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smart man Rahim Shangri La salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah Subhan Allah Solomonic con la vaca to welcome to the flock class. Today inshallah, we will discuss the flock of the Muslim in his community. Now, the circle is getting bigger and bigger, we started with the lack of the person himself, within himself with Allah subhanho wa Taala with his close family members, wife, children,

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relatives, parents, and now after that, we discussed the neighbors.

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And last week, we talked about the flap of the Muslim with his Muslim brothers. So today, inshallah we'll continue with the bigger circle, which is the flag of the Muslim in his community.

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We already discussed the law of the Muslim

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with his brothers. So what's the difference now, between his brothers and in his community, and the people in our community brothers

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interact with them on a regular basis? Yes, actually the flap of the Muslim with his brothers when we discussed it, mostly those who you know, now, even if you don't know them, even if you don't have any interaction with them, still they have rights and obligations. So let's say that the last week we talked about the people that we know or we interact with them, now, the people who we don't interact with them, even if that's the case, still they have rights.

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The first thing you need to remember that the Muslim in his community, by default, he should be social

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and social, what do we mean by that?

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People feel comfortable, when they look at him, when he looks at them.

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The messenger sallallahu wasallam said in a hadith

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narrated by the magic mala and others,

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Al Muslim or el momento malefor.

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Not laughter means friendly person, the believer is friendly person, and there is no good in the one home people cannot take as friend or he doesn't take friends.

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This is also reported by Mr. Mohammed Rahim Allah in the Muslim and it is hard It hasn't it is accepted Hadith.

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So in this Hadith, basically, the prophet SAW Selim is telling you that if you are not friendly, then you are not a true believer. But what do we mean by friendly?

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we mean by that people can if they look at you, if they talk to you, they don't sense the aggressiveness or the

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harshness in your talk in your actions.

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Unfortunately, nowadays, we are living in a time where everyone is talking about himself or his considering only himself.

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And that's his focus. But in the in Islam, we have to think of the Muslim community.

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That's what we mean by socializing. Don't think that socializing means every day you waste two hours, three hours on the phone, talking with people, after you pray or whatever, just like that you are talking and wasting your time. That's not what we mean by socializing. But once you needed to interact, once people wanted to talk to you, they find you a friendly person. That's the meaning of

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socializing.

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Nowadays, even in small examples, like everyone is,

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is alone. He is taking his way. You notice that the Father is busy with his work, the mother, whether she is at home or she has another work, everyone eats in different time alone. The children the same thing. If we asked for a project, please we need

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a project and the work should be collective work from many people. Everyone wants to do his own thing. Why? It is a problem we cannot.

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We don't have the patience or the we are not accustomed to

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welcome others

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or to have them saying whatever they want or doing whatever they want. Imagine just imagine someone knocked on your door. You don't know him. And he said,

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I want to spend one day with you have no place to go.

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What will happen to you you have hundreds of things to do in the morning, next day, but are these for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala or it is just our life that we are consuming

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ourselves too much with our life. It is real problem.

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There are many examples where we don't have time to accommodate others we don't have time to, to welcome others to talk to them. In Islam, the Muslim is friendly person.

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Remember what even has Muhammad Allah said? He said very nice statement, if you remember in the o'clock when he said make sure that you want to be described as

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dangerous person what What did he mean by dangerous person

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that people fear interacting with you, because they know that they won't get anything from you, you will beat them always. If there is a transaction, you will make profit and they want if it's in something else, they will not benefit. So make sure that you're not described this way.

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So that's what we mean by socializing. profits are seldom How do people interact with him?

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What was their feedback about the messenger sallallahu Sallam?

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They didn't they like to see him always. They didn't they like to stay with him always. And try to compare yourself now how can you do and how can you be like that?

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Are people bought whenever you exceed like the time you you are given.

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Once you are not there, you are missed or they are happy because you're not there. These things you should think of.

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The next thing about the Muslim

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is that he is sincere.

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You should be sincere in your actions with Allah subhanaw taala. But at the same time, you should be sincere also with your brothers. Now we mentioned

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that when you give an advice for your Muslim brother, you should be sincere. But what if you don't know him? Again, you still you have to be sincere? How you should be sincere to a woman that you don't know.

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Okay, can you do this? There are many examples. The prophet SAW Selim said in a very eloquent and concise Hadith

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do not say religion is sincerity or sincere advice.

