Ramadan 2022 #06 Unhappy

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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim Al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil Alameen Illa Allah al Amin will be in a serene will suddenly also tell you more Allah Tamil and via your Imam will mostly be enough I'm not even one other early he was Sufi Ultramarine Allah Melissa Illa majority Telugu settler or entertained Jalil has an either sheet settler or BSC roulette for us, whatever we will hire will be kind of studying. We thank Allah who believes that he will Janell for having gathered us here once again. And we ask Allah subhanahu wa taala to surround us with the mela he can and to cause his mercy and his Sakina to descend upon us, and to raise us with the Gambia alayhi wa salatu salam, and those

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whom he has mentioned with them, I mean,

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there are times of difficulty and times of ease. Allah subhanho wa Taala has made it such that the human being will not live an entirely blissful life. From the time he is born till the time he dies. Neither will He live an entirely difficult life. From the time he is born until the time he dies. But Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam gives us the coping mechanism for all of those times. He says Agia badly Emery looming. Amazing is the affair of the believer. The inner Umbra who level hired for indeed all of his affairs are good in our saga, who in Assam, but who served Rahu shakar Africana Pharaoh Allah. If goodness comes to him, he is grateful to Allah subhanho wa Taala so that

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is good for him. We're in alphabetical Dora sobre Fergana Pharaoh Allah. And if difficulty afflicts him, he has patience, so that is good for him as well. When I said Ernie Kelly I had been ill and movement and that is for nobody, except for the believer in Allah subhanho wa taala. So at times, we will be afflicted with hardship. And we will be afflicted with difficulty but the believer in Allah subhanahu wa taala looks at that and says, this is from Allah subhana wa Tada werebear Sharia saw beteen and levena either saw, but

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we'll see. Whoa, do Oh.

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We're in

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here audio and give glad tidings to those who are patient, the ones who went a difficulty of length them, they say, Indeed we are from Allah, Allah subhanahu wa Tada we belong to Allah subhanahu wa Tada. And to him, we shall return they acknowledge that Allah gave him the lives that they have the breath that they take the blood that runs through the veins, the feet, that they walk with the eyes that they see with the hands that they touch with, we belong to Allah subhanahu wa taala. And to him, we shall return. So the difficulty that we're going through is only from Allah populates that you will journal and we will make lesions, we will bear patients. Now you see, none of us has a

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choice as to what will afflict us. Nobody knows whether tomorrow, they will be in the same health that they are in today. Nobody knows whether they will have family members, the Mother, the Father, the uncle, the aunt around them, we cannot choose what affects us. So what can we choose? We can change the way the coping mechanism that is within how we look at that problem, how we look at that difficulty, how we approach that issue.

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So this is why the Hadith says well, he said that he clearly hadn't ill movement and that Nirma of being in goodness at all times is for nobody except for the believer except for the believer. You look at the disbeliever when difficulty of leads him Why did this happen to me? Why is God doing this to me questions? He questions the decree of Allah subhanho wa Taala but

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Regardless, he goes through it anyways. So he goes through it and he is P Hana till Jessa. He's angry with Allah subhanahu Uttara. As for the believer, he's a man drives him forward and hamdulillah Allah gave me good days. Allah, Allah, Allah will give me Allah gave me bad days difficulty, Allah will give me good days, the good days will come and he focuses on that. And he knows that even the difficulty that he is going through right now, Allah subhanahu wa taala will reward him for it. One Hadith mentioned that there is not even a form that pricks the believer, except that he will be rewarded for it. But that reward comes with patience. That reward does not

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come for free. That reward comes with patience, you know, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam passed by a woman. And she was crying she had lost her child.

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So she was crying and wailing and doing all sorts of things. So Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says to her that have patience. Be patient. So she said, Eli, can me go away from me. What do you know about the difficulty that I'm suffering? So Rasulullah salAllahu alayhi wa sallam went away, he left her before she could say anything against Allah subhanho wa taala. He left her and he went away. And perhaps this is the best approach when we tell someone have patience. And they tell you negative comments to leave them for some time. After some time, it was said to her. Do you know that was Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam? Did you know you just told the Messenger of Allah

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subhanho wa Taala to leave and go away? So no, she felt ashamed. And she went to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. I'm sorry, I didn't know it was you or messenger of Allah. And the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says in number Cebu in the submitting hula patients is at the first strike of calamity. You hear news of someone who passed away your mother, your father, your brother, your sister, you say in alila, you were in your garage.

