Aisha (RA) – Mother of the Believers #1
Channel: Fatima Barkatulla
Series: Fatima Barkatulla – Aisha (RA)
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Recording of a weekly class (Sisters only) presenting a detailed study of the life?, scholarship ? and legacy ? of one of Islam’s most illustrious personalities, and the powerful lessons we can glean from her.
Aisha (RA) was the most beloved person to the Prophet ﷺ, she was his closest student, his confidante, conveyor of his hadith, she had immense impact on Islamic law and history. Her life features times of joy and tragedy, she lived through a painful scandal, was slandered, exonerated. She entered the political arena, she had her regrets, she triumphed over ego, she emerged with renewed strength and created a school of law and impacted the Muslims ummah.
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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala rasulillah Assalamu alaikum Salaam.
dear sisters Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. I am your sister Fatima barkatullah. And some of you might know me from the podcast, maybe some of you know,
social media channels, etc.
But anyway, I just want to welcome all of you to this class, I shot by the olana. I've called the class Ayesha mother of the believers, beloved to the messenger scholar of Islam. I'm really excited to be teaching this class. It's something that it's like the culmination, I would say, of
quite a few years of research, as well as attending classes about a shot at the line her and her scholarship, her hobbies, as well as some research that I've done for a book that I'm writing and as part of my Alinea course that I was doing
previously. So before we get into the course, I just want to answer some of the questions that people have been asking on social media.
One of the things I want to say is that these sessions will be about an hour long, I will say an hour longer Charla so from seven till 8pm.
In sha Allah, the last 15 minutes will be devoted to Q and A. Okay. And
if you have any issues, okay, regarding the administrative side of things regarding, you know, attending and all that kind of thing, whether you've got the zoom link or not, or whether your friend can join or not, please, can you email the admin? Okay, the email address is [email protected] So that's ask as K at
Al manar.org. O rg.uk. Okay, I'm not managing the administrative side of things. So I won't really be able to help you with that. So please, could you email them if you have any issues or questions with regards to that. And as for the number of sessions that these classes will be, I would say, I plan, I plan them to be about 15 to 20 hours, I plan the course to be 15 to 20 hours long. So that means it should take about 15 weeks.
The reason why I can't give an exact number is that this is designed to be kind of like an ongoing thing, you know. And because I haven't actually taught this course this specific course before, I would say that I'm not really sure exactly how long it will take. And obviously we want to enjoy it. We want to enjoy the life of the learner, we want to benefit from it. We want these halaqaat to be like a date in your diary right every week. So please bear with me, please enjoy the class, you know, benefit from the class. I want to tell you that I'm not going to be sharing notes and things like that, you know, on the screen or anything like that. I'm going to be speaking directly to you.
And what I would like from you, my dear sisters, is to attend, you know, to carve this time out for yourself. You know, I know we have kids I know we have we're so busy. We have so many responsibilities and excuses and reasons why we can't attend, right? I'm sure we do. But I'd like to say to you that please. You know when we really want to do something we make the time for it. And our excuses disappear, right? So what we need to do is put this in our diaries put this in our calendars. Put a reminder in, tell the family tell the husband to tell everybody you know that we're going to be attending this session.
In short, a lot that
you're going to come, you're going to come with your full self. Okay? I want you to come with your whole self. And what I mean by that is be very present during the class. Come with a beautiful notebook, you know, your favorite notebook.
dedicate a notebook, especially for this class, okay?
Bring your favorite pen. Make it your mealtime, right? Make it some time for yourself to reflect, to think, to spend some time with our mother, our ishara Dylan ha, to learn from her life.
And not just to, you know, look at her life as though it's some kind of biography or, you know, like a, I don't know, some kind of history lesson. But to actually think to yourself, how could I apply that lesson to my life? How is that relevant to me?
So panela sisters, I'll tell you that.
When it comes to certain people's lives, you know, when you study their life, you get so much benefit from it. And even if you study there live multiple times, you will get multiple benefits depending on what's going on in your life at the time, right? So I remember like, I've studied, like the life or the Tafseer of surah, Yusuf about three or four times with different tools, different settings and different stages of life. And I found the story was the same, right? The details of the story are the same. This you didn't really tell, tell me anything much that was different. But because of what was going on in my life at the time in each of those times, the relevance of the
story and the lessons that I drew from it, were completely different each time, right. And that is the nature of us human beings. You know, there might be things that we've heard before, there might be details that we know about, but depending on what's going on in our lives at the time, we benefit in different ways, right? And that's what this is all about. benefiting and applying this to your life.
So please carve this time out. Have your favorite No, but let me show you my notebook. This is my notebook that I take with me.
And it's got quite a funny thing written on the front.
Right? I've got this from Paperchase.
It says, I don't know if you can see. It says, Oh, I think my my camera is mirrored. But it basically says plans for world domination.
So basically, that's my favorite notebook. And I would like you to bring your favorite notebook with you. So
I think I've covered all the little admony things. humble enough, this is all online. So we don't have to worry about fire exits and those kinds of announcements, right?
So, my dear sisters,
why should we study this subject? Why should we study this class?
Why does this subject matter? Why should we look into the life of our mother I shall Atlanta? Well, I'm going to give you the greater why. And that is that we're living in a time in history, when still panela human beings are talking about and questioning what it is to be a man and what it is to be a woman. Right? Human beings are still confused about the purpose of their lives. They're still confused as to what the ideal way for a man and an ideal the ideal way for a woman to live is and they are looking for role models everywhere, right? And different role models are presented to us right.
As Muslim women, so panela we can see that. Unfortunately, throughout history, there have been times when people have tried to manipulate us as a Muslim woman. Okay. Because you see, my dear sisters, the enemies of Islam they know that if you want to destroy or if you want to affect or if you want to change an entire culture and an entire people, the fastest way to do it is to influence and change the women. And that is because we as women, we are half of the oma and we give birth to the other half. So if our attitude if our sense of commitment, if our
No devotion to Allah changes. It's the quickest way for the next generation of both men and women to be changed.
And I would say the converse is also true. If we as a Muslim oma, we see the things that are happening around the world, and it troubles us. And we wish for the oma to be revived. And we wish for. So Pamela, we wish for that golden age, right? We wish to be the people that last said that we were meant to be the best armor that has been extracted for mankind, right? Then we have to do and we have to be the people who are deserving of that. And the quickest way for us to become that, I believe, is for the women of the oma to, to increase their devotion to Allah to become women of substance. Because my dear sisters, when we become women of substance, then we are no longer subject
to the traps of shape on we no longer become women who are fickle. And this is what the prevalent culture in the world you know, call it I don't know, the capitalist influences the corporation's.
other ideologies, okay, the dominant ideologies in the world, this is what they would like. They would like us to be fickle women, who are great consumers, who are very insecure.
Because that makes us good, because consumers, it makes us controllable. It makes us malleable.
So my dear sisters, let us not let us move away from this idea that's constantly being kind of promoted, we can see on social media all the time, right? We as Muslim women are being encouraged to become as my good friend and I'ma be Robert often says, We're being encouraged to become Kardashians, and he just basically right?
Kardashians in his job, right? women who are obsessed with their looks, when we were obsessed with all of the dounia we things with their appearance with their image. And that's it. And that's as far as it goes.
No, my dear sisters we are. If If a Lost Planet Allah said that we are supposed to be the best of mankind, the best of humankind. I would say as women, we are supposed to be the best of womankind, the best of woman kind. And the way that we're going to revive that one of the ways one of the key ways is to look at the lives of those great people before us, my dear sisters, those great role models before us that Allah Subhana Allah sent in order for us to look at the complete panorama I would say of their lives, and be able to extract lessons for ourselves. And that's one of the wonderful things about
Khadija sorry, that is one of the wonderful things about Khadija, but that's one of the one of the things about eyeshadow, as well. The wonderful thing about eyeshadow is she had a very full life. She lived the full kind of, I would say the human experience, you know, or the experience of womanhood in its many, many facets, okay, even the areas where she didn't experience that she was never a mother, right? a biological mother.
Still, Suppan Allah, Allah Subhana, Allah gave her the opportunity to be a mother, and she treated her own nephews and nieces like her own children. Plus, she was mother of the believers, right? So she experienced motherhood, as well, as well as all the other areas of what it is to be a woman. She was also very human. So although she had that great status as more money in Arusha, I'd be lying her. She made mistakes in her life, she had regrets. she experienced emotions that we as women can identify with, right, we experienced those emotions ourselves, but what we can learn from her is,
is a that
as human beings, we will make mistakes.
And that be when we make mistakes, there is a way back, you know, we can be self aware, we can become self aware, and we can fix those situations, and we can do our best to make amends. And that's one of the great things about you should have the learner so
What are some of the things we're going to cover during this class?
over the span of the next weeks, I will say we will cover of course, the status of Ayesha Dillon, her the qualities of eyeshadow, the line her, her childhood, her context, the context in which she was born, and that she lived her parents about her parents about her siblings, right. And about,
of course, her marriage to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, her relationship with her co wives, the other wives of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we will also look at
the Lana during the hegira after the hegira in Medina,
what was her home life with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam like what was her relationship with 40 mile of the line her like her relationship with her coworkers, we mentioned that
the verses of hijab and how they affected I showed her the line her and we're going to look at the battles that she attended, or that she accompanied the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with
and we will look at some of the notable incidents that happened during those battles. Her famous onyx necklace, who knows about her own x necklace, you can type something in the chat if you know about and famous necklace that she would always lose. And that was the cause of verses of the Quran to be revealed, right? That actually helped us as believers.
Okay, and we will talk about her during the
illness of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam the death of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, her life during the life of abubaker, former of man and then
and beyond. Okay, we will look at some of the controversial incidents that happened, we're not going to shy away from those. And the
issues that happen surrounding the assassination of man or the lion who and her reaction to that, we're going to look at the Battle of the camel,
her relationship with Ali, or the Alon, who, after the death of Ali, and her relationship with Maria,
the unique characteristics of her scholarship.
So we're going to actually take a little bit of a look at, you know, her hobbies, especially her unique opinions, and her approach to phip. We're going to look at her school, the little school that she built, you know, of great scholars, many of whom became the seven greatest scholars of Medina, right. She was one of the key teachers
her impact on Islamic law,
I should have the law as a teacher, I should have the law on her as a daughter, we're going to look at her as a sister.
We're going to look at some of the common contentions or controversial things that other groups, okay, such as the Shia, say about a shadow delanda. And we're going to address some of those contentions, and also some of the things that non Muslims say about a shadow ganha. And we're going to address some of those as well.
So we've got a lot to get through, and Hamdulillah, which is no bad thing. So I hope you've got your pens ready.
Let us begin in sha Allah. So let's talk about some of the objectives of the class. We want to understand who I should have learned her words,
and her background and role and the history of Islam. We want to examine her relationship with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam as a wife, as a companion of the profits and loss alone and as his student. We want to study the major events that took place in Charlottesville and has life both before the Prophet's death, and after his death. We want to grow in love for eyeshadow delana and be humbled by and draw lessons from her life, struggles and triumphs. Want to examine Ayesha bananas, manners and methodology in the in life, family and her contribution to the wider Muslim community. We want to examine Ayesha Dillon his contribution to Islamic law to appreciate the crucial role that
women played in the conveying preserving and understanding of Islam. We want to know I should have the law
We want to love her, want to follow her example and want to defend her. So when people cast aspersions on her any aspect of her life or her character or her story, we want to be able to address those right. And we want to examine and adequately address any doubts caused by people and other sects. Upon shut down.
So, in this session, we are going to, first of all talk about the importance of learning about the Sahaba. Right in general.
So, we know that Allah Subhana Allah gave the Sahaba a special status, you know, he said about them, or they allow them what are the
Allies pleased with them and they are pleased with him. And he there you know, he they have contentment with Allah and Allah is pleased with them.
Last Canada Allah also said in the Quran in sort of total fat,
which is sort of 48 i a number 29, Allah Subhana Allah says, and I'm going to read the translation. He said, Muhammadan rasul Allah, He will levy an AMA, he said, Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, and those who are with him. They are severe, against the disbelievers and merciful amongst each other. You see them bowing and falling down prostrate in prayer, seeking bounty from Allah, and His good pleasure. The mark of them of their faith is on their faces, in other words, their foreheads, from the traces of frustration during Salah.
This is their description in the Torah. But their description in the Injeel is like a sown seed, which sends forth its shoot, then makes it strong and becomes thick, and it stands straight on its stem, delighting the soldiers, that he may enrage the disbelievers with them. Allah has promised those among them who believe and do righteous good deeds, forgiveness and a mighty reward. And this is about the Sahaba. You know, they were promised
forgiveness and a mighty reward. And also, you know, one of the Sahaba of the lightning muscle, he said a wonderful thing. And I think this is something very relevant to our times, for us to really take heed, and live in Massoud. He said, he was a great scholar himself, right.
He said, Whoever amongst you, wishes to follow someone if you want to follow anyone, okay. And obviously, he is a Sahabi. And he was a great scholar. So he lived
beyond the lives of many of the scholars, but many of the Sahaba many of us had died, you know, during his life and he witnessed that. He said, Whoever amongst you and he was talking to the Muslims and the next generation of Muslims, whoever mostly wishes to follow someone, then let him follow those who have died. And he was talking about the Sahaba. In other words, the Sahaba who have died Let's follow them.
For the one who is still alive is not safe from fitna.
The Companions of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam with the best of this oma, he said, the most righteous of heart and the deepest in knowledge, and the most straightforward people who Allah chose to accompany his prophet and establish his religion. So acknowledge their virtue and follow in their footsteps and adhere as much as you can to their morals and religion. For they were following right guidance.
So panela, the beautiful thing he said is, you know, we are sure about their Deen, we're sure about their status.
So we should follow them. When it comes to people in our times, even scholars in our times, no one is free from fitna. We don't know any, you know, what people will die upon. And we don't know what for 10 people will be affected by. So of course, as believers, we are supposed to refer to the scholars right and scholars that we trust. However, for all time, we have the example of the Sahaba as the benchmark, we have them as the touchstone. So no matter what times you're living in whatever corruption has spread in the Muslim community, you know, in the West in the east, wherever we are living, we've always got those the lives of the Sahaba as a litmus test, we've got them as an
example, a timeless example for all times for us to follow. So panela Beautiful.
And we know that there are so many attributes so many Ayat of the Quran.
Talk about the virtues of this harbor. And that Allah subhanaw taala is pleased with them. And that we should follow them we follow the example. Okay, so what is the definition of a companion of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasallam. A Companion of the profit is, and this is a general definition. It's somebody who met the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the state of Eman and died in the same state. Right? So, and usually it should be an adult, there are there is a category of Sahaba that were children.
But, you know, that's a different category.
let me see how everybody is doing.
Okay, Dylan, I think everyone's still with me.
So I just want you to write down in your notebooks quickly.
Just quickly off the top of your head, what comes to the top of your head, some of the like, special or unique qualities of the learner? Just quickly jot them down, say the first
five things that come to your head, and you can type them into the chat as well.
What are some of the unique characteristics of Asian ideal and how that come to your head?
She was outspoken and clever, just like a heroine that piety and knowledge, confidence. She was brave, intelligent, mature, great memory, brave, courageous, intelligent, good memory scholar, her memory ability to comprehend Well, I can't keep up let me see her. She was a strong leader.
And knowledge of
wills. I think you mean writing wills and
inheritance knowledge? eloquent? She was funny. Yeah. She was funny. Yes. She's witty, compassionate, intelligent, confident, curious, or Yes. Curious. She was curious. And thank Allah for her curiosity, right? sisters and brothers.
I mean, saponify. And if it wasn't her curiosity, how many things would we not know? It was a blessing of Allah that I should have been. And I was so inquisitive, right? That the prophets, Allah Sam loved her. Yes, he loved the most
extremely generous, absolutely. Subhana Allah, you know, at the time of Omar, the man who is he had started giving the Sahaba a stipend, right, he would give a certain, I would say, like a certain salary to different to harbor because there was so much welfare come into the Muslim oma, he would divide and give, especially the early Muslims who would give them the highest salary. Right. And I should have the line hand on my heart and what many of the mothers of the believers used to give them a special amount.
But it was very well known that I should have done that as soon as the wealthy would come into the house. Immediately it would be gone, because she would distribute it so quickly. She didn't want it to be that house.
So Pamela, humble. Yes, humble. You see, you can be confident and you can still be humble. So Pamela, right. And this is something we learned from Ayesha Donna intelligent in her speech. Yes. Intelligent, truthful. Honest, the greatest narrator of these
clever, humorous, daring, independent, charitable
Mashallah playful and optimistic. eloquent, beautiful, Mashallah. She was naughty sometimes.
I don't know if that's an appropriate way to
talk about the
you know, one of the lots of meaning, but I know what you mean. You know, there were times when she was very playful, right.
Okay, so let's look at
let's talk about the status of the mothers of the believers. We will revisit this when we look at the
eyeshadow, the Lana's relationship with her co wives, but just as just so that we know who we're talking about right and so that we hold it on hand in the esteem that we should
you know, last time Allah tells us in the Quran, and I a number that sorry, surah number 33 ayah number six, that the Prophet is closer to the believers then
and his wives or their mothers, right? Well as well to Omaha to home, the his wives or their mothers. So what does that mean?
They are. The scholars of Islam said they are our mothers in
Tata BIA in the fact that they nurture us and teach us. Also the scholars said that they are sanctified have a sanctified status for the believers, right. So we don't speak about them in a in certain ways, right? We are careful in the way we speak about them.
In respect as well, we have high a high level of respect for them.
Also, they are very noble, right, they are the most noble of women, because they were literally married to the most noble of men.
No man can marry them after the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, right?
They have special rules of hijab, we will look into that later.
So rules that don't apply to the average woman.
They are considered part of his bait, right? He's the people of his family, right, the special family of the Prophet sallallahu wasallam, they will get double the reward. So Allah set up to them, a lot of Allah gave him the offer right to choose between the dunya. And between the alpha and the profits or loss on them.
And they chose the profits are lower in sentiment they chose
the Akira. So Allah subhanaw taala promised them if they are devoted to Allah, and they will get double the reward that the average person would get. And yeah, we know that their status is due to the fact that they chose the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and the simple life that he lived and being with him on his path over this life, and it's glitter and glamour. That's what made them special. And you know, dear sisters,
this life is constantly calling us, isn't it. It's constantly telling us to lower our standards, and just be immersed in the dunya just be immersed in this life become, you know, the lowest of the low.
So Pamela, but when we read about these great women and the great people of our past, when we reconnect with their lives and reconnect with the poor and and the Sunnah, what happens is, we are elevated, our spirit is elevated, our goals are elevated, our standards are elevated. And then in Sharla, we become women of substance, you're going to hear me say that phrase, during this series, you know, women of substance, because when I look around, especially when I look around, you know, the social media landscape, I asked myself, you know, is this what Allah created women for?
No, he did not. He created us to be women of substance.
So we will look at only the wives of the Prophet, the other wives and her relationship with them.
So let's look at 12 unique qualities of Asia before we start talking about. I think in the next session, we will begin with, you know,
her childhood, her life, her context, in terms of you know, what time she was born in, etc. But today, of course, this is our first session, we're introducing the topic, and what we're really getting into the kind of right frame of mind right to study this. So let's end this session before the q&a with the 12 unique qualities of it shall have the line
a superiority amongst women.
Hadith in Sahih, Bukhari and Muslim.
The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I'm going to say it in English, English translation.
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said there were many men who achieved status of perfection
or completeness. And none were complete or perfect amongst women, except Arusha, the wife of Pharaoh
and marry the daughter of Emraan. Right, the mother of his early Salah.
And then he said, verily, the virtue of Ayesha over other women is like the virtue of 13, which is a type of food that is considered the best food was considered the best food for the Arabs at the time, over all other foods, right. So he specially singled out our issue
Elena for her virtue in this hadith.
Quality number two, she was given glad tidings of being the prophets wife in Jannah Subhana Allah,
she reported that gibril la Salaam came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
he came with her image on a green silken cloth and he said, verily, this is your wife in this world and in the hereafter. This is a hadith in southern Germany.
This is your wife in this world and in the next Subhan Allah
also. So that's two unique qualities of a third unique quality of Aisha. She was one of the few people who gibreel at a salon sent Salaam to personally write of a Selma related that once Allah's Messenger sallallahu Sallam said, O r ish. And this was her nickname, right? When he was calling Ayesha, he said, O r ish. This is jabril greeting you. So she said, What alayhis salam wa Rahmatullahi wa barakaatuh you see what I do not see. So she said to the Prophet says I'm here you can see him but I can't see him. Right.
So that was the third virtue of Aisha or unique quality that she was one of the few people who Jupiter una Salaam Salaam to personally the flow is she is only one of four companions, who narrated more than 1000 ahaadeeth right so she is one of the
Mk zerona fi rewire till after one of the people who narrated a lot of Hades.
Okay, number five, she was the only wife of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam who was a virgin when he married her.
Quality number six, she was the most beloved person on earth to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she was the daughter of the most beloved person on earth, to the Prophet size, and I'm the most beloved man on earth, right?
We know the Hadith where, you know, the Sahaba asked the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, which person is dearest to you? And he said, I shall. And then he said,
What about amongst the men who amongst the men, and he said her father, right? Even linked the answer to the second question to his beloved Ayesha
that he is her father.
The seventh unit quality of eyeshadow, the Lana is that
when it was kind of Allah revealed, the ayah, commanding him, commanding, the prophet SAW sent him to give his wives a choice, right? Go into the incident later inshallah. But there was an incident where a loss of Allah told the prophets of Salaam give your wives a choice, do they want to stay with you? And live this life of hardship and difficulty and challenges? But you know, obviously a reward as well.
Or do they want this dunya? Right. When Allah subhanaw taala asked the prophet SAW sent him to give his wife this choice, the first person he went to was, Ayesha, right. And he said, You do not have to hasten. You don't have to make your decision quickly. He said, Go and consult with your parents. And she said, No, I need I do not need to consult my parents. She said Do I need to consult my parents regarding this? She said, I choose Allah and His messenger and the home of the hereafter. And she was the first to say this, and then the other wives followed.
So this was one of the unique characteristics of Asia. Number eight, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam the best of creation, passed away in her lap. His soul was taken while he was lying in her lap Subhana Allah
number nine, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the two greatest people off to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam are buried in her house right buried in her house.
Abu Bakr and Omar
you know Subhanallah You see that? You see the green dome above
you know, the muscular another we this is a shot of the lands house right underneath that dome is the house of eyeshadow Delilah. So Pamela
Number 10, the 10th unit quality, she is the only wife upon his lap, he would be resting or in his room he would be, and revelation would come down while he was in that state. Right?
The 11th unit quality, Allah revealed verses of the Quran from above the seven heavens, exonerating her and clearing her reputation for all times, verses that will be recited until the end of time, until there are believers on Earth, right.
And the 12th unit quality, the people used to try to bring their gifts to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu wasallam on the day when he would be staying with her, right? Because they knew that that was his favorite day. And to seek to draw close to the Messenger of Allah, they would bring him gifts of things that he liked on that specific day, because they knew that she was the dearest of his wives to him. sallallahu alayhi wasallam. So
dcist is, this has been the first session in Charlotte. next session, we're going to go into the scholarly status of eyeshadow on her what some of the scholars have said about her in terms of her scholarship, then we're going to go into her birth, we're going to go into her name, her lineage.
Her nicknames and titles, we're going to look at her appearance, we're going to see what people have said about her appearance, appearance, her siblings
and who they were, we will basically look at her entire family tree.
And then we will go on to
the first stages of her life the first years of her life, which was spent in
in in Makkah, of course, she was born, she was only three years old. So Pamela, when
her deja delana passed away. Right? She was three years old. So that kind of puts things into context, right. And she grew up as a believer from the beginning, she never knew a time when her parents were not Muslim. So inshallah, with that, we will end this session, and we will shall have some q&a. So I'm going to look at the chat box and look at as many questions as I can manage in the next 10 minutes.
So some people are asking about
the recordings. Now, this is being recorded in Sharla. And so the aim is, I believe that Omar would like to eventually publish this on their YouTube channel. So yes, if anyone misses an episode, or you know, a session, I would encourage you not to miss, you know, like I said, carve out this time, make it as though you're attending a class in person and make sure you attend. But if for some reason you can't, then inshallah, hopefully there will we plan for there to be recordings available, but I can't really tell you when that will be. Right. So it's not going I don't know if it's going to be something that's going to be quite immediate or not.
Okay, one of the sisters is saying that sometimes people describe I should have done has been very jealous, which is something we can relate to with our husbands but they don't know what to make of it, for example.
Okay, yes, there were times when I should have been on her experience jealousy, and that she even made the wrong move. She made a mistake. And what that shows us is that she is a human beings. And Allah Subhana Allah has given us role models and examples that were real human beings. They're not infallible. They were the best people. But they even they were not infallible. Right. infallibility is something for the prophets. Right? So I shall dwell on how Yes, there were times when she made mistakes. We'll talk about those. But
I think what we need to really pay attention to is how she made amends afterwards, right.
How she fixed those situations. And Subhanallah you'll see that her her way of apologizing her way of making amends was always very adequate, very complete.
Somebody is saying, Can you please share the 11th quality, the 11th quality?
Maybe somebody can share it. I think you guys need to create some kind of group for yourselves. So you can share notes. But the 11th quality was that Allah Subhana Allah revealed verses of the Quran from above the seven heavens, about her and Clara clearing her name, exonerating it.
Is it possible to have notes? No, it's not. You got to make the notes. Or you could, you know, like, hook up with a friend and ask them to make notes for you. I don't know. But you know, making notes is a really key part of being a student. So please make your own notes.
What was the food that was referred to when discussing her virtue? 3030. So 30 it is basically
you can even look it up on Google actually, I think I think Arabs still make it. Basically, it's like a mixture of
meat with bread. And like a soup, right. So in other words, the carbohydrate that they used to have at the time with the meat that they used to have at the time and with some kind of broth, right. And that was considered like the food that they would serve guests you know, like the best food on E that cetera. So that's why the prophet SAW Selim talked about that even that way. We could say like, if you're an Asian, you know, the way we talk about biryani, right, is the way that they would have talked about it.
When is your book going to propose? Okay, so hamdulillah Yes, I'm writing a book about it Shabana. This is a children's book about Asia. So it's aimed at age nine and above. And just make the offer me as
soon as it's finished. You will know in Sharla
Oh, I'm 10 years old sitting with my mom. I want to ask you. Why the prophets Allah Southern favored Aisha over his other words, even above Khadija.
Well, look, Khadija was always known as the number one, okay, even I should have been on her knew that. Atlanta had a special status, right? She was the wife that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam married and was weird in his hardest times. Right?
She was the wife who had been with him through thick and thin. He proposed to her she wanted to marry him. You know, they were a match. That was his income parable right is a different stage of the profits or someone's life. And Khadija Dillon has contributed to the to Islam and to the deen in a way that no one else could contribute. And, you know, that's why I shouted on her. She used to sometimes feel quite jealous when the Prophet sallallahu wasallam talked about Khadija or she saw that. You know, he was taking so much care about her they just friends and relatives and sending them food and remembering her. And once she even said something a little bit harsh about Khadija
under the law. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam got so upset. He said,
he said no, Allah has not given me a wife better than her. Right? And he said because she was and he gave lots of reasons right? She gave me wealth when people were taking wealth away from me, she believed in me when when the people disbelieved, right, and Allah gave me children through her and not through any other wife of mine, right. So how do you draw the line? Hmm, of course, she has that unique status. And the Prophet sallallahu Sallam never married anyone after sorry, during while he was with Khadija. So I don't think it's necessarily
For us to compare, you know, we know that Khadija is unique, and she has that status. And also, Anita is one of the four Greatest Women from the Hadith, right from one of the four Greatest Women of all time. And he did not was not given that status, even though I showed in unhatched does have a high status.
So in terms of why was I show the favorite?
There were many reasons Yanni. And inshallah you'll see that through throughout the weeks, you'll see that she had a very unique, playful, loving relationship with the prophets, Allah salam, she'd never been married before, you know, and the other wives of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam had had marriages before, right? So
there's no doubt that there's something unique in that, right? If you've never been married before, the first person you marry, it's a special experience. It's a special bond and relationship, right.
But also there, there can be many, many reasons. And sometimes, you know, we can say very openly that,
you know, sometimes you love someone, and you don't know why. You know, it's not something that you can tangibly say exactly why. So like, for example, a parent,
you have many children, you love all of them. But at certain times, it might be a certain child who really, you know,
if you feel a lot more affinity towards, right, and at certain times, another child, you might not feel as close to right? It doesn't mean you don't love them, it just means that these are matters of the heart. Right? These are matters of the heart and
human beings sometimes can't help who they love more, right? But of course, with the Prophet sallallahu sallam, he was very, very equal towards all of his wives. Right, in terms of financially in terms of dunya we things in terms of time, right? And that's what's the most important thing?
Yes, do you feel free, you know, sisters, to create groups and channels and things that you know, between yourselves to benefit in Sharla? I just like on the higher end for your daughters and your nice comments, I really appreciate them.
Some people are asking What do you mean, the women of substance?
What do I mean by being women of substance? We don't want to be the sort of women
who basically can be swayed by whatever the latest fad is, right?
And that's, unfortunately, how women are being manipulated all the time, throughout the world, right? the fashion industry, the music industry, Hollywood.
You know, all sorts of industries are constantly addressing and targeting women. There's a great book you can read. It's called the beauty myth. I think it's by Naomi Wolf, I keep forgetting the name of the author. And it's about how images are used to make women feel
insecure, so that women will buy more, right? We don't want to be those type of women who are easily manipulated, right? As I mentioned before Kardashians in hijab, we don't want to be that.
I hope it's clear women of substance women who are believers you know, women who care about the ohana more than they care about the dunya that's what I mean by women of substance.
Yes, somebody says it would it be mean being someone who has principles who is not influenced and persuaded by the glam and shine of the material world? Indeed
beauty myth binomial Yes.
Happy future courses shala. Let's, let's get this one covered first. So inshallah I think that's some
recommend. Somebody says can you recommend some What?
there are lots of books on on the female companions, but
inshallah, what I will do is next time, I will bring some of those books
One of the key books that I'm using for this class is this book. It's an Arabic it's Arusha woman woman in particular on her by Dr. Ibrahim bin Abdullah bin sila Jewish. This my dad bought for me as a gift from from the Gulf so
and then there's this book. It's a translation from Turkish, I believe, might have seen
I would say, most of the books or none of the books in English are really that detailed, right?
books on others or hobby I've been shot a lot. I will. I will show you next time and I've also got Of course, right behind me. This book right. Abuja of Ghana, if you feel interested this is
this is my book that is aimed at children aged nine and above, and it aims to bring the life of Khadija Garner to life as a story.
So inshallah I think somebody's asking for the
reference of a hadith
Oh, so gibril saying Salam should I should have known this that this hadith in Bukhari and Muslim Okay, these of Abu Salah that once Allah messengers Allah said and said, Oh, I wish this is gibreel greeting you. So she said, Well, la Salaam Rahmatullahi wa barakato you see what I do not see she was addressing Allah's Messenger with this last sentence. So it's from Bukhari and Muslim you can look it up you can Google it, Charla it's quite a famous Hadith.
So in sha Allah with that,
I will finish and any of the last things that you guys have mentioned, we will maybe address next time if we can.
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