Lessons From Surah Nur Part 3
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The speakers stress the importance of intelligence and hardworking individuals in Islam, emphasizing the need for women to apply intelligence to their situations and avoid distraction. They also emphasize the need for caution and avoiding false accusations and mistakes, as well as avoiding certain topics in one's life like sex education and privacy in marriage. They stress the importance of protecting one another and avoiding negative behavior, while also reminding them to be patient and avoiding certain topics.AI Generated Transcript ©
Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim
salam ala moana with Ramadan Amina Naveen our How do you know Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa and he was happy he was salam Baba
okay that is an interesting question here
which AI
wants you to participate also in confirming whether it is true or not
the question says Why is it in every community systems are more intelligent and the brothers
one of them
I have been teaching since when but
in in almost every place
especially in places where you don't know the paper you are answering
if I see answers
which are very quick to be marked you almost end with zero you know sometimes
I always predict that this must be your brother
and I rarely get disappointed you know
and if you see a high mark you check you see a sustained and see a brother
so, my question here is Is it because of what the question says more intelligent or that is something else
which is depriving the brothers from
from excelling
they get the question right.
So, what is your face here
with a
stronger wife
there is a survey somebody read I wish I didn't lose it or come to here read it that I am afraid I will lose my knife.
If I read the results they also say the same thing
they also say the same thing and there are a lot of factors that cooperate in producing this result is not about intelligence. Both intelligence is my belief
but somebody is using his intelligence to reach a conclusion and the other one is too much distracted
and I don't think these take place in the places where you have a pool full separation
where you get the brothers tend to lose a lot
so the sisters don't mind that much. You know then in the present they focus more
I put it for you in this way and then you continue that analogy
if you don't complete my
if there is football
then by by the Brothers
in our stadium, okay, and everyone should come and watch
Okay, sisters come brothers comes.
Who remembers what
everyone says remember who won? And who loss and turn it the other way around?
The brothers comes to watch the football by the sisters
what are they watching the sisters? What are they watching? Sisters playing? And the brothers what are they watching?
Seasons definitely watch the game and the brothers do they watch the game?
If you want to know that after the game, ask one of the brothers who won.
So so it is like that.
This is one of the factors.
It's not easy to convince a brother to come to a place whenever you open a class in every community. The vast majority of the people who will attend the class will be the sisters.
For you to bring your brother to the class is not easy. But at the same time also there is another side of the picture
which is also true
among those brothers, among those brothers who attended, you find nine
Out of 10 for the heathen practice, and amongst this is this worth and if I,
one out of 10
could reflect upon it easy to come and easy to lose. So the question remains, this one don't come at all.
But if they come, those people who come by themselves not the one who is forced to come, they usually they really, really, really focused. And take note. And I'm talking about experience. If you look at the other side of the picture also, of course, there is an increased number of people come in, but you have also large group of people among
those people who are attended, they come in for one, meeting their friends, that's the best place where you can meet your friends and share thoughts and all of these things.
Yeah, so.
So all of these things are there. But in terms of education, who is more intelligent, I believe both are intelligent.
But unfortunately, the brothers are too much distracted more than the sisters, this is a fact. Brothers are too much distracted more than the sisters. That's why you find that sometimes there is no intelligence
came by that is hard working. I have two scenarios here.
Two students, I taught both of them, a brother and a sister, they belong to the same families to siblings.
Everyone who taught the brother would tell them in terms of smartness, he's way smarter than his sister.
But he always lost in the exams.
Why, because he's too much distracted, and she did not lose, because she studies day and night, to night, and he has nothing except football here football, you know, going with friends.
So she got what she's looking for, and he lost, not because she is more intelligent than him. But because she uses the little Allah Sportech grant at how to make an achievement.
But Subhanallah when it comes to obedience, you can see also the difference the letter he has, you know, is created and this person may Allah subhanaw taala guide her if she's still alive, she wants to call her mother
You know, I am studying in my life. So that I will not become like you in the future.
So that I will not become like you in the future.
What does she mean? She said what she meant you have nothing except to be an obedient to the husband.
So you have this also is the you know,
so the best is somebody who is hardworking, and use the little ability, alas, protect granted him and after he got it to put it into practice in action, intelligence, and how much he got of knowledge, but how much you put it into practice and an action. But it is true. This one you cannot deny it, that in the classrooms up to date, the vast majority of those people who score higher than anybody else, that the sisters the brothers alongside
and even in any the people who are more distracted in the classes. Okay, the brothers more than the sisters.
The eventual responsibility,
I don't think is that
it could be that the fear that's the environment also is imposing upon them. That if you don't work hard, at the end of the day, you will have no job. So that's why they're working hard now to make sure that they can secure secure a job in the future. That could be one of the factors also, the brothers are not much serious in that regard.
To good idea, the one who was more affected in the community concerning these matters are the sisters more than the brothers. When the divorce happens sometimes she doesn't know what to do.
To good idea, she goes talk, but these are all why of the shutdown.
That's what I can tell you because is
we have to take Sharia as a whole. You cannot apply some part of it and leave the other part wherever she has applied properly. Wallahi I'm telling you, a system is the only person who can say I don't want to work in somebody has to provide her with that which he needs. He's the only person who can do that. When you see a sister being forced to go and look for her own earning by herself, things are not going good in that society.
She has to go out of the house and work day and night you know suffering, getting into trouble this one is called
Listen, this one is shouting, this one is doing this or old man, man, you know, attitudes
were designed to accommodate that. They're supposed to be acting like queens, this is how Islam plays them. So we neglected this part. That's why she's in need of getting something to protect her future.
So she already sees her friends and colleagues who get into trouble after the divorce, or when the husband dies, she doesn't want to be in this. So when she goes to school,
focus a lot. But the boys thinks that he has a lot of opportunities, you know, is the first choice. So that negligence is there.
To try all of these factors and put them all together, then you come up with the reason why social second thing. Last thing
feminists tend to talk about is
a part of it is I think, related to
don't again, but the exact heart is, but the main part is that women are deficient in thinking, Oh, that's
the meaning of this, that sisters or women are more intellectually higher.
So that's against the science now, women are more intellectually better than the brothers. And then why the Hadith says they have deficiencies. What kind of response can we give to them? If they say this, ask them to come to Islam?
No, seriously, ask them to join the Islam with sincerity get inside they will understand
until anyone who says this, okay, ask them to go and read a book written by the test married a mocha, mocha demo macadam called outdated HR.
This book is into three volumes. Let them read the first part of it, and go do their own research and see whether he is truthful when he made those quotations about the history of woman from day one.
And will lie if they have some, some actual you know, if they have Apple,
they will never talk against Islam. They will never misunderstand Islam after this. Because go and see who was a woman before Islam comes.
This will we can say it with freedom, with no regrets. And we're not exaggeration. exaggeration, that woman never got freedom in their life until the timestamp comes.
Give me one example. And if you read that, you will see a lot he mentioned a lot. Not only this
coming up. So he gives you gives he gives you a lot
more than what I'm going to tell you now.
In one of the communities he mentioned, there was a time the members of the community are
having a meeting, you know, serious meeting. The agenda of the meeting is is a woman.
