Key Points Of Upbringing – Funny
Channel: Hasan Ali
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You know, when you have a little kid, either you got your own little kid, you've had your little kid, you've got a nephew, you've got a nice someone. And you seen the little kid. Now little kids, they have tantrums. Now what tantrums are
tantrums? Are they called tantrums? You know, tantrums. Like imagine a little kid wants a lollipop.
So a kid will come to you and say, Lolly,
lollipop. Now, they want they're going to create the one that lollipop.
If you just give him that lollipop, they've got a lollipop they'll sucky they'll be happy. They'll you know, so fine. But then after a while, after a day or so, lollipop, lollipop, mmamoloko. Sweetie, sweetie lollipop, Sweetie, sweetie lollipop. Now the thing is, if you just give it you've given it they've got what they want. They know every time he said lollipop
now one day what happens is you realize you realize that the kiddie that you love and so sweet and you just stick a lollipop in his in his golf to shut him up and do whatever you want. You realize that there's some darkness on the teeth.
And now you know that the Tata is going to continue to grow inside the mouth, and it's going to cause them pain. So you know what's going to happen? So you decide not to give the lollipop the next time they're asked. So they say mama lollipop. They put the lollipop not good for you.
But they're no good.
No, now you can imagine it's gonna be if you've just been given on a day in, day out day in, day out day in day out one day you say no lollipop.
And they'll cry. They'll beat their hands on the ground, they'll kick the legs. Your two year olds do they just they just fall down?
Have you seen you two rolls do that? Yes. My two year old used to do that as hell yeah. Sometimes used to go there and like a gold rush to save the head from hitting the floor. Or they just fall back. Because they know if they do these tantrums, the more they do it, the more likely you are to give them because they know there's a love in the heart.
So they put one up by let's say for example, a Papa didn't give it. They go to mama.
They go to Amazon. They go to big sister. They go to daddy John. They go to grandmother. They'll go to nanny they go whoever they've got around to get the lollipop and most of you got if you're living with grandpa and grandma you ain't got no discipline in the house. You know I'm saying
you ain't got no diesel in the house. Some of you smiling Yeah. Or can you do that grandpa Grandma's gonna go a few more years left so they think yeah, not one lollipop stick to one go you know? Yeah. The sizzle sizzle in your mouth. The thing is, imagine you hadn't given it an after a long time you stopped them is the tantrum today after so many days you said you're not gonna give it is the tantrum going to be a tantrum that is a small tantrum or a big tantrum.
You know, after some day, suddenly you said, I'm not gonna give you a lollipop is a tantrum gonna be big tantrum or the small one?
A big one. A big one. And if you carry on depriving it, alright, let's imagine let's imagine I said okay, I'm not gonna give it now. The tantrum went on for 10 minutes. 10 minutes, and the kids crying crying. In the end, he said, Forget this, man. I can't take this. You know, get a lollipop here. Put that open your mouth. Ah.
Now you've done bigger damage.
You have just, you've just done bigger damage. What's that? You have now taught the kid 10 minutes of a tantrum. And then you can get lollipop. The next time the kid asked for a lollipop. And 10 minutes go by. Do you think that kid's gonna stop at a 10 minute tantrum? Or do you think that kid's gonna think if I just can get the tantrum to go a bit longer? I'll get my lollipop. What do you think is going to do?
Go a bit longer. Yes. Yeah. Having lollipops Do you have a joking
happens he knows if he goes a little bit more he will get it. So this time, 12 minutes, 30 minutes, 14 minutes and if he doesn't get it like that he will show his upset he'll show he's not happy he should I don't want this. I don't want to eat other one and he starts to do different things. First he was just crying. Now he's getting older. He wants to show you that he's gonna hurt you in a different way. Would you rotini County, Virginia?
You want me to go to LA Oliva.
Now you think okay, cello patina is gonna have lollipop forgiven. So you give it your Are you killed the evil war. Now they know I can do different tactics and I'll get the lollipop of them. Forget lollipop soon is going to be ice cream.
