Psychological Tips to Overcome Coronavirus Anxiety

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The speaker discusses the danger of the coronavirus and the need for a more balanced approach to coping with it, emphasizing the importance of washing hands, avoiding touching one's face, and maintaining healthy habits. It is crucial to show empathy and concern to family members and clients with anxiety disorders and the need to limit exposure to media and use reliable sources of information. The importance of protecting oneself from evil behavior and managing fear response is also emphasized. The transformation of the "one month" membership and receiving a free trial are also emphasized.

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Salam aleikum, welcome to the mindful heart. Those of you who are members and you're here we're so happy to have you and those of you who are new and just trying it out we're so happy to have you here and Mashallah, you know, I changed the topic for today because I saw that there was a lot of there was a lot of anxiety and a lot of panic and instead of doing my usual mindful heart material, I decided to address this you know, the pandemic that we're having the Coronavirus and so I'm so glad that you know we took this opportunity to address it because I know that many of you are you know you're spread out all over the world we as a global community Mashallah and we have sisters in

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we have the sisters in the UK across the US we have them in in the Middle East and in Australia and I know that all of you are facing it at a very different level and so inshallah that this will be very beneficial. I pray that Allah opens up our hearts and our minds and and helps us in in coping with this Bismillah was Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah

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anxiety, fear and panic people are panic buying people are living in fear and people are isolating themselves. Today I'm going to talk to you about the psychology of fear whether it's a rational or irrational thoughts that you're having and how to modify your behavior and manage your stress and your anxiety and have mental well being okay inshallah. So there are there have been salaam aleikum let me just mention all the beautiful sisters we have here we have Salaam aliko sister Romana and sister at BIA. We have our usual members Mashallah sister Hannah, and sister Lubna. wonderful to have you here. Mashallah. So, we have had two extremes in the way that people are dealing with the

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Khurana Coronavirus, as you know, you know, there is either there is panic, fear isolation, there's panic buying people are going into the Costco people are here, there is a line around Costco. And there is an actual fight between three women fighting over what toilet paper, right? So it's just this very out of control behavior where there is

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there is this anxiety, right? And this is going to affect this is going to affect the mental health of millions of people. Because if we continue with this level of panic, this level of stress, it is going to have a damaging effect not only physically but also emotionally and psychologically. So one group of people, they're treating it with extreme anxiety and panic. And then there's another group that is just completely dismissive. They feel like they're not taking any action, they feel it's absolutely no big deal. So what we need to do is we need to have a more balanced approach and how we're going to deal with this Okay, dealing with the Corona, okay, I still have this

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the tears are coming, I'm not crying is just the tears. Alright, so

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there is a real threat, right? Because it is an epidemic because it is a pandemic. So what happens, what makes it so threatening is at the Corona, it can hibernate in your body for over two weeks without any symptoms. So you're going out, you're interacting with people, you're going to work, you're dealing with your family and friends, and you have those symptoms. And because you have no symptoms, you're not doing anything to protect yourself or others. So that's, that's what makes it pretty dangerous. And it can spread either directly or indirectly, because what happens is that the virus lingers on objects for two to three days. So if someone uses your phone, the keyboard, or

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maybe the ATM machine, whatever it is the door knobs, and it just it sits there and lingers. And even if someone sneezes, and that will linger in the air. So that's what makes it the it is being spread unknowingly. And that's why it's being passed so quickly and people who have compromised immunity, so if someone has like asthma, if they have some kind of respiratory problem, and if they're elderly, they're much more prone to getting it in a more severe way. So we definitely we need to take precautions. We need to feel that this is something that we need to be cautious about. We need to do the hand washing, they're saying 20 seconds, you know, don't touch her face. We had

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there was this interest

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interesting video that was going around it was a public health message. And she was saying how important it is wash your hands, don't touch your face, whatever you do, because this is how the virus is going to be spread. And she went on to lick her finger to turn the page. So we have to be careful about these. We have to walk the talk, we have to take precautions, we got to make sure that we are doing our best to protect ourselves. And we need to protect our elderly family members if they are more prone to getting the illness. So we're going to take precautions, but we do need to avoid unnecessary panic, okay, people are really losing control, there is this impulse to go out.

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And to stock up. There's no need to stock up on goods definitely not on toilet paper. I don't know what the deal is, with stocking up with toilet paper and people fighting over it right. And most healthy individuals, what's going to be if they do get the Coronavirus, it is going to be like the flu, flu like symptoms, they will inshallah recover from it within a week. So as long as you are taking your precautions, you are a healthy individual, then then it's going to be fine. And that's where we have to kind of gain perspective, we have to definitely gain perspective. And we have to follow the Center for Disease Control the CDC, their guidelines, okay, when you're looking through

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Facebook, if you are, you know, reading all of this, you know, the media sometimes sometimes tends to hype things up and creates this fear, right. It's like a form of fear mongering. Now we need to have reports, absolutely. It's great to know what is happening, where it's happening. We do need to be informed, but we need to make sure that it's it is coming from a accurate source that we are getting the information. So the Center for Disease Control, CDC, that is an excellent way to get our information. Right. So I'm having SR IV are saying and Saudis all schools are closed. And in Kuwait, even malls are closed, most all international flights have been stopped. I know. And this is, this

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is affecting so many people. I know that we all flights from Europe have been, you know, completely canceled, my son was scheduled to go on a senior trip, which he was so excited about that we're going to go to aamra and and then go to Turkey that was cancelled. They're questioning whether they should even have graduation. I know that many universities have shut down and many of you know sporting events, so it is having an impact. And either there is it's good to take those precautions because like I said, if someone is infected, we don't even know right, because they may not even have the symptoms. So some of the precautions are good. And I know that sometimes it does it is

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affecting all of us in one way or another sister Hannah are saying that the media did hype the things up and it's very serious in Denmark, but I don't know why people buy so much toilet paper. That's the big question, right? Why are people stocking up on so much toilet paper? So we need to realize that the risk for getting the virus okay. So the average average person like i said if they have healthy immune and they don't have any other health issues, they should they should be fine that it is considered low risk right. Now, what is causing the high risk? Okay, high risk is health care workers caring for patients with the Coronavirus so if someone is in the health profession and

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they're dealing with individuals who have the Coronavirus, definitely, they're high risk. Now if you are in close contact with a person who has a Coronavirus, maybe a family member, maybe someone at work would have who has it, then you're at high risk travelers returning from affected international locations where the community spread, though now if that is occurring, if you have just come back from China, if you have just come back from wherever Will you know from Italy and then you are more likely to be at risk. Okay. Let's talk a little bit about the psychology of fear. Okay. Fear is a very powerful and primitive human emotion. Okay. Now it alerts us it alerts us if there's danger.

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You know, if you are at home alone and you hear a door opening, you're alerted You know, there's danger if someone is following you in a dark alley, there's that feeling of you know, it is it's important to have that sense of fear because it will protect you it will make you take action. And it is a survival mechanism. Let's say you have to outrun someone when you're in danger and so it does help you to survive.

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And you can see that fear can be divided into kind of two responses. So you have the biochemical response, and then you have the emotional response. Okay? Now the biochemical biochemical response, what's happening in your body? That's universal, everyone experiences the same thing. But the emotional response. It's a very individualized, okay, so what's happening in our body when we experienced this kind of fear when you sense that, Oh, my gosh, something is about to happen, or someone is about to attack me, what happens is that we have the automatic response, which is the fight or flight response, right? And this is really crucial for our survival, what happens is that

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the heart rate increases, we start sweating, there's the high adrenaline. Now the emotional response is very personalized, right? So you see that?

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There, the fear response, okay, even the biochemical response is very close, the chemical reaction in our brains is very close to some of the positive emotions, right? So excitement. So excitement and fear are very similar. And that's why it's important to recognize that because, and this is what we're going to talk about is that you can take that feeling of fear, let's take something very simple, like public speaking, a lot of people have that fear of public speaking. And if you if you look at what's happening, biochemically, we are sweating, heart is pounding, maybe, you know, you have this feeling in the pit of your stomach, all of that is happening. Now. It's the same thing

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with the fear and excitement so you can start looking at it. So it all has to do with your interpretation of the event, how you're feeling about the situation. So if you recognize this, the public speaking is Oh my god, I'm so afraid, oh my god, and you go into panic mode and you have negative self talk and you start thinking you're going to mess up and I'm gonna fall in, I'm gonna forget and all of that what's going to happen is that you talk yourself into a frenzy and you have, you have anxiety and you have a panic attack, and that's real fear. But if you start interpreting it differently, differently, where you say, Okay, I have, I have these emotions. I'm very cognizant of

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the fact that my heart is pounding stomach is you know, woo going crazy. But you know what, I'm going to interpret this as I'm excited, okay? And I'm going to feel excited about this, this opportunity. And that way, because of your interpretation of the event, you manage your anxiety, you manage your, your stress level. Now, you're going to say, why am I how am I going to get excited about the Coronavirus? I'm not telling you get excited about the Coronavirus. Okay, that was just an example that I'm giving how, you know, the biochemical reaction in your body is the same and you can flip it, and you choose to flip it, you know, it's like some people, they're so afraid of heights.

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And yet some people like to jump out of the plane, right. And they just they wanted to go skydiving because they're, you know, they're kind of

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their adrenaline junkies. And they, they look at that as like, whoo, I love this feeling of fear, right. So this is a very important aspect of dealing with fear. Because it's not just the chemical reactions in your body, there is an emotional component, there is a cognitive component. And that's very critical. And that's where we can gain control. And we can manage our stress, not telling you to get excited about the Coronavirus. I'm telling you that you can interpret it differently, and you can manage it and not feel so helpless and hopeless. Because when we go into that mindset of feeling hopeless, when we feel like oh my god, I'm doing this is the end of the world, we're all gonna die

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and you go into the state of panic, it's not doing you any good. And when you're in that state of the the fight or flight, that is an automatic reaction in your body in order to help you and to save you, okay? And it's supposed to, it's meant to last anywhere from like, 15 minutes to 30 minutes, let's say an hour, okay? It's not meant to go on for 24 seven, you're not meant to wake up with that state of anxiety and sleep with that state of anxiety. And that's what a lot of people are facing. A lot of my clients who come to me are living in a state of panic and anxiety, even though nothing is going on around them, even though they're not in a state of danger. And even though everything is

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going well in their lives. So put aside this pandemic

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You find that there are people who are living their daily lives with absolutely no danger. And yet they're in the state of panic. So those of you who are already prone to having anxiety, those of you who have the challenges with depression and anxiety, that is like it is affecting you the most, because you're taking all of this in, and you're already susceptible for the anxiety and panic when there's actually, you know, anxiety disorders, like you're you don't have it's not a specific, it's not something specific that you can pinpoint and say, Okay, I'm anxious necessarily about this. Sometimes it's just ambiguous, it's vague. And I had this client just yesterday telling me that, you

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know, everything is great in my life, I have, you know, everyone is like envious of my life, of how you know, whether it's her success or how she looks or how she's so capable, yet, she has this constant feeling of anxiety. So when someone has that imagine how much more prone they are to feeling the sense of dread and gloom and all of that when something like this occurs. And that's why I felt it's so critical to address it, because my heart goes out to everyone who is feeling the sense of this, the sense of stress and the sense of anxiety because I know how real it is. And I know that anyone who has anxiety, it feels as if you're going to die, right? So that that intense

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emotional reaction that you get that intense biological reaction you get, it's almost like it mimics a heart attack, right? So that can be very scary. If someone is feeling like oh my god, I'm about to have a heart attack. That's a very scary feeling. And we want to try to manage that. We want to try to put it into perspective, we want to learn how to be mentally healthy, we want to be physically healthy, and just you know, take this in a in a very moderate, you know, take a moderate approach inshallah. Okay. Now, what's interesting about fear, right, so, it is it is part in instinctual, right? Some some fear is instinctual, actually, we are born with two innate fears, the fear of

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falling, and the fear of loud noises. These are things that even babies have this fear, it's like they're hardwired for it. Okay? Now, a lot of the other fears, what's interesting is that it's learned, right? It is learned so maybe someone fell into the pool and almost drowned. So they have this phobia of water or they're, they feared drowning, there might be a fear of being in certain places, there may be a fear of certain items, maybe, you know, I had a friend of mine, her daughter or her son got bit by a dog and so now there's this like, fold up for dogs because that is you know, that was the experience. So you can learn that fear, right? And then other fears, okay. So we have

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the layers, other fears are actually are taught, so their cultural norms, right, their cultural norms, and this is where sometimes you have the prejudice um, you know, you have certain social groups that are feared or persecuted. And it all has to do with how the culture represents it. Okay? So it's really important to understand the psychology of fear how some, some things are innate, we said there are two innate fears that we are born with, and they were right they were loud noises and falling and some fears you learn them some are instinctual. Like, you know, when you touch when you touch fire, you're going to instinctually pull your hand away because it's dangerous right? And then

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others are because of a certain experience you've had all right

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now let's hear with

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so a sister Romana saying that's great idea to flip your fear into excitement. And what else that she's saying panic attacks are definitely a terrible feeling to have May Allah protect us all on me. So sorry, beer saying thank you for acknowledging how real it is. I have general anxiety disorder and most of the time people don't get it. I know that it's really sad that most people don't get many of the mental health disorders, right. It's people have may have not been exposed to it. They're not educated in it. And you know, we have a lot of family members who will actually tell a person who is diagnosed with clinical depression get over it. Why just stop being so lazy get up and

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you know, just get over it. And what I explain to a lot of let's say the parents of people who have depression, right, I will tell them it is kind of like being in

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In a in quick SAS, right and telling a person in quicksand to say what, you know, why are you in that get out of it, they can't, they want to get out of it, but they simply can't, someone actually has to come and pull them out of that quicksand. So it is really important to, for us to be empathetic, to be understanding, because there are some people in our community who are going to be overreacting to this, because of their predisposition to these mental mental health disorders. And we can't criticize, we can't be little we can't, you know, have this judgmental attitude towards them and say, Oh, you don't have enough tobacco, you know, you're just your Iman is low, if you had

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more than you would be fine. If you had more, you might, you wouldn't be depressed if and this is, you know, unfortunately, unfortunately, what I hear all the time, from my clients who suffer from these kinds of illnesses, whether it's obsessive compulsive disorder, whether it's depression or anxiety, it all originated from some MIT, well, meaning individual, okay, they listen to a lecture as Speaker and a mom or a chef, they said something, and it, they honed in on it, right, if your review is not perfect, then, you know, if your window is not perfect, then your prayer is not going to count. So the person who is suffering from OCD, and they already are so hard on themselves for

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for their withdrawal, then they actually stopped, they stopped with the prayers, they stopped with so many things because they hear something and they may take it out of context, or they're more, they're more sensitive to these issues. Right? And, and I will tell them, please, you know, go ahead, do your prayer, even if you feel like even if the Voodoo is not as perfect, you know, do it. Right. So we have to be, we have to be very sensitive with what we say to our family members, to our friends to those who are really right now struggling, because the anxiety is so real. And and they are overwhelmed. And so instead of telling someone, something as insensitive as just, you know, get

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over it, you know, just just build up your mind, like what's wrong with you, we need to show we need to show that empathy and and that concern, right?

