Channel: Hatem al-Haj
© No part of this transcript may be copied or referenced or transmitted in any way whatsoever. Transcripts are auto-generated and thus will be be inaccurate. We are working on a system to allow volunteers to edit transcripts in a controlled system.
date affectionately to one of his most beloved,
was the time
because when I started when I
was about 20 years of age,
it is important that you understand that within this context that the province of Sutton was advising a teenager. With this advice,
he stepped out quietly.
After he grabbed his shoulder, he grabbed his phone holder, and that is the speaker establish that connection that
you know where it is
a personal device, and the process of making himself personable by touching the love and honor holding him from his shoulder, so that this would be more conducive to our
effective reception of the advice of the province of Southern because it's a loving and caring advice.
So he crafted for the soldier and he says that and
be in this life as though you were a stranger, for a wayfair for travel,
be in this life as though you are a
stranger for a traveler?
Like a stranger.
Simply notice that because actually we will come to know that it doesn't only mean like a stranger, there are two different degrees and two different paintings that the province of somebody mentions in this particular
chapter is different from a stranger. And we will come to know this the difference between the traveller Hamlet stranger
party's nominee himself used to say after this event, Seta fell out on
white belts after that fella said, Well, how to get involved the government have to get involved it
is safer when the night before you don't wait for the day. And when the day befalls you don't wait overnight.
In the morning,
and in the evening or at night. Don't wait for the walk
and make use of your health before your sickness. Woman hayati can take care of your life before your death.
over the explanation of
the two most important questions when you hear the advice of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam the two most important questions that should come to your mind that What?
What does it mean?
And how can I do?
What does it mean? How can I use
and you need to reflect on yourself. Because usually when we hear the advice as a practice or something we hear as though it applies to someone else.
Because that's very fun. When whenever you're hearing the advice of
not leaving Yeah, this is this is a prime time for a fun to work to distract you from the meanings and implications from reflecting from comprehension from understanding from taking it to heart, from clients from living by seven is basically the most important find to be at work you're in now the advice of the
So you're trying to counter all the tricks of the
trade to focus. And your focus should be on what it means and how do I lead by personally?
Not in order.
How do I lead by, and where am I falling short, from this advice of the prophet SAW the quality of Southern.
So thank you for
being this client as to you're
a stranger how to be a traveler. There is a difference between the stranger who arrived, you know, it's like you're traveling, you reach your destination, you reach your destination, you spend a few days there out to your destination. Keep in mind, you're a stranger in that town, you're still
eager to go back home. Right? We're all eager to go back home, there is always a home and your home, we're always eager to go back home.
And so the stranger in that town may
rent a room or a studio or apartment for a week or two or you know, stay in a hotel or, you know, if he said if he stays a little bit longer to rent, something small for
the nation during that time you wanted to be
the wayfarer aka the Sabine does not do that.
The wayfarer is a traveler who's already journey.
He's already he's traveling, he's on top of his mount.
Crossing the desert,
he is 11 did not even reach his destination.
So the prophets Allah, it gives him the two rankings in order,
you will be like a stranger. But if you can be a microwave dinner, that is even greater.
If you can be like a wayfarer, meaning your journey back to a loss of power
is on all the time you're moving, you're moving, you don't have time for any distractions, you don't have time for any, you know, accumulation here, there you are on the journey on the road traveling all the time, you don't, you know, take the time for rest here or there in any town, on the way to this to the final destination, to your final hold to when you're returning to analysis.
So that I leave the traveler, he may, you know, use some of the amenities, some of the comforts that are in this town, but he will never be audited, you will never be built in. He'll never be purchasing buying, he will never be conducting and gathering stuff in this town. He He will never be busy with the affairs of that town to consumed in the affairs of that town. He's just a traveler. He's just here for a short, short while and he's going back home. do you envision a person like this? keeping busy with the efforts and the gossips of the of that town and you know the problems of that absolutely not.
But the waiter and the actual parameter is even less distracted. Because he does not settle. He does not settle any place. He is on his way
to his final destination. So that is you know the two meanings that promises a lot. So I'm trying
to bring to our reflection here. This cubbies read and study the trap that a stranger can the traveler, if you can't be a traveler, at least to be a stranger, because there is nothing less than that. You know, for those who are blinded and those who were, you know this, were granted divine grace and divine guidance.
There is nothing less than being a stranger in this life. Because once you take this life as your final destination, your hometown, then you're destroyed. If you take this client as your final destination, and you're destroyed, then you will not be
aiming to reach your destination, your hometown at all You stay here.
So what does it mean? In bullet points? What How do people in these centers? What does it mean?
How are we
applying, and then we will talk about how we could get there to that station, that macom station, where you are actually a traveler your art as a traveler,
only your body,
mainly your heart, because this is a travel by heart, mostly. So, one is that you will have a goal, you will have an ultimate goal, you will have a focus.
Right? If you know that this is not my hometown, and I have to go back home, I have to go back home, this is not my hometown, it means that your life will have a purpose. It is important that you understand this for the this hobby is a treasure.
It's a treasure trove, it's full of treasures,
it is important that you understand it whereby and gives you this wholeness and holiness and wholeness, you know, gives you this wholeness, and wholeness and this togetherness, and this togetherness, not only togetherness of the body and the mind, and the heart, but it is togetherness with the source of wholeness and holiness. And what doesn't, which is our last Kanaka it's your Gemini.
It is your idea for the law, as well, because it's your togetherness with Allah subhana wa Tada. So this is actually a treasure trove. It's just like, you know, if you really understand what it means, you really love it. Not only this, but it will also be a source of therapy from our ailments and diseases, all of our ailments, our weaknesses, our human weaknesses, our defects, our shortcomings, particularly most of the part, this will be a treatment and therapy of all of this. And this will be a cure and healing for our fractured souls and spirits and seven parts, it will bring us this inner contentment and inner happiness and inner peace that we are looking for. It is also important that
when you understand that this committee understand that within the general outlook of Islam, which is constructive, positive, constructive, it is not a pacifist organize. This is not telling you just like walk away from life, walk away from your responsibilities, walk away from your family
status, stay at the mustard, and someone else will take care of your kids. That is not telling you this because that is not the general outlook of Islam on light, which is positive and constructive. This is an approach that is hobbies, this hobby is now
so what have you learned is that that tells you have a target, have a goal, have a purpose, have an objective, have to you know, have some mission for you. And this might be what you're here for me what this is about, you know, just sit down with yourself and reflect what is this life about? Shouldn't we do this with everything every endeavor in our lives? But that can never life itself? Shouldn't we sit down and figure out what it is about? You know that that whole thing? What is my mission? What's my purpose, what's my end goal for this life. So to have this focus target is extremely important. And the focus target will be eventually
And beyond agenda, Levine Arsenal personality for those who didn't Well, the the compensation will be and personnel and more. What is
most beautiful one?
That's the most beautiful, most beautiful candidate who was younger and more. What's more, The pleasure
is in connection with life is your
greatest price. You know, which is
to burn the river for the pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala and to see and live to be over Allah with your own eyes. While is pleased to view that is the that is the extra
that that you will get the virgin
But this is our hometown from which we were removed right?
You must have heard that several times. But it's so beautiful that we always repeated
to come along to the paradise either for a is your hometown it is your foreign tourists suppose first hometown was young and there is your campsite. Don't set up your camp here. This is not the place to set up your camp here. It is there your campsite is there
for in and out
for the the janitor or the guardians of Eden are your your hometown man as in California.
And there is the campsite. Well that can serve you and audibly but we are the captives of Vanity Fair hunter on how to enter Canada.
So do you think we will be ever able to go back to our hometown and be safe from the
And they always have always said that when the stranger goes far. And as his home town becomes so distant from him, he becomes eagerly impatient, eagerly impatient to go back. And we have come a long way. Right? We have gone far, and our hometown is so distant from us. So it is only expected that we become eagerly impatient or impatient, eager
to get back to our hometown.
What are you
what, what an anxiety that is worse?
Which anxiety is worse than our anxiety.
Toko Bettina and Latina,
in which the enemies rule over us in this exile that we live in, in which the enemies rule over us. So if so, this is the first lesson that you get from this hobby.
be concerned and occupied with don't back, because you are only a traveler in this linear distance is not your hometown. It is not your final abode. be
eager to get back to where you belong, where you
say same service when the last one I created. And he wasn't an agenda, and he was removed from it afterwards. So can we make it better?
