The Aqiqah – 26 – Our Precious Sprouts
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The speakers discuss the importance of understanding time and not just being alone, as well as healthy eating and good environments for one's health. They stress the need for parents to set good examples and provide healthy food and environments for their children. The importance of following guidance and following the Bible is emphasized, as well as the importance of shaving the baby's hair and avoiding regretting actions of others. The speakers also emphasize the importance of distributing meat and avoiding double payment, as well as being strong and giving forgiveness to others.AI Generated Transcript ©
Prayer
recommended by our prophet Sumasalam
for his ummah
so that insha'Allah
we will always stay connected to Almighty
the creator Allah.
Bismillahir
Rahmanir Raheem
mininar, wakina,
vidunya
hasana,
wafilah,
kirati,
Brothers and sisters, alhamdulillah,
we always try to spend time for the
sake of Allah, rubulalamin,
because Allah always remind us about
time.
That's why in the Quran
Allah talks about walfajri
and then he talks about wadduha,
then he talks about wal asri,
and then he talked about walayli.
Allah is telling all of us the importance
of time.
We grow with time.
We learn through time
and that's why the prophet, the son of
a sallam,
reminds his ummah who
are able
to recite du'a.
The minute you open your eye,
you call upon Allah
because He is the one who give us
life
by saying,
Oh Allah,
all places
belong to you.
Yeah. We thank Allah
for him,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
has given us life again after our death.
Sleeping is like dying.
You're off everything when you are asleep.
Your eyes are closed, your mouth sometimes is
open because you need extra oxygen maybe
so you have sometimes
dry throat because of that because we are
so used to open our mouth when we
are sleeping,
yeah. So
your ear is off, everything is off and
that's why before you go to bed, the
prophet
reminds his ummah
not to forget the minimum du'a,
or with your name I am going to
sleep
and hope that I will be awake tomorrow
again.
Yeah. There are people who sleep and never
wake up.
That is the end
but we are not ready yet. I think
all of us who are here,
you are going to sleep again tonight,
I don't think you are ready
not to wake up tomorrow.
You're starting to plan your day. You also
put some alarms to help you to wake
up early.
So it's very important to understand
time. Now there are times that we are
alone
but the prophet has
taught us
whoever
are connected to Allah, he never feels alone.
He always feels that Allah is there with
him
and he is alert about the 2 angels,
Ki Raman Qadibin.
He's not alone.
But people who are not connected to Allah,
they can feel very lonely.
Then they'll go to,
depression because nobody wants to talk to you
especially you know the COVID time, a lot
of people suffer because of that because they
are so used to go out talk to
people, suddenly
no traveling.
You just cannot get up,
you know. So everybody is having a lot
of,
new tests from Allah
And to the extent they do not just
stay at home and be with the family,
that is the best time for them to
strengthen their relation between the family
because family relationship is very fragile,
but we fail again.
We do not just
isolate ourselves from the society,
we even isolate ourselves within the family.
So we have a lot of people
having problem.
Children is at home.
They cannot go out. Mother, father is at
home,
but no communication.
He go to his room
and he she also went to her own
room. Everybody is busy doing their own thing.
I always say,
do you know how blessed we are that
Allah cut out to make COVID happen?
Even we don't like, nobody like it,
but Allah give us all the time now
to reflect,
yeah, to
rebuild the relationship
that we have developed
by staying alone, we are not married earlier,
then later on you choose to have a
family
and you are not happy just husband and
wife.
You look at me and look at you
just
day in day out just 2 faces,
then we want to have children. Alhamdulillah,
Allah grant us with
children,
and when we want to have children,
Allah and the prophet always guide
us. Don't just have children,
but have righteous children,
yeah.
Even prophet all the prophet will ask Allah
to grant them with offspring
by
offspring that is right, zuriyatan tayiba.
Righteous children. Why? So that it brings extra
happiness.
We know brother and sister, our life in
this world is very short.
Very very short.
The saying among the Malays,
yeah, maybe the Arab has their own saying,
yeah, but the Meliesi Alanka Pandeyknya
Hidup Kidunya,
Antara
Azan Dan Solat.
How short
is our life here? It's betweenazan
and prayer. Normally fromazan to prayer, how long?
10, 15 minute.
After the Azan, then people may pray sunnah,
kablia and so on.
Then 10 minutes, 15 minutes maximum, kalas, ekama,
you start to pray.
Why do they use that kind of
example?
Because normally when a child is born, the
traditional
Muslim will call aza.
Call aza on the right ear, some mimo
ikama on the left ear, they say the
prophet does it but the hadith on this
is not authentic.
Yeah.
Then
that's why they say azan,
and then when you die,
people are going to offer the prayer for
you.
Solatul Janaza.
So that's why they say antarazan
and solat.
That's how short our life, the reality of
the life.
But because of this dunya,
we forget
that our time is very very short.
Yeah.
But may Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala make us
among the people who is not a loser
towards time
and that's why when we call people to
do something good, they give excuse. Anything good,
they always give excuse.
I have no time, I'm busy but anything
not good I will make time.
I'll be there.
You know, they always have excuses. Good?
The Shaitan whispered,
ah, delay delay.
No, don't waste your time. Anything bad?
Wow, you're very energetic,
you see.
Allah said,
let your kosrin.
Allah swears with time that every human is
a loser. We all are loser.
Why? Because we don't follow the guidance.
You create a lot of problem to yourself
because you refuse to follow the divine guidance.
It's like children, if you refuse to follow
what your parents want you to do for
your best, it's for you.
You don't know. You are young. You don't
know. You just want to play but everything
there's limit. Who knows the parent?
They know they say, time to sleep,
time to eat.
Even you want to play, what kind of
game you should play?
If you endanger you, no.
But we don't know.
And you want to follow your desire if
the parent just leave you alone,
it's a disaster.
Yeah. But now the parent keep on guiding
and you follow. If you follow,
alhamdulillah.
At the end you benefit because now you
pick up all the good things.
No parent
want anything bad
for the children
except
you have a group of parents,
they train their children to go and beg.
To get money for them. That is the
worst.
How can you bring up your children
and make them
professional
beggar?
Your children are not going to work anymore.
They just go
to the public
and
keep on begging.
Stuck for Allah.
That's why in Islam,
Allah and our prophet have reminded us
that husband and wife we are talking about
the fragile
vessel, the book,
is talking about family
or our precious sprout, yeah, Islamic regulation for
newborn
to make and understand
our duty
from the beginning when you have a baby.
Yeah. We know that relationship between
the husband and wife is very fragile.
Relationship between parent and children also very very
fragile.
Yeah.
If you don't take good care of it,
it breaks very fast
then everybody suffer.
Now coming to children,
children is a gift from Allah.
It's a blessing.
It's like, you know, you have
a house, big house, big room.
You have a garden,
a big space
but no flowers.
You only have trees but no flowers.
You may enjoy
the greenery but
it won't attract your attention, but if you
go into and see the different color of
flowers, Allahu
Akbar,
it made you so
relaxed.
Children is like a flower.
Of course, they have ups and downs.
Why they keep
on
become very active? Because children, Phitra, they cannot
communicate with you. They don't know.
So but they want your attention
that's why we said
learn
the importance to have 5 vitamin
A. 5 vitamin A.
I share 3,
you look for 2.
Some homework.
Every children or not only children, even we
as adults,
we want the first aid,
attention.
We want people
to look at us,
attend to us.
That's why we are very active,
jumping up here and there and because we
just want attention.
And if the children are playing, you look
at them, oh, you're very happy.
They will jump further.
They don't know how dangerous is that. They
just love and when you look at them,
you are, you know, you're attracted to them,
they will
do more.
That is
A number 1.
A number 2,
children as they grow,
they want you to
appreciate them.
They want you to don't take them for
granted.
No. Appreciation
of the children.
They may not do the right thing but
if you know how
to respond to them, appreciate them,
make them feel very very happy.
Yeah.
And
the 3rd a
A is also
they want
what?
Assurance.
They want to be secure
but they do not know.
Children, they do not know danger.
They thought that playing outside is always
safe,
not necessary. People kidnap children.
They may just want the organ from the
children, the cell organ, human organ.
They just don't care.
Human
is one of the worst creations of Allah.
Deal with the past at one time and
then Allah said you become the worst.
That's why Allah subalalamin,
seek the world.
You see,
Allah
says,
human is all losers
until they become a believer,
and when you become a believer, you still
become a loser because
iman is not just feeling,
believing in something,
but you do not follow-up with action.
And even if you are very active you
can still be a loser because you are
doing things that do not benefit you.
A lot of people are very active in
doing what? Gossiping,
deathbiting,
slandering.
What do you gain from that?
Nothing. You collect more sins,
but your friends say, oh you are so
good, no, you're so brave. Brave in doing
what?
Brave in dividing the people,
create hatred among people,
brave in killing innocent people like in Gaza.
Is that you call braveness?
You are a coward, you're fighting innocent people.
If you really don't fight, wait until they
grow big, then you fight.
Example.
This is something we must remember.
And also
Allah said insrawatin,
you know, what he said?
I create human in the best form.
I give them the best guidance.
I provide them all the good food, halaland
toiba.
I also provide them good environment.
Now it's up to them.
Do you want to be in a good
environment?
Do you want to eat good food,
halal food?
Do you want to have a good family?
You have to ask.
You want to have righteous children, good children?
You have to ask.
If any parent want to have good children,
they must set good example.
If they want to keep themselves healthy and
also the children healthy,
provide them with good food, quality food, halalang
toyeba.
That's how you move
on. That's how we all been taught in
Islam.
If you are not careful, fummaradatnanihumasfarasafileen,
Allah say.
I greeted you, give you the best.
You choose not to follow.
Of course Allah said, I show you 2
ways,
my way
and the other way.
Allah is the one who create the good
and others the bad. Halal,
haram.
We must not have the belief
Allah only create halal animal.
How about haram animal?
How about
PIG
created by Allah? Why Allah create? Allah, He
is the creator.
You don't ask him.
He know.
He create everything
and then he said, you do this.
Don't do that. You eat this. Don't eat
that.
He want to see whether you follow or
not.
If everything good you don't know what is
bad. Bad also become good because you don't
know.
That's why we have problem when we don't
have the knowledge
to know who is a good friend
and you trust
the wrong person
then you suffer because they are going to
destroy you.
They will backstab you
because you trust the wrong people, so Allah
does say in the Quran if you look
the beauty of the Quran
after Surat Al Fatiya, Surat Al Baqarah,
the few verses
Allah talked about
good guy,
bad guy,
ugly guy.
Whereby reciting the Quran,
we may understand the meaning, but we do
not know how to relate the verses of
Allah
into our daily life.
Why Allah start with
good, bad, ugly?
Because Allah
know that we are going to face these
three
environment.
3 groups of people is there.
The good guy,
this is the sign. A, b, c, d,
good.
Bad
guy, clear.
It's like now you talk about what happened
in Gaza. Are they good guys? The one
who killed the innocent people. Do you say
they are good?
Can you say they are good?
If you support them
then you know
you are just like them.
You don't talk about human rights.
You don't talk about
children.
You don't know
what is children.
You don't talk about peace because you don't
want peace.
Can you imagine you come to the country
when people welcome you later on? You build
a wall.
Who allowed you to build this wall?
There's a wall being built before East and
West Europe.
They have broken their wall because
it's not healthy.
We will become borderless because we are human.
We need to move around.
You think you can survive by yourself?
No.
We complement each other.
No, the rich Do you think the rich
can survive without the poor, hardworking
people?
They become rich because of the poor people.
The one who is going to work is
the poor guy.
If everybody is rich, do you want to
work?
I answer, I don't need to work. I
have all the money I want to spend,
you know. So everything is balanced when Allah
create everything.
He make it balanced.
So He's guiding us. The good guy, a
b c d, bad guys
and the ugly guy. Who are the ugly
guy?
Who are the ugly guy?
The monofil pain. The non believer is a
bad time
because they don't value you.
But if you're a believer, you value everybody
because the iman will guide you.
People who have iman,
what did Allah say?
Ummah, you are the best
Ummah.
Being
yeah
great by Allah
among mankind.
Why you are good?
What is right you will promote,
fair and
square. Basic human right, you will be there.
What is wrong, you will be there too?
To say, no.
No injustice,
no killing,
no oppression.
Honor basic human right,
and you do everything guided by your iman.
Allah has said that
to guide all of us.
So please brothers and sisters,
don't underestimate
what the Quran
has
taught us. Just follow, you will never regret.
You find peace.
Every problem you encounter,
Allah promised us.
Whoever have taqwa to Allah, I show you
ways to overcome all your problem.
We have problem, of course.
Young with the young problem,
the elders with the elder problem,
politician, political problem,
Economists, we have economy problem.
Nobody can say I have no problem,
but the beauty part in Islam,
when you have problem,
the creator, Allah, He knows.
Don't think He don't know.
You think that Allah don't know Kuwait is
coming?
He has all the knowledge.
Nothing happens without the knowledge of Allah.
Only we are caught by surprise, but then
I'm not sure you ways
how to overcome and move forward.
That's why we have been blessed.
The Quran
is a divine guidance,
the prophet is here to show you the
way.
Just follow,
Then you will never regret, inshallah.
Now coming back to this topic today,
It's about family.
Now
you have a newborn.
Allah grant us with new
family
child.
What should we do as parents?
Do the child have right upon us?
Yes.
Allah even
inform us,
Do human
look into the food that we have prepared
for them?
When a mother is,
a woman is pregnant,
do we eat?
Must you eat?
You must. Even if
you have difficulty
in fasting,
break your fast when you have during pregnancy
because the food that you are eating is
not only for you
it's also for the baby to grow.
Allah created a system
when
the woman is pregnant.
You need to have extra food now
because you're not eating alone.
Something is growing inside
and they need nutrition.
That's why I always emphasize to a lot
of parents
or the new
couple
when your wife is pregnant,
make sure
you are moving
your habit
from just eating anything
to eat. If possible, you have the main
goal for organic food.
Everything becomes organic.
If you have the mean to spend
because you know it's not easy
for the pregnant
mother.
She needs extra energy,
extra nutrition, but it's not for her now
also for the growing of the
baby inside her,
but this one man don't understand
because men never experience pregnancy.
They only can grow fat
like a pregnant lady.
Yeah.
That's
all. Full of rubbish inside there.
So when
you love
the baby and love your wife,
immediately you see that she's going through a
pregnancy,
you must have extra
care.
It's a jihad for the mother
to experience all the pain that she have
to carry.
We can sleep very well. Do you think
our wife can sleep very well?
No? The minute
she wants to rest,
the one inside give him a psychic,
Then she's awake, oh, feel some pain.
Yeah.
The minute he's going to resident, he give
an elbow.
He
doing a lot of, MMA inside, you know.
But we don't know. Be man is here.
Why
why you're sleepless? Why you're in pain?
Why why next time
you be careful?
Now immediately after the birth of the baby,
today we have 3,
baby is coming
to do the shaving
and this is called the package of Akita.
Yeah. So
that's why the root of Akika derives from
the Arabic word Akkaw,
which means split or cut,
refer to cutting the fruit of the animal
that is sacrificed for a child's birth.
Baby girl,
1 sheep.
If you want a cow, 1 cow. It
goes by number they don't go by size,
but you cannot sacrifice chicken or duck.
Too small.
Minimum,
Because chicken you can eat by yourself.
Yeah. Minimum is a good
sheep. All you have the meaning. I want
to slaughter a cow,
one cow. They cannot share. A lot of
people are confused. They say, Akika korban combine.
No.
Korban is korban, akika is akika.
Those who have the meaning what the prophet
want you to do.
The minute the child is born.
Do you know if the child is born,
say, in Ramadan?
Then Zakat Fitra
is wajib
now.
End mean life.
One is just born 2 days ago.
Happened
is end of Ramadan.
You must pay Zakat Petra for her or
for
him. To purify the child
is a sacrifice,
very minimum sacrifice.
Zakat fitra, how much per year?
How much in Sri Lanka or Zakat fitra?
7
ringgit.
Normally I will give extra
because I like to value the food I
eat
per day lunch and dinner, how much I
spend?
If I say
a million 15 ringgit
then I calculate 30 ringgit.
I'll give
you 1 year.
30 ringgit is how what?
Nothing.
And why are you so calculative with God?
That is number
1.
For the baby boy,
2.
Too good
or 2 cows.
They go by number, they don't go by
size.
For the Korban,
for Raya Haji,
Idul Abduha,
one cow, 7 people can share.
Good one to 1.
There is korban
for
Haji.
Now what happens
when a child is born? I always remind
the 7th day the best
of when the 7th day of the
birth of the baby,
parent must now
make a final decision.
Number 1,
to give the name.
You can prepare now before you are married
also.
But it's very good.
Minimum the maximum you can go on the
7th day
of the childbirth,
you must
be ready for a name.
Choose a good name
because the prophet said,
be careful of name
because the name can be a prayer.
When people always call you with good name,
may
the good prayer be upon the child
but you give them a bad name,
people are calling them with a bad name.
Don't think that,
I want the sound, I want to mix
this sound
western, eastern a bit.
No, no. The meaning is important not the
sound.
So please
be wise.
Don't get confused and that the prophecy, if
boy
the prophet highly recommend have an Abdul inside.
Abdullah, Abdul Rahman, Abdul Rahim, Abdul Quddoos,
Abdul Muhami because
Abdul and after that the name of Allah,
so that the child is being known as
the servant of Allah.
For the girls, you have all the beautiful
names, Khartija,
Aisha, Maimunah,
all the good names.
Yeah.
7th day.
On 7th day also,
you slaughter
the animal.
Give the one who slaughter the animal the
name of the baby
and we hope that they will carry out
the slaughtering.
Now, I was informed,
just slaughtering
an animal, a sheep,
and cooking the meat,
whether you want curry or korma,
it may cost you a 1,400
plus.
Yeah. If you had the means to it,
yeah,
then what do you do the same day,
7th day?
If you shave the baby's hair,
shaving the baby's hair.
For the girl, you only shave
once
and no more shaving
because you are not supposed to shave
the hair off a woman. No.
For the men, you can still shave. When
you go for Umrah, they can shave their
hair. When they go to Hajj, they can
shave, but not for women.
Shave the baby hair and that is going
to happen
after the class today.
Yeah. You have twin
and plus and then the family 1 so
there are 3
babies coming in today.
Here we do that.
We have the services.
And how you shave the hair the prophet
even show you start from the right side.
Not cutting
the hair, shaving
the baby's
hair, not cutting.
The tradition
is
with what? With coconut.
Coconut don't is good for you to drink
and eat, not for you to waste.
Now, wait,
yeah,
number 1, yeah,
Shave the hair
and after shaving the hair, the technique comes
in.
Technique is
the time of the prophet. The prophet used
to choose
dates
and then
smash it inside
and take some part of the dish to
just
wrap on the baby's
gum,
something sweet.
We don't encourage
us to use that
because
the sliver of the prophet
has
extra
benefit.
Even sometimes when somebody was bitten by some
poison
scorpion and sitting,
the prophet would just spit
on that
wound, and it recovered.
But our life would have no blessing.
So
so we
just replace it with something
that the prophet
loved too, and the prophet even said, seek
healing from 2.
One is honey.
Honey is good.
It's not just any other sugar
but pure
honey
will benefit us.
2nd is the Quran.
If you have any unrest,
confusion,
read the Quran.
Understand the Quran.
The Quran is a Shifa,
Allah said.
It's a mercy
and it's a healing
for those who believe.
So we will do that, use honey and
rub
on
the gum of the baby,
then we make dua.
Then the hair of the baby would be
weighed.
We have a skill, special skill.
The weight
of baby's hair
and look into how heavy is the hair.
1 gram, 2 grams, 3 grams, 4 grams?
The heaviest that I've experienced to 100 of
babies that we have been shaving
is 6 grams.
10 grams, we have 10 grams? Oh yeah,
written in our book,
10
grams.
Normally,
2.
Just 2 grams. Yeah. Baby
hair is still very
nice. The newborn don't have a lot but
somebody, a lot of grandkids, you know, with
thick hair.
So we have to shave clean everything.
You weigh
and then you give shadakah
based on the weight of the baby hair.
Minimum,
you give Shadrachar with the value of silver.
Minimum. Silver is very minimum,
but people want to do something extra in
green intonation,
then you can value with gold.
If you want,
yeah,
because anything you do,
especially
Sadaka,
you don't lose
anything, and that is a symbolic
reminder.
By doing that, we hope that our children
when they grow,
they like to donate.
They like to help
the poor and the needy. They are not
selfish people, just think of themselves.
Everything the prophet want you to do is
very very educational.
It has a very deep,
you know,
effect for the children as they grow.
Then the meat of course the hair that
you have weighed and then you have gesser
the car,
then
you go and bury in
your house or any small compound you have
some
of that, just dig a bit and put
and bury the hair colors.
For the baby boy, highly recommended again
to go through circumcision.
For the baby boy only.
On 7th day.
Today is easy because they have,
yeah,
different kinds of ways now
compared with our time,
you know.
You have to look at the razor blade,
you know.
You are worried also
you know, so you don't know and then
you have to have the our traditional way
they say, batang pisang.
Pokkopisang,
via batang.
Yeah,
to balance up everything.
But now, they have a kind of
treatment that they just
covered the private part of the baby boy.
Because they are still young,
their skin is still very fragile,
soft,
and it
can,
yeah, clean everything very, very fast because baby
don't run, don't
walk, so it's easy for the healing.
Yeah.
So do that for the baby boy. Baby
girl not necessary.
The prophet will ask how about baby girl?
You see, they can do if they want
because that is part of
the way
to keep ourselves clean. Easy for the cleaning
of our
private part in the future.
You
see.
So alhamdulillah,
we had an issue before in Penang.
A group of disbelievers
criticized
circumcision.
They talk so bad about this. They say
this Muslim is a dirty guy, you know.
That's why they have to go through all
this because they are very dirty, filthy. They
are sick people.
They attack us from all angles.
I was in Penang at that time,
so we have to counter attack.
So we made a protest.
We went to the Indian area and tell
them
what we are doing is not only in
Islam.
It's from the time of
Prophet.
Yeah. Abraham,
alaihis salaam.
All prophets from that time
go through circumcising,
a kind of cleaning.
So we are so upset.
We see,
you people
eat banana with banana skin.
Do you eat banana with banana skin?
Even monkeys don't do that.
Monkey also know how to
eat banana.
So we are using, we get upset so
we use monkey and banana.
So in reality, it's true.
Nobody want to eat banana with the skin
together.
So,
they get upset after that.
I say, Who is more civilized?
I think we are more civilized than you.
Even the monkey is more civilized than you.
So we do all this to make people
understand the process of circumcision
is to help you to clean yourself better.
Yeah. Now the baby's
rights have been given.
Any parent who want to have baby, please
prepare yourself.
You do not know how to shave the
baby head, then you can bring it to
a place that people who know they will
help you.
Here we have been doing this for more
than
35 years.
Alhamdulillah.
So we hope all of us will have
the right understanding
that what Allah and the prophet want us
to do is for
our benefit
now
to the future
because the baby right has been honored.
Now the problem we have among the community,
the society here,
we normally delay
it without
a purpose, a reason.
If the baby can't,
yeah, be
I mean shave their hair, baby hair cannot
be shaved because he is still in the
hospital because of
What why why we delay the baby that
they cannot come out so fast?
Because of what?
Normally,
because of what?
Yeah?
Be look be Because you see, because of
you,
The what?
Yeah, because of the yellow field.
So they have to put into it and
make sure that
he is protected.
What did the brother just say? That's
all. Yellow
yellow fever.
That is very common lately.
So because of that, the baby cannot be
discharged.
Yeah. So they will
try to help the baby
back to normal
so then you can delay
not delay the acika.
The acika should be on the 7th day
of the baby's birth.
Yeah, like if the baby is born on
Saturday,
last Saturday,
then
when it would be 1 week?
So you come.
Yeah. Saturday, Sunday, Monday, Tuesday,
Wednesday, Thursday, Friday.
Friday will be the day
of
Akika.
But the shaving
and all the tanning, you wait until the
baby is discharged.
You can delay that because
of the situation, but there's no
reason for you to not to do akiqah
on the 7th day because akiqah is not
on the baby,
it's on the animal.
Yeah.
So Insha'Allah, you don't have that problem.
The animal also has to go through yellow
fever.
The animal is always ready.
You just have the money to pay Bismillah.
Okay. But when you slaughter the animal,
the prophet even guides us. See how detailed
Islam
is. It's not a religion up to you,
up to you. No.
The prophet is here to show you all
the SOP how to slaughter the animal, then
divide
the animal into 3 parts.
Up to you.
Minimum,
you must not forget the poor and the
needy.
Wanted for the poor and the needy,
wanted is for you and your family
and wanted to anybody that you want to
give.
Whether Muslim, not yet Muslim, they have the
right,
yeah, for this,
meat.
Some people would just cut
and put in
a pack, you know, plastic bag. Say a
kilo one,
So if you have
40 kilos, so you divide into 3
for the poor,
for yourself,
and for those who you want to distribute.
Your neighbor,
your friend,
distribute. This is the meat from my baby's
archer.
But if you
want to make it easier,
you can even
slaughter it
and then call somebody to cook and pack
ready
to eat.
And they have this.
You pack it with rice.
You negotiate with the one who is,
doing this, the hotel room.
We always do that. We have our
friend who is doing that. So we say
okay now,
how much is the the goat
and then the cooking for the animal
after they slaughtered and everything,
and then how much is perfect
with rice
and nasi briyani.
Yeah. Always they like to be company with
nasi,
the brave nasi, nasi and brahni.
Yeah.
So, alhamdulillah,
they will do it for
you. Maybe now, the latest one we have
done last week
is, for the rice,
they charge you 4.50
per
pack.
So 450
per pack. So altogether,
it may cost you about
how much?
Thousand plus still, A
1,004
for the animals and the cooking
and plaster rice,
a 1,008 plus.
Now
the pack is ready they send it to
you you divide it into 3 groups.
Yeah. 1, if you don't want to take
your part also okay you say no. I
take just 5 for my family,
the rest you distribute.
We can do that too.
We help them to do that. These are
the services that we do over here.
Yeah. That's how we move on brothers and
sisters.
May Allah
give us
the understanding,
the wisdom
to do what Allah wants us to do
for the benefit of the future generation.
Yeah.
But a lot of us was not
sometimes the problem I encountered,
the parents want to fix the day they
are free.
You should be slaughtering on Thursday. Oh, Thursday
is a working day. Why not we do
it on Saturday weekend? No, there's nothing to
do with your day.
It's the baby's right.
Please remember,
it's the baby's right, not your day.
But we don't understand. We don't know what
to get people. Nothing to do if there
is a baby, but you want to delay,
you must distribute. They want to delay their
cooking if they want to cook by themselves,
or they want to delay by eating they
keep in the fridge, up to them.
But honor the day that
Allah and the prophet have fixed for the
baby.
So 7th day,
if you have some problem,
14.
7 to 7.
But don't wait until 7 years.
7 years you cannot do tahini animal, he
bite you already.
So there
are rules in Islam.
We hope Allah, rubla, lamin, give us
the hidayah, the love
to do what Allah and the prophet want
us to do, not do what we want.
No.
Islam never follows us. Allah never we must
follow Islam
because we belong to Allah. Soon or later
you're going to return back to him,
but Allah is all loving,
all forgiving, and Allah said to all of
us
through his prophet.
Oh Mohammed
tell
the people who have wronged themselves,
who have been unjust to themselves,
who have done a lot of mistake,
never give up hope with Allah.
Allah is always there to forgive all your
past sins.
Allah is telling us,
so why must you have doubts with Allah?
You can have doubts with people.
You have done some mistake with somebody, you
ask for forgiveness, sometimes the person says,
I forgive you here. Okay. See you in
Aqara.
Wow.
Now you're worried now.
Whether you are you you you can escape
from archaea,
you know, you have to go.
Some they said the Malay have their culture.
But. But one thing, you will be caught
in the Aqirat.
Sure to be caught
If you borrow money from your friend,
you promise to pay back.
You pretend
that you don't owe him anything.
You don't pay back.
It's a debt.
Even the prophet time, when somebody dies and
the prophet wants to perform funeral prayer, he
asks,
do this deceased person have any of that
wutham?
If there is any of the family member
who is going to take over the responsibility,
no, the prophet just leaves, he doesn't pray.
But if some of the family members say:
okay, anybody who feel that he has loaned,
please come we take the full responsibility.
Alhamdulillah.
That one, you cannot play around.
If you have borrowed something from somebody you
promised to pay, you must pay. If you
can't pay on time, then you can talk
to that person. Can you help me delay?
Give me more extra time. I cannot pay
you one lump sum. Can I pay you
monthly?
Do what you can, don't just disappear.
Like I owe him nothing
That's why when it come to borrowing,
lending,
in the Quran, in Sur Baqarah,
there is the longest ayat,
one page just about
borrowing and lending.
Why?
Because
it's very, very important.
If not you are committing
injustice to your fellow brother or sister,
you borrow money and you have no intention
to pay,
then the prophet said, Fahuwasserik,
he is a thief.
Day of Judgment even you die shahid in
the battlefield, you can go to paradise
immediately because you owe people money and you
don't pay,
You will be stuck. You bypass the solar
thermal stacking,
the long bridge,
but there is one smaller
bridge, shorter bridge before entering Jannah called Alkantara.
You are stuck there.
You have to wait until the person that
you owe him comes
and then
if He forgives
you. There are many ways if you if
He don't forgive you, then there will be
a transaction.
You're going to Jannah, you have a lot
of good deeds.
Now your good deeds is going to be
transferred.
They don't need money only. Money cannot buy
anything. No supermarket,
no mini market there. When you go to
Jannah, everything is free,
You know, you don't have to use money.
Everything is free.
Just ask, it comes
and everything is instant.
Who is the one who prepares? Who is
your chef? Angel. Can you imagine angel prepare
food for
you? How blessed are we in Jannah?
Allahu Akbar.
Yeah.
And you have all the facilities that you
want.
You have jacuzzi,
no,
and you do, you also have 3 rivers,
the river of wine,
the river of honey,
and the river of milk. Can you imagine?
You soak yourself into the milk
and then soak yourself into honey.
How soft is your skin?
You're going to ask any of the spas
here.
It's going to cost you a lot,
and there is pure honey,
pure milk.
Allahu Aduk.
Just try to go to Jannah
and please prepare ourselves.
You have done a lot of mistakes. Don't
worry. Allah said, I am ready to forgive.
Just be ready to make some migration,
be ready to make changes,
and one of the best ways to make
our migration
is your environment.
Choose a good environment,
good friend.
A good friend will never abandon you.
A good friend is always there to help
you complement everything.
What you are lacking, they have extra, they
will share with you.
They'll never abandon you. It's like a good
parent never abandoned their children.
They will not do that.
Children may abandon parents,
but not parents.
So we hope we who are children today,
if you still have parents,
be grateful, be thankful,
because don't underestimate
the parents'
prayer.
Yes. You remember the saying among
the scholars,
that
heaven
lies beneath the feet of your mother.
Being a mother is very unique.
So when the prophet was asked by a
man, Who should I honor first?
The mother the prophet said, your mother
and then he asked again, then who?
Your mommy.
Then who?
Your
mommy. Still back to mother,
but this guy kept on asking the prophet
no, he wanted to hear other things.
So the prophet said, the 4th thing is
your papa.
Papa only comes at the 4th
level.
Mother plays a very, very important role. They
go through the pregnancy,
the pain, the suffering,
everything.
And after you're born, they are there to
comfort you,
breastfeed you,
make sure that you sleep before they sleep.
If you call the father to take care
of the children,
he will sleep before the baby sleeps.
You know, he just sleeps, sleeps, pooped his
lap already.
No, father don't have that patience like a
mother.
You cannot be like a mother because you
are not a mother.
You must honor who you are
and act accordingly.
He is a he, she is a she
class.
Yeah.
May Allah help all of us
to be in a good environment
so that we become
a better
person.
Don't give up hope,
and always try your best.
Yeah? Now we're open for Q and A
to the sisters here, the girls now.
Please ask.
Okay.
I have 2 questions. The first question, what
if the parents don't have money to do
akiqah or the donation?
The second question,
yeah, answer the first question first. Okay. I
don't know the second question. If they don't
have to mean they don't have to do
anything.
But if some family members who have extra,
their relative, their uncle,
the cousin,
they say,
we will we
will help you, then you can do that.
Remember anything to do with hukum,
Allah
said Allah will never burden you except what
you are able to do.
Clear?
Good.
Next. For the second question, what if you
owe someone money and then by the time
you want to repay the person, you have
no contact or anything with that person anymore?
Repeat your question.
What if you owe someone money Okay. But
by the time you want to repay the
money Okay. You have no contact or
are unable to repay the person money anymore.
Yeah. Because
maybe he has
migrated to another country
or we don't have.
If you know any of his family members,
the person is not around anymore or maybe
he passed away,
example,
then you must look for the family
because it it belong to them.
The children the children have right to inherit
that property. If it's a big amount, small
amount, you just pass it to the family
next of kin
and say this is what I owe your
parent.
I'm sorry that I was not able to
pay earlier because I don't have the min
now, Allah give me a risky. I still
remember I owe he had been kind
yeah to lend me this money now I'm
going back.
It's up to
them now.
If the next of kin said
sadaqa then kalal, then you can do sadaqa
on behalf of the deceased.
That you are doing sadaqa
under his name,
and may Allah accept
the good deeds.
And that's how we move forward.
Yeah. Now.
Any other question?
Next.
Sure. So that the people hear you.
So that people will hear you. The record
Yeah.
Go. Okay.
What I mean is that just continuing to
her question.
You said,
if there is no family,
is
it okay to like just to do sadaqa
on behalf of the person because the person
is lost? Yeah. Just to do
Yeah. You have to do something.
Okay. You can't communicate with anybody, you don't
know their parent, they don't know where they
are at all.
Communication
is cut off
so then you
can give the card
on his name.
For the sake of Allah, you can do
that. Okay. Yeah.
Because it is his money.
You see? So your seed needs money to
do something good for him.
No problem. Yeah. You can do that.
But if you if any of the member
is still around,
let them decide whether they want to give
tzedakah or they want to distribute among their
family members.
Maybe he owes somebody money, or now the
money come in, he can even repay back.
So you cannot
act on his behalf
without
getting his permission.
Yeah. Just example,
suddenly you have his contact number, but he
is overseas now, and you call brother, you
remember you. He may forget, but you remind
him because you know.
That's why the prophet and the Allah want
you to
write it down
so that there is an evidence,
you know. It's very important
to make sure that you are a person
that can be trust. You are not a
chipper, you are not a liar, you commit
and then you're going to pay.
I trained myself
I train myself
I don't owe anybody.
Anything I want to buy, I have the
means, I buy.
I don't have the means, I have patience.
If I owe somebody even R10, I have
a sleepless night.
Worry I may die?
I will make sure that I will pass
it to them as soon as possible.
If not, if they got account, we also
have our account, can you give me account
that I will just transfer?
I want to sleep in peace.
Right.
No. That is my practice.
Shukur Alhamdulillah,
Allah make life easy
even when we want to do some project,
for the home,
anything that we have to do for welfare
activities
and people trust us.
Bankers also trust us, They want to help
us, you can take a loan and say
no, we will do what we can.
Because loan you're involved in interest sometimes, We
don't do
that.
We will survive, Insha'Allah.
We believe in Allah's blessing and Allah's help.
Try our best not to get involved, if
possible.
Ma'am? I have another question.
Referring to the Ateca.
Back to Ateca? Yeah. Back to Ateca.
If for example, the person doesn't have the
money to do the Artika,
let's say, 2nd or 3rd year, Then
he
remembers,
not
he remembers, he has the Then he remembers
not he remembers. He
he has the money. The money now? Yeah.
After 3 years.
How
will he count the days like after 7
days, you know? No. No. If only when
you have the mean now, you record it
and never perform a clicker. Yeah? Yeah. Now
I want to do, you do.
It's a belated
arpeka.
No problem.
No. This is something that you don't delay
unnecessary.
So we have the means now, you're in
awe, you don't have the thing of Aqika,
Kalash, it's not wajid.
It's sunnah mo aqada.
Right. Then you can engage in a korban.
Korban
of either abha.
Yeah.
But the days, how how No. No. They're
gone because the day is the day that
the prophet fixed 7
14. To 14.
Okay.
So if you can't, then you consider it.
Okay. Don't worry.
Understand.
Yeah. Don't worry at all.
Anything that is sunnah,
you don't have to repay back normally.
Yeah. Anything Wajid, you should.
Now, any last question? Now.
Can
we send the money for the Akika to
other country, like in Gaza,
like in Philippines,
they just send us the picture of the
goat or sheep,
if the sheep always hook I understand that.
As long as you are doing it where
you want to do it is up to
you,
but you must remember
you have right. It's good also for you
not to forget your family members
and also your neighbor.
It is
something happening
in our family.
So that also you want the neighbor to
feel, this is how we Muslims
respond to a newborn
baby.
We are grateful to Allah, we do Akika,
invite them or give them the meat so
that they will enjoy.
That's why they like you to do within
your area.
But if you find that nobody is eating
meat now,
now you have some group of people who
are
suffering not enough food.
If you are sure
if you are sure you can slaughter over
there. I don't know whether they got sheep
over there anymore,
you
know, because even human is being slaughtered, you
know. How about animal?
So
so it's not easy sometimes. You have good
plan,
but we don't know. For you to
slaughter other countries,
ship over there
is no more fresh,
So you can do other things.
This kind of meat is better to do
within our meat, and if you are to
help them, you help them in a different
manner.
They need
other kind of things more than just meat.
Yeah. Just example. Yeah. If there is somebody
who are sure you can do it properly
over there and you can distribute,
no problem.
No problem.
Yeah. But in Philippines, it's easy because
you don't have war there so you know
your family members. Can you do this? Distribute
to the people, the poor people? How many
people? Yeah. Can can be done. Don't worry,
inshallah.
Yeah? No.
Assalamu alaikum Shay. Assalamu alaikum.
Shay, I have a question regarding Akika. If,
let's say, something comes up, I I reach
out to a caterer, but they cannot
they need to do the Akika
earlier.
Let's say it hasn't reached the 7th day.
Can I do it earlier? No. No. Must
be on the 7th day. Minimum.
You can be delete
Okay. Delete. But not earlier.
Okay.
No. It's like prayer, no. Can you pray
earlier if you're Musafir? Yes.
You're not Musafir? No. You must wait until
the time is in.
Yeah.
So may Allah bless us. You
have last one now.
Yeah. It's about the debt. I think it's,
I mean, having
heard what you said about debt,
it's
it's a very heavy,
heavy stuff, you know.
So for us, for example,
sometimes, you know, you go through life and
you don't know who owes you what. Right.
So I think perhaps it is it okay
if it's a good practice, yeah,
that, you You know, usually when people say
when you go to sleep, you forgive everyone.
And, I think the other thing we should
do before we sleep is to say if
we were to say, like, you Allah, you
know, I forgive everyone or I let go
anyone who has,
owed me anything.
So would that, like, release that person from
the debt? Of course. Yeah. I think that
should be a Yeah. That would be a
a good way to move forward. I mean,
it's it's more for the person, not Correct.
Correct. Isn't it? Your right is being
protected.
Yeah. Because you otherwise that person cannot even
enter. Of course. They are going to have
problem.
Yeah.
But if you are a person who
have extra kindness, mercy,
you just forget. Yeah.
But you see if the person is still
alive
and they are still very active
and they also have some money now, you
know,
It's good for you to remind them why
so that they don't take things for granted.
So that they don't do this to another
person.
That's why sometimes you have to be hard
not to make them suffer,
to discipline them.
It's like me example, people come, can you
lend me? We know that you are a
good person. Okay.
But suddenly, you see,
he's no more closer to you now
because he knows he owes you and he
he didn't
fulfill his promise.
Neither he come back to you,
Shey, I'm sorry. I promised I'd give you
back in 2 months. Now 2 years already.
You don't even bother to come and,
yeah, tell me
that can you delay or can I pay
you monthly?
I Now if you do that,
deep in my heart,
I will not just let it go like
that because
I will not
educate you.
You can do it to another person
but if you are doing this to me
now, this is me,
your teacher,
and then you are cheating,
lying to me, you can lie to other
people more.
So then I will be aware.
I know if he is talking to somebody,
also our Jama'at.
I would like to know
later on,
what the the brother was talking
about. Oh, he he he asked me to
lend him some money. I will say, no.
I warned the other brother don't be the
next victim
because if not, I'm not being charged to
the other brother.
I know he has a bad habit he
likes to borrow but he does not know
how to pay.
Maybe he is humble enough to come back
to you and say I'm sorry I don't
have the mean, you know, can you please
make it easier or can you just forgive
me for that?
We don't mind people who are humble.
We don't mind
but these people is like you know they
take you for a ride
and they pretend nothing happened.
It's not good.
It's not good at all because you are
not educating them, disciplining them.
You're giving them the grade you can go
and do another person.
I will not allow if I know that
another
brother is going to be with him, I
know he's going to borrow, I will tell
the brother please, you want to give sir
the car keys?
Don't
bother him or lend him because he don't
pay.
How can you know? I have experience.
You can ask him about me if you
want
or you can call him. Let me be
there. Yeah. Sometimes some people when they lend
money, right, they say,
okay, I'll lend this to you. If you
pay me, good. But if you can't pay,
then
Then then it's better for you to give
siddaka.
Okay. Better. Clear. Yeah.
Yeah. Because then you don't feel bad that
the person doesn't pay you. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah.
Of course. It's also not
it's also for the other person. Yeah. So
how much you wanna give is up to
you.
But when when people say, I want, You
see, we we we want to help them,
but we want them to be honest.
If not, you're not helping him to be
a better person.
He'll go to one, then another one. I
I would not allow that to happen to
my friend or to my to be the
second victim.
And that's how I move forward.
You you care for them but they don't
care about you. It's a hookum.
No. Of course I have no problem with
you but you never come back to me.
And then this is something we have to
be strong to help the person.
Yeah. Insha'Allah,
we end by tasbiki for us.
The meaning of this prayer, glory be to
you, oh Allah.
All places belong to you.
We bear witness. There's none worthy of worship
except you alone,
and we seek Your forgiveness. Forgive us, O
and we repent to You except our repentance.
and we repent to You except our repentance.