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Islamic Self Help Hadith 4 – Avoiding Harm

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This is part four of a Radio Series on Islamic Self Help Hadiths, based on the free eBook ’10 Self Help Tips from 10 Authentic Hadiths’ – available here: http://payhip.com/b/RYyW

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Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh you listening to radio silence is a Tuesday night after 9:30pm and that means it is time for loving Islam I'm your host is Mike calm, continuing on our series for the month of January 2016, in which we are looking at how this is related to personal development and growth. And these are these are taken off as I mentioned in the previous episodes, from my free eBook 10 Hades is on self help or 10 self help tips from 10 authentic ideas. The ebook is available as a free download from my website, Islamic self help.com. So if you type that in Islamic self help.com and you visit the website, you can download the ebook for free from there and

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follow along. In that ebook I discussed in her thesis related to personal development. And what we are doing in this show we are going through each of them one by one. It was an episode dedicated to each Heidi's going into detail as to what is the Heidi's actually mean from a FICO aqidah perspective, as well as how does it relate to personal development and growth and our daily lives, right, because this is loving Islam. This show is all about taking the teachings of Islam and applying them in the real world to every scenario that the Hadith says we are looking at are not Hadees, which are specific to certain topics, or certain genres are certain areas of fic. Rather,

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these are general headings that can apply to many different areas of life, which includes our personal development. as Muslims, we don't just come up with our own rules, we don't just come up with our own guidelines, whatever we choose to do, it has to be grounded in the teachings of the Quran, and the Sunnah. And so it's important even when we are setting goals, or learning time management, or learning self confidence, or any other area of personal development, that we do it from a perspective of what does Islam say about this topic, and is because of this mindset, and this idea that I've started this program, living Islam, and I put together my website, Islamic self help

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calm, and I've written my books on time management and self confidence and self help from an Islamic perspective. All of this is available on the website, Islamic self help calm and you can also purchase the books here at the bookstore. So we talking about the thesis on personal development, and this week being the fourth week of January will be our fourth hedis. We have discussed thus far. This number one was on intentions, that every action is judged by intention. So we said that from a personal development perspective, this means that every goal that you set for your life, you need to make sure that that goal is based on sincere and good intentions, then what you are doing, you are

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doing it for good reasons, not for selfish reasons, not for Islamic reasons, not for materialistic reasons, but for reasons which are pleasing to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Then in the second week of January,

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we looked at Heidi's number two from this book, which is the Hadith in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stated by him in whose hand is my life, it is better for any of you to take a rope and to cut some firewood and to carry it on his back and to sell it than to ask anybody for anything. And so that Hades which is a means of prohibiting or begging is also a warning against asking people for loans and asking people to lend you things and to to give you things that it is more honorable for the believer to work hard to earn and to spend on what they have earned even if it is literally even if it is a job which other people look down upon. It is better to earn your own

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wealth, and to purchase things that hello world tend to ask people for money. The third Hadees, which we discussed last week, is the Hadees in which the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stated that the people most beloved to Allah are those who are most beneficial to mankind, and that the most beloved de to Allah is to make a Muslim happy, or to remove one of his difficulties or to forgive his death or to feed his hunger. And so from here we learned that when we are choosing our goals, we must choose goals that are beneficial for the oma. We must live a life that is beneficial for the oma, our vision, our goals, our career, our pastimes, everything needs to be aimed towards

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benefiting this oma rather than selfishness. Now, this week's Hades

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takes us to the opposite side of this specific spectrum. We split we mentioned last week that the entire sherea the entire Islamic law system revolves around two concepts, benefiting mankind and removing harm from the lives of mankind. This is what Islamic law is all about. This is what the Sharia encapsulates that the Sharia is all about benefiting mankind and removing harm. So last week, we looked at the Hadees, about benefiting the most beneficial the most beloved of people to Allah are those who are most beneficial to mankind. This week, we are looking at the Hadees on which the other half of the statement is based. And that is, the Hadith scholar Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi

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wa sallam last door while at the roar, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has stated do not cause harm to yourself or to anybody else, or in the more literal translation, harm may neither be inflicted nor reciprocated. Now, this is a very, very important Howdy, howdy said, you will find it almost every chapter effect in almost every book of my constitutional area and taking all of the technical sciences of Islamic law. This Hadees pops up over and over again.

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It will not be an exaggeration to say that half of the laws of Islam are related to this Hadees.

