Life of Aisha RA #08 – The Dress code of the wives of The Prophet

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Smilla Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah, the brothers and sisters As salam o alaikum, Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. And welcome to another episode of Arusha Mother of the Believers. With me, Fatima barkatullah. Last time, we began talking about the verses of hijab and how

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Allah subhanaw taala revealed verses for all the Muslim women about how they should dress in public in terms of, you know, in front of non Muslims and in the public space. And so we know that

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the rules of hijab for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi, wa sallam,

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they were strict, and they were for the general Muslim woman. They used to leave the house in the evenings, for example, in order to avoid being recognized. And although they were covering themselves with the, you know, the heads were covered, and their entire bodies were covered, or might have been a hubbub, or the lion who felt that there should be a greater level of covering and protection for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. In fact, he felt that they should not go out unless there was a need.

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Okay, and this was because of the status of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam, and that there were all sorts of men, you know,

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good and bad, who could potentially see them and interact with them.

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I shuddered the land had tells us that the wives of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam used to go out at night to a certain place.

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Because in those days, you know, they didn't have toilets, in the houses, right. They used to consider that to be a negative thing. And, you know, it's like, even in some rural places today, right, they would go out to the desert, to certain places in privacy where they could relieve themselves. So I should tell us that the wives of the Prophet used to go out at night

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for that purpose. And, oh, Ma, Radi Allahu Anhu he used to say to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, let your wives be veiled, let them be veiled. Now, some of the scholars say what he meant was that let them you know, cover their faces, okay. And others said, Let them be behind the curtain, you know, let them not

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be out in public in such a way that they can be recognized.

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But the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam did not do that.

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He didn't insist that you know that they don't go out. Then one night, so they're meant to Zama one of the ways or the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, she went out at Isha time. And you know, she was a tall woman,

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oh, my God, or the Alon who recognized her. And he said, We recognized you Oh, soda.

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And he did that. It seems to maybe just to show that, you know, it's very easy to recognize the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam in public.

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And he was hoping that the hijab would be revealed. And then Allah subhana, Allah revealed the verses of hijab and he also revealed to the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam that the wives of the prophet could go out for their needs. You know, when it came to their needs, it was perfectly fine for them to go out, but there was a higher level of hijab for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam. Another incident that happened

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is when the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam married Zainab bint Jesh. In Medina, he invited people to a walima meal into his house. And he sat down and some men sat in his house as well. And Zainab, the scholars say she sat with her face to the wall, you know.

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And then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salam thought that the men would leave soon, but they continued to stay, and they were still chatting and talking. And Xena Avila and he was sitting facing the wall. So in other words, she was not comfortable right? When the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam realized not leaving, he just went out. He went to do some things and then he came back with NS and

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Eventually he saw okay that the men had left. And then he drew a curtain between us and himself and his wife, right. And the verses of hijab were revealed. This is a narration in Bukhari and Muslim.

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So

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Allah subhanaw taala revealed in certain hazhar, verse 53,

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he revealed that, Oh you who believe and to not the prophets, houses, unless permission is given to you for a meal, and then not so early as to wait for its preparation, but only when you are invited. Enter. And when you have taken your meal, disperse without sitting for long talks. Verily such behavior

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annoys the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he is shy of asking you to go. But Allah is not shy of telling you the truth. And when you ask his wives for anything, ask them from behind a screen, a curtain that is purify your hearts and for their hearts. And it is not right for you that you should annoy Allah's Messenger nor that you should ever marry his wives after him. Verily with Allah, that should that would be an enormity. So it's verse 53. So from this verse and other verses, okay. We find that there were special rules when it came to the wives of the Prophet SAW Salem. And you know, sometimes the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not he didn't want to upset people

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or he, he didn't want to say to people that you know, that they were inconveniencing him. And that's why Allah Subhana Allah revealed versus telling the Muslims to Annie be a bit more sensitive, you know, and not kind of appear at the prophets house and spend too much time there. And, you know, to the point that he feels shy because you're his guest, you know, he doesn't, he doesn't want to tell you to leave. So Allah subhanaw taala revealed these verses telling the believers to, you know, be sensitive of the prophets of Allah when he was salams needs.

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And he also revealed verses for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

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in Surah, number 33, in which he told him that there were special rules just for them.

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Allah has found that that Allah said, oh wives of the Prophet, you are not like anyone among women, you're not like the other women. If you fear Allah, then do not be soft in speech, when you're speaking to men, lest He in Whose heart is a disease should cover it. But speak with a with appropriate speech, and abide in your houses and do not display yourselves as was the practice of the former days of ignorance and establish the prayer and give the zakah and obey Allah and His messenger. Allah intends only to remove from you the impurity of sin, oh people of the prophets household and to purify you with extensive purification. And remember, what is recited in your

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houses of the verses of Allah and wisdom? The Quran and the Sunnah, right? Indeed, Allah is Ever subtle and acquainted with all things. These verses were very important to our mother Aisha, and I think that especially later on, as we will see, and she really took them to heart.

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Some of the special rules for the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam including our mother, Aisha, were the following.

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non Muslims could only speak to the wives of the prophet from behind the curtain. So when they came, for example, and you know, especially later on when they came to seek knowledge, when they came to ask about some matter, or some Hadith, or even if they were just visiting to give something or to ask a question,

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they wouldn't come in their physical presence, even if the words of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Were wearing, you know, the jilbab, the hammer etc.

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There was also an added layer there was a curtain or a physical screen between them and non Mahara men. And this was a special rule just for the wives of the Prophet

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So they had this extra level of covering.

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They also covered the entire bodies, including their faces and hands in public. And this is clear from many, a hadith. When they traveled,

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they used to be inside of how Dutch so how that is like a seat with a canopy around it like a tent, almost like a little tent that is put onto the back of a camel. Okay, it's like a tent like structure. And so it's, it's like an extra level of covering again. And the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when they were traveling, they would be inside that structure. Or it's, it's like a little box, you know, that people can carry on their shoulders, lift it up and hoist it onto a camel.

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Also, no one was allowed to marry the wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam after his death. So that was also another rule that was specific to the wives of the Prophet,

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if the wives of the Prophet when ever to commit a sin, and that would be regarded as graver than the sin of an average person, right? And conversely, if they did a good deed, then that would also attract greater reward. So you can see that Allah subhanaw taala was not only giving them a status and giving them you know, the opportunity for greater reward, but he also was holding them to a higher standard. After the verses of hijab are revealed. Our mother Aisha was even more careful and she had been previously

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she would only go out for her needs and necessities. After the break, we will return and we will look at some other verses that were revealed due to our mother Aisha medulla Anna, and they were the verses of Tamil.

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I'll see you after the break. Salam o Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah Dear Brothers and Sisters, welcome back after the break.

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We were talking about some verses that were revealed due to our mother, Aisha Delana. We're going to turn our attention to one key ruling or Roxa that was granted to us as believers you know, it's like something that was made easier for us. Due to our mother I shout Atlanta. And that was the revelation of Tiger Mom, the dry ablution the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was going on a journey he would draw lots in order to decide which of his wives would accompany him on the journey. During the journey for the battle of Bunnell Mr. Lick it was at Isha about the Lana's turn our mother Aisha or the Allah Hannah. She really love to beautify herself for her husband, the

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Messenger of Allah. And sometimes she would borrow from her sister a smart and onyx necklace.

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So she had this necklace with her on this journey.

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And she would as well as we mentioned previously, travel in a house dodge is like a little box in which she would be able to sit on top of a camel and it would be completely covered, right? Our mother our Isha narrates the incident to us in Sahih al Bukhari through her nephew Ottawa, Anna zuba. She says, we went out with Allah's Messenger on one of his journeys, till we reached a Baiba or that will Jaysh where my necklace got broken and lost.

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Allah's Messenger stopped to search for it. And the people too stopped with him. So basically, the entire caravan had to stop right in order to look for the necklace of Aisha or the Lana.

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And that's because you know, she had borrowed that necklace, so is very something that she wanted to return to the person who she borrowed it from.

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And she says there was no water at that place. And they had no water with them. They'd run out of water.

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So people began to go to a baker, who is of course I should follow that and said, Don't you see what ASHA has done? She's made Allah's Messenger and the people stop where there's no water, and we have no water with us. Have a backhoe came in

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While Allah's Messenger was sleeping with his head on Ayesha's lap, okay, and she says that Abubaker came in and he said, Look what you've done. You've you've detained Allah's Messenger and the people where there is no water and they have no, they have no water to make will do right.

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He then admonished I showed her the law and her

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and he pinched her, actually. And she said that, even though he pinched her on her legs, she didn't want to move because the head of Allah's Messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was on her lap, he was resting.

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And Allah's Messenger continued sleeping, until he got up in the morning, and he found no water.

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And he says, then Allah subhanaw taala revealed the verses of all the verse of Tiger Mom. And people began to perform Tiger Mom, the dry ablution. And one of the Sahaba will say been on holiday, or he said, Oh, family of Abubaker, this is not the first blessing of yours. So you see, initially people were blaming Russia and saying, you know, because of how there's no water, and what are we going to do, and

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but actually, it was a blessing ended up being a blessing, because from that Masaka, from that difficulty came the tacy of the ease, right? Of Tom, and Tom is the dry ablution, right? It's when you know, we don't have water, or when a person is very ill and they can't use water.

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Then Muslims, wherever they are in the world can use any kind of earth material, right? Whether it's sand, whether it's soil, whether it's rock, dust from rock, chalk, even right to rub it on their hands and their faces. And that constitutes a kind of substitute, right? For widow and for muscle as well for the full body ablution for the full body, ritual purification, as well as for ablution, which is when we prepare for the prep.

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And then I should have the land has says We urge the camel on which I was sitting to get up from its place. And lo and behold, the necklace was found underneath it. Right? So Subhanallah you know, they found the necklace in the end.

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So you see due to Alma that Atisha this sort of their mom was revealed. And the verse of their mom that I'm talking about is in certain this up, verse number 43 It's the second part of the verse, where Allah Subhana Allah says that and if you are ill or on a journey, one of you comes after answering the call of nature, or you've been in contact with women, in other words had sexual relations and you find no water. Perform to a mom with clean earth and rub with it your faces and hands. Truly Allah is Ever off pardoning of forgiving.

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We find that

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the life of our mother, Aisha Dylan, her with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was also a love story. Yes, even though the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a statesman. He was a guide. He was our spiritual leader and the Messenger of Allah and was very busy with the affairs of the ummah. He taught his companions to have balance in their lives. Abdullah bin Amma reported that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said to him, I am told you fast and never break your fast and you never stop praying at night. And he advised him fast and break your fast pray at night and sleep. Verily Your eyes have a right over you. Your own self has a right over

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you your meaning you have your body right, and your family has a right over you. Subhanallah So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was always emphasizing balance. You know, don't fast all the time every single day. have days when you're not fasting so that you can enjoy time with your family. Right? And you can be in the normal state.

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Don't pray all night every single night because your family needs time with you at night as well. Right.

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The scholar Ibn katheer said it was the character of

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Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam to live in a beautiful manner with his wives, being cheerful and kind to them, generously spending on them and laughing with them. So, from his interactions with Aisha, and the fact that I showed her the lion had told us about those wonderful interactions, Muslim men and women can learn about how they can have a good marriage, right, how we can interact and what the norm is, for a Muslim couple.

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Some of the, some of the narrations that we can mention that really tell us about the way the prophets Allah when he was salam was in his relationship with Aisha, are as follows

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the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam cared about it as well being her entertainment even, and he allowed her to have fun and be entertained. I should have reported that Abubaker her father came to her on the day of Eid, while the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam was with her. And there were two girls singing songs of the unsavoury on the days on the day of what if a Booker said twice? So Booker, you know, he saw that there were these girls singing on eighth. And he thought this was inappropriate. And he's he made a comment. He said, These are the musical instruments of shaitan. Okay, but the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, leave them Abubaker verily, every community

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has a celebration. And this in this day is our celebration, right? So he saw that I sure enjoyed hearing the girls singing, and there's nothing wrong with singing. And so he told Abubaker that, you know, this is a special day we let there be singing on this day.

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And so in that he showed us that, you know, there's this there isn't this kind of austere? A harshness, you know, in our religion. I should also reports the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam placed my chin on his shoulder, so I could watch the Abyssinians playing in the mosque, right. So there were some Abyssinians who'd come and they were doing some kind of display in the masjid.

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You know, using different weapons.

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And the Prophet salallahu Alaihe. Salam wanted I should to be able to see this as well. And so he allowed her to lean on him and look through the curtain

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at what the other scenes were doing. And she said, he allowed me to do this until I felt tired and turned away.

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And the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam remarked, verily, I have been sent with a truthful lenient religion.

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The Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam even raced with Aisha we know right, she was with the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam on a journey. And she said, I raised him on foot and I outran him. But then later when I gained some weight, I raised him again and he outran me. And the Prophet said, This one is for that one, right? So in other words, he he got her back.

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So we see from this, that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam was very playful, a very loving husband.

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And from that, we we can also learn that, you know, the, the interaction between husband and wife should be playful, should be something that is light hearted, you know, and they should have, they should enjoy their time together and do fun things.

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The Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam also cared very much about Aisha Dylan has feelings. In one incident, you know, a Persian neighbor of the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam came to ask to invite him to dinner. And this was the day when he was with Asha. And it was one of our issues days, right because he divided his days between his wives, right? And he had made some special food Persian food. And the Prophet said, is, and my wife Aisha, in other words, is my wife, Aisha also invited and the man who had come he was like a servant for the Persian man. He said, No. So the Prophet salallahu alayhi salam declined the invitation. The man returned another time the servant returned

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another time and he said,

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you know, he told him that he had been invited to dinner. And again, the Prophet said, What about my wife Aisha? And the man said, No, so the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said no. Then third time the man returned, he realized that the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam wanted Aisha to also be invited.

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otherwise you didn't want to leave her alone. And so when the Prophet asked and my wife Aisha, the man said, yes, the third time, and so the two of them left together, and they went to eat up the Persian neighbor's house, and Imam nawawi. When he talks about this incident, he says the Prophet disliked attending a special meal without her for, he says, this is amongst the beautiful aspects of married life, you know, being able to spend time together and eat together, the rights of companionship and the emphasized manners of gathering. So we see that he was always careful and caring about a shirt or the line has feelings. And that's what really characterized their marriage,

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a marriage full of love, and marriage of playfulness and positivity, but also a marriage where the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam was very much a mentor for mother Aisha

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in sha Allah with that we've come to the end of this episode. And so until next time, I'll bid you farewell to Zack and allow Heron or Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato. Subhana. Allah home Mohammed ash hadoo Allah ilaha illa Anta Astok Fuuka wa to bootleg