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Fiqh of Worship #42 – Ending the Book of Funerals

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Nothing good or

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bad.

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So, inshallah we will

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we will discuss burial and graves.

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This is the session we are going over kuttabul Jana is the book on funerals by

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Amanda padana and his book Ananda, which is on that had not been Kodama died in 620, after hedger and this is a Hanbury manual and we're providing some comparative

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flavor to it. So, the in today inshallah we will talk about burial and graves, we will talk about consoling the family or extending extending condolences to the family of the deceased, we will talk about visiting the graves and we will talk about good deeds and giving giving away good deeds or actually doing good deeds on behalf of the disease disease and then given the reward away to the deceased, it is very dense, so we will need to go a little bit faster than usual. And we will not take any questions

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in order for us to finish this and hopefully we'll be able to finish this today. Because next week we're off for you know, because many people many of you are going to the economic to the economic conference. And

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when we come back in April, we want to start right away the book of fasting ketosis so that we can finish it in April before the end of April inshallah.

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Okay, so, burial and graves when, when I talk about Marian graves, I'll talk about the type of grave I will talk about caskets, I'll talk about writing I will talk about covering the grave raising the graves and massaged nothing Master Master mustard on top of the grave, when we when we talk about consoling the family we will talk about eulogy and

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gathering for to consult the family providing food and the 40th anniversary and the first or the sort of the the aza or

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the gathering for the 40th thing and the gathering for the first anniversary. And we will talk about visiting the, the graves for men and for women and we will talk about good deeds being done on behalf of the deceased. And unfortunately, I will need to

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erase all of this. So you need to remember what we will talk about as if I forget you need to remind

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and the reason why we need to erase it because our need to be drawing. And you will see my skills and drawing now, which are just horrible.

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So if you haven't put American

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burial, he said we have to definitely make a TV then why

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11 months back I'm afraid the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wasallam it is preferable to bury the dead in Alaska

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and build a partition of unbaked bricks sealing the recess in the left as was done for the Messenger of Allah sallallahu.

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So, he said that it is preferable to bury the deceased in a lab preferable means that there is another type of grave that is also permissible but this one is preferable. So what is Allah

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okay. So, here is a cross section in a grave. And you could say that this is six foot like you know the usual graves here, because you will have like one person standing here inside the grave. Now, so we made this

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rectangular

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shape, this is a cross section the rectangle is the cross section.

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And then someone would be standing here

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like someone will be standing here to receive

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this is as as good as as good as it gets.

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Someone will be standing here to receive

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the may yet and left in this case if we say that the parabola, parabola is this way, parabola is this way because Tesla is this way right? If there's a factor this way. So if we say that the tablet is this way, after we made this groove here, or made this copper here, we will

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do a little bit more digging.

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The year to create a recess

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or a niche.

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And

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this is a cross section. So if we try this

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now I'm just not

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going to be

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okay. So, this is an issue here that we made into

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the wall that is facing the Qibla this recess or nice we made into we dug into the wall that is facing the table that is not so he will now receive the disease lay the deceased on the right side

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is the parabola here so the chest should be facing Okay, so that's the pebble right? So, I would sleep like this the chest is facing the pebble just the space in vocable do I need that okay

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just as facing the tabular. So, where would the head be in this case the head should be here right

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because asleep on our right side and that Shasta should be facing vocabulary.

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So the head should be here

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and you will have to imagine now you know, but this would be the law.

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Now I suck. Okay. So he said we have a different made Villa and it is preferable to bury the dead in Allah. Why did he say this because the prophets or southern Bukhari reported from Angola best that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said Allah Lana was shot poliovirus Allah, Allah Donna la this for us was sharp, the arena and a sharp is for others, Allah had if we want to have one word translation for Lucknow, we will not but we could say recess grave a grave with a recess with a nice suck is the usual grave

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that has like a sort of a groove or a pit in the middle of the grave. If we have a cross section

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in a shop, so, this will be an here as a person that will be receiving the disease. So sharp is basically instead of making a nice here in the wall of the grave, you will

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make a groove here

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and put the disease in this same way. You know, right lying on the right side facing the cabinet. Same way, lying on the right side facing the fibula.

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And then

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when savaii 11 Nussbaum, California like Rasulullah saw sanlam and build a petition of unbaked Leben is unbaked clay bricks unfired clay clay bricks

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as was done for the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam so you then if it is a lie, and the sahaabah questioned whether they should use left door suck for the Prophet sallallahu Sallam which means that Chuck was also used, but since the prophet SAW Selim said Allah, Allah, Masha, Allah does for us, we prefer Allah and in the Hanbury malherbe shop is this like, except for a need and the need is, let us say the nature of the land is such that laughter is not practical. Luck is not practical, the land is soft, or wet. The law is not practical. Most of the time, we have issues here with law, and we use sharp and you follow also local laws and regulations and stuff like that. So

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you're using, we're using sup here most of the time. Isn't that true? Yeah.

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Which is this? So even according to the math method, it is just macro but still permissible and Carranza or will be removed

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If there is a need and then

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after the the system was laid on the right side, some sort of something would be put underneath the head and we said that inside we will undo the ties of the caffeine or the shirt the shrouds we will undo the ties and we will

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have some input underneath the head like this which is like a brick or something not a pillow a break

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and or like a pile of dust.

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And then we went have sort of clay bricks

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to cover

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before

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cover with clay bricks cover with clay bricks, that they're they're big bricks, they're like this and he just covered it will be tilted a little bit because this is the niche inside the

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the wall facing the pebble of the grave. So the the bricks will be standing you know to cover this niche and then

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you know dust will be filled then that will be filled in

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Initially, the Nevada reporters from our IRA the practices are questionable report but it is the position of the method that it is most the hub

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to throw three handfuls has a SLS has had three handful folds of dust before you fill in with dust. Before you just hailed the dust onto the deceased. You take three handfuls with your hand as if no matter report from the

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era that the prophet SAW Selim dead and you throw them and then you have the dust

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on to the disease in the grave. But before you're doing any of this you're covering this recess with the bay the clay bricks in a shop that this is as the year here is the head of the deceased. And if you say that

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Okay,

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here you will have the bricks

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lay like this on top.

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Now, the thing is we're not doing the stuff here right? We're just the putting the deceased in a casket.

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He will then say immeasurable, Kodama will then say

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what I owe to funeral Cobra at Jordan while our husband what I say and

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what I owe the federal Cobra as your run while I've done what I say and Miss Setsuna he should not allow into the grave and this is all this like

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we will should not in this book means what this like, must not means prohibited. Must means obligatory should means preferable. Okay, so he should not allow into the grave baked clay wood or anything that has been touched by fire

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out of the fall like a good omen that nothing inside the grave will have been touched by fire and the deceased will not be

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this system cannot be touched by fire either. So

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really,

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okay, change this.

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Yeah,

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change it. Change the text.

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It's good that you alert me.

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He must not allow into the grave. No, he should not.

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He should not allow him to the grave baked clay wood or anything that has been touched by fire.

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So, he said, baked clay you know, baked clay or fired clay, bricks, wood, and the caskets are made out of wood. Now they made the no plastic but anyway, plastic is also touched by fire. So it would be this light except for any caskets are disliked except for a need. And the need would be the nature of the land is such that

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the casket would be pretty

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required or if it is required by local regulations or local laws, this certainly takes precedence over the nature of the land, this is a requirement that we cannot basically violate if it is the local laws

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Keep in mind, all of this is Kara it is not prohibition, when we come to the prohibitions, we will we will talk about the prohibitions with all of this is cut off now,

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to lay the deceased on the right side according to the formulas I have is an obligation not

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bad, it is must that sort of the system must be laid on the right side facing the Qibla must be laid on the right side facing a parabola. So, we try to do this as much as possible even by tilting that they seem a little bit inside the casket

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you try as much as you can to put something underneath them. So, they are tilted somewhat facing the Qibla with their face because the process or sometimes it could lead to come here and whether it is your Tabler

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while you're alive and after you die

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Okay.

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Now,

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now, we will fill in the grave with dust.

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And then we will raise the grave by one hand span the span of

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one hand stretched from the end of the little finger to the end of the thumb. This is ship ship is this hour 23 centimeters 23 centimeters would be about 10 inches

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10 inches 23 centimeters This is shipped you raise the grave this much. It is this like to raise the grave more than this. It is disliked to raise the grave more than this. Why is it this like to raise the grave more than this? Because the prophets Allah Salah might even be thought of Muslim reports from or even I'd be thought it he said to one of his disciples Allah, Allah, Allah. Allah, Allah. Allah Allah Allah subhanho wa Taala Cabrera Mustafa al as a waiter, who should I not commission you instruct your commission you to do what the prophet commissioned me. He said his disciple, he said, he has he said that you leave not a an erect statue except that you obliterated and you leave not a

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grave that is raised except that you love it. But it used to be the heart of their habit to raise it by one hand span by one ship. And that was that also in the grave of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam to be raised by one ship, to indicate to basically point the grave out so that people don't walk on the grave.

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Therefore, one hand, the span of one shape is Santa's more than this would be this like, more than this would be this like, and to build on the grave would be disliked as well. Keep in mind this like this, like, the reason why it is important for us to understand the difference between what the scholars called dislike, even if there is a

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disagreement within the mazahub. But at least when you understand that then some of them have that have one thing is this like, not prohibited. And you see someone do it. You can't condemn them with force. You can't condemn them. You can't condemn them, he can advise them, because they could tell you things that are disliked that that that this like and that Kara could be overruled by a benefit. So you cannot be too assertive,

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to vicious, in your condemnation, you can only say the way of the Prophet and the Sahaba and it is certainly the best way and it is the most beautiful way. And look at what we have done to the graves look at

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where I come from, you know the grave is like apartments. And so so disfiguring and so ugly. Like you know, look at the graves here is simple, straightforward. You know, there's not a sore in the eye at all. You go back to Muslim countries, Muslim countries where where we're raising the graves was prohibited by the prophet sallallahu

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Scholars call this like, because the prohibition is to basically point out what is better for them, not necessarily to make haram

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raising the graves of more than one ship.

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But in the Muslim countries, they build on the graves and everybody tries to outdo their neighbor and, like build a nicer grave and it becomes so just like Mr.

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You need to be I'm not saying that you should not be assertive in spreading the sun. I'm saying that you should not be vicious. Understand that someone can tell you it is only macro he does not harm. So don't be too forceful or vicious because then if you're always too forceful and vicious, then people will not listen to you. Even when you tell them about something that is really harmful. That is haram by agreement. They'll still basically not listen to you turn you like turn you off. That's because this guy is always just like to excite

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so you'll have to just come down assertiveness is different from viciousness, so don't be vicious to be assertive. Tell them you know, Jaco This is really not the right way of doing it. And in addition to it being in conflict with what the messenger advise it is also ugly it is also not particularly conducive. It's not it's not environmental it is this cetera, et cetera. Okay, so the graves should be raised only why the ones

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above the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in a hadith reported by Muslim from jabber jabber said Nana Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam and you just sell kabru will endure cada Li will endure banally the Messenger of Allah Azza wa sallam forbade that the forbid coating the grave with plaster that is touch cease coating the grave with plaster. You don't paint the grave is leave it than a natural, the natural dust and a little bit of hutzpah which are pebbles that you put on top of the grave to keep the dust down and stuff but you don't coat it you don't paint it. And then we don't ornamented either or anything of that nature. So and you just said cover the profits of Southern forbade the

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coating the graves were on your part IE to sit on them and certainly in another Hadith stepping and stepping is worse than setting. But this is also dislike this like

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when you open it and to build on top of it. All of these are this like when is it only Haram in the meth lab is to build a mosque on top of it will become Haram in the mouth. And even at heart even harder and hate me.

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Keep in mind that this is not, you know, an extremist ideology or anything like this. I'm naturally Tommy,

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who's Shafi and not Hanbury also cap counted, building the massage on the graves to be one of the enormities one of the Kabbalah and he said the must be swiftly raised the massage that were built on top of the graves, because that is

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like a means to evil, which is over glorify the Willer this particular person in the grave. And then people started to make the offer on the grave and people started to pray by the grave and people start to pray to the grave and all of that stuff that happens usually when you have graves inside the massage or massage on top of the grapes. So this like would be to ornament to code this step, this step to build on top of the grave and to raise them more than one step above the level of the land. haram would be to build the masjid on top of the grave clear. Okay.

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You will always find another master nearby that doesn't

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you know there are many but you'll always find the grave nearby the

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the province of Saddam was not buried inside the mosque. The prophets was

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But buried in Asia, but then the mask had to be expanded and go around the hotel at Isaiah.

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The Prophet was never buried inside the mosque, the prophet was buried at home in his own house in hotellet eyes, the coordinators of eyes and then the massive has to be expanded around and go around and that is why it is partitioned.

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Yes. So then

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writing, writing is the only thing that is left when it comes to the area and grapes, can we write on the graves?

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You remember the hobbies that we reported from Muslim from jabber, Professor Sallam said, No and you just need some capital and your product are they here and you open it the profit forbade coating the graves painting the graves sitting on them and in building on top of them and in there in an aeration by mizzi from jabber in a different narration from

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jabber as well. By somizi the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said well and yoke to Bali, and that and he forbade writing on them as well writing down the graves as well. That is why the hand Batteries Plus the Maliki's plus the shaft is the old say that right and is this like in all cases right and is this like in all cases, the HANA fees and Suki Rahim Allah of the Sapphire is

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said that writing is permissible for and need just for a need. You don't write like a short bio, you write the name of the deceased for identification. And you know even if we take the hanafy position, which is the right for identification of the of the grave, you could say that this is the rational position because the Prophet sallallahu Sallam very dogmatic must own and then he took a stone and he put it at the head of the grave and he said at the Alamo, Bihar Cabrera he will add fino era him and madam and

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this was reported by Abu Dawood authentically that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam after he buried

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his own took that stone and put it at the head of the grave. And he said, Hi Mark with it, the grave of my brother, and I bury next to him, whoever dies of my family, I buried next to him, whoever dies of my family. So I want to point out one identify the grave. In the time of the exam, this would have been possible just by simply putting a stone like a particular stone or looking a certain way at the head of the grave. But nowadays, it's pretty difficult. Therefore writing the name for identification is should be okay. should be okay. And that's the position of your mobile hanifa that writing for a need is permissible in our times, in our times is a deposition of Mr. hanifa It makes

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even more sense because identification otherwise would be quite impossible.

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Okay, then.

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In a moment, Pena said waves tabula rasa to an inmate consoling their relatives now, we have Buddha to identify, consoling the relatives of the deceased as recommended is recommended. Because the Prophet sallallahu wasallam said, Ma'am, meaning you as the hobo see button in like I said, who longs have Hannah whom inherited kuramathi Omar pm. There no believer extends condolences to his brother concerning an affliction that befell him except that Allah will dress him in a suit of honor, on the Day of Judgment allow a dress him in a suit of honor, why would honor him on the Day of Judgment That's the meaning allow it honor him on the Day of Judgment for this act of kindness to

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console or extend condolences to the relatives of the deceased. Now, they agreed on this. They agreed on this that you should

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that that it is preferred It is recommended.

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It was a great reward and consoling the disease. However, most of them said that

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most of them said that it is this like to have a gathering for that it is this like to have a gathering for the so that hang berries plus the Maliki's plus the chef is said no gathering no in the sense of this like no gathering some of them went as far as saying it is haram to have a gathering whether at home or any designated place.

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The majority set up is this like some set of this there is a very entry report in bambury madhhab and the Hanafi madhhab.

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And you know, a variance report and the Maliki must have the sub gathering for up to three days is okay to have a gathering in some place for up to three days is okay. Whether it is the home of the family or a designated place gathering is okay. Where did

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these scholars you know come up with a position of no gathering they said that when you meet them when you encounter them at the market or the master extend your condolences to the however there should not be a gathering for this purpose. Where did they come up with this position from DC portabella mathematics from Abdullah bitterly for the 1100 rule he said cannot do this tomorrow it will may it he was oneota Baba definitely Melania we used to consider gathering had the place of the family or you know,

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with with the family of the deceased and making food after the burial has part of Nia Han which is wailing, wailing or you know screaming screaming or wailing. So that is the statement of Abdullah Al bitterly. This Hadith was reported by the mama man and it is controversial in authenticity most of the scholars authenticated that some found that controversial in authenticity

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the hardware fees in particular they have the we could use a hadith that is reported by Bukhari and Muslim to support the the Hanafi position bahaya Muslim reported that when one person from the family of Arusha died the women would gather for a short time and leave except for her friends and family members they would stay around and when she would tell them to make they'll be in a cheese boiled apparently you know because it's good for and God relate to them that the prophets are seldom said it's good for the pressure. It's comfort food has to have the fan gets turned into tryptamine serotonin in the brain. serotonin is that neurotransmitter that actually

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Yes, this is true.

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All the depression medications are

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not all the depression medications but the most common prevalent depression medications are serotonin agonists. You know, so you want to increase the levels of serotonin neurotransmitter in your brain to feel a little happier. So we have the barley does that you know, in a natural way, so you boil the barley and you may or may not add honey to it and eat so it's comfort food not just because it's comfort food not because it feels good, tastes good, but also it does help improve your your your happy neurotransmitters.

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Okay, so this how to use we can use the support from a hanafy position

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that they actually did gather at IHS plays, the women gather to extend condolences Yes, the left afterwards but close family, close friends and family members stayed around. So it seems particularly in our times that the hanafy position when when this time as well. So it became because in our times it seems that it is pretty difficult to just bump into them you know.

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So, some arrangements will need to be made in order for you to extend condolences. Otherwise you can imagine the likelihood of just running into you know the family of the distance.

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in Medina, in the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam, where everybody went to the masjid five times a day is the same method, you would expect that people would run into people all the time.

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But nowadays, it's a little bit different.

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Okay, then

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he never would have put down on him. Allah said what buka macro him is lm yakushima, who not born Wallonia. And for the for the honeyberries here, there is a variant position in the metal have that support that is consistent with the Hanafi position. So you will have not departed from the method.

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So, we have Buddha what Buddha Dharma crew is not an yeppoon man who not been Wallonia, crying over him is not disliked as long as it is not associated with net, which I translated as eulogizing or Nia which I translate this cream and we're waiting for something like this right.

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So, okay, so not is not eulogizing and I did explain this in the commentary that the simply to mention that the good character character of the deceased are the good deeds of the deceased is not not, not is when you say you were Jamila Bella Habiba.

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Oh my word so there

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is usually usually lies. So, oh my lion, oh, my protector or my verse, oh my god, that's the form of net. So it is it's to say something aloud and in the in the form of calling upon the deceased. But the mentioned sort of the simple mentioning of the good deeds or good character of the deceased afterwards is a good thing that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam did it. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam forbade us from mentioning bad things about the disease, because he said as a Buhari report from izotope Hello Ana, that is simply a matter

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of Isla

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amin

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or either method demo. So that doesn't work. So do not insult or curse or the the dead because they have already faced the consequences of their actions. You have already faced them. So why do you need to

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insult to them or curse them and he said that the supermoto photos are here, don't curse the deceased because you would hurt the living

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there survivors. So we curse a Buddha in front of our Grandma, grandma gets, you know, saddened by this. And he's now a believer. But that does not mean that you will not basically talk about our journey more just thought you don't do this in front of a camera.

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But when when you need to talk about someone regardless of the presence or absence of family members, if they were known to cause just to spread corruption and to be evil and spread innovations and corruptions and so on. Then you warned of their conflicts. He warned of their conduct. The Sahaba did want to lay out I am one day they testified on behalf and when they they testified against someone and the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said whatever but whatever it has become do it has become do they sit there and what do you what do you mean whether the segment of NATO mala hiring was a bad omen efnet tamale Sharon Raja Anton Shahada life, anthem shadow life larb, anthem shadow

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life

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whomever you praised or whoever you

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hire and whenever whoever you praised Jenga will become his due destiny. And whoever it is praise the nod would become his dude, destiny. You are allowed witnesses on earth? You're allowed witnesses on earth? You're allowed witnesses on earth? does this apply to the Sahaba? only does this apply to the Sahaba and pious people who are like the Sahaba as well? does this apply to the generality of the Muslim in three different positions the scholars had, and many scholars that it applies in the generality of them to me, because it has like two purposes through good purposes. One to understand that the testimony of people on your behalf or against you, is consequential so that in your life

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you hacked you know you act kindly towards people so that you get people to testify on your behalf after you die

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to is to encourage people

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To say good things about the deceased so that you know that their testimony helps them with loss pinata. So it has two good purposes to good practical purposes one for the, for the person himself who will die before he dies, he tries to act kindly towards all people so that he can get testimonies on his behalf.

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And the other one is for the people after his or her death, to say good things so that they don't hurt the deceased

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so eulogizing.

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In this sense, eulogizing is the scream or to say things aloud or to say things that are untrue or to say things are exaggerated, but to say good things about the deceased, that are real, is not the forbidden eulogy.

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Additionally, you should not say bad things unless you're talking about tyrants, who spread corruption and so on, to warn the people of their behavior Not in front of their family members, because no one could be worse than that, and your Muslims Archons consider it is part of our nature.

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We should be at least

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so we should be considered we should be sensitive we should be considering and all of that good stuff. So even it Can you imagine like Abu Jad who's like here, but be considered this is his son, don't say bad things about the man in front of his side. Yes, he was a Buddha, you will use the Academy of the Prophet was that but I once again, this is his son to be considered.

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there even consider it sometimes they don't recite or

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be in Mecca. Often because there are there's the family of Abu lahab sentence of a Buddha they still trace their lineage so pull up You don't have to be that consider it but

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but but once again, you like if you know that someone is from the family level, everybody knows what happened. You know, we're not going to tell you about that. So but you don't necessarily need to just like keep on poking them was

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anyone.

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Then email Nicodemus

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we're done with us eulogizing, Ania, wailing, eulogizing, gathering, all of that is done, then email them, I said, What about the Iraq War nonrigid

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visiting the graves for men.

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Okay, he said, visiting the graves, there is no harm in men visiting the graves. So every word is, you know, they measure them with sort of the gold scales

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measure the words very precisely. Why is he saying this? Because in the Hanbury madhhab women are discouraged. Because it is like not prohibited it is disliked for women to visit the graves in the Hanbury method, who else said that is disliked for women to visit the graves

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and why did they say this?

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So I'm bellies plus

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okay. So ham bellies plus

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variant position in the Hanafi madhhab plus

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service

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hero that is a weak position the must have anyway

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variant position in the madikwe madhhab plus the shaft is women are this like it is this like for women to visit

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like

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for women to visit the graves.

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My handwriting is just like is like my drawing right.

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Thank you. So well there is a variant position in the Hanbury Mazda and that is the position of the HANA fees and the position of the medic is when it comes to old women

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they say it's permissible

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Where did this all come from? Okay, came from

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three different hobbies put them together and you get all of the conclusions from the one hobbies are mafia said no he nouns yada yada in mafia. This was important about a Muslim woman who said we were forbidden from visiting the graves. But it was not emphasized for us like it was not stressed. That prohibition was not stressed. She's trying to say we were told to

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This dislike macro because the lack of emphasis. So, demand of abstention with emphasis is means haraam. A demand of abstention without emphasis means cara, dislike, a demand of action with emphasis means will do obligation and demand of action without emphasis means is that their preference so she said Lina and yada, yada yada Marlena, we were

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forbidden from visiting the grave was not stressed. That's what I said. That's one thing. The other hobbies is where the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said lon Allah who's erotica book, when we talk about the Allah,

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may Allah curse the freak zawada is not the era, the word will have to be translated as frequent visitors of women who frequently visit the graves, women who frequently visit the graves. And if you truly if you live in a Muslim country, particularly I don't know if these things are there anymore or not. People are people that don't even care about anybody anymore. But when they used to care, they used to be excessive and they're caring. So every week they're going to visit their graves, every Yamaha they're going to visit and it becomes like when they lose it, it becomes just like an impediment is it becomes crippling it becomes like it just stains their entire life from that time

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onwards.

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And it is unhealthy. And it is not visiting for at the bar and it is just like you know, reflect and so on It is visiting because they can just move on.

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And they can give up there there's just grief.

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Anyway, so the prophets of Salaam Salaam laws were reported by Timothy

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then we have another Hadith that is reported by Muslim that this is not about women in particular, happy for Muslim Muslim from bowrider container Hitman's era Gabor fissara Come on out I used to for video from visiting the graves now visit them because they remind you of this, remind you of this. Now, if you say that the prohibitions for women were all before this hobbies, last last hobbies I used to prefer for video for visiting degraves now visit them because they remind you of this, then you will say all of the prohibitions for women were also prohibitions because men and women were both prohibited.

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And then this had these abrogated the earlier prohibitions now visit them and they say the visor visited the grave of of the Rockman her her brother and this was reported by Hackman and be happy authentically. So, it means that he understood that the earlier prohibition was removed abrogated by the latter permission from the Prophet sallallahu Sallam

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and this would be the position of this group of scholars.

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Smaller a capital H small capital M for the old because they said they on could be fitness, the molecules permissible

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but the the Chava is and Han berries and small m the Sabbath is disliked because this prohibition for women was particularly for women. This Hadith is general Hadees that I used for video now it is okay. This is a general one but the Hadith about women are specifically using the female pronouns and the female, you know,

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sort of addressing females So, no, this hubby's the permission that not abrogate the prohibitions the prohibition still standing for women. So if it is prohibited, why did he say disliked and he did not say it is haram because they will tell you because the mafia said we were forbidden but it was not stressed. So that is why we're saying it is dislike but it is not

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even according to them that that the camera can be removed for an overriding need for an overriding need. So there is no sort of

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radical prohibition. There is no emphasize prohibition here. It is a light prohibition meaning carozza

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and it's controversial. Some of the scholars said it is permissible. The one thing that we must agree on is frequently visiting the graves would would be prohibited. In fact, the prophet said the word curse

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So it is emphasized prohibition to frequently visit the graves. But some of the scholars also said that this frequent visitation was mentioned in combination

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you know, along with one more

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storage, those who will take lanterns to the graves, it's almost a camping at the grave site. So they're they're going at night they're taking the so they're camping there. They're just like taking their lanterns for light. And they may take food as well to use what to use to take food as well

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to eat and to give to people as charity, which is the slight in the Meza to give at the cemetery.

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Okay, that is clear, right?

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One thing that we did not mention when we were talking about consoling the family is that we will make food for them,

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but not their visitors because it's like this like to make food for their visitors because their visitors should be sensitive, and not spend too much time to actually need to eat and we'll put them on line seven, unless there is a need, like some visitors are coming from far away, and so on, then you feed them. So when you make food for them, you make food for them, but you should not be feeding their visitors because it would be makrooh because their visitors who are already transgressing by spending too much time where they actually need to be fed.

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But,

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but it is certainly McGrew for them to make food for their visitors make room for them to make food for their visitors.

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It's not only for apartments now with the added offer in

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Serato This is reported by Tara mizzi

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from Abdullah Jennifer

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prophet SAW Selim said make food prepare food for the family of Jaffa Jaffa Delano died he said prepare food for the family of

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Darfur, because they have enough to keep them busy or to keep them distraught.

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So make food for them. So that community should be making food for the family of the deceased for three days.

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To to basically shows to support them.

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Unfortunately, now in most of the Muslim countries, the family of the deceased would have to be making food for everybody.

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And sometimes you're making food for 1000s of people. You know,

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I can imagine that like when my father dies and I'm alive in the women in the household despite the despite the presence of helpers, you know, hired help.

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They almost they didn't they almost fainted not out of grief only but out of exhaustion. This is just like exhausting. You will have 1000s of people particularly in the countryside if this was not in the country 1000s of people who come and then the expectation that there will be food served for 1000s of people can you imagine like you You really want to get your emotions together and you want to console the family and you want comfort to them. And now the family has to be

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preparing food for 1000s of people.

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Let's have a shot well beta has just like the you know the consequences the evil consequences of innovation and not sticking to the sun.

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Okay, now he said when it comes to visiting the graves we're back to visiting the graves and we talked about men and women and when they visit the graves the one should say when passing by them or visiting them. Peace be upon you whether the oven avoided believing folk, Salam Alaikum Salam aleikum. In fact, in the method Assalamu alaikum is preferred Salam aleikum wa Taala me when I inshallah become Lahore, peace be upon you whether is of an abode of believing folk inshallah we will, we shall follow you happen to hear reports of a Muslim, the rest alone melatonin drama that have been about them been fiddling around.

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A lot do not deprive us of the reward or misguide us through trials after them and forgive us and then we ask Allah for safety for us and for you. We ask Allah for safety for us and for you.

