Bringing up a Muslim Child – Session I (Part 1 of 2)

Mirza Yawar Baig

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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.

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salat wa salam.

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ala alihi wa sahbihi wa

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Taala. We will do the session on parenting

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today and tomorrow and if we don't finish this weekend, then we'll do the same thing next weekend, but inshallah we'll try and see if we can complete it this weekend. I want to begin with the recitation of art of Serato lachemann, where Allah Subhana Allah has mentioned, the issue of parenting is mentioned the advice that

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Salam gave to his son

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and that's a good point to begin with. And inshallah

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we are going to be using those is also in the presentation itself. So I will just read the Koran to begin with and then when we come to the last in the presentation, we will see the meaning.

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the sorry.

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I decided for you the ayat of surah Lockman, from 12 to 21.

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We're talking about the issue of parenting, and the issue of creating standard bearers of Islam insha Allah.

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question I want to ask you, is this

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please think of a role model for yourself.

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Think of role model?

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Maybe somebody you know, personally, maybe someone else.

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Have you all thought of a role model? Yes.

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So how many of you is it a parent's

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normal normal distribution

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to people out of 200?

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I have never yet I've asked this question in many, many countries in the world.

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I have never ever had a show of hands of more than 5%

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for 95% of people.

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The role model is not apparent.

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Now.

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Next question.

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If your children were sitting here, and I asked them the same question how many of them would think of you

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The reason I say that this is a tragedy is because

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children

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have the maximum face to face time with you as parents.

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Some of you are not parents yet.

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inshallah, may Allah subhanaw taala give you good children salary.

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But it's not something that's going to happen automatically.

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Remember and understand one thing very clearly that whether you are I like it or not, we are already role models.

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Really question is to ask is role model to what?

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Do you want your children to look at you and say, This is how I would like to become one day? Or do you want your children to look at you and say, stuffer? Allah Elohim every time they look at your fish? Which one?

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So question is to ask you is this I have a parent by chance or by choice.

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I a parent by chance,

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accidentally just happened?

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Or did you consciously choose to be a parent? The reason I'm asking this is not because however it happened, it happened.

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But the point is that today you can choose to change that. And say from today, I will consciously choose to be a parent.

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Maybe the child has happened,

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doesn't matter. But for today, no matter how old the child is, I consciously choose to be a parent. And that choice is yours.

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So when does it start? When does parenting start?

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parenting starts very early parenting starts long before you have children.

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It starts with a conscious decision to be a parent.

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And then it continues.

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Once you can see

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once the lady conceives,

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parenting continues, in what you do,

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there are many stories of masala

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where when the child was born and the child

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started to speak, the child was reciting the Quran.

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As

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people said, this is a miracle.

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Of course, a miracle. Indeed, it is how did this happen?

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He said it happened because the mother used to constantly reset for an when the child was in the womb.

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So the child developed in the womb of his mother.

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And what was the sound that the child was listening to when he was doing or she was developing in the womb of the mother? The sound of the Quran

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and that does not refer that does not that is not limited only to the mother. It's limited. It's also extends to the Father.

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Parenting is a two person job it's not a one person job.

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Then comes the birth of the child.

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And what is the first thing we do what is the first thing that the Muslim child listens hears when it comes into the world? Sounds

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strange it is that even though that's the first thing that the Muslim child hears,

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when he or she is born in the world.

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Over the years over the years as he grows up, he learns to ignore that sound, not to respond to it.

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When he hears the sound whether he ignores it

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when you hear the shadow, Lyla heilala ignores it. When you hear the shadow now Muhammad Rasul Allah, He ignores it.

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When he hears Allah Salah come to success, come to sala de la sala, he ignores it when it

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comes towards success. He ignores it. And then he spends his entire life seeking success in the ways of those who don't even know who

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he is.

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Very strange, very strange.

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Then when the child is born, give them a good name.

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This is a major thing today. None TV people want to give children names that have never been heard before.

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So when you hear the name of the jelly one, you're wondering whether Is this a new bird that was discovered and they've given it in this new name? Is it a biological name of a bird or something? Or is it the human name of a human being

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Very, very strange names.

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Give children good names. Give children names of this event Allah subhanaw taala putting an apt before that. Abdul Rahman Abdullah Abdullah Rosa

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Abdul Khalid

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beautiful lives. Give children the names of Gambia

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Mohammed Ibrahim, use of

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Musa

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give children the names of Sahaba of Rasul Allah is Allah Allah, Allah, Allah

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give names to children of the zodiac and of our mothers as well as to matara.

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Good names, there's no shortage of names. And it doesn't matter if your child is also called Abraham and another million Abraham's What's your problem? Allah subhanaw taala likes the name honey Rola.

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Don't go hunting for unheard of names. give a child a good name.

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And give a child a name that is easy on the tongue easy to pronounce. give a child a name that is not likely to be changed around and mispronounced and you know misused by other people.

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give good names.

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And then be the example you want him to follow.

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Because as you have heard me say this many times before. children listen with their eyes.

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They don't care what you say. They look to see what you do.

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There's no point in telling the child to follow the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam, if you are shaving your beard.

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There's no point in telling the child to be obedient. Allah subhanho wa Taala. If you are not aware, inshallah, if you don't pray, if you don't do the things that you're supposed to do, the child will not do what you tell him to do. The child will do what he sees you doing.

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So question to you once again, Do you have kids? or Do you have children?

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Very quickly, your kids.

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A kid is a child of God.

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The children of sheep and goats are called kids, not the children of human beings.

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And that's why we bring up our children as if they are the children of sheep and goats. We're only interested in feeding them, we want to make sure they've got a clean bed to sleep in one place to be

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enough food to eat for the belly. And that's enough.

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After all, what are we going to give to the goat anywhere?

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That's why the question I'm asking is which is uppermost in your mind? Physical welfare, a building character?

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It's not a matter of convincing me it's your child.

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It's a question of asking this question to yourself and I easiest way to find out is ask someone else to keep a diary for you and to record your conversation every time we speak about your child. What how many times a day do you talk about did the child have enough to eat? We all have fat over children when the mothers are worried that they're getting enough to eat to put them on a starvation diet and make him run with a stick behind it.

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didn't lose some weight.

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But you have enough to eat the whole time food food food, food food is readily May Allah forgive us just as the whole conversation is only what do you feed your child?

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My name poquito Botanica.

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bucardo gotta gotta be gotta

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be hard enough.

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And that's why

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we talk about parenting with awareness, not parenting, unconsciously.

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That bring up a Muslim child is my book. And that book is published in South Africa is a publisher will inshallah get a publisher also. But that's the cover of the book in published in South Africa.

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by him Why am I saying bring him a Muslim child?

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What is the difference? Is there a difference in the first place? If so, what is the difference?

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There are five things that are different

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between the bringing up of

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any child and the bringing up of a Muslim child.

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The first one is the Muslim child is connected to Allah subhanho wa Taala should be connected.

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The second one is that he or she must have an awareness inside of being an oma to Rasul Allah. Allah Allah. Allah is Allah

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The third one is he or she was grew up with a sense of responsibility not only towards himself and towards his family, but towards the whole world, a sense of responsibility for all words.

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The fourth one is he was grew up with a sense of accountability.

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And the fifth one is that this child must grow up with the drive to excel. And not just Excel, mindlessly, but Excel, to showcase Islam to the world.

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These are the five things that differentiate and distinguish a Muslim child from every other kind of church.

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You know, people talk about self esteem.

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And I really believe that self esteem is the biggest and most powerful protection against all forms of evil.

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And unfortunately, self esteem as it is understood

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in the non Muslim world, is very close to what we understand as

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arrogance.

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self esteem, Islam is not arrogant self esteem is not an, you know, great opinion of yourself. self esteem is a consciousness of being an Amati of Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

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It's a consciousness, it's a sense of pride, a sense of confidence,

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which is based on the fact that the child knows that I am not an ordinary person.

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I am an homage to Muhammad Sallallahu. So

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when I'm saying I'm not an ordinary person, I am not creating some kind of new caste system, I'm superior to others. No,

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I'm not superior to others, I have inserted into the world to serve others.

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I have been sent into this world to spread goodness around me. Every action of mine must represent that goodness, every word that I speak must represent that goodness,

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I've been sent into this world to be an example for the world to look up to. I was not sent into this world to follow the world, I was sent into this world to create an example for the world to follow.

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That is what I mean by self esteem. And that self esteem is the greatest protection against all evil.

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Because a person with that self esteem will never put himself in a situation where he or his reputation, or his image is likely to be compromised by anything that he says or he does.

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And that is the reason why it is so important to give your children the sense of self esteem.

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And that is what differentiates a Muslim child from every other kind of child.

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question to ask you, as I just told you five things. question I want you to ask yourself is how many of these are you consciously aware of when you are bringing up your child?

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consciously? Do you ask yourself this question? How many times did you ask yourself this question? Or if you don't ask this question, how many times a day how many times a week, or month a year? Or how many times is a child's lifetime? If you ask this question, is my child connected to Allah?

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Seriously, I'm asking and what is the point in all of these lectures and talks and so on, if you are not going to practice? Do you ask this question? Is my child connected to Allah?

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Does my child know how to take from the treasures of Allah?

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Do you ask this question to yourself?

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Because it is your responsibility? It is and was your responsibility to connect your child to Allah?

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How many times a day do you ask the question? how aware is my child of being an oma to Mohammed Salah? Lalu savasana

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how obedient is my child to the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu?

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You ask this question.

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How many times you ask the question, Does my child behave responsibly towards the world?

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How does my child treat our non Muslim neighbors?

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I'll tell you how he treats them. He treats them just the way you treat them.

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Whatever.

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How many times a day do you ask yourself this question? Is my child accountable to Allah? What in the behavior of my child tells me that my child is aware that one day he or she will die?

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May Allah protect us. So Allah Allah has shown us things in this budget amongst our people,

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but that they can come anytime.

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So how many times a day do you ask this question to yourself and say, what tells me that my child is accountable to Allah?

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And what can you say about yourself and about your child with respect to the drive to excel? I'm not talking about driving the child to excel. I'm saying does the child have a drive within himself or Excel?

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We constantly hear this here is this statement, you know?

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To say that, when you say anything, you say, Can we do this Gambit? No, no, but you can examine

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it children have exams What's your problem?

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Your problem because your child does not know who he is.

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Your child is a car without an engine

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pushcart.

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Giles is actually a car with an engine but you don't know how to start it.

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Allah created the engine.

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But Allah subhanaw taala gave me the key to start it but you know, have you ever tried the key you have no idea you no clue how to start the engine. And you just using that driving the car means to push it.

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So now when the car is on an uphill track, where to push the car, otherwise the car won't go.

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So when the child has an exam, the mother is losing sleep, the father is losing sleep.

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Why should Why should you lose sleep?

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Somebody asked me I said this, what shall we do? I said buy a model of a cycle rickshaw.

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We'll

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buy a rickshaw and bring it and give it to a child put it on his table and say that you got two choices study or learn to drive that thing.

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I got no doubt you're still my son did yada yada better.

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So

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So what is Allah subhanaw taala his model of parenting and I decided for you desire to have swirl of man.

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We're

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attina Luqman al hikma anish kuruvilla Romania score for in your school in FC Rahman Guevara in Allah avani Yun Hamid

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And indeed We bestowed upon lokman Ali Salam hikmah. Wisdom, Shaka with the understanding of the religion,

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saying give thanks to Allah. Everything begins with thanks to Allah subhanho wa Taala al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil aalameen

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all praise and all thanks to Allah subhanho wa Taala who is the rub of the alameen

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and Allah subhanaw taala then remains and says And whoever gives thanks, he is not doing any favor to Allah. He gives thanks for the good of himself, and whoever is ungrateful. Then Verily Allah subhanho wa Taala is Allah honey free from all warrants and Worthy of all praise?

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Allah honey Yun Hamid

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free from all ones and Worthy of all praise

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with God look man or even he is oh yeah when a Toshi Kabila in sheer colossal Mona z. What is the first step after recognizing Allah subhanho wa Taala and thanking Allah subhanaw taala is to say I shall do Allah Allah Allah Allahu Allahu la Jericho.

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Rolando Allah

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is to accept the oneness of Allah subhanho wa Taala to accept the heat, and never to come and check

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to the first piece of advice after recognizing Allah subhanho wa Taala and thanking Allah subhanho data is when laquan Elisa Lam said to his son, or my son do not join in worship others with Allah.

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Verily joining others in worship with Allah is a great zalm It's a great oppression. It's a great wrong indeed, in shilka nuzzel monazite.

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Once again, the issue of translations

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in a is a emphasis. And the lamb before Salam is again another emphasis in shiraga.

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Then lokman Allah Salam was one

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Cena in Santa Barbara Lee Hama, tomo Hannah ohanian, Rafi saw Lu v Armenia nisqually Valley Valley de la masih.

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After looking recognizing Allah subhanho wa Taala and thanking Allah subhanho wa Taala. The first right is the right of Allah.

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The first right is the right of Allah and that right is to worship no one other than Allah. And after that comes the right the first right among the rights of the people and that is to honor the parents.

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The first among the people are the parents. And Allah subhanaw taala said, and we have enjoined on mankind to be dutiful and good to their parents. His mother bore him in weakness and hardship upon weakness and hardship were hand in hand

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and his weaning is in two years, give thanks to me and to your parents, and unto me is the final destination.

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Having said this, about the parents, and having Allah subhanaw taala having emphasized the importance of the parents, what is the next piece of advice and see what the law says? When yada yada and to jerrica b Malaysia laka fala to Tierra Houma was

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that if they both drive with you if they both try to make you join in worship with me others

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that are which you have no knowledge that do not obey them. Follow through to Houma. do not obey them. But behave with them in the world kindly, don't miss don't don't mistreat them.

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Behave kindly, but don't obey them and follow the path of Him who turns to me in repentance and in obedience, then to me will be your return. I shall tell you what you used to do.

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Today, it's a tragedy that its parents. Sometimes I remember one divisor May Allah protect your children from you.

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And so Allah that is a that is a fact today.

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Muslim parents are the biggest cause of the misguidance of Muslim children, not anybody else. I know of instances where

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girls want to wear the hijab, but the parents don't allow them to wear the hijab.

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And they tell them that you will not get married if you were

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so I tell them you will not get married to somebody who is obedient to Allah subhanaw taala

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will get married to every scoundrel who's there who wants to disobey Allah?

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No problem. decide who you want to marry.

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boys want to follow the tsunami Salah Sullivan keep a beard and the fathers of the mother stopped them. I know instances where the mothers have forced

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their spineless sons to shave their fish.

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You got a backbone. Oh, what

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the hell?

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Why do we have the Syrah throw it to the garbage?

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throw it in the garbage that's more honest.

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That is more honest than doing what you're doing.

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You claim to be an almighty Obama sallallahu Sallam and you destroy his son every day.

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That is shameful and dishonest.

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Look man, ally Sam is giving

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advice to Santa Monica in in takoma park. In min Harlan vadakkan visa karate Novus Amato villa. Yeah TB Allah in Allah Latif, Habib

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and he said, Oh my son, if it be anything equal to the weight of a grain of mustard seed, and though it be inside Iraq, or in our anyway in the heavens or in the earth, Allah subhanaw taala will bring it forth. Verily, Allah subhanho wa Taala is aware of all details, allows Latif

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and hubby and he is well aware of everything.

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And then he said, yeah when I came in Sala,

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we talking about

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how Allah subhanaw taala

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that he should be worshipped and no one other than the other than Him should be worshipped. And then we talked about the half of the parents. And then we talk once again of the half of Allah subhanho wa Taala which supersedes the half of the parents. Please understand, don't just read the Quran without understanding.

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Why is Allah subhanaw taala mentioning that do not obey your parents if they tell you to disobey Allah.

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Because the hack of Allah subhanaw taala supersedes the hack of the parents. The parents hack is not bigger than the hack of Allah.

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And then once that happens, what is the next step

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is to look at the glory and majesty of Allah subhanaw taala and say that nothing but nothing is hidden from Allah subhanho wa Taala

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that Allah subhanaw taala knows everything no matter how hidden you think it might be, from Allah subhanho wa Taala it is not hidden. Even if it is a mustard seed inside a rock.

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And then

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he says, Yeah, I wanna Yeah, Kimmy salata, one more Bill Maher roofie one hi Neil moon girl was Rama I saw back in the league I mean as well.

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And once you recognize the glory and majesty was one of them, what do you do to make Salah you connect with Allah, the child is being taught how to connect with Islam.

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My son Akemi, Salah, established Salah, and enjoy and people to Allah Morrow

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and forbade people from our bunker and join them towards Islam and all that is good, and forbid them from all that is evil and bad. Please understand Islam is not the name of a bunch of rituals to be performed in a Masjid

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Alma rove is everything which is good.

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Islam means to enjoy everything which is good.

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It starts with worship, no doubt, but it does not end with worship.

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It extends to everything which is good.

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And an unnatural Moncur is to stop people from everything which is bad.

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If there is the oppression of Dalits, which happens in this country of all the time, is it a business of the Muslims or not?

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Yes, very much.

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It is much more the business of the Muslims than it is the business of those Dalits themselves.

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Because for the Dalit is only fighting an operation that he that he is experiencing. But for the Muslim he has to answer to Allah subhanaw taala why he kept silent when somebody else was being oppressed.

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When women are being objectified

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and their bodies are being used to sell everything from cigarettes to biscuits, to cars to motorcycles.

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Is it the business of the of the Muslims to try to put a stop to that or not?

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It is because otherwise you are responsible to Allah subhanaw taala.

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But the problem is that when Muslims themselves have a problem,

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when Muslim women themselves have a problem covering their head, even though Allah subhanaw taala has ordered it.

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What are you going to do with others?

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Please people understand, neither you nor I will live forever.

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As I said, we have seen our own brothers and sisters from this very

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young and old

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who are with us and today they are not with us anymore.

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And they will come

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when you will be here and I will not be here

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or I will be here and one of you will not be here Allah knows best who goes who's the first one to go?

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And then we will answer to Allah subhanho wa Taala

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And on that day, be prepared to answer these questions because these questions will be asked.

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Today when you shake your head

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Besides a shortage is is halting question is if it's a small thing Why don't you do it

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with a small thing what's the problem of doing it?

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Please don't fool yourself.

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Do not fool yourself because you're not fooling anybody else. Least Allah

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so look man laser Lanza, Tucson, Yamuna, Yakima, sala de merville, Monrovia and Hanuman Cara was where Allah saw back in Nashville more.

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Oh my son established Salah, and enjoy and people to our motto of everything which is good

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and forbid people from all banca everything which is evil and bear with patience whatever befalls you and remember this is also part of the work of Tao

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that things will be volume that people will protest, that there will be people who will ignore you, there will be other people who will try to attack you. There will be people who will try to harm you there will be people who will try to torture you and imprison you and if you are lucky then people who will kill you Angela will become Jay's visa with Alhamdulillah.

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All this will happen

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and what is Allah saying was where

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was where Allah

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gave a sour

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beer with

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verily he said these are some of the important commandments ordered by Allah subhanho data with no exception.

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And then he said what

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are the Maha in Allah Allah your head bucola Berlin

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and he said do not turn your face away from people with pride. Don't be arrogant, and don't walk in insolence through the earth. Verily, Allah subhanho wa Taala does not like the arrogant booster

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wacko sci fi mushy Kava although the main zoetic in an Corolla Swati la Soto

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and is there and be moderate, do not show insolence.

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And lower your voice very the harshest of all voices is the voice of the s the breaking of the s

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and then Allah subhanaw taala said in the last day that I decided whether Akira ottavio Mandela la poubelle net w Ma Li Abba Anna

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Ghana shaitan romila is sorry.

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And when it is said to them follow that which Allah has sent down this you know, we will follow that which we found our fathers following.

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Asking questions saying would they do so even if shaitan invites them to the torment of the Fire

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and this is one of the issues.

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This is one of the major issues of the Muslims today where when they are told to do something which Allah subhanaw taala has ordered.

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They talk about customer practice. They say this is the practice in our family or this is the practice in our community or this happens in this city or whatever.

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And Allah subhanaw taala saying are you going to do that even if that practice takes you to the Jannah

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are you going to do that practice even if it if it is shut down leading you into the fire?

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My brother sisters, I want to remind you that your child is from your earning.

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And that is the reason why the Amal of the child the actions of the child can be a source of goodness or badness, a source of good or evil for you.

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Either way the child is from your own earning and that's reason why the amount of the child effective.

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We have the

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three of them one

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where Abu Qatada Delano is reported,

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has reported for us

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who said that the best a man can leave behind after his death or three things. Righteous child make dua for him, an ongoing sadaqa whose rewards continued to reach him and knowledge that continues to be implemented after him.

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What are the alano reported and another Hadith?

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Where azolla salaam said when a human being dies, all of his deeds are terminated except three and ongoing sadaqa knowledge from which others benefit, and a righteous child who makes dua for him.

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Isaiah de la Juana reported aerosolize Allah Sallam said, Indeed the best that one eats is that which he has earned, and his child is from his earning.

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And that is awarded in Muslim Ahmed and in

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these IDs indicates that a righteous child benefits his deceased parents with that.

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And that he can benefit them from spending sadaqa on his on their part, and doing other deeds. And therefore,

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because your child is wrong, your earnings, the deeds of the child will harm you or they will benefit you.

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And the choice is yours. Now to remember, if you have taken enough steps to bring up your child properly, and if May Allah forgiven, may Allah protect, if it so happens, that despite all the effort you made, your child still turns out to be or goes astray at some point in time that inshallah you are not responsible for that, because you made enough effort. But if you brought up your child, like you brought, as I said, you have kids who have children.

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So if you got kids, and you brought up a child like a boat,

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that's what a kid is a

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son of a goat.

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So you brought up the child, like a son of a goat,

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then you are responsible, because that thing does not understand what is right and what is wrong.

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It only needs it only knows to eat

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a child is from our earnings.

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And that's why I remind myself I knew that when we die, we will be questioned about what we leave behind and rewarded for what we send ahead of us.

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So the more we send ahead of us, the higher the rewards. And the more you create, you know, we have this in the bankers of Yes, all bankers, I have to say use banking terminology.

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The high net worth individual right?

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Who's a high net worth individual,

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the one who will have the longest questioning with a loss of knowledge.

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And that is if you earned that network in Halloween.

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Otherwise, the high net worth individual is the one who's on a grease slide straight into the pitch.

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Yes.

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Who is a high net worth individual in the eyes of Allah subhanaw taala.

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The one whose net worth is over there, not here.

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The one was spent in the path of Allah subhanaw taala.

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As I mentioned before, strange thing with the Muslims,

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even Zakat,

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two and a half percent.

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They have problems with pain.

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And they argue and they try to find loopholes. And they try to ask, you know, do I need to bet on this? And do I need to bet on that? Two and a half percent.

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So my question to you is do you love your child?

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Yes or no?

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And if you love your child, and the question to ask yourself is is scripting your child's failure or success

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because parents write the script,

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children can and this is also this not only Islam is also psychology teachers have this

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term in psychology called self fulfilling prophecy.

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It's what we write for the script to write for the child is a script the child lives on.

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A melon ALLAH forgive if you have written a bad script for the child.

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unless Allah subhanaw taala gives him some tofu from somewhere and then he has to struggle and fight his way out of the script and break the barriers that you created for him.

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Because if he doesn't do that, then he is destined to

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to run on the script, and to act out his life on the script until it ends in disaster.

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And we have so many cases of parents writing negative scripts for the children

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that they teach the child the value of self indulgence.

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The T the T is the child that his self worth depends not on his character, but how many toys he has.

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They teach the child that he must look good, not in comparison to his own potential, not in comparison to people of character. But in comparison to other children and that look good means that he must outshine them in things of the Union.

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So as the child grows, now what happens?

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From a dinky guy, he gets a

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Harley Davidson motorcycle,

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same toy. The only difference is price tag is different.

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That's why they say in most cases, the difference between men and boys is the price of their choice.

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Nothing else same mental level,

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four year old

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soccer sell whatever What are you scripting? I use scripting the failure of children. Are you scripting their success?

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And you want to answer that question you are asking another question and seeing how are you preparing them for the responsibility that they will have to shoulder

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and then a third question, what are you doing differently from other people?

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And how is that helpful?

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You might say the way I the thing I'm doing differently is that my kid always wears Armani suits.

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But does it help

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as the bug which or suit whether Armani suit taste differently from a bag of sackcloth?

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The buck doesn't know the difference

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because return is proportionate to investment.

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My brother and sister I remind myself when you have the famous holidays on Ibiza Lala lives I was very sad but al Islam are even worse. I o v ban Kama Baba, Baba, Baba. He said Islam began as something strange, and it will return to being something strange. So give glad tidings to the strangers.

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the glad tidings of home

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strangers who are the strangers? In a world characterized by operation the one who stands up against oppression is a stranger

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in a world that is characterized

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by promiscuity and shamelessness, a person who stands up for modesty and dignity is a stranger.

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In a world that is characterized by ignorance and arrogance, Zulu Mangia Hola, Allah subhanaw taala called even be zalim and jail.

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Well, that is characterized by ignorance,

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of personal knowledge stands out as a stranger,

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in a world that has no pity.

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In a world that doesn't care.

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A world that cares more about the quality of the food that they feed their dog,

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than about the fact that that bag of dog feed can keep a whole family of children alive in the world. They don't care. In such a world, somebody who has compassion will stand out as a stranger.

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And who are the glad tidings of Geneva? strangers?

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For to Berlin for Abba,

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the glad tidings of Jannah for the strangers

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that's why the question I asked myself venue is, are we strangers?

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Are we willing to become strangers? Yes or no?

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Because with that, with that resolve to become strangers in the world, remember you get the benefit of the promise of knobbies Allah Allah Allah Azza wa sallam the Bashar of Jana Toba is a tree in the jungle photo ballyhoura.

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My brothers sisters, leaders stand out. She blend in

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a flag is saluted because it is alone on top of the flag post.

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The same flag when it is washed, and it is put on the laundry line along with your underwear to dry is a piece of cloth. It's a rag. Nobody's salutes a flag on a laundry line. The solute the same piece of cloth only and only when it is raised up on the flag post. Ask yourself this question. You've seen the same thing. We've seen the same things

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Have you ever seen anybody saluting a flag on our on the line?

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flags are washed? Like anything else. Have you ever seen somebody saluting a flag which is on a laundry line? Yes or no.

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But the same piece of cloth of a flag is a piece of cloth. It's a symbol of something. A flag in itself is a piece of cloth like every other piece of cloth,

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provided saluted because it is a standard. It is a symbol. It stands for something. It stands for a nation and it stands for all that that nation stands for.

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It stands for the values of that nation. It stands for the greatness and glory of that nation.

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What about the flag which stands for Allah subhanho wa Taala

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and that flag is not a piece of blocks that flag the human heart.

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The flag is a human being

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think it has no value.

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You think it has no value?

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It's not for nothing that the Malika

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knew the names of the Sahaba of Rasulullah sallallahu

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not one of the

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have mentioned to the women story of the Allahu Allah is Allah Allah is Allah sitting and Jumeirah Salam was sitting with him and he passed in the distance and given a very late Salam setosa lasagna sola there is your friend Abu Dhabi.

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And as soon as an asylum said, you know,

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a general Islamic Sharia law what what what about me, why me? Which of us meaning which of the like? He said, which of the angels does not know your friends?

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Which of the Malacca does not know your friend?

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They knew them by name.

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beings from another world

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to obey Allah

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and whenever never disobey Allah subhanaw taala.

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The new the Sahaba also la sala de Sala my name.

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Why?

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Because the Sahaba of rasulillah salam were the hora

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they were worried people looked at them and they said, Oh gee, who is this man?

00:52:31--> 00:52:32

Who is this woman

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who will not give up her religion? Even when Abu Jamal is threatening to kill her and you chooses to die at the hands of Aviva that will not give up her religion what kind of woman is this?

00:52:52--> 00:52:58

What kind of woman is this? Because you have no sense of intelligence? She doesn't understand that life is threatened

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so what just say the ones you're free and clear then declare back go back to Islam? What is the problem?

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What is this? Who is this man? What kind of man is this? Yes, sir Delano.

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The father of Mr.

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America Yes, sir. Delano. What is the matter with this man

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that

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has died. him on the ground he's put him on the ground and he's tied a horse each to his limbs.

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And he is about to literally tear him apart.

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And all he says is just say that you are not a Muslim.

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vinyasa doesn't go to hell.

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He said I will not change what can a man is this

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what can a man is this

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unreasonable people?

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Strange people, strangers. Hello Baba.

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And Yasser Allah who was torn apart

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Mr. De aza badolato.

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He recanted. He gave up Islam. Then he went to a solo solo solo, in Israel out of fear I did this, but I'm a Muslim. Will Allah forgive me?

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Allah will forgive you.

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But I'm not here to stand in judgment of the Sahaba. May Allah subhanaw taala protect me from that. But the question I asked myself is in the eyes of Allah,

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what level is the level of the bar of

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our ma? What is the level of human of Yasser Allah

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Allah

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We're about

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what manner of marriage is

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that his Salah

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that his Salah, just seeing him pray.

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Without even talking, he is not even inviting anybody to serve nothing. Just seeing him pray, people accept Islam.

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What manner of man is this, but his Salah is seen as a threat by the enemies. And the only condition that the crusher maka put on avocado oil on what is the only condition they put on him, pray inside your house.

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Right? We're not saying don't talk to our people don't do this don't is only one condition. You can come and live in Makkah, no problem, only one condition pray where nobody can see you pray inside your house.

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What kind of condition is this?

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What kind of salary is that?

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What kind of salary?

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What manner of people are brothers justice? What manner of people are these? What manner of person was the one who when he became Khalifa for 10 years, they said a man never slept?

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There the man never slept lying down on a bit.

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What sense of responsibility was there?

00:56:39--> 00:56:40

What manner of man was it?

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That he took when he had the control of the armies. When he had not because he didn't have material. He had the control of the armies. He was the ameerul momineen he was the first one to have the title of ameerul momineen.

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A man who commanded generals who commanded 1000s of soldiers.

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When he was called to go to Jerusalem to take the keys. He goes with one servant. And the two of them share one camel. Even there wasn't another governing body.

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You mean they were not they were they couldn't find one more camel in Medina.

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What was the need?

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To walk part of the way and in seven to walk part of the way?

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What manner of man was this?

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What manner man was this, that when he reached Jerusalem, in that condition,

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the Jewish and Christian priests, they wept

00:57:51--> 00:57:51

the web

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and they said we are happy to give the keys of Jerusalem to this man.

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Because this is the description

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of the leader of the Muslims, that is written in our books.

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What matter of man

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was the one

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who when his house was surrounded, he also was the commander of armies

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where his house was surrounded by people who wanted to kill him

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refused to use those same armies to save his life.

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He said I will not order

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anyone to kill another Muslim.

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They said Your life is in danger. These are these people who are attacking you they are not good Muslims.

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So know

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what man matter of man was it

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that died. Shay's usabilla reading the Quran.

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And before he died, he said to the people.

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He said I saw a solar cell

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in my dream last night

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and he said to me

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today

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you will make it stop with me.

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He died as a result we live in a state of Stockholm in a state of fasting reading the

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Alibaba

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the standard is high,

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the standard is high.

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They came before us and not for nothing.

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The navigation Allah Allah wa sallam, not one, I think Did he say that the best generation is my generation

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it's not for nothing that he said that said the best generation is my generation.

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They came before us, they set a standard for us.

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And that is the standard that we have to live up to. And that is the standard against which we will be judged.

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And that is a standard to which us parents need to bring up your children. Because that is a standard on which your children we just

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ask Allah subhanaw taala to help us to do that. And to be pleased with that effort, and to help us to bring up children who will be a credit to us in this world and be a source of Hashanah and benefit for us in the era Rasul Allah. Hi, Lana Vickery while he was in the Rama together, I mean, we will break from our IP and then we will come back here after Mohammed Sharma. Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah