Refining the Self – 1
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The core of the message of the prophet SAW Selim is to perfect the noble character is to perfect their flock. So it is the essence of the message of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
And this hadith is narrated by Muhammad and other
scholars of Hadith.
if you ask anybody who would tell you I want the Prophet sallallahu wasallam to love me, I love the messenger sallallahu wasallam we talk a lot about how to love the Prophet sallallahu wasallam if you want something practical, you have to perfect your character, because the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said in them in Ambika Malaya, lockerby commandments in the new millennium,
the most beloved, to me, the most beloved ones are few to me. And the nearest to me are those who have the best manners. So if you wanted the prophets, I send them to love you. If you want to be near to the messenger, sell them on the Day of Judgment.
Try to work on your flock try to work on your character. This Hadith is narrated by tirmidhi in magic and others.
So notice here the prophets a lot of solemn did not say
the nearest to me will be the one who prays more. The one who fasts more, the one who recites the Quran more, he said, the nearest and the more beloved to me are those who have best character.
So this is a way to,
to gain the love of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
Now, another thing, we worship Allah subhanho wa Taala and we try to increase our either through fasting prayer,
giving in charity. Why? Because we want to come close to Allah subhanho wa Taala. We want to perfect our Eman why the prophet SAW Selim says in one Hadith act manual meaning a man so no colocar
if you want to perfect your Eman, you have to have a good character.
And this hadith is narrated by Ahmed and Abu Dawood.
Messenger Salaam says Economic Union as a man and as a new home colocar.
So if you want to perfect your Eman? Yes, you need to pray you need to fast you need to work on the rituals of Islam. But there is one essential thing you will need to work on your character on your morals.
Because if you don't have the good character, you will not have a perfect team and that's what the messenger saw Selim said.
In another Hadith, the messenger sallallahu Sallam
was asked about the reward. Now let's say we know that we want to come close to Allah subhanaw taala and therefore we have to perfect our luck. But what's the reward? Exactly. When the messenger saw them was asked this question, what's the reward? Or what's the one who has the good character will be rewarded? He said in a cube lattice Tatjana, you cannot. You cannot get this reward by doing another thing. And He further said do you see the one who fast the day without breaking his fast means he is fasting continuously? Now for the first two consecutive days we feel tired if we fast Ramadan after Ramadan, we want to forget fasting for the first Monday and Thursday we find it
difficult. So what about fasting every day? And not only that? What about standing the night in prayer?
The messenger saw Selim said
the one will get that level
with his good character, you will get the level of the one who says the day and stand the night in prayer by having the good o'clock. In the lab data, you'd recall because Niccolo key data saw ml
that's what the messengers on the line Selim said, this hadith is narrated by Ahmed Bharani and hacking without and others this hadith is authentic in the lab, the lead rickerby Hosni Raja sidechains
So again, this is another area where we have to work on now some people they focus on the prayer which is important, they focus on the fasting, cm, zakka, Hajj and these are all important, but there is another important thing which is the good o'clock because you will get the that level which is very difficult for one to have. You may fast delay but then as
Then it will be tired. Messenger Salim said no, this is the reward for the one who fast the day and then stand up the night in prayer.
So this is the reward you will get when you have the good luck.
Another thing now what will be the heaviest thing in the scale on the day of
today people seek the best paid jobs.
That's why they go to the medical school. That's why they want to become pilots. That's why they want to go why because they are paid more.
on the Day of Judgment, which did that will pay off more? The messenger science seldom said as collusion in film isn't
the heaviest thing none other had if he said Tukwila has no
piety and husband.
And this hadith is narrated by Abu Dhabi.
So the the heaviest thing will be the day of judgment in your scale is personal hollow.
That's why it's very important
to have good luck.
in order for us
to keep remembering all these, these virtues, we have a story
about a woman during the time of the messenger sallallahu wasallam. Now this woman, she used to pray, she used to fast.
She used to do many good things, however, she used to harm her neighbors. So what do you think the prophet SAW Selim said?
He said, The Hara she's in hellfire.
Why? Because you are doing a good thing, but then you are spoiling that that thing by an evil act by not having the good character. You are doing Salah while the Salah is supposed to prevent you from doing evil things, but she is doing these evil things. So what the prophet SAW Selim was told about that woman who is doing good deeds, but at the same time, she's harming her neighbors. Prophet SAW Selim said she is in hellfire.
