What to look for in HimHer

You're looking to find the person who's on

the inside,

not on the outside only. Yes. You want

beauty. There's nothing wrong for you to getting

beauty. Rasulullah salallahu alaihi wa sallam told us

that. That most people, like, don't look for

1 of 4 things. Okay? So they're gonna

look for beauty. It doesn't mean that you

find the religion and you don't find the

beauty. It doesn't mean

that. Look for at least beauty that is

nice to you. Fine? But religion must be

something which you give priority to. Don't miss

out on that. And I'm gonna tell you

why. A lot of people suffer later on

because of these wrong choices.

Have a beautiful person but have religion with

it. Have a person with wealth but have

their religion with it. What's the point of

you having wealth if you don't not have

religion? Honestly, what are you gonna do? You're

gonna destroy yourself. I was telling a businessman

the other day. A businessman the other day,

I said, listen, bro. I said, you're trying

to make the millions fine. Alhamdulillah. May Allah

bless you. Rahmulillah bless you with the millions.

But if you don't have taqwa, if you

don't have God consciousness, then that money will

rule you. That money will take you to

ways that, you know, you to areas that

you never wanted to go in your life,

but the money will take you. Why? Because

you got no fear of Allah inside you.

You got no consciousness of Allah inside you.

You do not want a man in your

life who's got money, who doesn't have Allah

in his heart. Honestly, I'm telling you, it

will it will lead you to a lot

of problems. You do not want a woman

with money because some guys honestly, I know

one guy here. He actually is up from

north. Yeah. He's not getting married. I said,

why are you not getting married, bro? He

goes, because I'm waiting for the rich sister.

Like, guy doesn't wanna work. You know what

I'm saying? Like, he wants to hang around

and sit down. Honestly, for years, every time

I ask him, he doesn't wanna get mad

at wife because he's looking for a rich

sister.

Rich sister who's gonna basically you know, people

think that money solves everything. Money does not

solve everything. Anyway, if Allah's blessed you with

wealth, Alhamdulillah, may Allah bless you more. There's

nothing wrong in having wealth, but you better

have the deen. Okay? If you don't have

the deen, if you don't have religion, you're

gonna take yourself to destruction. Now, the third

thing Rasool Allah said, he said, lineage. People

look for lineage like this family, noble family,

this family. Yes. It's all good. Have a

good family. Have a good background, but don't

sacrifice the 4th one, the most important one,

which is religion. And when we get to

religion, what is religion? Is religion when you

pray pray 5 times a day? No. It's

not.

Religion doesn't stop there. Religion doesn't stop at

the hijab.

Religion is inside.

It's a state of the heart.

Okay? When you have religion inside you, you're

religious in every single setting.

It's not just, you know, when when other

people see me that I'm religious. No. It's

not just for, you know, just a few

salahs. Oh, yeah. I'll tick the boxes. No.

It's not that. You're religious from the inside.

You're religious wherever you are, wherever you go,

and you gotta you gotta ask those questions

to understand. So what kind of questions you're

gonna ask? You know the question you wanna

ask when you when you're seeing a prospect,

you wanna ask the question which master do

you go to?

What's what's the master you frequently go to?

Which

sheikh do you do you listen to online?

And now you're getting to something because now

if they say I listen to this sheikh,

that sheikh, that sheikh, it gives you an

idea of the person mentality.

Then you say to the person, okay. What

are the favorite quotes you've heard from the

shayuk?

Right? Now we're getting into proper fights. You

know what I'm saying? Like, before marriage. Like,

not after marriage, bro. You know what I'm

saying? Before marriage, ask these questions. What are

the favorite quotes of a sheikh? Now, if

she says my favorite sheikh my favorite sheikh

is so and so, and he said, you

know, when a husband comes home, he cleans

all the dishes for me, and does everything

in the house, and he looks after thing,

he's my favorite

guy.

My favorite quote. Yeah? You listen to that

bro. Yeah?

Alright.

Basically, you're gonna be if you love that,

bro, if you love that, go for it.

Honestly, there's some men who like this. Honestly,

there's one talk I gave. I think it

was in the middle and somewhere and the

brother, you know, put his hand up. He

said, I happily do all the chores of

the heart.

Good. Alhamdulillah. Barakallahuwik. May Allah bless you. But

there are men who don't wanna do that.

And there are women who want that done.

Now you better start talking about this. In

front of the. As I said, in front

of that father father figure, in front of

that, you know, the brother is the older

brother of hers who's there to prevent the

loose talk. You wanna ask these questions because

there are different sets there are different mindsets

that we have. You better get to know

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