Controlling the Nafs (Self Control)

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In Alhamdulillah

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Muhammad who understood or you know who and it's still zero when our little do bIllahi min Shu Rudy and fusina worming say ye AR T Anna Lena Mejia Hedy Hill who fell.

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Woman you believe who fell I heard you wash your hair do

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Isla Illawarra who had their hula surely you can wash your hair do ana Muhammadan rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa was her the woman Tabby son in either your mid Diem yeah you her lady in taco la Chaka to cardi. What are the mood tune? We're into mostly moon

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have now died

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rasool Allah He sallallahu alayhi wa sallam call limnol So what Allah Who Adam fatale Jana Taraka who Masha Allah Who and yet Roca Sergio Iblees, who up for being young buruma who felon who at UF out of earn who Julio Casa you can lie a turmeric

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EMA Muslim,

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collects this hadith on the authority of Ns are the Allahu Allah

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Who says that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that when Allah subhanahu wa taala, created Adam and fashioned him and then left him in Jannah. For as long as Allah willed to leave him IBLEES came

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and started to circle him

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and observe him and study him.

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Because that is how a bliss is. He looks at us, he studies us he examines us and He knows us.

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And so when he realized that Adam Alayhis Salam

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was hollow from the inside.

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He realized that this is a creature that has been created, who will not be able to control himself.

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And so, my dear brothers and sisters, ALLAH SubhanA who had to Allah created us, with a body and a soul.

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And this human knifes of ours, this self of ours,

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its nature is as Allah subhana who were to Anna created. And so Allah Subhana Allah to Allah says, one f sin one so wa the L Halmahera. foodora. What taqwa and the human knifes and the one who fashioned it Allah subhanahu wa Tada. And Allah showed it, Allah showed us he showed us what is right and what is wrong.

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And so our nature is that we recognize what is right and what is wrong. However,

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the nature of our neffs is that it has desires that it wants to fulfill. And so Allah subhanho wa Taala he created with our human neffs a certain inclination to want to fulfill its desires, a certain inclination to evil.

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Has Allah subhanahu wa Tada says,

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As Allah subhanahu wa Allah says in the NAFSA amount to be su Ilana Rahim, Allah be that the nature of the neffs is

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that it constantly commands evil inclining towards evil. But what does Allah subhanahu wa taala want us to do?

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What does Allah subhanahu Attallah want us to do? He wants us to purify that knifes. He wants us to bring that knifes under our control,

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doing what He has commanded.

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Refraining and restraining from what he has forbidden, not the other way around.

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where our enough's is controlling us, and we have let it on the loose. And so those who call for freedom today are actually calling to slavery.

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If you hear people calling for freedom,

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then you have to realize that they are that what they are actually calling to is slavery. Because true freedom is not in letting your knifes on the loose to do as it pleases, but rather true freedom is where you take control of your enough's and its desires called the F la Hammonds aka Boko Haram in DISA. Allah subhanahu Attallah says

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that those who are successful are those who purify that knifes and those who are doomed, those who are doomed and will face the punishment of Allah or those who corrupt their nafs. And so most of us, we land into problems and we land into misery because of our own selves. Because we give into our neffs and its desires and we do not control it.

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And so, when our shall act intensify, when our natural urges and desires intensify, we do not control that knifes. We do not control our heart. We do not control

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our gaze, preventing it from looking at haram. When we are angered we do not control our enough's. We do not control our tongue. We do not control our hands. Instead of seeking revenge. Whatever the cost may be, when we are hungry and we see food

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and we want to fulfill that craving. We do it even if

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even if the food is haram or even if it leads to overeating. When we are addicted to something. When we have a craving for something and we have been away for it for some time. Our neffs

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it calls out for that thing. And so we go and we do not control our enough's and then we fall back into that addiction. When we are in our social circles and our social gatherings, we do not control our tongues. We do not control our enough's and our tongues, from a libre back leading others and an amoeba spreading gossip. When

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when

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when we are asked to give generously from our wealth

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we do not control the greed of our enough's that is telling us to withhold and not give for the sake of Allah subhanahu Attallah but rather to give for the fulfillment of our neffs and its desires. When we look at others around us, when we look at others around us

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and if they have been blessed with a certain blessing, we do not control our neffs and instead we envy others. When we look at others around us. We think we are more superior to them. We do not control our enough's and our heart. So we despise others. We look down on others, we hold grudges for others why? Because our enough is not in our control. When we sleep late at night,

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and we're all tired and we hear we hear the alarm buzzing for Salah till Fudger we turn it off. Why?

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Because our enough's wants to continue it's sleep, it's rest. And so our enough is not in our control, but rather our enough's is controlling us when we are in Salah when we are in Salah

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and our mind wanders off, we don't take control of our enough's to bring our thoughts back under our control, to focus on our Salah

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and to be in a state of hoorah. Instead, we allow our enough's to wander off.

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And so my dear brothers and sisters, it all starts. It all starts with self control, fighting back again

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hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen

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WA, Akiba to limit takim wala Illa Allah Vali mean in worship Allah ilaha illa wha hoo hoo luxury you can wash your hair do Anna Mohammed and do who Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala alihi wa sahbihi woman Toby sarin Yomi Diem. And now that fucked up Allah How are you better the Wahaca Taqwa what are people who see reiwa Najwa Yeah, au hell leadin man otaku la ha Well Tom do Neff some Napa dematerialized what taco la her in Allah hobby room Bhima Tama Loon, my dear brothers and sisters.

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When we look at the description that Allah subhanahu Attallah has given us in the Quran

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for the people of Ghana.

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And then we look at the description that Allah has given for the people of the Hellfire.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala mentioned certain qualities, certain characteristics of each group.

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And what they used to do in this dunya in order to earn what they earned in the alira What we find

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is that the people of Ghana

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were a people who strove hard

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and put in effort, day in day out.

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They struggled in this dunya against their enough's and its desires.

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And they did not give up

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and they did not they did not cave in.

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On the contrary, we find

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that the people of the Hellfire are those

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who gave in to the desires of their neffs

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and did not bring it under their control.

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They did not put up a struggle, but rather, they lived

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a life of leisure, a life in which they relaxed and enjoy themselves and did not bother to restrain themselves and their knifes.

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And so even logically speaking, if we were to think about it, who deserves the reward of Allah, and who deserves the punishment of Allah, Allah subhanahu Attallah created this world and set it upon justice. And the justice of Allah subhanho wa Taala dictates

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that the people of Jannah are those who strove hard and those who struggled

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and the people who deserve punishment or those who did not struggle, they did not.

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They did not put in effort in their lives. So Allah subhanho wa Taala says,

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says about the people of Ghana, what a man Mahathir Mohamad Obi Wan a Hanif sir, I will help

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the inner janitor here in

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the US for those.

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As for those

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who feared standing before they'll rub meaning on the Day of Judgment.

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They feared being brought to account on the day of judgment

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and they restreamed Their knifes from following its desires for them is nothing but Jana their home will be Jana. When the Rena Jaya hadoo fina learner Hadean whom Cebu Lana, and those who strive hard in our path,

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the struggle and they strive hard.

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Then Allah subhanho wa Taala says that he will guide them to his ways, meaning not all

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only will he guide them to the path leading to Jannah. But all of their ways and everything for them in this dunya will be made easy for them. And so, we need to learn how to bring our neffs under our control. And so among the ways that will help us to bring our enough's under our control, is first and foremost to remember

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to remember

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that you are nothing but a slave and a servant of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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you are not a slave of your nafs and its desires. And so, if we were to think about it, a bliss, Lana hula, may the curse of Allah be upon him.

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When Allah subhana Hua to Allah commanded him to prostrate down to Adam, what did he say?

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He said, and hieromonk

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conduct and even Noreen was a doctor who knew pain.

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I'm better than him. You created me from fire and you created him from clay.

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Look at how his ego came into play, and his knifes and his self esteem prevented him

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from obeying the command of Allah subhanho wa taala.

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On the other hand,

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when Allah subhanho wa Taala commanded Ibrahim Ali has set out to build the cada

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and then to pray towards the kava,

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and to bow down and prostrate.

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Ibrahim alayhis salam, his self esteem vanished.

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And he did not see that I am better than rocks and stone.

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Although yes in the sight of Allah subhanahu wa taala the movement and the believer is more noble and honorable, then even the Canada

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but when it comes to the commandments of Allah and His prohibitions, this is where the veneration of Allah comes into play, and our egos and our self esteem and our enough's disappear.

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Set Secondly,

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remind yourself of the consequences of giving into your enough's and not bringing it under your control the evil consequences that it results in, in this dunya before the next and so a man came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam once, dragging another man.

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And so he said, Ya rasool Allah,

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This man killed my brother.

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So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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he asked him, did you do that? He said, Yes. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam asked him, What Kitakata? Who? What made you to kill him? So the man said,

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Me and him, we were out in the woods.

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And we were cutting a tree. We were cutting it down for firewood. And so we got into an argument

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and he cursed me. So I took my axe, and I hit it on his head.

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And so look at the evil consequences

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of not controlling one's anger, look at what it led to.

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Thirdly, remind yourself of the rewards. So on the one hand, you have the evil consequences. On the other hand, you have the rewards of Allah subhanahu Attallah, for those who bring their knifes under their control,

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and so as an example, Allah Subhana Allah Allah says, in Surah, two Alia Imran was Sadie Rue, either another funeral or to rob become more Jana. What Jana Tina how to do her center where to

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clean and race and compete with one another. For AGN.

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A Jenner that expands the width of the heavens and the earth

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that has been prepared for who prepared for the people of Taqwa.

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And so, who are the people of Taqwa Allah subhanahu wa taala then says a Latina human fuku and Ephesus are raw. The raw world cow we mean a lovey, well, fina honey nurse, Allahu you hipbone seen in. Who are they they are people who spend of their wealth

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both

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In good times as well as in difficult times, and they are those

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who restrain their anger and they are those who part in and forgive others.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

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concerning those who restrain their neffs and their anger, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Whoever suppresses his anger

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while being capable of venting it out.

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Allah subhanahu wa Tada will call him on the day of judgment in front of all of the creatures,

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and will say to him, these are the hood of Jannah these are the women of gender choose whichever of them choose whichever of them you want.

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And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, concerning those who restrain their neffs and control to body parts, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, whoever, whoever can guarantee for me,

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what is between his jaws, meaning his tongue,

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and what is between his two legs, meaning his private part,

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then I will guarantee for him China. Look at the rewards of Allah. All of these are examples of those who restrain their knifes who restrain

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themselves and their desires. Fourth, we learn from the lives of the prophets of Allah, the prophets and the messengers, and how they restrain their nuts. Look at use of it his Salam being at the prime of his youth,

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and then being in the position that he was.

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He was not in a position of advantage.

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And so he was invited and call to commit Zina.

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But he restrained his knifes, and restrained his desires, and instead, control them for the sake of Allah subhanho wa taala. Also, later on in the story of Yusuf Ali, his Salam, another beautiful example, when his brothers came to him, and he had gained leadership in Egypt, and they came to him and they did not recognize him.

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And they left and they came back again with their younger brother Binyamin.

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And he took him, he took him

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he seized him.

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And they said what they said

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that if he has stole,

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if he has stole than his brother before him, meaning Yusuf Ali has Salam also stole so what does Allah subhanahu Attallah tell us about Yusuf Ali has Salam he could have expressed his anger he could have laid it out

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and said what are you guys talking about? I am Yusuf How dare you say that about me? No, sir. So Raha used to fulfill in FCT welcome you ready? Hello, Homer. Use of hurry has Salam restrained himself, he let it to remain within himself. And he did not. He did not. Let us know his secret of who he was. Also look at the life of Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the many, many examples in his life of how he controlled himself, and in many instances, controlled his anger. Look at the day in which he went to PA F. And the people, they rejected him and

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they injured him. And he came back. And on the way back to Mecca.

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The mountain, the two mountains and the angel of the two mountains, came to him and said, if you wish I could take the two mountains and bring them down and destroy these people.

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Even though the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was in the state that he was in, he did not let his self to control him and allow his anger out of out of control. And so he said no, perhaps out of the children of these people. They will come people who will worship Allah subhanahu wa fearfully feed your neffs

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feed your enough's with the fuel it needs to reach success. And that is

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Through the worship of Allah subhanahu wa Dinah, and the constant remembrance of Allah, both in your heart and upon your tongue. And so,

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whenever you are in a state in which your nests is calling you, keep your tongue moist and busy with the remembrance of Allah subhanho wa Taala calling upon Allah for help seeking Allah's help seeking refuge in Allah from Shaytaan, who is calling us to fulfill our desires and finally,

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and finally, whatever you do, do not give up.

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Amen man once came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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complaining

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about

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his brother's stomach.

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And so his brother, he was ill, and he had a he had an upset stomach.

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And so, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, is he Isilon

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give him honey to drink. So the man he went, and he gave his brother honey to drink.

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But he was not cured. So he came back to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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complaining about the same thing. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam advising him with the same thing, saying is The SLM give him honey to drink?

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The man goes back and the same thing nothing happens he comes back to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the third time

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and this time the Prophet sal Allahu Allahu wa salam says, so the Allah Who occurred about to speak is the he iclm

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Allah subhanho wa Taala has spoken the truth

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whereas the stomach of your brother limes,

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give, give him honey to drink. Allah has spoken the truth when he said in the Quran

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fee he shifa, only NAS, that in this honey is a cure for people. And here was the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam a man who was convinced of the truth that Allah had revealed that there is no doubt that it is cure and for sure he will be cured.

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But the point here was, do not give up.

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The Cure will come, but it will come in time. The point is, do not give up.

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As Allah subhanho wa Taala says, Yeah, are you ready in? Manos? Biru wasabi roo what are these two? What duckula hala Allah come to flee Hoon? O you who believe.

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Be patient.

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And don't only be patient, but endure impatience. Persevere in patience. Not only that, what are the two stand guard?

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Stand guard

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and fear Allah if you want to attain success. And so what we need to do is that we need to stand guard against our enemy, who recognize our weakness on the day that he that Allah subhanahu wa taala created our Father, and he said that this is a creature that cannot control itself. We need to stand guard against shaitan who knows our weakness? We need to stand guard against him and persevere patiently against our knifes and bring it under our control without giving up

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