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Last week, we learned that our goals must be beneficial. This week, we will learn that they should not be harmful to ourselves to anybody else. Now, this one is I actually brought it up multiple times of living Islam before because on many different topics, this hadith comes as an evidence. And you will find this Hadees listed in some books as fake or fake. Under the five most important principles governing Islamic law, known as the in Arabic as a way to Hamza

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lucubra, Hamza, the five major Maxim's, or the five major formulas of Islamic law, that in Islam, when you look at the laws of Islam, there are five formulas or five general laws that applied across the board to every area of Islamic law. Right, these five things, you will find him in every part of Islam. Amongst them is the actions are judged by the intentions, that unusual levels of difficulty causes the laws to relax, right?

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These are amongst the laws, which are universal and found in every aspect of Islamic law. And amongst them is the universal law do not cause harm to yourself, or anybody else who as it is listed in many of the 100 people so pick that harm must be eradicated by this is that this is the principle harm must be eradicated. What does this mean? This means that our Sharia revolves around the removal of harm, therefore, any action whose harms outweigh its benefits and as a cause of harming oneself, or harming somebody else such an action is haram. It is prohibited in Islam. The only time that something harmful becomes permissible is if the benefits outweigh the harms. And so the entire

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Sharia works on the scale of weighing benefits and harms. And those things whose benefits outweigh the harms. They are allowed, and they're part of our Sharia. And those things whose harms outweigh its benefits, they are prohibited, and I will show you does not allow us to come close to them. And this is a very important principle to bring up in Dawa as well, because very often when you're doing Dawa, you will hear the non Muslim stating things like that alcohol has benefits, right? They will say this or D has benefits or certain types of drugs have benefits. And our response is very simple. The harms outweigh the benefits. In fact a lot superheterodyne himself in the Quran talks about the

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benefits of alcohol and gambling. Unless Mantilla mentioned in the Quran that they say they ask you about gambling and alcohol, say anything is benefit and anything is evil, but the evil outweighs the benefit. This is a verse in the translation of the verse of the Quran, Allah is saying yes, definitely, there may be some benefit in drinking alcohol, there may be some benefit in gambling. But this is the birth of the entire show revolves around but the evils of gambling outweigh its benefits. the evils of alcohol outweigh its benefits, therefore, it is harmful. And so from that verse of the Quran, where Allah speaks specifically about alcohol and gambling, and he states that

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these things are haram even though they may have some benefit in them from the the scholars of Islam

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I have extracted the general law, that if the harms outweigh the benefits of something, it is harm. And if the benefits outweigh the harms, it is halaal. And this becomes the balancing scale in which many things are weighed, that is called of Islam will look at something new. And they will look at it and decide, this thing here, does its benefits outweigh its harms, or its harms outweigh its benefits, and accordingly, a law will be passed upon it. So you will find many people today, you know, who don't understand Islamic law, you'll make statements like there's nothing wrong with smoking because it's not mentioned in the Quran or Hadith. People who say this, they don't actually

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understand the the principles governing Islamic law, because this Hadees and this principle and this verse that we mentioned, all of them, clearly prohibit harming yourself.

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And what this means is that anything you do to harm yourself is haraam.

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So you draw your conclusions from them. If the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam has prohibited every means of harming yourself, can we then say that this thing is allowed because it didn't exist in this time, when we know its harms outweigh its benefits, when we know that it's so harmful that they have to put warnings on on these packages, we know that it is so harmful, that amongst the non Muslims, they are all running away from it in the next generation, by and it's sad to say this, but you know, in the in the modern society, there are more non Muslim communities who have realized the harm to smoking and cigarettes, and they have abandoned it, and they've given it up completely, and

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they are disgusted with it. And they are trying to rescue their communities, while amongst the Muslims, it remains a norm that people don't care about, until they get that message from the doctor that they have gotten cancer or lung problems, or something else caused by it, and then it is too late. So brothers and sisters didn't understand this, about our show here. I will show real revolves around the removal of harm. So if you are doing something that harms you, or somebody else, you are doing something that is prohibited in Islam, as Muslims, not only should we not be smoking cigarettes, but we should not be selling it, we should not be buying it. And we should be having

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campaigns to help people give it up, we should be working towards the removal of this virus from our societies. And I mentioned this previously, that recently I was doing Dawa, to an elderly Christian in our in our community. And he told me, why is it the majority of smokers in Durban are Muslim? And I didn't know what to tell him because I will explain to him how in Islam, all harmful things are prohibited. And he said but we Christians we stay away from cigarettes, those of us who are practicing and serious about our feet, he says but I see Muslims walking out of the mosque smoking. So how can I take your religion seriously, think about this. Think about you know about about this,

