Marriage 14 Husbands Rights Upon Wives Part 2

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When we let him in Cerulean fusina woman say, Melina,

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May, Allah, Allah, Allah,

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Allah, Allah.

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Allah, Allah illallah wa de vous la sharika

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Mohammedan hamedan. Aveda, who are so this is the 14th lecture from the series love marriage, divorce. Basically, we're talking about circolo Sora.

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And this is the second lecture dealing with the rights of the husbands abunda wives.

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We actually spent almost five lectures talking about the why the wives rights upon the husbands. And now let's talk about the husbands writes about the wives.

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Needless to say, and we have to say this, that when my dear sisters accepted to marry

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the Muslim man

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and her Willie

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was her presentative simply,

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the marriage contract says, according to the book of Allah, the conditions the irony of this marriage contract, and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and according to the agreed upon delivery

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now, the Quran states that every Jabu how Muna Island nissa

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men are in charge of the family.

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I understand that a lot of the sisters have a very hard time accepting this because of the

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invasion of the Western culture into our lives. They make you think and believe that you're just an animal, staying at home to get traction and deliver babies and feed them and that's all you do. We till the sisters, Allah subhana wa tada is the one who decided this

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while at the terminal merfolk de la la Javi Heba. kumada Lizzie Geraldine know Cebu mimica Sabu Wali Nisa in our Cebu mimic the sub

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Jani Ldlt, my sister in Islam, accept the Qatar of Allah subhana wa tada accept the decree of Allah.

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Allah has made you a woman. And the best place for women to be is their house. Again. I'm not dismissing the fact that our sisters can go out and help the communities help the societies provided that she fulfills her priorities or obligations at home. This is one too when she goes out she goes out in a manner she does not herself gets exposed. get exposed to fitness or she becomes an icon of fitna for others.

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If you do this, you can go out that we didn't say we didn't dismiss the fact that she can go out and help out. No, but first your children. First your house first your home.

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elimine raazi Rahim Allah.

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In explaining the verse as the Jericho Muna Nisa, edema fog de la la Hamada about what the man for whom in Mali him. Men are in charge of the women because of what Allah subhana wa Taala given them, feed us little hill, the way that he fashioned them. Men are more prepared to deal with the jungle outside with the people outside then women beside because men are spending from their own money on the women. He says Rahim Allah in a zodiacal me.

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He was zoologia Kalma moon

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Allah Zhu Jie Li acuna ra en de ma, de la YG, ballal, Xhosa and Tata

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Why am furnishing all of this? Because if I'm going to say that the man is the man, the man is in charge, then the woman must obey the man.

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Listen, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us that when is when there is three or more, you must appoint an amine.

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Even if he would send an expedition outside within three individuals outside of Medina, who is the

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who is the Emil and have the pseudonym. Now yes, you got a husband and wife. Very soon you're going to have children who is the meal?

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Now, if the husband is the emif, then the wife must do what must give him the right of obedience. And miani we mentioned a lot of Hadeeth listen to this one. Around hacking for Mr. terracotta Haha, well, bazaar Manhattan, Manhattan, Chateau de la

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salud. Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam this question. Are you Nancy have a mohawk Panamera?

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Who has or who is entitled to the most or to a lot of rights on women? Jani who has more rights in this world honor women. For Paula sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says xojo her her husband.

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cool too. Then, on the other hand, I mean, the mother of the believers, she said for au Nessie, I'm ohakune Allah,

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Who is entitled to more rights on mn

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Kala sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says omo his mother

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Shay Phil Hadith in the woman is what her husband is the one who is entitled to the majority of the rights haritha Jani

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Hosseini Moxon

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Well howdy if met once a while hacking and hacking Python who knows IE Lima Mr. Abdullah in a sorry for swearing at number one rajala one a companion of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he had an end Ken at law who on

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his aunt came to the Prophet sallallahu wasallam viharaya asking him about something for Paul Allah He said to her there to zodion empty. Do you have a husband?

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She said yes. For call Allah k. m. Tila.

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How is how are you treating your husband? For a man who illuma just I am doing my best except when I'm unable because I'm sick. Jani then I have some shortcomings, Call of Duty 18 and demean the NEMA, who are the netbook wanna wanna say NEMA, who was a natural key word now? He is your paradise. And he is your Hill.

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will help Howdy,

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howdy howdy smart. Mahabharata. tirmidhi. Anna Sydney, Maliki Muslim,

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Laos lu li Basha in Delhi Basha. It is not befitting for someone to be persuaded to buy another human being, while I will solve and if it is something that we could do, and yes do the best or only by sharing. If it is befitting if it is lawful that a man a human being human can go straight to another human being.

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Kumar and test Jew that is Elijah mineva me happy here.

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I would command the wife to prostrate to her husband because of the mighty right that he has a bone her again yay for my sisters. Please take this from the spirit of talim our Mary left

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Yani magnifying glorifying the commands of Allah subhana wa tada the Quran was soon over I didn't do it. Because you want to get to gender Yeah, and if you

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see Muslim

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Hadith every hurayrah feels I have not had bad

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The women if she prays her five daily prayers

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fast her Mum's the lower Ramadan

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and she kept herself chased her sauna for a

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while up ah

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and she obeys her husband. In the Day of Resurrection it will be set to her. Enter Jenna from any of the eight gates of Gen

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Z.

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What other status Do you want ELT, my dear sisters?

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What other status do you want? This in the leaf resurrection you get to choose by the virtue of your obedience to your husband. By that virtue you get to choose from any of the eight gates have to enter Gen

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Z.

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Look at it from this window but yeah, what is that obedience and restricted hell have you

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learned it is not it is a restricted obedience.

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Number one, it has to be an area where she is not going to disobey Allah.

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Clear that obedience is not unrestricted. It is restricted restricted to a law pata Lima lukin. Fie. Masato Han

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Solo Lavalier. Seller warranty

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matabele agreed upon, and Khalid Abdullah Omar al Bukhari that no human being is entitled to obedience at the expense of the disobedience of Allah.

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Let's take some examples, which is real stuff that happens in our world now. For example, the husband tells the wife, I don't want you to wear hijab.

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I want you to go out with me a Japanese hijab. I'm not talking about the hammer. I want you to show your qualities. I am more proud of you. If you're more attractive. Should the women should the wife obey the husband? Absolutely not. He is not entitled to that obedience at all. No, I'm gonna wear my hijab

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so forth.

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Why since anaemia Halina the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned the Hadith Abu hurayrah say a Muslim there are two kinds of people of my own mind that I have not seen. I saw them in fire in the Hellfire, but I have not seen them in this world yet.

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Who are those regeneron ma whom?

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Neville Bell Bakker in their hands are sticks. Looks like the tails of the cows. They beat people with them. You know when you have a demonstration when you have a protest and the police standing with these black things in their hands. That's what the prophet meant. He said that I saw people from my own mother in the Hellfire but I have not seen them in this world yet. The first time are people who are standing they have sticks this black sticks you know when you have a protest, and you see the cops holding the and they beat the people with them regera maham forgot the word bomb shake gagnaire billbergia

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see out region now homeseer cat has never been better Yerba Buena be hardness.

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The second type one he says kaseya tune

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tune movie tune in a tune you know women who are dressed but yet they are what?

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naked? Oh Public Theater mo jewelers you become a jeweler of the Hellfire Heather homeownership, for the women should not obey her husband in this way. Another area

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in order for the husband to have intercourse with her while she is in her period. Can she obey Him? No, she cannot all have intercourse from the rear Can he can shoot you obey Him? No. That is haram. Those two areas she cannot obey their sisters don't obey the husbands. If he wants to have intercourse, intercourse. He can enjoy you without intercourse during your period. With the hair if possible. And men sometimes they request women to go into the real hairdryer from her home. This is haram in our religion, that women should not obey or cannot obey the husband in this area as well. You'll find also some men asking the women to describe her friends to her.

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There are some wicked people like this. I'm telling you wicked hearts.

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He would ask his wife to describe her friend, how does she look like? Should the women do this? No, she should not do this. Or she would add he would ask her for example, to you know, go with this man and be alone with this man and so forth. The women should not obey this husband. Number five, if he asked her to do something that she cannot be law you can leave alone Epson, Ilsa, don't come to life when she's dead, tired, sick in bed, she cannot even move and ask her to stand up and cook for you and stuff like that. Yeah, and either. Tata

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Tata, if you want to be obeyed, ask them to do something that they can do for you later you can live Allahu nevsun illa

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Allah subhanaw taala himself subhanho wa Taala does not burden a person more than what they can be.

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Okay, listen carefully to what I'm about to say even so, I said this, but I will repeat it once more, one of the areas where the wife must obey the husband and our sherea address this issue

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in a way that is straightforward, is that

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and I will explain to you the wisdom Why. Why what is the wisdom? Basically, what are the Hadith, that if the man wants to sleep with his wife, she cannot say no.

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She has to fulfill his needs. For you. Let me read the Hadith to you. But don't jump the gun here and say look at Islam and Raven, and women are just, we're gonna present it in the right way. Let's see the hobbies first different hobbies and these hobbies are authentic. Number one, Valentina. cvad by the woman whose hand my soul is, ma'am in law, Julian yet Oh merata who either Hiroshi

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Illa cannon. ladyfish Santa is upon Allah.

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By the one in whose hand my soul is a man who calls his wife to bet to have intercourse with her and she refuses. She refuses to accept the one in the heavens, who's down in the heavens. Allah subhana wa tada is displeased with her until her husband becomes pleased with her. Her the Hadith, Alhaji Tila

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Roger Luma de la Rashi voluntad de

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La Palma, aka hot

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if a man calls his wife to bet, and she refuses, she will sleep that night. And her husband is angry upset with her. The angels will curse her until the morning

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if the man calls his wife to bet the hedge it because of his need, felt that they were in Ghana to Allah. She must answer even if she is busy doing other things. Now be careful. This is not meant by it that you raped her that you jumped on her like you jump in an animal No.

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Remember when we spoke about personal Mahara? One of the ways of treating your wife nicely that you must do what do something called foreplay? And once it comes to bed, yeah, who are the women require a duration of time to be prepared to get in the mood. I cannot spell it anymore like this more than that. They have to get in the mood. Women are different to you, you have to prepare them mentally. yawata dC kaladze Santa Clara de la sala mentioned don't jump on your wife like you jump on it like an animal jumps on an animal. But let be a messenger between you and then I'll tell him a good word. You're beautiful. You're wonderful. You're You're the best one a while and the case. So also this is

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all this hadith that I just caught it must be in context it does not mean come here let me stay but

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that's not what is meant by this. Okay, we have to take this into consideration as well. And this is by this is why by the way

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Subhan Allah

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This is why the Sharia did not allow the women to do voluntary fast when her husband is a to

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voluntary fast Mr. Ramadan, voluntary fast. Why? Because while you're fasting, you cannot have what intercourse you must ask the permission of who of the husband.

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Now, is that also unrestricted

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is it

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Jani Come to bed come to colossian lab, there are some cases that this is not going to apply. Let's say the woman is really sick, come on, she is sick, she is pregnant, maybe a nine month Come on, and that will not make her feel comfortable in a way. Number two, let's say that you're going to occupy her from playing a mandatory Salah. Like let's say, you know, and the sun is about to rise that's a mandatory we're not talking about NASA here.

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And you want her now know she has to go pray First, let's say that she did not remember it. And the time for Russia is approaching her know she cannot come to you without what you cannot also be beating her in the morning and and and treating her in another like you know a thing and then at that night you want to sleep with her Come on. So you must in a way be also considerate of her condition.

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What is the wisdom Yanni? What is the wisdom behind this? But before I I explored the wisdom behind this panel I came across this, that the fact that the angels cursing

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human beings, there are some cases. One of them is the woman who does not fulfill the needs of her husbands.

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And number two those who curse the Companions for a fee Silla Saha, those who curse the companions of the Prophet SAW Allah Allah, Allah curse them. Angels curse them and the people curse them.

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man said boss hobby de la Natoma well Melaka oneness

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hadiza for sunan Oh Sahil,

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Whosoever curses my companions, Allah curses him, angels curses him, angels curse him, and people curse him. Also another one many diarrhea very heavy.

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If you attribute yourself to someone else except your father, and that goes to our sisters, Muslim sisters who change their names like Americans, he she takes her husband's name that's a big no in Islam. If you call yourself so and so and you change your father's name, Allah curses you angels curses you and people curse you have majority Muslim men in

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family law well America to Nazi Germany in the fourth case, men Ashura Isla de behad either if you threaten your brother with some metal some piece of like you, you you know, you're making him feel like you're gonna kill him. You have like a metal in your hand, a piece of iron and you Okay, I'm gonna hit you. I'm gonna hit you man. ashari Akiva de de Allah curses him because you're making your brother feel insecure about his life. Allah curses him that people curses curse him and the angels curse him and Nevis Allah Allah wa sallam Hightower in Ghana aha who Leon me he will be even if you do this with your blood, brother, not just Muslim brother bloody brother.

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The fifth case here, man after that I feel Medina the Hadith. in Medina, if you commit a bit die in Medina,

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Medina v Salalah, Salah, three Baba,

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Nabi sallallahu, alayhi salam, yaku al Medina to haram Salman Africa, sassy Hadith and I will

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defend even if you give shelter to somebody who commits a beta in Medina, Allah curses you the angels curse you and the people curse you. Now let's go back to the wisdom why the Sharia. Why the Sharia entitle the man to such arrived that when he wants his wife, okay. Now ideally, in an ideal case here we're talking about the Muslim family. The wife is staying at home.

