a world, which inundated us with its messages to convince us to do this or that.

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And one of the most powerful influences of this influencers of this is the television.

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television advertising is so expensive for a reason.

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Because it is so powerful.

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It sticks in the mind.

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television advertising is not just done by just anybody. It's done by experts in psychology. It's done by experts in communication. Just to give you one simple example of this, many of you may have seen that ad, there was a

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it's a Pepsi ad,

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of a small boy,

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maybe five or six,

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he goes to a slot machine.

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And in the slot machine,

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the Pepsi

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can where he has to put the money for the Pepsi Gan is high up, so you can't reach it. So what does this kid do, he goes to the stand in front of the slot machine, he puts in $1, and a coke and drops, he puts the coke and on the ground, he puts in another dollar another coke and drops, he puts a second coke and also on the ground. He stands on the two coke cans. And he puts in the money for the Pepsi cap. And the Pepsi can drops the kid takes the can of Pepsi, and he walks away leaving those two cans of coke on the ground.

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Pepsi when coke went berserk with this ad, coke went completely, you know,

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they went into orbit.

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And remember, this entire ad is no sound.

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It's a silent ad, not one single word spoken. And the message message is driven home so powerfully.

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I bet many of you will remember this particular description of mine. I hope you forget this description. And remember some other good things I told you. But

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that is how powerful television is. The visual media is very powerful. And the visual media which is supported by very intelligent and very powerful programming is amazingly powerful. So be very clear in your mind about what you are exposing your children to and not asking you to take your television sets and throw them in the garbage. Because the television is a tool tools are value neutral. It is the person behind the tool who decides what to do with the tool.

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So think and use it wisely.

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Don't allow that programming

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to influence the minds of your children, and see the insidious way of this programming, where today even if you go and you say well, I'm going to be very clean, and I will only watch sports channels.

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And you know what you get in the name of sports channels.

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And he said I'm not going to I won't watch only a National Geographic or animal planet or something like that. And you know what you get in between the bricks.

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It's a very, very difficult situation. But my point is that that is the world that we live in. And if you have a television set in your house, believe me your kid didn't bite.

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Right? It didn't come by mistake. He didn't grow there. There wasn't a television seed, which then sprouted into our into a screen. Right? No Jim brought it in the night.

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You bought that thing and you carried it in the home and you plugged it in and you paid for cable television, which brings all that stuff into your home. So you are responsible

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My dear brothers sisters, think about this.

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Many,

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many young people who start smoking

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one of the dumbest things in the world is a cigarette.

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Because as they say, there's a fire on one hand and a sucker on the other.

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Why would you want to pay for cancer? You get it for free, just take this breed.

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Why must Why must you pay for it.

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But usually when children start smoking, they go behind some wall or something, and they don't like to smoke smoke in front of the Father and whoever, right?

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What I was saying here, I'm giving you I'm giving you this example. Because this applies across the board not only for smoking, but for any kind of within quote, sin. We don't like to do it in front of people.

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But we forget that we are doing it in front of Allah.

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I'm ashamed to do it in front of my father, but I'm not ashamed to do it in front of Allah.

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And that is the message that we are giving in the issue of Serbia, is to reflect on this fact, before you say or do anything, and that is why the heydays of salamina mallamma bieniasz.

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Before you will think or do anything, think of saying or doing anything. Ask yourself,

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do I really believe that Allah subhanaw taala knows, do I really believe that Allah is watching. And I still want to do this.

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In July, I hope and I am sure that we have enough taqwa in our hearts to stop us from doing anything which is wrong. If we think about this before.

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My brothers and sisters, every chicken comes home to roost.

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Whatever we send out,

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comes back to us.

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So be careful of what kinds of chickens you want to hatch.

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Until we change the atmosphere in our homes, we cannot change society. And equally true is the fact that if we change the atmosphere in our homes, and give our children have a sense of values and ethics, we protect them from the corruption of the environment. We decide what happens in our homes, televisions, parties, who comes who goes how we speak what we do all of this we decide. So let us concentrate on that. Let us not waste time talking about things that are not in our control and instead look at those that we control. Because when we stand before Allah subhanaw taala we will not be asked what happened. We will be asked what did you do?

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For Salah lalana will Karim Allah Allah He was a big mind