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not just about the image of giving Islam. But think about the logic behind you as a practicing Muslim doing something to harm yourself. Because this is what the Hadees is prohibiting Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam has clearly prohibited all forms of self harm. And this includes in the modern DNA just include cigarette smoking, this includes drugs, this includes pornography, this includes, you know, I would say this includes over eating right and making yourself sick. This includes eating things that your doctor told you not to eat, because they're going to make you sick. All of this is included. If you know that something is harming you, you should be staying away from

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it because Islam tells you and teaches you not to harm yourself or anybody else. So we need to take our first break now. When we return we'll continue talking about this Hadees and its general implications and then we will go into its into its specific meaning in the field of personal development. So don't go away. We'll be right back after this break.

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh you listening to living Islam on radio and Sir, I am your host is my camera and we are talking about the Hadees on the removal of ham, La da da da da da do not cause harm to yourself or anybody else. This Hadees is mentioned in the 40 hadith of a NaVi which is a collection of 42 Hadees is around which the entire religion of Islam revolves. And this is one of the earlier Hadees and mentioned in that book because one first of Islamic law is based on this Hadees really you know, if you practice and follow this Hadith, you are following one foot of Islamic law, if you just stay away from harming yourself in any way, or harming anybody else in any

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way, you stay away from these two things. That is one fifth of the Sharia encapsulated, because by staying away from harmful things, you are staying away from alcohol, drugs, gambling, Xena, cigarette smoking, pornography, all of these things, you are staying away from it because it is harmful. Right? So just by practicing this one Hadees you are now following one fifth of Islamic law. And shall we say that this has played a major role in Islam. And

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you know in terms of fic you will find entire chapters and entire books dedicated to explaining this Hadees and its application to different things in in different points in time. So for example, my personal fatwa based on this Hadees is that the reckless driving is wrong. I this is something I firmly believe. I believe that reckless driving is wrong. Someone may say but cars didn't exist in the time of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam traffic laws don't exist in the Quran or Hadith. I people will say just I would say to them, the Quran and Hadees clearly tell us that it is prohibited to put yourself or anybody else in harm's way. And when you are driving recklessly, you

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are harming yourself or you are endangering yourself and anybody else. And very often it's not you who suffers but some innocent bystander. And just two nights ago, when I was walking to the masjid for silica, I heard a loud sound. And I see a man hitting a windscreen and flying across the road that this man was crossing the road to go to the masjid for sold out. And someone else was driving recklessly driving through the red traffic light without stopping. And he knocked this man and injured him.

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So you tell me is that something that is allowed in Islam to drive like that, and to endanger people's lives? So this is something we need to be clear about our religion has prohibited all harmful actions unless the benefits outweigh the harms. And there's no way to say that the benefits of reckless driving outweigh outweigh the harms. But if you want to be strongly on time, leave early, don't drive recklessly.

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So this is something that we need to keep in mind in every aspect of our lives. So how do we practice this hedis. To practice this hedis we need to stay away from things that harm our self, as well as staying away from things that harm others, which means this Hades It has two parts without Durrell without the roar, don't harm yourself or anybody else. And so this means there's two things we have to practice you any action which is inflicting harm upon yourself. prohibited don't do it. Anything you are doing that's hurting someone else prohibited. Don't do it. Unless, of course we're talking about those things which Islam has allowed. Because the benefits outweigh the harms. Right?

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So you know, let's let's look a few examples of things which are prohibited because they harm yourself. You already gave the example of reckless driving and smoking cigarettes. Along with that comes drinking alcohol in any of its forms or drugs, any form of drugs because they do intoxicate your mind and put you in a state where you don't know what

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You are doing. And not only that, but you are harming your body. And you know, we know the consequences of drug overdoses and these kinds of things. So these things are prohibited in Islam. Right? Any form of self mutilation is prohibited in Islam. Now, let's look at a different angle. When we say that Islam stops us from harming ourselves. What about harmful thoughts? What about harmful words? And what I'm talking about is putting yourself down.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stated in the Hadees, do not belittle yourself, do not consider yourself low, do think of yourself as nothing. Right? Do not put yourself down.

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And this is something that many people don't, don't consider part of the religion, they think is humility. To to put themselves down a ladder in Islam, you need to understand You are the creation of Allah. You are someone who Allah has chosen to be a believer. Allah has given you the qualities that you have. So don't insult it. Don't insult yourself, you are insulting Allah's creation.