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The husband goes way

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outside, he ends up looking at what

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Mahavira there is a first look that you cannot even control it. You know, you're walking around, especially around them. I wasn't Do you today man is crazy, man. I mean, like, you take your eyes off here and then you booted him, but you were there, especially with the summer is I mean, what are you gonna do? I mean, you take it. You wish your blind will lie? Yeah, I mean, in the sense of because wherever your eyes land, there is always a first look, man. That's a first look. that sucker is look. That's the first look

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Wherever your eyes like the only thing we're gonna do like this. Now you're gonna end up I mean, come on, you're a human being. Now shaitan Linda Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says, Allah Tocqueville roofie sarathi shaitan

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now Now a lot of people they misquote this hadith also they use it look at Muslims, they are anti women. They are saying about the women that they are sheltering. No, that's not what we're saying. Sad. It's like,

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it's like sorcery. Yeah. Sometimes you find that Janya women. Yeah. You don't even in a regular case you could not even kill us about but shaitan does what unifies her your eyes. Make her beautiful in your eyes. That's what happened but we're not saying that the women is shaped Ah, that's not what the Heidi threes, but shaitan beautifies the women in the eyes of the man now what are you going to do? Look?

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Muslim kita Monica Howdy, Javed Abdullah Ravi Allahumma.

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In Alma de tocqueville roofie surah t shaitaan. roofie surah t shaitan. Say either episodic una pelea Allah The in Nevada do math enough. See? Oh, though, when you see a woman that you desire, go to your wife. Oh, this will satisfy you.

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You see,

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our religion is practical. Don't pretend nothing. Sharia deals with Allah Allah woman. Ha ha. He doesn't know what who created us know that what we made off. Okay, just go to your wife. This will basically protect you from doing anything that is haram. So the first area where the women

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should be careful about once it comes to the rights of her husbands is the right to enforce the right to bed. But again, yeah, let's balance this Yani. You need to be careful about, you know, dealing with your wives once it comes to this area. Don't treat them like animals. Don't try to force yourself on them in a way that they do not like you. Women like to be talked to. Women like to be talked to you need to flirt flirt, you go and flirt with the people outside flirt with your wife. Okay. You're beautiful, you're wonderful and so forth.

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Another thing which is Subhanallah comes in in context of this is how can Roger Zina Jani the right of the husband, for the women to make herself What? attractive?

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What's happening now? It's very sad. You see, and this is I'm telling you causes a lot of destruction in our families.

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The women at home she careless about how she looks.

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He goes to the police. Yes sir. You go there. Like a police officer? Yes, you know like this, but as soon as she goes outside,

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Masha Allah,

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Allah Jalla. To whom is my wife, are you doing this? As nebby orajel Agnelli? A trippy What?

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The other way around?

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The women must strive to make himself attractive for her husband. MonaVie sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he mentioned at dunya Mata, this life is a temporarily enjoyment, while hieromartyr and the best of its enjoyment. What xojo? Will Masada had a righteous wife? The first thing is what is Elijah Assad? If you look at her, she will walk please you that Yuval Alisha she did not call her for a month or two at all in the house in some cases yet let the women should make sure that she's what she's pleasant. She smells good for her husband

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and wives and I advise them to do this.

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Not because they have to do it out of Cordoba. If you do this, by the way for your husband, seeking the neatness of Allah subhanaw taala seeking the pleasure of Allah subhanho wa Taala you get rewarded for this Subhanallah you do it outside, you get punished.

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You get punished. I quoted earlier for you as a Muslim. The two types of Muslims that the prophet SAW in the Hellfire sallallahu alayhi wasallam and they are not in this world yet. The second type is what the woman who goes outside what may elect movie lead so she is sinful if she goes and exposes her our

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Her beauty or she shows her beauty to the man but at all she gets rewarded of yonder Khadija, Yanni for the sisters who plays perfume on and go outside yeah and it's upon Allah How do you feel is the document IV masala sorry about the lavon listen to this a human ma is

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any woman who places perfume on

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perfume Let's read the smell her Lee Lumina in order for the men to smell her

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if moratalla camilia do minha Delica he has no idea

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if she passes by a group of people and the table smil herself as if she committed a

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misdemeanor in a Muslim and a lot of Muslim woman they do not even know this. She goes outside she's placing all this type of perfume or and the husband buys it for her

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The last one is the one who goes and a birthday gift to

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them

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well if this world is so weird, that'd be Yeah, I know a lot of people they watch this stuff or see the study this look at this guy this guy's living in his planet. You know, I'm gonna live in my planet, man. I'm enjoying it. I'm not gonna leave my planet.

