Haifaa Younis – Ask the Sheikha – Part 3

Haifaa Younis
AI: Summary © The importance of learning one's Hadith and prioritizing taking actions before starting a career is crucial to achieving Islam. It is also important to avoid wasting time and overdoing things. The importance of finding a partner for a woman who wants to marry her and finding a strong religion and good relationship is also crucial. It is crucial to practice and stay connected with someone to become a better person.
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Santa Monica Meramec loves Mala hula are salatu salam ala Rasulillah when

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the only he also happy woman, whatever what am I doing? Am I in phone Elmo for HANA? Remind them tonight Nikka Samia, when would you would do how many older becoming I really am file COVID Ayesha wanna see Natasha? What do I enlarge SMA or Bonarda to subgroup and Nevada is data now Hublin amulet and Kurama in a cancer will have arbitrarily Sodre us ugly MRI was no longer terminally semi of poly, it's nice to be back. I definitely missed this. But I just want to say something they'll go into the details. In the last two weeks, Allah subhanaw taala blessed me with going on the other side of the world. And I want to say this to everybody is a lot of higher in this life.

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With all what we are seeing with all what we are hearing, right, and with all the challenges and everybody is very worried. If Allah made you see what I saw, I was like, Don't worry. I was in Copenhagen. And Copenhagen is the middle, right? It's way far, if you compare it to the states, so I go and I had no idea how many people will show up. I only know there is a program. So I go on that stage and how many women were there

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12 101.

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The, the room was jammed packed. And the beauty of it every age, every race, every religion, every Muslim degree. Let's put it this way, every level, honestly.

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From the pub, to absolutely no hijab to very young people. And I looked and I said the fact they are here. And it was a three hours program. And it could have been seven FYI. We had to stop. So Subhanallah it's really and the one that was even the day after was in the Netherland in Amsterdam, there was two programs back to back. Every one is a three hours. Each one the room was full pack 1200 to 1300. To the point they closed the door and says that sits for safety and the same thing.

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People from different ages different so don't you think we are the only people who are being challenged. In fact we are still

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here is much easier than Europe. Except England Of course, England is very different. For every part of Europe, this is much easier. Even for the youth. It's much easier. It's very challenging the for the youth that I met last year, I literally felt that that's

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your age. You know, like the

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the woman who I don't know if she's hearing me this is in Denmark, the woman who

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she was like they assigned her to take me around we didn't take her on on I arrived from the airport to the lecture but in that amazing I mean they speak about Islam I was outside. I was just listening to her parents from North Africa. I don't remember if she was born and raised there or she came in young but she speaks amazing English of course amazing the language speaks Arabic but there's a lot of hate. This is how I came back and I said you know what, with everything we are seeing you may see it you may see your children challenges and everything. But if you come out from your small home and look at the bigger picture, there's a lot of hype a lot of people are coming back this is how I say

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it a lot of people are coming back because they are finding everything else is not giving them what they are looking for.

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And many of us are like finding this maybe the youth not yet because you haven't seen it yet. But most people when they get to their 30s late 30s 40s They find there is something more than just this and I've seen it so many places but definitely and this trip I don't know what Allah is planning for me in Australia that that I wanted to share this before I start and I'm going to share with you a lot I got a lot of questions there. So some of it I'm actually going to share it with you here.

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And I don't remember which country was this and then we had a lot of questions online so we'll see what Allah subhanaw taala will give us but some of the questions will make you

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feel what I what I'm sharing with you. So here you go. And I couldn't of course answer all of them. We had every talk at least one hour to hour and a half of questions and answer.

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Look at this one.

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What are the first steps to understand and look at the next one and fall in love with the Quran and Allah

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didn't say memorize. Didn't say he says what is the first step to understand and fall in love with with the Quran and Allah subhanaw taala the question itself is beautiful, because talking about love, looking talking about Allah subhanaw taala didn't say I want to go to Jana. I'm worried I'm going to do whatever

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fall in love. Like if someone asked you and Allah has exalted in his book is exalted, but if somebody asked you how do you fall in love with ice cream?

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Or in this in your honestly because we all love this or let's say chocolate something you love and somebody, they have never tasted it and they look at you and says what is so special about it? I mean, why do you love it? And this is how they say it. What do you tell them?

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The first thing you will say, you know why you don't love it because you've never tried it.

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You put once one piece in your mouth and see how you will feel true or false ice cream, whatever again, you love. So the first step to love Allah because if you love Allah, He will love the Quran. If you love the Quran, you will love Allah, it's connected. It just depends which one you start, if you just start trying the problem many of us have, we're so scared.

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And we put the obstacle before the obstacle comes in. I can't memorize the Quran did you try? I just no way I can do I can't understand or Arabic did you try? So the first step to love anything you want Halal is remove the negative thinking, don't say I can do it.

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How many of you in this room myself included? And I definitely loved this when people looked at you and says you will never be able to do this.

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Show me hands.

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Right? Absolutely. I heard it continuously throughout my career as a profession as a physician and as a career as as I was studying. And then what happened?

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How many times you have heard that from physicians you'll never be pregnant? And guess what?

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You got pregnant. So the first thing is removed the negative from you. It's not about people is you don't say I can don't say well, I love Allah Look at me. Where am I? Quran? I don't even know how to read don't say this. Allah Allah could you say in audio? If Allah wants all of us at this form in a second to memorize the whole Quran, we will do it before we leave today class he can. So that's number one, practically.

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To love Allah subhanaw taala is this hadith kotse which I love this hadith. Does anyone know which Hadith I'm going to talk about? What Allah talks about love.

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Now Lisa and I are in the house no one near Abdi as I think I am he Subhanallah as my servant think of no there is a Hadith Bootsy long one. And as the NAM manana Daddy will attend to who will help. This is a beautiful Hadith I'm going to come to the second part, which is MonteCarlo by the machine habit lame after actually nothing will bring us close to Allah. Nothing. Without starting with the obligations. Don't tell me I do pay family and you don't work out for Fajr

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doesn't work. And don't tell me I

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fast Monday and Thursday. And I still look at haram and I enjoy it.

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Because looking at haram and enjoying it as an obligation not to do it Monday and Thursday. The Sunnah, it's beautiful, but we need to know the priorities. You like tomorrow you have a math exam. You study physics and the physics on Friday. People will tell you what are you doing? So the first step in getting closer to Allah, which means understanding his book loving his book loving Allah is number one, do what he told you to do, which means do and don't do. And to know this, I need to know what did he told me? If I ask everybody and I do this all the time? What did Allah tell me to do? All of you are going to tell me pray five times a day fast thermolon Go to hydroflow Can the five

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pillars that set

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it? That's very easy. And we forget the most important thing, which is the relationship between each other and what's in here.

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And what he told me not to do backbiting lying, foul language, haram looking at haram being in places that's haram these are all this is not a good person. This is no period. So you want to get close to Allah thing go with Allah is Exalted, but just for us to make it easy. It's when the camera is in front of me or when you are in front of me. If I get there, that's it. And this is basically the Hadith. The first step to move from my chair to start the journey I need to stay away from haram. Even if you say do I do the obligation they do, or I start with a don't usually they will tell you start with a don't.

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Because haram will prevent you from doing the obligation

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Remember the sins? The whole course the nine weeks series we did about since the first thing sins will do is will prevent you from doing good deeds. You will look at haram before we go to bed Good luck for your Fudger period. That's when people come to me says I have a very hard time waking up for 5g. I first thing I say what do you do before you go to bed?

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Then we'll talk about the alarm. And then we'll talk about whatever, whatever. But what did you look last before you went to bed or heard or said?

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So MonteCarlo baleia be the first thing I'm going to start the journey move Haram as much as you can that you have control over

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it like it's your choice. Like it's my choice. When I go to my social media, what I'm going to be looking at, it's my choice. There is some harms in the house specially for us woman, maybe it is not completely in my hand. I need to work on this. But there is a lot it's in my head. And then when I as I'll update a horrible layer, but now I feel now there is no law of next step without the extras. If you look at the Sunnah, as sunnah.

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Then don't talk to me about the love of Allah, if Muharram will

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finish and you ran away out and you didn't do this tool card that takes two minutes, three minutes to talk about the love of Allah. You're not there yet. When you love someone, and always think of the relationship with a human beings and Allah has exalted when you love someone. Don't you bring them the tea or the coffee before they ask?

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Right on they asked you I said because they love it.

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That's love.

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So when I go and do the extras, again Monday and Thursday, I do the extra Salawat I do family, I hold my anger.

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And I hope and I hold light or I held my tongue. And I agree I'm upset, but I'm not going to do it. Because that's not pleasing to Allah, you started the journey of love. Now you're in the second step. And this is not only in Ramadan, when the masjid is full, and everybody's doing taraweeh and the day of aid we are done. And the Hadith says well I Zulu Abdi it's a continuous process is and for those of you who know how to be fairly Medora, the present

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verb means now and the future.

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So it's not only today only Monday, because now I spoke about it. So next Thursday, you're fasting. And then next Monday, I'm done. Now, don't talk about love. You're obedient to Allah you're getting but there is no love yet. And he says laser continue. It's a quarter of the year benowa. First, you know, what's enough EDA for an Africa, why'd you somebody comes in here and say ceramide equal?

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Or you come in here and you say said America, we don't know anybody or you know, nobody will answer you. That's an Africa. That's a good deed. That's an extra. answering her is our job. Answering this person is an obligation. But just coming in the masjid in Santa Monica. That's a good deed. Check.

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Right? You come in here and you see you I don't see it in this Masjid sha Allah Who should but you ever imagined you'd like where I go? There's always boxes out there. So as a counselor, I would just put $1 What is the $1? Right? I didn't say five or six to buy a coffee. It's just one. That's enough. That's what he's talking about. But continuously, and in every step, every step in my life. In my day, there is an opportunity for an athlete. making someone happy. Is a good deed. It's an app. It's not an obligation. It's your choice. But it is extra.

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When I was traveling back spa travel is amazing thing because teaches you on lots of handlebar when I came to the plane, and then I was on the aisle, and then a couple of key men so the woman was in the middle and the man was here. And I just looked at her and says you want to stick and I thought like you know, they look no good term. Like they were talking. I was like if you want to sit together The woman looked at me couldn't believe it. Says really? I said Yeah, sure. Come on.

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Right. What did that cost me? Nothing. And I just moved to the next. That's a good deed. But we don't do it. We don't think of it. And Allah subhanaw taala made me think of it. So now Zando Abdi Itakura bootlegger Vineya Wofford, what makes me a plus Muslim. This is how I call a plus Muslim versus A versus B versus C is the extras because everybody to be a Muslim believe in Allah. Everybody who's not a failed Muslim pray.

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They may be few and they don't reject sada but what makes you a plus

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you plus Muslim is while Roswaal in slaughter, some would say de Heisha described is the Quran walking Quran. So now you continue to do this now the law of the word love comes

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in the Hadith, Hector or hippo

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till Allah loves you are Allah loves we claim Allah Allah loves me. And by the way, I think I've said this before, but I'm gonna say it again, having this dunya is not a sign of love. When Allah gives me everything I want that doesn't mean he loves me sometimes you need to be very worried because this could be a test. On the contrary, the sign that Allah loves me what he said, that I took when I love him come to some holiday. Yes, ma'am. I become his hearing his eyesight, his hand and his dog you will not disobey Him, you will not enjoy looking at how you can do that. So how do I know Allah loves me? These are the two signs. And then when I inserted a needle,

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when he asked me when you raise your hand he will give it to you on the spot. He always respond to the DUA in three ways you all know that, but this one is he will give it to you right away because he used two forms in a word of

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keyed emphasis la Atlanta, la Motoki, the new Tokyo two well instead and this is what we need when you seek refuge in Allah, He will give it to you on the spot, He will protect you. So how do I get to the love of Allah and to the love of the Quran? Start by do what he told you to do and don't it's difficult that's for sure. And I say this to myself before I say to anyone obeying God was not easy. It's very challenging, and it's becoming more and more harder. But then then the moment you start the step or the start the process, see how Allah subhanaw taala will make it easy. And once you fall in love a lot with Allah he will fall in love

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with his with his book that's for sure.

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So let me see Miss Mala they will come couple of them which is related to anymore to us.

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Yeah, this is very applicable specially in the summer. Let's see how many of you will agree he says how do I stop procrastinating and time wasting

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I'm going to say a statement I hope you're still going to come back after the statement Muslims should never say I'm bored

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because if you see your board your time you're wasting your time.

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And one of the things one of the things we will be asked about specially this side because the Hadith said this side what Shabaab who FEMA have now or more Hoshina have now the youth What did you do with your age or in another one is in in your life? What did you do? Pima of now what did you use it for? perished it exhausted in what? In what?

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So the first thing is feeling bored What do I have to do? That means you really need to turn for Allah to use you stooping to the hole that somehow Muslim

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Muslim sleep still lead like

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think saying that hustle and bustle when he was eating and entered on someone Someone entered on him and he was eating and he said come join and he said I just ate the point I can't eat. Very common. He said Subhanallah

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a Muslim eat till he cannot eat

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so to stop procrastinating number one remove the idea of I am bored. That's number one.

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The number two okay, I'm not gonna get bored. So what do I do with the time

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to ask Allah to use you.

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When one of the I know who went along he was you will have no time to breathe.

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You will look at the time in a second. I was like Okay, five minutes left for lunch. Five minutes for lunch. Not five minutes for sada

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left five minutes for lunch. Three minutes for this you will see and you're not planning it just come and fall on your head. That means Allah has using you especially if what you are doing is higher.

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So to stop this, number two, anything you want to do, ask Allah because he will do it. And especially when you are sincere, he will do it. Three. Don't be around people who are lazy. It's contagious. It's virus.

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Be with people. You wake up at five they are up by three thumb

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And you say ready, and I thought I was somewhat.

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So be with people who are very productive. And by the way productive, especially in the summer doesn't mean I'm always going to be in Salah. And so you know, productive, do something, do something to change this life to change this earth, or protect this earth or change people. And not only focus on your children only, and it 100 lot of bang, but also others anything in this life. If you change the opinion of one person outside about you and me, we've done a lot of hire to you and me.

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So don't say, I'm bored. Doha be around people who are very positive, and they will push you.

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They will push you, I have seen people I was like, read, reading. That's how it is. Literally, I learned that actually from one of my teacher, the NAP is 2720 minutes. And when she said this to me, I was like 20 minutes now, what is this 20 minutes now

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Subhanallah try it and see, it's part of the turn to be all the CEOs and the business people do it. Subhanallah because their time is is Julie ponte. And it's amazing. Amazing.

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That's number four, if you feel procraft, sometimes we do because when we you push yourself too much, sometimes you just want to a breath, that's okay. As long as this breath is not disobedient to Allah.

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If you fall, or I'm sorry, if you fail, again, ask Allah subhanaw taala to bring you back. And He will use you. And this is one of the good things here, which is not back home is that the students work during the summer, it's very good, as long as the work is harder, because it teaches them to stay busy.

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And once as long as the work doesn't take you away from Allah subhanaw taala or from the duty of Hamas pantile. But don't say

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I can do it. And wasting the time is not only not doing some things, but when you do something that normally takes 10 minutes and you do it an hour or two

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or talking on the phone for three hours, right?

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Three hours on the phone every single day. I mean calling your mother that's a different story. That's a bad, you should do it. Just your friend. And we did that and we ate and I cooked and I was uninvited that's complete waste of time, I'm gonna stand in front of him. And he's going to tell me what did you do in this three hours, and most of the time is going to end up with

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Thank you. Backbiting saying something about people.

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So be very productive and look at time as your investment. Everyone talks about investment these days, time is the biggest investment for my

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for my after helping somebody Subhan Allah this morning again, Allah showed me I need this people of Allah that know these people that are so nice in this world.

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This is this woman I was supposed to meet her at eight. And she texted me at eight and says I'm a little bit late. Then she came at 815. And she said, You know what, this is an older woman who have children all work and she gets bored. So she called me and says, can you come and pick me up and I will spend time with you. She lives 30 minutes from her. The woman put herself in the car went and brought brought her

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and I know how busy this woman is. That's good deed. That's a 30 minutes time invested an afro because she made a Muslim, happy.

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So don't say I'm bored. Don't say either. There's nothing else I do. Don't waste your time and things that you can do in 10 minutes you're doing for 1414 minutes, you know, spend all the time in the kitchen. If you're doing all the time in liquor and learning that's 100 Gordon Brown, but just to cook because there's nothing else to do. You have to also look at it. And every day I have to be better than the day before. Every day I have to be better than the day before. Otherwise this day will witness against me. And may Allah subhanaw taala make it easy on behalf.

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There are so many talks about the program we did here. There are so many questions. It's even worse in Europe than here.

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This is very good question. I answered the deal, but I'm going to answer it here again. Look at this question. What was what are the most?

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And this goes again to the side and I didn't plan it. That was my witness. What order for your children? What are the most important questions a woman should ask herself and herself is in capital letter before getting married.

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How many of you are married here?

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Look at your luck. Now we're going to be asked Okay,

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It's not gonna put you on the spot. So what is the most important questions a woman, a woman asked herself, this is why I liked is not to ask the man because we normally expect ask the man or put the foot to the list right?

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What's the most important question you ask yourself is why are you getting married? Which basically goes falls under intention? Why do you want your daughter to get married? Because that's another nightmare for mothers.

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Right? Why?

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And the answer is everybody else who's getting married? That's not what on law if the answer herself is I don't want to stay alone. That's not what Allah and this is not guaranteed.

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Please forgive me I love them and that's not for Allah.

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Most of these will have bumpy ride

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Illa marking or be of course

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the answer has to be for Allah. So it's very easy I'm getting married for Allah short. What is the signs you're getting married for?

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So number one is your OB I'm getting married to please you. That's basically the answer. That's for a lot to please you. Meaning what? And I'm not going to go into a lot of details, but inshallah Holly will understand, which basically even in you know, the marriage has five rulings. marriage can be an obligation recommended, which is the strongest one halal, can be disliked and can

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be actually prohibited. And I'm not talking about Tumeric non Muslim and Muslim No, no, I'm talking about the marriage. That is all allowed by Allah but the marriage itself if falls into a couple of the reasons it becomes haram for example, if you're getting married and you know you will not be able to fulfill the husband needs that's haram

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same thing for the husband, you know, you will not be able and I'm not going to go to the details. And that's how that because you're hurting that person.

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So let's come to number one, I am I want to get married to please Allah meaning this is a beautiful statement. Who are you getting married to?

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If you are getting married to somebody who does not please Allah or disobey Allah, that's not not not for Allah.

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So you go for the deen right and which is the hadith of Rasul Allah salatu salam evangel, mentor buena Gina who was present when you were in the facade of fitna, if comes to your proposal, parents, and and youth, airmen, and this, especially for the man, the woman is a different one. And I'll get to a man comes to propose to you or to your parents, or through your parents, that you are pleased with two things. And so interestingly, these two things, nothing about the degree or the money, or the family, nothing. So born Edina. Holika you're pleased with his religion. So interesting, that he separated religion from manners.

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He said, If you're pleased with his religion, and manners, because normally we say isn't religion is all about manners. Absolutely. But that's not reality all the time. Unfortunately, even for us as women the same thing. So he says, if you if the person who propose to you or to the parents, that you are pleased with his religion, and his manner, the order is getting serious, fuzzy, we do say yes. Don't think about how she will live with how much money he's making. He's from this country. You I am from that country or this part of the country that thought and if you don't do that, that's what he's saying what you need.

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There's going to be a lot of mischief, a lot of immorality.

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What about the woman? To October Murali Aruba, autumn, Murali Aruba. There's four reasons why a man wants to marry a woman. beauty,

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wealth, status and Dean

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there's four reasons she's beautiful, which comes from this family, or she's all to do. Right or could be all of them. Right? And religion and then he gives you the advice for alayka without a deinterleaver Kodak for selling the sahabi choose the woman of deed.

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Choose a woman of being a woman of religion, then you will have full hand. This is a figure of speech in the Arabic land, meaning you will never regretted

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and look at us these days.

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Look at us these days. Why do we get married

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Right, I give always this example and correct me if I'm wrong, right? You have two people, two men propose to you as a woman or propose to you as parents. So, this person very well to do everything is Check, check, check, check, right? The Salah

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and the other person right there, the checks are half checks anymore did nothing major, but nothing big also, so average education, average income average family,

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but he is the two are their religion and manners.

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Normally, what do we do?

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For the person whose religion needs a lot of work, what do you say? Hey, he will improve. We all say this. True, he will improve. But when it comes for dunya, he will not improve?

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We don't say he will improve quite honestly. Am I Am I making this up? Yeah, neither one who improves his Salah will not improve his income.

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Because my priority and may Allah forgive me, and forgive us all my priority.

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Religion is, is not at the top. I'm not gonna say at the bottom, but it's not at the top.

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And we we make fun because I've seen woman girls, we make fun of the girl who put religion as a priority.

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Are you out of your mind when you're going to find them?

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Right? Or you found him or he's there. But he's very average person from all Dounia wise. So where are you going to do?

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So what are you going to feed your children which school he was and then you start putting all of this is all from shaitan.

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And how many people you see and you know in your life when you they got married, he had nothing and then Allah opened the dunya and vice versa.

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So the first question you ask yourself is why? And who?

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And put your foot down.

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And don't get married just to please people.

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When Allah send you the right person, don't start the marriage by disobedience of Allah. And this is to parents before because I got this question very common from the practicing couple. My parents are really unhappy because I don't want this in my marriage.

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ality it is reality. So helping each other to obey Allah and put Allah number one in your life will lie he will send you the best person, any the most common common. And you know, I do hear office hours one to one and on the phone, the 80% of what I what people reach out is about problems in marriage.

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And I asked this question, why did you marry him? The answer is, I loved him.

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And if love will make marriage successful, we're not going to see the divorce rate in Muslim marriages, more than 50%. It's exactly the same as the non Muslims. Because we are marrying for the same reason.

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We are marrying for the same reason. So the first question you ask yourself is why? And how and what do you expect

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from your marriage?

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This is another good one. I just wish I still have time. Hamlin, I am consistent with my worship. And by the way, I have no idea who these are. It's always anonymous. I'm consistent with my worship. I renew my intention.

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But my heart feels numb. I feel defeated. But I can continue. How do I change this feeling in my heart? Did you get the question? All of you. How many of you have this?

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I don't feel the act of worship. I feel it's a duty. I do it. But nothing in my heart. How many

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already all feed into mashallah perfect. Or you're just too shy.

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You really enjoy it like tomorrow is Thursday and muddled up at 8pm all hamdulillah and fasting tomorrow. Is that how it is?

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Then you answered.

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Now the good news is I am consistent with my worship. So hamdulillah the feeding of not feeding is not affecting the act of worship. So this is very good. Al Hamdulillah Hellbrunn. Now the question what do I do to my heart?

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The reason we don't feel the act of worship.

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Please forgive me.

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Because we don't have this relationship blah, blah.

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I don't look at salah.

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As my private interview with Allah

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or my private moment with Allah

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Now let's bring it back to dunya to this life, so we feel so you love someone doesn't matter who this person is, right? And that person says, I'll call you at eight o'clock. What are you going to do five minutes before eight?

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Checking the phone works, checking I'm in the right place. Why whatever is this distraction. I'm done right and you tell everybody in the house I don't want any distractions. I have a very important phone call. Right? There's nothing wrong with that. If I look at Sudan this way, Regina Biya began as a Roswaal is sought to sunset to say in Abidjan give us comfort by atrp that meaning call for Adang meaning I feel so good when I'm in praying then I'm fine my heart how many of you make major decisions during Salah

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Come on.

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You do major decisions you take this you think of it and you said that's it it came inside solder how many? Right? Write whatever is in your mind. And sorry. And he say subhanallah The reason I don't feel it but again you don't feel it is not the reason to stop doing it. Keep doing it along with change you

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but the reason is, because I don't look at saga as a connection, as it should be as a connection as my immediate interaction with Allah I look at and I brought solder just because this is very common for everybody. I look at it as a duty and the the the the sign is we say the solidity that you pray, this is how you say to your even your children and the children says yes.

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You should say How was your interview with Allah

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and I remember it was here actually, when I was giving the sins series it was a young girl so Pamela literally, it was by Annie Allah sent her the sensor is actually is coming in a book is going to be in in September in Charlotte will be in

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the stores. But her question was amazing. She didn't tell me she didn't she doesn't pray. She did. It was a 14 year old or 15 year old here. She said why don't I have this relationship with Allah that I get up for Salah.

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She understood the essence of Surah So the reason I don't feel it because I am not always connected with Allah. Meaning coming to sada and I want to feel it I remove all the distractions don't put your phone next to you. Because guess what? It's always ringing when you're in Salah.

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You have this when I used to do my private practice Danny patients never call unless I was

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sorry remove the distractions ask Allah to give you this connection and remove the distractions and again remove haram from your life. Sins is a huge obstacle between me and Allah and I don't feel it because Allah has not opened me the door

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so remove since since has huge impact on us we don't see this huge impact all of us young and old. You know when you look at your social media Allah knows what you are looking at this is all disobedience to

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what I am seeing the images it's comes and let alone I like let alone I share text messages when I watch on this channel or that channel.

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Right even these days even cartoon

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even cartoons you have to screen these days. Subhanallah but the fact that you are you want this relationship it's a very good news. The fact that I don't feel and this is very common actually asked that question. A month ago I was in a gathering more than 50 Woman professional young this was the questions. I feel it's my life is I feel when I'm doing so now it's boring. And yeah audible Yeah, but it's like I don't feel it. What is it? I got everything I want in life but there is no joy because the real connection is not there. So may Allah subhanaw taala give us this and keep asking Allah don't give up. Look at him work for him. xyzzy work for Allah. And he will give you one dose

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we'll learn that the last question I'll take it from you. So at this we have to give you your right. Anybody any question?

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That's fine. I'm not gonna say your name. I'm just gonna repeat the question on what

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any question?

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Really? No question

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when I was in Denmark,

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Russia, just get ready

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Tell us 12 Midnight

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Fajr 214

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Oh my god. Absolutely you go to Mahalo to the masjid they combined with Russia

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and I said how did you first off? Because this was very close to the end. They said Allah make it easy else was like look at US industry I said I'm gonna go back and tell everybody McGraw was eight o'clock it's a piece of cake. So this is the question here is why I remember the city said sit down my query for his federal is 409 but then of the nearby mosque call then at 430 Can I pray when it's time for Salah before the dawn is called? depends why do they do the anon later on? This is a great question. It depends which school of thought they follow in the masjid because there's two times for Fajr you all know that right? So there is the Hanafi school and there is the other school of thought

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the other school of thought is a little bit later than that.

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of you. So if you are a Hanafi, you following your home, if you follow the other school of thoughts, then you'll follow the other one.

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Okay, so this is I get this question very common. And I actually answered it

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in a whole one hour lecture and I Okay, how do I combine medicine or psychology with a static study? And also learning Arabic? Can you kindly Guide regarding this? Any I'm going to try to see it as as short as possible. Number one, you have to want it. Don't study to teach.

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And don't study to be on social media and you have followers because you will not get it.

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He will not give it to you. That's not for almost one Tada. You study because this is his religion. You memorize Quran because this is his book. I studied Arabic because I want to understand my Deen any other reason? Don't do it because your knee is wrong.

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You're doing it for yourself. Now, can I combine them? Yes, it but again, not true.

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Any I can't give an answer that will apply to everybody. Everybody is different. So basically, what's your situation I get this very frequently. I'm a mother. This is I remember this one very recent. I'm a mother, I'm a full time. I work full time and I want to study the stomach studies how much left from the day.

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Right? And you want

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to do this in a year or two. It's not going to happen because you're a human being or break. So you you look and this is how you all need to look, where did Allah put you at this stage of your life? You're a student, then you need to serve Allah as a student number one. Now we all are Abdullah. So there's the basics we all go from. But then afterward, you're married. But you don't have children yet and you don't work? Yes, you have much more time. Yes, you study Hispanic studies and do this. But if you are a student, and you are a wife, and you're a mother, then you're going to do a part time maybe start on the Araby. Just learn Arabic. So and then because the journey of Islamic study

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is not a year or two or three. It needs a lot of time people wants what I call it the fast food, they want it quickly. It's not doesn't work that quickly. You have to put years, years and years and don't give up and failure and all this. But in general, as one of the best advice I was given years ago only Hi through a comma Killa or Ma Ma Ma Makaha. Ahmed, what is

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the Lockwood

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Allah puts you at this point as a student in college, then you are serving Allah as a student in college, and then start learning. And according to the capacity, if you are only a student and this summer, take the whole summer and take full time standard courses. But Is it doable? Yes.

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But it needs a lot of time. A lot of sacrifices, a lot of patience. And as many people advised me you have to have a very thick skin that you never give up. Shaytan will work on you and people will work on your own. I can tell you what you will hear. But Is it doable? Yes but again according to your time. So I think we need to stop here and shortlist so they can get ready for more groups panic a lot more behind the couch. I don't like to have you done stuff. We'll go up to a good X Hola. Hola. So you know, while I was hoping Justin and Kathy a reminder this coming Sunday is the youth conference. It's all done prepared run by the youth. I can't take any credit for it. I wish but I

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can't. But we have two speakers from out of town.

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Dr. Altaf Hussain is flying to us from Chicago and we have Chef widow coming from i Okay. It's a very interesting program actually a lot of challenging for current

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time that we are living in. So if you haven't registered, please go ahead hamdulillah it's way more than what we expected. But there's still some room we can accommodate. Go ahead and do it and don't be lost.

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Last minute as the woman conference and you're standing outside there, remember, please get me in out there. Please don't do that. Let's move the lastminute.com from our life yes

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it's actually for youth

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I'm sorry, we wouldn't have a woman conference Don't worry. We're having a woman conference in November Inshallah, right? But this is let's give them their, their space right without the parents. Okay, inshallah so please don't forget to register just come along.

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