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Do not say

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the prophets are seldom said that he briefed the entire religion in towards a dinner

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when he was asked to home or messenger of Allah, say hi to whom

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we should give advice to him. Prophet SAW Selim said to Allah

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delay, while kitabi while you're actually very amateur Muslim in our meeting, now say hi to Allah to His Book to His messenger

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to the leaders of the Muslims, and to the generality of Muslims.

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But now see how when we translate it to English when it's translated as advice, but that's not really the exact translation. Now see how in Arabic is broad term,

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it includes all

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the good, wishing all the good for the one that you are giving the advice to that's the the true meaning of nausea. Therefore, we have some expressions in Arabic. Like I said, NASA,

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NASA ha and then NASA.

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As a NASA, honey as well is the honey. We say as well.

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As anassa means purified honey.

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purified honey means it's very, very pure the best. So when we say it is insane, means that you wish really all the good, it is pure. You don't have any personal gain

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out of this, Nancy, so no Say hi to Allah subhanaw taala to His Book to His Messenger by following the prophets of Salaam, loving him following his Sunnah, believing in Allah, reading the Quran, all these things, we can discuss them

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in different places. Now we're talking about the last thing you give now say hi to the leaders of the Muslims and to the generality of the Muslims.

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That's the true religion. So if you find someone telling you, I don't know him, so I don't care. Who is he? I don't know him. So

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I will not really focus on dealing with him in a good manner, or I will not give him the best deal. Or I will not do

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the thing that he wants most. I will do whatever I want, then that's not nothing.

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Again, we're talking about people that we don't know.

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Still,

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that's there. Right? And that's our obligation towards them. We have to be sincere.

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We have to be sincere to them.

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Because when the prophets I seldom said in the Hadith that you love for you

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rather watch your love for self whether you know him or you don't know

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in order to perfect your Eman So the same thing here.

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Also when we say you are sincere, that means the Muslim does not cheat.

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He does not deceive, does not stab in the back. Imagine yourself in a place. You're just visiting for a couple of days. And you're coming back to a different place. And you know for sure that you won't go back to the place that you're visiting. So whatever you do,

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no one can come to you, or reach you again.

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Do you say hamdulillah if I did whatever I want now, no one will come to me again. So let's cheat or Let's do this. Let's take whatever I want, then you are not sincere.

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You have to be sincere whether they knew you or not, whether they were able to reach you or not.

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The prophet SAW Selim in many a hadith he taught us how to deal with people.

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One of these a hadith the prophet SAW Selim said,

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Mohammed Salah Alena felice, Amina woman, oshana, Phyllis Amina, however, there's arms against us is not one of us.

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And whoever cheats us is not one of us.

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Now regardless, you say Oh, but he cheated me.

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You don't do the same. If people did something wrong, you don't do the same thing.

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And we know the famous story when the prophet SAW Selim was

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walking in the market.

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And he saw some greens and he put his hand in the in that basket and it was wet. So he told the man What is this and man told him?

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It rained? On the top you see very nice quality, very nice things. But then in the bottom, you don't know what what is the that is cheating.

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And how many people do this nowadays?

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We need to change and we need to change in practice not only by words by saying

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look at this great Hadith.

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Also, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, do not hate one another.

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Law, the Bible

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and do not envy one another while at the hazard

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and do not turn your backs on one another. While at addabbo

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be slaves of Allah and brothers for corner I got the lucky one.

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It is not allowed for a Muslim to avoid his brother for more than three days. I highly Muslim in an era how falcata Allah?

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We will discuss the first part of the Hadith do not hate one another.

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What should I do? I don't like him, I just just cannot deal with him. Professor is telling you do not hate one another. That's it.

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Period. Do not hate one another. What do I do with my feelings? Yes, you have feelings, you may not be able to control them. But you can control your actions at least at least you deal with him as if you love him.

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One of the things that the prophet SAW Selim was great in his that he made everybody thinks

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that the profits are some love the most more than anyone else.

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Everyone comes to the profit side silent processor and gives them the same attention, the same love to the love to the limit that they think

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they are more beloved than anyone else. And that's why I'm open last for the alarm in one time he asked the messenger

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who's the most beloved person to? He asked him this because he thought that he's the one

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can we do this? It is difficult. Imagine yourself if you're able to do this, do not hate one another.

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Do not envy one another.