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sis tab, you're saying I had chest pains and panic attack today. And I felt my arms start to hurt. I told myself calm, anxiety, do your thing and go and handle I'm glad to be here. Oh, and hamdulillah sister I be I'm so glad that's so brave of you to share. And and you know, that's what I explained to a lot of my clients who are dealing with anxiety that, you know, there is the fear of the panic, like the fear of the fear, right? And what ends up happening is that when someone has a panic attack, or an anxiety disorder, they actually spent like 15 to 20 hours worrying about something that may last 10 to 15 minutes, right? And so what I always tell them is that this fear, look at it

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as a wave, you have to ride the wave. So what's going to happen, it starts off low, it peaks, it peaks where you're just like, oh my god, like you're saying, you feel like you're going to like have a heart attack. And then guess what, it's going to come down again. So write it like a wave and let it you know, let it subside, inshallah. And Allah says in the bar en,

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la, la la Canal,

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de calidad we have certainly created men into hardship into turmoil into this, this kind of stress, right? And we have stress in every area of our lives. And you know, and people experience it in in so many different ways. So some people have the stress of work, sometimes it's from studying in school, sometimes it's family life. It has to do with relationships, you know, sometimes the marriage is the biggest source of stress, or you have like emotional trauma, like it might be things from from the past from childhood, and it could be medical illnesses and now Right, right now, the main stress is this pandemic that is like what's going to happen how are we going to deal with this

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you know, dis Coronavirus? How is this going to affect me? How is it going to affect my my children and my work? You know, some people have had to stop working, the bills aren't going to continue coming but then the money stops. So there's a lot of stress we're dealing with right. So how are we going to cope with all this?

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How are we going to cope with the stress now, this can be regarding the Coronavirus how are we how are we dealing with it? And it could deal with you know, it could be with any form of stress in your life. So, maybe you feel like okay, I'm not affected by you know, the Coronavirus. It's not in my country. We haven't had any cases but you're dealing with stress

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I'm sure you are right. So whatever it is, whether it's financial, emotional, sometimes psychological stress, these are the ways to deal with it. So, Sr me is saying, someone gave me a good example. Like, if you're alone at home, and you think it's, it's a thief, but that's not true. Because you can calm yourself by saying it's a cat that makes the sound, right. It's how you interpret the situation, right? Obviously, you have to make sure that you're not in danger, right? You have to make sure that you're not in danger. And you have to evaluate the situation. So we don't want to be just like this. Yeah, I don't want to be like this optimism that is like not in touch

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with reality. That's never what I promote. I promote optimism, but definitely have to take precaution right.

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And we have subscribers that says, I think that people should stop circulating these audio messages by doctors giving their two cents and saying random stuff that may scare us, we should only look at reliable sources. Yes, get information from reliable sources. And you know, you have to limit your exposure to the social media, because sometimes that can really put us in the state of panic, looking at it, reading about it. And just like anything, right, whenever there is a win, whether it's a war going on, sometimes I remember when with Islamophobia, when you know, there were certain attacks that occur. And then suddenly, a lot of my clients would be so fearful about leaving the

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house, because all they're hearing about is the fact that someone got attack, and it's repeated over and over and over and over. And that's all you're focusing about. And guess what, you're going to be immobilized. So many people all sudden, stop going to work, stop going to school, and they jeopardize everything, because they're focusing on this one little, you know, on this one

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perspective, right on on a very small percentage of the population. Now, obviously, this is affecting many people across the globe, I'm not trying to diminish from that I'm not trying to say, you know, like, what I'm saying is that if we focus on something long enough, right, let's say the number of accidents that occur, the number of accidents that occur while people are traveling worldwide, it's so high, it is so high. And yet every day we sit in the car, or we get on planes, and we travel, and we don't really think about it, right? We take our precaution we put on our seatbelt, we try to drive defensively. But if we're everyday, let's say you open up your Facebook,

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and all you do is you go through your YouTube videos, and only look at accidents that were caused by driving. And that's how you look at and you see the deaths, deaths, you see how people have lost body parts, you're going to be so immobilized. So we really have to limit what we're exposing ourselves to. And also put things into perspective where we're not honing in on just this one small percentage, and and then just becoming so fearful that we freeze, right? Because it's either fear, it's either fight, flight or freeze. So we're either trying to run away from it, we're either fighting with it, or we're just frozen, right? And a lot of people do get immobilized by the fear.

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So one of the things that we're going to do in dealing with stress, okay, this is sister Nadia saying Actually, there was a video of a Syrian father and daughter, the father made his daughter laugh when bombs were being dropped to help her cope. Oh, that that's just

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that's just so so emotional, so emotional and so admirable and it makes me want to cry that you know how the father is just trying to

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change change her association to the bombs and that's really beautiful, really beautiful that you know, because it's how we really how we deal with it, because something so scary, right? Can he he was knowledgeable enough with from a psychological perspective to take control of how he's how he's getting his daughter to experience this. And even though it is dangerous, but he didn't want her to to be so traumatized upon Allah that is beautiful. Thank you for sharing that.

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On sister Ramona is sending sending lots of hugs and love to my dear sweet sister I be a you know this what I love about the mindful heart community is that everyone is just is so compassionate and there's such a connection and such, even though we're spread out across the globe, but there's such a beautiful sisterhood and such compassion, Mashallah. So, that's, that's always lovely to hear. So, coping with stress, number one, you have to do some deep breathing, okay, because the first thing that happens when you

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you're stressed out what happens to your breathing, it becomes very shallow.

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You know, you're an actor, you're scared. If you're whatever it is, that is you're fearful of your effects your breathing. So the first thing you have to do is, is do some deep breathing. And I found that very few people know how to do the deep breathing, it becomes very much like I like that's that deep breathing. So it's about taking a deep breath in through your nose,

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holding it,

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and then breathing out.

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Okay, so deep breath in,

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you hold it,

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and breathe.

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This deep breathing helps you in any stressful situation, okay? Let's say you're about to have this very intense conversation at work, okay, and you're worried about it, whether it's your, whether it's your boss, or whether it's your employee, after fire them, whatever it is, you're stressed about it. So do the deep breathing, maybe it's a conversation you're going to have with your spouse, or your teenager, or you are very stressed about like a presentation to start doing the deep breathing. And this totally puts your body you know how you have that fight or flight, you could have the, you can have the opposite reaction where you're just actually becoming more and more

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relaxed, and it's done. And it's kind of set into motion with the deep breathing, then second is controlling your self talk. Because if you're saying to yourself, you wake up, it's like, oh my god, we're all gonna die, my family's gonna die and I'm gonna lose all my money and we're gonna go bankrupt, and we're gonna be in the streets. Okay? Who is not going to go into panic mode, right? Your mind is a garden, think of your mind as a garden and your thoughts are the seeds. You can either grow flowers or you can grow weeds. Okay, so and that rhymes. I'll say it again. Your mind is a garden, your thoughts are the seeds, you can grow flowers or you can grow weed. So what are you

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going to grow? Right? So you have a choice, what you focus on, you have a choice, what you are nurturing, nourishing within yourself. And if you are nourishing those panic, you know, the panic mode, the fearful thoughts, then that is exactly what's going to keep growing. Okay? And you got to realize that negative self talk is like a wild horse, and it has to be tamed. You have to control where your thoughts go, you can't say, well, it just happens to me, I don't I have no control. It just comes as automatic. No, I train people every single day, how to control their thoughts. And when they learn how to control their thoughts, guess what, they gain mastery over themselves. They