Okay, you might say maybe they're looking for some more right for them. You know, that's the agenda.
You want to complete? Say yes, yes.
What about woman?
Is she human being?
The other party should be what Gene Right? No, or shaytan
SubhanAllah? Did you hear that? The agenda itself is enough for you to know how much this coming and this is not Muslim community how much they insult.
God even that what is
or the second option is she is not shaper.
But she always cooperate with Shabbat.
And that was the conclusion majority choose the last opinion that she always works with Shabbat.
You have almost no community that ever respect in this life. Only after Islam Islam comes with this huge amount of suspect. He makes them queens, which they don't understand until now. A sister from from Russia cried when somebody explained to her who is actually a woman in Islam. Allah who one of our scholars said when he was talking to her, she cried. She cried, and she wasn't a Muslim. But she hears something that she used to dream.
But somebody is getting it. Maybe the sister who is getting all of these privileges. She never went to secondary school.
But she got them and this one went to everything but she's still suffering struggling to live and survive. So let them go and read all of these things and understand and then come and make a comparison. Then they will definitely understand that Islam when he talks.
There is a wisdom behind what the last module I said, and there is no disrespect at all. There are many
things like that. But alas, no hotel knows
And we didn't know so when the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam I said, Mara hmm Naka Sakhalin what deen and how they lived there hasn't been a condor who created man.
Allah Who created woman, Allah azza wa jal. Nobody knows us more than Allah. He said, This is how I created this. And this is our creed this
and that deficiency that he's talking about.
Is it something that will make her useless? No.
That's a strange actually, if you look at what the scholars say does is shaped strength.
That's a strength.
And they participated during tap on the Prophet sallahu wa sallam, his wife advised him and he took that advice. And it was a success, you know? And he used to come down to the wives and ask them, if they have that deficiency, that they are understanding why the prophets Allah said about going to them and ask him consult in the middle of the call about Russia and they go and consulted. They have these people rushing to eyeshadow, the LoJack study and they have other components, why don't they go to them?
That's why Islam says in Chroma comida Llahi at Coco Quran says that and also last Lhasa said that just means in the eyes of Allah subhanho wa taala, we are equal. Nobody's better than the other one except with Taqwa of Allah subhanaw taala. But are we the same, no one ever tells you the same he knows his line, woman is not the same as a as a man and man is not the same as a woman.
The way they think psychologically is different. The physical anatomy is different.
It emotionally they are different. You know, what a woman can, can can do. Sometimes man cannot do what a man can do a woman cannot do. Allah created is different. But these ones, they want you to believe that everyone is the same in this regard. And they managed to convince some of our brothers and sisters that a sister cannot be okay unless if she does what man does.
That's deficiency in alcohol. If everyone is supposed to be standing in his own position, things are going to be nice in the community. We don't need to do everything in a company. Nobody does everything. You have a job, I don't interfere and she has a job. Why when a sister is given a job and the brothers given the job, then somebody will come and say this is discrimination.
So understanding the source correctly is really necessary. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, If boy baby boy pee, as long as the baby boy did not eat food, he just sprinkle on it. Even need to wash it but if a baby girl does what, what would you do? You have to wash it.
Those one will tell you this, you see another another discrimination? You know, they make us worse than
and the scholars will tell you what this is Sharia of Allah sports and the creator of both of them says, This is what should do here. And the other one to do it here and then we stop here. That's why we don't explain. Why is it like this? Why is it like that? We don't explain we just say Allah Allah, but this is what Allah smart Allah says. And we believe that since Allah azza wa jal make it like this through the prophets, Allah Sama, there is a difference.
Do we need to know the difference? No, we don't need to know it. Our job is to apply what Allah subhanaw taala says, you know, the first community, none of them participate in these stupidities, that we have them nowadays.
The sisters live a very excellent life, highly respected by everyone. And they believe in this Knossos, and they mentioned them and they circulate them amongst themselves. Everyone knows this physician assistant knows her position and the brother knows his position. But we live in a time where somebody's convinced convinces that no, we have to merge everything. So what I'm trying to say is, we should understand themselves when I say they should, we should invite them to come to the real Islam. I was. I meant my word, actually, they have to come inside. They cannot just take Islam based on their own thoughts. You have to read it properly from the correct source. And they have to
come to school in the way everyone goes, they won't learn biology, you know, go to the to the hospital or open your own hospital, you know, and start treating people and see what will happen. The next day you will be in jail.
The authority will take you to jail. Are they in writing that? Yes, they absolutely right, because you're putting the life of others in danger. And Wallahi given fatwa, or talking on behalf of Islam without having the knowledge is more dangerous than that.
We should give it more weightage than that one. So that's the reason why I said they should come and see how the suits are supposed to be interpreted not to use them in their own way. That's why in some of the classes I said, this one, you just have to tell them sometimes lacantina comedy either need to either need to talk to them
to get idea, somebody have to finish this. Somebody married
a second wife? No, no, I think you already have the nisab he completed he got
Got a group of sisters they came to advise him affiliated to one of the groups I will not tell you what groups they came to advise that this is wrong. And so Hala none of them is wearing hijab, no nose caffeinated. He told them the first thing for you to qualify given mercy is to go and fix Islam first and then come back to me.
It says because, you know, I was Allah, Allah Azza wa said, Allah. So Allah subhanho wa Taala doesn't want you to look like this, go and fix it first and then come, let's have healthy and peaceful discussion after you fix yourself, factory che la God, if you can, if you lack something you cannot give it to to somebody else. So that's my answer. Sometimes you don't need to waste your time, you know, because many of their statements you see, a lot of stupidities. They said we oppress them into heat. We oppress them in the language you know, they said everything to hidden you know that? What is that? Yeah, in the top eight, they said we are oppressing also the sisters into here.
Because you said you don't know that right? Are you ready for that?
They said because he said when you say I shall Allah Allah Allah is Allah.
Masha Allah, Allah Illa. Who are you don't say here he is versus a ye say who?
What reply you have for this?
Yeah, they said, they said in the language. Also, if you if you said a who hire is an umpire. But if you ask about the woman who said he hated higher than is a snake, why did you choose this, this when you address how you address her with the snakes and
which aren't even thinking like that, but I'm telling you this these people, they have no limits. The point is how to criticize Islam. And how to take a woman from this prestigious position that last month I put her back to the old one where somebody will make her like what, like a toy, nowadays is not like a toy worse than a toy, actually, how long you know, those images that are bad sometimes I went to a place I see them on the ground and people are working on them. I was like, Okay, is it is it good for those sisters to have the images people working on it? You know?
That's advertisement, right? The person on the floor and people are working on it. And somebody says we're looking for freedom, what freedom is this?
allows me to go so that just
while you did
have a question, I have to give you this
okay, the sister asks, How should your brother or sister prepare himself or herself during the period when they have a serious intention to get married, but Allah has not yet provided as foster patients.
They should be patient. Because having a spouse A good one is risk.
And I would advise the person if he is not in a state of necessity, not to rush wait for the good one to come.
Try with the good one, the good one doesn't want to come wait. Exercise patients wait for them to come. Don't rush is better to exercise patient rather than rushing, especially from the society rather than rushing at the end of the day.
