Refining the Self – 16

Isam Rajab

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Some Lark Monahan, Shangri La salatu salam ala rasulillah Allah Allah Samana, Santa Monica de la hora Canto,

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welcome to the class of a flock. Today inshallah, we will discuss the relationship between the Muslim and other Muslims. Now, if you notice the circle is getting bigger and bigger, we started with the Muslim within himself between him and Allah subhanaw taala. And then the Muslim with his parents, with his spouses with his children, and now, the Muslim. After that we discussed the Muslim with his relatives with his neighbors, and now the Muslim with other Muslims, how he should deal with them, what's the ideal relationship between the Muslim and other Muslims?

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Now, before we discuss it, I will mention the story. And that story is very significant, and it could tell us many lessons. But it is only one example about how Muslims lived together, and the time of the messenger science and then how the students of the prophet SAW Selim treated each other.

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Jam a ladder, we have the laquan, one of the companions, he said, after the Battle of earlier Mo, and the Battle of Fallujah or mokwena. It happened in Jordan, what we call nowadays, during the Muslims and

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the Romans.

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And the Muslims were victorious in that matter, but many Muslims were killed.

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He said, I had a cousin and I was looking for him

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within the casualties, the people who are injured, and I found him on the verge of death,

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I carry with me some water, a pot of water. So if if he needed to drink, I may give him drink, if he needed to wipe his face. So I offered him the water and the emotion that he wanted the water.

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But once he did that, he heard

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a voice of a man who was mourning in pain. So he told me to go to that man first.

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So now look at

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how they prefer some people over themselves. And you may say, yes, if my brother asked me for something, I may give it to him. But look at when they did this in a very difficult time. And usually when we are troubled, we don't care about anyone else. We are thinking only of ourselves. yet.

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His cousin told him to go to that man, he went there, and it was side glass.

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And he told him the same. He offered him the water and he wanted that water. But then he heard another man moaning in pain. So now there are three people. And he did the same thing. He told him to go to that man first. Now they are on the verge of death, they are almost dying, and they need anything any help.

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Yet, they prefer other people over themselves. So he went to that man about john Muladhara, the alarm on that man was already there.

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He returned to site. And he was already that he went to his cousin to find him already that

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the three of them died. They did not get anything. But definitely they will be rewarded for their intention. How can we reach that level?

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How much do we need to reach that level? especially nowadays, when it's always about you?

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How much can you make?

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How much are you better than others?

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Look at the ads on TV commercials and anywhere you go. It is always about yourself the ego.

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If you want the blessing from Allah subhanaw taala you want to you have to think about others try to give in order for you to get but nowadays, unfortunately we are on culture that teaches everything should be about you. How much can you make? How much can you study? How much can you do? And it's always about you. In Islam, it is about everyone else. And Islam teaches us that if I wanted to benefit, I will benefit by helping others

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will learn from the Sunnah of the messenger sallallahu sallam.

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Once he came to Medina, after building the masjid, he established the Brotherhood

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between an Mahajan and an Ansel.

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And you already started the terms of these

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of this brotherhood. So what are these terms? If you can remember

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You share your wealth. Was that one of the terms?

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They help each other? That's what the other What else?

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There are specific terms.

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protection.

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Stay with them in their houses if Yeah, if there was the Brotherhood established, and the immigrant does not have a house, it will stay with, with the one from the answer. If the one from the unserved died, who will inherit in

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the immigrant that was earlier at that time.

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And we had great examples.

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And the great example is, man now from the long run with Saudi Arabia, famous example. Now, why I mentioned this, because that's not what the term said. Some companions, like when the Prophet Assam told them, this is what you should do.

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They even exceeded that point, they did more? What would let them do that? why they did it? Why would sadden or B come to under ham mouth to tell him Look at my two wives and the one that you like, I will divorce her and after her they will marry? That was not one of the terms. Why he told him this.

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Because of the men because they had strong a man why nowadays, If brother came to my house, I can have half an hour with him and then I will tell him I am busy or that's it. I cannot please I have other things. Why? Because our email is not like their email. We are so busy so consumed with this life. They had jobs to do also at their time. But the priority was to their illusion.

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He offered him half of his money, he did not have to do that. Yes, he should help him but not half of his money.

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He did not have to do why would you do it?

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It was the man. It was the true brother.

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Yet a man of the law when he did not say oh, that's easy money, he could have took it and there is not no problem with taking that one. He can take it if someone offered you money. There is no harm on taking. But under a man he said no. Allah subhanaw taala praised the the answer. Well, Athena turbo dharawal a man I mean koblin, Barnum and hajra

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and those who had the houses, the dwellings beforehand means the answer.

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And in and they had him and Allah witness that they had the man they love, whoever came to them.

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And they don't have anything in their heart towards them or against them. And they prefer over themselves.

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Even if they did not have enough means.

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And that's the great thing. When you spend while you don't have enough,

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not when you have millions and you give 100 or 1000. But when you have on almost 1000 and you are giving half of it or more than that, in the course of Allah subhanaw taala

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because there is the nature of ourselves that we like to withhold we like to keep that's what Allah says in the Quran. Allah says if you have the treasures

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of Allah subhanaw taala you'd have

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withheld your hands, not spending colau anthem licona hawza in Madeira be in the Nam sanctum Hospital in Canada in Santa Catarina. It is the nature of, of the human being that he would hold his hand. But those are they gave, and Allah subhanaw taala praise them for that.

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And this is a lesson for us. Now this happened at the time of the messenger of science and that does not mean it should not happen. Whenever a Muslim needed something we should help. But the problem we talk a lot and once it comes to actions, you may help one of the people one time if he came again, please, I helped you. Even if it was like three, four or five years.

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I have half an hour. But that's it. What if he needed? Two months? Three months, one year? What do we do?

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Actually, I was asked question just like three days ago.

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One of the sisters she was divorced. She has no one here.

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She is divorced.

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And she has no relative. Where can she go islamically she got all her money.

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Already long time ago she has been living with her husband for 20 years.

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And the mother was paid and everything and now he divorced her if she went

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To the court, she will take half of his wealth. But Can she do that or not? If she did not, then there is no place to stay in. And I really did not have enough. Who's responsible for this? for this? What can we do? What can we offer? We are so busy with ourselves hamdulillah I am having enough I am doing good job and that's it. Whatever happens elsewhere. It's not my problem. It's not my fault.

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This is a problem.

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escalus wanted to forgive us for that.

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Unfortunately, the more we concentrate on our own lives, the more we concentrate on how much we make on we busy ourselves with this life, the more expenses and the more things that are taking us from the original cause. Even at the time of the profits on salon, companions, they had jobs to do they had to spend. Nowadays, you have some vacations you can take you have off Saturday and Sunday yet we don't have time. I don't know what's going on. It is really problem.

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Now, why do we have to do this? Why do we have to be good to our brothers or sisters?

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First, it is a condition of a man. And what's the evidence?

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From the Sunnah of the messenger? sallallahu wasallam.

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The sweetness of a man someone would say I don't want this sweetness, it's enough for me without sweets.

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How you can prove it is a condition?

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Yes.

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Yes, exactly.

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You don't believe until you love for your brother, what's your love for yourself? While the prophet SAW Selim would say that.

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And actually we studied this in Allah flack.

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What did we say? What did they even have Muhammad Allah say about this? If you remember.

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There are two virtues that cover all

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qualities. What are they? From the messenger science alum who said to a Hadith, two traditions?

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You forgot?

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Yes, very good. That's one of them. Do not anger. This is the first one. What's the second one?

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Exactly what you love for your brother? What do you love for yourself? Why they cover all virtues. Because when you don't anger, you will control yourself, and you won't transgress. And when you allow for your brother, what's your love for yourself, you will be just, you will never oppress your brother, you will never be unjust. But nowadays, even if you are making millions, and your brother is in need, you don't care. No Islam tells you have to get you have to love to him what you love for yourself if you wanted to perfect your email. So this is one thing. That's why you have to think actually the prophet SAW Selim said, Man, let me ask them and every Muslim he follows me know, he

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who does not care about the matters of the Muslims. He's not one of them. You have to care.

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And again, it's easy to say but we need to practice it, we need to do something about it.

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Look what the prophet SAW Selim said in this Hadith, the strongest bonds of faith, the strongest ties, our Quran a man and fulfill our board of Allah to love for the sake of Allah and to hate for the sake of Allah. You're doing this only for the sake of Allah, you're not doing this, because you expect from him to pay you back. Or you expect that he may help you here or there. You are doing it for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. That's the strongest ties of a man

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and Muslim

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prophet SAW Selim told the companions about a man who was visiting a friend,

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a brother for him,

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for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala in another city.

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So the angel came, Allah subhanaw taala sent down the angel, and that Angel talk to that man. And he asked him why you're going to visit that friend, that brother?

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Do you have any worldly costs? And he said, No.

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I love him for the sake of Allah and I'm going to visit him. So what did the angel tell him? What was the reward?

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Allah sent me to tell you that all your sins were forgiven for that intention. Now it was only one three. It's not for hedge. It's not for ombre. It's not. It was only to visit a brother

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for the sake of Allah and what happened to him. He says

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We're forgiven. Nowadays, how many times do we travel?

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What's the reason for our traveling?

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Allah will reward you.

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Look how much the prophets I send them cared about the companions. He used to ask about every one of them.

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If someone is missing, he will ask for a bit of advice for the long run.

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He was one of the companions who used to talk aloud in the masjid. He was the speaker on behalf of the messenger assassin and just like nowadays, we have speaker on behalf of so on. So on behalf of Sansa, Savitri, when I saw that I used to be the speaker has sentimiento Dylan, he used to be the proud, one day officer Sunday Nazi Sabbath and he asked Where is Sabbath? And they told him that the I was revealed, not to raise your voices in the house of Allah and the masjid. So he felt that his, his deeds were no, so he's crying. So the pastor Sam told them tell him to come because his dates are not now when the woman or the man who used to clean the masjid, Now, again, those are not VIP

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people. Those are very normal people. The prophet SAW Selim asked about them.

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How many people do you know? How many times do you ask about them?

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So it is really I mean, it is really not only words that we say, but it is actions.

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The prophet SAW Selim again in Sahih, Muslim, he mentioned the Hadith of the seven types of people that will be shaded

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in on the Day of Judgment, who are those types? Do you recall them?

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Yes, the one whose heart is attached to the master, it was the first one can you tell me in sequence, the just ruler or Imam? Next.

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That's before before that the the youth who was brought up in the worship of Allah subhanaw taala, whether male or female, what else?

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The man whose heart is attached to the masjid. And then the one that you mentioned, the one that was invited by

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a rich and pretty woman who's, who's next.

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That's later. But before that, and that's the point why I mentioned this hadith to people. They met each other.

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And they departed

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for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala that's on or Jelani to have that filler. They love each other, each other for the sake of Allah. That's how they gather and that's how they depart each other and they leave each other. For the sake of Allah, what will happen to them.

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They are shaded, the shade of philosophy untied on the day of

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Allah Subhana Allah on the Day of Judgment, we'll call on those people.

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Where are those who love each other, in the name of my majesty,

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in the name of my glory, today, I shall offer them a shade. And in the other narration, they will be given outfits.

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outfits, which means high higher than people. Everyone else is lower than them because when you are over the pulpit, you are higher than others. Those outputs are not of gold or silver, they are off light, outputs of light.

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Even the prophets and

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the martyrs would admire what those people have gotten.

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So there is a tremendous reward when you love each other, for the sake of Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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Now, we may say, these are extra things, or these are additional things. So what's the minimum?

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What's the least that you have to do for your brother or your sister?

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Like by

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my default as a Muslim, that's what you owe me. And that's what I owe you. Yes.

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Five things there are five things What are they?

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You say Salaam. So whenever you see your brother or sister says that's one thing What else?

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You attend the funeral if he died or she died, you attend the funeral What else?

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When sneezing you say your honkala

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you accept the invitation

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what

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When he's sick you visit.

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This is the minimum, how many? Five things? Actually there is a sixth one.

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Yes, if he sought the advice you give it.

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These are the minimum. That's the right by default as a Muslim. That's what you owe me. And that's what I owe you. And let's ask ourselves, honestly, how much do we do? Have that minimum?

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How much are we doing so far?

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How many brothers and sisters you know that they were sick?

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Did you visit them?

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So it's really

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something that we should work on.

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That's the Hadith. It was narrated inside Muslim. by Abu huraira, the Allah one

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last messenger size alum said six are the rights of Muslim over another Muslim.

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When the prophet SAW Selim said this, the companions asked what are they? They did not say, Okay. Hamdulillah, they are six, they asked, What are they? There upon? Professor Lim said, when you meet him, you offer him greeting, you say Salaam Alaikum.

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When he invites you,

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you accept the invitation you go

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on, he seeks your counsel, when he wants your advice, you give it to him.

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And when he sneezes, and says Alhamdulillah, you say, your honkala?

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If he's sick, you visit him. And the last one, you follow his janessa? You know?

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So that's the minimum.

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So what are we doing? Are we doing those things or we still need to work on the minimum and then we move to the extra things.

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There is an interesting story again,

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when I'm around the long run, was stabbed.

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And he knew that he was dying. When he was alive after 10 years of leading the Muslims. What was his concern?

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Do you remember the last few hours of Amara della Han?

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The khilafah? That's one of them to see who will be the halifa that was later. But before that?

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Yes, he asked.

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He asked who stabbed me why he wanted his son to kill him. No, he wanted to see who's his opponent. Who did that to him. When it was said he was not a Muslim. He said hamdulillah he was happy that it was not a Muslim, so he would not stand before him.

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Front of Allah subhanaw taala look at the care about Muslims.

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Not only that, when he was stabbed, and people used to visit him, and he knew that he is going to die.

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Youth visited him.

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One of the youth he visited him and his local government

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was

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down

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below his ankle.

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So he called him You said come on. You told him raise your is our that's the name of the Logan razor is our

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take it over the ankle, it is cleaner for it and more pious for you.

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Now someone is dying, he will think how much money I left who will take what and but Amaro de la Han, he was thinking about the Muslims, no matter whatever the situation is, as long as they can benefit the Muslims as if he's able to help them. He will do that. And that's what he did.

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And there are many examples. Even recently, hamdulillah we still have people who care about other Muslims. Like there was one of the scholars,

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his mother, if she noticed that he's upset or saddened or is not feeling okay. She asks him what happened. Is there a Muslim died in China? Is there something wrong happened to a Muslim elsewhere in the world, because she knew that he cares about Muslims. It is not that he lost a deal. Or

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he got the ticket or he has to spend so on so it is not about himself. It was about other Muslims. And again, the perfect example is the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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He was the

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model

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so we need to start working on our relationship

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the Muslim to the other Muslim and Allah subhanaw taala mention that in the Quran in Malmo Muna Eco, indeed believers are but brothers. That's who we are.

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From day one, when the prophet SAW Selim started preaching Islam,

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there is no difference. no distinction between black and white, rich and poor, except with

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quiet in a Croma calm and ally attack them.

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Nowadays people are talking about civil rights liberties. Islam came with these things 1400 years ago.

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The things that people are fighting to get nowadays, Islam gave them these things 1400 years ago, here in America

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less than 50 years ago,

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people were still

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telling you if you're black, you sit in the back. If you're white, you sit in the front. We don't have this in Islam.

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Hmm.

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Yes, until now, there is still some kind of discrimination. Islam eliminated that even because naturally, we tend to, inclined to our people, like if I'm from this country, I love the people from this country. We still have these natural things, but Islam told us that this should not be the case. We should control those things. We should overcome them. Just like the companions.

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They are they were racist until now there is racism. But you eliminate that.

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Yeah, yeah. Even in marriage even in it is still happening. And that's one of the reasons why we are weak. There are many reasons one of them. We don't we're not applying the true brotherhood. Now why America is very strong country why people?

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They are like if American travel overseas.

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He is respected.

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Because he knows that if something wrong happened to him, he has a government that will ask and will defend him. That's the feeling should be for all Muslims that if something happened to him, there are more than

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2 billion Muslims. But where are they? What is that feeling? Now you know that it is only 10 miles away from you. This thing happened and you said hamdulillah did not happen to me.

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It is a problem.

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Okay, we'll stop here inshallah. Is there any questions?

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About brotherhood?

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from the students online, is there anything okay then we will stop here inshallah. Santa Monica lavaca