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So don't call yourself stupid. Don't call yourself an idiot. Don't call yourself useless. This is not the language of a believer uses on himself. Rather, you must think positively, you must think positively, unless you have a handle della steepster Howdy, Sal bootsy. I am, as my servant thinks of me, again, positive thinking, I am as myself and thinks of me. So if you think that Allah is not going to help you, he's not going to help you. If you think Allah will help you, he will eventually help you. If you think Allah is never going to forgive you, that's what you're going to get. But if you think that if I work hard, and try to be good, Allah will forgive me, then that's what you will

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get. And so our religion tells us to be positive thinkers, not negative thinkers. So these are forms of self harm, which are prohibited, and the others which are obvious as well, like committing suicide, Allah protect us all, from suicidal thoughts, and from any temptation to harm ourselves in any way. And you know, that the modern society is one where people are very reckless about these forms of self harm. by many people in the modern world, they have this yolo yolo, you only live once attitude, and they have this this lifestyle of, you know, you do what you want. And, you know, you can worry about you and you get older. And very often people who think like this don't get older,

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they die young from these crazy things that they do. Right? There's a reckless driver who says I'll drive slow when I get older, because of his reckless driving, he never got older. Right? That person who was smoking and drinking and taking drugs, seeing, you know, a company to get out when I get older. It never happened. That person who taught they'll commit Zina now, and when they get older, they live a righteous life. And they ended up getting an STD right from from from that center. They never recovered from it. So think about this rationally, don't harm yourself. Anything which Allah has prohibited, he has prohibited it because it harms you. it harms you specifically as the

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individual is harm society, you think you having fun, you think you're having a good time. But that that is a

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that is a covering for what's really going on inside. You know, you mentioned in the Quran that she promised to beautify, fall short to beautify evil. And so what you are looking at, you are looking at the outer shell, you are looking at the outer beauty, not realizing the evil that lies underneath. So you're looking at those parties, and those clubs, and an alcohol, and as Lena as something, you know, beautiful and tempting. But what you don't see is all the harm behind it until it's too late until it hits you hard. And now suddenly, you know, you're stuck in something, you're stuck in a problem that you're unable to find a way out from. So if you avoid these things, you

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avoid problems. If you take care of your health from a young age, you benefit from that in your old age. And this applies to every area of your health. If you're someone who's smoking cigarettes, I guarantee you if you give it up, within six months, you'll be fitter and healthier. And that giving it up would benefit you for the rest of your life. And you may even prolong your life in terms of health and in terms of how long you remain fit in this world. Right? It's the same if you have an overheating problem of you don't get enough exercise. Or if you're someone who is lazy. These are things which to chevier discourages if you get foot from now, it will benefit you 10 2030 years down

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the line. But if you think now I worry about the when I get older. You before you know it the doctors diagnosing you with a disease caused by by you know being obese, and it's too late to do anything about it sometimes. So you know, you have to take care of yourself from now, as a believer, you cannot harm yourself. You have to live a clean cut lifestyle, no drinking, no drugs, no alcohol, no smoking.

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No harming yourself in any way. And this is something that you just have to let go of completely is for your own good. You live a happier life, you live a more peaceful life, you live a healthier life, and you live longer because of all of that as well, that people who stay away from these harmful things, they are more likely to live long, they're more likely to be foot. And I know, I've seen people who stayed away from these things. And you know, I know that now as elders in our community. As elders, they are footed into youngsters. I know people who are 67 and 70 years old, but they are more fit and more healthy than many 20 or 30 year olds, because they stay away from

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these things that are harmful to the body. They stayed away three from the time they were young, right now when they're elderly, and they are benefiting from it right now. So as a believer, you need to think properly, you need to stay away from things that harm you, and stay away from things that harm anybody else. So what are things that harm other people, and we spoke about things that harm you, and really the things that harm you. They also harm others. How so we know that smoking harms the smoker, but it also harms someone who's standing near him and inhaling that air while talking to you. And many smokers are very, you know, I'm mindful of this, they will smoke in front

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of children, they'll smoke in front of a pregnant woman, they're smoking in front of their friends who have asthma, their friends who don't smoke at all, not thinking that now not only am I harming our own body, but I'm harming that person's body as well. Think about this, now you're causing double harm, you're harming yourself and the other person. So this is something to think about. Even if you drink alcohol, that doesn't just harm you. it harms other people when you're intoxicated. It's the same with drugs. It's the same with Xena, Xena doesn't just have the individual, it harms an entire family. Sometimes it harms the entire community. It's a social issue that has ripple

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effects across the society. How many divorces are caused through Zina? How many families are broken up? How many parents stop talking to their children? How many people died of STDs? How many people live lives of of dishonor, because they chose the part of sinner because they chose that which is harmful. You're not just harming yourself, you're harming your family, you're harming your friends, you're harming society. And these are things which Allah has prohibited because of the harm that they cause.