The descendants of Adam Can we make it back to the to our hometown.
Now, having this target and having this focus is extremely important for everything afterwards. Second thing that you learned from this study that is extremely important
is that you should not waste time
to at least fine.
You know, if you're a traveler, if you're a wayfair
you want to go back to your destination and if your destination is night is nothing like this. This is nothing like
your final destination, the beauty of the done and the blessings and the bounties and the grace of God that we will that
all of us
get to experience in the time that you You're welcome. No that is not the enjoyments that we experienced here. Were anything like what you experience in general, should you waste time? Absolutely not.
A traveler should not really waste time. Travelers should only hero get off his mount to get the rest
of you know, basically sustenance or read, rest and trust.
And then to be able to get back on top of this now
to complete this journey, that's why I used to say,
make use of your health before your sickness.
Take and Make use of your advice before you invest, as if he is trying to paraphrase many of the Hadith of the Prophet SAW the loss of the advice, the advice of the Prophet
about, you know, the best use of fire capitalizing on time and making sure that this is your greatest asset and making the best use of it because it is your greatest asset, you're just you're just like a
like a combination of days and nights as a person possibly sell. So your best asset is your client most days and nights to process are seldom as accurate reported to have said a parent becomes a house. No, this is a famous hobby that we should reflect on and we should always remember in our times of usefulness
because the profit center kind of camps, which means hastened to make the best use cases to make the best use of five paints before the opposites before you patient make use the best use of 520 for the opposites before you What are those five things that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, South Africa
use before your old age, South Africa, your youth, before your old age, what's happened
to your health, or your well being before your sickness? While the NACA
and your wealth or solvency before your insolvency or your your you're
happy and wealthy before you become four? Are you well before your poverty, your time with wealth before your time of poverty? Wow.
your free time before you become occupied your free time before you become occupied, and your life before your this
and your life before this. So your usefulness.
If you have if you're if you have free time,
and you're useful and you have a little bit of money that is sufficient for you. We're talking about Nadella in terms of wealth, the extravagant wealth, we're talking about sufficient, you know what, you have enough sustenance to get by for a couple of corporate welfare and paraben free time. And you're alive for sure. If you're listening to this, and then you're alive, you're alive. And you have free time. And do you have enough sustenance? And do you have enough health to be able to do good things? You have four out of the five.
If you have one, you should make use of it but you have four or five that is in your hand. If you are younger, then you have oh five, then what do you do? wasting time? And how come you're not capitalizing on all of this, your youthful you have free time you have enough sustenance, you're not you're not you know
you're not suffering hunger pains that will keep you from thinking or reading or memorizing, doing good or visiting the sick or helping the needy or doing something good for your dinner. You're done yet.
And you have all of this so what are you what are we waiting for? So if if you're truly a stranger wayfarer, you're not going to be wasting time. And if you have all of those, you know
bounties from Greek races from above.
Why are you not moving forward? Why are you not making use of them.
So remember, this is very important, particularly for younger people. Because if you're young, you're right, you likely have all of them. You likely have all of the material because you will have some free time in your account. 100 allow some health in your life, every year, your life and most of you have enough sustenance to get by if not more
So you have the tools. Well, this is reported by eternal dilemma best of turning comes in a couple of times in South Africa. halloumi was Chanukah, COVID Amaro de la Vina a couple of fuckery of Arabica coffee shop and a couple of eltek. Make use of five things before the opposites before do your youthfulness before your old age, your health, before your sickness, your wealth, before your poverty, your free time before you become occupied, and your life before you die, which could happen anytime, you know, before you know.
So someone who's ugly,
will always be hastening will always be, you know,
making the best use of those assets, those great assets.
As we said, customer diversity, in fact, is the man who says there's a lot
that you have an atom in the vein of what
you'll do in the house, and we'll do can have
their own set of
So if all the sudden data, you'll be in a hurry, you are being herded by two mountains,
you get on one that will carry you to the next, which will carry you to the next company both gets you to your final destination, and after the hereafter What are those two moms, they are tight. So you need to always be thinking that day and night, every day a that gets you that
can get you through the night, like you are switching emails, you know, you were on this mount, and now we're switching, have that round would soon, you know, give you up to the next one. Next one. And every time you're being switched around,
you're getting closer to your final destination, you're getting closer to the end. So you think about it every time the moment it comes, you know, that is a day gone, never never come back. Every time you know the sun rises, that's the night that is gone, it will never come back. And you think about it this way that will bring the sense of rush Harry Harrison see to you to make it back to your hometown, and to not waste your time idling here in this
So today, our target is to have a focus and have this diligence. And this hairier urgency to get it back to your target are some things that we learned from this committee, some of what this means. Now we come to the third point that is important. You know, so you have a target. And you've heard at a target
is print your target. Because you want to get in there and you do not want to get paid. You want to get there on time you want to be and you want to be
removed from your your ago. Third thing that is extremely important for our traveler, is to avoid all the distractions because that journey is full of distractions. And it could also be because it's a testing try
to come up maximum embrace life and death testing. Who is better at these four who is the actual test. So this journey is not like a piece of cake. It is not like you're just gonna be walking around getting to it. It's not like free Cruise
is free of trials of tests or any, there will be a lot of distractions, there will be a lot of distractions or all
of the distractions that are around you is is basically this point itself.
That That should be your way that you should make. Make your way through it. That you should make your way through it. It becomes in and of itself. a distraction, a distraction. So that's why Life is beautiful.
If you can find your way through to your ultimate goal, but why is the
Your life is deserving of person all of the
negative reports about life that you hear
about the life of those people who can make their way through it.
Because otherwise their life is masataka fellow, it is basically where the plant the sowed the seeds that they will harvest in the year after. So that should not be cursed or should not be sprayed. It is the lighting that distracts you that is first and then the sprays.
And there is so much that you should worry about
keep in mind that one of the last things that we could get rid of, and we can drag our hearts off is the level of recognition,
the lack of recognition, think about this try to reflect
on you know, our conditions.
basically, someone who would really act like a chocolatier, or will feel inside like a traveler
will not mine in the business of others, he will not get into others people's businesses, he will mind only his business.
And he will be completely distracted from all of the noise, all of the ambient
noise around them, he will just, you know, he will have his target and he will not be even not getting distracted. But But all of this noise.
fame is one of those things that are very hard to recognition recognitions with people. It is basically whenever you impress up and you look good, or you buy a new car, and you want the people to look at your new car and buy a new house, and
that means that you're not acting like you should be you're not being a stranger, because that's the stranger really and the stranger in the town that he doesn't know people in it. And he he is he's here to run some errands to finish some some business and get back home quickly to his hometown does he actually tried to show off in this town and he tried
to gain popularity and fame in this town. No, he doesn't actually enjoy anything in this town. In fact, a stranger
when he would not even worry about his appearance and that he will just I have a business here to finish and I'll finish it and I'll get back home. When he goes back home. Then he puts on his best you know clothing and he buys purchases have big houses and you know how people from the Middle East like people from Egypt and people from a slightly poorer countries in the Middle East when they travel to someplace like you know the Gulf and the work for money in the make money and stuff, how they live such like
very tight lives as long as they are keep in mind that they could live 30 years in Saudi Arabia and all 30 years they live in very tightly because they're saving so that when they go back home, they enjoy their savings and they could die they're in Saudi Arabia before they get back home. Because they did not really figure out what is home. Home is not needed. Home is home.
you should you should look like this right. But you should know the right home. The right home is the gentleman. So when when someone walked into the house, very early on when he did not find anything in the house of
no metallic metallic is used use it for it is anything of value, anything of use any useful property is called hotel useful properties, noise properties. So he said then where is your stuff?
And he said
we have another house. So every time we have something new to lie, to lie. So every time we have like a property we send it there we that we direct it to that house send the day so the man says to him, but as long as you are in this house, you will need some
some furniture some metallic
but the owner of this property the owner of this house will not leave a sale. will not leave a sale and he will not he will not leave at your own accord.
You will be kicked out you're not leaving your chair on the court. So you would only have property in furniture if you were to lose to leave at your own accord because you will know you can calculate you know, I you know I know
I will live for 10 years then I will have stuff that is good for 10 years but you're not leaving material on our core we will actually be kicked out at any time that the owner of that property will decide
but, but to be you know, sometimes we say that but to be practical does not mean that you give up everything that does not mean that you give up all of your money, everything that you don't have a car and you don't have anything no it does not it is basically a basically means to be a minimalist meaning to be like to have that which will help you will get to your final destination and everybody knows what he needs to get to the final destination. But beware Don't deceive yourself because Allah knows you know, Allah sees a you know, insight inside your heart and like look into your heart Don't deceive yourself and say I need all of this to get there because you're not really using it to get
there even if you needed to get there you're getting it from harm and you're not using it the right way to get there. It has been a distraction for you
how much gear Do you need to have to get to go to the battlefield? Everybody knows how much they need to have some people for some people it works better for them to have a lot of gear you know to have a weapons have a lot of shields armor to go to the about the but do you know that the most potent most potent fighters are the lightest
you know one of the reasons why the Romans were quickly defeated by the Muslims you know in early in the early words because the Romans were moving in tons of gear you know and the Muslims were extremely light so the you know this P the at which they struck the Romans was just amazing because because because they were extremely light now a lot of armor not a lot of gear so they were not weighed down to they were extremely light and that is the most important fighter
think of it in this context in the context of how much do you need to have to get there you do need to have sustenance and provisions
which is important it's important for everything even for persistent knowledge in
the camp of Syria the
person was down
to seven auto Zilla my my brother You will not be able to get knowledge or knowledge or T knowledge except you know by you know through six means and he mentioned the cat intelligence, eagerness Tina's watch they have hefford
bullet points, provisions. You know some money because you will need to spend you know you need to dedicate time for this knowledge you need to buy books you need. So,
but are we treating life like the bulk of
the sustenance the necessary provisions? And if you are them that is good. Keep in mind that the answer
we're giving is a paradise. They weren't wealthy, but the use of that wealth they were capable they haven't really used it to get to their final destination if you use it to get to the final destination and the pursuit of it is not distracting you and extending of it is not you know earning you senses and you're here you're fine. But at the end of the day also keep in mind that the most potent fighters are the lightest.
And if you embark on this trip, try to be as light as you can to try and be a minimalist take from this life what is necessary for you to complete the journey
in the in the fastest and most proper way.
So, avoiding the distractions anxiety and a minimalist avoided distractions is by avoiding competition you're not competing with anyone because that can petition when when destroying your focus when you would completely
take you away from your objective and your focus and position is the worst thing, right or wrong, because we're always competing, competing with someone else. Men and women older and younger, there is always competition between us. But if you're really a stranger or wayfair, or your target is the gym, and you're the pleasure of a lot, you know beyond the agenda is your your greatest and your ultimate objective, then you're, you're not going to be competing. And once you're not competing, your art would be liberated from the worst form of captivity.
Once you're, you're not competing with people for this life, you're only competing for the pleasure and the pleasure of allies.
So, fame and celebrity popularity is one thing that we were always but what is the benefit of popularity? What is the benefit of
it? What is the benefit of
people buying this book, he mentions that a car came back to America after the battle,
he went back to home
at holiday gift and asking him about modems to me the death among the Muslims and the sound of an altercation mentioned and so on. So from IMS
as so on, so on, so on. So, from the most distinguished of the companions of the Prophet SAW Southern that were killed in the Battle of
and let us say,
we're very room Cassie
amigurumi. Keep in mind, remember this.
And many others, that mirror me, does not recognize
me or does not recognize
the markers of this
I almost certainly cried first. And he said, Well, my body
he said, so what he told them if they are not recognized,
gifting them with the Chicago market is Congress. So what? What benefit is to be recognized?
For what harm is there and not being recognized as their home? If you're being recognized?
So think about it in this in this journey? As a traveler, do you want to have the reputation of the people of this town?
As a stranger?
Are you competing for office for a political office in this town you're exchanging here in Milwaukee and never going to be able to get to, you know, political office in this town? Yeah. So it doesn't matter for you, you're here for a certain business, so you're not busy looking for recognition here? Can we really do this, that is one of the hardest things because you could give up a lot of things. And you could give up you know, you could be sad in the sense of not being so eager for money or this or that. But this is the hardest thing. That is why
operators that are saying that comes out the hearts of the good.
The righteous people is that love
the love of leadership, because it comes with recognition comes with praise and so on. And that is one of the hardest diseases to come apart. But those who really embrace this series has kalasa fee of life as a life a way of life. He embraces What is the meaning of this Cadiz you will really not be so thirsty and eager for or hungry for that recognition. As long as you're being recognized.
People's recognition will not matter to you whatsoever. That is why you will do the right thing at the right time.
That was the most This is
not the thing that will earn you the most recognition
That is number three of what this means.
You have a target your you don't waste time, he won't get distracted. And lastly,
this is not being it's not about being an alliance, it is not. abandonment
would be because you could sit down, you could
hear some people talk about zoned and all of these concepts as detrimental to civilization in the sense that it will basically keep you away from good works that well, they're essential for progress development, you know, the well being of humanity. This is not about this.
This or this is about complete commitment to your role in the society without wanting the recognition from the society but wanted it from Allah. So when you are committed like Sandman, Sam and the prophet SAW Selim, commended him for this statement in a barbaric Erykah
Badu bicyclic hopped over the webecanik, haka, Avi, Avi, Papa, papa, your your, your body has rights on you and your family has rights on you and your guests have rights on you and your Lord has rights on us give everyone their due rights.
That is what that is what you should do. So it is not like you, you're going to basically lay back and relax and
not honoring commitments and not work for your family and for the betterment not only of your family, but the betterment of your society and the betterment of your nation. You're doing all of this work, but seeking the reward from a lab for helado. And you're not seeking recognition from the people, you know, the people's recognition does not matter. Does that is that really destructive to any civilization? Or is that like a civilization?
Because it will be a civilization of virtue not only a civilization of material progress and material development, but it isn't a civilization of that, as well as virtue and morality.
That that is, that is how we think of this. It's, it's, it is positive, it's a positive force. For for civilization, it is certainly a positive force. For civilization, it means that you do work hard, but you see, rewarded for the losses, the movies, and keep in mind
that once you once you really embrace this,
you will really have a good life.
Because that's the only way he will have this interest. The only way you can enjoy your life is to have
this interest in life. That's the only way people could really really truly enjoy their life.
So, it may be said that intermediate
famous Cadiz, Macaca erato,
there is one one piece that I forgetting man Canada 2007 level
there are big three or four honestly, okay. So,
Allah subhanaw taala will keep him home will keep them together.
You know this.
In Poland together you know means
it means that your heart and mind and body and mind will be in one place.
That you will not that you will not have in turn and
that you will not have identity crisis. You will be together, you will be together. You're doing what you're doing the exterior and interior. Your exterior and interior are two parts of
your car is an agreement and in line with your mind. What you're doing is what you believe in.
And what you believe in is what you do. You're together everything that is peace,
that brings about an anxiety
See, that brings about this softness that brings about the stress comes from not being a mind, all of your faculties, your heart, your mind, you do things that you hate and you hate things that you do. And your interior and exterior are not the same when you say, you know you have one face with, with those people in a different place with the other people as well. So, that is
that, that that that is detrimental to your psyche, to your inner strength, stability, comfort and peace. But just
allowed keeping Poland together
and made what make his wealth and his heart or his strength in his heart here, it means that is his wealth, not in the sense of the currency.
But it means his chance to be in his heart, meaning he will have this internal happiness, inner happiness that cannot be removed and cannot be taken away by anyone who I thought would only ever hear of him and accompany him in complete submissiveness, the dunya would come to him and complete submissiveness. So if if you are a very, you will get to enjoy that, you know, that for Intel, you will get to enjoy everything in a foreign town. Because basically, if it is a sunny day, you will enjoy the sunny day. If it is a gloomy day, you don't mind so much. Because after all, I'm not gonna stay here.
You know, if there, if things are good in this town, you'll enjoy them. If things go bad in this town, you're not really concerned that much. Because I'm not saying here. The only way you can have no frustrations in this life is when you have no expectations. But as long as you do have expectations, you will continue to have frustrations.
And when we do not have expectations of this life won't be if you continue to
be in this life as though you were a stranger or
now after all of this. So these are the four points that are very important to reflect reflect on them in so many different ways. You know, because every one has his own way of reflecting on them. If you are going through a divorce, for instance, with your wife, for instance with your wife, God forbid,
because the court says about
slip ons works.