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gain mastery over their emotions, they gain mastery over their relationship because they're no longer a victim. Because if you have the men in the victim mentality, okay? This is where it's problematic. When you have a victim mentality and you think as it Undo, it's over, you know, and if you have that mindset, then you literally tell your brain to shut down, that you are surrendering. It's kind of like surrendering to the enemy. You know, would you ever go to the enemy and just say, here, handcuff me, I'm yours? No way. Right? So you can't do that. You can't do that with your thoughts either. All right. And the the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam said,

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I treat it said that Allah said, Okay, so this is how do I treat my servant as how he thinks of me. Okay. Well, this is a headache Buhari and Muslims are where I treat my servant as how he thinks of me. So in other words, Allah tala treats his servant in the way that we think of Allah. So if we see him as being the most Merciful, the most compassionate, the most wise, and we have we have hopelessness than to Allah. What's not that of Allah is that we think the best of him, we're not just like, like, we're not just like fearful that he's just gonna punish us and we're just gonna go through hardship for no reason. And when you have that positive outlook, and you see him in the

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past, and that is how he will be towards you. So we're encouraged to have the positive thoughts of and we are rewarded by Allah right. And it's amazing. I always am amazed by the amount of psychology that is intertwined in Islam, and it's ingrained in this song because if you have a thought, let's say you have a positive thought that you want to yell, I wish I wish I could build a hospital. Now I wish I could. I wish I could build a mosque, I wish I could feed these poor people. I wish I could do this. And you have this beautiful positive thought you are rewarded, you are rewarded for it, even if you don't do it. So what is that doing that is Allah telling us that you are rewarded by

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having positive thoughts, right. And so that is

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Really, that's remarkable how we are being trained to have those good thoughts. And even if you have, let's say you're planning on, you have this mischievious thought and you want to plan to do something, and you decide, you know what, no, I, you know, I fear a law. You know, you have Taqwa with Allah, and you refrain from doing that you're rewarded for that as well. So it's just so amazing how we are encouraged to have those good thoughts, not only about what we're going to do, but we have that host of the done with Allah. Okay. Now, we need to what also we can do is gain control of our imagination. Sometimes, when a person is anxious, they have an overactive

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imagination. And it's not in a good way, right? It's kind of it's more geared towards catastrophizing. So they use up all their energy, the use of the energy for what for visualizing things, hypothetical situations. So one of the things that I tell my clients is like, you cannot create those hypothetical situations, if you sit there, and you think about, Oh, my gosh, what if, what if? What if I die from this? What if my family dies from this? Why did my business you know, goes bankrupt? If a lojack by the way?

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What are we going to what we think about is going to definitely affect us? Okay, so this overactive imagination needs to be tamed as well. Okay.

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Imagination is something that needs to be used, right. But a lot of times people misuse it, you know, it had a whole episode, a whole lesson on the power of visualization on the mindful hearts. And those of you who attended, you saw how phenomenal it is when you use your imagination for good, right? So just how, like, we know that it's powerful. And if you imagine yourself, let's say, Olympic athletes, they imagine themselves doing a perfect performance, and how they get results exponentially higher than those who only are, you know, let's say practicing those who practice and visualize they're exponentially better performance wise. So as powerful as it is, it can be

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powerfully damaging as well. Because if you're sitting there and imagining Doomsday and imagining your death and imagining the death of your loved ones, that is going to have an impact, that is definitely going to harm you that is going to harm you physically, it's going to harm you emotionally, it's going to harm you psychologically. So you got to stop this catastrophizing, because if you don't, then it is going to take over, it is going to rule your heart, your thoughts and your mind. Okay?

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All right. Now.

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We know, okay, that there's been so many studies done that the brain does not, cannot distinguish between what is real and what is not real. Okay? It doesn't distinguish, like, if right now, I tell you to imagine, imagine a lemon, imagine a juicy yellow lemon that you cut into and you bite into and you squeeze into what's going to happen. You're salivating right? Because your brain is thinking about it. And guess what, as soon as it starts thinking about it, it gets the physiological reactions. When you get the physiological reactions. It's it's real, it's real in your brain, it's categorized as real. That's why when you're, let's say, imagining yourself doing a perfect

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performance shooting the fast you know, the basketball into the hoop or making a goal you're imagining get, it is actually counted as practice Okay, now the same thing if you're sitting there and imagining all of these horrible things, guess what, it is counted as like life experiences, your body is going to have the same damage as if you went through it. And you know I always use the example let's say like you know, we have this cup

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that's queued up you're saying I made lemon cake and thought of you

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and sister Nadia saying love the lemon analogy love the love and sister Nadia saying psychology and Islam are a perfect match and sister How do you demonstrate that beautifully myself just like a lot here. So let's say you have this cup, okay.

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Let's say you're given this amount of energy each day, okay, you're given the summit energy. And as you think about these hypothetical says, Oh my god, I'm gonna die or energy is poured out. Oh,

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All my business is going to go bankrupt. Energy is going to be poured out and you keep pouring it out. And it could be 9am. Okay, and you are complete empty. That's what my client was telling me that she goes, I just getting my kids out of the house. I'm done. I am depleted. Why? Because she's thinking of this could happen that could happen. And you just you create so much panic for yourself. So stop catastrophizing, stop thinking of the worst case scenario, conserve your energy. Okay, I remember we went. We went on hedge and then our hedge leader god bless him. He you know, anytime we wanted to read the Koran or, you know, pray to Hatcher he would say save your energy. You could read

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the Quran, but save your energy.

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So that anytime I say save your energy, I remember that. But you know, so you do have to save your energy. Because if you if you use it up on hypothetical situations, where is that energy, when you have a real scenario, when your child is in danger, and you need to go and help them and you're just like, I'm depleted of no energy, you can't do that, right. So the next thing is you need to exert some of that energy in a healthy way. In exercise, you need to have an outlet, sitting at home, looking at your social media, being in a panic mode, isolating yourself stocking up on toilet paper, this is not this not going to help you right, you need to have some healthy habits. Right now

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daylight saving what I love about it is that afterwards I get to go I get to go walk outside and release some of that tension. So go out there, walk 1015 minutes 20 minutes release all of this anxiety that you have within yourself because if you don't it's really going to affect you. Sister answer is saying

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school policy against that at the moment because the local council told them so we have a case in a local hospital which is 10 minutes walking distance they caught it off someone obviously some parents feel we should stop children from going to school as people just cough in the open air.

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it you know, Funny thing is council member are self isolating, okay. sister and her sister I beers saying Sister ansah insidey where I live, all schools are close. And it is a measure taken by the government to stop the spread of disease. I know that Harvard, actually they're resorting to online studies, I know that our school is talking about possibly doing that, you know, it's going to vary from place to place depending on how, how many cases have been found. Okay. So dealing with the stress, we talked about dealing with the stress, you know, you're hearing all of this, you're worried you're anxious, rightfully so I'm not diminishing from

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the you know, how, how serious this is, right? However, we want to manage it. So first, we have to, you know, do the deep breathing, you have to be aware of your self talk, you have to be aware of your imagination, don't sit there and catastrophize Hey, to get out there and do some exercise, do something that will distract you and release some of the tension, okay? And then you need to have that spiritual connection, you need to put your trust in Allah. And now, this is very different, okay, from saying, Okay, if you have anxiety, that means you don't have faith in Allah? No, because there is definitely, you know, individuals who are diagnosed with depression, anxiety, if there's a

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chemical imbalance. It is real. It's not they could be the most pious person. I had a client who was actually memorized for odd. She had gone for fetcher prayer at the masjid. So she was you know, she was very pious. And then I think she was just very hurt. Because the mom had said, if you have faith in Allah, you would not be depressed. Right? You know, they would just the talk that he meant well, right. I think it's, you know, we have to also put things into perspective. But unfortunately, she took it and she came to my office, she was crying. She was like, I'm going I'm praying at the masjid at fetcher. I remember. So yeah, I have faith, but I also have depression or I also have bipolar. I

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also have anxiety right? Now this that this is a very different concept. What I'm saying is that there's definitely an element of the spiritual connection when we have a spiritual connection. And they've done so many studies on it, that those individuals who have faith in a higher being and they have that that, you know, the rituals, the prayers and all of that, they cope with anxiety so much better, they are calmer, they have that sense of peace in their life. So that's what I'm talking about.