Now and this hadith also is narrated by Imam Muhammad Rahim Allah.
And the other woman who does not have that much either. Maybe she doesn't memorize the Quran, but she's treating people with a good manner. She's better than the first one.
Again, as I told you, you may, you may think that this person is closer to Allah subhanaw taala than that person why because this person is always in the masjid, Zola's praying is always fasting, which is good. But maybe he is not treating people with the good character with good manners. So that's not enough, it's very important to have the good man.
Now, after this, maybe all of us would say we have and hamdulillah we are perfect and we have good character. However, there is a rule you have to remember always, you cannot evaluate yourself.
If we are asked to evaluate ourselves, we'll give ourselves full credit. We'll give ourselves 100%. But who can
what we deserve exactly people, people could evaluate us. If I wanted to know whether you are good or not. I will not ask you because you will always say yes, I am good. I will ask your friend. I asked your neighbor, I will ask your relatives, because they could tell if you are good or not.
Omar Abdullah Juan
once heard a man praising another man saying something good about him. So I'm gonna have a long one asked him. Have you seen that man? Did you deal with that man in business transaction?
The man said no. I asked him. Are you his neighbor? The man said no.
And when I asked him again, did you travel with him? The man said, No. Omar said then then you don't know him.
This is another important rule. Now you may think that you know this person while you don't really know him. When do you know the person?
Really? When do you know him Really?
When you deal with him.
Now many times people tell you this was my friend but once we had the business together, we did not become friends anymore. What happened? What happened? The real character comes to the surface in a time of difficulty.
Not in a time of is if I am praising you always if I am giving you a gift every day you will be good to me because again I am good to you, but what if I am harassing you everyday What if I am saying things about you which are not correct? Now, your exact your real character will come to the surface.
Now, people what will happen if they wanted to distinguish between gold and copper? What do they do?
How they purify gold?
By smelting? Right.
So, the same thing if you want to know the reality of someone,
you need to test him. And Omar Abdullah mentioned three things. If you are his neighbor, then you see him always. That means you could tell if you travel, travel with him traveling, traveling is difficult. Even if you're traveling by plane. It's still difficult. It needs patience. It is difficult so your real character will come out.
So that's what Amaro their loved one said.
And we have a hadith related to this.
The prophet SAW Selim said an asthmatic people are like the minerals just like gold, silver, copper, iron.
He said a NASA Adam can add in his daddy will feel free to roam free. jania here on Felice land.
And this is another Hadith, the first Hadith the messenger science lm says and NASA modern people are like minnows, what does that mean?
First of all, you may think that this is gold, while it is not.
So you may be deceived by the character of someone. Why? Because he did not know him. Well, how do you know him well, by smelting by testing by dealing with him.
So this hadith has to two lessons from it. And so first of all, people are not equal.
As you have expensive gold, cheaper silver and maybe cheaper copper, you have people who are really precious that you like to be with and people that you don't like to be with.
And also there are the the personality of the people may not be clear sometimes. That's what we learn from this hadith. Another Hadith, the messenger science Selim said, Hi, Rocco. hydrocone the best among you is the best to his wife's.
Well, Anna hydrocone Ali, and I'm the best to my wife, to my family. Now why the Prophet sighs Salim said, Hi eurocom
Why didn't he say hi eurocom hierro calmly as the chi, why didn't you say the best of you are the best to their friends or to their neighbors. Even your neighbor cannot tell exactly. Because he is not with you. 24 hours Yes, he can see you more than other people. But who can see you exactly 24 hours who can know your personality, exactly. Your family inside the house.
You may work for eight hours, and you need to be in your best shape in these eight hours. But then when you go home, you are tired. You want to change so your your character comes out. That's why the messenger Sallam said higher compared to chameleon, because if you are sincere, in your good character, you will be good to your family. You will not pretend outside and change inside. You are the same outside and inside. That's why the messenger Selim said hi eurocom Heroku This is a great Hadith because many people outside everybody praising them. Everybody say that Mashallah. They are good. But if we asked the wife, if we asked the children, they would say Subhanallah our father or
our mother or he doesn't spend time with us, outside he he cares only about people. Once he gets home, he doesn't care.
So it is important to be good to your family. Hi eurocom hydrocone Allah, because again, you cannot fake your personality inside the house.