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So it's very important for us that we stay away from all harmful things. We need to take our second break now. When we return we'll continue talking about his hobbies. They are staying away from things which harm you and others don't go away. We'll be right back after this break.

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Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh you listening to live in Islam on radio and sir I'm your host, Ismail conda. And we are talking about the Hadees of not causing harm to yourself or anybody else that da da da da da. We said that one fifth of Islam revolves around this Hadees that if you practice this Hadees then you are practicing one foot of Sharia law, one foot of Islam and we spoke in the previous segment about the first half of this Hadees do not cause harm to yourself.

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Have, we said that all things that harm your own body and your own life are prohibited in Islam. And you said these things don't just harm you, but they harm others around you as well. And that takes us to the second half of the Hadees

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which is not to cause harm to anybody else. And there are many other pieces and verses of the Quran that support this point, the most famous of which is a Muslim woman selima Muslim woman, listen, he was sad that the Muslim is the one from whose hands and tongue, other believers are safe. Meaning that if you are a true believer, you are not going to say or do anything that harms anyone else, that the proof of your belief is in effect, that you don't harm people. Your proof of your belief is that people feel safe around you, not just from physical assault, but they feel safe from you ever saying anything bad about them or to them. And so we need to stay away from anything which falls

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under the category of harming others. And we know the most basic examples of that is oppression. Right? All forms of oppression are prohibited in Islam, that Allah is the most just and he loves those who are just and he takes the side of the oppressed against the oppressor. Even if the oppressed is not a believer, and the oppressor is a believer. This is something that you must consider very carefully. Allah takes the side of the oppressed against the oppressor, even if the oppressed is not a believer. And the oppressor is a believer, meaning don't think that because you are a Muslim, you can oppress someone who is not a Muslim and get away with it. No, Allah will help

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that person against you. Because Allah is most just and he's always on the side of justice.

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So we should avoid harming people, how do you harm people beyond oppression, you know, any type of fighting, you know, causing this unity in the community. bullying, this is a major one in amongst young people in our time, that people are bullied into committing sins, they are bullied into bad habits, they are bullied into humiliating situations. And this has become the norm amongst young Muslims, parents should teach their children not to be bullies. Unfortunately, very often these children who are bullies, either the parents don't talk to them, or their parents say that it's not, it's not my son, it's somebody else, or their parents, you know, are in denial, or the parents

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themselves are bullies, that you get those children whose parents beat them up and bully them around. And so they do the same to their friends in school. So

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this is something that is that is that we need to speak about in our times. And that is the issue of bullying, that parents need to sit down with their children, and explain to them that this is wrong, and why it is wrong. And what is the proper way to deal with other people. And the schools should also have programs against bullying, they should have an anti bullying

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program, where you work together to help young people learn to deal with the differences nicely without bullying each other. Because this is causing major problems in schools across the globe. Even though of cases where people commit suicide, because they were bullied, it is not a small issue. So when we talk about not harming others, this is something that needs to be taught to all Muslim children, and even non Muslim children to all children and young people in high school and primary school kids, this issue of bullying needs to be cleared up. And they need to be taught the proper way to deal with each other. Remember that if we are not showing people the right way, they

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come up with their own ways. And this is, you know, the way that many of them go to

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now what are other ways in which people harm others? This cheating, right bribery, corruption, deception, cheating, all of this is harming other people. Even if they don't realize it, it is still harmful, it is still prohibited in our Sharia. And we spoke about this two weeks ago, when we spoke about the importance of earning a halaal income. We said that income which comes through cheating or bribery, or deception, or Riba or stealing in any way, is haram. It is not acceptable money, and there is no Baraka in it. So we need to stay away from these things we need to make sure our source of income is Hello, we need to make sure that the way we spend our money is hallel. We need to make

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sure that we are not harming anyone in our pursuit of wealth, that our pursuit of wealth is clean. And it is something which is benefiting the oma and it's not something that is harming the oma. And this is the area where many Muslim businessmen, again, tend to you know, ignore that. People have this capitalist mindset that they will get to the top, you know, no matter what, they will step over others and you'll find people slandering their co workers, just where they can get a promotion, said the other person. You'll hear people putting on other people's products and companies throughout the

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Just let they will get the business. All of this is haraam. All of this is harming the society causing disunity, harming the business of our fellow Muslims. And all of this is prohibited in Islam. And beyond that we have the issue of backbiting and slander. These are also other ways in which Muslims harm each other. And these are things which are really tearing our society apart, that for some reason, you know, when somebody walks out of the room, everybody thinks that you're supposed to say something bad about them. And that is the complete opposite of what Islam teaches. Rather, as Muslims, if you're going to say something about somebody else, make sure it's something

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good. If you are going to speak about somebody else, make sure that you say something good. Don't say things which are harmful, neither to their face nor behind their back, there is no benefit in this. I want you to think about what benefit Do you get out of speaking bad about a fellow Muslim?

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What benefit Do you get out of backbiting, or even worse land and I see slander is worse, because it's a lie. It's inventing things about the fellow Muslim, which are not true at all. Allah protect us from doing this. So these are things that we need to do that we need to consider when it comes to our practice of Islam. That is a practice of Islam, in which we neither harm ourselves or anybody else. Now, coming back to our theme of personal development and goal setting. How does this Hades fit in with that theme, right? Over the past two months, we've been talking about having your goals for life and setting these goals, you're working towards them. What does this have to do with this,

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this is teaching us that when we set our goals, they should not and the means to attaining them, attaining them should not be harmful. It is very important for us to keep this principle in mind when formulating our goals. Our goals should be harmless, and they should be beneficial. This is very important that our goals be harmless and beneficial, meaning you need to sit and look at your goals in life. What am I planning to do? Is it going to harm anybody? No Alhamdulillah? Is it going to benefit others? If yes, 100 Lila, these are two things which have a primary concern to the believer that what I'm going to do with my life should not cause harm. And what I'm going to do with

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my life should be beneficial. These are two things that you should consider in everything you do with your life. From the career you choose to the place you choose to work at, to the kind of things you choose to sell, to the goals that you set for your life, to the hobbies that you choose for yourself. Whatever you choose in your life, it should be free from harm, and it should be beneficial. Because these are the two parts of Islam. Islam came to benefit humanity and protect us from harm. And so we should make sure whatever we choose to do, should not be harmful, and it should or the same time be beneficial. Unfortunately, we live in a capitalistic society and in this

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society, it is so easy to fall into the trap of only thinking about your own self interests. And so many people in this situation in order to attain their goals, they start to mistreat others, right, you may want to step over somebody else to get a promotion. So you find a Muslim, slandering another Muslim, just so that you can get ahead and attain his goal. Allah protect us from doing these things.

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You may find a Muslim, mistreating his employees just where he can meet his goal and his quota for the month. May Allah protect us from being unjust to anybody. You may find someone taking advantage of the kindness of somebody else, if it helps him to meet his goals. May Allah protect us from taking advantage of people and make us those who are genuine in our relationships with others. And you may find people looking for shortcuts. So they may engage in Haram. Because they feel it's going to make them more profit, not realizing that they're Haram is going to harm the society. May Allah protect us from harm sources of income.

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So as Muslims, we need to be firm in our principles. And it's not easy in this modern capitalistic society, it is not easy to be firm in your principles when it comes to goals when it comes to business, when it comes to your career, but this is our test. This is what Allah is testing you and I would then the Day of Judgment, when he asked us about how we earned our wealth and how we spent it. Will we be able to answer him in a way that he'll be happy?

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And he said difficulties because how wrong is all around us. And it's so much easier to become wealthy overnight if you go down the heroin route. And it's a much more longer and difficult path to earn that wealth the hallway and so people

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attempted, they attempted to sell her on things. They attempted to take a rebar based loan.

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They attempted to cheat, and to gamble, all in the name of get rich quick, you know of getting what they want overnight becoming billionaires quickly. Understand that the halaal way, the right way of doing things is not easy. It requires sabar. It requires persistence and consistency and dedication and firmness upon your principles.

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And so this is something that each and every one of us need to think about in our businesses, in our careers, in our studies, in our goals, in our lifestyles, that we remain committed to the principles of Islam, which is the principle of benefiting humanity and not harming ourselves or anybody else. If we remained firm on this principle, we will be able to attain goals, which not only benefit us, but the benefit the oma. And in doing so we make this world a better place. And we remain happier.

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We remain happier. Because we know we haven't heard anyone on our way to attaining our code. Because if you are hurting people on the way to your top to the top, anybody that you hurt along the way is going to go onto your conscious is that guilt is going to play on your mind. And you're not going to be able to sleep peacefully at night, knowing that you have so many people and one day it's all going to come back to haunt you.

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So there must be people of benefit and it is not the people who are harmful to others or to society.