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Okay, so when you put your trust in Allah right and that that is so critical because it does give you so much peace. And you say, I Ludhiana call Allah hamana. So in Sapa de la comme fasho home faza further the home EMA no ACO aloha spoon Allah who when a man who Ikki those whom the HIPAA had said, Indeed the people have gathered against you, so fear them, but it merely increased them in faith, and they set sufficient for us is Allah and he is the best Disposer of affairs. So instead of being fearful, like sometimes it could be fearful of the enemy. Now the enemy is the Coronavirus, right. So this is what people are fearful about. But we can say has been a law when that men were killed.

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We know that a law is the planner, he is the master planner, and we have to have our trust in Him. And we have to realize that things are going to unfold as he pleases, right? And when we see Allah when we depend on him, when we put when we leave our affairs to him when we trust Him, and we are pleased with his decree. And we are thinking of him in a favorable way. And we patiently wait for his help. What happens is that you reap some of the most beautiful fruits of faith. And what you demonstrate is the character of a believer, right? As a believer, we need to have faith in Allah, as a believer, we have to have that sense of, you know, do we have to have that sense of optimism, not

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just feeling like oh, that thing's gonna happen, but we know that whatever is happening is for the best right? Allah would not have this happen, it would not have no one would be in fact that if he had not planned for it, and we have to recognize if we know the names and attributes of Allah, that he is an Hakeem that he is allowed to do that he is you know, he is the most wise and he is the most loving, that this is not done out of a way of you know, just It is not just happening, it is not coincidence, right? It is a it could be a wake up call, it could be a form of mercy. Many people are turning to a load many people are, you know, trying to have that reconnection and, and praying out

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of fear. And there's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with turning to Allah in a state of fear and panic. You know, many times when people are, let's say, on on a plane is about to crash, and you find out that people are calling out to God, there's nothing wrong with that aspect that the problem arises when as soon as you are saved, you forget about Allah. And as soon as you are in safety, that's when you forget about Allah. And we need to recognize that, you know, he a lot is sufficient for us. And if you think about the example of Ibrahim alayhi salam, when he was catapulted into the fire, imagine that the fire that they had made for him was so big for Abraham

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and, and they were trying to punish him because he had gone against their belief system, and he and he had gone against their idols, and they were catapulting him into the fire mid midway, as he's in the air, ship reel to reel comes to him and says, you know, is there anything that you need, and this always gets me emotional, because imagine you like being thrown in a fire. And sometimes we can't even handle the smallest test. We can handle the smallest ups and downs in our lives. And yet, his he saw himself like he was about to be burned to death is what he saw. And then most powerful angel came to him and said, What do you need from me? or What can I do for you? And he said, there's

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nothing that I need from you his whole trust, his whole conviction was with a law. And so you see that at that moment, then then Allah said, y'all make make the fire cool and comfortable for cool and comfortable for Ibrahim, and so he was thrown in the fire, and yet he was not affected by it. Right. And that's just amazing. So even if we are surrounded by the Coronavirus, but we have that toe awkward we have that trust, we know that Allah will only allow things to happen because it is the best for us. Then we need to be able to have that trust and and really like you know haspin Allah when that man like he'll have that and when you have that in your heart and you truly believe

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in it. That is what is

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Going to these are these are the tears

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that is what's really going to is going to give us that serenity inshallah and and we all we all know this first wasa Tohoku Cheyenne wahiawa Sharon lakum

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boo shy.

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Sharon ly calm while La Jolla Allah wa Taala Talamo moon. So that is saying that perhaps you hate a thing that is good for you. Maybe you hate this Coronavirus. You hate the fact that you can't travel you hate the fact that your spring break the plants were canceled. I you know, I'm not thrilled about the fact that my son doesn't get to go to home run with a senior class I mean, senior

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the senior class trip I mean, that's that's really disappointing. You may hate the fact that you're sick, you may hate the fact that you can go outside there your quarantine you hate it. But Allah saying, but it may be good for you. How is it good for you? aloha Island, we don't know, we may not know right now, we may know a little bit later, we may never know. But there is some good in it. And perhaps you love a thing that is bad for you. You love the idea of traveling, you wanted to go to Europe, your trip was to Italy, you know your dream vacation was to Italy and it got canceled. But the fact that you love it, it may be bad for you, maybe you had gone there and something bad would

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have happened. We really need to believe that we need to trust it. Right. And when you you know, internalize this verse, When you recognize that, you know, there are things that you really dislike going through, right? Maybe financial hardship is hard. Maybe you're having medical condition, maybe maybe it's a broken elbow. Right, whatever it is, you may not like it right? It gets in the way of your life. It slows you down. It's causing you stress. But guess what, it's good for you. It's good for you because it is teaching you a lesson. So what we need to do is ask ourselves, what is the lesson that we need to learn? What is the hikma? What is the wisdom? What is how can I be a better

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person through this, okay? Going into panic going into like, you know, this the state of worry and isolation. And just you know, that's not going to do anyone any good. If panic if anxiety if worrying was helpful if it prevented the Coronavirus. If it protected you I'd say go ahead and do it. Okay. But as I discussed in one of the lessons on the mindful heart, which was all about anxiety, because this is now we're on phase four, and it is all about controlling our depression or anxiety, our stress. And and I said in the lesson about anxiety, controlling our anxiety that, you know, what it's like is that a lot of people feel like they anxiety, they're on a treadmill, and

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they're running on a 24 seven, so they're exhausted. But what are they thinking they think that as long as I'm on the on this treadmill, I'm protecting my family, like I'm on it. And this this this anxiety, treadmill or worry treadmill is going to protect everybody, but it's not. That's a delusion, right? That is an illusion that you think you're worrying is saving anyone that you by worrying, you're actually protecting yourself by worrying, you're you are preventing something, it is not doing you any good. It is actually lowering your immunity, which is going to cause you danger, it is causing you to be stressed out, it is causing you to ruin your relationship because

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when someone is stressed, they're going to be irritable, they're going to snap at you they're going to have a fight with you. So it's not doing you any good. So when you recognize that then you're going to be like You know what? I that that you know the treadmill that I'm on the worry treadmill, which I think I'm I'm saving everybody's lives by worrying you You're all you're wrong. Okay? Get off that worry, treadmill, get on the telecoil treadmill.

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All right, tell what goes treadmill and you put that trust and you believe that whatever is happening is for the best, and it's about accepting the other of our law. Right? You know, there are some people I remember when there was a hurricane in in Houston. Some people I actually like the whole city they were in their cars are trying to run away, run away from her like oh my God, we can't die here.

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We're going to go and they were on the road for maybe 10 1213 hours, some people ran out of gas. It was a tragedy. And there was a Muslim family that tried to run away from the hurricane. So they don't die in the hurricane. Guess what they got in a car crash, the whole family died. Right? How many incidents do we hear like this? There are individuals that they were in Syria, they survived the bombing, they survived the attacks the size snipers, they, they survived coming across borders. And then they came here to the United States thinking that they are safe, and their apartment caught on fire and they die. Okay. So your destiny, right? It has been written, it is determined, and you

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can't run away from it. And this is very important for us, for us to be aware of, you cannot run away from your death. If it's written for you, it will happen. You know, the I can tell you the example of i was i was skiing in it was in December, and there was a slope, I refuse to go down because it was an expert level. And I said, You know what, I don't want to be injured. This was just a few months ago, I don't want to be injured. Right. I was feeling the sense of responsibility to take care of my family, I got to go to work out people counting on me, I don't want to injure myself, right. It happened in my own kitchen, my own kitchen, that's where I fell. So it's destined,

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it is destined for us, we can't run away from our destiny. And the fact that you can accept this, and you're not feeling like I gotta run, I gotta run. I gotta, you know, let me hide. You can't, you can't run from it. You can't hide from it. It is happening. And it's not this, I don't want you to feel helpless or hopeless. It's just this matter of realization, right? And, and that way, you feel like, you know what, I'm at peace, I'm at peace, because I know, whatever's happened is happening for the best. And if we think about it, I want you to like really have calming self talk, going back to the self talk, right? And and just say things like, you know, I'm safe, everything is going to be

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fine inshallah. And you can say,

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I will get through this, we will get through this, this, this will soon pass. No, we've had pandemics before. And it and sometimes, as soon as it comes in as quickly as it comes, it goes as quickly now, we're not sure about this, not giving you false claims that it will quickly pass. But what I'm saying is that things have a way of coming and going and we just, it's it is a wave and it might be a you know, a bigger wave that we have to write out but it doesn't help to panic. Okay. All right. And then if we look at some of the leading causes of death, you know, annually heart disease 640,000 people die of heart disease, cancer, almost 600,000 people 599,000 accidents, 169,000.

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Right, there's, you know, stroke 146,000, Alzheimer 121,000, diabetes 83,000. Now, influence, there's over like, 55,000 cases, right? So the thing is that we really have to put things into perspective. And we have, we can ignore the probabilities, right? Because when you think about it, sometimes when you're hearing the cases of Okay, this many people were infected, this many people died, right, the probability. So I'll give you an example. So this was in

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one of the articles saying, for example, there was so in March, this was written March 3, there were 80,000 cases of Coronavirus in China. Okay, now, and 2945 deaths right now, every death is a tragedy. Absolutely. We don't want to be little anyone's life. And, you know, we, but we just have to put it into context because the population of China is 1,000,480,000. Right. And it's rising every minute. Now the probability as of today of dying from the Coronavirus in China is point 0000199. Right. So it's just we really have to just keep it into perspective. And we you know, we don't want to dismiss the risk. Okay. We don't want to dismiss the risk or the fear, but there is a

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difference between having rational fear and irrational fear. We don't want to we don't want to lose control. We don't want to overreact. All obviously we want to practice good hygiene. We want to wash our hands we don't want to touch our face. We don't want to go into unnecessarily like you know highly populated places you know if you can avoid going places. Yeah, that's that is

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It's better for you okay.

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And sister Romana is saying giving setup protects us from harm it does. And I think that's that's a beautiful thing we can do spiritually you know get up and pray for to hide should pray that Allah protects you protects your family protects everyone who is infected, you know, maybe this is a wake up call for us maybe it's a spiritual wake up call where you know, upon Allah Allah has presented something that is complete it is invisible to the naked eye, right, we can't even see it and yet the entire world is affected in one way or another. And this is showing the power of a lot the author of Allah right. And when we recognize this, and then we can only, you know, all we can do is turn to

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him, you know, do your car, do your morning at the car and ask a lot for the protection and within the door of the of the undercard, you are asking for protection from all of these from any kind of evil from any kind of illness and sickness and, and any kind of stress and, and sadness, right? So we really need to protect ourselves with the prayers and turning to Allah and look at it, definitely look at it as kind of a wake up call a spiritual wake up call, right? And what happens is that sometimes the more scared you are, the scarier things become, right. And there's a process called potential potentiation. Okay, potential creation, sorry, your fear response is amplified if you're

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already in a state of fear. So let's say you're already scared, and then it becomes even scarier, right. So we really need to, we need to manage that we need to protect ourselves from becoming immobilized or feeling so stressed out. And, and fear responding in a state of fear what actually happens in the brain, your the amygdala is where like fear response occurs. And, and at that point, it is making a decision whether something is a threat, or is not a threat, if it is a threat, what's very interesting, let's say something is chasing you. And you know, it is it is triggered as it or it's classified as a threat.

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It doesn't want the rest of the brain to be calculating things and working things out. It's just about, okay, it's a threat run. So other parts of your brain shut down, they actually shut down. And all that is activating is that fight flight or freeze. And that's why a lot of times people act very irrationally. This is why the panic, right? With the panic buying, because they're not being rational anymore, right? They're not being the part of their brain, that the prefrontal cortex is shut down, where you make rational decisions. That's not working. And that's why a lot of times, you, you know, you're told not to make decisions in a state of fear, because you're not using your

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full capacity, your brain power, those areas of the brain are shut down. And that's why when you're in that state of anxiety or fear, let's say you're having a fight with with your spouse, those parts of your brain are shut down. And that's why people act so irrationally. That's why they get physical. That's why they say awful things to each other. And now with the panic buying parts of the brain are shut down. They're not thinking clearly, it's all about, Oh, my God, I need to survive. And so that's why they go into this panic mode, and they buy in, they're there. And it gives them that sense of control. Because the pandemic, really, it causes fear of the unknown, right? It's the

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fear of the unknown, what's going to happen, how am I going to be affected with Mike gonna die is, you know, a lot of issues are coming up for people. And that it's kind of like that retail therapy, but to the max where they feel like, okay, you know, a lot of times with retail therapy, people are like, okay, they're going and they're buying and shopping to this feel good. This is more out of like survival, they feel I'm out of control. I don't know when it's going to hit. So I'm going to stock up to gain control. That's why you have shelves that you know, in the shopping centers are just completely empty. I am not promoting that. I think it's actually causing more of a panic as

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people are seeing this. It's, it's dictating to others. It's like oh my god, other people are doing it, I need to do it and it just becomes a it has a domino effect on the community. So you need to just remain rational, not operate from the, you know, the place of fear. you operate from a logical perspective where you

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have, you know you have that trust, you have that trust in Allah and you know that you are going to,

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you're going to get through this inshallah, and there's nothing to you know, you can't, you're not going to help anyone, you're not going to help yourself, you're not going to help your family by being in a panic mode. And what's happening is that a lot of parents are going into panic mode. And guess who's watching, observing and learning the children. So the children are watching their parents freak out. They're, you know, hearing all this conversation, they're not demonstrating the parents are not demonstrating. That's how I could, they're not demonstrating maturity, they are not demonstrating anything, but complete loss of control. And guess what, those little kids are

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watching, observing, and they are going to be more prone to developing anxiety. And many months later, they might all sudden start having those panic attacks and anxiety or depression, because there's just too much stress. So As parents, we have a responsibility not to overreact, we have a responsibility to act in a very rational and responsible way because they are watching us. And we are teaching them how to react in a panic situation. When we had to when we came, we were living in Egypt and we came here for a summer vacation, I had my son in a in a very intensive six week summer camp, where we came. And then there was a military coup. And we actually we didn't go back to Egypt.

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So we had to stay. And all we had were our suitcases. We didn't pack up the house. Like we didn't say goodbye to our friends, the kids didn't get to say goodbye. It was a it was a kind of a spur of the moment. Now, they observe how we handled the situation. And our response was a llama ShareFile This is what a law plans, this must be good for us. We need to go with the flow, we need to be calm, we need to be in control, you know, kept it together, Mashallah Tabata Cola, and they learn to have the same response, they learned that you know what, and so now, if something happens, and I remember, there was a trip,

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I think my son and I were going to Singapore, for a unit for a conference. And, and we missed the flight and his first reaction. I mean, he was so excited about it, he had planned an itinerary, and it was like, it was just a very exciting trip for him. And when that happened, his first reaction was like, Mom, you don't know what it was probably for the best, maybe something was going to happen that was going to go wrong. And I'm humbled and like, you know, and it was just like this idea of learning from observing that this is how you deal with a crisis. And if we're not demonstrating that, then our our children, they are going to learn our negative, destructive patterns, and they're

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going to just act that out. And then we're going to be in a bigger mess, because then we're just like, Oh my gosh, now my kid has anxiety. Now they have depression. Why? Because we didn't really demonstrate the right behavior. Right. So some of the things that you can do, you know, get your information, like I said, Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the CDC, that's a very reliable source.

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develop an action plan, talk about you know, to your kids, what they can do, how to be safer, you know, feel that you are taking some, you know, you are proactive, then limit the amount of media consumption, you know, when you see case after case after case, it is going to really affect you, and then avoid the herd mentality, that herd mentality is like, Oh my gosh, you know, don't jump on the bandwagon. Oh, everybody's buying toilet paper, I gotta go buy toilet paper, I mean, you know, be be rational, we are a rational human being, and with sound mind and you know, use it, use it and don't just have that herd mentality. And you have to practice some self self care. I had a whole

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lesson on self care that that was one of the favorites of the sisters on the mindful heart. And it's about you know, self care, it's about, you know, how do you if you are in a good state of mind, if you're taking care of yourself, taking care of your body, your eating good, and all of that, then you are going to be less prone to getting this this illness right. And just be aware of if you have mental health conditions, and you feel like it's gotten worse. And these tips are, you know, maybe are not getting you over that hump. Maybe you need to see a mental health professional, talk it over. You know, I have a lot of clients that are dealing with the anxiety and we just had

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A few sessions like four or five sessions, I know that some some therapists will keep their clients for years, but I'm very much into like providing quick solutions that lasts. And within four or five sessions, they go from complaining anxiety, being limited, being constrained to Mashallah subotica new lease on life. So, you know, don't deprive yourself, seek the help invest in yourself, and be aware of the rumination and isolation, this rumination of just, you know, repeating to yourself it's Doomsday and this is going to happen or isolating yourself that that's not going to be healthy. Right. And, and I think that it is, as long as we take precaution, as long as we are being we're

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being smart, right? We're being smart, we're not going to go and you know, we're just don't go into like really huge public places where you may be infected, you know, wash your hands and be diligent half tawakkol Allah Allah and you know, the the Hadith of the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam.

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And I'm going to summarize it because I don't have it handy on me right now, but it is really about Let me see if I can get that head deep. It is about knowing that whatever is written for you, whatever is written is let me see. Okay.

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One second. All right, here it is.

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The Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam entered the mosque One day while a man from the unsign named Abu omaima was there the Prophet said, Oh, Abu omaima What is the matter that I see you sitting in the mosque? While it is not time for prayer? He said, O Messenger of Allah, I am compelled by anxiety and deaths. The Prophet salallahu alaihe salam Should I not teach you a word to say by which allow mighty will relieve you relieve your worry and complete your debt. He said, of course, messenger of Allah, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, say, in the morning and in the evening, Allah, I seek refuge in You from worry and sadness, I seek refuge in You from weakness and laziness, and I seek

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refuge in You from cowardice and miserliness. And I seek refuge in You from being overwhelmed by debt and tyranny of man. Okay, so that one is, is is really a beautiful dog that we can make. And that's what I was telling you. As far as, you know, as far as the,

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as far as you know, that morning and evening, mathcad. There's also that, you know, just knowing that your destiny has been, it's been written, the inks, you know, has been dried, it's all written now, and not to stress over it. No one if the whole world was to come to you, and plot against you, if a lot does not will for that to happen, it's not going to happen. And if the whole world was going to come and do something for you, and to help you a lot to happen, it's, it's not going to happen. And so this gives us two things. One, is that we put all our trust in a lot. It's not the people, it's not the people, it's not just your connection, it is about your connection with Allah,

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that will ultimately save us, right. And then the next thing is not to not to just have needless fear and panic, right? Because you you trust that everything is happening, you know, for a reason and won't happen unless Allah wills for it to happen. So now

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I wanted to share with you for those of you who are new those of you who just came on and you know, to hear about the Coronavirus, I'm so glad that you did I pray that it was beneficial. I want to share a little bit about the mindful hearts to you and see what you can benefit from this community because it's a phenomenal community you can join in, right it is, you know, I do life lessons. And it's about you know how to be the best version of yourself. It's about, you know, whether it's mentally, right, your thoughts, how to overcome stress, anxiety, how to think about things in a positive way, how to achieve your goals, how to have emotional intelligence that are people like you

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like they're all of these things. And, you know, some people may not know how it works. It's a subscription. It's like $10 a month, and you can get on or $100 a year and you become a member. And what happens is that

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this is a beautiful community. And you can join in at any time because these live lessons are all recorded, and you can watch at your own pace. So some people may say, Oh, I'm you know, I'm busy at work, I can't join in the life lesson. They're all there. You can learn from the beautiful information and what and I would love for the sisters who are here to just share maybe you know, you can share what

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This what the mindful heart has been for you so that they can they can learn from it. We have a private facebook page and it's a little utopia sisters I think you agree sister Nadia sister Romano as some of the volunteers here sister Sabina we welcome. And you know, we are a beautiful sisterhood and it is a little utopia and you can't find it anywhere else because everyone is very supportive. There's only positivity, there's only encouragement. And it is what true sisterhood should be right and we don't always experienced that in our communities unfortunately. But here in the mindful heart community you do experience it. So if you want to work on yourself if you want to improve improve

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the way you think if you improve the way you behave, and become a better version of yourself, you can you know, you can join in it's not too late you're not going to miss out it's all recorded. You can you know watch it at your own pace and we have these amazing group of you know, volunteers who write out notes and you know, so we have sister Nadia saying it's a beautiful supportive sisterhood Mashallah sister Ramana is saying this community is very uplifting and will always make you feel wonderful. Anyone who has a no whenever the sisters are having a bad day they're like all I do is I just go on the Facebook page I you know and i i read the stories and I get inspired or people share

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so they share what they're going through and and everyone gives support everyone's making the offer them and they're like encouraging sister on sensing mindful heart has been transformational, transformational for me, taught me to love myself others and live and most importantly I law and have the lessons I'm so glad. These are testimonies from sisters who have been on this and who have benefited and so really right now it's about it's not just like a launch like oh, you know, it's really about reporting the results right reporting the results of this amazing community full of information sister Nadia says sister Halas sessions are amazing Mashallah very professional and

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forwards is like a love affair. Thank you and sister Ramana saying the mindful heart is a wonderful group to join if you want to change your life in a positive way. We inspire, motivate and support each other on your personal development journey on hamdulillah. Thank you so much sisters for sharing because it's great to hear from the sisters who are you know that they've gone through it because I can sit there and talk about it. But when you when you hear from the ones who have gone through it, it's a totally different thing. Sister Sabina saying welcome new sister members, non members, mindful heart has changed my life completely. I have learned to manage my anxieties and

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I've learned men, I've learned ways to cope with low days. Alhamdulillah love it worth it. I love me great sister, Sabina. Thank you, sister. I be I am new here and I feel it's a great sisterhood. I can fall back on the Facebook page when I really need the love. That's so great. And the Thursday sessions are not short of therapy Alhamdulillah I'm so glad that it's been providing you with that support the inspiration. You know, if you want to just try it out, try it out for a month. The mindful hearts calm. Sr Ramana are one of if you could write the link to the group and we don't we don't want to like

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hug it right we want to share we want more people to experience this beautiful sisterhood we want more sisters to feel at peace to love themselves to to have a better outlook on life. So if you could put that link there and you know those of you if you have any questions we have another like few minutes, members, non members. If any of you are you know non members and you have any questions about the group, please go ahead and ask and I would be happy to answer your question.

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Oh, that's so sweet sister. Nadia is saying I will add that sister holla is extremely genuine martial legends aka Lofa sir Ramana Santa salaam aleikum, Sabina so good to see you here. Now there's really this beautiful connection and I this is probably one of the most fulfilling things I've done in my life really I love all the sisters and the mindful heart I really feel it's kind of like you know the hell up as I used to have in Egypt on steroids. It's global but the but the love is there the connection the Mashallah Tabata Kala it is it is really phenomenal. So let me know if you have any questions regarding whether it's about the talk, whether it's about the mindful hearts

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and I will be so happy to answer

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Because I have maybe about six more minutes of this and

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but really, I just want all of you to kind of put your mind at ease. I did decide to do this kind of last minute because I felt like a lot of sisters on the mindful hearts were asking questions about it. And I felt instead of doing my regular talk, which usually we have a PowerPoint and it's like it's very, it is very different our regular talks and the sisters can tell you about that. But the thing is that I felt this needed to be addressed and, and just to put everyone's minds at ease.

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So let me know in you know, if there is, if any of you are a little bit like more overwhelmed or you feel like you're demotivated or you feel less connected, try to make you know, try to make more dollars. And if that is not enough to get you over the hump, you know, try to seek some professional help. If you don't have to suffer you don't have to be miserable, right? So it's a sister naghmeh salam alayka are saying it's a beautiful journey. So this is saying the mindful hearts is a beautiful journey, where you get to learn a lot of critical things needed to have a mindful heart be positive and optimistic about life and above all, have tawakkul and be mindful of Alhamdulilah to

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cycle of fear sister to harlot, like a law fair to all of you beautiful sisters for joining in for sharing your experiences. And here sister Romana is putting the link you can join the mindful hearts by going to Oh, sister Romana it is the mindful hearts calm so if you could correct that place. So it's www the mindful and sister Nadia says sister Holly, this was very nice of you to open this up to non members to sokola hair. Way Yaki I knew that this is just something that everyone is experiencing and I didn't want to just keep it for our group I felt I want to just you know, contribute to the community at large and sister Ramona saying Sister naza saying I love you

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all my sisters we love you too. Sister naza sister Romana saying love your sister Holly, thank you so much for everything you do Alhamdulillah love you to sister Romana and all of your sisters. You know it is like I like I said it is a really beautiful community and it makes such a difference when you go through this journey of self development self change. You do it with a group of sisters like we're all gonna like we're gonna hold your hands we're gonna hold your hands through this and you're going to feel supported every step of the way. And so that's what makes it really exciting. It's not just a course you take on your own and then you like get a whole bunch of information like now what

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do I do right it is step by step guidance so I really hope that you give it a try just for a month you know try it out and see you know see what what you can benefit from inshallah so just like the law fair for all of you, and then sister Nadia saying yes, join us on the private facebook page definitely. Once you become a member then you can join the private facebook page and that's where you know there's a lot of sharing and Mashallah because it's private. You will see some really raw and do some really amazing testimonies and what people are going through and, and I love seeing I love seeing the sisterhood so chisako law fair. Sister naghmeh is saying, sister Nadia saying I do

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feel very supported by everyone here on Hamlet in line you're very supportive sister Nadia to everyone. Sister nagma saying yes, the panic is real and we really needed this just like a lot here sister holla I'm so glad that I hope How do you feel now after give me like a before and after before this lecture. How are you feeling about the Coronavirus and how are you feeling now how effective was this astrolabe please can we have the link for the one month membership? Can we have that?

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The link for the one month membership?

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Yes, the one month yes the one month membership. We will try to put that here. So Sister solei Can I join the group? Absolutely sister Sally, you can become a member. You just go to the th the mindful hearts with an S the mindful hearts calm. Okay, so we're saying she's feeling Alhamdulillah feeling better. Zero mana.

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Al Hamdulillah feels super good. Sabina, sister, Sabina saying the PowerPoints are so good. I'm always taking notes. I know the PowerPoints and that's what we do. Usually, I'm on the side I'm talking and then the PowerPoints are there. This was a very it was last minute and I just wanted to address it because it was very critical and crucial and just wanted to talk to you like we do like the q&a session. So inshallah you benefited sister Nadia is saying, I feel really happy after every session including right now I'll have the law. So glad that you're feeling good.

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Sister IBM, which PowerPoint You know, every time I do the lessons for mindful heart, there's always a PowerPoint, right we have and it's, I love doing them. It's just it's very colorful, it's very informative, and it makes it easy to follow along and get the notes so this was not a typical, mindful hard lesson because usually you do have the PowerPoint, but you get like a gist of it. Sr wotja is saying Alhamdulillah so much better I wasn't worried about the virus at all. I am going through some health issues and was freaked out male like who are you completely sisters? Let's pray for Sister wotja Baba she has health issues. May Allah cure her completely and protect all of those

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who are more susceptible who are maybe older or have respiratory problems and protect all the sisters worldwide, Yala. And cure all those who are infected by Ayala. Give us the cure and give us the vaccine and help us to see this as a wake up call to get closer to you to have more talakad and let us be our best version the best version of ourselves through calamities through these tests through the cha trials. Let us show our true faith because that's where it what it's for. Right? I mean it is

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it this is where our mind has to shine through. So let's see what else are the sister saying? We have?

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Sister Nachman hamdulillah feeling better and optimistic sister Holly was an uplifting session I'm so glad Sister naza I feel much better sister Nadia is saying and hamdulillah Sahaja and sister Sabina I mean when we do our sessions, we have sister holla on one sister holla on the other side and sister I beer by okay so I think she's explaining the fact that usually half the screen is me half screen is the PowerPoint.

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All right. Sister Nadia says I have asthma and I feel worried on and off but so much better today sister has just like a lot airway Yaki. I'm glad that it was beneficial May Allah protect all of you beautiful sisters and protect your families and protect everyone worldwide and whether it's the Coronavirus whether it's any illness whether it's any stress or mental mental disorder or war or famine or whatever it is worldwide May Allah bring the cure and help us to be a part of the solution not part of the problem. And sister NASA is saying that she has asthma to and May Allah protect Jews sister, NASA, okay, we have the monthly membership with a seven day free trial. Okay, so this is

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something new that we're doing. We're allowing you to try it out because we're that confident that you're going to love it inshallah. And you're going to be addicted to the mindful hearts in sha Allah and I know many of the sisters have that you know that the excitement and that connection sister Romana is saying May Allah allow you to have a clean bill of health soon Sister wotja amin, amin, Amin. So please share this sisters with the with your friends with your family. It is a monthly membership with a seven day free trial Okay, so they can come in join try it out and see see all that there is to learn and love inshallah. So it's like a love affair sisters for joining in and

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see you inshallah, one announcement next week is spring break for my children so we're going to have a break next week. So enjoy catch up, catch up on your videos if you're behind if you're new go ahead and sign up and inshallah you can you know watch some of the videos get a taste for it. But next Thursday there will be no live lesson but there are plenty of videos right I don't even I've lost track of how many videos and and there's lots of notes to help you along inshallah.

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Just like last year salaam aleikum,

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