The Obstacles to My Journey to Allah #06 – Jealousy

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AI: Summary © The importance of staying connected with Allah's subhanaw and not giving up on one's past is emphasized in a six-week program for women to learn about Islam. The speakers stress the importance of showing differences in one's journey to achieve goals and avoiding obstacles in life. Consciously acknowledging one's behavior and maintaining healthy mental health are emphasized, as well as setting boundaries and not seeking perfection in life.
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Bismillah your man you're walking.

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Welcome again

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said I'm not equal, everyone's Rama equals those who are with us online. This is our sixth Subhanallah as if we started yesterday, this is our sixth class. And this tells you one thing

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Subhanallah in my teaching this morning, I was saying the same thing. Because this week is our last week of the whole year, we have an engineer institute a whole one year program for a woman. It's called what is called the year of knowledge, what's everyone Muslim women should learn and we started Subhanallah September 12. And this week is the last week it's 33 weeks. It's 33 weeks, four days a week, 11 hours a week, humbler brandy, we have 110 students all over the world. And everybody was feeling sad as the last week and I said this any anytime we get to the end of anything, you have to remember this hadith of Roswaal risotto salaam he used to say it when he leaves your place. You

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said he says the following

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Ashima shooter find a community to live as long as you want going to die.

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Women find a common fairy, love whomsoever you want to love, at one day, you will leave him or her or they will leave you. But then the the message is this one will mash it in a community. Do whatever you want to do your seat.

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So life will and friends will leave, we will leave actually not necessarily they will leave we will leave the loved ones they will leave or we will leave except the deeds. So whenever we get to the end of something, we always have to remember this because even the raw Suarez auto set up, set it. So this is our six week handler running, we have two more weeks, maybe 33. Depends. But the next two weeks is going to be about diseases of the tongue. The tongue, my tongue, yours is the biggest obstacle to Allah subhanaw taala. And we're going to talk about it and that's why we made the two weeks because there's a lot of things we're going to cover in one class. All on backbiting. The

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major problem, Muslims have an I'm not gonna say Muslim woman, Muslims in general health. So today, if you remember, let's just recap everything so we can organize our thoughts. So what are we learning? We learned that this dunya this life, where I am right now younger old, Allah subhanaw taala puts me here for a reason. It's a journey for me to him in this life. And at the end when I go there. And this journey is a journey. Remember those of you who are with us in the first class, we said it is like a path set up almost a team. It's from A to Z. I start I started a

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Allah is testing us today.

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The mic is not working. Can you tell them please?

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It's like

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it's not working the mic brother.

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It's probably the battery. And the battery always dead. dies on Tuesdays, will humbler blind

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you always have to look at everything. Everything happens by the will of Allah Spanta. Nothing happens without his will. Nothing happened without his permission. So when I get upset and I started huffing and puffing, what I'm doing reality, huffing and puffing against the word of Allah.

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Right? And if I have one puff is going to change.

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If I smile, it's going to change. It's not going to change, but I will feel better. Right? So why don't you feel better? Basically, this is how you literally calm yourself and stay connected with Allah subhanaw taala. So basically, this alkaline, so basically this life is my journey. I want you all to remember this, you wake up in the morning, and then as you are going on to the end of the day, it's part of your life is moving. parts of your life is so humbling. So parts of your life is moving and yesterday's Paola, one of the most beautiful thing you have here is what you probably don't know it because you live here and get very used to it

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is the sunset on the ocean. It's a breath thick. So I do my best, especially if I'm fasting to go. I think there's something with the mic. It's not the

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As I'm doing, right, so I do my best, especially when I'm fasting to go and watch this and then break your fast as the sun setting. Right? What should come to you? As I was looking at? Where does the sun go?

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Where does the sun go?

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And don't tell me it goes to the east. I know that I'm not talking about this. We're talking about geography. I'm not talking about physics. I'm talking about Islamic knowledge. Where does the sun go?

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Now I'm very sad.

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Where does the sun go? Islamically Islamically. I'll give you a clue.

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Clueless. Nobody knows hamdulillah brand. So the sun basically goes and prostrate to Allah's pantile.

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Oh, you don't know that? Oh, that's another class we will do on the Shama. So basically,

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as I was watching, right, it was actually on my right as I was watching everybody, there. It's beautiful, since everyone was taking pictures and everything, and I was just looking and I was like, and it goes very quickly. If you have noticed, it goes very, very quickly, and it disappears. And I was like, subhanAllah, it's going to cross straight to Alas, pantalla. How many of us human beings are doing what the Sun is doing? That's number one. And that's one of the reasons we have the sunset solder. One, two. I remember it's the same they said it's still Hasan Basri where he said, Yep, not Adam, son of Adam.

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Daughter of Adam, you and me. You are but today's

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you are but days. When the day goes away, part of you goes away.

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Did you get that? So here you go. Today is 21st. Today 21st of June is the longest day of the year. I hope you know that. 200 Okay, good. So the day it's always good to learn a lot of things. This is how you are

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aware of what's happening around you. So the day Today's 21st By the time we finished the class sunset, that part of me and you is gone. And that's where I was pantalla said it's unsolo to me No. And he said the following people have Jahannam

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Allah will ask them on camera with TOEFL or the other destiny, how many years you stayed in this earth?

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Right if I asked you this question gonna say whatever, how many years your mom lived in on this earth? Whatever. If your mom passed away, may Allah bless her. You will say she lived 67/53 Whatever. The people of Ghana

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and I hope it's not of us. None of us are hungry, they will respond. Or they come live with TOEFL or the others is singing how many days you stayed in this earth correlate with now young woman. Oh, Baba young, we stay the day, or part of a day. For several hours, Dean, go and ask those who's counting. So what I'm trying to say is everything around us is my journey to Allah. That's why I was telling you all it's beautiful to have all these youth today. Mashallah. terroir Kala, it's beautiful. I would love for you to hear this. Because I wish I was your agent. Someone taught me this. That's my journey to Allah starts from the day I was born. And it ends the day. I go back to

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him. And this is a timeframe. I have no idea how long it is. Right? Could be a year could be a two could be 10 How do we know? 21 7080 What is the oldest person living on this earth? Still? No, not at 120 is 110 actually.

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Right? That's it. That's the longest so in this journey, let's say the average Muslims lives how long Don't tell me you don't know.