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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh barakaatuh you listening to living Islam on Radio landstar I am your hostess makhanda and this week's episode we've been talking about the Hadees that dada da da da do not cause harm to yourself or to anybody else. And this Hadees has been extracted from Noah Noah is 40 Hadith as well as from the Hadees collection of even larger it is one which the scholars have based one foot of Islamic law upon that our sherea

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sherea in which we are prohibited from causing harm to anybody that our Sharia is meant to be one of of peace of benefit, and we should not be doing things

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which are harmful,

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right, which are harmful to us or to anybody else. And we spoke about this in details over the past.

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Over the past 45 minutes, we spoke about things which harm us things which harm other people and how all of this is prohibited in Islam. Now, going back to the topic of goal setting, and we said that we should set goals which are neither harmful as which are helpful to ourselves or anybody else. And at the same time they should be beneficial to society. Last week we focused on the benefit part, this should be focusing on the importance of not being harmful. So this means making our goals you must avoid harming people directly or indirectly. An example of indirect harm is dealing with rebar. Right and I need to mention this example.

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because too many people nowadays have become what would be the right word. We've become so immune to Riba we, you know, we don't even look at it as anything. And many people don't really understand why it's haram or what what's the big deal, especially the on the side with the benefiting from it. Now we know that one of the easiest ways to get wealthy in the modern world is through Riba that if you keep your money stocked up in a savings account, and every month the rebar is tacked on, you know, the interest is added on for years upon years, it accumulates into a large amount of money. And this, you know, many of the financial books by non Muslims, they encourage people to use this method

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to get wealthy. And unfortunately, many Muslims have adopted it, because it's the quickest way to get wealthy. And as I was saying, before the break, you know, this is unless test upon us, we are tested to see whether we are going to do the right thing or the easy thing.

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So many people may say, but you know, my wealth is just sitting in my bank account, and you know, it's growing. So I'm not harming anybody. So what's the problem? Well, you think you're harming and you're, what you're actually doing is, you're harming people indirectly. What do we mean by this, we mean, the rebar system, the way it works, is that anybody who is receiving rebar who is receiving interest, somebody else has been charged interest, right? So on one hand, you've got the wealthy few who are benefiting from this system. And we're piling up interest based money in the bank accounts. And then you have the majority of the people in this world who are owing the bank's money. And as

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the months go by, more and more interest is added to that which they are owing the banks.

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So you think that you're not harming anyone. But by choosing to use this system to get wealthy, you are actually harming all of the poor people around the world who are in debt, and who are suffering through this global economy economic system, which was developed by the disbelievers and which is clearly causing harm to society. If the interest based banking system was beneficial to mankind, it would have been a means of eradicating poverty. Rather, all that it's done, is created an imbalance in society that we have now the 99% and the 1%. We have a small group of people

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who have the majority of the wealth on this earth, because of the system. And we have the majority of people on earth who are suffering because of the system. So don't think that you are not harming anyone, by choosing to be part of the the Barbie system. And using that to get wealthy, you are getting wealthy, off the poverty and debts and revolve all the people in the world who are suffering to that same system. May Allah keep us away from being on either end of the Rebus system and may clean us from this and help us to revive Islamic alternatives, and Islamic economy.

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So when chasing our goals in life, besides harming others, we also must avoid harming ourselves. And this is something very important to see because very often when we chasing our goals, we end to end we tend to end up working too hard, pushing ourselves too hard. And this leads to burnout, it leads to disease, the too many diseases, it leads to people getting tired, it leads to people being unable to work on the goals in it, it leads to some people neglecting their families, right some people become workaholics and they don't have time for their families. Unfortunately, some people don't have time for solar, may Allah protect us for becoming like that. Some people get burnt out, some

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people get sick. This is again when you are too obsessed with your goals. And so going back to the idea of not harming yourself. This means in this context that when chasing your goals in life, we must have a balance,

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a balance between chasing our goals and fulfilling our rights, the rights of others the rights of our own bodies and the rights of our Creator. So, of course Firstly, number one, we should never compromise on our Sala our obedience of Allah in any way. When we are setting or chasing our goals, Allah always comes first and love comes first. Therefore, we should not for example, Missy sola in order to make money. No, Salah is always number one. Someone who plays the stroller on time properly everyday, Allah will put Baraka into wealth, compared to that person who chooses to spend their urges to who chooses to earn money while missing the stroller. Then that person

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is choosing you know dounia over Dean and only harm will come from that. So number one, the rights of Allah we should never compromise upon it.

