Hatem al-Haj – How Can We Benefit from Ramadan

Hatem al-Haj
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So, I will address the two points that second authority

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pointed out that we will be talking about inshallah tonight the first point is the how to prepare for Ramadan and the second point is how to benefit from Ramadan but I'll do them in reverse order because I have enough people that listen yesterday to my talking about preparation for Ramadan

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so inshallah I will make this the second part and I will begin with how to benefit from Ramadan and the focus that we should have in the month of Ramadan so that we could get the best and the most out of this month inshallah.

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Sir, certainly Hence, the focus in the month of Ramadan if we, if we have to start by anything, you know, aside from fasting, which we should be

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doing, we'll talk about how to benefit from fasting.

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But aside from fasting, what should be our focus in the month of the month of Ramadan in terms of diversity in terms of the acts of worship, which we will,

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we will come to know that they have a great impact on our interior, those external acts of worship, some mutual relationship between the exterior and the interior, but those acts of worship, the bottom of the the verb of acts of worship, the recitation of the Qur'an, the prayers and so on, they do have a great impact on purifying the interior, which is our ultimate goal. And vice versa, the purification of the interior will have an impact on the energy, the spiritual energy that you will have, that will enable you and empower you to do more of those acts, and then you will be able to appreciate and then you'll be able to

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have a better understanding of the stories we hear about the Sahaba. And you know how much they did and how much they come and how productive they were spiritually.

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This will not be realized by us until we purify the interior because then you will liberate yourself from the captivity

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of temptations and suspicions and desires and so on. And once this happens, then that spiritual energy when make things like finishing the planet one day

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possible, which which we'll hear about when we hear about a finishing up writing one, then you wonder, but is that possible? And sometimes may, some people may sometimes start to doubt is that really true?

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Because we have not been able to

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realize the potential that we have as individuals as human beings, Ramadan would help us realize this potential. And so I'll talk more about how Ramadan helps you not only realize your potential, but extend and stretch increase

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that potential that you have.

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What should we focus on the most in the month of Ramadan? So Ramadan are the ones that defeated Khurana who have a nasty of a nothing you know, without for

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the month of Ramadan. This is the last one about talking about some of

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Ramadan, the month of Ramadan, the lesbians in Africa for which the parameters reveal for them the Nazi Gaga as a guidance for people who buy enough in Managua.

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from Thailand, clear proofs and distinction criteria or distinction between false wood and the truth. This is the parameter. So as you know, the greatest honor of Ramadan is that it is the month of the Quran. The greatest honor of Ramadan is that Allah revealed that perhaps in the month of Ramadan, this is the month of the program. So to basically invest in the program, during the month of the month of Ramadan would be only expected anyone that wants to benefit from Ramadan. Here your focus should be on the forum. And this month, whether it is the recitation of the Quran and write prayers that our righteous predecessors used to have to have miss the one Fatima outside of the

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prayer and what Fatima in the prayer so when Fatima during the day, what happened during the night, and this is basically very doable, and we're not talking about anything excessive. We're not talking about trashing the brand like six or seven times.

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which some people could do, people people could do this. I mean, to finish the program once a week is not really excessive, and it is not

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to demand that you're fine. But we're just talking about two customers, one during the day and one during the night. And that would be very doable by the vast majority of us, very doable by the vast majority of us because this is like I said,

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this is the time of the occasion of the parameters that define where we connect with and connect with the book of Allah.

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That connection that we will develop with our hand is basically

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our source of spiritual life. You see a mazzucato Allah says Allah can make in fact,

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Nora emcpe from this

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Canada, Matan Sakina is one who was dead. And then we we give him life. He's one who's there, and then we give him life back in what Jana Malala and then we provided him with a light, EMC behave in this

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with which he walks in the midst of evil, with which he meaning interacts with the people he

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walks in the midst of people with this light command method auto map, like one goal is in the darknesses tour, Volvo map darknesses laser discouragement, from which he will never get merged, he will from which he will never come out from these darknesses He will never come out what is this talking about?

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It is it is talking about the prayer. That is the life handle light that's the source of light amen Canon maten farheena Well, john, Allah who Nora MGB in us, we provide them with life come by. That is a book about lost power that says it's what it owes.

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so much he found him officer who the

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victim when she found Lima, first of all,

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there has come to you and exaltation advice, from your door.

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When she fell in love, and cure, cure, where we are burdened with many affliction, diseases and diseases, particularly diseases of the heart, that weigh us down and very goodness, and make us captive to our lowly desires, and if we want to break away from those diseases, do we want to be cured from those diseases here, I must provide a sub outcome that is the parameter

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where she found a cure for that which is in the hearts

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and guidance and mercy for the believers, all of this as well as that advice, advice from your Lord. Keep in mind, this is not just any advice, this is not me talking to you or you know, your father talking to you even or no this is more evident mirror, from your Lord, from your caretaker, from your church or from your sustainer

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never been much if I can

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cure for that which is in the hearts and guidance for hunedoara.

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So, guidance and mercy, all of this is in the book of Allah subhanaw taala

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how do we

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how do we actually get the benefit from the book of Allah subhanaw taala it is not only through recitation, but it is it is

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through recitation with contemplation and reflection. That is why it is extremely essential that we have and share four

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theories that we designate a time when we sit down and recite the upper hand

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preferably alone, preferably in a quiet place where you could get a chance to reflect or you could get a chance to ponder over these as their meanings you want to arm yourself with understanding of the program because Allah subhanaw taala describes some of the people of the book and says, For men whom only you and I want to get up in the air, many add a layer and some of them are only you and other imagery. They are a mosquito, but

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they don't do the Scripture.

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Step, wishful thinking. And many wishful thinking. scholars said that this wishful thinking is basically their knowledge of the word of the Scripture, that that did not go beyond that just knowing the words of the Scriptures, so that you do know the scriptures in terms of knowing the words, the In other words, they may know that grammar, they may know, you know, the implications, and they may have this type of knowledge. But they do not reflect they don't take it beyond that. So a lot of them are illiterate, that they, they have no understanding of the Scriptures, that is why it would not be of a benefit for them, to have that external knowledge, that knowledge of the

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exterior knowledge of the word of the Scriptures, and as long as they don't have any understanding, or any ability to reflect on the scriptures. So we don't want to be of those, we don't want to be like them, we want to have an opportunity for ourselves to connect with a per annum to reflect.

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So that is why you need to have time for yourself, why it's time for yourself to read the four M. And if you will not be able to cover the whole per m, like I said, what we said that we have tried to do to happiness, trying to finish up twice, one time in during the day one just in the day, time and one just at night during the prayer and the if we will not be able to finish it off. And if the prayer is not if we don't finish the whole per annum the prayer we finished half of the per annum the prayer, that's absolutely fine. That's absolutely fine. We go home and read the other half, or we have a chance for ourselves to do you know some of the night prayer individually, which will have

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a great impact

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on your

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on your connection and your reflection. Because the individual one does have benefits, undeniable benefits. But if we're not going to be able to finish the entire book,

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you know the truth the basically the procedure of the entire book, and many of us may not be able to do this, have these you should commit to

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you know, looking up the verses that you don't understand and picking a few verses every day. So if you're going to recite one just every day,

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you want to commit to it you know, if you generally understand Arabic, but if you come across a verse that you don't understand, well look it up.

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Don't be lazy look at them and take you know a portion of what to a site and read the Tafseer of that portion but you have a site that with every course and even if it is half a page, but try to look it up and read the tipsy rabbit so that you could connect with the program and so that you could better reflect on the message in in this contained in the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala

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that is our chance number

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eight in addition to this during the during the night prayers I would recommend for the brothers who do not understand the Arabic to hold the translation in their hands that might be a controversial issue. But no no no he in his book and much more clearly states with valid validate the prior to read without utterance. Something that is to rebuild tolerance, something that is not

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part of the prayer it will not invalidate your prayer. So glancing at the meanings without moving your tongue. So here you're not, we're not repeating the words, the English here. In other words in English, you're only glancing at them so that you could follow the reciter you follow the email so the email is reciting. And you're basically glancing at the meanings while the anonymous reciting this will change your life prayer experience your pm late experience dramatically.

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If you don't understand what the words mean, and you hold the must have in your hand because holding the must have for the benefit of the prayer. We know that

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This is something that is allowable to vote according to the majority of the scanner, builders, that some controversy, but holding the most for the benefit of the prayer. And here you're not hearing any words in any language other than the, you know, the Parkland. But you glancing at the meanings with your eyes to understand what the recitation is about and to connect with their expectation at a different level, the level of understanding and reflection, not just mere listening to the words for the blessing.

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Second to the Qur'an, you know, in terms of the focus that we should have,

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certainly, the night prayers, we really want to capitalize on a

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night's of Ramadan, here you have a little bit more energy during the nights of Ramadan, you have already eaten, like over eats, and it can

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have a little bit more concentration in the night and you could dedicate more could be more devoted to the prayers, but the night prayers are of extreme importance during

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each and every one should figure out how he will perform the night prayers in a way that will enable him to connect with Allah to reflect on the meanings and to taste the sweetness of the Mona gel with a lot more of the softer conversation for the last time. If it works better for you to do it at home, do it at home. Because that's what works better for you. If when you do it in general and I'm not trying to basically discourage people from doing the right prayers and if if the

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presence of the demand and so on, helps you and encourages you and keeps you awake and you know, encourages you to finish the whole night prayers the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said whoever prays with a man until he finishes he would have the reward of of praying the entire night so would vote the Prophet only pray two or three days in congregation pm light and Ramadan but the reason why here is trained afterwards is that if you become

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an obligation on the oma if you continue to consistently pray every day in congregation when that was not you know when that fear

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was not there anymore, Armando the Allahu reinvestigated during the piano laid in the mail, which the Prophet did, it was it was sparked by the prophet some sadness, but he feared that to become obligatory on a

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so he refrained from from doing it, or the alarm or he instigated it.

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But for some of us for some of us, although you He is there are other benefits of doing it in congregation

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which is the listen to the mind of the exhortation to be among the Muslims that connect with the brothers.

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ask about those who are absent and when maybe seconds that are great benefits certainly and being with the congregation, but for those of us and you will come to the session anyway for for praying and congregation but for those of us who find

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themselves benefiting more from doing it individually, you could do a little bit and then go home and do the rest individually. But if you and everyone should should be honest with themselves if you then start to become lazy and then you go home and then you go to sleep and then you don't wake up then you want to be honest with yourself. And in this case, then you want to quickly

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go back and do it in demand. Because for most of the people that will basically keep them energized the

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collective aipad helps them stay energized.

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If you if you do this alone, then you know

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try to do that have

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international lady here Shut up.

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most surprising

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in the middle of the night raising for the prayer in the middle of the night and has a greater impact

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The compact that is talked about here is the concurrence of the tongue, the heart, the concurrence of the tongue, which is that which you recite by the tongue, and the reflection of the heart. So Allah tells us that the recitation in the middle of the night has a greater impact from the heart. What's even more suitable for the understanding of the speech, more suitable for the words, that's the literal translation, but it means more suitable for your understanding of the speech, that wider it gets, the darker it gets, the deeper in the night it gets, the

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more conducive to reflection and to connection and to having the soft conversation with each other, which is a manager.

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The night prayers add to this

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to the prayers supplications the

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the man who wrote the man who he was going after member and you know, this is like famous

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others so he, he

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was you know, walking up the steps and remember when he said loving man for not a man for a man was have asked, Who is he? That you're that you're making the odds against? You know, Robbie, man for who? For robbing man, and full 400 different narrations, meaning, may his nose be rubbed against the third, may his nose be rubbed against the dirt?

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Which, which means maybe be a loser. May he be one of the losers?

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Then they asked him Who's he? And the prophet and this is one of the ways that the prophets Allah wa sallam used to grab people's attention. He would just try to make them ask him, because when you when you ask, you are

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basically more

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eager, eager to hear the answer.

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he wanted to grab their attention, and he just said Robbie, man, may he be of the losers, and then he walked another step. Maybe maybe the losers maybe

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have a sad, woozy, and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Man, I'd like to avoid killer Mama, what a miracle. He who

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has one of two other parents, one or two have their parents and does not enter Paradise, meaning does not enter Paradise with his service with his bill, with his gentleness with his good treatment and his service of his parents may be of the losers. Allah gave him like a golden opportunity Allah gave you one or two parents, in their old age, a golden opportunity by the gate to paradise and he did not make use of it. So the Prophet said

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in other reports, he said about Allah, May Allah keep him away, keep him away from his mercy. Keep him away from his mercy. And then the prophet SAW themselves. Man Abdullah, Ramadan, one meal

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so that's the first one boy here what am Oklahoma? What are we asking the gentleman other than what we have for the EU comes upon Ramadan and does not get his sins forgiven and does not get his sins forgiven?

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May he be of the losers? Why? Because Allah subhanaw taala give you every chance to have your sins forgiven. You know if I can I will relate it to my Ramadan for the hot tender only. Sophie that SLT is one of the first night of Ramadan comes the doors of gift or gates of Paradise will be open wide open and the gates of * far be closed. The seltene and Jen will be chained up.

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So now what is your excuse not not to, in addition to this,

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if you're

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if you're fasting and you're breaking your fast that you're making a supplication, you're fasting and you're breaking your fast and making a sincere supplication for love and that application does not get accepted.

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Then there must be something huge that is happening. Because the prophets have

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said the last a lot without without three people there, there will never be return, the Dow will never be rejected, supplication will never be rejected, what did the pros Who are those three people that I saw him he none of that is one of those three people saw him Hina you're what the moment either one.

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So I'm fine he named after the fastest person when he breaks, it's fast, the fastest person when he breaks his fat, he is one of three people whose down supplication will never be rejected. So, if that if it if it gets rejected, then

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there has to be a major reason why your dow is being rejected. So, you have 29 plays

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or 29 chances of a dow that is

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basically guaranteed acceptance. And so, if you if you if, and if you do, you don't get those hours, except to keep in mind that

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the guarantee of acceptance does not necessarily mean that you will get everything he asked for in this video because of the perfect tool this it may be deferred in another report, the profits are low, someone told us that you may be deferred or you may have some harm, you may be spared of harm equal to what you asked for.

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But that's all for maps setup will not be the first

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unit there are more than here. So, that

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should be accepted, if there is no barrier impediment manner from the acceptance and the manner will be from your side, it will not be from his side as may be exalted, in the manner will always be from your side. So, supplication can seeking so far, this is something that you should be concerned with through our trauma bond, seek forgiveness and repent to

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something else that is that is important

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to focus on and Ramadan is basically generosity we keep on talking about

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comment on being

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conducive to having more empathy for the people having more empathy for the poor and the unfortunate and the needy and so on.

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it is your chance to show that empathy because empathy is not just the feeling, you know, if it is if that feeling does not translate into action, yes, I'm having more empathy, I never appreciate the name of Allah subhanaw taala that he provided for me. Now I appreciate the suffering of the people who may not have a need to break the fast but if that feeling does not translate into action, then that is also very concerning. That is very concerning. For Madonna is the month of generosity.

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Because the prophets of Allah summons theaters encouraged us to be more particularly generous and Ramadan and he said after sadaqa sabato Ramadan the best charity is the charity in Ramadan after love Naga said can also do myself Southern as well. As the prophet SAW Southern was the most generous of people. What can I do with American film avanti enhances debriefing for an adult with fiery, fiery innovation merciless

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so that he thought it was the most generous people and he was particularly most generous in Ramadan to previous to descendant study with Hunter puram. During that time, the Prophet would be more generous than the goodly when coming with piddly rain, you know, for

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talking about how blood non bass culturally appropriately constructed this. This is cultural appropriateness here, because for the Arabs in the middle of the desert, there is nothing more generous than the wind breathing water, because that's, that's life.

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So he said that the Prophet was even more generous than the wind coming, bringing goodly water. So that dinner, dinner

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That empathy that we will have for the poor have an appreciation for the noun with the loss of Allah provided us with we have to translate this into action emotion always used to say that in Ramadan I busy myself was two things

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for an apartment Misaki breathing the program and feeding them a psyche. And that that should be if you if you're doing this, if you're busying yourself during with reading the plan and feeding them a second, you cannot imagine how this would be very impactful on your your spiritual development and growth and you walk out of Ramadan, a transformed person, truly, truly a different person. Keep in mind that if you

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are definitely part of them. So don't ever walk out with a man like you entered it. Because that's an indication that you have not been accepted. That's an indication that you are pa has not been accepted. If you're walking out of the room about the same way you enter the Ramadan. Now a different person which is the same person going back to your old ways nothing changed no improvement whatsoever. Nope, not an inch closer to Allah subhanaw taala nine inch farther away from disobedience and from a you know, your your habits a sub optimal lifestyle, then Ramadan did not really work for us.

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generosity is extremely important.

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Now, the last thing that the last,

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you know, point I wanted to mention, before I go back and say how can we prepare for Ramadan? Because they're all connected to how we should prepare for Ramadan. The last point here in terms of what we should focus on in Ramadan is the internal which the internal change the internal transformation. And if if you ask how do you change yourself internally is like you know, recycle.

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You know, sabaton and so on, you could do this, but how do you? How do you

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enhance your good qualities? How do you basically treat remedy yourself from your bad qualities, that this is very possible, very possible. We said Ramadan will give you

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that opportunity, that chance

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for your spirit to rise. Because throughout the year, throughout the year, we're more concerned with the body with the physique, not the spirit with more more concerned with the body number. So you're always looking for the nurser of the body. But in Ramadan and Lost Planet Allah says it is time that you think less of this. think less of consumption, think less of eating, have some time to focus on something else, to redirect your focus, redirect your full focus. You are a spiritual being in a physical body, you are another physical matter that has a spirit right or wrong. You are a spiritual being the spirit was created before the body or the body before in the spirit. Spirit was great

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before everybody you know descended upon. You are spiritual beings in a physical form. You're not physical matter that became the developed act wire and so you worse spirit. So the fact that you're always that we're always throughout the year consumed in the pursuit of the nursing the body, you know, going to the gym, eating good food, drinking, you know, having marital relations and all of this stuff, pleasing the body, satisfying your lower baser, carnal, fleshly desires

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takes away from your spirituality, it does take away from your spirituality, Islam does not condemn this. But when the when basically you do not respect the balance between the needs of the body and the needs of the spirit that becomes condemned. That becomes condemned. So most of the most of the year. The balance is, you know, towards the body, not the spirit. It's To be honest, we have to be honest, I'm not I'm not talking about you know, for all the people

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Because certainly for the Sahaba, for the great emails for the righteous people out there and so on, the violence outside of Ramadan is not for the body it is for the spirit, their focus is on their spiritual growth.

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But for most of us, for most of us, nowadays, the balance is

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tilted towards the body for the most of the year. So, in Ramadan, you get this chance to pay attention to the nurture of your spirit.

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And then the spirit, once the body gets a little bit lighter,

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here, the spirit gets liberated from, you know, the the constraints of the body.

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Those desires, the pursuit of satisfying those desires will

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weighs the spirits down. Whereas the spirits down

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to the ground, once this is that, once you're less concerned with this, than the spirit would rise and will transcend

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if the spirit if this is now time for the spirit to rise and transcend

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the constraints of the body and the limitations of the body,

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then you should have a plan. Right? You should have a plan for

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using that, that that energy, that spiritual energy for the betterment of

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But with without having a plan, you will walk out of Ramadan without much benefit. So you sit down with yourself now and you say to yourself, I want to make like I happen to be a liar. Some of us are right. Some of us don't pay attention to you know truthfulness and and they frequently lie by

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which I which is

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you may think people in the master but it is true, we still have troubles with still have issues happen to be a liar. So that's, that's very

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that's the state interest, spirituality, right? Mine is taking care of spirituality.

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So, and I happen to me may be other things as well, you know, so I happen to have other problems. But I would, I would have to prioritize. So I I will not pick, you know, five or six of my bad qualities and take care of I'll just pick one. But what I should prioritize Should I pick the one that is most threatening to my spirituality to my relationship with a lot of my connection with a lot my religious commitment, patient pick the one that is most threatening. So if mine is one of your weaknesses, you pick this one, and you try to work on it.

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If arrogance is one of your weakness, or Ria is one of your weaknesses, you just like to show off,

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you take that one and you work on it, you say to yourself, this will be my task.

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I would sit down and try to figure out how to get rid of because keep in mind this has been written in books.

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You know, there are manuals,

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there will be lectures, you can even Google it. YouTube, there will be lectures about how to get rid of some of those bad qualities. And you listen to one and two and three lectures and so on it you're basically

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this is your your, this is your work and this is your job. Now to get rid of this. And I have I'm using Ramadan basically as my spiritual launching tab. I'm using Ramadan as my spiritual training ground. This is my spiritual training ground.

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And then for the rest of the year, I would have gotten this boost this jumpstart, you know this momentum initiative momentum

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and then inshallah I would commit to maintaining some of that momentum further for the rest of the year. But this Ramadan I wouldn't have gotten rid of or I would have brought under control even if you did not get rid of it completely. Even if

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Feel if some people lie, basically.

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And regretfully, they just lie without any second thoughts. It's just like

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Yeah. And some people they are so

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much into react and showing off and ostentatious and so on that everything they do is so now I get to know I get to listen to read and listen to lectures and so on about this particular problem that I have, and how to take care of it. And then throughout Ramadan, I am focusing on getting rid of this one.

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One bad habit, one, one bad quality, one backwards.

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If you have the to get rid of a bad quality would be more urgent than to acquire a good quality right or wrong. But if you have the ability to work on more than just given rather than one bad quality, then choose one good quality material lacking and work on it. Try to acquire if

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you happen to be lacking on in generosity for instance, you just it's not in you, it's not part of you.

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So you force yourself and Ramadan, you know to give, you know, you, you're always looking shefali Valley, he used to say that we're always looking for the smallest,

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you know, currency that we have in our pockets. And whenever we asked our last panel to prepare them for paradise, we asked for the threat of doubts. So look at how limited we are willing to give, and how great is our request or our the man.

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So look, if you're used to getting that $1 out of your wallet, then you know don't go for it on hungry.

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Get the $10 out and try to give them Ramadan would help you that phenomenon is what release with augmented the ability to tackle issues to improve yourself, do this and Ramadan you it will be you you will be basically much more successful in Ramadan than in any other month. So use them on purpose. Now if you have a bad habit, we're not we're now talking about internal qualities, internal qualities. But if you have a bad habits such as smoking or whatever bad habit that you have, where it can, it's a normal dog, but choose one of each one good quality, one bad quality, one bad habit. And one start practice start one good habit, one good change of your lifestyle.

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One big change in your lifestyle, you know, it's hard to pin Ramadan and see if it would work for you. Like a good change of your lifestyle. Which I you know, all of us are so behind this is not I have a problem

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with a you know, don't sleep after fetch. That is that's bad. Right? That is not good lifestyle. You know, if you want to have the perfect lifestyle, it was what the processor sort of uses. And I'm not saying that this is hot. It's not around to go to sleep after church. No, it is not. But I'm trying to say

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why don't you get the wedding to improve your lifestyle? Why didn't you even get better and if you're used to doing this, try to work on this in Ramadan and see if maybe this one in particular should not be harder to not go to sleep after friends. But if you understand the point, the point is that Rama plan will be a chance for you to tackle many issues many of your troubles and to improve many of your qualities and to start some good habits and and some bad habits. So try to do this in Ramadan.

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So to prepare for Ramadan, you will need to sit down now and figure out what you will need to accomplish from from Ramadan and that is planning, right? You need to sit down and figure out you need to do this assessment evaluation of your condition and what is it that you want to get out of Ramadan

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Which bad habit to try to get rid off which good quality of trial you're trying to acquire and so on.

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Then the second thing that is important to choose should have been at the first but, you know, I wanted to link this with kind of

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the last point,

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terms of the focus and the intention, you know, purifying Our intention is extremely important. And

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confirmation and renewal of the intention is, is very important because for many of us who are born Muslim, you have been translating ever since you are six or seven or eight or nine or 10 or 11. Whenever you start with fasting, but for many of us, we started at six or seven. You know, our parents got us into fasting at a very early age and we weren't trying to compete with our siblings. I'm not saying that we were particularly You know, it was particularly devotional when I'm just saying that you know, it's just so happened that we are trying to compete with your siblings. You're trying to start earlier you've started fasting at six. It is second nature for you to fasting

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Ramadan, but you really want to fast email and the prophets all of a sudden said

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Mr. Medina he from an email and when he saben lowfield automata cut them into the whoever fasts Ramadan, Eman And out of faith. Why the seven can desire for the reward desire for the word mafia along with Captain Lambie he will have his sins forgiven. So he is stressing the importance of the intention that you're doing this out of love for Allah subhana wa tada

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like I said yesterday

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if you're resentful of Ramadan because it's coming in the middle of the summer is that 3d fasting god of faith doesn't doesn't show that

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people do this and some people keep on talking about this just gonna be a hard Ramadan and we're gonna fast for 14 hours and call your family members in Egypt and how many hours are you fasting 12 hours we're fasting 16 hours a year and it's so terrible

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does that show that you fast me out of the out of love isn't isn't is that showing the love of God, that you're doing this for his

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toward the love that you have for him for your obedience for your esteem, your show of subservience Ramadan is a show of submission to a loss of power. So just

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basically confirm and renew you're in a year from now and intend to get the most out of the summer I intend for this to not be like any other Ramadan, that you will do more and you will do more for the sake of Atlanta to get closer to the last time. So the intention we're calling from now, the second thing that is particularly important is to lighten your burden, lighten your burden. Now you're you're getting into kind of important

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basically, phase of the race, you know, the 12 months race

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12 months journey to Allah subhanaw taala that particular phase of the journey is the time for sprinting.

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And if you if you are about the strength, then you will need to put off or take off the burdens on your shoulders you need to get lighter, so that you can stand up straight and so that you could get to your targets faster. How do you get lighter and you lighten your burden

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the profits on the money and sell themselves in a lot higher body or out of the main difference between Charmin Pharaoh Pharaoh lounge omiana we have to factor in that image taken out

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a lot when I look at the people of this earth.

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You know, the night of the middle of Shabana law with look at the people of this earth and forgive them all except for a mushrik or how much as someone who has a dispute or conflict with his brothers or sisters. moussaka disputed someone who isn't, you know,

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having a dispute or a conflict with one of his brothers or sisters.

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So to lighten the burden, to lighten your burden, and make sure make sure that

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To end those disputes

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can be the better of the two parties by reaching out to the other party. If you are, if you have disputes of any one, reach out to them, and tell them Ramadan is coming, let us both lighten our burden so that we can accept on Amazon, and so that we could be accepted. And we do not become rejected because of our, you know, conflict. Because our conflict could cause us both, to walk out from a value without being forgiven. So let's just end it. What is it worth, you know, that conflict that we have between us, is it worth, you know, deprivation from the forgiveness of Allah subhanaw taala, and the reward of a light would never be worth. So let's just

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move on.

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Particularly, if this

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piano dispute is whatever it is, with a family member, particularly includes party.

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If it includes cutting off the ties of kinship, then you should really repent from this, you should really end this because Allah subhanaw taala will cut off those Who cut off their kinship, would you want to get into the interloper by cut off from above.

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And if you don't want to do this, too, then try to figure out a way to end that dispute with your family members and then that party.

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And if you have transgressed anyone, then the profits are some settlement fee and who must not Hello, Leo, fender.

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Whoever has wronged his brother, let him ask him for forgiveness today. I do that and ask for his forgiveness for his pardoning today in revelation from the DNR. Because then there, there will be no br there will be the Hassan al and the Prophet was always talking about the Day of Judgment. So to lighten your burden, ask people to forgive you.

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Fix matters and disputes fix the disputes between you and others,

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rejoin your your rocking, but you have cut off if you have done this, so that you could get ready for this great month.

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Getting ready for this great month also means that you learn about

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you know this is this is an honorable visitor coming to you. Don't you want to familiarize yourself with this honorable visitor who wants to learn more about how

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to relate more from an elite. They say that the your first step towards protecting your audience is through recognition. Because the recognition of a law would result in the love of gray matter if it

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was similar that it did have more recognition of a law you would have more love for once upon a time and you will be able to connect better with number to know to learn about a must develop your marriage and this is the external monitor and the internal monitor, which is the recognition of the heart which is a different topic, but also to relate to Ramadan, to relate to another and to develop this affection with Ramadan and this relationship with the month of Ramadan. You need to learn more about so you learn more about the history of Ramadan. You learn more about the wisdoms behind fasting and you learn more about the rulings of fasting and

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learning about the history of the world.