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You hear news of your car being stolen, or your house being burned down in Rila, here in LA Algeria. And these are the first words that come out of your mouth. Why? Because they emanate from a believing heart. Instead of saying, Why did Allah subhanaw taala do this, instead of questioning the decree of rumblings that you will Jalon your heart and mind immediately goes to Allah subhanahu wa taala I'm happy with the decree of Allah subhanho wa taala. You see,

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patients will be heard by everyone. Everyone needs to be patient at the end of the day. It doesn't matter whether you are patient at the beginning or not. You will have patience later on. Patients will have to be had later on. Why because you cannot choose what will happen to you. You cannot choose how what will afflict you. So you will have to have patience at the end. Patience is at the beginning when that initial strike of calamity hits you. It's the hardest for you to bear. It's most difficult for you to accept when you say Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah Allah Houlihan, thank Allah subhanahu wa taala upon all conditions, that is the moment that will define whether you are patient

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or not. Now

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I'd like to draw our attention to something

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you know, there are difficult times and easy times. And how do we navigate navigate through the difficult times by knowing Allah in the ease when Allah subhanahu wa Tada gives you a business a boom and you find that business is doing well. I'm making a lot of money yesterday I had 100,000 Today I have 200,000 Alhamdulillah growing, I'm doing well. If you know Allah subhanahu wa Tada and you worship Allah subhanho wa Taala in these days, and you call out to Him in these days and you go to the masjid in these days, and you don't allow this to turn you away from ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada when the calamity strikes, when the calamity hits and it will hit it will hit when he does. Then

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Allah subhanahu wa Tada will do. To our of ill Allah he feels he can we should get to know Allah subhanho wa Taala within the easy time and Allah subhanahu wa taala will get to know you when it is difficult for you. He will be there for you. He will respond to you. He will answer you He will

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give you that ease of coping with the problem. The problem today is that when Allah subhanahu wa taala gives us then we are happy and we forget about Allah subhanho wa Taala and when the difficulty and calamity strikes you Allah, Allah, it is good, that when the difficulty and calamity strikes, we turn to Allah subhanho wa Taala that is good. But why did you forget Allah when he gave you is it only in that you want Allah subhanahu wa Tada or you only want to know Him when you have a problem. So sometimes for the person or in fact, 99 or 100% of the times, for a person who does not turn to Allah subhanaw taala during the times of ease, that affliction that calamity is good for him. Why?

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Because Allah subhanahu Attallah is telling him come back to me, come back to me, oh, inside, you forgot me. When I gave you You forgot me. So now come back. And that opportunity is an opportunity for him to build that which is which is everlasting. That which lasts forever and ever and ever. So Allah subhanahu wa Tada is telling him to compromise a little bit of the dunya will give you in Jannah. But wait, wait. So,

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you see, human beings naturally, when they go through years of difficulty, years of hardship, years of calamity, naturally, a human being begins to feel sad. They begin to feel unhappy. What's going on in my life? When is the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala going to come? I know that it's going to come but when?

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Pula rasuna Juan Medina and Alma Mater not so long until the messenger and the believers say when is the help of Allah subhanahu wa taala going to come? They're not questioning whether it's going to come or not. They're only waiting to see ya allah it's a long time now. Yeah, I'm I'm waiting for that Faraj I'm waiting for that opening.

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Allah subhanahu wa to Allah says,

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In surah Allah He body, buddy, but behold, most definitely the help of Allah subhanahu Attallah is close. The help of Allah subhanahu Attallah is close. Don't lose hope. The fact that you've been going through difficulty after difficulty problem after problem. Remember Allah subhanahu Attallah knows. And if you want to look at the one who suffered the most, the one who was put through the most trial and tribulation, he was a sadder, filthy love, the most happy of the creation of Allah subhanho wa Taala none other than Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, yet he was afflicted the most he lost all of his children during his lifetime acceptable for faulty mahadi Allahu anha. In

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fact, it is said that when his son Ibrahim was in the pangs of death, or Sol Sol Allahu alayhi wa sallam was invited, he was told to come.

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And he was given his son who was dying. The son was still a toddler he's holding his son is in his hands, watching his son gasping for his last breaths. And his eyes teared his eyes to some Allah wa alayhi wa sallam, he felt sad.

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Imagine the only male child that you have at that juncture, and you are losing this child. So his eyes teared some Lala while he was in love. So the sahabi who was with him, tells him our M 10 Haneul Buka did you not stop us from crying and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam says murder heat one. I did not prevent you from crying, but I prevented you from tearing your clothes and smacking your faces and wailing out

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in the heel in here.

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Indeed, this is a mercy from Allah subhanho wa Taala these tears that you see a mercy from Rob Bullis that you will get. So it's not wrong for you to be concerned at times. It's not wrong for you to be unhappy at times. But don't allow yourself to become unhappy day after day, night after night until you go six months, a year, two years and that begins to engulf you it becomes your life. Don't allow that to happen to yourself and if it is a medical problem

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They ask seek out help. Go to the doctors seek medication, go to the counselor speak to someone, tell them I've got my deed in order. I go to the masjid I wake up with 100 I do what I'm meant to do I do even more than I'm supposed to do. I keep away from haram when I fall into haram. I seek the forgiveness of Allah subhanho wa Taala but I have this unhappiness that doesn't want to leave me. I can't seem to get away from it. Go and seek help. And Allah subhanahu wa Tada has made these ways for you to get out of that problem. Ask seek that help. And Allah subhanahu wa taala will help you but remember, that always keep your ultimate hope and goal was Allah subhanahu Attallah this is just

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a sub a means for me to get Farraj for me to get opening from Rob bull is that you will juggle you know what people say? And what people do to you. At times are the reason that makes us sad. Someone is harming you. Day in, day out, year in year out. Or soon allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went through a similar problem. A pseudo allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam went through worse, he was known as a Saudi pull Amin the most truthful the most trustworthy before the war, before the prophet would came. And when it came, they call him sabe on Canada, you are a person who has turned away from the religion and you are a liar the pelted him. They, in fact, it is said that Abu Lahab would

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walk around, following Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the streets of Maccha throwing pebbles at him saying You are a liar. You are a magician, you have turned away from the religion of your forefathers. This was a man who had a stellar reputation. He was known as the most trustworthy, the most honest, the most truthful. And all of a sudden people are calling him a liar, a magician, a sorcerer, a fortune teller. Imagine what this did to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam so Allah subhanahu wa taala says,

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in Canada you can use Gen Z in a levena John Oh Nana Allah healer, from the sun will say our moon, we are enough for you, oh Mohammed for those who are belittling you for those who are lying about you. For those who are mocking at you, we are enough for you. Don't worry about them, we will take care of them for you. And Allah subhanho wa Taala says those are the ones the very same ones who call out partners to Allah subhanho wa Taala the place a deity besides Allah next to him and say, We worship this God, we also have a problem with them, we will take care of them for you don't worry. So when the next time when someone insults you when someone abuses you, when someone stands up to

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you and accuses you of that which you haven't done, don't worry, leave them leave them. Allah subhanaw taala will take care of them. And there is nothing wrong with defending yourself. There is nothing wrong with saying I am not that person that you are saying. There is nothing wrong with standing up to them. And at times, this is important. At times Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam responded in this manner. He stood up to the people who went against him. And it's important to do this with those who are bullies in your life. You know, we look at bullies in school. And we say that these people bully others, they go after others. They dominate others, they want to take

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control of the lives. They beat others for nothing. They are bullies throughout life, and you will have to stand up to them at times Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam floodwalls, he spilled blood in defense of himself in defense of the muslimin. So sometimes it's required for you to stand up to that person to go to the authorities to get help from them. It's important at times when he carries on abuse, year after year, day after day, night after night, you suffer you're going through problems, go to the authorities go and get help. Go to someone who is who that person respects and tell them look at what this person is doing to me. Perhaps if they are physically abusing you. Then

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gain some strength, lift some weights, tell them I'm coming for you. I'm coming for you. Sometimes they need that but

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Generally when people by and large speak about you in community and society accusing you of that which you haven't done, and perhaps it's not a an ongoing thing he doesn't carry on forever living in Allah subhanho wa Taala will take care of them. And as it begins to affect you, they are coping mechanisms that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was told by Allah subhanahu Uttara

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Well, now Kadena Alamo and que LD also they don't care me my up all alone. And we know that your heart is constricted, your heart becomes narrow, it's constrained, it is difficult for you to take that which they say they are calling you a liar, a sorcerer, a fortune teller, we know it's hard for you faster, be Hamdi or become a minister, GED. So glorify Your Lord, glorify Your Lord exalt Him in praise and be from amongst those who prostrate to Allah subhana wa Tada. I invite anyone who's been suffering through unhappiness, difficulty problems, to place the head on the ground as a solution. Even if that means you don't have time for extra Salah go into what is known as such that too, so

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Shuker, such that to Shuker, the prostration of gratitude to Allah subhanahu wa taala. And when you get up from that, such that you feel the weight lifted off your shoulders, you will feel as though the burden is less it's easier for me to bear now, why a callable, Mayor Kulu Labdoo mill grubby? What was Sergeant, the closest that a person can be to his load the Most High is when his head is on the lowest possible position. Why? Because you are placing the most honorable part of your body which is your forehead, in the most humble position, the lowest possible position? Yeah, Allah, I come to you with my problem. I come to you with my difficulty because I acknowledge that you are the

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one who can lift it. Yeah, Allah here I am. with all humility. I'm placing my head on the ground for you are bullies that you will help me make dua in that search there and you will get up feeling strong. This is what Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was told to do, the same day, the Hamdi robic, so exalt Your Lord in praise at the speed Subhan Allah Subhan Allah Subhan Allah Subhana Allah Vilavi Subhan Allah he will be handy he Subhana Allah will love him Subhan Allah, He will be humbly Subhan Allah, He loves him, make that praise of Allah subhanahu wa taala and he will make your affliction easy, he will remove that difficulty that sorrow that is going on within your

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breast, within your chest.

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You know, sometimes there is this misunderstanding that we should do nothing about the situation that we are in. And this is wrong. This is wrong. The fact that sober

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you are having patience. It does not mean you should do nothing about your abuser, you should leave them to abuse. You know, Islam doesn't teach you to turn the other cheek. Yes, if you can bear it, and it's not bad and it's not serious. And it's something that's just by the way, that's something that we've we've spoken about. But if you've been physically abused, emotionally abused, and it's too much to bear, you start having thoughts of self harm. It's time to stand up. It's time to do something about that situation and don't stop trying. Keep trying until you get somewhere. You see a suburb, this does not need negate your southern yeah salatu salam was sorrowful he was sad at what

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had happened. He had lost two children. And he says in

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ash goo V Wahoos. Me Allah, what are Allah moumita Allah he murder down level moon. I am complaining to Allah subhanahu wa taala about my sorrow about my grief. And he sent his sons the rest of his sons go and look for your brothers. He didn't sit there and keep quiet and say it's enough. I will keep quiet and I will wait for the help of Allah subhanho wa Taala he did that which was within his capacity. Go

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I look for these two sons that are missing. Go and look for them. I need them back we will do what is within our capacity and the rest is with Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah described his supper for Saba Moon journey. He said that it was a beautiful patient that are all values salatu salam had. So patients involves knowing that Allah subhanahu wa taala will take care of my problem I leave it to him and then doing the best that you can in the situation where whatever that may be whatever it may be, even if it may be going to talk to someone close to you a relative look so and so is doing this to me. I can't take it anymore.

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You hipbone will Jehovah be Sue Umina locally Nirmal Deulim. Allah subhanahu wa taala despises for you to say something about that about someone else. Unless you have been oppressed. If you have been oppressed, you have the right going talk to your father going talk to your mother going talk to your friend going talk to an uncle or not someone that you can pour your heart out to nothing wrong with that, do something about the situation and leave it to Allah subhanho wa Taala May Allah subhanahu wa taala give us the ability to turn back to him and may Allah subhanahu wa taala grant us the ability to deal with our sorrow sadness, anxiety and pain in the correct manner. Amin masala Allahu

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wa salam O Allah Kerala Nabina Muhammad wa he will be legendary