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What's the definition of envy?

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What's the efficient?

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having one?

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That's close. Envy is wishing the removal of the blessing from others. That's the envy. You see someone got a car and you say How did he get his car. You are upset because of that. Or someone

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is making that much money. You

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See how he's making that much money and you are sad and because of that, there is envy and see how many times we do it

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and we we tend to ask Allah subhanaw taala to question him why this person got it and I did not get it

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that is envy.

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The believer does not carry envy in his heart

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Professor Selim says well ah hacer

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la while at the hospital well as a double and do not turn your backs on one another. turning your back could be physically and could be

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rhetorical example.

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You turn his back your back to him many times it could happen, do not do it.

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Yes, profits are certain even in sitting when we sit, he taught us how to sit

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that we sit in a circle.

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Why? So no one is giving his back to the other. Why is this because this is

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a way it may cause hatred.

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You may not think about it, but eventually it may cause some

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some hard feelings.

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Allah subhanaw taala described the setting of people in paradise one brothers Allah Surin motorcar believe they face each other, so they don't, they are not giving their backs to each other.

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See how this is great even in paradise.

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Be or slaves of Allah brothers, Vokoun, Eva de la Juana,

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the brothers, how we become brothers.

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When we avoid those things, avoiding hatred, avoiding envy, avoiding turning our backs to each other.

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In another narration,

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the same Hadith is detail, do not envy one another. Do not defraud one another.

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Do not despise one another.

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Do not turn your backs on one another, and let none of you make an offer over the offer of his brother.

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The slaves of Allah brothers, every Muslim is a brother to every Muslim. He does not oppress him, nor betray him, nor deceive him nor despising.

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taqwa is right here. And perhaps Arsalan pointed to his heart.

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It is sufficient evil for a Muslim to look down on his brother Muslim, every Muslim is sacred to every other Muslim, his blood, his property and his self esteem.

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This should be

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written in every house, and you should remember this, this is like a covenant between the Muslim and all other Muslims.

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You will never see something like that in any

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civilized society. No matter how much they are advanced the technology in other things, they will not reach this level. But Islam and hamdulillah we had

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these ethics of brotherhood.

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It needs just implementation.

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Do not envy one another. If you saw a person who got something and you are wishing for it, you said hamdulillah you pray for him. Actually by this you are praying for yourself. Instead of saying Subhana Allah how he could get it. I have been trying hard and I did not get it and he got it. That will create some

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I'll give you a simple example here in our institute, when the students don't want to disclose their grades

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or that will put more pressure I got this and they did not get it. What is this? Why you are feeling

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we should not

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be afraid of others and we should not ever one another. We should encourage each other

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and be happy if something good happened to my brother.

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Writing the full Hadith you have it

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another great Hadith

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Which is narrated by Abdullah number of menos

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de la one woman.

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The love number of last.

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He said, we were sitting with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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And he said, one of the people of Paradise will now come to you.

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And the man of the unsolved came along.

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The next day the prophet SAW, Selim said, that's the same thing. And the same man appeared.

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On the third day, the prophet SAW him again said the same thing. And the same man appeared again, for three days.

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The Prophet sighs alum

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is saying that a man of Paradise will come to you. And the same man came,

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he gave the glad tidings of paradise

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for someone, and that was the same man, a blah, blah, blah. So there are no man, he was a smart man. He wanted to see how this person

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was able to get the glad tidings from the messenger assassin and for three days,

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and that's

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the right place where you can

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have hazard, the good has a good envy. Where do you want to compete in doing good deeds, that's permissible, but not competing in dunya.

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He was a smart AI, blah, blah, blah. So he wanted to see why this man got this prize, the glad tidings of paradise. He went to that man.

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And he told him, I want to stay with you. I had a quarrel with my father, and they want to stay with you. So the man allowed for him.

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And the lockdown glass around him, he wanted to observe what this man is doing. That he deserved the glad tidings from the messengers on second. First day, nothing, everything is regular. The next day, the same thing on the last set, I did not notice anything that is really

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significant.

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The third day,

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the same thing. So I'm the law said, I should just go because

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I did not find something special. But he asked him, he said, You know,

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I wanted to stay with you, because this is what the prophet SAW, Selim said, and I wanted to see what you're doing. And I really did not see you doing anything much more than what I'm doing. So the man told him actually, that's, that's what I do. Usually, I don't do anything extra.