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And certainly visiting the graves should be emphasized nowadays because people

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Men and women are so detached from this, it is sick, how detached We are from this

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it is like

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detrimental devastating to one's spiritual condition, you know the the amount of detachment we have from this and distance we keep from this, then I believe that this thing the graves for men and women should be advised and should be stressed nowadays, just to remember, you know, definitely remember the final abode.

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Why are you Corbett in Florida rajyotsava had it made and Muslim nafa who is Alec,

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then this is under the title of good deeds done on behalf of the deceased any good deeds, he the living person does, while intending the reward for the deceased will benefit him will benefit him. Okay.

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Any good deeds, any good deeds as the Hanbury position

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to anything anything for the deceased? Of course, according to the Humphrey position, now, what did they agree on?

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What did they agree or all of them by consensus agreed on charity and

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charity and which is supplication?

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Therefore, should we stress these to charity under? Absolutely, because all of the scholars agreed that these were reached, to give charity on behalf of the disease, and to make the art further This is the these will be good things that you could do for the deceased after this charity via any form charity. And that agreement. Now, after agreeing on this, what they did agree, what did they agree that it will not preach the disease, they all agree that will not reach the disease, obligatory prayers, obligatory prayers, no makeup, not, it's not going to make up for what the deceased have missed. And even if you do an obligatory prayer your own and give the Sahaba the deceased that still

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would not change

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because that's your own obligatory pray. So obligatory prayers is out of this obligatory prayers.

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And that is according to the form of that. That is according to the for the forum agreed on this reaching charity and supplication. The forum agreed on obligatory prayers not reaching. What about Sunnah prayers? What about fasting? What about the recitation of the Quran? What about all of those issues? That is where the disagree, non obligatory prayers, fasting

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resolution of the poor and these are bad, but anyway, these are better to do with your body, not with your money. That is where the disagreement is. Who said that they would reach the ham bellies, sadly would reach and we start to buy the ham bellies because there's the ham belly class ham belly book, but certainly, you know, the Hanafi school first and then the marquees and sapphires and hummingbirds. And then capital H for the HANA fees small m for the Maliki's small s for the shafa is and anytime his choice, Rahim Allah, all of those said that everything would reach everything arranged. And even if I am arguing on behalf of this position, he said, if we know that hard to

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reach, how does a combination of everything Malia and Bethany, you know worship by the body and worship by charity, charitable giving. So these said presentation of the Quran will reach seomra reads even non obligatory prayers will reach if you give the thumbs up to the deceased. So it is the very end of the Hanafi position and spray sprinkles from the Chinese Americans as well or

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you know, weaker positions in the Shafi American Muslims who said will not reach the mannequins and chaperones keep in mind that the shafa is

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emblematic is of disagreement also, then there's the chef I said, you make the you could do whatever you want to do. And then you supplicate you invoke Allah to give the deceased reward is similar to the one that you got, and hopefully it will be accepted. So they're not really against the concept itself of doing something good. But there is

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But given away that you're worried that this might happen, you just invoke Allah to give them a reward equal to that, which he gave you for this particular action. So doing the action will make you closer to Allah

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intercessory means and then you make your door after you do a good action, give them a reward equal to that past what has happened is I say, it's not just a matter of transfer of reward, like the hamburgers and Hana fees are saying transfer every word. Okay, so they said that

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Okay, so these are the contestants.

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Is that clear?

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Everybody said charity and that would reach everybody said obligatory prayers are not reached, and then they disagreed over the rest of the good deeds. hafeez and honeyberries said the rich Maliki's and Shafi said they will not reach, but they have their own ways of saying what how you could do

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anybody by anybody

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and we are okay three minutes over time. So, we will stop here inshallah if

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40 days and anniversary no basis for that whatsoever when it comes to the gathering, as a fan for reminding me of the for the for these for this day and for the anniversary, no basis for gathering on the for these day or the anniversary, whatever, keep doing good things for the deceased forever. But there is no basis for sort of ruminating grief every once in a while just like bring it back, bring it back and to bring everybody so that we could ruminate the grief. There is no basis for this and the parameters and our the actions of the Prophet and the companions.

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salada

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five minutes for people to leave and then we will take questions