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The rights of people, right, our family, don't become such a workaholic, that you don't have time for your wife, you don't have time for your kids, you don't have time for your parents, for your relatives, no. Take your time for family. And find the balance between family time and chasing your goals and earning holiday income. And then finally, yourself.

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Worry about yourself, take your time to take care of yourself, get some rest, get enough sleep every night. You know, get get enough food, eat healthy food and make sure that you that you are energized throughout the day. Give up on bad habits that are ruining your health, like over eating and smoking cigarettes. And, you know, have halau fun in the evenings in order to recover your brains. Right in order to relax and to enter recover, you need this. So you need to be healthy because if you are healthy, you'll be more productive and you can do more for this Deen. And you can do more for yourself and you can attain your goals. But if you are not healthy, then you aren't able to do

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anything for anyone, not even for your own self. And this reminds me and with the story and this is the last study which we're gonna do for, for this episode is becoming close to the end for this program. It's the Heidi's offer the famous the happy Buddha was very close friends with someone at Farsi, these are two Sahaba. And someone Alfonsi one day he came to the house of Buddha. This was before the Lord of hijab revealed and he saw that Amir de la the wife of Buddha was in a state where she looked you know, in modern terms to see she looked depressed. I had her clothes were not needed here was not needed. And she had basically in a state of depression and state of sadness. And she's

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not what to complain about the husband and so on knew that something was wrong. So he asked, what's what's going on? What's the problem? And she simply replied that you're your friend is very pious. He, he prays all night and he fasts all day. And when she said that sermon, I promise he caught up. But the problem was that her husband wasn't spending time with her. Because he was fasting all day and praying all night. He wasn't spending time with his wife, he wasn't getting intimate with his wife. He wasn't. You know, conversing with him. He wasn't he wasn't with her. He was engaged all day in a bar. And so someone else actually decided he was going to show up with practically the correct

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way to practice Islam. And so what he did was he spent the night at the house of Buddha. And he stayed on it was lunchtime, and he told a Buddha to eat with him. And I told him to and fasting and someone said, I'm not going to eat unless you eat. So it wasn't a compulsory foster Buddha that broke the fast and he ate, and he wasn't too happy about it. Then that nighttime came in. So luckily shower was over. And I would decide to stop bringing his kiambu babies to hydrate, you know, he has a habit of praying tahajud from the time of shower until the time of budget, and some of us he ordered him to go to sleep. And again he was angry. You know, I want to pray salon you telling me to

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sleep, but you listened. You know, this was his guest and this is someone he respected. So he went to sleep. But halfway through the night he decided to get up and start putting his 200 against some advice. He told him to go back to sleep.

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And then about half an hour an hour before fudger someone else he woke up Buddha and told him now you pray your family now you pray.

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And I wouldn't have traded in the summer party sat him down and explained things to him. And he told him listen, your Lord has a right over you. But your body also has a right over you. And your family also has a right over you. So give everybody their rights. I wouldn't know when to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to complain about what some of our parents he had said and done. And Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Upon hearing this advice with some advice he told the man is right. sermon is right. I want you to think about that. If in Islam, you know, it is discouraged to pray and fast all day all night in a way that you're not spending time with your family, and you're

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not taking care of your body, and you are not fulfilling the rights of yourself for others, then that applies double to dunya. I mean, that's Dean. And still you have to make time for your body and time for your for your family. So what about jr then, you know, you shouldn't be working such that you don't have time for your family, you don't have time to take care of yourself? No, you have to strike that balance. You have to strike that balance because of the Hadees that we studied today. La da da da da da da did not cause harm to yourself or anybody else. This is the golden rule for success in this world and the afterlife. So whether we come to the end of this week's episode next

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week, we'll be looking at Heidi's number five in my book, and again, for those of y'all who joined us late the book is available for free download from my website, Islamic self help.com if you go to my website, you can get hold

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The E book for free. It's called 10 self help tips from 10 authentic pieces. And when you download this book, we are now on Heidi's number five which we'll be discussing next week, which states that the most beloved D to Allah are those which are most consistent even if they are small, very powerful Hadees which is very important to goal setting very important to personal development, very important to ibadah we will talk about all the details or an explanation of the Hadees next week inshallah, same time, same place Rachel answer, Tuesday nights at 9:30pm. So I will see you all then, remember, La da da, da da da as Colorado lawyers lawyer so learn to not cause harm to yourself

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or anybody else. That is the advice of Rasulullah lube right and you'll be living a life of Islam a life that is pleasing to Allah until you meet again, just like Allah Hey, Ron Walker, Davina and hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen wa Salaam Alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh