70 Major Sins #31 – Barsisa, Sin 64 Despair of Allah’s Mercy, Sin 65 Abandoning Group Prayer

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah the sisters a Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatu. And welcome to our class, the 70 major sins of Imam of the Hubby, based on his book Kitab al Qaeda. So hamdulillah we've gotten to

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major sin number

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63.

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And last time, do you remember we were talking about last time we were talking about the story of birth? Cseh? Do you remember the story of birth Caesar, we said there was a,

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a monk called Bursa. And he was left with so so three brothers were going off to jihad. And they left. They wanted to leave their daughter, sister with somebody to look after her. They didn't have any parents. So they convinced this monk, this worship of Allah, to

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allow her to be under his guardianship in a little house next to his monastery.

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And initially, the monk said, No, but then he agreed. And then, over time, we saw, you know, in the story, which you can, you can look it up again, or you can listen to our last class, which is now been uploaded to YouTube.

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Over time, Shavon convinced him in very baby steps, right? To go from being this monk, very pious person, worship Allah.

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Not just worship Allah but devoted his life to worshiping Allah, right? Like, I'm technically a monk, as somebody who doesn't own anything. Right? I know, there's different types. But generally speaking, a monk is somebody who doesn't own anything doesn't,

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you know, has left all kinds of materialism, if you like, and devoted themselves to God.

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But over time,

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he ended up going from that to not only,

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you know, having relations with the lady, right sexual relations,

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getting her pregnant, but then murdering her, murdering the baby, hiding that. And then right at the end, we saw that when the brothers came back, when they had a dream, and they found out, they dug up the body, they found the, for the body of their daughter of their sister. And they realized that they had been betrayed by the monk. And they were having him executed. shaytaan as if to add insult to injury came to entice or Cseh one more time. And what did he do? He said to him, renounce your belief in Allah, reject Allah, and I will save you. And when

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persists, even did that. So he went from being an avid to being to, you know, associating partners with Allah, the worst of the major sins? What happened?

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Chevonne fled.

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And he abandoned him. Right? To his fate. So what are what were the two out of shaytaan? What were the steps? That versus I had to, you know, the the little micro steps, right, towards sin.

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And micro, you could say, micro aggressions against Allah, right, that Bossa had to do, in order to slowly but surely go from being an abbot to being a complete criminal and, you know, a disbeliever. Right, or falling into disbelief, the steps to that. Were in this diagram that I'm showing you now.

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So we said, you know, he accepted the request of the brothers, even though he knew that there was some fitna, you could tell that he knew that there was some kind of fitna, and that's why he was what he was hesitant right to accept. Then he left food out for her. Then he began to take food to her door. Then he began sitting and talking to her at her door. Then he entered her house and was alone with her. Then the next step, he entered a house and ended up talking to her all day.

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Then he became infatuated with her. Then he kissed her. Then he had sexual relations with her. Then, obviously, she had a baby

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Maybe he killed the child and hid the body. He killed her and hid her body. He lied to the brothers and deceived them.

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And then right at the end, he denied Allah and obeyed shaper SubhanAllah. Like, those were the

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many steps that he followed to go from being maybe the highest of people to the lowest. Right?

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So somebody asked, I asked last time, where did where was the first step when he went wrong?

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So I'm going to ask you that right now.

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And I want to hear from the sisters on Zoom.

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What do you think? Where was the? What was his first mistake? What was BOCES? His first mistake?

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Because, well, you know, leaving food out for somebody that's not really a sin, is it? Taking food to somebody's door is not really a sin.

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Talking to them is not you couldn't really say that to sin. Except that, you know, obviously, when we did the,

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when we did the major sin of Xena when we talked about it, I mean, what did we say? We said that everything that leads to Xena is also

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forbidden, right? So this is why free mixing of the sexes is something that the scholars talk against. Right.

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Okay, let me see what people are saying.

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Okay, sister,

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let me see.

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Sister, she's saying

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when he entered her house alone, that was the first kind of sin that he did. Or the first mistake.

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You could say that entering her house alone

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was the clearest is a very clear, isn't it? Like

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step of shea thought, right? Because this is why the Prophet sallallahu Sallam told us that when a man and woman are alone together, when then complete seclusion together for non Muslims, then shaytaan is with them. Right?

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So he's they're suggesting things to them?

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Do either one of them or both of them. Alright. And that's why we are we avoid being in Halawa with the opposite sex, right? In complete seclusion,

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unless it's one of our main rooms, or it's somebody who?

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Anyone married to right? Of course. So, yes, that's one. Another Sister, sister, Marian says, What about the fourth step? Okay. What is the fourth step beginning to sit and talk to her at her door?

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Yeah, you could say that also.

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And he didn't have to do that. Right. He didn't have to basically develop a relationship with her. Right. And that is the beginning of developing a relationship, right? Many times, relationships where we, where we start to have emotional attachments to people. They start with us sharing right over sharing sometimes, over sharing our feelings over sharing our thoughts, our personal, you know, goes from being professional to personal. And that's always a dangerous step.

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To start ha saying he should have accepted, he should have accepted he shouldn't have accepted the request of the brothers from the beginning. Really? He begins to sympathize with her in this way. Yeah. So you know, every step Did you notice? He made an excuse, didn't he? He always had some kind of almost like, intellectual or

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logical reason why he should do the next step. And this is how shaitan works. This is how shaitan works. he'll convince you. Right, that what you're doing is pious. What you're doing is something good, what, you know, he thought to himself, wait a minute, leaving, I'm leaving food out for her. That's a good thing. And then he said it all. You know, that's, that's not very polite. I should be taking it to her door. I should prevent her from having to come out in front of the people. You know, so he had like, a pious reason for doing it. And then, you know, I shouldn't she must be so lonely. That's so cruel of me. I should be talking to her right? Again. shaytaan What is he doing?

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He's making you use your logic. And even in a way he's making you use your desire to be pious and good against yourself.

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This is

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How much Chopin and he deceives us? Right? How how willing he is to deceive us with our own good nature?

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I would say actually,

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I think, you know, and this might sound a little bit strict, okay.

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But I think that where he went wrong was right at the beginning

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when he accepted the request to have a non maharam woman under his care,

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even though he knew it would be a fitna, you see, and that's the important bit, he knew that it would be a fitna. Think about it. He's an unmarried man. Right? Probably, you know, that's what monks usually they're not married, they they stay away from their celebrates usually right? Now celebrate being a celebrate. It's not easy, right? It's not easy to be celebrated at all. So can you imagine

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the very fact that his initial reaction to the brothers was No, I think it shows that he knew that this was going to be enough for him.

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And this is very important, because in our own lives, if you think about it, okay, I've experienced this myself, and many brothers and sisters will tell you they've experienced this. When you're about to do something, or when you're feeling inclined to something. Okay, well, you've been asked to do something. And you can tell that there's a fitna there, okay. So for example, it could be a job, right? A job offer that you've been given that, you know, it's going to be in a in the type of place where you're going to be under salt when it comes to your dean, right? Or there's a person you're going to work with.

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And you can see that there's a high level of attraction between you or you are attracted to that person, or that person. Well, you wouldn't know if that person was attracted to you, you might, if they've very flirtatious and but, you know, if you're feeling attraction, and you recognize it as attraction, and you still move towards it, this is the mistake. This is the mistake. And as human beings, what we do is we lie to ourselves, right? We say no, I can control myself, oh, you know, I shouldn't have I shouldn't be feeling like this. It shouldn't, this shouldn't be happening. I should have more self control. But Subhanallah the way Allah subhanaw taala has designed human beings is

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that we do feel attracted to people. That's not weird. That's just biology, you know, that's human nature. So if you feel that you have there is a fitna, there is a chance that you are feeling a strong attraction towards someone, you should not be leaning into that relationship, right? You should not be leaning into that relationship. I'm going to tell you a funny story, which I don't know how sisters are going to take the time. But one of the Sheoak he's the head of a big organization. And one day, he told us that, and you know, he travels a lot, all over the world. And he was saying that one of his policies, obviously, he didn't say this in public, you know, but I'm,

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I'm showing you how, even to your even people, they they keep themselves in check. Okay, he said that when he comes to a city, and you know, sometimes his the people in his organization, they'll introduce him to a new member of the team. Okay, a new person who's going to be working with them very closely in their team.

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In whatever work, you know, the organization does charitable work, or they'll work all sorts of different work. And he said when he whenever he came to a city, and he saw there was a new employee Sr. and she was extremely attractive and distracting. If he thought that she was a fitna, so she will be in the meetings, and she's a source of fitna for him, he would tell his team,

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he would tell his team. Next time I'm in the city, I don't want that sister to be here. I want you to find a new employee. Now, that might sound quite harsh, right? Especially in our times of, you know, so called equality, blah, blah, blah, equal opportunities, right. But I actually really admired that Sheriff saying that and he said, It's because he knows that if he leaves that city, the next time he wants to come back to that city, he might have that system in his mind. His mind might think, oh, that very attractive sister is going to be there. For me that is a chef who's very in touch with the reality of being a human being, you know, he is in touch with the reality of being a

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human being

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And if he feels that there's a fitna, he's gonna put a stop to that fitna immediately. And by the way, it's not just Muslims who do that. Like, I don't know if you remember Tony Robbins, you know that Life Coach Tony Robbins, he got into this big there was this big Ferrari over something that he said, once. He said he works with the top CEOs, right? And what did he say? He said, some of the top CEOs he's worked with have said that if there's ever a female employee, somebody comes for an interview, right to be hit their personal assistant, or a secretary or whatever. And that woman is very, very attractive. They'll say no, and I'm not going to employ her. And it's because they know

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their own human nature. And they don't want that kind of, obviously he didn't say fitna, but you know, I'm just calling it fitna. They don't want that type of fitna in their life, they're married, maybe they've got family, but they know that if you're going to meet somebody, every single day, you're very, very attracted to it is going to affect you. And when Tony Robbins said this, like, obviously, all the feminists went crazy. Everyone went crazy, like, how could you you know, how could you talk about this? In this way, blah, blah, blah, okay, but actually, he was he was being real. And so I'm, the point I'm making here is that each of us has to have our own precautions. Each

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of us has to have our own precautions. We're not going to be able to completely protect ourselves from every single fitna. Of course not. But you have to minimize it, when you can see that someone is very attractive to you, especially if it's someone you can't marry or you can't, you know, you're not going to propose to them or something. But it's just somebody in your life or somebody who you having to work with, or somebody in, you know, your colleague or acquaintance, then don't lean into that relationship. When you start leaning into it, when you start developing the relationship. That's where it gets into. I hope that's kind of clear. And it kind of answers. One of the questions

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that somebody asked last week, how can we prevent this is a really good book, actually, if you're somebody who's suffering from infatuation, because that's what happened to Caesar, right? He became Eventually he became infatuated and Infatuation is almost like a involuntary mental state, like your brain becomes so attached to a person or to the idea. It's not even that person, it's an it's almost like a dream version of that person, an idealized version of that person, that your brain kind of obsesses over them, it can be involuntary. But it usually doesn't just happen. It usually happens when people lean into a relationship. So they've, they're attracted to somebody and instead of

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avoiding that person, you know, or avoiding developing the relationship. They actually lean into it. And then, you know, it goes from being a crush, to being infatuation. And the brain literally falls into a state called limerence. And there's a book actually called limerence, I believe it's called limerence. You can look it up on Amazon, which really talks about that state, how to avoid it and how to treat it. So last time, the person who asked about that, maybe you can look, look up limerence Okay, so remember this major sin is feeling that you can escape the plan of Allah. Right.

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And the whole point of this one is that you should never feel that you're guided to such an extent that you'll never be misguided, right? Or, and you should never feel that somebody is so misguided that they can never be guided. Even LKm Rahim Allah, He said, Makhura is defined as causing something to others in a hidden manner, and it also conveys the meaning of plotting and deceit. However, it's of two types. So you know, when we say mucker of Allah, you know, somebody might say, Well, isn't mucker a negative thing? Isn't it mean plotting and deception? evil thing saying no marker is of two types. The first is a blameworthy marker, which means causing harm to someone who

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does not deserve it. And the second is a praiseworthy marker, which means causing harm to somebody who deserves it as a punishment. Okay, the first type he says is dispraise and the second is praised. What is attributable to Allah, the Exalted is the praise worthy mucker, which is indicative of his justice and wisdom. He punishes and destroys the oppressors and transgressors, whence they never expected it. Unlike blameworthy mockery, which is practiced by the unjust oppressors against so the the blame worthy Macker which is basically unjust oppression right?

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He said that a person could all of their life have been guided, have been a good Muslim, have prayed. But for some reason, okay? And obviously Allah does not do this. This would not happen to a person who's truly sincere, but it can happen to somebody who becomes blase about it, you know, who thinks I'm, I'm destined for Jana, I'm safe, you know, I'm immune, I'm immune to falling into sin, that type of person who starting to feel safe from the,

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from Allah from any thing changing for them, you know, it can be that person, right at the end of their life, they could end up becoming the opposite, right over over of a pious person, so you should never feel safe. From that. And we said last time we made, talked about the bar, Yama callable, Kulu. For bit scalby, Allah de Nick, oh, Turner over of hearts, make my heart firm upon your deen never, ever take for granted your deen. And this happens to pious people. You know, it can happen to scholars, what can happen they, because they're praised so much. Because they do so much. They start feeling safe. They start feeling and then sometimes in public, they're doing a lot of

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good things. And in private, they are falling short. And then slowly but surely, again, the whole swath of Shavon shaitan wears people down. And then suddenly you hear about a scandal sometimes and you think, Well, how did that person go from being seemingly so pious to falling into something like that? Right.

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And it's usually because they became complacent, obviously, it can also be a test from Allah. But there was always there's usually when you look into it, there's some complacency there.

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You know, feeling that you don't have to hold yourself to a higher standard.

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And then your standards just slipping slowly but surely, okay. May just send number 64 lts. hoomin Rohilla. He will connote despairing

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of the Mercy of Allah, and losing hope, despairing of the Mercy of Allah and losing hope, this is one of the major sins.

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And you know, balco valleys. Sam, just think about your hillbilly Sam, what he went through the prophet Jacob, the father of use of Alayhis Salam, right, he loses his beloved son, a sons lie to him. He kind of knows. But you know, there's nothing he can really do about it. His son is taken from

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his land to a completely different country, sold into slavery. Obviously, he doesn't know all of this, but he doesn't know how he's ever going to be reunited with him. Or if he is ever going to be reunited.

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And then his family fall into poverty, famine, they go, you know, he sends his sons. They go to Egypt, and then after different things that happen, one of the other sons ends up being held in Egypt as well, right? And even one of the other brothers. So it says if he's losing losing sons, right, one by one,

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but what does he say? He says to his sons, those who come back to him Yeah, Bernie have her boo Fattah hustle assuming use of Fatah hustle swimmin USofA he Well, are they assuming Rohilla? So he's saying do not all my sons go out and find out about use of an his brother Despair not

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of relief from Allah.

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Right?

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Never become, you know, in order we say my use my use means is from the same verb, right? They, while they assume a Rohilla don't become

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like in despair, like,

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Allah is not going to help me. You know, that feeling? And then he says we're in now who lie assumere Rohilla he lalco Volker FuRON. Indeed, no one despairs of the relief from Allah except the disbelieving people.

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So despite everything that's happened, jacobellis LON still has hope. Things could turn around, even in the darkest of moments.

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You have hope and you have a personal version of Allah and when you lose that, that's what the major sin is. Yeah, right. And then in Surah Shura, chapter 42. Iron number 20.

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Allah subhanaw taala says, well who will lead the unit zero labor?

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Mean back the male corner to why young Shura Mata, who were who will worry you will Hamid and it is He Who sends down the rain after they had despaired

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and he spreads his mercy, and he is the protector, the Praiseworthy. So, even after the point where human beings stopped thinking, there's no hope. We're all gonna die. There's famine, there's no rain. He is the one who then sends that rain down, even when human beings have lost hope. This hadith is from Sahih Muslim, the jabber said that I heard the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say three days before his death, he said, None of us should die. Except while he is having good thoughts about Allah. Good thoughts about Allah. In other words, expecting good from Allah being grateful to Allah having Hassan oven has an oven is having positive thoughts, positive

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expectations from Allah. Right, not having lost hope. Not asking why me? Not you know. And this is even worse, you know, not being angry with Allah. Or something like this. Yeah. Having positive thoughts about Allah.

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So here are some examples of Su oven and Hassan oven.

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Okay.

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An example of having a van with Allah would be

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wishing for death, when you're faced with a big test.

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You know, a person is faced with a very big test. And then they just feel like, oh, there's no hope there's nothing good that can happen. I just want to die right now. Okay? This would be Sue Yvonne,

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conversely, has not been would be when you're faced with the test, realizing that hardship is a test. And that it will increase your status, that this life isn't everything that actually whatever you're suffering, you're going to see the reward for that in the next life. And you're going to forget about the hardships of this life. So having that positive outlook and also knowing that Allah can take you out of that hardship. So you should never feel that you've lost hope. That there's no hope, however, dark things look, another example of suit oven would be feeling like there's no point in repenting, you know, you've done so many sins, there's no point repenting, because I'm such a

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great center. There's no point like, why would Allah forgive me, I might as well just continue being a sinner. Right? That's, that's like a trick of Shavon that sometimes people fall into, instead, we should have Huseynov then and it wasn't done would be to repent. Even if you keep sinning, you still repent with the full hope and full belief, conviction

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that Allah will forgive you and that you fully intend not to return to that sin. No matter how great the sin is, have full hope that Allah will forgive you.

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And increase in your good deeds so much that He will forgive you. Another example of suit oven would be feeling like Allah once bad for you. When you're faced with a hardship, you know, sometimes you hear people say stuff like that. Allah does not want any good for me. I'm doomed. There's something wrong with me. Bla bla bla, yeah, that's suit oven, and hustle oven would be knowing that Allah will and can make things turn out well, in the end that Allah says in the Quran, doesn't he? Well, there are people too little Mottaki in that the good ending. Success is for them with Ducane. Those who are conscious of Allah, live a life of Taqwa. So as long as you have taqwa, you will have success,

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whether you can see it or not.

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Another example of suit oven would be uttering statements of like negative statements, doom and gloom type statements, there's no hope.

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You know, my life is so bad. Those kinds of statements. And the opposite of that would be

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being grateful, hoping for goodness and working towards goodness, despite what you're facing, being able to see the good things in life, that maybe you're ignoring.

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Yes, you have tests, but you also have blessings.

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And some of us the types of tests we have. There are people in the world who wish that they had our tests, or what do they call them? firstworldproblems right.

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Subhan Allah sometimes, you know, we have first world problems. And there are people who would wish that our worst problem was their problem Subhanallah another example of suit oven would be giving up, not being proactive, because you feel like you're a failure. Or you feel like there's no hope. And the opposite of that, if you have 100 None, you are somebody who will be proactive. You look for solutions. You look for marginal gains, just trying to improve a situation even a little bit.

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Because you know that the result and the success is comes from Allah.

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And all you're asked to do is to strive.

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If you strive, the success will come.

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Being proactive.

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Another example of suit avant would be saying, I could never achieve x y Zed, I could never do that. That's never going to happen for me.

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And the opposite of that was an avant would be saying, with the help of Allah, we will achieve it.

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With Allah Sofia, I will be able to do it, because it's Allah Who gives success. No matter how small your means are another example of suit oven thinking your efforts will never bear fruit.

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Or, for example, expecting things to go wrong. For example, I'm sure you've met people like that.

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Do doom and gloom merchants.

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Always looking on the dark side. On the negative side, the gloomy side, no, a person with personal one expects their efforts to bear fruit. Sooner or later.

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A person with her Cynodon expects things to go well.

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And perseveres, in order to make sure they go well. So those are just some examples of Su avant,

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of Allah and Huseynov van Bella, but at the same time, we shouldn't be deluded. I found this quote from Jeff, sila, and Fosun. And he says about this topic, he says, thinking positively of Allah must be accompanied by avoidance of sin. Otherwise, it comes under the heading of feeling secure from the plan of Allah, if you feel like you're, you know, you're you're basically protected. You know, you're safe. Nothing can ever go wrong with for you.

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And you keep doing sins as well. And that's, that's basically feeling safe from the Makara of Allah. That's not Krishna month.

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And he says, thinking positively of Allah whilst taking measures that lead to good, and refraining from measures that lead to evil comes under the heading of praise, worthy hope, praiseworthy type of hope.

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And then he says as for thinking positively of Allah whilst failing to do obligatory duties, and doing haram actions, that comes under the heading of blameworthy hope, and feeling secure from the plan of Allah. So in other words,

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if you're not fulfilling your basic obligations as a Muslim,

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right, and you're insisting on continuing sinning,

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and then you say, Why doesn't Allah onto my doors, right? Like, what what do you expect?

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You know, you're not doing your part.

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So what the chef is saying is,

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having her son of one of Allah is after you've fulfilled your, you know, your obligations, as much as you know them doing your best, right, at least fulfill your obligations, why would Allah answer the doors? And he does, by the way, Allah still answers the blood of people like this. But why would he? Why should he answer the doors of a person

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who cannot spare?

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Five minutes five times a day?

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To worship him? Does that person really have a right?

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To then come and say, Well, you know, my life isn't going well. Allah, you know, is not giving me what I want. Blah, blah, blah. No, you have to do your bit. You have to do at least your minimum requirements, your five pillars, right? At least at the very least. Okay. Major sin number 65, the article, Jemma, it for you suddenly the whom in hiring other in

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person who abandons the group prayer, the congregational prayer in JAMA, and praise alone without valid excuse.

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And this is for men, you know,

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this is for men. So you remember we said

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Some of the major sins actually specific to men, like for example, wearing silk and gold, right?

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And even this one, right? Somebody who doesn't pray in Jeremiah, without an excuse, and some of the major sins are specific to women, like a woman who disobeys her husband, right. In that sense, there is a balance, you know, no one should think that there's more burden on any

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on women or there's more burden on men. Actually, some of the major sins are specific to women. I would say more of them are applicable to men actually, you know, like, for example, this one, and there's this one that comes after this as well. So

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obviously, the JAMA is the prayer and congregation right? The Salah, in congregation.

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As Muslims, we can't we pray

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by ourselves, or we pray in congregation pray in Masjid, right in mosques. But for Muslim men, it's obligatory for them.

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Especially if they live within earshot of a masjid. So if they could hear the Avant from that masjid, right, it becomes obligatory for them to answer the call. So you should imagine it's as if

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the more oven is saying, hey, Allah saw come to the prayer.

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Come to success, he is speaking to you, personally. That's how we should feel. Right? Especially the men. So this doesn't actually apply to women. It's not obligatory for women to pray in the masjid.

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They can pray in the masjid. It's not obligatory for them. For men, there's a higher level of burden right?

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When they hear that call, and must respond,

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especially if they can hear the call if they're living in the vicinity of the Masjid. It was narrated from Abu Huraira. For the I know that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, by the one in his hand is my soul, I was thinking of ordering that would be gathered, would you know like fire would be gathered, then I would have ordered that the call to prayer be given, then I would have told a man to lead the people in prayer, then I would have gone from behind the burnt from behind and burned. The houses of the men who did not attend the congregational prayer.

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By the one in his hand is my soul. If any one of them had known that he would get a bone covered with meat,

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or to sheep's feet with meat in them, he would have turned up for the Isha Prayer

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narrated by heart by Bukhari and Muslim. So what is Rasulullah sallallahu Sallam saying here? He's saying that

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he wishes he could. He feels like getting firewood and setting fire to the houses of the men who won't attend the congregational prayer.

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Right Subhan Allah

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and then he says, you know if they knew that they would get some meat in the masjid.

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In other words, any kind of dunya right if they knew there was some, you know, someone handing out some cash, some free food.

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Very honored biryani in our time's right. They would all turn up for Isha prayer.

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So Rasulullah saw Salam is saying that people make all sorts of excuses for not attending the prayer. And, you know, there's some prayers that he really emphasized like the chakra in JAMA.

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But really, it's all of the prayers, especially if you live near the Masjid.

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You know, in fact, the scholar said, the reason why we know that it's obligatory is that the profit if it was just recommended, if it was just a booster hub for men to pray in the masjid,

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in JAMA, then the prophet would never have said I would.

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I'm thinking of ordering that the houses of those men be burnt down.

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You wouldn't have been so serious for him to say that. But it's because he considered it to be an obligation

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that he said that obviously he's saying it as an expression, right? Not literally going to do that. But he's trying to express how serious it is.

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And that's why for the men, you know, and it's so sad. It's so sad. I lived in Egypt. You know, I've been to India

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You have men sitting in coffee houses, right?

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And the oven is playing in the background or the oven is going in the background. And they have masajid on every corner.

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And they just sit there. Just sit there in the coffee houses. Well, it's actually shisha usually. Right, not coffee. Right and

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no one is getting up.

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No one is getting up.

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And then the same men will complain.

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Why is our country in such a mess? Why is the OMA in such a mess? If you can't even get yourself off your seat, and go to the masjid for Salah

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five times a day, especially in a country where you have a masjid on every corner?

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Why do you expect Allah to give us success?

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You know, we're supposed to be raising Mujahideen.

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We can't even raise more Solian

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think about that.

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What kind of people are going to do jihad? What kind of people are going to fight in the way of Allah physically fight and defend the Omar who cannot even get up

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to go and pray for the sake of Allah.

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And it's really sad.

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And unfortunately, the same is in places like India and other places where

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you know, there's machines everywhere.

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But for some reason, the young men are not praying.

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The women pray. Sometimes the women pray at home right? But men not only do they not pray in the masjid, they don't pray at all. You know my messages to the sisters. We need to raise men. We need to raise boys who take the salah seriously

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right as much as possible established your ma if you live near a masjid, we live in the west so we don't even have that many questions right? Especially if you live what if you're passing by a masjid and there's other and you're close to it?

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You should encourage and make it a must for your sons to go to that Masjid.

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You know and brothers the same for you you know make it a must that you go to the masjid especially if you're living within earshot.

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So the points to note are that when men reach puberty, when boys reach the age of puberty, and they can hear the other from where they are.

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They must pray in JAMA in the masjid.

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They must pray in JAMA and the masjid

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even if they are far from the masjid it's recommended to try to pray in the masjid as much as possible.

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Okay,

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and or at least to pray in JAMA as much as possible. So the obligatory prayers the five obligatory prayers as a man

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you should be thinking I'm gonna never pray them by myself. I'm going to grab somebody to pray with me.

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That should be the norm. And that's Mr. Hub. You know if you can't go to the masjid if you don't if you live near the masjid is obligatory for you to go to the masjid.

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If not, even if it's far is most the hub you're going to get so much reward for going to the masjid or at least praying in JAMA as much as possible.

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Right? Multiple rewards for praying in JAMA. And there are great benefits to this. Brothers and sisters. Whenever Allah emphasizes something, there's always a benefit.

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A metaphysical benefits in question. Sorry, Siri.

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Be quiet Siri.

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Siri is always interjecting in my classes.

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Whenever I say a word like Sorry, or Siri, it always has something to say.

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So

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there's metaphysical benefits to

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praying in JAMA, of course, apart from the obligation apart from Allah's blessing on us and you know, fulfilling the obligation as the obligatory aspect.

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I would say it brings about unity. It makes men in particular, not be obsessed with the Home

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and the Home Affairs and I don't know the kitchen extension and you know, getting the roof done. It makes them

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think about the OMA. It connects them back to other men

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and to the Brotherhood of the OMA. It makes them hear something positive.

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If that could possibly change their mindset, so when they return home, they're in

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a more generous mindset.

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Those are just some of the things but I'm sure you could think of even more benefits right? To praying in JAMA SubhanAllah. Sometimes you go to the masjid, the men will go to the machine and they will find some news. They'll find some, there's a new class, there's a new service, there's a new something. Right? Or they'll meet a brother

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that they didn't meet for a long time find out something that that brother needs. You know, if we don't have that, if you don't have that congregational connection, we're just going to become individualists, right?

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Individualism everyone just worried and obsessed about their own selves.

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And it shouldn't be like that right? For the OMA the minimum for Salado Gemma is just two people including the Imam, right? So as a man, if you have sons, tell your sons if they have a brother, or a friend, and they can say to them, pray with me, if you're if you go to work, for example, and you have Muslims in your place of work, try to establish the Jama in your place of work. And for the sisters, I want us to think about, you know, how can we help the men to fulfill this? How can we help the men folk to fulfill this because we don't want to be an impediment. Sometimes we could be an impediment

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because we're stopping them from going out. We're encouraging them to do things in the house only. Or, you know, whatever. We have the ability as women to bring out the best in men

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in sha Allah. So and especially as mothers, you know, we can emphasize this to our sons. You shouldn't be praying by yourself. Grab your brother, praying Gemma.

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Okay,

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Inshallah, we're going to continue next time.

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Let me see if there's any questions in the end, so I'm sure we're going to finish them next time. So tune in Chawla next time.

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And with that, I'm going to leave you just come along here and Subhanak Allahu molby. Ham dig a chateau a la ilaha. illa Anta esta Luca or to be like, Salam Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh