Others Marriage In Islam

Feiz Mohammad

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Yeah.

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What's

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up?

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Verily All praise is due to the almighty lord. We praise Him we seek his aid we seek to give this to him. We seek refuge of Allah to Allah from our evil souls and our evil actions. He will not Allah Blaine is rightly guided, and he will have to add on this guy's no one can ever ever guide him. I bear witness without any compulsion that no one has the right to be worshipped except I'll have a panel who wants the island and have a witness and testify that will Hamadan Abdullah Abdullah, from the law where it was settled, and is the slaves, the Messenger of Allah to Allah, by the Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, his family, his companions, and every single one to follow their

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footsteps to the last day.

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Allah panel what that has this man

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with uncountable blessing, and indeed, one of the greatest of the existing, ease our senses,

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which are failing, the hearing the scene, the smelling, we must use all the senses in such a way as to gain benefit from them in the life of this world, and into the life of the next. So that can be for and not against us on the Day of Resurrection.

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No dear brothers and sisters,

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that the most dangerous of the senses

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are these two eyes,

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two eyes that we are looking through,

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they are the windows to the world, to the body.

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Now the windows to the world, for the body. Through them, you see the ugly, the beautiful, the good and bad.

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Through them, you see wickedness, righteousness, lawful, unlawful veiled unveiled, safety and danger, through them you can see that which is right, and that which is wrong.

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And whatever you see, gets transferred back to the heart. Whenever you look at something, that which you see,

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always gets transferred back to the heart, when in return, that could be either blessed or sick.

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And we know the saying that a picture carries or tow of 1000 words and in deeds,

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how many pitches? How many scenes

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has that effect on a human being?

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Not only that, the change is complete life but his behavior and his understanding.

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This is the reality.

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Through these eyes, your brothers and sisters

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through these eyes, one of the greatest and the most dangerous things, crime on this earth, initiate

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the crime of Venus

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the crime of illicit intercourse and the the death will lay brothers and sisters it destroys and shatters the homes.

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Good Behavior and character vanishes fitna and jealousy spreads this society as a whole through this evil crime collapse. shamefulness embarrassment attempts to the family comes to their relatives. And what's the goal?

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What's the goal is that it opens the dough y z for the most dangerous diseases. A person can carry

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herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea and the most dangerous killer of all, a

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syphilis which is a serious sexually transmitted disease affecting the body organs and apart like the brain, the genital

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Seeing the teachers

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is spreading at an alarming rate over 14 million cases yearly.

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Over 40 million cases yearly is reported gonorrhea another serious

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gonorrhea another serious, filthy sexually transmitted disease, which causes inflammation to the genital mucous membrane, making it very hard.

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A harmful a painful burning feeling when you pass urine

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commonly known to be among prostitutes.

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This is spreading likewise

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at an unbelievable rate

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over 250 million cases annually

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in the United States of America over a million cases alone day is reported

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snuck abrupt

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cases annually is reported what else is in some other avoidable anyway so it's not surprising isn't

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an age you don't even need to talk about what can you talk about? You'll be here day and night just trying to say the number

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and welcome them they still trying to find through medical drugs chemicals and medicine a Prevention's

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You stupid people that's it that the solution is there.

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Reflect open your eyes are blind people. Well, I know prevention. There is no prevention in other than Islam.

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1400 years ago, our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to us when wrongdoings spread between people, it is an intercourse and evil spread between people. And it comes common as serious sickness and disease will spread amongst

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which was not known to the ancestors.

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Using this what we are using today, today in our society,

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when a girl boy

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reaches the age, or Regional High School history as to virgin

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they have been fooled. Last time laughter, mock pain, if not belted.

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It become a personal freedom. The practice of Xena is a personal freedom, you're still a virgin.

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You'll be graded.

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This is what we are doing today know

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how many men

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how many men? How many old men?

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None of us not only the man but the old man is Whoa, spend a lot of times on the roads, on in the market, in shopping centers.

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on the beaches, on the net television on the magazine or paper looking at that which Allah Allah Allah forbade, in more clearer terms turbin at woman

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one of the poison arrows of a belief

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as collected by Sulaymaniyah, Ashraf, on the authority of Abdullah Abdullah suppose that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to us that the look

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of the evil the poison arrow is lama bleef. Whoever lowers his gaze from women for the sake of Allah Subhana Allah and it will put sweetness in his heart to the Day of Resurrection

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in another hot days,

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well, I will say

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he won't, oh Muslims

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do not sit or spend time on the roads Why? So we did not look at that which is forbidden.

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He said beware and avoid the roads. They said the containers are a puzzle.

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We cannot help sitting on the road because this is the place where we meet and talk.

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He said if you refuse to do so, then pay the road. It's right. This is what it's worth. It's a prophet of Allah. He said lower renewal days.

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refraining from harming people returning greeting and enjoying that which is good. And presenting that which is the

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Muslim judge the great narrator, collector of Hadith narrated the hadith of Buddha

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he asked me for my solo lover he was

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full of alone. What can we do if ldls accidentally falls upon someone somebody to begin to look at? He said turn your eyes away if

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you see a lady I don't look at he said turn your eyes

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What are you gonna do turn your eyes another howdy if you mentioned this to ollie, do not follow the look was a nada for the first few jewels, but not the last. In other words, the creatures. If you accidentally look at a lady, a strange lady, without the intention, there is no harm you are not sinning. However,

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if you insist on looking you continue looking. The first look is not this.

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That's about

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the look is

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not this.

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It's not like this, and Allah knows your intention.

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And another beautiful Hadith you mentioned. A poetry has been written on man, the son of Adam, and he will achieve it without doubt.

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A man commits adultery with his eyes when he looks at a strange moon.

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The daughter of the Eve is listening to sexual dialogue.

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The dose you have the time is to talk about

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the dose your bare hand is touching that which is unlawful

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and the adultery of the state is going towards a stranger in the heart. It continues the thing I believe passionately desires adultery. However, the sexual organs confirm or contradict that.

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Confirm or contradict that. Yes,

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it's at the time

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of the exam.

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Run a stronger signal exams on men. For indeed, Mohammed Abu Ismail al Bukhari and Muslim officiator from home a lot Allah collected the Hadith that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said that I have not left behind a more harmful tribulation for men and a woman

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is hard.

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especially nowadays, where we are living in a society in an environment in a community where people are naked

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it's the biggest trial and the more time goes past the worse it's gonna get the shorter guy gets

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the stronger the Troy was going to become.

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This whole world is no longer valid.

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These sensors are exempt this fight is an exam Are you gonna pass or are you gonna fail?

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So that was an alternative.

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A substitute.

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I love to have that makes it easy for men.

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He says cleaning soda per room. Verse 21.

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Woman TV on holla cola

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forsaken as well as Lita school, Elena was

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my way what was

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in the the

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niccone.

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And the money find beautiful First of all,

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and sisters is this that he created for you? Why from your own coin from johnsville that you might find reposing them confidence, trust love.

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And indeed in this is fine for those who reflect and sad place affection and mercy in between the two of you. And indeed in the society. For those who reflect men and woman.

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I'm afraid of all humanity from one single soul.

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Or one single soul thinking that your origin one one man said so essence what is men and from him. of him was created his mate

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and from

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Both of them one men, one woman scattered abroad, countless men and

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countless

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billions and billions and billions of people.

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Love was Jada laka Minh and forsaken as well as your was your Allah Allah for men as a word you can Bernina

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to whom you will bow to the mean of

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Allah Christ from the hands of wise, and he created from your wives, for your sons and grandsons, and he provided for you lessons do they then believe in false

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gods

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and believe in the savior of the almighty lord?

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I love to have two different sexes.

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Just the reality of men to different sectors, men, woman, why, for the fun of it No.

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So that can provide company to one another. Love one another propriate children and leave in peace and tranquility to the commands of Allah to Hannah. And the directions the directives of our beloved Prophet Muhammad even know how to learn some of the law while he was

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listen to this beautiful verse.

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Una de Bassam Lachlan What are in the bathroom?

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What a beautiful dress

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they are a garment for you. A You are a garment to them.

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It requires that has been in a while live together as garments meaning just as garments are used for for protection for worn for concealment. For safety.

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last panel want to highlight expects that from a husband and wife,

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your way you're gonna protect you from the code to warn you likewise, you are like that to your wife, and she is like that to you.

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You want to fill oneself incomplete without the other.

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Yeah, man and a woman, a husband and wife complement each other. They beautifully, they perfect, they complete one another.

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This relationship is a spiritual relationship.

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It generates Spain's mercy affection, compassion, love, kindness,

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mutual confidence. It also attained psychological, emotional, and spiritual companionship.

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Islam regards marriage the brothers and sisters as a righteous act, an act of responsible devotion for a law human marries has fulfilled the half of his religion.

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So let him see Allah to Allah regarding the remaining half as Mohammed Al alojar. Lee was someone mentioned to us when a man marries he has fulfilled half of his religion. So the last team to to add our remaining with the remaining half. Likewise, married to the person from illicit intercourse, such as fornication, promiscuity, days in,

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which ultimately leads to all sorts of evil we can say marriage is a fortress

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of chastity.

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As before the end muslin

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narrated the idea of Herbalife muscle to said when we're young while we were with Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam had no money what's the wall?

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Mohamed Salah said to them

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oh yeah men,

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among you is able to marry should marry should do so

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forth helping lower his gaze and God's his modesty and he was unable then fast. Then fast for fasting diminishes sexual desire. But there is a misconception where many people think that

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it is better to remain single. Do not get married, you cannot worship all of that stuff you're gonna have for years and a half for you and not allow you and prevent you from going to lessons and you will click on you. This is the shape tonic wisdom.

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In other words, nuts you feel Thank you.

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This is a satanic whisper

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listen to this beautiful Hadith.

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dreamin

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came to the house as all the wives of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam are seen how does Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam worship His Lord Allah Allah. When the wives of Muslims informed these three men, they considered their acts of worship as being insufficient. This is where all

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of a sudden, past and future things I've been given. So what's one of them saying?

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When said, I will first rail by Jose and never break my first yellow one says, I will pray all night and not sleep. And the third one said, I will pay far away from women and not marry them.

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When Mohammed Salah Allahu alayhi wa sallam was informed of this,

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did he say small a small and laugh and say mash,

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these people are righteous.

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He said, I use so and so who said such and such suggests.

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He said by Allah.

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I am more submissive to Allah and more afraid of him, then you

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some break my fast. I pray at night and I sleep at night, and I married a lady, a buddy of mine was at one time.

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It does not follow my way. The promise thing from whoever does not follow my way is not funny.

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His name is not what you think is better. It's what I say what I do.

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And this breaks and kills or innovation.

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I'm delighted but then

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no deal not at Animal Man like Brady stole a monster companion. He asked the man, Are you married?

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The man said no.

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No.

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He hasn't marry for indeed the best man in this nation had the largest number of whites.

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I believe

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he was suffering,

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suffering severely from a plague.

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And he told them, let me marry for this life to meet a lot that Hannah and

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I just like to meet a lot. They're either non married.

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Mm, some evening some a

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lot. And I said

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I just like to spend a night without a wife. Not one night he liked to dis participate without a wife.

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When Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam declared some mental status he and I will do the day brothers

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after the migration

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so and then visited the doctor that one day I will did that.

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And he wasn't there. He saw almost all of that wearing shabby clothes mean worn down clothes. So don't go there. Well, you just thought this form.

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Just said Your brother is a man prays all night, and fast all day. He has no longer interests for this world.

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Then the wall above them that comes

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he sees some angry team making some food in front of him some assets. It was me because now I'm fasting. Because by Allah you will wait with me.

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So he came and within

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night fell down.

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It's bedtime.

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Sitting then was down to sleep and you notice a little bit of that then he got stopped and go to sleep.

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He went to sleep.

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The middle of the night came I wasn't gonna

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say men notice team stops throughout his life.

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He went to sleep

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the last part of the night team and put them back together ticket got up to pray. Some man got up with him. After prayer he said Yeah.

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They just Metallica.

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What do you got it?

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What do you do?

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Your body has a rider for you. Your wife the mosquito llama second has a ride over you.

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So she

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has a ride over you.

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Dual religion has arrived over here. So I want to show you know what some what's the mental open of them? And what I'm doing nothing but good saying next day, I went to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam

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and told him exactly what happened. June the ninth, Amazon masala lohar, they will sell them said, some man has spoken the truth.

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Some man has spoken the truth.

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It is advised that we married but is it an obligation? Do we have to get married? are we sitting if we do not get married? When we carefully look

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or consider the injunctions of the Quran, it will become clear to us that without a doubt

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that it is an obligation when when a man or a woman first a man, a man has the ability physically and financially to support his wife. I don't mean having 15 houses or $20 million. No, I mean suddenly displayed is something to eat throughout the day. And that's it. When he has that ability, and this is the main thing, he feels that he does not get married. He said she was attempting to commit fornication.

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If a man is under this category, you have no choice but to get married and if you do not you'll be seen is also compulsory for a lady

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to get married. If she cannot maintain herself there's no means of maintenance schlissel Likewise, if she feels that has sexual urge would drive her into fornication she must marry as well not so long longer finish university or rather finish taste of Africa is built and then wait for 10 years. I want to get married then. And then by then I don't know how many of you would have committed

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a misconception but a lot of Muslims,

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Sunderland now we know that when it's Hello, or when it's hot on Who are we allowed to marry?

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Who are we allowed to marry? insultingly sad verse 23. I love to highlight Lee the status. I'm going to mention this verse. And whoever can tell me the verse in English all the categories

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all the ladies that you cannot marry further attempts and succeed.

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To get them all right after this first is mentioned, we'll get a gift in Sharla at the end of the lesson.

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But the old mini shaitana regime

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hurry Mata Alaykum Omaha Tacoma, Tacoma Tacoma Tacoma Tacoma Bana to appeal bonetto

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Well, Omaha to kumala tea or an Akuma Takumi Narada to Omaha Tony.

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What about Ava como la TC?

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Nisa echo Malachi the whole tone the hints for inlanta punto de Halton de mesilla. Jonah aleikum

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wa ala robina echo levina monopolar depoe

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fishing albina thenI Illa caught center in LA Cana Rahim did not attend

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as long as you say

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so long as to drink of water

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who's gonna attempt

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now to take notice of us I won three attempts failed on an app dimension due to time and the lesson

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one and yeah that attempts free people

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in English in order to correct one mistake failed

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What is your first

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your brother's plays I want silence.

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Now in order

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to condition

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What's your name, bro? I like a label.

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To you.

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prohibited to you for marriage is

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one.

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stuff for a lot of stuff.

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It's not your sister next. Your daughter

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your sister

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Daughter sister. Yes.

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Your mother your daughter, your sister.

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Now please don't go to the boy do what he told me he can get all the credit for your auntie just like that

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your mother's your father's sister,

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your father your mother, your father sister, your mother sister.

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Say probably

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your brother's daughter, your niece

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your sister's daughter

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you will do

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you will do rule

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on sorry b that is the condition that is you know allowed you once or twice for the unlucky second and Shimada.

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Now, very good attempt Michelle Obama today, what is

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similar, so you want to go

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prohibited to for marriage, you deserve to be done. prohibited to for marriage is your mother, your daughter, your sister, your father's sister, your

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mother's sister, your your brother's daughter, your sister's daughter, your foster mother, your foster sister,

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your wives, mothers, your stepdaughter, those have been wives to your sons and two sisters in wedlock in the same and one time, except that which has passed these are the prohibitions 13 prohibitions 13

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and always you are not

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meaning these lady You are not allowed to marry and every single lady that you are not allowed to marry you from on that lady.

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For example, the mother likewise means a grandmother and great grandmother. The sister daughter means the granddaughter and the grand grandchild and so forth. The sister with a half or full

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the father sister, which is the paternal aunt, likewise, your grandfather system, the mother sister, which is the maternal eyes likewise your grandmother's sister as for the una which was his home your brother likewise your nieces daughter. Likewise on the other side, your nieces daughter again, as to the foster rage in Islam plays a major role and it's counted like a blood relation therefore, just as blood relations for example, prohibit your mother sister and your mother's mother likewise, your foster mother, sister and your mother forbidden for you is Whoa.

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JOHN Stannis and Charlie any questions we left after after less than Charlottetown

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and this table of prohibited degrees. If we look at it is usually accepted among all nations, among all people, except in minor detail. Handling now you know who you cannot marry, what does the man or lady but first man look for when he marries

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masala law he was someone said to us in a day that our lady is married for four things, her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. How masala law says to us for the father be that the Dean 30 bucks attack, take the one that is righteous religious in your hands will be saved. In other words, you will not be a loser. And another nail ration. They mentioned that the flyest lady is the one when you commend her she obeys you when you look at her she pleases you. When she speaks to you. She's truthful. And when you're absent from her she said guys herself and her and your property in as you can see Mohammed de la are they he will sell them late great stress in righteousness, piety

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and faithfulness as the main criteria in the choice of a life partner. And as we all know is a kind of law. How many people today when they first are interested in marriage, the only thing they look at is beauty. That's all they look at. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to us there now is a Lady for her position or power on love but will increase in humiliation. And Eleanor is a Lady for her beauty and not an aberration her wealth Allah but we are increasing in poverty. So we do not look at any debt decreases. We look at the path to guidance advice to Allah subhana wa to Allah placed on the tongue of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Well you never ever go wrong if a lady

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hoops for righteous husband and then look for right? That's why he will never go run. And he's proven how many arbitrations is due to this, this problem that a man married lady only goes have a walk, or power over money. And like was a lady married that person for such reason.

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So you've now you have found your wife that you are allowed to marry? What's your next stage? What should we do? He called her up and said, Look, man, I'm interested in you interested in you to schedule a cup of coffee? Or let's go to a movie? Or let's go to a driving? Well, let's get down those points have been going for better talk. What do you do?

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You go and save your hand from the guardian.

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And you make sure that you see her and see see you as our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to us, in Hawaii, collected by Buddha, wooden and whatnot, is the hadith of Jabba diviner, Abdullah, that Hamza said to us, whenever I want to view wants to take a hand in marriage, let him see that which satisfies him to marry her, let him see that which satisfy the gene to marry her. When Jebin heard this hadith is the nail, right? They said, I used to hide from my wife, until I saw that which satisfied me. So I married her. So I married her. And this must be done, whereby the Guardian is present. And then a lady is never ever allowed to stick together if they're

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strangers to each other, in one room. Why? Because Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasalam said to us, you never leave a man and a woman in the same room except there is a third person in the third person is scythe on. And if we see in the West today, that when a man or lady is thinking, or willing to marry a man or man, a lady, they date each other for how long? weeks, months, years, 10s of years, on the pretext that I want to know that common interest better.

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Any one of them, for example, gets a child or two or three or 20 children. And yet he has not known the common interests. And at the end of the file,

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you know, good enough for you, Leah. Well, she says to him, check him out the house, and she got a bundle of children from him. And they still have not known the common interest. You live together independently all this time. But Mashallah, the common interest was to not know and when it was known, I mean, he after how many children and how many used to give them

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both parties must agree to this marriage. It's a conditional marriage that both parties must agree to the marriage. In other words, a lady is not allowed to be forced in that marriage noise a man allows to be forced in that marriage. But generally we have on the other side where the ladies have forced into a marriage, they do not want.

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And that agreement must be under Islamic law, meaning you cannot say to the lady if you're a guardian, you better say yes, I'm going to build your

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all you want and Stephanie Malanga, Stephanie said,

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The Guardians warn

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the responsibility, who's the lady? You better say yes, when the check comes, otherwise you're in big trouble. This is haraam invalid. We do not force anyone into marriage is a lifelong thing here.

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A lady came a virgin go to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and said, Oh prophet of Allah. My father married me against my will.

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He allowed her to repudiate, in other words to refuse the client reject the marriage.

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So she had the choice was testified to the fact that no lady is allowed to be forced into any marriage and a marriage contract must be messed up by two agreements, which is the lady and then other than then she has to give full consent in order for that marriage contract to be valid. Likewise, an important Article of the marriage is the dowry

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and a lot of ladies have been oppressed by the dairy.

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And the dairy is a gift from the man to his potential or future wife. And his dairy could be of any value, which is agreed by them to the Father is not empty here. The father just sticks out of this does not concern the dairies between the husband and the wife, not any of

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The woman's family or the family of the husbands between them to only if she says I want one sense, he gives the one since if she wants $10,000, they give the $10,000 if he agrees to it, and she agrees to that,

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were too nice after the party management and given the dairy to the woman of whom you are going to marry with good heart. say if you agree on something, that which you have agreed upon great on and becomes

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to turn to the husband, to the wife or to The Guardian. It becomes solely her exclusive property and no one can touch her money. And this job is not have to be

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money as Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam said Mary even if you give him the salary, that which is equal to an iron ring, we know

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when he married, he gave gold equal to the other date stones they send the weight of a date stone, he gave him Darry gold equal to that. And another narration we made mentioned that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married Sophia into hojai who was the headmistress of the ladies of the Jewish tribes of Bunny, Nadia and arriva. He set her three and her dowry was her freedom. So it's not restricted to wealth. It could be other things and a great Hadees when a lady came to Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam and dedicated herself to him for marriage. She was interested in marrying him

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she was in front of him and he was there in front of her a period elapsed and Mohammed capsule and both of limb companion was Dexter Mohan masala Salaam and septum ohana, salam, O Muhammad if you have no interest in her, marry her to me. Marry her to me. tablesetting said what can you afford of dairy? What can you give her? Is it all I have if it's wasteful, you know Sauron the loincloth. So what have he said to me to give her that you have nothing to wear? Go and find yourself anything, even if it is an iron ring? Even if it is an iron ring? It's a kind of look at this hadith in Bukhari Muslim, this man's got nothing, nothing. But the waist glove.

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did not ask him what do you do for a living? How much do you earn? What's your position?

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He was a Muslim, a righteous man and therefore that bothered the hammer from Allah that He will sell them. So the man went searching for something, to give him his dairy to find anything. So he came back and said, Oh, Muhammad, I cannot find anything.

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So what did he say to him? How much do you memorize of the Quran? Or the memorize anything of the Quran? The man said yes. On memorize such and such and he named him the saw that he memorizes has memorized. And he said to you so seldom I have married you to her. We'll start with you memorize from the Quran. How beautiful is that? Beautiful is that? Which men today? Which Guardian today would accept this? Which guy? Any if it's not $50,000 400? Seriously, it's it's sad. And we know that the Baraka. The blessing in the marriage, is that when the dowry is less than

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the more or less are the dairy the more blessing there is in marriage. You are not a boy and a guilty you're taking and going to responsibility to love her to care for her as a companion. It's not a lady who she's on merchandise to is both.

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So you are guardians Be very careful.

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There is something in Islam called a Shia out whereby somebody marries his daughter to somebody else. And the latter

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marriage his daughter to the former without any dalry. In other words, it's planned. You got as much for example, he's got a daughter

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and you got 100 he's got a daughter, and that does have sons is a better example so you can understand that that does have sons. sighs I'll give my daughter to your son. Homicide I'll give my daughter to your son without any doubt restock and exchange. This is how long Islam? This is how long a marriage without dowry is an invalid marriage. What do you do in a situation when you are interested in a lady

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to certain

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interested in one lady. What do we do here?

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You know a person is

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Seeking a hand in marriage?

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Are you allowed to say Jonathan, you seem so lucky, righteous? You gorgeous, everything. She's been looked at the same time.

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Are you allowed to interrupt this person?

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Are you allowed to interrupt? It is how long to interrupt this person? In other words, a man is seeking a hand in marriage. They're still talking about, yes, no whatever. And then see if this lady in becomes interested in this lady, he is not allowed to intercede in this until she rejects or he rejects. If either party reject, you can enter if they're still talking about the situation you abstain. You're not even allowed to mention you are interested in me in one condition.

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When you know that this person who has asked for her hand he's a bad men isn't pray, for example, or he prayed but he thinks alcohol, they can miss major scenes. Here you are allowed to intercede because you want for her the best. And you know that if this person takes her, he might destroy her. so in this situation, you are allowed to intercede and after hand in marriage, if you will.

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That's what the last one for tonight until Adana, a marriage is not accepted only with a guardian. In other words, there are a lot of ladies out there today. A story came to me just recently where a lady got married, with no guardian. What happened was a young man was interested in this younger

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person got together, they said, Look, there is to what lawfully get married lawfully.

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So that's it all right. The young man said,

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Oh, I'll get my shape. And it wasn't a shape with another student of knowledge. And I'll get two witnesses. And it was a contract.

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So this young fella, when the two witnesses, got a student of knowledge, now, Guardian, no dairy, no conditions, just account contract due to the ignorance of the method. And he married her.

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It is a valid marriage. Absolutely. You know, first of all, there was a lot of

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faults in it. Now that we know guardian.

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Have you just mentioned that no contract marriage is valid. Without a guardian, you mentioned this three times, that we would understand that we cannot marry each other. Just because we want to get married, we're going to make sure that all marriages go through a guardian. And that a chef gets informed. And he's the one that does it for you under Islamic regulations, rulings, and that is the more purified way and the only way and this is the safe way. In sha Allah, Allah says this next week in sha Allah, Allah will have part two of marriage, inshallah, and that will be next week.

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If a righteous man seeking a hand of a lady goes to the guardian of that lady, and says, Look, I'm interested in your daughter.

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And the Guardian

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finds a folding, not an Islamic fault.

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Just a thought that he does not like maybe not a doctor,

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maybe not a professor,

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maybe as an added house on the beach. For this reason, you might cite he says, is faulty. If you're a defect in him,

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you got a defect. So and this is the case of a common theme what's happening today. So I'm not going to allow him to take my daughter.

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If this continues to happen to his daughter,

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the guardianship of that man is released, taken away from him and given to someone else. You with me? The guardianship takes taken away from him and gets given to someone else, because he has no right to prevent his daughter from marrying a righteous man. So it gets studied and researched and analyzed by se and He will judge on his situation. But he's not allowed to say no, if there's a righteous man sake in the hands of his daughter, or this or the person is responsible for and there is a higher dimension.

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That if a righteous man comes to you who character nerima

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otherwise there'll be fitness on this earth and evil to spread.

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your stepmother if she has children, and you have children. She has a boy

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You have a goal, that boy and that girl are lawful to each other. Does that answer your question?

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What's the difference?

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There's any difference

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many plays in the cell in the Quran and it's not safe

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easiest writer and the Quran

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allow the Islander it's not right to solve the Quran unless a person is producing the Quran and not making any money on it only enough for him to produce others we can say that is lawful but aren't agree on selling the Quran. Take the forces of the books of him

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if you want to get married, and there's a will the affair which has become like a prevention for you to get married. And the woman around you are dying for you. Correct?

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And I want to marry you because Michelle love the wolvie affair that do not want to marry you the cause of the will the affair lie next. What are you gonna do then now I'm gonna marry you.

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What can you do? You're gonna change your situation. If that won't be affair is not important. Not important.

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Now depends on that will be a fair is I don't want to go into detail but the wolvie affair either can be changed. If it's more important than you get in marriage Can I get

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you right? You got to put yourself in the better position. If you know that this whole new thing is preventing you from getting married. And you're in dire need to get married, you have to get married, you have to leave that will be affair so you will not commit major things

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that are off.

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Demo. While is asking a very good question. Regarding the contract. You see a lot of families with something called a demo called dumb one more. Or in other words, they want to give that 110 $1,000 on the spot.

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And I want $20,000 if you do balsa correct

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there's something called any slam dalry. We understood that correct? There is something called dowry and dowry must be given to the lady regardless if he divorced or not. There is something called a condition. Dairy has nothing to do from a code demo.

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All right. There is something called a condition where the Guardian sometimes especially among a lot of Arabs, I'm not sure but other races they condition on the husband that you must pay such an amount if you divorce. His daughter

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that's allowed in Islam.

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So that's the condition. He wants to safeguard his daughter. For example, you've got a door in a new scale for that Daughter of yours. And that person that wants to marry her you went down. So you you say to him if you marry her, and then you divorce her without any systemic reason. I want you to pay 20,000 30,000 got everyone to do so. He got everyone

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is it true that it is hot on to color your hair black? Is there any proof? Is it true?

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Is it haram to color your hair black? You get a black text and color or paint painted

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is haraam is there proof of that?

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Which is

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is it proof that you are not allowed to buy a black?

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Blue hanifa the father of Abu Bakar when he became Shiva, Whitehead and why being hamato Sallam said go and dye his hair and avoid the black and avoid the black You are not allowed to use black guy in any way.

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Woman

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woman Oh man, there's no difference here. Is it true that when you're married, that your religion is completed,

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that your religion is completed? What do we say about that issue?

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That when a man is married or lady, he has fulfilled half of his religion which remains

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The other half to fear Allah Allah.

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Is it wrong for a woman

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to wear tight clothes?

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Absolutely hot on stuff with a lot of things.

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You want to be a fitna for men.

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If your man doesn't get jealous if you're meant to get jealous, is it okay to stop for the lower again?

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We know that one of the issues of his land one of the major themes is the cuckold. What is a cuckold? He's a man who even he's even though he sees his wife or his female relatives floating around, playing with other men in any way. Hey, just say just have fun with

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this maze.

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And this man is known as the cuckold. And it is hot on and we know that

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one of the

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issues with the pig mate that makes the person not jealous. The pig name has been treated as evidence for medicine. That the pig mate nice a person not jealous.

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And as you can see those who are the pig eaters

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they all cuckold.

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Unbelievable these people man, they really sort of get to you know, you see them outside it's very sad for panelo What man I've got to use one of them on one of the minor almost major signs the hour that the day will come where the the donkey will commit to a donkey in the streets. This is what we are witnessing today. Brothers and sisters Really? These people have no modesty at all and no modesty is unbelievable. To what degree they have elevated themselves to an evil they're really really evil people.

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How can a lady have been in that allow his wife even unveiled to down the street? Is your flower your precious adornment?

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Yeah, can you allow this treasure of yours to go outside and be witnessed by billions of people?

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Disgusting

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can a lady wear makeup and going out outside?

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She had no idea allowed? Why not? She wants to look beautiful.

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She wants to look gorgeous to other men. Is that allowed Islam over the land? She is not allowed to wear makeup to wear perfume. And today as we say you shovel to take the makeup off the

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lady that goes outside with makeup with perfume as though she is as then yeah. Then Yeah, there is a foreigner came to us

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why isn't there a camp for girls

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alone the sun

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inshallah tada there will be a future council goals when there is a place near enough which is not considered as travel because we all know that a lady is not allowed to travel a distance where it's considered travel because what is the Hadid say a lady that believes in Atlanta last day should not travel only Wi Fi

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news

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do not mention it in this photo. Every man that she cannot marry will be her Muharram and if you understood clearly the verse or recited you have understood all on the heading

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that you are allowed.

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Yeah, slowly anything that is traditionally considered traveled is no distance See, there was nothing to

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identify the distance, nothing. Anything even those who said 80 kilometres 30 kilometers, there is nothing anything traditionally as Tonya mentioned, that is considered as travel then the law of a traveler begins.

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Only started not travel.

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Travel means that you leave your home with your luggage with your food and so forth. You're going away heilala you're gonna enjoy yourself.

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What is asking a variable question which relates to the topic? If a person is interested in a goat What is he allowed to look at?

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What is he allowed to look at?

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For example, you get to the guy in hell

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The Guardian is there you are there under your righteous pious Malaysia you feel the panna to go is there

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no strangers with you to go comes in fully valued

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you look around

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Can I please see more

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cannot play anymore. So, she says she looked at her guardian

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and after

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the Guardian after

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the Guardian is allowed to allow her to take off the stuff off her head. She can go back inside and are born herself as though she's in the house with her daddy. This is the correct opinion she is allowed to go inside adorn herself with makeup

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with makeup inshallah to Allah will complete it next week.

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Me

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Ron verse 21 woman Yeah, he on the hakala coming full circle as well as Anita schooner Elena was in a coma was

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in

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the pony European animal he finds is this very created for you for your own men,

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ladies, why'd spouses and then your claim, so, they so that you can find or Lin or dro in tranquility within any has placed between you and her assets section in nursing. And indeed in this assignment for people who reflect and certainly sattva three

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he says some people will now fall by luck Amina Nisa not know what to look

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for in a system unless

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he that an old man malakut A man can marry a woman of your choice. You want to marry two, three or four you have a choice.

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However, if you feel that you will not be able to do justly with them, then only one or that with your right hand is this.

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Your filter when I turn on the phase one le bass when we're Anton lieberson, the one you are or they are a gun for you, a You are a dominant to them. By hockey related that our beloved promo said to us

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when a man marries he has fulfilled half of his religion. So let him see the almighty Lord with the remaining half. Somebody who is male body, Muslim, the judge collected the body from authority all of the life in the Muslim world that was handed off to law or that he will sell them said, Oh young men

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are men you can marry should marry. Why? Because it lowers your gaze and God's your modesty and whoever is unable to marry due to his ability should fast Why? Because fasting diminishes

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decreases your sexual desire

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and was willing to say jazz collected the hadith of Abdullah ignore

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that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, the world you live is an enjoyment. The worldly life is an enjoyment. And the best of this enjoyment is a righteous woman,

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a righteous woman. Through a marriage the brothers and sisters are Muslim can find his soul mate. When the spouses complete, they beautifies they perfect each other. They are garments for one another, fitting into each other. As a gun fits the body is the way Allah mentioned them. For each other, fitting into each other as a garment fits the body,

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such as the closeness of the relationship between two spouses.

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They are protectors supporters of one another. Marriage is no other than act of worship and act of righteousness are responsible devotion for he who marries has fulfilled half of his religion for this. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam emphasized the importance of righteousness, of faithfulness and of piety as the main criteria in the choice of a life partner.

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Three things that you look at when you want to get married, male or female. These are the first three things you look at righteousness, piety and faithfulness. As the main criteria main thing that you're looking or you look for in a lot

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for for B that you deem terabit, your DAC choose the righteous one he mentioned and your hands will be saved. Otherwise you will be a loser. Yeah, one bite you will be a loser.

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And how many losers out there today?

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How many losers? There are two hifi in marriage. Ah, she's

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gorgeous. This thing is

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no and then he married her neglected her religious or righteousness or whatever. didn't bother him. What he wanted was a model

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and then a love homocysteine what happens after that that model became a model

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and that destroyed him.

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Now you have chosen your wife united the potential idea there that you like what are you doing next? Masha? Allah, righteous lady, her religious strong, she's stable, she's firm.

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What's your next step? You must, you should you are strongly recommended to say guidance to say what guidance for guidance from him, from your father or mother, or from your say or teacher.

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Say guidance from the almighty Lord, who was disturbed by praying to God

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other than the prescribed pray a prayer which is known to be solid total istikhara do you pray to God other than the prescribed prayer? And then you've received your mighty Lord saying all I ask of your knowledge for guidance, after you pray to take off? You reach out your arms you stretch them out, Oh Allah, I ask God your knowledge for guidance of your powerful strength. I ask of your great generosity, for certainly you are powerful and I am not and you are the know of the unseen the knows that which you choose if it's good for you or bad for you. And then you say our life you knew that this matter. And the matter is no rich. For example.

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If this matter, he says is a Nevis good for me. Your law, then decreed for me make it easy for me and bless me in it. But if you know that this method is detrimental to more religion, what will be life and my hereafter then diverted from me, turn me away from it and guide me to that which is better.

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And when you do these two, I have the second goddess on the almighty Lord, if you're comfortable after some time has elapsed if you're comfortable with this person, you sought guidance from Allah. If you feel comfortable, marry that

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person, this is male female now.

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So handle that you felt comfortable. You found your wife, you've sought guidance of Allah Allah. What do you do now? Now comes the contract.

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Here there's a lot of misconceptions regarding the marriage concept the Islamic marriage contract, not the traditional marriage contract. As for the Islamic marriage contract, the man does say he has a short address to the people, and that this address is no better than the one that we all know which is known as battle,

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which is in the 100 in Lahaina mundo, who won, who won a star Fierro Villa Himanshu, Rory and fusina was Lena Maja de la, de la la la mejor de la falda de la vie shadowgun ilaha illAllah Whoa, whoa, whoa, la sharika la was shadow, Mohammed Abu orfu. To the end of the verses, as you all know,

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the hooded Isaiah which is the sermon while in need, the sermon has been pronounced the address, what is the next thing we must understand for that contract that is then a contract to be accepted to be proper.

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Both parties must agree to it. husband wife must agree that dowry must be mentioned

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to witnesses must be there,

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that guardian of the lady must be present.

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Both parties wife, husbands are allowed to condition upon each other. They both are allowed to condition upon each other conditions under the Islamic regulations. And once the conditions have been forwarded, the Hadith says the stipulations most entitled to be abided by those with which you have been given permission to enjoy the woman's private pathway. In other words, if she has condition something on you, you are not allowed to break that covenant, you cannot break that contract, you are under obligation had you a problem you should speak to her before that is written many people after the condition the lady for example, condition something in the contract and after

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that he rejects it when after marriage

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that is breaking the contract is destroying the contract.

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As as we are witnessing today, regarding the marriage contract a lot of traditional things happen. For example, we all know

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the HA

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What do they say?

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They say

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ha Raise your hands, raise your hands.

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And once the 30 How is done they Masha Allah, Allah, Allah, the law for for each other,

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take around go and

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take her out.

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Have some nice fresh air.

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And then he gets to the ring.

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Then he gets what is known as the engagement ring, the engagement ring

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all the Guardian

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conditions that the marriage is not accepted unless it is registered under civil law.

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Under what civil law

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and the code for law.

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When do we have to

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write our marriage contract or Islamic marriage contract? When do we get married to a lady and the only way she is lawful for us, or for us is when she's written and the civil war

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will lie. Our witnesses don't want to go. One brother, who's the gutting of this bill I was marrying off. her guardian said I condition that she has to be written or this contract must be under civil law. Otherwise the contract is invalidated

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a lot and I have looked at him and

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he's hitting me that

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he can't muck around with him.

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So

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I was in a state of shock. I didn't know what to say to him. And the whole people the whole game there. I did not know. I knew the poor man who was the brother bridegroom. That's all I knew. I looked at what you gave me

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However, we continued the same the contract handler who got married but did not write that in absolute because I considered that as a valid a valid condition.

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So handler that was completed. This is the main way or the only way you can get married very simple alive. Well, the sisters, Islamic marriage is very easy, very easy birth must embrace the dowry two witnesses, the guardians, the shape is dead. Simple. It's a full five minute job the whole thing. The whole thing is only a four or five minute job.

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Recommendations advice before marriage, it is very strongly recommended that the lady, the bride and the bridegroom get advice before considering making the marriage in other words before they live together. For example, the where you told the man the way for the lady of suspicion of envy of evil false for Lonnie they are the key to people

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do not blame each other. live within modesty and obedience with each other. Let her and let him only smell or see that which the other admirers

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did not spread each other's secrets.

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Be romantic, totally man be romantic to the lady to focus on the most romantic was the night as the night he was romantic. It even arose

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when on the way home if you go on on the corner of Woodrow and him hallway.

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There's always someone dead. Oh, someone did something roses.

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When they're going there. Next week, it's the red light.

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$2 $1 $16

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try

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and take a home to your deli one.

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And 34 year old doesn't believe me will lie he that would change a whole day.

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That would change the whole day. And you have the best meal that night.

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The best meal something you've never tasted.

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And I'm pretty sure a lot of us romantic men have tried this.

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If you cannot afford the rose, get a candle will fall for underneath. Which was a lot of fun.

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and have dinner together. Under candlelight. Oh, you want to be more romantic?

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It's not a joke, a serious proposal. Almost romantic. He was romantic.

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Or no our little word will lie the least of words. We have the biggest effect on our heart.

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Even the least of words from her will have the biggest effect on your heart.

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Yeah, for example, you had you come home

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and she makes a meal for you. You might not even like that meal. But say Miss Ulla how beautiful how tasty Esperanza? This movie is a boy Jonah, how are we gonna get rid of it?

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While law has to change your day, but done by the same fruits and veggies, but you won't make it again.

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Little things play a big role a big affecting your life. A big effect will line. So make sure you told them the bride groom and the groom and the bride that you got to be romantic. Another important thing that she keeps her name when she gets married, rather than taking her husband's name and how many people today, wives have their husbands name.

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Many it's the western sort of concept. For example.

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A deal was called alpha law, then to abdillah a local family. And his name is Abdullah IGNOU. I'm the rough man of Bologna.

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When she gets married, her name remains too long been through

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a lot of fairy and has not become a football Lani.

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And many people today for example, your thoughts their wives. What's your name? She told you the

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I've been to a lot of trouble any meaning she has taken the name of her has been. This is not acceptable in Islam.

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It is not acceptable. Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam warned us against this, and listened to the Saudis, whoever attributes himself to other than his father, why are you knowing has disbelieved

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has disbelieved.

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The only time to lower the whistle and change names when there was not proper. For example, as the photographer or the yellowtail, who mentioned that he thought his name was I'll see a singer, her name was sinner, then Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam changed it to Jamie, Jamie jameelah, which is beautiful. So we are not allowed to take or to change our wives name. You as a husband and charlotta to be if you're already married, and this problem has occurred change the problem. You can change it just like a person has already fallen into a river he can change it and always all forgiving, Most Merciful. You have the ability to change it to change it.

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Now before the consummation of the marriage, the context completed they had both been recommended advised counsel to executive to do what they have to do. They want to get married now. The first night of conservation we're not going to get in great detail inshallah.

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before it happens, the man places his hands on his wife's forehead, on his wife's forehead. And he says Alona in me as your hair will say it on a device to her he was Udo becoming shorter rehab was surgery manageable. Lady translated a one law I seek the good in her and the goodwill which have created her and I seek refuge in You from the evil in her and the evil which you have inclined towards is the first thing that you do. Second of all, you perform Udo she performs judo. And you go pray to Raka

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with you the man you pray to

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the third thing you do before you consummate the marriage You say Bismillah Allahu Nuys and live in a state on was in the state on now does aka Tana. And I'm pretty sure a lot of brothers do not say this. And a lot of sisters do not say this, you're obliged to say this, you and your wife before you consumate the marriage is very important.

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Whether it's the first night or every other night in your life, very important. In other words, Oh Allah, keep us away from the devil and keep the devil away from that which you have blessed us. If you can see, for example.

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And Hamas look at the saying that if Allah did pray for your child, they say Tong will not be able to harm that child. So very important that you never ever leave these two islands. And that's why scholars have said there are so many disobedient children today. Why they say because the parents did not make these two, before marriage. The parents did not make this two hours before marriage. So they say the reason for their disobedience is due to their forgetfulness or the hatefulness or their neglectful

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or their ignorance. I did not know that these two are so now you know Sandra Lee can present it.

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After this in charlotta Allah you've completed what you've completed, the first night is completed. Next comes the why Lima and the walima should be performed three days after the first wedding night as in the case of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam with his wife, Sophia vinto. Yay. He performed the walima three days after their first wedding night you should invite the righteous with a poor or rich did not restrict it to the rich people only invite the poor is wall likewise in this walima Do not be too extravagant. If you can afford Nate you four need to buy meat. If you cannot afford me boy sweet. He performed you You gave him sweet if you cannot afford to wait by date.

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If you cannot afford date, just serve them water. Hunter learn Sunderland. Today we are witnessing what the amazing the incredible the shocking he will look

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My brother goes and borrows $30,000 please walima on the 1000s or even the hundreds whatever, just fall walima What

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good boy do to go and make these big banquet, when you cannot even afford to eat and live home is how long is not acceptable

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likewise in the walima It must be segregated men in one room, another complex ladies in another complex, there you go you have to divide the tooth You are not allowed to mix them together.

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It's not allowed islamically likewise now rock and roll, no pop music or Blues Brothers,

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no heavy metal

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or no country in wisdom. Well no other music is allowed except for one which is the death that is allowed to be used in the walima the deaf besides this you are not allowed to put any kind of musical instruments. Likewise, the bridegroom does not pick himself up and go to the woman section says a woman can see my shirt oh look at my husband to be and how many times do we see this as well? Where the bridegroom Mashallah dresses up in that luxury. perfumes himself becomes the biggest fitna and goes to the lightest section and they all checking him out.

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Likewise, the bride herself in her beautiful clothes unveiled or not goes to where appears so express the soul before the name is not what we do. This is your wife your husband you are fighting for each other not to the people is not acceptable. And today alone alomst stomach a buzzer what a cola buzzer it's called a buzzer and they place it they flower is a perfume is a crown and they put mountains on it. And they put it in the corner and the crowd is all watching them all night looking at them all night. As if they're a picture holder take a picture home with them all night they just look at that buzzer whatever it's called.

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This is the ridiculousness.

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You don't want to show your watch to the men.

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Leave it to the your wife restricted to you.

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That's what she's valued because she's yours, not people's eyes.

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So that is not acceptable as well. If you are invited, you should not say no, I'm not going to go. When you are invited Tolima you should go to the walima if you go to the walima and you see something they disapproved of islamically what do you do?

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What do you do?

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You leave Will you sit down and relax and enjoy the haraam?

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If you see something disapproved of islamically you go and do it a guardian you got toda bridegroom look united voice then it is haraam I cannot stay here. Whether he gets upset or not, you are Your duty is to please the one that created you and not the one that invited you. So you leave after advising him. Likewise another thing that we see after that banquet after the walima you see people which is the guardians of the lady or the man

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put in a horseshoe horseshoe with the open end facing towards this guy

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in the front of the house or on the front door or the room which they're going to live in. Have you not witnessed this? Why because they say this is for good luck.

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Have we not witnessed this? They say this is for good luck. Today I placed the horseshoe with the opening facing towards the sky because they say if you turn the other way, with the AP facing downwards, the good luck will fall out.

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This I Believe

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well lights Emily's

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say make sure it's facing upwards.

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say if it's facing downwards then that good luck in so they unplug it and turn it around.

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That is in regards of the marriage of Islam in Islam. 100 let the people have been a couple of the marriage now there are limos on Islamic foundation. There are duties towards the lady and duties towards the husband.

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In a beautiful Hadith narrated by Abdul Rahman who suffer is Abu huraira or the a lot I know the person said to us why can

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Manju to be good to the woman, for they have been created for my rib from what I read. And then he mentioned the most crooked portion of the ribs is his upper path. The upper path there is it's the most broken, the top one, not the bottom one, the top one, and in a hurry site, if he tries to strengthen the rim, you will break it and if you leave it like that it's going to remain crooked so I can then use to be good to the woman. Now the Hadith says any sermon during the farewell pilgrimage he mentioned to us saying Solon,

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Fear Allah regarding the woman for you have taken him in marriage of the trust of all of the islands.

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Allah Allah says Why should one be narrow for encourage tabula rasa and sutra who say and Allah Allahu Fie, hey, you're on.

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live with them honorably in a good life. If you dislike them, it may be that you might dislike something but Allah might turn that something into a great deal of good Islam the brothers and sisters.

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Peace considers a woman as a precious pill. A flower is this family not as that Western portrayal on television is that we oppress a woman with a delay him in 34 law Islam has given the right to a lady. had they known us then the rights of Islam, had they known the Quran and Sunnah. What teaches us how to be towards woman that will not say a word, which they accuse us of older delaine than Islam or Lucha brothers and sisters. A woman in Islam is a precious swallowing up precious pill, a flower. Islam does not want her in any way to be attacked or tampered with by the villains, nor by the chaste lady being chased by the poison look.

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She's a mother, she's our daughter. She has a sister or grandmother or Auntie or cousin. She is our sister in Islam. This is the woman's plan. His plan is laid down many, many rights, so we can protect her. And these rights are many amongst them is the man's duty towards his wife, because when he has married this poor creature, he has taken from the guardianship of her father, to his responsibility. Now she's under his wing. He's become his flock and he's the shepherd. For this. He has to be very, very careful.

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Very careful when he is not allowed to allow her to remain any strangers.

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He is not allowed to allow her with any strangers. Whether it is her brother in law, her cousin, her friend, or any person that she can marry, she is not allowed to remain with these people alone. She is not allowed to go to the male doctor alone.

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She is not allowed to go into the cab. It is a male driver alone.

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She does not have to confront the carpenter, the electrician or a plumber without a tradesman.

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Well, there's no one in the house. She is not allowed to confrontive on the door the fog bowl haraam if she becomes hungry, to not have to dye your pizza or to babble Chinese.

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She's not allowed the cookies gonna exchange the money for the product that is her own. She is not allowed to go to the mechanics on her own. The husband did not allow this many husbands Yeah, they forced their wife to do their dirty work.

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Can you see what mechanical

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take away Take your car to the mechanic to source as well.

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As a mechanic she reaches the mechanic. Nothing by Monday, November man she starts conversing Mashallah

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jam is a bonnet for him an oil leak. I've got it right here. I

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think that the plug is missing. And there she is bending over the time. He's whatever we are built.

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It's a nice

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it's a nice dynamic. Where's the man? Where's the men.

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She is not allowed to go to the nail teacher of her child for an interview or for a meeting on her own.

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She is not allowed to mix or joke or laugh with her employees may want employees as she's not allowed to even work for my own playing.

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These are all reasons or ways that you present evil

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You're trying to hurt or pisser well no you're not you are trying to protect her. She is a delicate thing to you you want to protect the peace on the restriction So, she will not get hurt by villains.

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You are not allowed to place in the house magazines that contain nothing but men and woman half naked

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Oh nothing but gossip on that in that fashion like cosmopolitan or paleo or TV or whatever prep there is around so hot on why she reads the book of cosmopolitan politan you don't have any Muslim House have a painter and his wife has cosmopolitan a player how many will see them or this person has to just this person or this person has an affair with this person or this person is ladies fresh is paid a million dollars for this. What does it mean?

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What other hell What else do you think of such garbage

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and such magazines instead put on her table need that is land

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on a table.

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As you study magazines, there are many

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is that a book books?

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You should not allow her

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to be watching TV or they emulated.

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All they do throughout the day is watch days of our life.

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They are live a long time.

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And what does days of our life consist of?

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What does it consist of?

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The daughter, for example, is trying to take over her mother's whatever who loads. The press is trying to take over with this corruption evil, disgusting, revolting, say porn.

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And yet the wife is relaxed in a nice cup of coffee and watching the Isabelle line all day in all the way all day every day. He cannot wait for that film every day.

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It's become like a habit a disease where she misses that time. She does deserve.

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Now what happens when there was similar films to the Jerry Springer for example?

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Oh, Ricky is a film called Ricky Ricky that Jerry is Nana Ricky does this make

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any other film similar? Today's what do you what are they trying to teach us?

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You want to like show him what to expose you to the world. When your wife watches this, what's going to happen? But you're gonna see problems occurring in families because these films all problems, problems, problems built on problems and the problems in their own evil problems. So when your wife watches things like this evil corruption like this, when you come home, you're in trouble.

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You're in trouble, you will be in trouble because she wants to she's been brainwashed for what she's been seen yet maybe his wife. My husband is doing this as well. He's been like this, he's acting like this. So she would try to implement that was in the film.

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This is our way our mentality, our innate nature.

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This is not acceptable. Nor is it acceptable. To go in the chat room allow her

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to go on the net in the chat room where she's doing Dawa to manual Muslim or non Muslim is not her job.

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So Muslim men does die with Muslim men, the Muslim women that die within a Muslim woman or the or the non Muslim woman. You do not do doubt and men will lie how much corruption

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has come through the net. McCullough how much corruption has come through the net? Whether hola wala quwata how many ladies ended up marrying that who she's talking to? How many ladies have broken up with their husbands and married those who

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are dour?

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How many

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of you many brothers and sisters, me. You as a husband must pray in a kindly,

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friendly manner you should show her love and respect, honesty and loyalty and mercy. You must say that if you feed yourself, you must close her if you clothe yourself as Muhammad Sallallahu earlier with some photos, you must teach our Muslim husband The Pillars of Islam, the pillars of faith

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and teach everything that Allah loves and Woolner against everything that Allah displeased with.

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Lead that tree in your house. Be a stable

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Fern tree with knowledge. She's going to be the mother of the children. If you cannot pay to do to your ability, allow her to attend lectures.

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allow her to attend a mosque. If you cannot even do that by her own library and Islamic library.

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If you beautiful the house with video cassettes is landed video cassettes, Oreo is an cassettes, magazines books. This is the treasure,

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then beautified the house with beautiful bedroom, or beautiful furniture or beautiful tables are beautiful carpets beautify your house with an Islamic

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foundation establishment.

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Likewise, you are not allowed to disclose to expose a defect

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nor her secrets to anybody. If you've got a defect, he has told you a secret it is hot wrong for you to go until these to your to your friends are on

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the hottest mentioned that the most wicked people in the sight of Allah on the Day of Resurrection are those men who went to the wife and she came to them and then he spread her secrets and then he spreads the secrets.

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You are not allowed to physically, verbally, mentally emotionally abused her her arm.

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I saw the yellow dollar and I said that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam never hid his servants, nor did he hit his wife nor anybody else. Yes, if she disobedient, you can discipline her in accordance to the book of Allah Allah and he teaches us how to discipline our wife very basic. And if you take this guideline, one law you will discipline her.

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You will discipline her.

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Well Lasseter, ha una una 501 was your own nephila, dodgy watery boon for in Africa and nakane Salah taboo as a Gina Sabina and today's woman who you see on their path to conduct

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disobedience. First, you admonish them doesn't work. you abandon their beds, it doesn't work, you hit them lightly. So the first one admonishment, which is advice with Neva Landa abuse, no disgrace or shame. If it does not work, after you've tried your best advisor. Now when you say his voice to you and almost phase of monisha you don't slander her, so a lot of people trying to let her husband say I am advising her, he's almost killing him with his words. He's making the situation much much worse. He's cursing her slandering or shaming her and he plays admonishing her and he has not left anything in her buddies disgraced, he needs to be admonished, not her.

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If it does not work, you go to the next stage, which is leaving separating their beds is not sleeping the same bed as she does. If that does if that doesn't work, and usually that works indefinitely. If that doesn't work, you go to the last one, which is to hit them lightly. Now how do you hit them lightly?

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here another misconception a lot of people thought that you hit them with a sledgehammer.

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And this is not like this is how

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you hit them lightly without touching their face.

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Without any bruising without tearing their skin without breaking their bones. You are not allowed to damage her in any way. Any light knees like this. No bruise, no tear no nothing. Not like this.

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And knock out the one punch knockout

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does not lightly apart on

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this is in accordance to the Quran. So you know now it's time to learn how to trade your wife if she disobedient.

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Now the next thing that you must do is spend some time with her communicate with her. Dress up for her. Do you not like your wife to just up for you?

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Do you want your wife to beautiful herself for you? Absolutely. If not, they're saying

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I love to dress up for my wife or left to beautiful I'm so full more my wife as I love her to beautify herself for me. What a beautiful scene.

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But today is a man who has come to have come from work or in shabby, dirty, filthy stinky clothes. He sits down and to go as he goes he faces

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was just up for me

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and she got a governor next to him for this bill.

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And yet she wants he wants her to just up for him.

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And if

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you want something from her you'd be that example. up that example whatever you want from your wife, whatever you want from her up here example.

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For example,

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you want your wife to be skinny slim, for example, a lot of people like slim ladies. Many people do not like slim ladies, they differ.

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You want it to be slim. Well masala your bucket

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is that gonna work?

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Look, I got a backlash.

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Yeah, when you want something from your wife, you gotta look to your wife. Come find your wife. As an example, to get what you want from her.

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And don't will lie he will work indefinitely.

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Likewise, you are not allowed to bring your outward problems inwardly, meaning you've had a hard day at work. Do you for a couple of workmates.

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If for some people

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you're angry.

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You go home You're so angry. And there's no one but that little creature in the house poor little thing that pops up all the time.

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Come on man. And the poor thing what's going on what's happening? Oh, because you angry because of work. And the poor thing gets thrown in the garbage. Yeah, she did from you. She feeds you after that. And all you can do is throw all your anger. Scott will lie on the mountain being placed on a head and she's done nothing.

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Be very careful. Do not let your problems outside, come inside. Problems outside remain outside is the new life and that'll live for you. Inside with your wife is an alternate different life outside of the different life did not make the outside life, your inside life, two different lives.

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And lastly, we got into Judith have a husband to his wife, you must understand that she is a lady, she's your wife. He is the mother of your children. She is part of the family. For this you are her shepherd and she is your flock. You are obligated to protect us on your fire through faith and righteous deeds. They will obligate the teacher we slam as I mentioned, you cannot teach her you take you send someone that can say for example, you get her a tutor or you allow her to attend lectures or you buy Islamic material her need while learning for Islamic knowledge is never less than the need for water and food. Now less than a need for water and food. Likewise know that ladies

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are very very insecure, very insecure. So when you leave to work every day, know that your wife may be slightly scared she might feel unsafe. And this is a typical thing in ladies they can become very very scared. So allow her and only allow her to communicate to contact righteous ladies. Let her have a link between left with ladies that will teach her to fear Allah Allah that reminder of the hereafter. Not ladies and this is the warning do not allow your wife to associate to communicate with ladies who are back biters, slanderous carry fairy tales. On Islamic they're not practicing Islam at all. The way from such ladies will lie they can destroy your wife and not help your wife.

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The only person that you allow your wife to communicate with is ladies who are righteous, who will try to hope islamically and not destroy her.

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You want to continue the rights of the woman

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to the men's briefly or you want to call it quits

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and tenure.

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Very briefly.

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Very briefly, what's a comeback isn't?

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Just very briefly due to time, the lady's duties towards her husband.

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She must understand that she must obey your husband in all matters. Except when it means disobedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala for example, if your husband commands you to unveil Are you allowed to

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abide by his commands?

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No Lau thought in the Muslim Apollo female series to learn, there is no obedience to creation, if it means disobedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala Allah, so you must obey Him in matters that do not, or are not disobedient to the almighty lord. Likewise, you must protect a wife, your private parts and his property in his absence for Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when 14, about the lady who is righteous, he mentioned that the lady is that the righteous lady is the one if you look at her if you are pleased with her, if you commander, she obeys you. And if you are absent from her, she protects the private part and your property. Likewise,

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you are not allowed a wife to allow anyone in your house in your house without your husband's approval. As Dave mentioned, it is not lawful for lady to allow a man or anyone else in the house, if the husband has not approved of it. Likewise, you are not allowed.

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You are not allowed a wife to leave the house only with your husband's approval. And if you do leave the house, you must leave. Dressed islamically unperfumed with no makeup, you must lower your gaze, you must not check to every person you say even if you go shopping, you are allowed if it's a necessity, but you don't stay for half an hour talking to the man on the cashier For example, this is not acceptable. It is how it on

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likewise, your duty that you do not deny has his phases or the kindness done by him. We all know in the great idea when he ascended in the night of the sanction that Mohammed sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was shown Hellfire without the BelAir. And what did he say? I saw the majority of his dwellers today, women, when asked why a prophet of Allah? He said due to the ungratefulness he was asked, Is it because they just believe in Allah? He said no, not because of that. But they are not thankful to their husband? No. Are they grateful for the favors he does to them? If you do one, if you do to one of them go to your life. How do you continue the same? If you do too, one of them good

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all your life, and then she sees something harsh for you. She says to you, I have never seen anything good from you. This is very, very dangerous. Oh ladies Be very, very careful. This is one of the reasons why Hassan said to us that the majority of the roles in health i a woman. So be aware and be aware and be aware, a lady is not allowed to save the voice.

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Only if there's an Islamic valid reason as I hadn't mentioned any lady that 60 volts with alto Raven, she will not be able to smell the fragrance of paradise. But we have many complaints, many problems from lady today against their husbands, which is usually or commonly associated with the common fact that their husbands are not fulfilling their duties, for example, is not in love me is not merciful, is not affectionate. He doesn't take care of me

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is lack of companionship communication doesn't spend time with me. He's physically, emotionally mentally verbally abusing me. He is not spending any money on me. In other words, not is not financially supporting her. He does not allow me For example, to take arbitration when I'm in dire need of it. Or another thing that she says which is all valid for her to accept or fake divorce is that the husband always warns that he will divorce I've always thought I'll divorce you I will divorce you I will divorce you the way it's hard on the lay brothers head on this is common. They always say a men always say to the wives, I will divorce you if you are going to go and seek

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arbitration or help islamically under the circumstances the lady the lady is allowed to consult a Shea demanding to know her rights.

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What is the whole aim the ideal situation of marriage Why do we get married? What is the lady to get married? What is the man get married isn't a soldier to live in love and happiness in tranquility in conflict oil life even is our main aim. So when the lady is not failing this and the husband is neglecting or rejecting or refusing her, not pay any attention to how she gonna feel to the human being, to the human being and she is your he's your

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Walk and you are has shifted. I'll complete my speech by saying that the lady that prays a fourth press, the lady that prays the fourth press foster month of Ramadan. A basil has been a basil husband protects the private parts. She will be allowed to enter Paradise from any door she pleases

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from the layer below me