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So Abdullah left, once Abdullah left the man remember, they told him, you know, but there is one thing that I do every day, before I sleep.

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I don't carry anything in my heart against any one of the Muslims. And under law told him that's the thing.

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Sometimes we carry things for years and years. Yeah, it happened like, seven, eight years. Just remember when you were a child,

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if you have two children,

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one of them is younger, like two years. Now, usually the older will be the younger and he will take the things. But look at the younger does he come and tells him Look, you did this last day? They may be crying, but at the same time they they come again and play. Why? Because their hearts are pure.

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That's how the heart of the Muslim should be.

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Your heart should be pure.

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Oh, this man he did something to three years ago. Yeah, he get over it.

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Forget it. It happened and it happens and it may happen. We are human beings.

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We should not carry these things because we expect from others to make mistakes, to do things wrong sometimes. But we should forgive and forget. Get over it.

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Imagine if you went to the masjid.

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You entered the masjid.

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And you saw five people

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lined up.

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Everyone is watching you.

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Once you came, the first one came to you and he told you

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while you are coming at this time.

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And you told him I want to pray and he told you You are late. Then the other man came and he said don't pray here you should pray there. Then the third man came and said why you are wearing like this in the fourth and everyone gave you something. What would it be?

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More likely you will not come again

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to this Masjid. Why?

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Because everyone is waiting for something wrong to happen to tell you don't do it.

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But imagine if you entered another Masjid. And you found five people, they are just welcoming you, telling you welcome and making you comfortable. That's how the Muslim should feel when he is, amongst other Muslims, even if you don't know that

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we need to do this. We need to practice it, because it happened. And we want it back again.

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Now we complain that this is happening here this problem, because we still our hearts are not really sincere enough or purified 100%.

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Another

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Hadith, which is very important, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, faith and envy, do not go together in the heart of the servant language. And he said, Well, he man fell behind.

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You cannot if you have a good container,

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you have a special

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precious thing. You don't contaminate it, you don't put something spoiled in it.

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It doesn't work.

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So whether you have a man or you have hazard, or when you have hazard, it will take out the man.

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What does Allah subhanaw taala say about how we treat each other.

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There are many ayat and we will choose only few Now it's your turn to find out other ayat from the Quran. Allah subhanaw taala says you are the denominator of who will output or your whole belief fulfill obligations, these obligations

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whether it is to people, you know, whether it is marriage contract, whether it is something that

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there were witnesses or something, there are no witnesses.

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Something that no one knows except you and that person fulfill obligations it is general to everyone.

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Imagine if you fulfilled every obligation, whether it was verbal or written

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that's the true Muslim the true believer

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in another Ayah

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well phobia delay is I

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will attempt to do a man about the Toki dia and fulfill every engagement for every engagement will be inquired on the day of reckoning well for will it in the land Academy Sula.

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Awful glad in LA The Economist melodicism saurashtra.

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And while for beyond the law, this is uncertain

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if you know you won't do it, just don't say it.

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This is for transactions or for our things for promises for everything. But there are other things also.

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Allah subhanaw taala says you will have the nominal limit Hakuna Matata. Follow this is insalata soft kabara mactan en de la and the Hulu mulata fun

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all you who believe why you say that what you don't do

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and then sort of Bukhara Allah subhanaw taala said a hole in NASA hasna tell people that which is good.

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Talk that which is good.

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People does it mean

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only the believers,

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Muslims, everyone, everyone. So if you should say the good word to everyone. by necessity you should do this to Muslims.

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So we ask Allah subhanaw taala to purify our hearts to be true brothers to each other and to be true believers inshallah we will stop here and if there is any question

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from the students here are online Do we have any?

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Anyone online? Okay

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hadith of urban Omar was yes, there is weakness in that Hadith Hadith of the nama. Scholars talked about it, but again, this is the place where we implement it.

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Because in Fabiola, man, you can implement the Hadith which are weak, but the weakness in that Hadith is not strong. And some scholars actually, they consider it good Hadith. They say that when Mr. Rob the law of the land, human life, he didn't apply actually. Because he quarreled with his father.

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But it was not that he came for because he was able even after quarreling, he was able to stay. Anyway. Yeah, that's true. This Hadith there is weakness in it. That's true.

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of the last of the lawn,

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and other questions?

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Okay, then we'll stop here inshallah. Santa Monica