You can pretend in front of people, because they see you maybe two three hours a day. But you cannot do the same inside the house.
now someone would say
to avoid this trouble to avoid harming others. I will
disassociate myself from people. I will isolate myself I will desert people
So what's the best solution? I will go outside on the top of mountain and I will live there. So in that case, I will not have any problem
because I will not wrong anybody.
Now, could you tell
if someone lied or not if he doesn't speak
he doesn't speak How could you tell if he is a liar or not? He doesn't speak. This is not applicable. The same thing here. The messenger sighs lm said. I love you holiday bonus or Esmeralda home hydro minella de la holliston as well as Rolla de The one who lives with people and deal with them and shows patience. He is better than the one who is unable to deal with people.
And he is unable to be patient if they wronged him. This Hadith in sunan of magic Rahim Allah, the Messenger of science Selim says, to deal with people and be patient is better than avoiding them. Or being impatient.
I love you Hi littleness. westville Allah down, hi Amina la de la holliston as well as bureau Allah down again as I told you, you will deal with people definitely and definitely some people will wrong you. The question is not if if people are treating you with a good manner what you will do in return. The question is, if they did not treat you as you deserve, if they did not respect you, are you going to disrespect them because of that or not? Here comes the through Aflac. And here we have the role model, the perfect example in the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
Now, if you read the Sierra, if you read the sun and the Hadith of the messenger, sallAllahu wasallam.
We will find how he was patient, how he dealt with the people around him.
You have to struggle. In Aflac.
It doesn't come easy. You have to deal with people. It's long process. It's a lifetime process. Every day you improve yourself.
The messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
when he came to Mecca,
after eight years,
eight years ago.
They cause them to leave Mecca. With nothing. He had a house.
And he left he left his own place.
And they threatened to kill him and they tried to kill him. After eight years, he came to them.
And he was able to kill every single one of them. What did he do?
What did the prophet SAW Selim do to those people?
He forgave them. Why he was he was unable to punish them.
was he able or not? Nowadays, you cannot tell I I forgive the FBI. She cannot do anything because, right. But once you are able to punish yet you do not then that's the real forbearance. That's the real tolerance. And that's exactly what the prophet SAW Selim did. Now, when he came after eight years, and he told them, what do you think I'm going to do to you? And they said, You are a noble man, you are the son of a noble man. Now he is the son of a noble man, what happened eight years ago when you wanted to kill him. Yet the prophet SAW Selim did not tell them for 13 years, you harass me for 13 years. You try to kill me for 13 years, you killed my friends, my companions, he did not do
that. He forgave me.
And he is the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam. So he's our example. Now when you say the messenger sighs Salaam is my example. Where's the proof? Now you could give lots of talks about the Prophet size and learn how he lived. But if you don't relate to the people, if you don't give them practical examples that they follow, then they may not benefit that much. So the prophets I send them forgive them. That was not the only example in the life of the messenger of science. And then there are other examples. He had the neighbor
who used to put the trash on the doorstep of the messenger.
he's your neighbor. That means whether you change your house or you have to deal with it every day.
Again, what happened? The the prophet SAW Selim,
revenge did he seek revenge from that man, or that woman? The narration comes with a woman a woman and the man who was a Jew.
And he harmed the profits on Solomon. He was in Medina.
When his son was sick,
he went and visited him. He did not say, Oh, he's a Jew, and his father used to harm me. So, forget it. He did not do that he's the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam.
Now I like to ask this question always. Do you know the man
whom the prophet SAW Selim performed the janazah for him?
On the prophet SAW Selim
gave him his own
to be shrouded with it.
And he buried him with his hands the messengers are solemn.
Who was that man? Can you remember?
July BBs, the prophet SAW Selim went to the grave. That's true. Angela Habib. He, the prophet SAW Selim prayed for him.
But he did not give him his own clock. No.
By the way,
is Abdullah banaban salute.
Do you know who's Abdullah nobleman, Salah
is the head of the hypocrites.
He's the chief of the hypocrites, and the prophets arson and did that to him, to the chief of the hypocrites. Why?
Because again, the prophet SAW Selim was merciful. He did not treat people the same way they are treating him.
His son was a true believer, he did not want to hurt his son.
He was forgiving, all the way. So He forgive, I'm the loving obedience salute. And he prayed the janazah for him. And the loss of Hannah to Allah told him do not pray the janazah for them. He asked forgiveness for him. And Allah subhanaw taala told him Do not ask forgiveness for them. At that moment, the prophet SAW Selim stuff before that, he used to forgive. He used to forgive. So again, people now they if somebody did something wrong to them, even if it was four years ago, they still remember it, or this man, he did it four years ago. So
what is what is the true following to the messenger? What is the truth of luck? Again, as I told you, this is important thing. That's the purpose of our subject. We need to practice the good of luck. Because it's easy. Everyone will say Alhamdulillah. I have excellent luck. I am perfect. Now what about these examples? Do you follow the messenger science? Or not? Do you respect people? Even if they disrespected you? Or not? Do you forgive them or not? Even if they did not forgive you?
Now the husband would tell my wife I was patient for five years her mother in law, my mother in law, her mother, and the same thing from the wife. And finally spamela what is forgiveness?
What is the following of the messengers and allies?
Now, we have examples in our life.
the hurricane that struck New Orleans? Like a year ago?
Katrina? What happened there?
An example for this chaos.
there were some rape cases. There were some people killed by why? why this happened? Where's the civilization?
Where's the order?
Everything disappeared? Why? Again? What's the reason?
they were afraid of the law. Once they knew that there is no law. No one is watching them What happened? They did that. So that tells you they did not have real luck.
But if a Muslim knew that, no one is watching him. Would he still
he will not because he knows that even if nobody is watching him, Allah subhanaw taala is watching.
So again, that's the difference between the Muslim and non Muslim. You have always to treat people in a good manner, even if they don't appreciate that even if nobody is watching you. That's the difference between the Muslims and the non Muslims. As I told you, in the time of difficulty, the real o'clock will come.
The real sacrifice will come not in the time of prosperity, the time of adversity. That's when the rain comes. As I told it, New Orleans is example. Another example.
When a city lost the electricity, the electricity was caught. Again the same thing happened last
sift cases, lots of robberies, lots of killing. Why? Because nobody is watching. Everybody wants to get money. While as a Muslim you don't do that. Because you don't care whether people appreciated that or not whether people are watching you or not, you know that Allah subhanaw taala is watching
and that's when you can judge people, whether they have good luck or not.
Now, if you notice in the ahaadeeth, that we quoted in this session, there is a strong
relationship. There is a strong correlation between o'clock and about that between the worship and the o'clock
the messenger sallallahu Sallam says, you know Howdy,
Malema Cola, Zulu lamb lamb, Felisa de la hija Tom faneca Tom Sharapova. Whoever does not give up
the old speech
and acting upon it when there is no need for him to give up. Food and drink. Malema cola zuri will I'm gonna be FileZilla, Hazard infinidat and OSHA Rob, while you are fasting, to let the people know or to let the people say that you are fasting, or you are fasting to please Allah subhanaw taala if you're fasting to be the last panatela, then you have to obey Him, you have to have the good. Fasting is not only to abstain from food and drink, fasting is to attain piety. Fasting is
is a school to learn patience
to learn how to control yourself. So it's not only food and drink. So even this iPad, which is fasting, it teaches you the good o'clock. So we have a strong relation between the bad and the o'clock. At the same time prayer. Why do we pray? Because Allah subhanaw taala commanded us to pray, but there is another thing. Once we pray, we have the good of luck
because Allah subhanaw taala says in the Quran, in the Salah, Tottenham in Russia
and in another in a Salah Tottenham fashion.
So you learn that Salah, forbids the evil
and the fascia, the wrong actions.
So the purpose of the Salah is to please Allah subhanaw taala The purpose of the Salah is to abstain from these things the purpose of the Salah to improve yourself to elevate your Aflac
had the same thing. When you go for Hajj What do you learn? There are many lessons and one of the lessons
how you become patient.
how you deal with people's different personalities. You have 2 million people from all over the world.
Some of them are educated, some of them are not some of them are ignorant. So what do you do? You learn patience. So all the bad that they are related to the clock? And again that's how we understand the Hadith of the messenger sallallahu Sallam on he said in a mobile studio Tammy macadam, Allah I was only sent to perfect, the noble character. That's the purpose of the message of Mohammed Salah.
In another Hadith, the messenger sallallahu Sallam asked the companions at the throne how many Muslims? Do you know who is the true bankrupt?
Nowadays, we don't hear anybody files for chapter 11 because he does not have a good character. They fail because they don't have money. The Companions answered the messenger sell them. The one who has no money. That's the one who goes bankrupt. Prophet SAW Selim said no. The real bankrupt Alma fleece
is the one who comes on the Day of Judgment with lots of actions, lots of good deeds.
He comes with prayer with fasting
with charity, but he has a problem. When he comes on Day of Judgment with all with all these actions. He comes while he
he harmed some people who stole their money. He wronged some people, he disrespected. He cursed some people. So what will happen? All these people who were abused by that man, they will take from his house and not
until his Hashanah is over. So what will happen now they have
to take from his house and he doesn't have his Senate. They put from their say, from their bad deeds office.
His bad deeds.
He started with good Hasina.
More than the bandhasana he ended up
with nothing, if only bad deeds, so what will happen to him?
You will be sent to hell file. That's the true bankrupt as the messenger sallallahu Sallam said
at that tournament innopolis
the companion said and muffle is the bankrupt is the one who has no money. Prophet SAW Selim said no alma fluss is the one who comes with lots of actions, lots of good deeds, but he ends up in Hellfire because he harm this person, he cursed this person, he took this person's money, this person property. So remember, it is good to worship Allah subhanaw taala by
all the actions but it is more important to remember the good o'clock
now when we talk about the clock, it's not only
things that you do for others.
A clock means even things that you do with yourself.
Because when we say Islam is a way of life, that means you have to apply these things when you sleep, when you wake up when you eat. So we have a clap even with yourself not only with others, not only with others, so that's the purpose inshallah that's what you will try to work on sleeping when do you sleep?
Do you? Do you sleep after Ayesha? As the profits are seldom recommended or you
stay awake for late hour in the night? messenger Salaam he used to dislike sleeping before I share and talking after after I show you sleep. This is part of the flock.
When do you wake up? Do you wake up before the spray or do you perform some family or you wake up on the prayer directly or even you wake up later on? This is part of the flock.
How do you eat again even eating it has some
ethical codes in Islam. You should not eat over
what you can handle you should not eat more than
even if you are eating full. The messenger Salaam never ate food. Once your stomach is full. That means it will take lots of time to digest the food.
Prophet SAW Selim said Nana Coleman Nana cola Hatton enjoy, we do not eat until or unless we are hungry. Yet even when we eat we don't eat for
lunch Callahan a way that I can Ilana schema
and the messenger sallallahu wasallam. In this Hadith, he pointed out very important point.
Now we eat only because we want to eat because we are used to eat lunch breakfast dinner. What if you're not hungry?
Don't eat. But some people still eat? prophets. I seldom said nanoco munakata ninja if you're not hungry, don't eat. Don't eat for the sake of eating. Again, this is part of the flock. This is part of the flock. Talking how you talk to people.
How do you talk to people?
Allah says in the Quran, la kulula NASA husna and say the good word
say things in a good way.
leanness to people.
He did not say say only good things to Muslims, to your relatives. He said leanness treat everybody with respect all the time. And that's the difficult thing. You may treat some people in a good manner. Or you may treat all people in good manner for some time, but to treat all of them in a good manner for all the time. That's the difficult thing. And that's exactly what the messengers are slammed with.
No one could tell that the prophet SAW Selim disrespected him
or abused him,
or ridiculed. I think never the messenger Selim would never do that.
So even when you talk, you talk according to Islam.
When you pray, even the prayer it has a flap you come early, you learn that this prayer is preventing you from the obscenity from the evil actions.
So we have a flat and everything with others and with ourselves. Now we could actually
summarize all the o'clock in two words.
One of the pious predecessors he said hussmann hurlock *un hain. It is easy to have the good of luck
what john paul calamondin to see
smiling face do not frown at people smile
and nice words or kalama name if you do these two things, I guarantee you people will not complain about your Aflac
if you learn only those two things
I guarantee you that you have a good husband who locks on hain Woodrum palko column only.
Only smiling face you Don't frown and of course if you're smiling, that means
you will not harm people. You cannot smile while you are stealing some someone's money you cannot smile while you are cursing someone so smiling face and nice words
we've come to our assignment for today
which is easy inshallah.
I want from you to mention three
Hadith from the messenger sallallahu Sallam about the good of luck
other than what you took in the class
and tell me what do you believe? Is it important to study this subject or not? I want also three reasons.
This is due by Friday inshallah.
You don't have to send it by the email.
With this we will end inshallah, the session.
Is there any question?
So we have two things. Three, a hadith from the messenger, science alum. And three reasons. Maybe you think it's not important. That's fine. I don't have to tell you. It's important that you don't have to believe in what I'm saying. That's fine. But you have to bring the reason why