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Isn't that possible? Yes. There are articles online that will tell you what the Muslim what events happened in the month of Ramadan for the Prophet

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and his companions. This would help you not only relate to Ramadan as a month but you will relate the individual days of the month. You will know when the second theme comes. What happened, you would have this relationship. So learn more about Ramadan, read more about it and learn more

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Learn about the rulings of Ramadan would be particularly important to many of us don't do this right, let's be honest, if Ramadan is only five or six days from today, in many of us,

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you know, the most we do is to listen to a lecture about the rulings.

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But the more you learn about yourself and Allah subhana wa tada that you care.

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You see this moon sighting business that will have the arguments and disputation the conference over the moon sighting what we are missing from this picture. But we're missing from this picture. In the midst of that unnecessary grief that we encounter, we're missing the beauty of this whole discourse. And the beauty of this whole discourse is that we as an omen are concerned with our

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we care, we care, we're keen on preserving, we're keen on, you know, finding out the best course of action.

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People you know, look at the other omen.

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You may think that this is sorry, Target, and you guys are still there, because we care. Because we're concerned, it does not mean that we should not get our act together and like at least have some

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form of unity within the master then within the neighborhood around them say, Don't miss out on the beauty of

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the whole discourse, because there is beauty to be it indicates our reverence for Ramadan. Our glorification and dream of Allah and the symbols of is the shine of the Sun so that it really does, it shows that we here it shows that we are concerned, it shows. So whenever someone says no that this is this is not right. And I understand that sometimes we're excessive. And I understand that sometimes we speak out of ignorance, but I'm just saying those are negative aspects of the scores. But the positive and beautiful aspects of scores should not be overcome.

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Why are you saying this? Because I want to say that learning about the rulings of law and to learn about what the profits of seven executives did, and how did he break this past thing. And all of that indicates your love for a loss of power Island example. But they usually give is, what do you want to buy a gift for your mother, you want to you want to buy a gift for you. So someone goes out and basically stops by Macy's or some fancy store, fancier store and Nordstrom whatever you guys have here in the tri state area, the fanciest store and he picks a

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pricey, expensive, valuable gift. Can you know he goes home gives a character's mother he's capable of doing because he has money and he's capable of doing this. But there is the vendor is the other fellow who wanted to buy a gift for his mother. He hero basically invests more effort and more thought, and tries to figure out what this my mother need the most. What does she liked the most? And then he pulls up his sister that my mother mentioned, you know, in front of you recently that she wanted anything in particular, what do you think you should buy from her and so on? Which one is more loving?

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The second one sounds to be more loving. And that's what you do. You know, what

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is the greatest parable? So when you spend more time trying to figure out how I will handle Ramadan, and what should they do and you know, to learn about the rulings of fasting and to gaff and all of that stuff, choose your love for Allah subhanaw taala your concern for the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala or earning the pleasure of Allah. So, basically, planning is what we mentioned first because we took it from the last point, planning, trying to diagnose your problems, assess, evaluate your problems, and plan for what is it that he will tackle in this month, your most threatening bad qualities you have them. We talked about intention, confirmation and renewal of the intention and we

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talked about lightening the burden

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By asking people for forgiveness and rejoining the Iranian that you have cut off can we are talking now about learning and learning the rulings is one thing, but learning the wisdoms of Ramadan is of extreme importance to learning the wisdoms of

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the wisdom clock Ramadan basically is transformative in all aspects of your

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relationship with the creation and the creator in yourself. Number one is very transformative in terms of your relationship with Allah subhanaw taala

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basically the fasting and if we do try to be conducive to developing our who they are our devotion, our merkabah our books fruitless Ramadan is about loss and watchfulness. That is why, you know, get my son for the un adze the prophets have

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said that the loss of power of Allah itself could normally

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Elon Musk, Elon Musk, lever,

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all of the deeds of the son of Adam worked for him highway compensated one persona,

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I will multiply 10 Times up to 700 times except for fast, it is all for me, it came naturally it is all for me well as the bit and I will reward him for it. And he did not mention what is the word unimaginable.

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And we said that this is because it is it is purely for loss of panorama and it is also diabetic. And we said that some of the Configure single sign on somebody or salon seek help from Southern salon. Men seek help and fasting solo because it's more than just a matter of sub and the sub route in the main office of your legendary Southern would be given the reward without recommend Ramadan is a month where you the third of this submission and subservience to this meme.

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Do you know that we are being prevented here from drinking water from a certain time of service time? Not wholesome? Do you have a mid water bottle lightens you from this time that time? Don't drink this good calamp pure and wholesome water? And you say yes, I listen. Can I? Yes, that is a training of submission. Huge training, you know, people that other religions,

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other religions have been basically pushed back and they're only looking at with her, you know,

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like abortion is, is okay or not okay. But as a Muslim, you are being trained to submit this. And that is basically the meaning of Islam. You know, when you send them with a stream and submit with complete subservience, surrender with complete submission, or submit with complete subservience? What was a little disclaimer? So I've been told from time to time this good nice, wholesome water Stop, don't think, can you say yes, and then you're being told once negative comes in

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hasten to breaking your fast can don't prolong it, don't carry on with your fasting, because it will be more cruel. You know, the Prophet used to make a sound but he forbade his Sahaba from

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carrying on with the fast make, you know, so break your fast. Can you say yes, I will do this. And then then, when the eight comes, don't fast, ha, stop, don't fat break your fast drink. And then you say yes, I will do this. That is you know, submission is like a muscle. This is basically your your your synaptic formations develop with thinking and mental exercise, your muscles develop with, you know, training and excellent physical exercise. your spiritual development is also dependent on exercise. That's an exercise an enormous exercise of submission, and subservience the last whenever he tells you whenever he tells you, you do, yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.

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So with this submission and subservience you develop what that one yeah, you

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valic Museum economic development complete lack of belief customs prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you that you may attain piety, software self restraint, self restraint can we are most you know if if any people need more taqwa then we do need more you're living in the 21st century in America in you know, tri state area.

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So, so the floods of temptations

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basically that what is that what is what surplus self restraint. So, it is to build the dams on the river, how high should the dam be

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hungry should it be

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higher than the water? What is the water here that is that is about to flood the water fortifications and destroy them? Do you temptation, linear suspicions, temptations, you know, vanity exuberance desires,

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how much of that do do we encounter on daily basis living in the 21st century, and here, you encounter a lot of it. And if you are a younger person and a person that grew up here, you need to basically work on building your hiring and hiring back them.

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You know, forever.

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Travon helps with this. So for strength is that down on the river

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can the greater the fitten invitations and the suspicious skepticism that is a tip that has been sort of infused in into you, you go to college, and you walk out from the lecture you go to philosophy one on one, you walk away from the lecture you want to say you are my you know, keep me on this.

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So, you

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know, Ramadan, Ramadan,

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in terms of the statway exercise is enormous. Do you get Can you imagine that you are being told

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that I'm sorry.

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Hi, I should not prevent this from learning over the internet or reflecting on the beauty of our being but you're, you're sleeping in bed, next to your spouse, have a pure, wholesome,

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and you're being told,

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you know, it is it is the day of Ramadan.

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That doesn't, that's an enormous exercise of self restraint. Because this is this is what we're not talking about luck. Because the lack of proper synergy is there, she's far away, but you're in the bedroom, in the same bed

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and you're being told staff stay away.

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And then you stay away. Stay away. Isn't that a huge exercise of self restraint. It is

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part of what is happening to us and it's part of our training and part of our spiritual development and training in the month of Ramadan, then there is so much to say about our relationship with Allah

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terms also of our relationship with the people and the development of empathy and

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for for the people and the unity and the unity. The basically Ramadan brings us together. And it is sufficient to that we're all trusting.

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If you when you go to work, when you go to work,

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and you have like two or three co workers that are Muslim, don't you feel connected to them and Ramadan more than more than any other month because you're coming to work and you know that they're fasting, they know that you are fasting, the bond. The bond is been strengthened without any effort on your part. You're not making any effort to strengthen the bond.

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Well, subconsciously the bond is being strengthened. And the relationship between you will become a relationship of oneness, the oneness of the own in the heavier moment and we're headed this nation of viewers as one nation. So there are my bandwidth help that the travel without any effort. We know that so on during this month is fantastic. You

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You know that your coworker that was given a little bit tired out of focus is is

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having all these things because he's fasting you'll be more merciful towards them.

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And since we talked about the tiredness and fatigue, yes, you may have some tiredness and fatigue. The health benefits of Ramadan for the body are undeniable, but temporarily transiently, you may have some fatigue and tiredness use that fatigue and tiredness in

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for your spiritual development. Because it is very necessary that fatigue and tiredness is a man is it is conducive to what push you for sure as humidity, issue as humidity and humbleness which was calmness and clemency serenity

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all of this is for sure work. The forcefulness that is opposite to assure now in

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total Ninja stackability, republicanism, those characteristics the overbearing with his power and strength are too overbearing with his power and strength, morning walks, ligaments, that forcefulness is opposite to for sure, Ramadan, the little weakness that you feel a little a little fatigue, this is conducive to,

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to getting yourself

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ridding yourself from

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particular categories of bad qualities which are called the supplanted by the media was several a which are the qualities of the cattle in the qualities of the credit towards

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the qualities of the cattle indulgence, you know, greed, indulgence, the satisfaction of the Pilar the baser desires,

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eating, drinking and sexual relations and so on. These are the qualities of the captain. And then you have the predatory predatory qualities, the qualities of the Savannah or the predatory you know, aggression and you know,

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forcefulness and aggression against people, both of those qualities, European helped, even by the weakness that you may experience and Ramadan, you're being helped to rid yourself of those bad

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qualities and I think that

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Yeah, seven minutes cast my time. But you know, ask Allah

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to bless us all.

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You know, our

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make use of those

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Lesson One,

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to make the condition of

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the previous

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to make our own whether or after this was before and to make each and every one of us closer to him

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throughout from about an afternoon than we are now.

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