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That's a Roswaal a Sartre said he gave he gave a range. He gave a range

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60 to 70

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Mr. Almighty Baneasa tuna was a bone. That's what he said is the ages of my Alma Roswaal is AutoSum you and me between 60 and 70. So a good number of us getting there. Some passed it. So here I am in this 60 This is my journey.

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And I want everyone to remember younger and all I was not put on this earth to have fun.

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I was not put on this earth to spend money or let alone to collect money. So I spend more. I was not put on this earth to look beautiful or chase beauty. I was not put on this earth to compete with others. She has this melodic origin

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I was not put on this earth.

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To compete, why I was put on this earth

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as this question of our theater of creed of belief why I am here?

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What does worship Allah mean? You all answer every one time I ask this question to worship Allah What does that mean? So I do nothing I go home and close the door from morning to evening I pray and I fast are these Quran? Is that what he put me here for? So what did he Why did he put me here for it's in the Quran you translated correctly but it's this is not the meaning of it. It's Mahala to general insight in Allah. We are doing I did not create it there is engine but to you translate it to worship me but it is not. It is for what

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to know him.

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Say now blob nobis Allah She said, Yeah, Boo Duniyadari funa need to know me? How do I know Allah?

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Knowing at the creation, I don't want to go away from the topic. But just to get you into this. That's my journey.

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The path to Allah is as I am going, wherever I am, whatever age whatever stage in my life, whichever part of this world I am, my path is to him. And the focus is only one.

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And that is him. But then you're going to say so I don't study. So I don't get married. So don't have children. I don't get invite people. I don't go out with with friends. Yes or no.

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I want to hear it. Yeah, absolutely. Yes. So how do I combine these two?

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How do I combine these two.

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Every step in your life is Amin to get closer to Allah or further away. And the choice is mine and yours. I am in this class. The class is here you can attend or you cannot attend. Choice is yours. And Allah will not tell you me, telling me why this person attend or not. He's going to tell me to do deliver the message. And he's going to tell you or ask you, you came Why did you okay? Why did you come? The point? This is the journey.

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If I'm focused, if I keep reminding myself young and old, I am here on this earth for a purpose. And I need to serve the purpose. Otherwise, it's only 60 or 70 years. The day goes I can bring it back. I can't bring June 20 back again. And then I have to respond. So in this journey comes the obstacles who put the obstacles

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everything is by the permission of Allah subhanaw taala you have to be very careful when we speak about Allah. He everything by His permission. El Hierro Kulu lake shore Kulu VNA Ohio Sharon, a second date. That's what our salaries are to some set to a more all goodness is in your hand and show evil is not from you, Adam from Allah with Allah. He allowed these obstacles first obstacle we talked about was No, we didn't attend. Now. What was the first one

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dunya this life

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this life, the competition, the money, the wealth, the education, the beauty, this is all dunya as the main one is children and money a man who will burn second one was what

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was people people distract me from a lot of people making me disobey Allah either forced me lower me or make it beautiful for me to third one is now me. What is the problem in me? That is our not one our obstacles to Allah.

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Number one was Americans. Number two.

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I am sad. At least look at the flyer. No, I'm just kidding.

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Come on, ladies.

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Number two number three was keyboard number four.

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No anger was last week. That's why you remember

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showing showing off RIA ostentation doing things not for Allah doing things for me or to impress you and then

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I can't hear you. Anger was last week and this week.

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Hamdulillah. Now I have you all I have all your attention. Right. Okay. This is a joke. It's nice to bring the jokes. So I was traveling back this coming Sunday. And the Flight Center was so funny. You know, if you fly a lot, you never read this safety. And when they are demonstrating it, you're probably sleeping. So she was very smart. Actually. She raised their hand said Did somebody anybody

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Last this, and everyone looked at it. And of course it was the instruction. So it was really fun. I just want to share this with you. So what is jealousy?

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Let's let's get let's get serious. What is jealousy?

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Has anyone felt jealous? Show me the hands

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of vehicle harmed.

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It's 100% 100 Yeah, you know what the beauty of this group? Very honest,

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honest. People honest like you like you don't hide. Hello, this is me they know 100. So jealousy, what is jealousy? So you said all of you said yes. What is jealousy? Literally, is what

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is a feeling? It's actually called envy or jealousy, you have to know the difference, right? Envy is good. Jealousy is bad. So remember, this word will come to it. So basically, they always come together. This is the quality. And here could well have said they come together, malice and jealousy. What is malice? Have you been upset with someone? Where do I start? And that's someone really hurted you

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very common, what happens in your heart? Look inside, what happens in your heart, feeling of anger.

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Now you're getting it. There's a feeling of anger.

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And when the feeling of anger, I cannot translate it to retaliation. Either this person is stronger than me. This person, I'm afraid of this. There is a reason I cannot get it out.

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Build in me into malice,

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hatred, anger, malice, and then becomes jealousy. Or the other way around. So what is jealousy?

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Literally, someone has something. You don't have it.

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And you get so upset. It's anger. This the root of it is anger.

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You know how we say it? What do we say? Why not me?

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Why does she Why did she get accepted? I didn't.

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It's anger.

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And the other root of it. Now as I explained it, the other root of it.

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I can't hear you.

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And arrogance, arrogance. Why does she have it? I don't. What does that mean? I am better. I should have it. So this is the root of it. The jealousy the root of it is anger. And it is kibble. I should have it

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31 You probably never thought of it this way.

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is displeasing or you have or I am we are displeased with Allah decree.

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Have you ever thought of that?

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So somebody is prettier than me?

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What does she have to do with it?

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Nothing. Allah created her this way. Why I'm jealous from

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that means I am angry with whom?

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I want to hear it.

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And what I'm saying my head we say my actions saying what?

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Your law this is not I can't even say it but I have to explain it to you. Yeah, Allah, this is not fair.

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What I'm saying to Allah than which name of Allah, I'm negating

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the name of Allah. That just the just

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everything in this earth on this earth, actually in this universe, in Allah creation is just, and he created it in a duel measure.

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I don't see it. You may be not seeing it. We don't understand it because we are not the last pantalla so when is somebody prettier than me? And I get so upset when I see her. Especially when people praise her and they don't praise me. I need you all to think of this or mothers when your daughter is not as pretty as the other one. And people praise her and don't praise your daughter and get so upset and angry with that mother and upset with that girl. And you literally you're saying your mom you're not fair really? I don't

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know what did What did Allah it did? Has hazard jealousy been mentioned in the Quran?

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It's either yes no, I don't know. If you're gonna say yes you better tell me the if you were told me the verse.

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By Colorado Bureau Bill Philip. Misha Yamaha you all know them. Verse 100. I seek refuge. Get a good fella, the one who opened up the earth we shall be Mahala from the evil of what he created.

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And then you all know this and ended for me surely has it in either hazard and from the evil of that, who is jealous or envy? What does this verse tells you? Number one hazard is there.

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It's reality.

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It's not something from my imagination.

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And what should I do?

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It's in the worst.

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Seek Allah refuge. When you know that this person you don't have this right feeling and you feel uncomfortable or you hear it sometimes you hear it clearly. Clearly. I remember one time I was there and you see especially in your profession, on your professional IEP What do you see? Yeah, if you work you see this the competition killer and literally in front of me two to one said to me, this is not fair what she had

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they were praising her because she's better.

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So here you go. hazard is their number one. Number two, I need to know that and I need to know what to do right away shall go it alone. Run to Allah's pan dad. And ask Allah Subhana Allah to protect you. Why it is an obstacle.

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It's an obstacle to my path was Pankaj

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Think with me?

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Because I'm not pleased with him. And when I'm not pleased with him, I'm not close to him. That's one what else? You all raise your hand? And you said yes. I know when I'm analyzing it, you're looking at me? What is she saying?

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But why it's an obstacle to Allah Hunter. Because this is what we are studying why it is an obstacle to Mars pantalla

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what is the quickest? I'm going to give you clues always if I learn something, learn learn the opposite. What is the quickest way to I was

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like, I'm going to take jumbo jet and I'll go to Allah.

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Now, what is the quickest way to almost panther is two things.

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Love dua it's it's everything is here.

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The quickest way to Allah's pantile one isn't the Quran. You act with Allah's Pantai like a beggar. You have nothing you know nothing that scholars have the heart sounds the easiest way to open the door to Allah is Babel. When you say your Allah I know nothing. I can do nothing. You're the only one who can do it. That's one and the other one is the door of pleasure. You're pleased with Allah.

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Any Egyptian in this room?

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What is the most famous love? I personally to be the most lovable quote Egyptian said

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clearly give Robina coyness?

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Everything comes from Allah is good.

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It's very common slang statement is a statement of pleasure. You're pleased with Allah. You know what that means? If you're healthy is good. If you're sick, it's good.

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Yep, exactly. Exactly. Jasmine is beautiful. I love so the easiest way to get to a must pantalla is your unique him and you're pleased with him. What does he said does

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you're not pleased with him?

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I don't have it Why does she have it?

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Is there a good has said is it any good jealousy?

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Just a second one person yes or no? hamdulillah give me example.

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Just a second Bismillah

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so when you when you look at something, and USD

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I'm gonna give you a clue. It's a hadith of Rasul Allah Saltos. Yes

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lucha de la fitness attain

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envy jealousy is not allowed. There is no good jealousy acceptance to

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come on. I gave it to Euro Bismillah

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Yeah, but it's true but the hadith is specified something special gets you close to Allah. Let me give it to you. I think I asked her too many questions too. So let's be easy on it. Law has said that you left with nothing.

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has said is not

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is not come

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manageable is not something good unless it's in two things. Nothing to do with this dunya number one, a human being garage, old man or a woman, Allah gave them the Quran and they stand up and sada reading the Quran day and night.

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Do we are we journalists from these people? No.

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No? Oh, she can do it. That's fine. Okay.

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Right, you're laughing because through it's true.

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And second one, we are all jealous but not for that reason. We're rogering a man or a woman

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at our Allahumma Allah Allah gave them wealth when when they say mad net Kira and identify meaning millions and millions

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mana and then he spend it or she spent it for the sake of Allah

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did not spend it to compete or to buy more expensive cars or jewelry or travel or private jets, whatever it is.

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These are the only two anything else in your heart

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that made you feel jealousy you need to do what's right away. Shut it off.

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Shut it off.

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In the Quran. Absolutely. It was mentioned one is a little different than the other one. Allah said Susan and Lisa and the woman um yes, we're gonna NASA Tom along with public. Look at this. They are jealous from people because Allah gave them from his grace. Father, Athena Allah Ibrahim Al Kitab, our command and we have set gave the nation of Ibrahim of the people of Ibrahim the book and their wisdom,

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get jealous from other people, that they do anything. Especially when they don't do it, you see them, Allah made you see them that will get them closer to Allah. And at that point, it's not called jealousy, it is called

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And Allah said this in the Quran, Wafi dareka Juliet and alpha cinematography. So in this, let them compete. Who those who wants to compete and what is this?

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is calling a few 100 Rahim hiking tune in Jana. And Allah describes Jana and all the beauty of Jana and then he said, Go go and compete. I remember one of my teachers used to go before I moved to two days to go and stay in Makkah for a month. And I was like yo

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can costing Mac for a month. And I was explaining this and then immediately the response was of idiotic affiliates and efficent in office asked one he will give it to you. So it's in the Quran for sure. In the Sunnah, and I'm going to share some of the Hadith. Look what he said that a salatu salam. When I asked you you said 100% Right. Are you ready for this hadith

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Subhan Allah He said Wa that will omen that Mamma Mia public, Al has a dual model.

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It has penetrated you. It has infiltrated in you This is he saying it to the Sahaba This is more than 1400 years ago, if he's here with us, what would he have said? He said it has infiltrated you the diseases of the people before you.

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MV envy and malice.

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Subhan Allah absolutely is not something I should have. And if I have, I need to act on it. I should never say everybody else. It's natural. It's normal. What is the big deal? Then you will never change and look what he said. This is an order from him to you and me.

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And he said don't do the following. And he said law don't do it. Latifah don't hate each other.

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Don't hate each other. One second latter quarter of don't cut the relationships.

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Why when I read this? I was like if he is with us these days.

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What we're gonna say what he will say.

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Latifah Hodel don't hate each other Latta Otto don't cut the relationship I'll comment on it in a second without the hassle do Do not be jealous of each other while at the double. Do not turn your back to the others. However be what Kuno attended let you all know the Hadith. Khun what a bad Allah one. The two things servant of Allah and sisters

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let's issue

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You only understand this hadith is more than enough.

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What when he said that about Hodel? Don't hate each other? Why do I hate you? Or you hate me?

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Think with me, Look into your hearts. Why do you hate someone? And you see children, children

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234 They start talking, I hate

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to see that,

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let alone older, let alone adults. Wait and see what I will do to her? Why?

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Why are we jealous? And I'm going to ask you all these questions. I'll give you the bottom line, which he told us is AUTOSAR.

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Why are we jealous from each other? And he said, Don't do it. Don't meaning order, meaning it's an obligation, meaning if I do it, I'm going to be punished. And if I don't do it, I will be rewarded. So now you're going to come and tell me so I have no feelings. I was like, no feelings are there. But what should we do?

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Control like anger what we said last week, you control it, but you act on it. And don't keep talking about it. Because the more we talk about it, what happens? It's gonna come out.

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Not about oh, don't hate each other. Spa and massage it you'll see it. In massage. It's in the houses of Allah.

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Don't hate each other. Don't envy each other. Don't cut the relationship. You don't like her. You don't have to like Everybody pull away. And especially if this is your relatives, blood relatives, I will never talk to her. Don't do that. You are the loser.

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Don't don't cut pull away. Yes, limit the relationship. That's fine, but don't cut it. What are Takato? What are the double? The double meaning you will move away from each other? She needs something, it's not my business. She never helped me I'm not going to do this. And be order. If I do it, I will be rewarded. And if I don't do it, I will be punished. Two things. What is a battle Allah? What is the servant of Allah? Are you

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who can in this room and also online? raise her hand confidently. And uh, why singing me? And I say Allah on your servant

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reading really? Okay. Let's, let's bring this on what Allah said about a bad Rama.

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He said it in the Quran. A battle Rahman, the solvents of a rough man. He didn't say Allah. He said a rough man's even more status. I and you are the servants of Allah, not created of creation of Allah. Of course we all are. But this is special status. Who are they? Allah says Allah Zenon one, I'm sure now a lot of the Hona they work on this Earth, with humbleness, with humility, with being careful with cars being considered everything not considered only of people, considerate of the Earth, any creation of Allah. I remember one of my teachers used to say when you you know one of the annoying noises you hear is when the doors screen like you hear the door noise and all our face like

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right away. And he said don't do that. It's the creation of Allah

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Subhana Allah. I'm sure not a lot of the Honan they walk on this earth. Gentle, humble. You know, it's not like what again, Egyptian says what you are then had demotic and D. This is a statement of Kibber Earth crumble. There's nobody like you on top of you like me.

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You I'm sure none of the homeowner they walk not necessarily only walk, they act, they interact. That's their character on this earth. How we're gonna look at the word Allah He was Hona meaning

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take your time. Gentle, be considerate. Think of other people. You're not the only one on this earth, including animals. Second, and this applies to all the diseases we covered. Why the hotter Bahamas Jaya Halona audio Salama when the ignorant speaks to them. They say Peace be upon you. When someone tells you are ugly,

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and there is people like that,

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if you are a bad Rahman, the answer is

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no answer. That's a slam.

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No answer.

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How many of us can do that?

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Look at you like what

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When I see someone better than me, or somebody applied for a job and I am more qualified, if you look at my CV and you look at her CV I'm more qualified by the standard of dunya but I didn't get it. Why do I get upset with

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Salah Salam they were ignorant the people who did the interview and number one you say that Allah Masha Allah decree and whatever Allah decree happens

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so cool Ebert Allah and then if you continue on them with their description ha ha Jana Kalu ceramah well Alina

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um Falco let me see follow me actor when they spend they are not wasteful and not only money What is the biggest thing we waste? I'm sorry. Definitely a number two if not number one equal.

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I am thinking of the masjid

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next I don't even know it that's a big problem.

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look at the go to the area of the hole Do you know what I call it? Floods zoom

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right? Why the water is running? Why

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can't you turn it off? And then turn it on again? How much he used water to make although Elisa to sell

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a cup doesn't this happen this

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and no one did better than him wastefulness site don't tell me what it by the law. Are you bad Rama and you anyways? Anything? Food time, energy, let alone resources for you and then they're a badass. They don't kill they don't commit Zina. They don't look at haram and they don't associate with ALLAH Spandana so I am not. I hope I will be Kulu that's what he said to be meaning I need to struggle. One. Sisters we all call each other sisters. But do we act as sisters?

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May Allah reward this mouth?

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What is beauty is this. I'm taking you with me wherever I go. Right? No, we don't. She's right. She's right. We don't act like sister we say it's an American sister. How are you? The moment I say this I turned my back

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on either either something in my heart or something said already.

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So that's about horrible. Don't hate each other. Memorize this. Memorize it because you all love Roswaal. So to sum we all do. I know why we don't do these things. Don't hate each other. Don't cut the relationship. Don't be jealous of each other and don't turn away from each other. Rather be this. How many of you think they did 20 has an ad today?

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22 Zero.

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What is the number one thing that eights the good deeds?

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That's his scene and he salatu salam in their husband. He of course has an Kamata Kuru, novel,

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jealousy, eats up, eats up your good deeds, that Salah that you struggled that fasting of Ramadan, that good deed you did that forgiveness you had and you struggle to forgive somebody, you are jealous from someone. And then this is going to eat it like when you're put how many of you have used wood in a real fireplace? Right? It's beautiful. And it's exactly how it is the fire will eat the wood. And then jealousy will eat your good deeds. Now the sources of oh, let me see this one. Also on a sword was imagine this. This is really nice. So he was sitting with his companions. And a man came in the name of the man is not mentioned in this hadith.

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And the man came in and he said a man is going to come before he came in. He said a man is going to come in and that man is a person of Jannah imagine this as you I wish it was me.

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What can I do? Right?

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And then the man came in. And the next day he said the same thing. A man of John is gonna come and the same man came in. Now you imagine what are we going to do all of us? Jump on? Or him? I was like, come on in. What did you do? What is it and that's exactly what he did what they did for Su Ada and Amedy Okay, come on. What do you do? So how many Salah and then if you do, how many days you fast how much charity you give? How many millions?

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What did he say?

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He said and I'm going to read it to you per color.

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I have not done much

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except one thing.

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Every night when I go to bed, I don't have anything in my heart against anybody.

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I haven't done much.

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Except this one. I don't have anything when I go to bed. There is no hatred. There is no jealousy. There is no anger, there is no malice against any human being. And don't tell me you don't know what she did.

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Because there is nobody lived in this life and has not been hurted by human beings. Can anyone's claim this claim? Young or old? No way. Right. So this is not an exception and this Man with No Name, to make it a point that yes, this is possible.

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Every night you go to bed, this is one of the best way of cleansing your heart. You know, Have you washed dishes? Of course you have what do you do? You put a show up and

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and and you respond right or something? Right? So every night before he goes to bed? Think of this. Your heart and mind is that plate I had dinner in and I need to clean it. And the best way to clean it is just think don't think what they did to me. Think think you know what? I've done more? I want to go to Jana.

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I want to be that person and let me clear it.

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I've been sitting in the famous Muhammad mercy and the one who's you probably know the name was a famous person in doing what? interpreting dreams. He's the famous scholar of interpreting dreams long time ago. And he said, I have never looked at that. I've never felt jealous. Y'all never said Never.

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And they asked him How come? He said because I looked at them. They are either from the people of Ghana, or they are people off. What are you Billa of the Hellfire. If they are people of Jana. Jana is big enough that I can accommodate me also. They are not the only one going to Japan I can go to so why I'm jealous. And if they're from the people of the Hellfire, why I'm jealous from them.

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etc, how they look at things, how they treat their diseases. They don't feeds it, what's happens to us? We feeds it. And when we talk to everybody, when we talk to somebody else, what do we do? Really? That's how it is. And what did you do? We don't extinguish the fire or the ill feeling we actually feed it versus I rational rationalize things and I say okay, she's going to Jana. You know what? You're going to Jana Shala. I'll see you there.

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That calmness, and the first crime or the only crime that was done both and heavens an Earth is

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jealousy. Yes or no? Okay, I'm glad who did it? Shaitan What did he do?

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He was jealous from

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say now, Adam, and what happened on this earth?

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What's happened? I can't hear it.

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I can't hear you one of you please.

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Go ahead.

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So that's all brothers. This is typical. I'll share the story with you you probably know it. Right? What through Allah who never met Adam I will happen recite to them tell them this is automatic that the table tell them the story of two brothers, and no name. No name in the Quran is the son of Adam, the sons of Adam. Vinay Adam, the two sons of Adam is Kaurava Urbana they donated look at it this way right to Allah subhanho wa Taala and sacrifice like this is the time next week will be the whole binary time right for to OB lemon a hottie Hema whatever we took up a minute, Allah accepted one and didn't accept the other. What is the fault of the person who Allah accepted his sacrifice?

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What is the fault?

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Nothing. Did you get the point? Nothing. Photocopy lemon Halima? What am I doing an AHA he got so jealous. Luck to Ron.

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Paul aktuellen Nick, I'm gonna kill you. Now look at the other one. And scholars tells you that's why Allah accepted from that person and not from this person. It's your tongue. It's your response. The other one imagine this is you and me. And you look at me and says I'm gonna kill you. What's the normal response?

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Oh can you first?

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Right? What did he say?

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He says are in America but one thing.

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I have nothing to do with Allah, except from those who he knows what's in their heart, taqwa piety. Then if you're going to put your hand forward to kill me, I will never do that.

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I will not do that.

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Because I don't want to upset Allah subhanaw taala. That's us.

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Which one we are?

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Which brother? Now nobody's answering

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now is London. Yes.

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Self Defense is a complete different story. There's no jealousy in self defense. But again, you have to be sure what is self defense me? Because this is a different story. But in general, in general, is you and I, your manners, who you are, shows up when.

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When you are tested. When someone don't treat you well, when someone insults you, it's not when someone is good for you. If somebody is good for you, and you're not good, you need to go and get treated. But it is when somebody is good for you, you know what's the name of travel in Arabic?

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Safar, mashallah, why is called suffer?

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Because it's exposed people say no more. So a man praising another man in the masjid praising.

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And he said, Did you travel with him?

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And the man said, No. He said, did you deal with him with money? He said, No. And he said, then you don't know.

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And don't praise Him.

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So here you go. Two brothers, jealousy and ended up in killing.

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The origin of it is what? Don't forget that anger and kibble. I am better than him and Allah did not accept it from me. I'm gonna kill you. And what's happened?

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He killed him or not? Absolutely, he killed him.

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And also Elisa to Samsung. Are you ready? Did you get tired? It's overwhelming. It is. I can see it's reality. What can I do? I can't change it. Right. Or I saw they saw to see this guy. Make a few little bit better little. He said there are three things no human being will miss.

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Helen Landrum in one Honda. Nobody three things. Write this down.

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Three things no human being will not have this. Number one, oven suspicion

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to appear on omen

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and three Alesund. Jealousy. Every human being will have these three, nine injuries and nobody meaning feeling not action feeling. Have you ever felt? thought ill of someone? Of course. Have you ever didn't like it?

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Why this bird is here? I don't like it. That doesn't look good. Today's Friday the 13th I'm not doing anything a slayer.

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Right? You see it all the time. That's clearly that's Omen, not Muslims. And that has said?

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And then he said, and I'll give you the how do you save yourself from this?

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What do you do? How do you save yourself in this? We have only eight minutes left. So

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how do you save yourself from these three?

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This is in the heavy. Any idea? Number one, this is number one is extremely important. Either one and

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if you are suspicious, don't pursue it.

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and the rest you all understand wives,

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put out to help. Don't pursue it. Don't check their phones. Don't listen to what they are saying. No. You know what will happen? What a lie. And I said to Allah and Allah is my witness. If you had that connection with Allah subhanaw taala

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and you have this feeling and you stopped it because he told you don't do whatever you thought was what Allah is going to come to you.

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It's going to come to you on a piece is good as a gift. Just be patient. Number one, without proper Yata family if you have that bad omen do it.

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I'm not going to do this this Friday. 13th go and do it.

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I'm not going to do it because she said this go and do it with our volunteer family go and do it do exactly opposite What's your neffs inside you tell you

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what either has said palatability and when you have this jealousy feeling, do not pass the limit.

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Don't act upon it. What is the most famous story of jealousy in the Quran?

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Satan Yusuf and his brothers, why? What did he do?

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Nothing Exactly. Although they also have been around in the US who are who are bullied into being a minority and also what our Daddy loves us but what is your saved it

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and he paid the price for 40 years

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40 years he was eight or nine when they throw him in the world. One day we will do so too. So for you short love Allah Who wins nine years in the one

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and pay the price for 40 years till he became a disease. What is the Center for that trouble when you are jealous? Don't overdo it. The reasons we are jealous I'm just gonna give you 12345 here because at the time number one is hatred.

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Hatred don't hate people don't say I hate what should I do if I don't have this feeling? If I have this feeling have you had this feeling you hate somebody? Horse? Really Mashallah. haven't lived long enough yet mighty?

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It's gonna come it's natural. Right? Which sometimes is the right feeling. I shouldn't dislike not the person, I should dislike their actions, but not the person because the person is a creation of Allah, but their action. So number one is if you have this hatred, this anger against someone, what do you do? It's a dua in the Quran.

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Or Abernathy, John Colombina valen realtyna. Amazon, your law. Please don't put in my heart in our hearts. This malice feeding against the believers.

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Rob banana aka Jason slaughter hotshot, Rob burner Latisha I feel Perugina really real is hatred with anger, smell us to anyone who's a believer. Whatever she did while like young and I said send me Allah forgive me. I use this word, person A lot today. But if you practice this dua,

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I can tell you what happens to your heart a lot and you have your kuruva don't put in my heart.

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Or don't allow this feeling to penetrate real anger and hatred to the believers. Enough, you say that you're not good

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enough you love Roswaal is salatu salam. I don't like what you do. Yes, natural, especially or shouldn't be only if you are disobeying Allah.

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But just because you said this or that don't do that. So number one is hatred to arrogance. To talk about this, go back to day three week three Americans number four self admiration.

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You think you're good? You think you're the most beautiful girl. You think you're the best wife? You're the best husband. You're the best child, you know, you keep praising yourself. You look at the mirror and you say wow.

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Don't do that, that will generate arrogance. Next reason. And this is really important, especially at workplace.

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You want to be the leader. Humbly as they call it, the love of leadership.

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You go as a camping, any group they have to have a leader. Otherwise the the ship was sick, and they chose someone else. What happens? Why not me? And what does she have? I don't have and you get upset with her. That tells me I want to be a leader

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who asked the Roswaal a saw to set him to be a leader and he said don't

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his uncle labas and he said Don't. Don't.

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The meaning is if Allah did not choose you to be a leader don't look for it. It's not good for you.

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Be pleased with a loss decree or the Allahu Anhu Murad one Allah has pleased with them and they are pleased with it. He didn't make you a leader than hamdulillah Hildebrand. The other reason is enough. Smee

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vileness, bad knifes full of bad qualities. Look at your surroundings. Who are your friends? What are you watching? What are you reading?

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This all poisons gradually, penetrate, filled, infiltrate the heart. And then the heart becomes sick and ill. And the last one is mindfulness.

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Boy, miserliness. I have to have it. It's mine. And if somebody else has it, I get jealous. No one with a pure heart. No one working on cleaning their heart, have this feeling, let alone act on that feeling.

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And then it's very nice. He says, the problem is these days, it's abundance of jealousy. See, I asked you the beginning of the class, and I said, 100%

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it's cutthroat will hazard it's abundant. It's everywhere. The root cause and I will end up here

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is loving dunya

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love this life.

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And I will leave you with this. Learn the reality.

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I highly recommend and you're gonna say why you're saying this because this really is helpful. Visit graveyards

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go and see the reality of this life where we will end whatever we are going to live young and old. can end up there.

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And why you are losing all this for that.

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Aloha kiddo. This is a scene for a wise man. He said an alkane The wise person has the three qualities and you told me if you are allowed to mentor aka dunya cobbler into Toka left the slide before my wife leaves him or her.

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While I'm Mara Cobra vocabulary, Atala furnished and flourished the grave before he or she enters while Obama hola Kubla Al

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and pleased his Lord before he or she meet him. May Allah Subhana Allah make us of the CRB Amin Subhana Colombo, the Hindi shadow unlike the Highland iStockphoto COLA to booty so Allah Allah saved now by the Allah He was hard to test the monkey theory hamdullah we finished on time any question? You are overwhelmed today please forgive me but it is reality.

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Yes, yeah Jasmine tough up buddy.

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This is this I'm adopting this girl

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have ordered Jasmine, what do you want to tell him? For the adult for our viewer online? She's 10 years old. Mashallah.

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That's okay, that's okay. You need to get ready for all these they teach this in schools.

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So what is Xena? Xena is an intimate relationship between man and a woman outside marriage. Is that clear? Handle?

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Any other question please? Easier than the one I just heard.

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And it costs even people online please. We have people all over the worlds powered by this 250 people watching us?

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Exactly. I was waiting for this question. As long as any of what we learned our feelings. You did not translate it to actions were not a comfortable. Now don't smile, or zakra hamdulillah hellos I'm gonna go from fields. No, exactly. I was like, no, because if you keep feeling it, what will happen? It will come out one day, either in action or in words. So the moment you have the feeling suppress it. That's why I shared with you the Doha. Because again, we are human beings, you have to know this. We are not angels, we have feelings, we get irritated. We're not strong all the time we go up and down. So when you have this feeling right away, suppress it. Now when we are explaining what is

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the feelings because I need to know this feeling is feeling of anger, this feeling feeling of jealousy suppress it, but we do not are not taken accountable. That's why when a Sahaba last pantalla send the verse. Yeah, you're on to dinner. I'm in LA haka to party. Yeah. All believers have the Taqwa of Allah to the what Allah words. The Sahaba said we're done. Then, how can I be more dirty I am Allah conscious what Allah deserve. Then Allah revealed and sorted to harbor what the Allah has tatata and have Taqwa of Allah as much as you can. They said hamdulillah now this is possible. So again, don't be too harsh on yourself. But also don't be too lenient. Keep yourself

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check. You know how many times we keep people check. She said that she looked this way. You keep yourself under check. Any other questions? Yes, please.

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I'm going to show let me say to everybody here it and the people online. So you're commenting on the Hadith when a man came into the room and other Saudi salatu salam said, this is a man of genuine, okay

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do the things that would make him a person of generality be charity,

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you know all those things, and he wasn't doing enough or he wasn't doing as much as you know the best. But he knew that this was you know, this was an important

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part she wasn't doing extras, but this feeling is very important

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that this was something that will take away from Alaska. He so what is the question? I'm trying to understand that was this something that he knew already and was actively

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prevent itself from?

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Why do we complicate things?

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The bottom line, anytime a resort is thought to sit down so she was saying is that something he knew? Or he had an he's fighting?

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I don't know. Because the Hadith didn't say it. The idea the Hadith teaches me the following. There's so many among you study the hadith of rasa, or is AUTOSAR there's so many lessons, literally. I mean, there's sometimes you get 100 lessons from one Hadith. One, there's a hadith about knowledge on the benefits. 100 What do you learn, Jana?

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To get me to gender. I have many doors. I have many ways. So the person who doesn't have a lot of Salah doesn't mean he's not going to go to gender.

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The key to gender is what?

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The key to gender there is no gender. There's no key unless what is the key? I can't hear you.

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La Ilaha illa Allah.

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If anyone says La either in Allah, you're going to Jana. The question is how long it will take me? Because that's what he said to his uncle Alia salatu salam, ala Hayama just said he was dying. Can I just say it as far behind as if I will be holochain Dobby? I will intercede for you How was to say it. So anyone who says died i Allah don't despair.

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Whatever they are doing, that's not an invitation to disobey Allah. But this is a breath because talk to the reverse. I don't know if there's any reports in this room. When they see their parents or their sister or their children. They accept the standard they are not. And you know, the key for it. Is that right along. Now comes the next Jana to go to Jana, after Allah's pantalla opened it. Roswell is what was the first one who will open the gate, but after I Allah gave me the key, then what else gets me to Jana?

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One answer is a skill.

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It's a skill. That's what Allah repeatedly said in the Quran. For man taco let's ma 01 The scale is heavy, then I'm going to run. If the scale is not heavy, then the path to General will take a longer time. Now there's a very famous Hadith this will answer your request in sha Allah What else need anybody knows this hadith? I said rule number then mirthless. Do you know who's the bankrupt?

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Do you know who's the bankrupt? That's the question he asked the Sahaba it's like bankrupt the person who doesn't have money. And he said no. The bankrupt is the person who came to Allah listen to this came to Allah was salah, Siyam prayers, not only obligation prayers, so fasting, charity, all these good deeds were lacking

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shutter Mahara course this one was ALLAH Maha Yoga. And he did injustice to this person. Well, I can imagine the harder all relationship with other people and his good deeds gradually were taken. were taken were taken till the whole good deeds done, but he still did not pay the do the bad deeds or that person will be given to him.

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So going to Jana, what is the Hadith teaches me if my heart is pure, I am not going to curse someone. I am not going to be jealous. I am not going to hurt people. I am going to be focused on me and my relationship with Allah. Of course I'm going to go to gentlemen

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Did you get the idea of it? The focus of this hadith is on the heart.

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When you go to bed, How clean is your heart? What are you seeing? And don't tell me you don't know what they did to me, she is me. Of course, any other person have never had any, anybody around them and did not teach someone.

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So gentlemen, remember this sarcolemma was, you know, keep adding every time you why, if you lived in England, you don't have as much here. But if you lived in England, in some parts of the world, they have skills in the grocery stores. Right? Think of your scale, when you put things in there. I always do that. When you go and buy gold. You see the gold? Of course you do. Right. And then when they put it they really, this is my skill on Day of Judgment.

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It's going to be so glad to glom on Epson Sharia, as a symphony when kind of it's kind of headbutt him in the routine, Athena Manhart, didn't attain abbia. And it was an atom weight of something, it's going to be there on that day and the scale. So focus on your scale. Each one of you in this room, Allah gave her an ability to do a good deed, maybe didn't give it to somebody else. Like say, Now beloved numbers are the famous Sahabi. It was so hard for him to fast. He was very thin. That's the rasa risotto. Sam commented on his legs. And he said his legs is heavier than the mountain of 100. But it was hard for him to fast. I mean, outside the obligation. So each one of you in this

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room, Allah gave her at least one and everybody was listening to me. One is not even more off abilities to do good. ask Allah to show you one. And when he shows you do it.

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And then your skill could be way heavier, and the person who spends all the time in the masjid

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last question, we'll stop. Yes.

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Yes, please.

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present Islam as best we can. We want to present Islam as best as we can. Your OB, Amin,

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and then West.

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Like you mentioned, if someone says you're ugly, or took your right away, I feel what is the best way to present it, especially if you want to give your rights back. And you want to be like a weak person. Okay, so this is a good question. The question is the following is a very practical question, whether at work, whether it's home, whether it's usually with somebody else, so somebody transgressed against you to cure right? How should I respond? Number one, did he really or she really transgressed?

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Don't only, yes, which can I be wrong?

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So number one, I have to pause for a second and say that she tries to get us to always take yourself accountable before you take people accountable. Because the easiest is to blame people. Right? It's her fault. I didn't do it. It's happened. It's very hard to take response. So number one, take your time. Let's assume it's for sure. It's for sure.

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I have two choices in this like, you know what, I love this. Why I love a stamp and what?

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Said dean of choice. I love to choose. I love to choose, and I don't feel I have to do it is my choice. And people always ask me, is hijab, a choice? It's very common question. That's a tricky.

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Yes or No, I don't know.

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That's a politically correct answer. So it's not a choice at all.

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It is a choice, just a second of two for Aha, here.

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We have two school of thoughts here. One says it's a choice and other one says absolutely not. That's Oh, she said, you know, what's the choice? It's my choice to obey Allah or not.

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Everything is a choice. Obey Allah hada. You want to pray God, you don't want to pray? Don't your choice. And I say to myself, not to you as like, Okay, you better have a good excuse, when you're standing in front of him in that private interview, to tell him why you did not do it. So come back to you. So I have two choices here.

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Either I'm going to be a must actually there's a three.

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Here there's three choices, either I'm going to be my son, I'm going to treat their situation with excellence in our hyper Masini. Allah loves those who are with us things with excellence one and I'll come to your house. Second justice. In Aloha model, Bill agree Allah order us to treat people with justice. Other the third choice

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angels in this room

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no, you already did their son, their opposite, injustice.

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Injustice, I respond. So imagine someone comes and says You are this. Remember last week

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you forgot that example. Omar Abdulaziz when he entered the masjid, and the masjid was dark, and he tripped in he stepped on the hand of the man. The man looked at him and says, Are you blind? This is a matter of not realizing this is the leader. This is the fixed Khalifa. Right? What did he say? I'm not the gods were so upset about what's wrong with you. They asked the question. I said, No, that's a son.

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If he responded, and he said, I am not. Right, like you are not, and I just didn't see you. Justice.

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If he responses, how dare you say this to me? That's injustice.

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You can be the sweetest, the most excellent person and you're never weak. In fact, in fact, the strength, honestly, is when you responded away, 99.9% of the people will not do it.

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Because it's very hard.

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So it's not a weakness. It is my choice to obey Allah, if your focus, and my focus is Allah and Jana, absolutely, this will happen.

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It's actually happened to me very recently, when I was flying. And there was the plane, there is no seats. And the man absolutely said no.

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He said this, this chair is reserved and the airline does not allow. So I immediately thought, I have two choices, make a scene in that plane. And respondent says, Nope, I'm sitting right there. Or the hot Obama jacket. And

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of course, I chose hot about John Coliseum. And the flight attendant was in front of me waiting to see what I'm gonna do. And guess what, nobody came and sat next to him.

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But then I looked at the last Fantana says, Yo, Allah, I want my reward there. So this is how it is no, I really mean it. I really mean it. It's how you stay calm. always connected to the last contact, look at him. Talk to him. If you look at people, it's very difficult. And that's how it is strength is actually when you are right. And you forgive, like Roswaal use AutoSum as evenings.

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Does that come off? Here? I think everybody's looking at me. When are we going to end?

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Can I take one more question brother ASA are we have to get that? Okay. They are very generous design. Lacaille? Yes.

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I did not grow up here. You did not grow up here. Okay. Why come to the No?

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That's not true.

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Actually, sometimes. Absolutely.

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And sometimes it's not that depends.

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Think they see it as a weakness?

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That you did not respond who did not react? It's a weakness in your character. Why not? Me? I'm strong. I can stand up for myself. I can respond. I can. You know, when when you don't want they will say this. You know, when will they say this? They don't people don't judge you from one.

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If they see you standing up and speaking about Islam, and you are very confident and you're the only woman who wears hijab, in that workplace, you're not, you're not weak. I say this to every woman. If you're a professional, and you are hijab in your workplace, don't tell me your week. Period. Yeah, the only the people who worked wearing hijab knows what I'm talking about. Because all the challenges you get an all the looks and all the comments, right? And the easiest thing is just take it off and be like everybody else. So I am not. It's your behavior. It's your body language. And when you tell people and and this is what I say to the younger generation, it's your choice. I

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always say this to people, so choose your attention to it's your choice. But believe me, when people are polite, but firm, this is actually how they teach you in the professional world. When you're responding emails, be polite, but firm.

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For Meaning you're strong, polite, you have manners,

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it's you just have to show it in your day in your daily actions, not in that moment in your daily action.

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Noticed like even the younger generation can hinder you so it's not just about the job. I feel like it's about just daily interactions with other people, whether it's school or friends or branding. And they I feel like maybe the society make the school baby I don't know what it is. Something is coming up if they don't stand up for themselves if they don't react and respond right away. I tell you what, I'm not saying don't respond.

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You have to know this respond to stand up. It's absolutely it's how you do it.

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You have to know, you stand up for people and they take your right absolutely have I done that? Oh, I can write a book about.

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But it's how you do it is how when do you stay quiet? And when you choose the right moment to respond, and do you know, and so Nelson Mandela, everybody, Hampton.

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That's okay, Jasmine when you're when you're young. So if you go to South Africa, which is a beautiful place to visit, and there is he has a museum, his museum is similar to what he grew up. And then you see all the pictures of him how long he stayed in prison

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727 years. And they say, he was so wise, that everything he say or don't say, or act or does not act serves a purpose. And I wrote this in my own eyes, and they saw the picture. So he was in prison.

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And he was there. They were interrogating him. And a friend of his came in. And he saw him suddenly got so upset. And they called him Madiba, that's his name. And he looks at him says Madiba, you'll never lose your temper.

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And he said, I lose my temper when it serves the purpose.

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Did you get the answer? That's what I need to teach my children. And this generation, actually, to be honest with you. There's a lot of goods in this generation because they know how they stand up for their rights. We did We did not grow up this way. We learned it here. Right? Say that Aisha stood up for her rights that no woman stood up for her rights these days, like she did. So not everything they do, but the way sometimes it needs to be tamed.

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And that's the culture but that's where it comes. But standing up for the right Absolutely. Especially for a woman in a polite way.

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In a polite politeness is extremely important because you're presenting the deen you're not presenting yourself. Is that Kamala hair? I think we need to stop what time is it? Okay, one more minutes, brother.

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The people online is still with us. Okay, this is the longest I've ever done it.

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hamdulillah Okay, a lot of comments. People were making that I deserve a just

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so sometimes when they said, What do you

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recommend? I said, because I want every day to be a good fit for me. And so you you broke the ice I wanted to meet or somebody or have you got this question always, like you have a bad day, bad hair day. Like every day is a bad hair day. I start laughing I was like, Oh, she has a sense of humor. So she can talk. You know, this is how you This is how you break and you're right and then you take the opportunity and and you bring those stories I can tell you from now till I share stories,

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but have not abandoned the idea. The point is, is we need to work on sight. And this is young and old. You work and there is nothing nothing will give you the peace inside your heart unless you're connected with a source of peace or love that you're no longer interested in. Minka Santa Hmm you know banaba Sinha, your Allah you are the peace Minkus around from you peace comes in your Allah make us live in peace your ebme Does that come along? He was on a Colombo behind the eyeshadow on like a stuffy rocoto boudic solo and I say no hammer. While it was hard to steam and cathedral resulting a lot higher and please forgive me. I won't wait