It enter by divorce, you know, he destroys your life. In some communities will assist are already married. It will be very difficult for her to get married again. She think wisely.
marry somebody who's not going to wait for the correct one to come. So my advice is patience. Right?
Does it
just say it I will repeat when talking to sisters for business. When talking to sisters for business transaction or any other important work, where should the glance be?
Where it is supposed to be?
To see the person that you're dealing with is okay after that, then no this is not like the marriage the way you focus.
The good idea this is not like the marriage where you focus on it just to recognize the person who you're dealing with. And the one looking is more than more than enough in this regard, other than that, it should always
Okay, that's better for you.
If you want to make it correct, if she's not married yet yes. proposed for the marriage, halal business, you know, good company.
That's that's better. So that we're looking for fatwa Yes. proposed for marriage.
Go for the business.
Last month, okay, so
where are we
calling
him
Bismillah R Rahman Rahim o salat wa salam ala mode Ramadan Amina, do you know have you been hammering said Allahu Allahu Allah Allahu Samuel Salam I'm about
a kilometer Balcatta Allah will call the minute your golden Amina, I'm sorry hinda were following the food chain for which I don't know what I have done is in its own illa Allah.
So Allah talk about the brothers, when they
they looking at the opposite gender, how are they supposed to do it? So we have learned what to do and what kind of restriction we have is on this. So now Allah wants to talk to the sisters also called Local Illuminati.
So the same command Allah sponsor gave the brothers and he gave also the sisters. And this is better for them. Although many scholars said the emphasis by Islam is more on the brothers and the sisters. Okay, based on so many reasons, because when you have both agendas in one place, the one who turned to the last is the brother and this is this is this is very dangerous. Because he uses the physical force that Allah subhanaw taala granted him to go to the huddle.
That's why how many times you have the case of the rape against the brother
sisters raping a sister raping the brother, how many times
maybe some of us never heard of it, or you heard of it once in your life. But how many times we have the the opposite. Nowadays they counted with seconds or minutes. They will tell you after that I think all the calculation. Nowadays they have new one check and see what they mentioned. They talk about themselves a lot. That's old. I heard that one also when that case happened, and the bus they mentioned every 20 minutes and that but that's Oh, so many years now go and see the new one and last one to protect and guide them to Islam first.
Allah had nothing can protect a woman other than Islam can have anything other than Islam.
So the emphasis on the brothers is more than the sisters. Okay, the emphasis on the brothers is more than that the sisters, I shouted Allah Han Hakeem and sola sola sama who was looking at me since they were playing their games in the masjid. And the prompts Allah has allowed her to to see as he's watching the game, and for sure she cannot watch the game without watching the one who is playing.
And I was okay so last Allah Azza mullet I shall see that.
But when it comes to the opposite, Ursula Sal sama did not like his companion to watch him playing with his wife, I have
never told them to go these are the components and the most trusted entities so that nobody can come and say nobody is trust worthy. There is not trust between the male and the female. Whenever you trust then you're going to see that you're placing the trust in the wrong way. The good ones that the one that married they marry.
The other one they look for other channels to go against the trust. So Allah subhanaw taala also commanded the sisters the best for them also to try their best. But looking at the opposite person content in the matter of the Sisters is not in the way it is. When it comes to the brothers the emphasis is more on on them. But alas Mata commanded both when he says call them Amina to put them in I'm sorry Hina were for the flu. Jonah lived in a Xena tahona Illa Mala
that's why it's easier to have the presence of both in a place where the one who is delivering this is a male than having the opposite. The restriction is to still
caught up calculate the mean of SAR Hindware formula flujo they should also lower their gaze Wellford nephrogenic and they preserve them
more to see them for a
while I'm Tina, Xena, Tahuna Illa Amina, and they are supposed to expose the Xena, they don't meet Illa mahavihara Mita except that which appears which cannot be closed cannot be covered. And here is the place where you have a long battles among the scholars. What is the word zero? You have the liveness route and I shouted Allahu anha and some other companions of the prompts and lots of Mahoba leaves that Xena here is referring to the cloth because you cannot close it. You cannot cover the cloth. If you say you she has to cover her cloth then what does she wear then?
He has to go in the room and close the room also.
So they said what Allah has pointed out here is that the cloth that appears
other than that she has to convert the whole body does Abdullah have Massoud nyesha and some other
companions of the Prophet sallahu wa salam. On the other hand, you have the alignment of bears who believe that face and the hand can be exposed. So you have many scholars holding upon this and you have many scholars also holding the other one that I mentioned Clayton says, he says if you look at the Quran itself, you might sense the supports the first opinion because Allah subhanaw taala says live diligent.
They shouldn't expose the Zina. And he says sometimes you might have an opinion, which is rejected by the Quran, but the owner of this opinion will be claiming that he is interpreting the Quran but the Quran itself is refuting what he what he's saying. And they give this example he says because there is no where Allah subhanaw taala in the Quran mentioned the word Xena and he meant the face or the hand, he always talked about the external.
I don't mean to that attachment, which a person is doing on cancer in the summer, didn't have a massage. He
was in a coma keep in place, places almost in every place where Allah Samantha mentioned the word Xena, he's talking about the external factor. So if you come and say that Xena here is referring to the face and the hand he said you have to provide evidence for that, in order to take it from the original meaning
you get to him he said there is no such evidence because a Buddha old and a Razzie those scholars of Hadith they said the Hadith that says when a woman reaches the age of maturity is not permissible upon Hunter show anything except to the hands and the face is a weak narration.
So the issue is based on this, the scholars who believe that this is authentic, and they will tell you that was the exception.
The scholars who believe that this is not authentic, and they will tell you that was not an exception, because the hadith is weakened you cannot extract a legal ruling from a weak derision.
So, you have this opinion and you have the other opinion, I have two things to focus on here.
All the scholars believe that uncovering,
no uncovering other than the face and the faces face like this, this side is not face faces by what Matt was up
beside is another face. So uncovering other than the face and the hand is wrong and a sinful act.
I have never come across somebody who tells you that other things can be open.
Most of them said no, including the feet, except some scholars who said the feet is also like the hand and the face. So my point here is assisted to Viet Allah subhanaw taala understand if she takes the opinion of those scholars who says face in the hand could be uncovered that she should restrict herself to those
good idea and have something also that can help her to cover that the hands properly, because when they say the hand they are talking about wrist from here to here.
So nowadays, I think I have the lie, you have a lot of
creativity and how to call it whereby they have some extensions that assess the port, unless even if it is uncovered, the color of the skin will not be will not be shown. Because mistake in this regard. If she doesn't have that one is very easy.
Okay, and a person has to be very careful because the angel didn't care, you know, on the right,
right or wrong. So taking the precaution at home, from work before going out is what is necessary. So that's the first thing if a person take this one, they have to understand the restriction that we only allowed to open this other than that know that she gives a loss for her child abuse. And this is the opinion that she's satisfied with not following the desire. Because there are many who will tell you, I just feel that this feeling doesn't work here. They have to look into the evidence mentioned which one is is better. Or look, if you cannot differentiate then focus on the scholars whom you trust and see what is actually the Italian then go with that. And that does it.
The second issue which is the last one is which one is the best. All of them agree that covering like the wife's of Bahamas a long summer is the best all of them. All of them. Didn't call it a cultural practice of the JD like some people say it is not. So let's allow someone that is my two assistants in that environment.
If you're talking about Africa, this is Africa because this is what last month I chose for the wife of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So sometimes there are issues which you have a long controversy among the scholars is what is the basis on saying that you know
For the best for the believers to look at what was done by them by Rasulullah sallallahu just hold on that this is the area which is safe what was done by the wives of Rasul Allah this is the safe area nobody can blame you and that is not mistaken
if you take this take that everyone just want can see this So, what I'm saying is we should remind our sisters
to observe the man don't take the opinion of those collars more than what it can
it can bear you know, they said face and the hand faces here you know how should come sometime there are a lot of styles people are doing nowadays which Subhanallah the past also the prophets Allah someone gave some indication so they
come with the hump
you know,
like the like some attachments to heads you know
that's where Samba salsa said we also own the cassava in bhakti Elmira land common agenda our agenda
this one also is wrong.
So what must she do the best is let it go down
in the way it will not be recognize that's better walleye does better for her
that's what Allah smarter says in the in the mid July baby in America, Europe now
observe the proper hijab, the one that is not transparent, one is thick enough to cover
everything and also not transparent transparent and also it covered up the whole hour is not attractive.
So all of these things should be should be observed. So as I said she should feel a lot smarter to make sure that she restricts herself to the correct approach or she takes this opinion of those callers who says hand in the face can can come then she should restrict herself to them. As I said no hair coming out. Sometimes they have this
fashion they bring some part of the hair outside until the time it goes back and just will write the same for because let's face not there
may Allah subhanaw taala grantees
and let the community be aware of the evil consequence of not observing the Sharia and be patient
Okay, Allah says what I've done is enough lemma Amina except what exposes you know, but they shouldn't they shouldn't
expose anything other than that Xena which cannot be cannot be covered like the cloth and the face and the hand according to some of the scholars colorway is remenham the Homebrew hymnology when and they should also put that him out there scarves the garments you know whatever they can cover themselves they should put it on their body Gob in here means the body especially the path of the chest and then a hub in the heart this is the multipath
where you slaughter a camel the sheep and the cow you slaughter them like this and the camels How do you How is nothing the camels it see this this whole like this is the lumber you know the area of the analysis. So you put the knife there and catch that place and then the blood will come the camera will will die. So Allah says Allah you will be in this the area of the chest so that they will not look like the assistance of the Janelia where assistant can come at some part of our chances is uncovered. So she she put it put something from the head until the tool
okay many scholars believe that the feat is also considered to be our most of the scholars actually the vast majority of the scholars believe that feat is not included. Is only face and the hands and feet is not included. So she should cover it with something that is covering. Okay.
Okay, well I will be humulene allergy will be in so they put it
until they cover everything. I shattered the Allahu anha praises the wives and the MaHA tsar. They said she said when this verse is was was revealed, they quickly go back to the to their garments and they cover themselves immediately. Really applied no question.
Their husbands went and recite what the prophets Allah Azza wa said quickly apply. Everyone is looking for that which pleases Allah subhanho wa Taala well emptiness, lemma Hara minha Walia, remenham and formula enology. He never lived in a zealot inland immorality. They are not supposed to show that I don't mean to which is close except for Ebola to him. Who is bound husband.
Okay, they show it to their to their husbands. Okay, the husband can see and he's the only person who has no restriction
Okay, the only person who has no jurisdiction to see any kind of other woman that is halal is a husband. And she's recommended also to reach the peak of beautification and decorating herself because we want her to participate in keeping him down in the house. Okay, not letting him go look for some other alternative in the community.
And we have a lot of statistics will tell you the percentage of the people who are having extra marital affairs
the wife shouldn't be happy with that but Subhanallah you have some who are happy with this.
She doesn't mind the point and not to bring somebody else to the house that he can have any other person out of the house. So who is participating in this? If the wife does her job based on light Allah it will be enough for him to to cool down a list below his get his gaze you know a bit so that you will not share his attitude with the community. Carnival Abdullah zealot on the inland Ebola Tina except for the husbands however in
all their parents, she's with the Father. The Father can see the hair the father can see that the earring she has a goal she make us American because we're not expecting something to happen between the father and and the daughter.
But sometimes in our time, you know the biller just happens when you take the attitudes of the west you know, the prophets Allah Azza wa salatu Tiburon, nacinda naman kind of couple are going to be following the track and the path of those before you.
He said Shiva ambition, Shiva is like this, step by step, hetero daco Jarrah letter B HMO, if one of them get inside the hole of a laser, you're going to follow. So,
in some narration, they said if somebody have a relationship with his mother, you have somebody also who is going to follow them in this regard. Oh, is that Muharram you have somebody? Do we have these cases? Yes. Our JIRA is full of these things, you know, sometimes
Subhanallah it catches the attention sometimes you will be asking why why?
There is no good also sometimes people to, to bring these things outside. But
sometimes people need to know. And the best way to know what to do is to come to the classes, learn how to dress properly at home,
how to dress properly at home.
So that's where anything that can remove this barrier between the Muharram should be should be removed.
So watching bad things in the presence of you watching it alone also is haram. And sometimes they watch it in the presence of everyone and you think good is going to take place after that.
Hour by him now I ever wanted to hinder or the parents or the parents have
their husband because the father of the husband cannot marry the wife of his child.
Yeah, as long as your son marry the woman, then call us you cannot marry that that woman
I've ever wanted to him so that Father will become the as a Hebrew
Bible Latina so we're talking about those who assist I can show how I don't mean to to the husband and
liberality now Abba. Aina. Or their parents, their father, our Ebola gene or the father of the husband.
Oh econo Hina right or their siblings their brothers from every dimension. The brother who the full brother the one mother and the father and the same or the one they share only the Father content with brother or the last one. You train sibling, this is the one that share only mother. There is no marriage between them at all so she can show him She cannot do on herself in His presence.
I will acquire him now money one hand the other children have their their siblings the brothers were talking about sisters here we're talking about male who among the male can see that don't mean have a sister can our equality nobody one hinda Alberni acaba to hinder all the children of their their sisters, the male children of their sisters, they also can see them
not properly covered Alberni acaba to hinder our desire in or their sisters. This is where also the controversy lies. When Allah says Nyssa in their sisters, most of the scholars said he's referring to to the Muslim, a sister is not allowed to show her. I don't mean to a non Muslim.
You get ideal. So if you're talking about the opinion that says face and hand could be covered, that's been a Muslim
cannot see that a non Muslim woman cannot say that if you go with the majority or many scholars that says face and the hands are not included, she can uncover the issue if she was then that's the only thing that
I'm sorry a non Muslim woman can see
but she cannot see other than that the hair and the neck she can see other than that most of the scholars are upon this opinion unless if there is a need
a sister who is surrounded by the numbers in the family are all Kfar
you can idea there has to be something else this is where you can take the other opinion to reduce the impact. Otherwise lag will be very terrible. So since there are some OB and the AI is not that clear, saying that Muslimah Allah spartacist Lisa hinda Canada so you have the other side of the picture, some of the scholars great scholars who believe that no is not only for the Muslim success, but the opinion of the majority of the scholars is the closest opinion to the truth unless if there is no need for that. There is no need and that there has to be has to be closed. Albania coati now is that in the our market, Mr. Hoonah or the slave of a woman? She has a main slave? Can she uncover
her head in front of him? Yes. Fatima de la hora and how she was suffering when the prophets Allah sama came with the slave he gave her she was suffering the hijab is falling down she put his back sometimes she's hiding herself trying to cover up the province Allah Azza wa said Take it easy. It just your father and your slave you don't need to cover everything in proto in His presence.
Get it out Mr. Market Mr. Hoonah I will tell the reader later with an aerobatic or a tablet, those people who are the tabby they follow people and here Allah subhanaw taala is talking about those people who know before the before the cheater because she then comes there are people who
have been
okay, I've helped mean somebody who has some deficiency in his ankle. And at the same time also, he tried to imitate sisters.
And at the same time, also he doesn't have desire we're sure about that. And usually he doesn't differentiate between male and female.
Okay, I'm mentioning this so that nobody can come and go and give those ones and say yeah, because nowadays they are saying that a person determined the sexy wants to be in and they will use this hadith you know, this is Mohan misuse to come to the Salah, Salah Salem and the process or do not do anything.
So this Mohandas somebody who has some deficiency in his apple, you know, so people don't take him serious because he's kind of a millennial, you know, so he doesn't understand anything, but he tried to imitate the sisters, he put himself in the position of the sisters. So he used to come to the house of Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam and sit down, and the sisters make jokes with him, you know, typical doesn't become a character, you know,
activities him and then to talk like that. So, up to the time he started talking in their own way. And as soon as alasa heard that, he said, I visited a place I saw the daughter of so and so and so when she comes forward, she comes with four,
four things when she moves, she goes with eight things. Tocqueville if era, and the scholar said he is referring to the way the body, the body of that woman looks like especially when a person is fat, you know, he has some meat here, lays here on the side. So
this is what he was describing. When Rasul Allah someone heard that he said, definitely this man now understand what is there. And then he asked somebody to take him out of the house, never to return back again to the family.
So he let him because at that moment, he doesn't know anything. But when he said that word, then he understand that this man nowadays now he knows actually we were wrong in our assumption, and then he took him out because we can keep him in that place.
That's why if a person changes his nature to something else, you know, can we let him enter the bathroom of the sisters? That's haram?
I think even in the Cooper country also is a debate you know, the sister don't agree with that. And they do have right and these are not Muslim, but they still have the alkaline that some some may say that, you know, they don't let it happen. Otherwise, why do we have this as toilets and brothers?
But he claimed that he changed but the mind is still is still there. Okay. The same goes to the sister who changed to the brothers can she come and use the toilet which belongs to the brothers? No, she shouldn't.
They have to remain in the way they are. May Allah subhanaw taala guide they really are leniency in our advice.
screen allows more to guide them or bring them back to the truth. So this is our terminal.
Those people who don't have any desire I
mean, originally from the brothers from the man, I would definitely
all the children Alladhina la milholland, or at least those people who don't know the power of a woman,
but for what he knows, then a sister has to be very careful.
Which is that
nobody, in which age in which
that age, which which time
the past Oh, now
because folk how when you read the thick, they will tell you, the younger girl, which people have no desire towards her
Subhan Allah, we live in a time which this is gone, you know, how many times people lost their younger daughters, but when they found that they found them in a very critical moment.
That's means a person should be very careful, you know, we're living in the wrong time, you know, where things have gone upside down?
In the past, in the past, believe it or not walleye, believe it or not, when we not that not that past, you know, not that possible. When we are young. Okay. When we are young, we don't know the difference between when I say young like 1011 12, you know, that age, we don't know the difference between male and female.
He will Allah never taught me with the friends will be discussed, but how the child comes, you know,
it remains a puzzle, how does the child comes? You know, we don't know.
Nowadays, in the primary school, a child will give you a PhD in this
child will give you a PhD in this. So Hala and you have some also some countries nowadays the debate is, can we introduce a sex education in primary school or not? Subhanallah in one of the countries I see, before even the Muslim react, one of the leaders of the Christian you know, he was talking very harshly. I was saying that this person, miss, I mean, get everything except Islam.
fit what he says is wrong. And 100% is wrong. You teaching kids at this moment, you think that you protecting them, no child is based on what
experiments
always try to explore children's are like that. That's why your child will come, they will see a glass on the table. We just monitor
watch, what if I push it? What will happen?
He will just innocently and break it and then wait and see what we reaction.
To get it these are children
trying to that's why they said Don't you ever do dangerous thing in the presence of a child? Because after you leave the practice, you slaughter an animal in the presence of a child, I'm telling you, if you're not careful, they might practice on themselves what happened you know can you you can be committed and they get the knife and then Subhanallah and of this course was written a story like this, you know it happened somebody lost his child because of this.
So, children are like that. So, you bring this education and you let them learn it in the primary school. What do you think will happen?
They will explode. And then we come and talk you know.
So, we have in some modalities in primary school primary, I focus on the primary school and I want to go to secondary school because this is Lumberton Cobra
he will live in Colorado we have been teaching from the no thing. So we have seen these things.
You come to the primary school seats people becoming pregnant.
Seriousness has to be taken up by the parents first and then the authority Karla will typically Latina La Mirada Alright in this. So when the child becomes matured and goes to school, then a sister should be very, very careful. The mother should observe good parents and the sisters also the siblings also should behave nicely in the presence of this. You don't know what other children are teaching him.
They know in these days they know what you don't know. They know they can teach you many things you don't know they have witnessed this and they have seen it. They just sometimes keep quiet in your house because they don't know how would you react and naturally they know is wrong. That's why they they hide it. So out definitely the lemon Hara.
On our tennis up while I had driven Julie hinda Euro lemma my pyramid Xena to him and then Allah subhanaw taala stopped them to from hitting the ground with their leg so that somebody will know that which they hide enough that almond in the past before Islam, they used to put the anklet you know so when they work slowly nobody knows. So they used to hit the ground so that it will produce this our people will understand this that is something then Allah said they shouldn't do that. A scholar said this is an indication to say that anything that can catch the attention of the opposite gender a citizen supposed to to do it. Like what the preview
so last the last time I said anyone who puts perfume that catch that smells and catch the attention of the brothers should be committed Xena Auntie she comes back home.
So that shouldn't be done. But do Is there any need for it nowadays? There is no needs Hala. Allah squatter has given us a lot but you know shaytan will never let us Allah has given us a lot. K if if you're done put those
those things that remove the smell. Would you smell? Yes. Brothers and sisters? Are they different? No, they're the same. If she doesn't put she smells just like the way the brother smells. So she smells. So what to do
she put the perfume right. But at hamdulillah nowadays we have things which she can put you can put and nobody will smell them at all and they remove the bad smell. The case is closer. No need to put the one that catches the attention because wherever you have the smell of a perfume naturally people look to see who who put it. And they may comment also
to get an idea so in this is to protect assistance before the brothers in the community. Caller to the lions. You had walked in a landlocked into the hole. And that Allah smart Allah says you should repent to Allah subhanaw taala all together so that you can attain the success because there has been a lot of negligence and negligence will continue to happen in the life of the people in terms of hijab. Allah says always repent and absorb Toba because you're going to have mistakes in your life, sometimes accidentally, something will happen. Or Ben to Allah smart Allah will close the page between you and him.
Is that clear? So I really advise the brothers and sisters to observe this is a very, very important message from Allah Sparta for every community if that community wants to, to succeed, lower your gaze as much as you can, and also at the same time marry. That's why the next one says what, what Thank you who I am, I'm in Como, Salah Halem in a medical way, ie my echo.
Lowercase if you can. But the best thing to be done is to marry
because it helps you to protect your eyes and your private spot. Allah smarter says, Thank you, we'll aim on income. Are you more AlLadhina xojo? Who are you? Allah says let the Iron Men come married, who is
the one that doesn't have a spouse, Allah says let them marry, support their marriage, marry them to others, who have a child who need who need marriage, let him marry is wrong path that some communities are taking nowadays your child needs a marriage and you keep on pushing him Wallahi issues are happening in the universities, which only Allah subhanaw taala knows. And many of them, the people in the university know but the authority they might not know. Only Allah knows what is going on,
go around the universities and see
is to go to a place almost every lecture I gave I must receive a question that says what happened? What is the hook of the marriage of this university? I will not mention the name of the university. Whenever I go to that lecture and that the university they will ask me not this one, that university, the marriage of that university. I used to ask them what kind of marriage are you talking about? Do they have marriage? No, the Islamic marriage but what is the marriage of the university, they will tell you a brother and sister they come from overseas, you know, from wherever they come and that has no presence of the parent here. So they live in one place here and how until
the time they got ya
know, managing or even according to those who says that we don't need the Willie, they don't go for that, you know, that is also about it, you know, but they don't go for that.
They sit together they have children also together.
And sometimes they don't have the children but she sells her honor and dignity to to others.
Allah smartercard It's a truth. So parents need to understand this. Allah He as a parent, you have to understand once your child needs the marriage the best is to support his marriage and to marry. Sometimes he has, he has to get a job. No, don't think about that. Think about preserving his order. Don't let him go into the bad experience first and then engage in fixed Edit. This is wrong.
Sometimes we say we have to do jihad
Would you heard me talking about
the fall as they're enjoying his life here and the mother and tell the child to do jihad? Would
he put him in trouble and tell him to do here? Would you
support him in the marriage, even if he doesn't have a job, support him and guide him, put his hand on a job, guide him to the job, threatened him tell him that I'm not going to support you after this. You have to depend on yourself, he will look for it. But at least you support it to preserve his honor and marriages responsibility you know, many people after the marriage they come back to their consciousness, they became serious which they were not like that before. Allah smart Allah says Anki will and Mommy can live the marriage marry assistant in marriage the father should get married. The brother needs a marriage the father should get him or son him anybody combined Miko and
those righteous people amongst your slaves also when they need the marriage, let them do
your Kulu Pokhara you're going to him Allah Humann for the India poor Allah subhanaw taala will make them rich
in the poor Allah squatter will make them rich. Okay, this is that's why they used to say that if you want risk married, but doesn't mean marry and go and sleep.
It means marry and then go and look for the rest and last one to open more door for you. Because now your wife is under your control. There is that last one to prescribe for her most likely is going to come through you so you have increasing the risk. The same goes to having children Whoever tells you that don't have a lot of children because it might cost you this and that. Don't listen to him. I don't care.
So So alas Martin says we'll sell him in a radical way. Am I in your corner? Or are you gonna Imola mean in probably, if they're poor, Allah smarter is going to grant them from his from His bounties Allahu wa.
Allah subhanaw taala has everything at once. That means the one who whose bounties have no end. And this is Allah subhanho wa taala. And the lastly he says Happy well, they started with the the legend or Nicoletta Melania for the informally, those people who cannot find Nikka McGraw Hill means ability to marry. Let them observe a steadfast steadfast means to hold their breath, to exercise patience, to do anything that can protect their eyes and protect their private part. You know, that's what they should do for Salah is Allah some asset to the Shabaab if you can afford manage, instead marry, if you cannot, in fast, because marriage can help you to lower your gaze and to
protect your private part. If you cannot do then take the alternative which is fasting. Fasting can act in this way. But as I said, you should first like Rasool allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, don't eat a lot. Okay, don't eat a lot, because eating too much can provoke desire.
The only answer I have to the question that usually comes to me about a fast Allah pastille My desire is increasing.
One of the two things, either you put yourself in the middle of the fitna,
you know, in the middle of the fitna, and then you are looking for the protection but you're still in the middle of the fitna, the medicine will not work.
You eat poison, and you're taking medicine at the same time, you know, if you're this one, and the problem will increase at the same time, or you're not fasting in the right way you eat too much as a whole is very much you know, and the FDA says very much, this is not fasting.
This is not faster than the way it should be. It should be done. So Allah says, well, it's Africa living legend in the kind of love and folly, what are the inevitable and Kitab a so I will stop here in sha Allah next class. If Allah subhanaw taala wish that we are going to come for the next lesson. Then we will start from Angkor Wat I am an income pasado eliminate Valley comma EMA equal. So in conclusion, Allah sponsor guided us very excellent and interesting guidance to lower our gaze as much as we can. When you look, which you know that you have no evidence for you to go for that seeing the Toba I mean repentance, I mean forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala don't get inside
the places where
the people are there in the place without taking the permission so that they can prepare for you. Good idea, and how a person should behave when he is at home, a sister and when she is with others, how is he supposed to behave? We have learned that and the best of all, is to marry as the last one to advise everyone to go for that the best is to marry. This is how we keep the family life intact. To marry. That's the most important thing that can protect the community from these type of social evils. Is that clear? Kill the question before you go to your questions. Is there any contradiction between
Studying marriage
is there any contradiction between studying marriage
in which if you're married while you are studying, you will fail in the exams?
You will never focus
is that correct?
I said no. As our scholar said there is no contradiction actually is fix the thinking we have seen people who excel after after the marriage. So it depends on you whether you are lazy or not even work 24 hours, okay you have time which you're not doing. So give your study a time and give your family also another time and give you a job also another time you have enough time and then unfortunately, we don't manage our time properly. So there is no contradiction, especially the life we live in nowadays is good to marry and continue to education. It helps a lot right? You come to the university with your wife if your eyes go to somewhere else to tell you what don't forget I'm
here
is really anywhere anyway I've seen this a lot.
Allah subhanaw taala grant is good. Okay, that's all for today if you have any questions please do come up with
you don't need a coupon
what can we tell a sister who does not cover the aura properly? What is evidence from the Quran or Hadith for the whole body of the woman is clear evidence to convince someone
that is a Hadith that says our authenticated by most of the scholars and he did not specify which part is our which part is not. So that's the reason why I said the face of the hand is meant to be exception by those scholars who said can be uncovered. Other than that, it has to be to be covered. And if you look at the statement of Allah spot and so it has
the hindlimb Angela DB hinder
okay, even
the Liberalist you know, they understood this to be covering from head to toe I had one of them saying this
you know, trying to reach his own goal, but he mentioned that this is the best cereal.
So that's the indication of the Quran, the Sunnah of the Prophet Allah sama also said that and the practice in the time of Rasulullah sallallahu also said, said that next question, see, we're going to go like that just said I repeat.
For clothing if a sister is fully covered, and her clothes are loose, can she wear loose trousers with a long upper garment that reaches past her knees isn't trans we'll say it again. For the clothing, if the system is fully covered, all the clothes are nice. Can she wear loose trousers with a long upper garment that teaches past her knees?
She has a trouser side that goes to the ground is there a difference between the cause and
the point is to have the hijab according to Islam, there's no specific kind of hijab that she has to wear, this is no specific
point this shouldn't be loose.
Whether the
the commits the shirt, the shirt is up to the knees, you know, she has a trouser that's big, which covers everything.
And of course the best is to let it go down from because this is the indication of civil to NASA
but the point is to cover what is supposed to be covered with something that is loose, that doesn't show the size of that part.
And something that is not transparent is something that is not attractive to them to the opposite gender is it
just a desire for dresses attractive or not even if it's modest, we have to go to the cultural practice how can assistant decide whether the dress is attractive or not?
I think the culture decide here
there are certain type of dress which the culture will tell you that this is attractive and this is not okay, we go with that. And I don't think here we
yeah, we resist the nose and the brother sister knows both of them. She also wants to dress you knows what's he she wants
to get idea so we're dressing for others.
Would you analyze how our system has stayed with the community who doesn't cover in front of cousins, the husbands of the aunts etc. Patients and educates them could you advise how secondary with the community where the system
That doesn't cover herself in the presence of cousins and all of these people, right? She should observe patients and try to educate, educate them observe the proper manner you know she's gonna face a lot of things but she be patient and does she teach them because of sola sola sama says wrong is wrong wrong?
Or what does she do engage in education than teaching them until the time she they understand she's going to face a lot of battle but exercise patience, she shouldn't fight,
resist, maintain her full hijab according to the Sharia but at the same time, educates them
if they push to shake hands, etc. Do we prioritize keeping family relations or do we stay away? There is no family relations in that.
How about doesn't bring family together?
It's caused them to get separated. So if somebody who's not supposed to shake the hand the question is about it. They push hard to shake. If somebody's not supposed to shake the hand the sister shouldn't give him copper.
If a non Muslim touches us the women will by the way, wait, can you wait?
The uncle
kind of sister uncover herself and stay in the way she said next to the ankle like the way she said next.
Father?
How uncle
Pachi
Pachi Pachi is her uncle right? The father's father's brother right?
Although mother's
mother's brother isn't? Much my
auntie okay.
So embarrassing.
Practice my malaise became in the wrong way.
So
Can she do that or not?
Okay, can originate according to the source Ghana, but almost all of the scholars okay. At least most of the scholars said she shouldn't do that.
Why they say she shouldn't do she shouldn't do that. Because uncle describes her to his children. And the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam I said assistant shouldn't go and see another sister or hug her so that she can explain to somebody who can marry anyhow. So most of the scholars she can sit with him because he's mommy cannot marry her forever. Or when it comes to stayin in the way she sit next to the Father. They said most of the scholars said especially do that in the presence of the of the uncles because they will take the information and talk about her in the presence of their children
which a person shouldn't do that and that's the reason why a majority of the scholars actual rejects the non Muslim to see there was a woman they said because they don't have restriction they describe what they see to others and Muslim system will not go to that
Allah Allah
since you mentioned they cannot see I'm talking about the non Muslims they cannot see our hair beauty etc. So if a non Muslim touches an elephant It doesn't
it doesn't it doesn't according to the best opinion touching a woman doesn't nullify them
are sisters allowed to wear shoes with high heels?
They said is harmful and is it possible for her to walk without having that tuck
Okay, um and also I just say what I talking about high heeled shoes right they said is harmful for the health is unhealthy for them so even from this dimension they shouldn't do that. You get it and is it possible also for her to work without doing that which Allah sponsor said it shouldn't happen I think it's almost simple as possible the high heeled shoes for a person to walk without having those sounds
Yeah, it's possible
to work
so is it possible to have the system working without having this sound? Yes.
Is it possible
but how
Okay, so let's let us make it like this if it is possible for her to present to work without having the sound
and also it is healthy it doesn't harm her health then she'd be okay because the ELA in which Allah sponsor said they shouldn't do is gone doesn't exist
okay and when you choose in Java is okay.
But which one is majority? I think you should be right or Allah Allah rare cases.
where she does that without producing the sound that catch the attention of others. And the scholar said another mother, who we didn't have for how come for, for rare cases, we always base the hokum on the general rulings, we closed the door, the rare cases they have to be included.
To get it there because we cannot control we don't know when is it going to happen on Wednesday? And it's very easy for the mistakes to take place in that regard.
So closing the ways is the best X?
No.
Why should the system draw the line between trying not to attract attention of the brothers and seeking knowledge? For example, asking questions in class where the brothers will notice her more than other sisters who are silent. Okay, Inshallah, as long as you need to ask you, as they used to ask in the presence of Rasulullah sallallahu, Sallam and other companions, it's okay. To get it out there, though, what Allah is actually quite hard to do is to talk modestly, not to be defy her voice talk normally in the way Allah smarter created. But there are some who naturally their voice is really, really, really determined the others, the young people talk about that, to get an idea. So
that's listening to that, you know, there are people who are going to listen to the news just because of the voice of the society. The young one will tell you all of these things, this is part of the Xena being committed by the ears. So if a sister already knows that, I think this is very clear. And in this case, she has to protect herself, because it might put her into trouble.
newspapers everyday we see this, these things.
They're much more to protect. But in general, can she ask question, of course, yes. It used to ask in the presence of a solar cell. So in the presence of the other brothers, and also last hour, the Latino
sunset sisters might feed brothers who are only attracted to other men differently from brothers and sisters that are brothers who are attracted to brothers. Sisters, they treat them separately saying that they're not really attracted to us. The sisters
know?
Brothers, brothers,
sisters, seeing these brothers says they're not attracted to the women. They're attracted to the men. So they lead us Oh, no, that's wrong. That's wrong. To have a sister to have a person who is attracted to male at been attracted to the male over the love. And a sister will say since he's not attracted to the sisters, then then
I just leave with him as if I'm living with another sister. No, he doesn't go like that. She should still treat him as as a brother.
You seen the increased divorce rates and other stuff popping into the society if you do business wise?
Is it fine? Or is it according against the sun if she leaves everything else and focuses on righteousness?
Come again, seeing the divorce rates.
Like she just canceled the marriage and focus on a brother. Oh, that's wrong. She's asking about now that the rate of divorce is increasing. Can I just don't marry
right? Yes, that's the question.
So so is his correcting can know is wrong.
The way she should be thinking how to protect the marriage if I do it from a divorce. She should study what is going on why does the cause of the divorce so that when she married she should protect herself from the divorce
going against marriages deficiency deficiency in thinkable.
Allah says we will send the prophets which are known as virgin what do
we make them mallet will give them wives and also children. So she shouldn't think about this, you should think about the solution. Because there is a cause for divorce.
The most, the biggest one is lack of patience, I will tell you is lack of patience. So many people will tell the woman that she is so submissive you know to the man or like whoever calls the woman and talk to her in this way, you know as worse than shaytan and tell you
you should tell him if you live in environments like this, you should tell them like
like that's part who says
care focuses me on what's wrong with me these days in poetry's it says the one who is coming to my family to destroy the relationship between me and my wife to tell her something which will destroy the relationship between me and them. So most likely he is limited community that does this. It says Casaya in either owes the Shara yesterday.
He said this he should know that you are equal to somebody who is going to Elian to extract the urine from the
If
you have to know that you're working on a fire,
anything can happen you have almost no kolonie or one of them, he came back to his wife and then the mood changes. And then the wife, he asked the wife what happened? She says, because you have a good relationship with the Ameerul Momineen and you let us live in in this life, what is this? A sister went to her and told her that you were staying with you, your husband has a very good relationship with the leader you know, and you have in this life. So, when she when he came back, she turned against him you know, life was not like that. He said when he comes to his house even mashallah, he makes the care and the wife replied, you know, but now know the cube know Salam know anything. It
gets into the house, he finds a different mood.
Why did he say he asked her what happened? Is everything okay? She said, I am told that you have this good relationship with the Sultan. How can we live in like this? It says, Hola. Hola, mon Apsara Allah is OJT for army bussaco. And that woman became blind you know?
That they said that woman he says, Yeah, Allah, whoever destroyed my wife, Yet Allah make him blind.
And it happens like that.
He deserves Allah He is somebody who destroyed the marital relationship and go and tell the wife something and this is happening Allah assistant will go and talk to the wife, and then the wife will change. And wife will be very smart, Wallah, she should be extra ordinary smart, because this person, they will cause her to lose her husband. And at the same time, she has to face the challenges of the next life.
My advice is if a person marries tell you why the wife also should tell the husband, let us design our life. Don't accommodate other people's life. Let us design our life and live like that a wife should be very smart, whoever comes and talk to her about how she should live with the husband. She shouldn't accommodate this at all. Sit with the husband, if you have any comment, discuss with the husband and plan what exactly you want to do in your marriage. So patience is needed. And that's why I said there shouldn't be a barrier between the husband and the wife, you know, they should be very tolerant to each other. And whenever somebody needs, though, don't listen to anyone who tells you
that you're very submissive to their husband is not about that.
I heard a system from one of the countries I will not mention the name. She was interviewing the sisters in some universities to see
whether they agree with this current system or not. She is telling them Don't you feel that you are a slave? Wherever you go, you have to tell your husband whatever you do you have to inform your husband And subhanAllah that young sister that she thought is going to give her what you wanted. He said no actually I don't take it as slavery or putting restriction but I just believe that naturally since I'm his wife, he needs to know what am I doing you know and this is somebody who is studying in the university is supposed to be brainwashed but still with the fitrah he said no this is I think partnership necessay that
and I don't take it I don't take I enjoy it actually
do you know that a marriage was destroyed? This one I'm telling you I know marriage one that was destroyed just because you know, just because the husband interferes when they go to the market he do the Bergin in
the wind doesn't do
you Allah
and there was nothing to be said in order to advise the one of the justification for that divorce is that she shouldn't have the freedom to do whatever she wants in the market. Her job is just to park whatever she wants. And he go and do the bargain with the with the cashier was like I thought this is something interesting that was enjoyed by the sisters you know,
even the guy who says the brothers become a slave.
Is that true? Go to the shopping malls who is moving the trolley. The brothers
you know, if you go there when you marry you're gonna see that you know you go with her like a queen. She opened the door or the kids if you have kids they open the door or sometimes also you open the door for them to come out. Okay let's go go into the market just take and
take and take and put a new other one who is pushing you know, when you reach the catch the cashier Why did they do
just watch you know your your pocket is going to get burned after you finish you tell you thank you very much and like
when you go to the car, he knows sometimes can I help you? You know? Is a no just go into the car and enjoy she's there enjoying the air conditioning and you are there packing the things and when you reach home also give her the key. I will see you that you don't who pack all the thing
I thought is something that they should enjoy. But this one says no, it is deficiency, she wants to go and fight also like anybody else. Allah is so silly, you know, Kabul will actually you know, and it should be the cause of a divorce, you know,
it was there. So most likely, in these type of things, you see, somebody will tell her that you're highly disrespected by by your husband. So a person should be very careful, your house is your house, it shouldn't entertain any other thing. You design your life with your husband, whoever is happy, let him be happy in the way you shouldn't go in the future somebody else's life, nobody should bring their life also to house. Otherwise, you're going to lose your partner, and those who will do nothing but love him. Okay, the last quarter grant is good. So that says that I will advise anyone to check and see what is the cause? Called what are the causes of divorce, study them and
avoid them in your marriage, but don't stay without a lot of marriage?
Right? Where
you can
approach this question.
For example, a sister or brother whose name gets easily influenced by what I've seen, and because of others, say they subconsciously, can you think about the negative things they say and explain.
So, and they feel bad about it, they don't want to think they know that it is wrong. But subconsciously they are thinking about it. And the minute is getting infected in that case, to avoid those kind of subconscious things. Can he?
What can he do? Yeah, stop that. If that's why as a husband, you should be very serious in your life at home, if you realize that some sisters are coming to destroy the life between you and your wife. Even if these people happen to be part of her relatives, you do have a right somehow from dealing with them and she has to follow
to keep the marital relationship she has to follow your instruction. This one I don't want you to visit him and I don't want them to visit us.
They have to do this. Because they're not good. They bring back to the family. She should tell them he should be very strict. Otherwise at the end of the day, you will pay the price you know, so even if this person is a family member, you must have something to block them from entering your family at all. It's very dangerous to let this person enter the premises.
Good idea. You have to be very strict in this you're going to be close by the community that you have so many rules in your house. Tell them yes I don't care about that. I did not interfere your life it shouldn't come to my house and
good luck
Thank you
What about observing our on that chain mentally disabled people who have Down syndrome or something? They need that right?
Yes, problem.
Oh no. All right, should be covered in front of any anyone that Allah spent at dinner give me permission to uncover except those people who don't have desire
and they are not part of you Mojave Okay. These are the ones that Allah smart Allah says you can stay next to them in the way you stay in front of the mahadi Other than that, Magento, Magento Magento and
Aruba, except if the module understand
there are some magenta in this module in everything except in this
next question,
is there a specific age that the sister should stand in front of the young boy the age in which the system tracks it? There are some scholars who said starting from seven and myth
is there a specific age for the boy in front of him the system's shortcoming the age is there any age for the boy in front in which the system should strive to start covering themselves right.
Now, it depends on the if the boy understand things even if he is little, she should cover
but he doesn't understand things. If he studies in the school, I think after primary three
you know after he goes to private three, I think boys nowadays they know whatever you know,
they will have to be very careful.
Okay, any question at least one or two questions from the brothers and then we close the class
and it was any question
no question.
Asked then it will be the last question shall
they listen to the situation in our country. The culture is that
the houses are made in a way there's a outerknown
inside our brother