Every time the ice cream van comes. It's going to be ice cream. You gotta give the ask if you don't need to ask them tantrum. If you don't if you don't give them there's going to be a bit more emotions and so on and so forth right. Now, why am I saying this to you is
let's look at it from a different perspective. Imagine the child was after something from you. Even if it was a lollipop, and you thought the solution is important. I've given you one lollipop. Yeah, that's fine. We don't have that many lollipop. You can have it. You just haven't made you want to eat. I'll give you a lollipop. So when that wants to be comes, he just hasn't fallen. He's fine. Every week Friday, you wouldn't give him lollipop. Friday, they have lollipop. That's it. No other Lolly for no other time. If you control him with sweets, chocolates, chocolate bars, whatever you got. Yep. And you control it in your house and you got to limit to how much they can have. They will
get used to it. They will only demand what they got what you give them. Even a two year old three year old four year old guaranteed guaranteed, you will be able to get them to have what you want them to have.
Any parents who have trained their kids like that. Please put your hands up who have limits in the house, just say that you can I can only have that much.
Man, there's only four of us.
It was the rest of you, man. You guys like you guys love your dentists in and I try to give them a lot of business. You know? Anyway, what I want to say to you can get them used to it. If you put your principal inside your plays in the big now it's not going to be easy. The same kid will show you tantrum as well. You're trying to train them but they will show you trying to but you won't be as bad as the other one. Do you agree with me or not? You train them from day number one and here's the logic of fine Friday. The next Friday. You gotta love it for fine. Everybody got a blog or does Saturday Sunday. Just don't ask now. Saturday, Sunday, they feel like having a lollipop. So they
come lollipop runnable. And then you say look, Butera told you Friday, it's not Friday. Now they might show a bit of a tantrum. As long as everyone's doing the same is the key to it. As long as everybody in the house is all stuck with the same principle. There is no big sister who suddenly Mom's not here and does not hear clearly probably
tell the judge does suck it suck, you break it, eat it, you know, wash your mouth, I don't want anyone to you know, shake your hand. And finally, those sticky and I'm saying get inside as long as no one's breaking the rules inside the house and everybody staying on the one rule that kid very easily will learn how to talk to obey to your rules. Now why I've said to why I've said this is because you know, we've all got a side inside us we've got an ego, an ego inside us. That ego says to you and me. I want to sit down. I don't want to do work. That ego says I don't want to give this away. That ego says I want to keep this to myself. That ego says I'm not gonna give into that
person. He's gonna say so to me first. Who does he think he's gonna get me to sorry, sir. First. You're not gonna say sorry. First. He's gonna say sorry. First. We've all got an ego inside that's got his set with it set to do these things. And the same ego it says forget lollipop. The same ego will say to you depending on your age, it will say it will demand something from you.
So if it's a let's say it's a teenager, he's not a teenager is not going to ask for a lollipop.
A teenager graph a lollipop a teenager will say mobile phone.com A mobile phone please. That point I need a mobile phone
to tell you only 13 years old told me that what do you need a mobile phone for that's one of the I can't get on son I'll give you one of those Nokia is which Nokia that they don't want to have those die you know 1990s Nokia but that you know I need the I need a smartphone.
But that is from I just need this stuff. I'm gonna do my homework and
homework and you're gonna do your homework on your phone. Now, kids asked for a smartphone. Right? He wants to do his homework on his smartphone. 1213 years old, whatever he is, right? Thing is, if you don't realize this
To the ego and this is going to turn to Tantra. How use a fancy NO NO NO NO sandawana by you don't you don't need you know you don't need this phone. But that I do need it that I do need it. Telemedia I will my friends have got a an ad, you know, they're all gaudy. They're all playing on the old doing this, they will do that. I've got to be powerful enough to be lost when they talk to me. I've got one. Son you don't need now the sun's gonna go to the Mum. Mum Mum. I need a smartphone. I need a smartphone. I need a smartphone. And it is my phone. I need this. I need a smartphone. And it is my phone. And
can you hear me coming up? Do you want to ask for a lollipop?
I think is it's the same ego. You know with Lollipop yesterday. He was ice cream the next day. He was LEGO The next day he will stall was the next day. It was something else the next day. It was the latest trainers the next day, it was something else the next day. And now it's mobile phone. A mobile phone is just the beginning of a teenage life. The next thing they want is they want the Xbox they want this they want the latest PS they want the ps4 they want something else they want to be hooked up to technology and each time they put the demand on the table in different ways. It says same child inside but it's in a different way. Are y'all are Y'all follow me till he gets married.
Now some people they get married but they're still kids.
The guy's married but he's still a kid. She's still a kid let's say no no to talk about money. We don't marry kids like that. You know when Allah He in Scotland you know?
Let me tell you how it works.
The man is married.
He just married another man's daughter
and they live happily ever after.
As the beginning of the jackin always you hear when you're small stories. Every fairy tale you hear at the end and they live it always ends up with he married her and they all live happily ever after. Or my friend Happily Ever After is only one place that is called Jana. All right. Happily ever after his Jana though you ever think Happily Ever After is going to happen in this this world? It don't exist demand don't exist. It doesn't happen. Happily Ever After is in Jana. So they got married four months. Lovely. Six months lovely. One year gone. Stick okay. You know, they say yeah, before they met. They were two lonely birds.
When they met
there were two loving birds. And after they got married, there were two Angry Birds.
Angry Birds right now that married one year goes to year goes three amigos now you know love fun all that lovely DaVita Vita V I am Bollywood you are Hollywood. Both of us are the best. And we live happily ever after. Now all that kind of stuff. You know the fairytale stuff, it starts to disappear. Life kicks in. And now they have to put up with each other. I know the tantrums are still there, my friend. They're still there. The guy was bought up on Rodia Maratea and buyer in a buyer. His mom used to keep coppia he used to have Protea and he used to love it or maybe parotta Yeah, Bronte and Bronte?
Not plantains. peralatan good. What part of history from
Punjab, but that's your prerogative. I'm talking about the plantain.
Brown, our temporary whatever it is right. Now your property the guy wants a guy used to his mom used to cook it nicely, and he's happy with all the ghee and everything else. And he used to love it. Alright. His wife used to make him karate as well. When they got married. She used to wake up religiously, religiously wake up to try and give her husband parotta in the morning off, or Devonte varje you can't get better than that. After two years, three years yet, you know he walks in the house and she's basically sitting on the sofa. Yeah, she's polishing her nails. All right, love.
You got a takeaway today. Got what to take away. We're going to eat love. After two years. Three years forget parotid right? You'd be lucky if you get fish and chips. Have been lucky man. She tells you to go to the fridge yourself. Take your lunch. It's only 45 minutes late. You know? You take it out from there, put it in the oven and you have yourself. Now the guy wants his parotta
young cook for me
or Somalia for me we've been doing all day we didn't do any cooking often so first day you know as Chad has some sub has some patience goes gets himself goes out whatever second day does he another month he does it whatever soon this guy is not going to take them he's going to come home one day said hey listen get up from the get up
making some karate make me some I used to make me some she might get up and make it once twice this that in the end she she's heard she's got a little ego in as well. Her ego is telling her to to relax. His ego says perhaps
her ego says Get out.
His ego says one thing Hey, she her ego says nothing. Can you see the kids inside here guys? Can you see the kitten Saudia after a little while he's gonna throw a tantrum. You know what his tantrum is not going to be lollipop is not going to be ice cream is not going to be mobile phone is going to be hey,
I want my karate and I want it now. Man hungry? Man angry, hungry, angry mean double trouble. You know, the guy basically is going to throw his tantrum in an adult way. That tantrum hasn't gone. The human has developed from a kid to an adult. But that kid inside the ego has not changed. Has everybody understood the message I'm giving you? Everyone has stood right? The Dean of Islam has come with all of us being born. Every human being is born with a natural side to throw your tantrums. Every human being has been born with a natural talent to overcome your tantrums. Every human being has been born to to be as comfortable as you can be. And every human being has been born
to take up any harshness that's out there.