But people will go through like disagreements with their wives disagreement with their business partners and so on and so forth. They should reflect on the studies. How do you reflect on it? How How is living like a stranger? basically your focus, you're not gonna know anything in Australia distract you. Some people when they get
into a conflict, it possesses them for the rest of their lives they want to get even for the rest of their lives. You know after my cat you know they separate after divorce after anything after the breakup of the business. That for the rest of their life they're trying to get even
that will eat up your heart. That will cover your sanity you put the power, your your your inner peace, there is nothing that is more detrimental to your psyche than others to want to get even it is permissible to get even right. It is permissible to get even fairly.
But if you're getting even when they stopped you will delay you from reaching your targets. Who would want to get even if it will delay me from reaching my target, let alone if it will distract you from or
remove you far away from your party. If it will hinder you from reaching your target through the I don't care
if it will delay you the least from getting TTR party.
Don't get away
because I can't wait to be in the middle of any time with friends with business partners with clients.
With a family member with have detrimental consequences to your mental and emotional, psychological well being someone that is not in the right mindset, will not be able to excel in surfing the last time through, you know, worship and through serving the people and all of this, it was certainly devalued, you lose a lot.
If you don't, if you don't forget that conflict. And if you don't move forward, and completely remove it from your sight, because even if it is in your peripheral, you know, visual field, here, you're still having it in your peripheral visual field, you're still being reminded, annoyed by it, it will keep you back, and it will delay you completely. Forget it, move on any conflict, you lost money, that's fine, you can lose your life,
you're gonna die.
So that's fine. If, you know, if you couldn't get it back. If you could establish justice, without being derailed from your past. That is fine. Go ahead and try to seek justice. But if not, it will require for you from you the arraignment or delay, then forget about and keep go. Because he lost some money. If she took the kids, you know, make sure to check on the kids every once in a while and make sure to, you know, call them on the phone and make sure to do this. And to make time for your kids. And then, you know last time, but that's a cheater. That's fine. It's got move on, so that you don't get me to your destination.
Finally, how do we actually do this? Because all of what we talked about is what it is, but how do we do?
How do we get there? How do you just become like this?
Because all of this is reflecting on what that means?
Because we're not we have not talked about how do we do it? How do we be those people? Because we're not those people
looked at us
a little bit of introspection.
We're not those people at home. We're not those people at the workplace. We're not those people anywhere.
So how do we be those people? Because those people existed, by the way. We're not talking about theory, we're talking about people that walked on the surface of this earth and they existed, they implemented the theory
you know, with complete honesty and complete protection implemented the theory. So, the amount
he was asked this
model was a
pillar of the lab, Katana Stein
how do we seek help Pon de Pon having Pissarro
which literally will be shown
which would mean having no wishful thinking or having no
thought of longevity in our future, you know, recognizing that temporary
in the short term, this could be doing this.
So, if you remember,
because this is
this is the key to this, how you get there
in our How to give us the key
Remember I said
I do not know.
But then he said hidden number whatever.
It is a divine grace.
It is a divine grace.
Meaning what that says that is that that is the perfect answer.
Because getting there being those people is not that much you know.
And it is not it is not about any math. It's not about any calculus. It's not about you know, so you do this. step one, step two you get there, make a right make a left
We're here to be there no
need to define race.
Which means what practically for us?
It means that you need to surrender and humility and submissiveness.
In every word, you know, every single meaning of the word development, you know, humility, submissiveness, and you asked him for that divine grace because no one else could give it to you.
That is what it means.
you even knock the door, and keep on knocking, until it opens
the door for us to
stand by the gate, wait for it.
As long as you're standing, it will open for you.
Once you move away, once you get back to the door, you're done. But keep facing facing the door and knocking until it opens. There is no there is nothing else.
But some, a few practical steps that will help you stay by the door. Because ultimately it is a door that will be open to you at one point, if Allah sees that you're deserving.
But to be able to, to get to where Allah sees that you are deserving, he will need to have
That is why the remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala, the remembrance of, you know, the hereafter the remembrance of that that's the factor the reflection and all of this is of extreme importance. That is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said about Victor, that it is better than spending, you know, gold and silver, and rather than fasting and praying, spending gold and silver in confronting your enemy and smoking cataracts, and they might get your next
because of the lack of remembrance of Allah subhanaw taala will keep you from being lost and being
becoming forgetful and needless can will keep you standing by the door, as long as you remain happy remembrance and your heart and you keep on knocking the door, and you stand by it and you keep on faces. You wait for it to open, you're fine, you turn your back to it, you're gone. So you wait there and you have this frequent decline, you have to factor the fact we're over all of the phenomena around us, you know, the alteration of day of life in the face of personalities.
firmly in the creation of the heavens and the earth with the alteration of the late day and night are Signs for people to understand. So the operation of the light
reflecting the sun, take it for granted. Don't take it, you know, like it's
just a natural phenomena. It is a natural phenomenon
created, and this natural phenomena by creative is bringing you closer to your finish line to your finish line. So that reflection is
important, suddenly a lot more.
So reflection not only on this, but reflection on everything around you reflection on this. That's why the prophets are sometimes said like Pharaoh vichara has given the set frequency remember the interrupter about enjoyments that is that effective reflection salaryman happy to see reflection on the air for lots of reasons. We were just in the car coming here. We looked at the lifespans of different trees. Do you know that the lifespan of a pine tree for certain pine tree
is 5000 years old.
a pine tree that some trees have a lifespan of 50 and 75 to 300 years. But some of the you know, red cedar. They have a lifespan of 3000 years and there is a particular pine tree that is 5000 years old.
It was there before
and it's still alive.
Though that tree have seen generations and generations of human beings. Many of the trees that you see around you will outlive you and after that
Your sons and daughters and children and grandchildren, the trees the terminology is an opportunity for us to reflect on this
fasten the seat of America,
so about a
year and he was worried in the palm trees and the palm trees left on me after him and he died.
if there isn't, any time after the event, I only have five more minutes.
reflection is the work of the art of the work of the women for the body.
Like practical steps that we can do
to be equal of those facts and
the things that we can do, in addition to the things that are common things that everybody knows such as
the ability to vote except for, you know, visiting the graves and watching the
you know, the Bonanza and, and all of this which is which is certainly important and helpful.
And they should take primacy over other things because the base is the practice of the law should always take privacy but also of the advice of the
worker was and he said that no one should sleep except my
No one should go to sleep except to having his will say this will Britain and companies to sell
not necessarily underneath your pillow. But if you haven't somewhere visible, you know somewhere visible. Where you see going back and forth you see that your will say is here, that will be helpful.
Also, if you're by your own,
Catherine, that you will be sharp and keep it somewhere visible in your closet. Every time you're trying to put on your nice suit. You will see it next to your nice suits.
That is good. That is how you think it is more. No it's not more some of you may say it is more no it's not more, here's to be a reminder, keep in mind, you will do this and you will stay enjoy you know the good things of life.
illness, but you will always be reminded frequently be reminded that it will not it will not be out of your visual theme. You will see it as in your drawer. So every time you open your drawer you see your caffeine is in your closet. So every time you dress up you see and in addition to the other things that I just mentioned, which are which are of prime importance, visiting the graves, Washington the attending
and so on, finally brought to the company of good people that will remind you of Allah subhanaw taala at all times.
If you don't find the Moran's you find it you'll find them in books, you will read the
prophet SAW Mr. Harbor, you will live with them. And you will
remember them fondly at all times as if you were in the company. Because the more you know about them, the more you have this feeling that it becomes a very 3d feeling of their presence. They feel like it will be like that generation the most the greatest is around you surrounded by knowing more and more and more and more of this era. We must enter some some nervousness. And as Sahaba you will feel like you're surrounded by them and then you will be impatiently eager for me
want to make an affair afterwards if you
have burdensome emotional dependence is burdensome on him to make
two times when he does actually make a profit
one time, he came back from stem for like a quick visit to
the customer site to make a plan. And he made I
was in tears when he
reached the part of the show.
And the second time is
when we went to Jerusalem and Hamas
asked villain, we're, you know, pleaded to the left, because he was very adamant not to do it, but the second time
to make the effort must have allowed
So, he lived
she kept on weeping and so on.
I will get
to meet the hard ones.
So is basically to be surrounded.
And you can do with through learning more and more about the Sierra, you can have this like 3d feeling of the presence surrounding you. And then they will be your friends and company. If that which does not never think of the people around you as beneath you, because that is arrogant. But if you don't find the stature that we're talking about, in the people that are around you, you won't find them in this era.
be in the company of the good people here. But don't be contented with the good people that are here now and make sure that you are surrounded by the company of the greatest people recording other stuff.