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smilla rahmanir rahim o salat wa salam ala COVID mursaleen Sina Mohammed. While earlier Sufi commentary I will be assigning elomi Deen Allahumma la Mulana Illa Marlin tena indicator Allah Hakim, rubbish roughly sadri us sadly, Emery Washington Dr. Melissa Annie f kahakai.

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O Allah grant me sincerity on that day grant me even if temporary eloquence and clarity and ability to

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show

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your servants How great is Islam and how great is the prophets are seldom and don't make

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my attention or my language or the British context and the security and all these ideas be an impediment towards transforming the words that are in my heart to their heart, rather than from my mouth to your ears, or logline, grant us acidity, and grant a success and blessing and create

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despite the air conditioning, an air of warmth and love between us during these couple of days, I am happy to see you all as always, and I am more happy to see new faces and I am happy to see familiar faces, I am even more happier to see brothers at that large significant number.

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And happy to hear babies as well. And I'm saying this because the stereotype is that has one brother told me if you want lots of sisters to attend, do a talk on marriage or a talk on children. I think you broke this stereotype you prove you broke the rule. And if anything, if and I'm very glad, I'm extremely glad because I'm a brother and I want all the brothers to be educated about parenting and about how I

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dealt with children. And because if anything, I think it shows this mutual feeling of responsibility and duty, we are not here coming to be entertained.

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We are coming here to learn with entertainment. But but but the main thing is the education and and the benefits.

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So this is one thing and I'm glad actually to see people that I knew when I was young. And when they were a bachelor's and I see them now either engaged or married or

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now that they are fathers and mothers, I'm extremely glad and if anything it shows that you are getting old which is not always a pleasant feeling. But who knows maybe those children may be the sisters that are pregnant or that the sisters that are having their babies with them maybe those people and I think that those people should one day be instead of me in my place better English better understanding of the culture, etc etc their knowledge is not a problem, just go to yours and learn Arabic and have access to the books. But it's the mind it's the intelligence is the sincerity and this is you can have and this is you should have and this is you will have inshallah

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Okay, what? What what why are we here? Okay, immediately, immediately, we are not here to attend a parenting course. I am not. I have nothing to do with parenting. If my wife was here, she will become crazy hearing this. I have nothing to do with parenting in the sense that I don't know much about counseling. I don't know much about if, if you're worried that your child might become addicted to drugs, etc. I can't help in that I'm a political historians I know much about CLR and history but not much about psychology. I'm not a cyclist, psychiatrist, etc, etc. I'm not even a cyclist if that was a 3014 slip.

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So why are we here? I said why we are not here just to dispel any misunderstanding. And the last thing I want us to be disappointed meaning that

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meaning that you come and say I want my money back, don't come to me go to Sam.

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I'm saying this because I gave the four page imaams and at the outset it says the approach the brochure and the poster that this is going to explore the the social dimension of the 40 months has nothing to do about this this this this and at the end of the second day I was exhausted I thought I did a tremendous job. I had this Senior Brother coming to me I said really brother, your talk was good but I'm really disappointed because I expected to get out of this course. All the soul in fact and masala masala and starsan etc. People It seems that they have been addicted to repetition. They want to hear what they have heard before, and they are not ready yet to. But hamdulillah with the

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four great imams with Bukhari

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With with the help of others, we try to explore a new virgin land, new new dimension in our heritage, the social the human dimension. And this brings me something to something that is close to my heart. And it's not crystallized in my head at the moment, but maybe we need after a couple of years, and maybe, then it will be more developed. But really, and I said it to some of my friends, but and some of them did not accept what I said, I said to them, look at how the Sierra is being written today pick any any book in Sierra, and the main headings, and I have no problem with that. I'm not criticizing that, but just question that question. Why? Why is it like this? And is there

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anything sacred about it? And should it continue to be like that, and by the way, you will find that relevance to the bombings and a sort of culture that is emerging? I hope it's not a cultural anything like this. But anyway, the manifestations of what's going on

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Sierra Nevada are so solid before birther, before he became a prophet, and then the makin period, and the you know, the, the torture of the Sahaba, etc. And then Medina, and then straight away, yes, a couple of yours, it's the Battle of better. And then another couple of years, it's the Battle of art. And then you see, do you see it in the Sierra?

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For someone like myself and someone who's mature enough like yourself, I'm sure you know, you will get the you know, the Sierra, etc, that also Selim left for 23 years, etc. But imagine a young boy or a young girl reading that what is the impression, the impression is that our saw salon was doing nothing other than fighting was entering a battle and getting out of it in preparation for another battle, and our entire culture in the talks, etc. It's about better

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funded with a big, fat Mecca, the impression that people get is that we are always in a continuous state of war. Now, I would like to say that this is not necessarily the Sierra of our asylum, but this is the military Sierra. In fact, in Arabic, it's called El Mirage coming from Hezbollah, so mikaze Yes, they story and say that McCarthy is the Sierra but mallozzi is the plural for his word, which means battle, which means which means a military campaign.

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What we tend to not focus about or to study enough is what happens in between better and offered, what happens in between better and between 100 and 100, but also Salim goes and settles in Medina, he interacts with his wife, he interacts with children, he talks to the companions in the mosque, he walks the market.

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He is doing what he is living a civilian life. This civilian life is omitted

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or studied enough

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in the books of Sierra. So what am I trying to do here? It's not a parenting course. But you can say it's a Syrah course, with two unique things.

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The camera in that narrative is focusing on the children. It's not focusing about a confrontation between Abu Jamal and also asylum is not focusing on Bilaal that is being wept in Mecca, and he's saying I hadn't I had no the camera is focusing on the children. Whenever there are children, the camera moves, and in fact, you will notice that with all the hobbyists that are in the course, the holders of the camera or children,

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so it is NSN Malik, who is a child who is actually following the actions of rasa Selim whenever he interacts with children documenting that interaction. Fascinating.

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So number one,

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it is Syrah where the camera is focusing on the children and the holders of the camera our children. Number two, a civilian context, a civil context, no swords, no weapons.

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Why, because also Salim is developing and when you develop, you will not be able to develop through a sword, guns or explosives to develop, you need to sit down in moments of peace

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and to educate and construct and instruct and reform and rectify. How can we know each other if we are fighting each other? What's your name? Brother, bomb kill? No, you can't do that. Ghana fu means we have to have a state of peace, sit in a coffee shop, walk together, etc, etc. Sure, Reuben wakaba and that means for the non Muslims. So it's not about parenting. It's about focusing on the children. And I hope that I am with the grace of Allah subhanaw taala. Setting a precedence in what

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Well, at least in providing this material and an audio form in English, I don't claim that I'm original in that these are from the books that are available in Arabic and perhaps in the future available in English. But I felt that today's generation, the listeners of Virgin, and CDs, and etc, etc, we need to go to them rather than grab their, well, unless you do a book like Harry Potter, that's something else. But unfortunately, we don't have fascinating writers yet. So we have to rely on the audio. So but the future is bright.

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The future is bright.

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And I'm sure that in the future things will be better than that. So providing it in an audio form. But number two, I'm trying to provoke you to think about other things that can be done in the future. Have you thought of the possibility of us or you or anyone doing a course on?

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How did I sell them go?

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How did I sell them live his teenage life? Have you thought about this? When he was 1213 1416 that he used to smoke when he was teenage? How was his relations with girls these kinds of Did you ask these questions?

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sexual desires, etc, etc. Okay, this is one one dimension, also selling the teenager?

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Have you thought about

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the social problems that were at the time of our asylum? Have you thought about addicts? Non drug addicts, alcoholics? Are you aware that they were alcoholics at the time Prophet Mohammed Salah? Are you aware that there was a companion that was lashed many, many times for drinking, he was alcoholic? Are you aware that there was a companion in the battlefield that was drinking but fighting fiercely. And the leader exempted him and did not punish him because he's in a state of a war and you cannot apply Islamic rules outside Islamic but he was alcoholic without going into the fit. I'm saying alcoholic, not drinking in parties and occasionally know, people that were edits and

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being lashed because they are drinking in public. They cannot control themselves other than to drink in public. Have you thought about husbands and wives companions? That is that divorced? Both of them are pious and everything but they were fighting each other as they have inherited that divorce Zainab binjai thought about this, have you thought about companions that were extremely poor and begging, and have no place to sleep other than in the mosque or in the streets and also sell them trying to encourage one of them to find a job?

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They were homeless at that time. Have you thought about these kinds of Have you thought of contemporary rising Islam, that's what I'm trying to say and contemporize the sort of problems you see, brothers and sisters, that is a duality. We tend to be unconsciously secular, because we have this duality between the modern and the pre modern, the modern and the classic, the ideal.

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And the Modern love for Leicester, Nottingham, bombings, these kinds of things. And in between this duality, there is a confused generation that is growing up getting married and growing beards and wearing hijab, but continuing to be confused, easy to recruit, an easy to burn to kill, basically have the ability to kill. Have you thought about these kinds of you thought about them getting married?

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How did he get engaged? How did he propose? How did he see the girl that he liked? Or not? What were his conditions for marrying this girl? And another that proposed to him? And he said no. Now in wife's with every wife that is a story? I'm not talking just about biographies of the mothers of the believers. No, no, I'm talking about men and women are so silent and the women and how they interacted with each other. How did that also sell him deal with his wife when she became pregnant? Have we ever thought about what did he do exactly inside the house? Did he do the hoovering? Did he clean the shoes? What did he do? For example, if he came home and did not find lunch ready? Did he

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clean the dishes? I'm asking I don't have immediate answers. Although I know that once he came enter the house and said any food they said no. And he said okay, I'm fasting.

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Okay, no fight nothing on fasting.

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I'm sure that if we think about Islam, in this kind of way, Islam will then become more relevant to people living not in a state of war. But in a state of peace, not in the battlefield. But in a civil society.

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You understand what I'm getting at? I am saying we have to make the Sierra extremely relevant

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To us, and because we are not living in a state of war, focusing on the battles alone is not appropriate, is lacking. It's not, it's insufficient. I'm not saying it's we should disregard that, because within battles, there were ethics and morals that we have to learn during peace and during war. But what I'm saying is that we will have a lot more to benefit of we focus on the gaps between the battles.

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This is one idea. But there are other ideas that are other aims and objectives.

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To introduce a new dimension to the Sierra, or the life of the Prophet Mohammed, Salah Salem, which I said and explained. Now,

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another aim is to introduce parents and potential parents,

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to a wide range of ways and methods that the prophet SAW Selim employed with children, to raise them properly, and deal with their challenges. I was hesitant of telling you this, but because we love each other, and we hope that we will get to know each other.

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I was hesitant, because I don't think it's appropriate to talk about yourself a lot. But if there was any experience that I might share with you, it's the following.

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One of the things that when I

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was about to get married, I went to the bookshops and bought all the books on marriage.

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All the books

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in Arabic.

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And sometimes in English, I read, john Gary's men are from Mars and women. And these kinds of, it's entertaining, I read them to understand I don't have sisters, so to understand women might put my future wife so I read the books. And the best way I tell you this as a teacher, the best way to learn is to teach. So when I was reading these books, I was offering myself to give the Juma what was in the mosques. So brothers and sisters today, inshallah, I'll talk to you about how Aristotle and dealt with his wife's. And I gave this hotel years ago in Cambridge and in good street, and people who are going to stone me, how did the resource help them deal with sexual desires, this is

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one of the sessions here.

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So books on marriage, then when my wife became pregnant, I began to read, but not not now. Now, I began to buy the books on children for my wife, rather than I did my bit in the marriage books, but but I continued to read the books on children. And I found this fascinating book, which is called a woman had never Wi Fi therapy, it's often the preferred take methodology in reading, and breathing and raising up children, very small book about 200 pages small like a five. And I want to tell you at the outset that this book fascinated me, and I read it once, and I talked about it to many people, I bought many copies.

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And I gave it to my wife to read. And I want to tell you that a lot of what will be said today is based on that book, but other books as well, internet sites, etc, etc. Why am I saying this, I am saying this to encourage you to read, if you are not married, read about marriage. I'm not saying that this will compensate the experience. She might not be the woman that you read about in the books, she might be more beautiful and more Mashallah. Better than that. But you have to read reading is good. So read about and if you are pregnant, read about children, not just through the GP, the physical and the health and breastfeeding etc, know that the development and the psychology

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and I ask Allah subhanaw taala to help us to take you through some of the things that are associated with children, I will focus on I will treat children as blocks their personality as blocks and also sell them was building the builder was building the blocks was building the emotional block, a spiritual block, a sexual block, the social block.

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And that's why I don't think that these children were confused. And in the final session, we will see those children when they grown up when they became adults, when they became fathers when they became grandfathers.

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Incidentally, I want to tell you something that is a defect or a weak point or a point of weakness in that course I must admit this as a as an academic, and in PhD thesis is they say to us in the five identify points of weakness, and I'm honest than that. Actually a point of weakness in the entire course is that there isn't too much focus on girls, female children that is but I will put this to the challenge to you as sisters and as brothers. We need to know about our Isha when she was young you know that I shall know Salaam died. She was only 18

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teenager, a smart, her sister, and Fatima and other AI focused on the boy's lack of resources, nothing to do with sexism or gender preferences, etc. With all respect to our female children, they are our mothers, sisters and wives.

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Number four, I think I wanted to throw it to you to think about things rather than me doing the talking to develop analytical skills, through the prophetic examples introduced and think about the challenges involved. I'm saying this because you might find the story in the in the car. But you have to ask yourself, what is the essence of that story? What changes in what what could be a constant and a variable? What could be a changeable number and a constant? Do I have to apply it like it is, or I take the essence and in the modern age, these are the sorts of questions that I put forward to you. And this is what I want you to develop throughout this course, this is your active

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and proactive role in the course.

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And my favorite thing, as well, as a historian, as someone who's fascinated with biographies, I want to

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least introduce you to those children, familiarize you with those children. And you know, by the way, a lot of them have sent her saying NSF and Malika Levin are morally you know most of them, but you know them as great companions.

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You don't know them when they were children, you don't know them. So I'm going to introduce this dimension and their life to you, to humanize them, and to make them more familiar and more beloved to you, so that you can relate to them. And when you deal with your child, you say oh, I leave now Vitaly, may Allah have mercy on you.

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You remind me of that child or that child reminds me of you on that event or in that incident. So these are the sorts of aims that I hope this course will tackle. How am I going to approach this topic? Well, actually, I thought, like Harry Potter again, to make it like an additive. Okay. What do you do in an additive in an additive at the outset, you introduce the audience, the reader, the listener to your characters. So who are our characters two characters. One is the prophet SAW Selim children around the Prophet, and the second is the children. So this introduction is going to introduce you to the prophet SAW Selim. But I'm not going here to provide you with a biography of

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the prophet SAW Selim, I am only going to provide you with things that I believe had an impact on children. So that when we come and talk about

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verbal or non verbal body language, you come and appreciate Hence, the talking about the eyes, the lips, and the touch, as will become clear in the following session. These are so I am holding the camera now I'm going to introduce ourselves lm to you,

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and I'm going to think about you as children. So what are the things that children will be fascinated with to know about the Prophet salla Salah

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Okay, let's be fair and begin with the name. The name is very long, but why don't you memorize it and think about memorize or think about memorizing two or three of his names.

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Mohammed even Abdullah Abdullah polyp in Hashem have been abdominus even Kasai, even Caleb even more have been kept even though I even heard it I've been

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imagined brothers and sisters, when you meet a resource lm in Sharla and Jenna and say Allah Salalah By the way, I know you by name, not just Mohammed, I know you

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till your grand grand grandfather, what sort of relationship will happen between you and and and him?

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He was born in 570 ac either. This is debated among historians, either in August or in March.

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And he was made Prophet and Messenger at the age of 40. I think all what you need to know as far as our context now is concerned is that he remained in Mecca for 13 years. So from the age of 40, as prophet till 53. And then he remained in Medina for 10 years, from 53 to 63. Why is this significant? So that when I mentioned to you an encounter between a child in Mecca, and also sell them, you know that our Salah was in his 40s and 50s. And then you can imagine, what would be the situation with a 10 years old boy is talking to someone who's 50

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or in Medina when he is 53 to 63. When someone like ns is speaking to us asylum you can imagine a 10 year

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Old now speaking to someone who's 60.

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So we spoke about the name, we spoke about the date of birth, and the significance of the age. Let's talk about his appearance. And again, his appearance are in a telemovie. I'm not going to give you an exhaustive list and tell me these translated into English. But I'm going to identify these things which are fascinating to children. What is fascinating to a child,

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the face. Have you ever come across a child that when he looks at a face, he cries, and when he looks at another face, he smiles he or she?

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Yes, perhaps, but of course, out of familiarity.

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But maybe the face has got something to do with it. Maybe

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when the face is comfortable to look at the baby smiles.

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So I just want to say to you in children terms, the face of our social lamb was I'm not gonna say handsome and good looking that this is for the adults perhaps. But for the children it was comfortable to look at. It was gentle to look at.

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What is the proof?

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The proof is the Hadith that is narrated by Alberto Asad

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where he was approached by another companion who never saw Salah, and he's asking that companion and saying, I can watch your Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam aflasafe?

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Look, this is an impression of someone I think, who shares our perception of our asylum or the companions. I bet that the perception that you have of Omar is someone who's grinning, and someone who's just waiting for him to fight to pick a fight. Maybe this is a perception of a gangster in Liverpool in East London, but this is not the perception of the companions. How do you how do you I asked you this question. How do you visualize that a sort of seller, someone who is a white beard and smiling Solomonic? Well, that wasn't the face of the Prophet. I'll tell you that.

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But I assure you that the face of the prophet SAW Selim was comfortable to look at based on that Hadith where a man comes to Alberta and says, I can watch Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam meatless safe was the face of it also Salim is asking that companion because he hasn't seen him. That man was the face of Prophet Muhammad SAW seldom like the sword sharp, wanting to cut things.

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He said, No, Ben can mithila Alabama? No, he was like the moon. Now imagine a child looks at the moon.

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Is it like looking at a sword? Or a bomb? Or an explosive? Or a gun? Or a tank?

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Or a kitchen knife even? No, of course not. So he was comfortable to look at.

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In fact, let me tell you brothers and sisters that the face with no expression with no verbal expression

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was so effective and so powerful that it converted people

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think about a Jewish rabbi In fact, he was a rabbi I believe in SAM.

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I believe in Santa said he said I looked at the face of Prophet Mohammed Salim

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Salim too, and what Joe was rusada while have to fee which he unknowingly said because that

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meant to be look, Rabbi, he says I looked at the face of Ross Allen.

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And I immediately as a wise person who have seen millions of faces.

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This is not a face of a gang member. This is not a face of a serial killer. This is not a face of a child abuser. And saying this because there will be lots of kissing children and lots of but what I want to say is that this is not the face of a serial killer of a murderer of someone who's hungry for blood.

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This is a face of a trustworthy person, someone who doesn't know even how to lie, even if you wanted to lie

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to me, and I believed in him and that was enough evidence for me to believe now. This is an alibi. Now imagine a child only smile. When you look at

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the hair of also Solomon I could talk about the hair in his chest and the beard etc. But again, I'm talking about facial expressions and the things that are appealing to the child. The child looks at the hair of Prophet perhaps sullen and sees a nice his clean hair. Black hair, even at the age of 16. Even at the age of 16. no gray hair like me. No gray hair like you except

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two

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gray hairs on

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And he knows why they became great.

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Not because out of stress for exams, or because he had a fight with his wife, or because he lost his job, or he couldn't pay his mortgage No. Because of who would want to share that was what tells him once yellow sola shipped he had a solar light, you became old. Yes, era mushiya veteran who didn't?

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There are verses in solitude for stuck in karma omit that made my hair gray.

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What Why am I saying this? Because he was to the children.

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Not extremely old.

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Not a grandfather, someone who's approachable. Someone that can play with us someone who can joke with us. Yet there is an element of respect a father figures, of course, a profit figure.

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But I'm trying to humanize now, I'm not trying to say that he's the messenger, he's the to a child, you cannot rush in that. He receives the revelation. He's the Prophet. This is when you grow up a little bit, but a child in his 678 910 years, how does he see the profit, this is what I'm interested in. Now, the eyes, the eyes, and you are mothers, and you are the fathers and you know the eyes and the eye contact. Now imagine if I tell you

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that when you when you wake up from your sleep, or when you sleep late, your eyes sometimes become red.

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Or so seldom, his eyes are extremely, there is a color contrast. The Black is black, blacker than black, to quote Malcolm X and whiter than white and that's it.

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No blood, no blood veins and white white eyes. So imagine this. Imagine this white eye

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and imagine it in a context of smile. And this is the the other thing. Brothers and sisters, if you have a perception or a saw Selim is always weeping and crying and shouting this perception is wrong. Because the Sahaba abahlali him says they say one of them Mara a to rasulillah salam ala Mata Seaman.

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I never saw Selim unless he was smiling, which means that this was the norm.

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The exception was when he is giving hotma for obvious reasons, when he is in a battle, for obvious reasons.

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And when he is receiving revelation, for obvious reasons, but other than that he's smiling. In fact, there is a fascinating Hadith where a child says, a child, Abdullah have inherited his name. He says, My ma Rasulullah sallallahu. In lower potassium, a few he also said he says, he said, whenever I tell them encounters me, he smiles. Brothers and sisters.

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Think about someone who's called Mohammed in Liverpool's comfortable face. Whenever he sees you, he smiles. He has wide eyes, he's skating he's loving, etc, etc. At the outset, you haven't dealt with him. He might be a bone marrow MD, but you haven't dealt with them

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once you fall in love with him.

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So imagine the child and trying now to dramatize the to make it go deep inside your head now, a child encountering all that now when that child grows up, and he talks to the tambourine and type in will he talk like me? No, you might find I am. I'm excited. I showed you that he was even more excited. You know why? Because NSF Malik who lived with Ross Allen 10 years, would you imagine that he lived for 103 years. And he says not a day passes since Allah saw Salaam died without me seeing him in the dream.

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And without me crying every day when I remember his face. So you think I'm fast? I am excited. I am excited. And I haven't seen the prophet SAW Selim. And you might be crying. And you haven't seen the prophet SAW Selim. What I'm trying now to tell you is that those so the prophet SAW Selim, and this is the kind of impact that the physical appearance of the prophet SAW Selim had on them now. Have you ever thought about that?

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Before then, before now, have you we looked at the physical appearance of also selling But what have we looked at that dimension? You see brothers, this table here, I'm always used to looking at this table from this angle. Now just shift your head a little bit and go and look at it from this angle. Look at it as a woman and look at it as a man and look at it as a teenager and look at it as a child. I assure you that you will get there

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different readings than the reading of a tirmidhi and Buhari and even caffeine. And this is I think your active engagement in reading the text.

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Now imagine this eyes, smiling eyes, and imagine the lips, the lips are quite wide. So when he speaks, you can't miss it. When you say

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you won't miss it.

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When he says ns, GM, you won't miss him.

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Even if you're deaf, you can see the lips

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and no smelling mouth, no yellow teeth, the teeth is clean. The miswak is in the pocket. And the teeth is not broken, or has Blake or is black, or is diseased, the gums are healthy. Again, you might say we are not dentists here. But again, believe me, brothers and sisters, this is exactly what a child will be looking at when someone speaks. And it does play a tremendous role on the child who might not understand the rationality behind each word. But we'll understand in which context and how is it being articulated.

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And then when he talks when he speaks, he speaks very clear. He doesn't cough while he's speaking. You don't have to say to him raise your voice or lower it. He speaks at your tone.

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And he tunes his voice in accordance to you. Not just voice wise, but even content wise, he looks at your age, he looks at your agenda. He looks at your educational background. And he reacts and acts and advises accordingly. And that's why you have lots of companions asking the same question but receiving various answers, according to the character of the personality. Even that advice were also seldom said bla bla bla bla bla bla, don't be angry, don't be angry, don't be angry. Do you think it just came out of the blue? No, he knew that companion. He saw him when he becomes angry. He knows that he has and picks lots of fights, probably with his wife with his children in the mosque. The

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context is appropriate to the person. But as readers, we just read it from the other side, we don't take the dimension of the questioner.

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He speaks very visibly and very clearly. So much so that I show the line he says that the listener will memorize what he says. So each listener actually turns into a tape recorder. Because he's speaking very slowly, not slowly to bore you or to turn you to sleep no slowly for you to absorb.

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And sometimes as NSF Malik says, He repeats what he says three times, not always, but three times. And I can imagine that maybe he repeats three times for children.

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Maybe because children needs repetition. We spoke about the physical.

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Just the physical. Now imagine with all this beauty. He touches you. He touches you on your hand by shaking your hand.

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This is not for the sisters. I'm sorry to say this maybe you can shake hands with eyeshadow on the line, but not without a sauce. And then he puts his hand on the cheek of the child or the head of the child. Now imagine, imagine he does this.

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I want you to imagine it more more strongly than that.

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Imagine it and Anna seven Malik the child who's holding the camera helps you to imagine he says

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I never touched something that was softer, even softer than silk other than the hand of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam

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while I'm assessed to husband when a hairy run was shaken, nothing nothing did I ever touched in my life

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that was softer and tender and smoother than the hand of a saucer.

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And you might say this is an exaggeration the following quotation.

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Well, a shaman to miss Can you go to all the good stores and go to all the perfumes for women and all the perfumes for men, fragrances etc. According to Ms and you might call it an exaggeration but he doesn't lie.

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He says I never smelled a fragrance. That was more beautiful. Then the swing

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over a saw salon. So I would not imagine that our salon would use a deodorant.

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The misc is coming from his

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We are talking about the prophet SAW seller. Okay, are you with me? are you imagining Are you visualizing? Good? Now these are the physical appearances.

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What about the behavior of

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imagine he smiles, he touches, he looks at you eye contact, he speaks to you, etc, etc. But with all that he's merciful.

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He doesn't reproach you. He doesn't shout at you. He doesn't beat you up. He doesn't say to his companions go and beat him up. He doesn't have bodyguards. You don't when you see him feel threatened. He doesn't have to be a policeman for you to feel that you are safe. When you see him you feel he is safe, even without a particular uniform. This is also Fossella. Now you as an adult, you will feel safe. What about children? What about children seeing that comfortable fact face, like the moon, behaving with them in mercy. There is brothers and sisters, that we come across it a lot. But just let me give a twist to the reading a new twist to it.

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When there are so seldom was asked by Ayesha, what was the most difficult time that you've encountered throughout your life? Wasn't the Battle of what? For obvious reasons. His teeth were broken and he fell into that hole and it was rumored that he was killed. It was a terrible day the Battle of often so to Ayesha, who has witnessed and who was by at that time the life of an associate. She don't have a perception of the maca period. She was still too young. He said no. Yeah, it wasn't in Medina, my terrible time my most terrible time it was in Mecca. When I went to UCLA, looking for an alternative place before I came to Medina. I was stunned by the people when

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they rejected me, so much so that my feet were bleeding. And historians say that, in fact, and you know this when someone bleeds, the slipper or the shoes or the socks sticks into the skin of their feet, and they say that the slippers were sticking into the feet of them and blood was flowing all over and Zaida inheritor was with him protecting and cleaning. And imagine if you were there, if someone now in the street slaps you, and the police comes and says, you know, did he physically abused? You say, Yes. Would you say at that time? No, he didn't. And when he comes to this person, you say, and he says, Why didn't you say to the police, you say to him, Well, I forgive you. Maybe

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one day you will become a Muslim.

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Or maybe one day your children might become Muslims? Well, I did exactly that. When moluccana chabane, when the angels came the angel of the mountains, and there were two big mountains, and also Selim was in between. And the angel was saying, I have an order from Allah subhanaw taala. And look, look at the connection. Now. It's a law. It's not with a police. It's not with a security. No, it's with Allah. Allah is sending angels now to go and see what does he want.

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And the angel sisters are seldom Shall I just crushed them. In between these two massive mountains. And the angel the angel is speaking with a fearful voice, angry voice for what he saw. And the human being elevates over the level of the angel in kindness and forgiveness only because he's the Prophet Muhammad, Al amin, and says no. You know, why? No, because of the children.

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Not because of them, because of the children. Have you ever thought about that? Have you ever fooled how children are very beloved, very valuable, very, very hopeful that you put hope on them that one thing they will change things that one day they will turn five into a Muslim city? Look at the vision brothers and sisters, it's not just about blood. It's not about ego. It's not about that they insulted me.

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It's about what do you want from this earth? What do you want from those human beings? Do you want to bomb them? Kill them? Or do you want to change them from within?

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This needs vision needs education needs tolerance needs mercy. This is not political talk I'm giving you here.

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This is genuine talk, based on the Sierra oversaw sallallahu wasallam. Have you ever came up? You know?

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He says the most beloved thing to me is to pray and to pray and to pray and to pray.

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But what has moved more beloved for him is not to see a child cry. That's why he shortens the player.

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thought about it like this, that he comes against his own emotions and feelings and joy for a greater joy. And that is to keep the child quiet. And to keep the mother not concerned about the child crying while she's playing

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Rasul sallallahu wasallam

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Again, deal dealt with children. And this is in relation to talking again, I'm referring to talking, I saw seldom

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dealt with children on their level,

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on their level.

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So when he is 10, today, they say a six years old is different than a three is different than 10 is different than 12. I assure you that are selling you that perfectly well. And I'll give you an example.

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before the Battle of better the Muslims wanted to know, the number of the mushriks. So they took a young boy who was the shepherd, and taking care of the food, they kidnapped him.

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And they wanted to know how many mushriks were in the battle. So they took someone from the army, but they took a child, they took a young boy. And they started telling him, how many are they? How many are they? And they are what hundreds, hundreds? Well, they were about 1000 something.

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So they are beating up the child to get him to tell them? How many are in the battle? How many mushriks? And the child is screaming and crying? Well, I don't know. I don't know. And I saw Salim saw them beating the child. So he stops the fight, or he stops the beating. And he says What do you want to know? So I want to know how many are in the battle? He said, Okay, I'll speak with him. I'll deal with him. And all sorts of questions he asked.

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If you if you if it was you, what would you say? I don't know. What would you say? Certainly it would not come to my mind. He says to him, how many camels are they?

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in the battle? How many camels?

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I'm imagining the Sahaba looking and saying you know we have we are thinking about mushriks not camels, but also Southern thing, how many camels are they? there?

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Immediately the boy without meeting

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he said

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between nine and 10.

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So I saw Sal and immediately said, there they are between 901,000.

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Each common is consumed by 100 people, and those are Arabs and they know that.

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So he got the answer, but through a different question that is appropriate to the mentality of the question. camels are easy to count because they are big. And they are easy to count because they are few. They are nine or 10 they are not 500

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and they are not ants. So they are camels. And they are a few. But the questions right? The beating is wrong. So when you ask your child Do you smoke or not ask the right question. Maybe he will answer and say yes I do.

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Okay, I spoke a lot about asylum. I spoke a lot about his physical appearance. What about his childhood? Well, we can do a course on that. But I'm just going to say a few lines and asylum was orphaned. But he had an extremely healthy childhood. Wherever he went, he was playing. He played Simple as that. He played with the children

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in Mecca

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also seldom had 10 uncles and six months.

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uncles like unharnessed that died before uncles, the Father, the brother of the Father, Abdullah he died before also Salim became a Rasul another uncle is an Ibis who became Muslim

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and he is the father of Abdullah bin Ibis,

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Abu polyp. And you know he is the one that took care of Salah Abu lahab. Unfortunately, severe, dangerous machinery can continue to be mature Hamza is an uncle, and he was Shaheed

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and Abdullah, of course, the father of

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the answear Sophia.

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She is the mother of a Zubair Abdullah one who is the father of Abdullah, this is a veritable alum. I don't want to bore you now. But these are great people, by the way, and all of them have books written about them.

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Or what is another

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minor is another arm. Why are you telling us this? I am telling you this, to notice that he had a big family and all of those aunts and uncles had children of the same age that we're playing with Russell fasula. So he had a healthy childhood. He was not an isolated orphan. He was not an orphan that knew no one. He came from a Hashemite family that had lots of

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Children. And you are aware, again that our asylum went outside Makkah. Why? Because citylife was corrupt. Mecca was the Arabic was corrupt. So they needed to speak proper Arabic They send their children. But another thing is that they can play in the open, not in a small park closed through, but in the open. And that's what our salon was doing. You remember when jabril came and dissected the heart of our asylum and took this black spot? In which context did he do that inside the household? So Sam was waiting. When is jabril coming? No. According to Al Bukhari and other mohabbatein at Yahoo Jabri or Hawaii, Alabama, Sudan. So even when he did such a, such a painful

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thing, you might think you did it in a context of playing

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in a context of joy.

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And of course, it was an enjoyable thing because you will become pure and pure. But the point is that it happened while he was playing with children. Do you know that also Sam went to Medina when he was a child, because his mother had his mother is originally from Medina and her relatives then in nightjar are from Medina. You remember when our SOS lm went to Medina with a camel and benina just said Yara Salalah come and stay with us, your mother etc. We are relatives. Do you remember all that?

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Because when he was young, he traveled with his mother wants to Medina once or even more, but what is more fascinating according to the Muslim Imam Muhammad, and Hadith narrated by Anna said Malik, this is what is fascinating. And not a salsa Sallam said the Hauer who was here. He was standing up while he been in a jar while I even asked the word live Mr. Serbian repeats itself by the way, I Tao jabril Oh Allah ma Samia benina Jr, Allah. He's always playing and also Salah. And imagine when someone is playing is he crying? No. He's laughing and giggling and probably hitting this child and exploring and and and this is your profit so subtle. That one day he will be bleeding and a five and

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one day saying, Oh Allah, it's for the offspring of those kofod that I'm worried about.

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Make the slink brothers, brothers and sisters. So this was this fascinating Hadith that is narrated by Ennis Malik. He says I'm not so Salaam Sabah. Hola. Hola. So he, he swam, he was swimming in the small swimming pool in the house of benina. JOHN,

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can you imagine the child but also Salim swimming.

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So when also Southern says teach your children to swim? He is an expert in swimming in a country or a continent or Mecca or Medina that had no see. Because when he was a child, he used to swim in a swimming pool. Brothers and sisters, have you ever thought about them like this? Ask yourself that.

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I identified now, one major character in our narrative, you remember our story. This is the beginning of that narrative. By the way, I don't want to lose you. Bear with me. The beginning of the narrative is that I identified the character of aerosol seldom spoke about the appearance behavioral character, swimming, lovely childhood. Now I want to bring the children on the stage for you to get to know them.

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Let me begin by someone that you will get to hear his name a lot. He is one of the tremendous holders of the camera that we are indebted to for this course. And that is ns Eben Malik of the line who has ns in a nutshell and as was the servant of the Prophet Mohammed Salim if inshallah you'll have a child in the future and as is a good name. And also Solomon, he used to joke with him he used to say, Oh, nice or nice. So I know, children that are called ns. And ns means happy means keeping company. It's a lovely name, and it's short.

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So ns. I'm introducing new now. Ns ns, by the way, died at the age of 103. But no, no, forget about that. Let's go to ns 10 years.

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And as is the servant of the prophet SAW Selim, and he continued to be with autosol Selim for 10 years inside the household. This is a fascinating thing. By the way. Neither Abdullah Norma as a child neither I live in Harlem as a child at a later stage. He left the household of autosource. Allah married Fatima, of course, for the olana but I'm talking about a child who was continuously in the house

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who saw the life of a seller who can answer a lot of the questions that we've been asking and as you

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can

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The dishes no it was me sometimes sometimes you would help us go and buy me something from the shop. And as I was instructed, so unless knew everything, and that's why you blame us when he cries every day when he remembers.

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You blame us when he thinks that nothing is softer than the house than the hand of an asylum or nothing seems beautiful in fragrance other than the sweat. That means that he smelled the sweat of Ursula sandlin

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because he lived with him inside this house hold

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when I saw Selim died, and I was 20 years old. So as you saw Sam when he was 10, bear in mind that ns was in Medina only. So whenever we speak about Mecca, there is no ns.

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So ns died at the age of 103.

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But when also celandine ns was only 20 in his 20s, very young, but he knew also Selim since he was 10.

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Another

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hero in our narrative to introduce the characters is Al Hassan. Even Ali, he had one year younger than him brother, who was called an Hussein

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and her son was born

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three years before Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam migrated to Medina. So that tells you that our even avatar married his mother,

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the mother of Hassan, I emailed him

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at such an age and Fatima and Ali were young, nothing, nothing is wrong. This is just to nothing is wrong with a sister marrying young and they become like friends more than husband and wife and grow, grow with each other and share the experience with each other. You remember when I was you know, having lollipops? Oh, yes. Do you remember Nan's having ice cream,

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they grow with each other. And the more shared experience there are, the stronger the bond. So imagine I didn't have your palate and Fatima growing up together and having a baby called and Hasson and soon after having another one called at the same,

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sadly,

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hasn't died when he was 46. So quite a young age.

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And AlHassan when he was born out of Los Alamos at that time, 56 I'm saying ages now, to make you appreciate whenever you see our son and playing with Amazon, it is someone who's at the age of two, being played with by someone at the age of 56 and 57 and 5859. And I will tell you things that this 58 was doing that you would not imagine someone at the age of 58 was doing Not to mention the profits arsenal. But just to show you how he dealt with babies or children

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and hasn't been to the olana he looked exactly like our sauce and in fact, above a casa de and everyone knew that.

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He says to ollie he looks like and I saw seldom he does not look like you and I even everytime is smiling. Pleasure, honor. Honor if my son looks like my father in law.

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Is it an honor today if your son looks like your father in law, or mother in law? I don't the daughter or the son? I don't know. But honor Why not?

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Is the father of my beloved wife

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and they say that Al Hussein his other brother, they say that he hasn't from his chest to the face looks like a solemn and ultra saint from the bottom to the feet, the shape of the feet and looks like a saucer. So it seems that it hasn't been shared. Each one took half of the the upper half and the lower the lower half. And it goes beyond doubt. And also Selim said it many times that Oh ALLAH and hasn't ever seen and has an end and her saying out of the most beloved to me. Imagine when a grandfather says this about the grand son or the grand daughter.

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Another companion is Abdullah having a bus.

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I believe that bus is quite famous and you all know him. But brothers and sisters do you know that he only encountered the prophet SAW Selim for two and a half years.

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This is because al Abbas his father became Muslim. And he only migrated to Medina when Mecca was conquered. So he migrated to Medina la bas that is quite old. The uncle of also selling that I mentioned his name, Abdullah nobis was his son. When he came to Medina, he was quite young. In fact, just to let you know that Abdullah nobis was born three years before also Salah migrated into Medina. So how old was the resource Allah

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tell him

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50

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If he was born three years before omega 50

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and if so Selim died at the age of 63. Then how old was Abdullah Omnibus winner so Salim died.

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I'm the one that does the one that you call a scholar. He was 13 Can you believe that?

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Not only that, but he wasn't like ns he only lived with rasa Salim for two and a half years because you only saw the Prophet when metka was conquered. And soon after that, also Salaam died. So in fact, he encountered the prophet SAW Selim, exactly if you wanted in months, 13 months only, but you know why we know him as a scholar. Because Allah made a special diet for him. Allahumma COVID-19 where I live with that we Oh Allah, educate him in the deen and teach him interpretation. That's why you have the Tafseer of Abdullah nobis imagine a 13 years old boy having his own tafsir

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Why? Because for these two and a half years that was sufficient for him to know the Quran inside out. Why? Because he was with the prophets of Allah Most of the time. praying with him riding the donkey with him joking with him. And that is anything tells you who was hanging around with if a servant was a child, and his best friend was Abdullah bus, what is

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what is the role model? What is earthman?

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Becker? Man, this is the classic camera. But our camera is telling us another reading that there were other companions, young companions.

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Teenagers, but they were not smokers. They were not chasing girls, but they were after autosource lm to learn the Quran and to educate it to you.

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I will end my

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final character, and you know him very well. Abdullah have an oma and you perhaps know him very well because of his father. Well, let me tell you something.

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Abnormal actually is quite old.

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He quite old in the sense that what also Sallam died, he was 20

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but older than what he was born three years before selling became profit. So do you want us to do that calculation again?

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If and also sell them if he was born three years after so selling became a messenger. So how old was our sanlam

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43.

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And he migrated he became a Muslim with his father. Because at that time when our daughter became a Muslim, he had already got

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his son. He's a bit old, ie he can understand Islam and he became a Muslim. He migrated to Medina when he was 10.

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And he remained 10 years without a salsa lamb. And when I saw Selim died, he was 20.

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And, again, 10 years were enough to make up the love Norma, the pious, desired, well known companion, not just because he was the son of oil hottub. But because he was at the lab no more, but because he was one of the children that were blessed to accompany Rasulullah sallallahu wasallam we've identified our characters like this, I think now we can begin our narrative colocado start from zero in our form.