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But I'm telling you, you're in trouble. I mean, it is a woman who goes by look at the Muslim woman. A lot of them they go outside with perfume on

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fire. He has ADHD as if she committed adultery Jani, the woman should help her husband to lower his gaze while he leaves out a will and

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why the the husband goes outside and look at women.

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That we have another issue now that we're logged equal I am telling us out of out of real real experience out of real experience. There are men right now who spend all their time in the computer watching women, other women and then videos and stuff like they don't even go to their wives. Because what they fulfill that fantasy which they have in their in the back of their head through the computer

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and they neglect their wives and this is breaking a lot of them. A lot of the wives they call me associate my wife My husband is married to the computer.

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Wallah is my daddy and

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my husband is married to the computer.

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Why? Because abeokuta biani help him out and take him out. Show yourself to him a little bit and reveal yourself more to him. Maybe that will attract him. We'll take him out of this. We're having issues Yes, we're having issue in our homes because of this. Because we do not speak about this stuff. We do not cover it we do not address it. So I tell the sisters seek Allah's pleasure in making yourself attractive and beautiful to the man

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do it out of this dude out of this another right where the woman has to obey the husband once it comes to it is staying at home how cool karate

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the people have not I don't go to detail this you know don't jump the gun here either at the zoo Lisa Jackie Hill Miss kenisha a la in who min hockey Allah. Allah who jammin who

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is the husband prepares for his wife a nice house. A nice home and he provides for her in this house 100% It is his right he's entitled to be asked a permission before she leaves this house for you.

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What do you mean by this that the house is secure is safe, that all her needs are fulfilled. her neighbors are not threatening her. But is this right also unrestricted health club? No it is not. It is not unrestricted. Rather there are some cases where the women can leave the house. without the approval. I would not say the permission because she still has to ask her permission. But if he does not give her the permission, she still can leave what are these cases and had

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the man the tool you had

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if the wife did not perform her mandatory Hajj and she has money to go to hide and and she has a machine that is to mama her father or a brother and the husband refuses rejects her refuses allowing her the order. This allows her to go for height. She is entitled

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To go and perform what what had Janna mandatory, not the voluntary, the one that is mandatory upon you in a lifetime. If she performed Hajj before that she went to go voluntary, the permission of the husband is a must. But if she did not perform the mandatory hijab, she goes and ask permission of the husband, he refuses, then she is entitled to go outside. And other thing is to go to the masjid, to go to the masjid. She goes and ask permission to go to the masjid and the husband refuses. She's entitled to go without his permission, why? The new wakasa diva Satomura with his wife

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and his wife used to to come and ask him any permission to go to the hospital and he tells her by Allah you know that I don't like this.

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Rama is jealous. Yeah. Yeah, Ahmadi echoes was so jealous that the Prophet salaallah Salah when he saw him in the dream, and he saw him having a house. And there is a women making will do in front of the house. And you know, I asked to Whom belongs this house, they said to Roger rice.

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Later on, he found out it was Omar. And then as soon as I was told that it was over, I remember the jealousy over I went away. Oh, Omar was jealous. He says to his wife, by Allah, you know, I don't like this. Either. Like you go into the masjid. But can he stop her? She said, I know that you would like it, but you cannot stop me.

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Why? Because the prophets, Allah

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insha Allah message,

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do not this allow or forbid, or breathe and the female servants of Allah, the houses of Allah.

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Another also case where the woman could leave without the approval, I would not say the permission, she still has to ask a permission to begin with. But if the husband does not provide the permission, then he can go, she can go.

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For example, her husband is not alone. And she has women issues. And she needs to learn about she needs to learn about power, for example, and the

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issues of women, for example.

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And her husband is not learned and he's not making this available for her.

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She has the okay to go out and find out the ruling regarding her needs. Also, as the husband does not fulfill her needs, she needs food. And the husband doesn't provide doesn't go shopping. So she has to go and buy also the stuff as well. Now if she is, for example, if the wife does the shopping all the time,

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a question comes here, does she have to ask you a permission every time she goes for shopping?

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I'm asking

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if there is a pattern, a special pattern of shopping, like she goes Tuesdays Fridays, you know that this time she goes shopping? She is here and then she doesn't have to ask her permission for this. Now if she is working, and you allowed her to work, and somehow her work does not expose her to fit nanopore. She is an icon of fitna, and she goes to work every day does every day, she has to ask permission for you to let you know that. What I want to say is if there is a pattern, like things that she does in regular basis, you can get one time approval. But what is the approvals are needed for is a special case is visiting this person go into that place, which is new, then she has to

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request approval, and so forth. But let's say that the house is about to fall down.

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And the house is about to fall down. Does she have to ask her permission to go out?

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Yes. Come on.

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She has to get your permission, right.

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She does not

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for you. Here's an interesting piece. What is the ruling regarding her going to visit her family's?

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Her family members.

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let's specify here. Let's say the father the mother, this is a priority

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and the brothers

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she has to ask her permission.

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Okay.

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We can sum up the views of the jurists regarding this issue into

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allowance 11. The first view is the view of Lima Abu hanifa Rahim Allah. He says, lei Zhu Zhu Zhu Jia alpha layer Zhu Zhu

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laya ju Zhu, Li Zhu Jie. It is not permissible for the husband to prevent his wife from visiting her parents, but he can find it two once a week.

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He said once a week at least once a week

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and the rest of her relatives once a

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Abu

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madhhab men have Abu hanifa Rahim Allah Jamia, he come he restricted that ruling to the fact that her parents or her relatives are unable to visit her

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of her parents.

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her relatives are able to visit her then she cannot go

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they need to come and visit her and she needs to take the permission of her husband in order for her to go and visit

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Why are al Maliki listen to this al Maliki interview is a laughter layer Julie zoji and em naza Jetta Minzy at Aviva

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Muna. It is not permissible for the husband to breathe in his wife from visiting her parents, as long as she's behaving

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you know that she's not doing anything funny and lovely is that

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as long as she's not doing anything funny, doing anything in Indiana, you skeptical Halas do not stop her from visiting. The second view is the view that I just put the view fully manually. The second view regarding the issue is the view of chef Annabella Alabama chef a humble they say it is permissible for the husband to stop his wife from visiting her family.

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Your annual haka and in the view of Lima Malik yeah and if he didn't have

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any especially early on he thought he will be bukanlah tabula Yahoo

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Yani She must be beautiful to her parents, you as a husband should not prevent her from fulfilling that right? You should not come in the way as long as there is no harm on you as long as they do not prepare her to come back home and fight you and there is no damage as long as there is what security so I really go with the view of a man Malik and the Imam Abu hanifa

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Rahim Allah help me

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another right here is do not allow anyone in here in his house without his permission.

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Pretty

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nice. Layer Hello limra and asuma was Ohashi in the evening. Well, then CBT he led the evening. It is compulsory, it is not permissible. It is not Halloween. I'm sorry. laya Hill means it's Hara layer Hill. It is not Halloween. It is not lawful for a woman to fast, voluntary fast when her husband is at home without taking his permission. allow somebody in his house without his permission.

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Oh, problem. Yeah.

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What about Elma Harry?

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What about relatives

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of

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the relatives of the hospitals.

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Let's talk about the father

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and the son of the husband,

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the father of the husband and the son of the husband, it is permissible to allow them into the house even in the absence of the Father. I'm sorry the hospital it is permissible Lainey homenaje Mahara Maria

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una vida Deena Xena tone a llama Amina

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waldrip na, the Homura hymnology Dena, Xena tahuna illa lebu Latina in the E Bula. T.

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lowly, the father of

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of the hospital the Newman Halima, also the son, the son of the stepson

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Cool the steps on here in our culture, which is the sun from from her husband, he can enter into time. What about his brother? His uncle her

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big problem a

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big problem ally. While law he big problems in our own Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Yeah, and he addressed this in a very serious way. Have you thought of 911 100?

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a year Komal hung up on a Komodo. Lisa, don't enter into the place where there are women don't call

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a man from nan sakala Rasul Allah, I tell him, what about the relatives of the husband? Meaning that the brother Lo, the uncle, and so forth call and have no

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ill? Will No, this is death, death

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problems in the Omega

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Baba.

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Let's say that the husband is not there. Here's a scenario and Subhanallah I was presented with this issue more than one occasion.

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And Ramadan has a woman whose husband passed away and she lives here in America, for example, and she doesn't have any relatives.

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Some people need to adhere Matata she's staying in the house because of the who's gonna take care of her needs.

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How can we handle this? Well,

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she takes the ruling of a woman whose husband is not at home.

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Two or three men go to get

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into the house.

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Yet for

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more about one by himself, more on a man and a woman by themselves. The Prophet says who's the third? shaper? The Salafi Roger.

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Roger will fail if you're a second man, a third man. This kinda takes care of the issue.

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Is it permissible? A good good question here.

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Is it permissible for the wife to host

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her friend into the house her male friend?

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Questions? Like let's say that you had a friend from school?

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When yada

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yada is a friend in school? Yeah. What do you mean friends? But is it permissible? Yeah, no, we have we have these. These are real life stuff. Yes. Is it permissible for the woman to allow a man from her side to come and invite him into the house, we say the husband must accept this.

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must accept let's say that someone who is a relative to her father

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Jani used to be the best friend for her father woman.

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Ma Gianni

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best friend and she wanted to do with Yana Nabi sallallahu Sallam told us that if your parents pass away and you want to be beautiful to them one of the ways to be beautiful to them and they would

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need to be nice to those who used to be nice to your fathers

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or your fathers used to be nice to them yeah, I believe it normal was riding something a camel or or a horse and he gave it to a bit when I said my father used to be nice to him.

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Imagine a woman wants to be nice to the analyst This is a scenario kanji the husband must agree the husband must accept to host him in the house. But can he come and her and his absence while his wife

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is present in the house right there and keeping an eye can you go okay man, can I go talk to your wife please for five minutes Can Can Can we do this? You cannot do this. You cannot have follow

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Sharia inshallah.

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Tavon and Nevis Allah wa salam fa sonyliv Nevada tirmidhi Jani zakharova kaha club Rajan. Right. We will answer multiple Mojave

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Mojave.

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So he came to the house of Omaha Viva in Medina, you know who's on Mojave. baramulla. Right interview Sophia.

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She's the one for the prophets, Allah Salah, whose father is what his father her father's who was a young calf.

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And he came a while the Prophet after the truth of a truce of

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killing some of the alliance of the Muslims and so forth. So he came in order to talk to the Prophet about not fighting the Americans and so forth the Hershey and he went to the house of his wife from law of Omaha. Viva

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While Abu sufian is not the one why the Prophet is not there. So Abu sufian enter the room of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the house of the modular of omo Habiba and he wanted to sit with

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and the prophets that she said to him no move.

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She said to him, move, move away. Don't sit there.

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I'm your father, that this is the place of the Prophet sallallahu iason for hapuku mala hin Allah you know Photoshop una mintaka who you know, Photoshop una foto sukham Manta Cahoon it is right. It is your right upon them that they do not allow anyone to sit in your bed. someone whom you do not like.

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Another idea what is the women the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned well ma ra attune Phoebe to jihad. subnormal. Al Bukhari, the woman is the guardian of the household of the husk.

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So she should not do what she should not mess around with the belongings of the hospital.

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She should Jani she should not waste his wealth. She should, she should not, in a way, mess up with the urine, his belongings and so forth. And in abyssal Lavazza mentioned we're in love and happy about houfy enough see her family and if the husband is not there, she got him regarding herself

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his wealth

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but one final right inshallah we close with this delight Allah shukran ma.

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Allah He and this is a big, big problem with

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that being grateful to the hospital.

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We have a problem and the

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winner is salatu salam ala Maha Vanessa fionnula when he addressed the woman

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on the DFA. He said to them, yeah, ma Sharon, Nisa, Etosha. dotnet

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Oh, women give a lot of sadhaka

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for me in Neeraj a to Xsara now.

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I saw you that the majority of the winners of the Hellfire

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the women by the way, are the majority of the rulers of the hellfire.

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A women, one of the women whom the prophets Allah, Allah, Madras Sheeran behind him, why are Rasul Allah?

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Why? Aleta Quran Allah, she

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was extraordinary. I say

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you are ungrateful to your husbands.

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You are ungrateful when the husband does a lot of good things for you. You do not show gratefulness

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam mentioned this in a very interesting way he said la Santa la you could not reduce the Huracan if the man is doing his best, his best.

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His best and then he messes up one time, one time. Then you see something wrong. Immediately you forget all the good things bestie can imagine this like

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you know like eraser. She only remembers what the bad thing which you did. An akula is Zelda mela Yash Coronavirus ha la escuela if you do not show gratefulness to the people that your husband The one who goes out there you're sitting at home, relaxing, chilling, and he's going out there in the jungle earning the bread going and working be grateful to him. We are

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the visits of Satan Abraham had a solid and sunny smile.

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In

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told us that when Satan Every man is Salam placed his family

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in Mecca, St. Abraham went and visited his son Ismail more than one time.

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In one of the visits.

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He arrived at the house

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and he did not find this man in the house. He asked his wife where is this male Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa salam wa Taala. What is your husband? She said, he went out to hunt for a sentence I used to be a hunter who is married with our son let me say,

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throw your outers offspring with a smile your father used to be a hunter.

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They used to go out to the desert to hunt

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And then he would return with the, with the animal and so forth. For Satan I believe is a lamb arrived when Satan is male Ali Salam was not the

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Assalamualaikum waalaikumsalam What is your husband? She said he went out to hunter to bring us provision. He asked her this question Kai Shu coma. How's it going?

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Mr. Harry, be sure

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to

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miserable

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no food

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truck for last year had more whatever his thought he's going out to bring food.

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So, when he returns

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when your husband returns, say Salaam to him

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and tell him change your doorstep. Ye Ratan Tata, Derek

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when Satan has made a solemn return

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he feels like there was somebody in the house who was here an old man he conveyed in Salaam to you and he By the way, he told you to change your doorstep

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change your doorsteps. Oh, that's my father. And by the way, he's asking me to divorce you.

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He came back another visit. Say nearby Molly Sarah.

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Again the same exact scenario. Sadness male is out hunting. The under now the second wife the new wife now is in the house As salam o aleikum. Wa Alaikum salam, what is your husband he went out hunting for us by K phi Sakuma. How's it going?

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behind

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everything is wonderful. hamdulillah everything is going so well. To save everybody. He also he wanted to make sure that wha mahkumat What do you eat quality La

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La Palma. We eat meat and we drink.

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Vodka Nebula is de Allahumma barik la Houma Philip me one Oh Allah bless the water and bless their meet your culinary Salallahu alaihe salam O Allah. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said commenting on this, if she would have mentioned lies and cold and bread and he would have also made dry and maca would have been filled with this shadow. The important thing here. Why did Ibrahim Alayhi Salam

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told his son to divorce the first skill I am telling you it's a miserable life. If you have an grateful wife at your house.

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It could be that it will be

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and she will never be great. She will never be great.

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This

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will whenever we bring the subject up. We always come up with this question Can the father command his son to divorce his wife?

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Is the father entitled

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to ask his son to divorce his wife mahananda Cobra him Elisa Lam asked his smile to do what? To divorce his wife, the one the common female if 24 soon in Omar rhodiola. On top he told Abdullah to divorce his wife

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Abdullah son

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to say no more today the law divorce this woman says not the law like that Why? He did not want to. So he went to the Prophet salallahu Salam ala rasulillah he said O Messenger of Allah. In Abbey morani, Moroni and otalia Casa de My father has commanded me to divorce my wife, what should I do? The Prophet sallallahu wasallam said to Abdullah Abdullah

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over your father.

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The whole issue was presented to the management, that question, can the father

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as the son to divorce his wife, you know what he said? If your father is the caliber of Abraham and

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let's say your father doesn't pray, and he comes and divorce you he doesn't follow the sun and he tells you to divorce your wife and follows the sun Allah don't obey Him.

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If you have a theory and

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he

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says

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Number

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one for home in your country there is a messenger a prophet after we would have been

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if your father someone who is knowledgeable, someone who has the religion, someone who's Masha Allah and Allah hi hello has entertained the idea But your father doesn't pray. Your father doesn't even know anything about the religion and he wants to dictate who you should have as a wife. You should not obey Him.

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In closing inshallah we say to the sisters, yeah honey be grateful to your husband show gratefulness to your husbands and Subhanallah Jani. One of the issues that the wives have the old was look at what the neighbors have what the friends are. Oh, I went to the house with my friend and my sister and she has this and this and this in the house. And I went to this place of the year of the tequila is out exotic is a taxi driver. Zodiac is is is is a minimum wage. Zodiac is studying is going to school attempt to levy and if you're online, the other one has been is our cane or maybe he's working a job Jani and Nevis Allah Allah Allah sent me a polka dotted Norma Muslim, but f la hammann

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Assalam wa ruzicka Katha waka na hula hula after successful a person who submits to Allah and he is having enough enough provision. And Allah makes him content and happy with what he has. Oh no, sir. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam advised us to do something very interesting kind of a Sai hangman

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about the Allah one that only a man who is filming.

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Always look at the person who is lower than you in the room.

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Yeah, and when you're driving in the highway, you're driving a fool. Don't look at somebody who's driving access but rather than the calhoon die, which there are other people who are either other people that this Russian old Russian car, look at the person who's worth lower than you and

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that you should look up to the person who is better than you in the religion. you strive to do what to be like him but once it comes to the dunya look at the one who is lower than you for inna who has done it will help you not to despise Allah has dairy net and metta Maha lake. Oh, it will help you. If you look at the people who are lower than you in the dunya

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it will help you not to despise the boundaries of Allah upon you. In sha Allah tomorrow in the light Allah will continue some of the rights of the husbands have on their wives the evening he die Allah.

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Allah subhana wa handig a shadow Allah Allah in the en esta Furukawa to re al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen