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35 Surah Nisaa Part One
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hamdulillah Al Hamdulillah in una steinhorn is the few who are not meant to be here when I talk a lot when I was
fusino Molina, Maya de la firma de la la, la la, la la, la la, la la la la sharika wanna shadow Mohammad and Aveda who are a solo salvaterra he was Allahu Allah. He was. He was heavy woman without what he learned within him about beloved brothers and sisters in Islam. Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh
allows bihon Watada speaks to us in the Holy Quran in Surah Nisa surah of women. In the first verse of the Torah, Allah Jesus Asad says In fact, Allah dresses the whole of mankind. Allah says, Yeah, evenness all mankind, a tempura Bakula Viva la
jaha Baba Sabine homodiegetic cathedra Vanessa, what la la vida sir Luna Viva La. In Allah kana la ku Akiva rakija allows for Han with Allah introduces our fourth surah of the series named misura to Lisa by addressing the whole of mankind.
Now there are verses in the Holy Quran many of them make it verses we are low standard addresses.
Us, humanity at large and most of the maiden and sutras allows for 100 addresses.
The Muslims are evil Lavina.
But here the message is not only for the Muslims, here the message is for for everybody. Sharla we'll come back to that verse later.
Now Sora to me says it is a full suit.
It deals basically with three major themes. There are a lot of sub sub fields, but it deals with three major themes, namely, deals with a family. It deals with justice and mercy. And it deals with human social relations, how to relate, interact with other people, be the Jews be the Christians be the Muslims. So Islam lays down for us the etiquette of dealing with human beings.
If we go back to the previous origins and see way and I said that there is a link between every from one shot to the next or a visa link, the first horizontal Baccarat we said Seattle MACRA deals with the responsibility the must fully of men towards the world that allows displaced men here to look after the world is vice Regent is representative. He appointed men as the CEO to look after the world. And of course, the big CEO that can that allows us as designated for the job are the Muslims. Muslims are supposed to be in charge the world desert advisories for alserkal doctorate gives us that program. It gives us the technology, the program the methodology to how to manage the world.
Secondly, the surah baqarah tells us that we are reformers
or other we must reconstruct the world.
Other words, give the due to the poor what is do be just interference or look after the environment and so forth and so on. And finally, the third theme of sort of mockery is that allows for handlers given us the instruction or the mission to guide mankind.
Not to guide mankind according to their values, no, to guide them according to the values and the principles which has been given to us by Allah in the Quran, and
lived out by Muhammad. Allah says we are ready to compete with the Christians in Christmas or Easter or in the language or in their brands or whatever they know. Islam is a unique religion. It has its own language, it has its own character. It has everything on its own. You guys are married. And so therefore we know we are Muslims, as I said last week, and the way regarding Ibiza as a prophet of Allah subhanaw taala we don't sell we don't celebrate Christmas.
Why would we celebrate Christmas? Because Mohamed Salah Larsson didn't celebrate Christmas.
He knew that they were Christian.
Did Medina they celebrated Christmas he didn't celebrate. Although when he came to Medina, and he saw the Jews celebrating the day when Allah save the Jews from fear around, he indicated that he would create a fast for that day, which was a 10th of Muharram. But there was no other celebration, which means that the celebration of Muhammad Sallallahu Sallam took on only the form of very bad at a loss.
There's no other kind of celebration. For let's assume that we would have celebrated the birthday of the prophets in Ibiza and Abu Musab Rahim, assume that we would have celebrated those birthdays of those prophets. How would we do it?
How? How do you celebrate the personal prophet? What do you do?
We don't know that we don't celebrate because we don't know because everybody will do what they want to do. Some will burn candles or mood light, some big Christmas trees. And we'll do this and we'll do that.
But our needs, our official celebrations
are not how we know exactly how to celebrate those needs. And we know exactly why we celebrate those rates. And we know that those eight acts are very bad. The notice
of how we slowed the sheep, divide the meat, so whether it's on Twitter, were saying we have football, we visit the family and so forth and so on. So we knew exactly how to celebrate those. And those leads are not the celebration of the birth or death of a prophet. No, no. We don't celebrate. No, what do we celebrate?
We celebrate the end of a month of fasting. We celebrate what we celebrate the fact that we will beat you to a loss. We celebrate the fact that we made faster, better we have to be good people celebrate the goodness that Allah has brought out in us.
Again, celebrating the end of also an act of worship which has hatched
So you see, my dear brothers and sisters, we have this uniqueness in celebration
of a mirage. As I said last week
is that Shura which instills in us as Saba,
or firmness and constancy on the program which allows counsel is given to us, constancy in our belief,
as the professor is warned us,
by deviation in the dean, deviation in spiritual affairs, deviation in religious affairs, no, we are firm and constant in the in following the tsunami.
And as I said,
your belief is your own.
Remember what I'm saying to you today? your belief is your own, for which you only will be responsible to Allah.
I'm also going to ask you what other people do fake or what did you do need
to ask you what was your belief,
your belief belongs to you.
Forward you will be answerable to Allah.
How you believe how you live that belief, how you articulate that belief?
That is your responsibility. And they will always say to you, I can only tell you this is what the Quran says. I can only tell you this is a Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, I cannot tell you do it or don't do it. That is your responsibility. I was giving you a mind brain. I was giving you a heart. Allah has given you examples around us of other religions and other faiths and how they do it and allows harlot a sense that this is the right way so saboten in Surah Al Al Imran is that which is the theme of etc. Now today we can do certain Lisa
the themes are similar to Musa are basically two there are many other things that the fundamental themes have certainly sighs, Justice advocacy.
So what he's
saying, if you want to take responsibility for managing the world,
you have to have justice Adam and Rama. You have to be a justice person.
And number two, you have to show mercy
and then allow formalities.
The next issue which Allah deals with is the solarize outlet deals with the rights of the week in society. Allah deals with the orphan
the slave the
worker and the is why the a is weak. Because then as somebody who's just lost a parent, either a mother or a father, or sometimes the last of the parents, maybe it's already lost the mother is now lost the Father. So those are people that I'm weak positions often also often somebody lost his father, main breadwinner. So those are the people that need to be looked after. And for us to be able to look after these people, it is absolutely essential that we must show mercy as I said, Allah does not accept the Salah, of a person who doesn't show mercy.
And Amelia Hadid on mercy. And finally, the sewer focuses right from the beginning on the treatment and rights of women.
First, most of the problems are coded in the beginning Yeah, your nurse or a doctor failure load.
It also means be conscious of your load. It also means be conscious of your responsibility to your loads.
Why? Because he's the one who created you.
It's such an obvious answer. It's such an obvious answer, that we should be conscious
And yet, we live a life we conscious of everybody in everything except of a loss.
Sometimes our consciousness revolved around other people.
Instead of revolving around Allah, an example of Mohammed Salah Lotus Allah, Who created you from a single soul, a single soul.
And I'll discuss this in detail and created there from its mate.
our partners, and allows other lessons from men and women, many men and women was split over the world. So let's be conscious of Allah. Again, Allah gives a reason in whose name you demand your rights from one another, isn't it sir?
Alicia has done yoga more
the Sharia says?
noisy prophet Sharia and he never spoke about Sharia. Sharia was the part of our lives. But when we demand the right from each other, what do we say? The Sharia says, What is your wife say? Finally? Finally, she says, By my man be Sherry asking for chef the Sharia doesn't say you must maintain them as they mature. What does the Sharia say?
Like a man
as a kid next, somebody said to me the other day in Australia, said to Zaki nikonos aquidneck, the famous Indian or Indian from India. preacher asked him about asked him a question. And the question was, I think, what is his view of the implementation of Sharia in Australia?
So he said to the man, I will give you the answer, but you must come to the magic tomorrow morning for fudger
then I'll give you that.
What do you mean?
You mean you asking me about the Sharia, but more fundamental than Nigeria, she says me the magic for five years. Otherwise, you can't ask the question.
Why talk about Sharia that the government of Australia should implement what about your Sharia, the US to implement? So Allah, Allah says,
Be conscious of Allah because through him, you demand your rights.
The Quran says so the Prophet sets
and in particular, respecting family ties,
or have a last one that talks about
family rights, the rights which come from the womb, rights to the brothers and sisters, nephews, cousins, etc, etc. that springs from one woman from one
line from one family three, Allah says, Be careful of those rights. Verily, Allah watches over you. Allah watches over you. So what do we learn? We learned that Allah talks about B as being created from a single soul
and allows for analysis now the question is was how are created from a rubber because this is the common understanding that allows one to the other and then from the big
Read Allah created a tuna how to Samui she's commonly known who was the wife after the Adam Allah here salatu wa.
Allah says wahala carmena zoologia
Allah says, we created
from Adam from the knifes of Adam Zoda. What is what does this mean?
And we will continue with the same meaning
is Allah saying that he created, however from Adam,
who is saying that he created
from the same kind and species in other words, just as he created Adam, a human being,
you create our human being.
The karma laws is an insurance
policy similar to our Janell akumina and fujichrome. As we know, me as a Los Angeles is Creator of the heavens and the earth
who made from yourselves partners. And then Alexa gives you an example women woman and me as Raja and created from cattle their partners. Now account created from the ribs of other cows, from the 10s of other cows, cows were created typically cows and bulls created separately. So allows one that says, I created you mean and physical, from yourself means from the same kind as yourselves.
You are human and a human. Allows farmer says that men and women are twins. They are brothers and sisters, they are twins. then allow formula says she was a
woman called Alicia in holochain. So Jane, and of everything we created pays not one from the other note of everything we created pace. So is your wife created from your your wife great from Europe.
his wives are created from your ribs.
So why should I was created? How are from the rubber bottom now I know this Howdy.
And the misinterpretation come from the Hadith in Bukhari, where the prophets of Salaam said of course it's a hadith
in America holy cow milk the line
and listen carefully to the Hadith says he says in alma mater
Verily, the woman holy was created I mean the line from a robe
he doesn't say
how well was created from Arab No,
honey since women were created from a
now alongside that also says in the
text to to understand what that means was for you and me if we just read it, it says watching women working in from from you know your wife, your partners are not created women that you know none of the women I know in my life are created from ribs. Isn't it sir? So what does that mean? The Quran says inserted ambia Julio internal mean agile in man was created from a haste
does that mean man was created from ice? Is it something called ice? in Allah made man from No. It means that it is in the nature of men to be hasty.
It's in the nature of men universe who ordinary men to get the job done. Only thing we don't want to. We don't want to get done in the holidays. Everything else must get done. But the days even though the sun says eight o'clock, it's still too short, isn't it?
So if Allah says that we will create it from Ace It doesn't mean ace. It means that Allah say man is very hasty. So in the province of Salaam says women were created from a rabbit doesn't mean it means they were created
the top of which is around.
top of which you want to make an analogy, because it's an analogy situation, the literal situation on top of which is around or
As we mentioned common lens crooked.
Now I know this lady's back
up thankfully my wife isn't here today so I can speak freely.
So people say you see women are created from a rub.
The rub is crooked.
Daddy goes on further. He says.
This is a crookedness in the top of the room. The highest part of
agreement agrees and says no women are created from the robe itself. But the prophet makes an analogy with a rib. And what is the crookedness of the top part?
prophecy of course.
So what is the crookedness of a terminal? Please women, please don't get me wrong. This is an interpretation, which you may say, Well, you know, we accepted that we don't accept it. But I think it was a nice interpretation this particular scholar made, he said that the most endearing quality of a woman.
Listen to what he says, Only, I want you to remember that because if your wives are not here, you have to go home and tell them this.
And try and confirm it with him because they give you the rundown totally, he says the most endearing quality of a woman
in others dead, which makes the most feminine. And that which is most attractive in a woman
the fact that she can feign anger, she can make herself look angry.
He says is no more beautiful beauty in a woman than a human when she looks angry.
And you are not angry.
So look at your wife when she makes us if she's angry.
She's dressed up and you're going to go somewhere and she just shows you that she's angry. And you try and say darling sweetheart, I'm angry and you can tickler whatever you want to do and she just remains angry.
And he says a man who thinks that that anger is real anger is not a man.
He loses sight of the most beautiful time of his wife when he looks at it which is angry.
Say so he says that, when the province talks about the crookedness he talks about,
this is his interpretation made many other people interpreted differently. There are certain things as part of the femininity of of women, that is described in the maintenance of the report.
Be that as it may, we conclude then that women will not create from the ribs of other
of men, but women are created like many
the same species as many
the same kind as men may namely human beings.
So why we call this Surah Nisa or women. And as I said before, women has a special place by Allah tala, there are no surah in the Quran, code or region for men. No, for children, no.
Only surah refers to women surah by the name of women.
And as I said, because it is a sutra which deals with justice and mercy.
It is as if Allah saying to mankind, if you can be fair and just with your wife inside your home, and if you can show patience and respect and mercy to your wife inside your home, you will know how to deal with others who are also dependent on you, for the rest of humanity.
Only a man who successfully can manage his own home will be able to manage
Sometimes it doesn't work like that. But most of the times it does. So in fact saying to us, show me the justice in your home, before you can show justice in the world. Show me out just to
show how patient you can be at home. And unlike the lawsuit, and the link between that too and this surah is in sudra Imran Allah gives example of two women Maryam and the wife of MRR.
Two examples of domestic constancy and firmness.
Emily Tamia, the great scholar humble scholar
said the wall will persevere with disbelief and justice. But the world will not persevere with injustice and Islam.
We've seen we know that examples Oh sorry, is the latest example. Iraq was an example, Egypt, Tunisia. All these kind of examples of injustice and Islam cannot live together.
And the prophets of Salaam said that rather live under a ruler who has like raisins, but he's a just ruler of Beijing.
And if it's a Muslim who's an unjust ruler disobey Him, because there can be no obedience to men in the disobedience to Allah subhanho wa Taala.
Justice. does Allah favor the Muslims when it comes to justice and mercy? No.
We are not a favored nation as I say to last, you know the chosen people of God.
Yes, we are chosen in the sense that we are chosen if we live
in tow he
to go to Jenna
that also depends on our laws.
Nobody's died for our sins no blood as an Paulson's. We have to stand fountains there, Fiamma. And if we pass the test in Sharla, we will go to gender.
Allah does not change the established laws of social change.
If there should be change in a community, the laws are the same for everybody before the change comes
in profits. Mohammed couldn't say well, you're a prophet.
Do this for me and do that for me and do that for me. No, no, no, no, no, no. He had to fight every step of the way. When you look at his life, nothing fell into his lap. He had to fight battles. I mean, the baby is a prime example of the non favoring of allows
in the profitable in the Battle of over the profit at at injuries, very severe injuries. His tooth was broken up, which means a sword went right into his mouth, or an ad or whatever it is and broke his tooth. He fell into a ditch.
He was surrounded by the kuffaar he was nearly killed.
While asked the question, why did Allah do this to his beloved Dino, we say he was the Beloved of Allah habibollah.
Why? Two things?
this obedience by his followers.
Listen carefully. This obedience by his followers
did not follow the instructions of the lobbies.
Particularly the arches was the best way to cover the back of the army left a post
and Ember to back preparation
of the war itself.
So what are the
what are the two things you have to be careful about one is the first is obedience to Muhammad Allah.
We cannot talk about mainstream Islam.
And this seems to be the cocktail. We belong to mainstream Islam.
This is Islam of the majority.
Not since the dawn of men has Islam been the religion of the majority.
Not even when the Navy Salam was at the height of his power, or abubaker Omar who was manually the majority of the people of the world always not Muslim.
With a considerable of the Chinese, or the Hindus in Indonesia, or wherever it may be Americans of
the believers were always in a minority.
The people of tawheed were always in the minority, right up to the minute moment that I'm standing in front of you.
So when we talk of the Islam of the majority, what Islam are we talking about? The majority of the people in the world. The majority of the people in Cape Town we escaped are mentioned in the Quran. Where does Allah say that? They will be Muslims in Cape Town we follow the majority of what the people follow up care. What do people what about the people of Joburg? The people of
Makkah and Medina?
Have we not completely cut ourselves off from the rest of Muslims in the world. And we live between the mountain and the sea and this is our little Islam that we have here consisting of about maybe a million Muslims
and we have certain traditions and customs
Good or bad which we must protect
to the exclusion of the rest of the world.
This is not the home of Mohammed Omar Mohammed means Omar means to own of Mohammed Salah Alia salam, wherever they may be found in the world. In a sub there is no majority and minority
in exam which only are only those who are who follow the Quran and the Sunnah. And the rest is zero.
The mainstream Islam the Islam, mainstream is not mentioned in the Quran at all, nor is it mentioned in relation to Islam. The only thing Allah says in the Quran is in the deen and the law Islam. We say mainstream Islam because we want to incorporate revisions, yes, we have culture.
But we have to decide which is bad cotton, which is good culture, where the decide which counties in conformity with the province in which part of the culture and this is not in conformity with the Quran and Sunnah. Yes, of course. And that process was continued to go on
until the end of time until we purify this faith from all the traditions and the customs, which is not part of Islam. So for how long can we claim identification with Islam, while we just discard his teachings,
you adopt the teachings of
we adopt the teachings of not even boubakeur or Murali of man. Sometimes we start adopting, adopting the teachings of people who came 600 years after the Prophet sallallahu.
And we call that
deviation, good innovation.
How can you do that?
Create something which came 600 years, not 60 years, since 100 years.
The gap between Isaiah and Mohammed is about 750 years.
So how long?
And what do we say we say that is mainstream Islam.
We've removed Islam, we've thrown away the Prophet all this
all the time and everybody else, when we say we start the DA.
And then we come 1500 years after Muhammad Al salam, the man is born in Mecca writes a book and we say now that is our book, we follow that man's book.
That is our teacher and our leader, okay 1500 years. This is the, this is when this is why Rashid Rida says we are discarding of teachings and that is why we are we have we have failed as a community.
If you look at the history of Muslims and the history of Islam, you will find that we were at the top when we were closest to the Quran and Sunnah.
And with that, we were at the mercy of everybody the further we move away from Odin in the sun
so what is the call today to return to the
terrifical mind termasuk to be marketable, I was on at length a little avida profitez lifted two things the Quran and Sunnah
we don't know what it is.
You should read parts of it is that in English no excuses you know if I say learn the piano learn there's no excuse. You go on the internet, you buy books you read, I do I do I do the same.
We must realize that our glory and dignity have been undermined only as a result of our negligence and deviation from the Quran and Sunnah.
Because once we leave the Quran and Sunnah Allah removes his Baraka from us.
We become divided community.
The Quran talks about,
about the orphan.
orphan is lost his or her parents are one of his or her parents. And this heading is directed by man Buhari and Muslim
men Buhari and Mr. Muslim. I've said to you the last time we met that for the month of February,
I will give a series of foodbuzz on
I'm not going to give a series of football. No, no.
I'm going to give a series of football on Emma mojari.
First question is
Second question is, why is he of all the 1000s of them? recognize to be the most authentic book
of howdy after the philosopher
who is this man? inshallah we will tell you in about four or five days.
It's called the canonization of the hadith of Imam Al Bukhari as reported for a moment.
And this recognition, my dear brothers and sisters, is a recognition which is given to this great man Allah humbled
by all Muslims, even his detractors recognizes that of all the books of Hadith he is the most and inshallah we will find out why they say that
nobody's a Salam says, avoid the seven great destructive since we're talking about the orphan properties, that seven there are many sins that we committed, but there are seven sins which destroys us
as individuals and as communities, the people ask for messenger of Allah, what are they
profited number one shame?
When we speak about shame, the others who say,
quote, a false belief will be false and he says that Prophet said that this woman will never come and share strange prophecy that but 90% of the Quran speaks about chick 90% Here we are Helene way The first thing the Prophet speaks about is he's talking to Muslims You know, this is not is not addressing Jews or Christians. You may say well in the Quran, that sherek is directed towards the humanity because the Quran Allah wrote to everybody, Hadith is not for you, man Hadees only for Mohammed salah and for Muslims. So why is the Prophet wanting us
to be wary of because it will happen amongst us as well.
Is to join others in the worship of Allah not to join others with Allah know the prophecy to join others in the
asking so for the song in association with a law
number two magic
chicken sandwich is disruptive.
And that is we are known for
the Malay community in Cape Town and the Indian community in other parts of South Africa are known to practice black magic.
Some call it Alicia Novick.
What, what is awake?
Wait, wait what does that mean? Listen.
meaningless term to cover up all the bottle
kololo head nurse Falak
Sahaba cured people by recycle of these
wine, consumer law the cure of all ills
don't need anything.
You don't need the customer swings left or right.
You don't need the man with a big beard to give you some water to drink.
He himself suffers from diabetes and high blood pressure he can't kill himself.
He's more sick than anything else. But he gives himself to be this great healer.
Free to take life which Allah is forbidden except for a just cause Riba to consume interest have spoken about a number of times number five to consume and orphans property. What does this mean to consume? Many times, people die and they leave children who are not valued.
He makes a wall. He puts executives in charge or his wife or his elder children
and some or other they consume the money of the often this is what Allah speaks about. to consume those who consume
the inheritance of the orphan. That's why this verses in Surah Nisa comes after this other verses that deal with inheritance.
Those who eat the money of the orphan and eat other people's inheritance, it is like eating fire into the own bellies.
And yet these are two areas which we fight about the most.
Number six, to turn your back to the enemy and flee the battlefield at the time of fighting number seven, and to accuse chaste believing women will never think of harming the chastity QC moment she's done something bad, committed fornication or adultery, it's the worst thing you can do taxes the Quran
if you accuse a believing men or even a woman having committed fornication or adultery, and you cannot produce forward to says your testimony will never be accepted after that. Your testimony cannot be accepted in a court of law after
the next issue which the surah deals with is a very important issue.
An issue which is very close to my heart,
and an issue which we neglect
You know, there was
and I've told this story before lots and lots of times
with a normal weight on the member.
And he said, You're asking too much dowry for your daughter's Muslims. I'm going to cap the dowry to a certain level. And from today, no one no woman can ask for more than that.
So as you can imagine, it was an old lady standing at the door and said to him, Omar, you can't do this. You have no right to do this. He said Why? He says because a lot of our talks about divorce. In the Quran, Allah says when you divorce your wife, you can't take back from her even if you had given her mountains of gold and silver as a dolly.
What does it mean? This is so easy. She said to me, what does that mean? It means that I can ask for mountains of gold and silver is our
alma mater Utah Jesse, you can count a lady TT Camorra Vienna for sigma diacono economic event. No, no, no, no. Before the people live the magic was a Juma. He came around again on the member again before the BC Sorry, sorry, sorry, I would throw I can't catch the dowdy allows wonderlands given a woman the right to ask whatever she wants I contracted out.
And this is exactly the excuses we make today.
militia by Franny
we call against every law and yet we want to be blessing. Every no we break we break all the laws.
And yet we say Oh, and I'm a good Muslim.
But fundamentals, the honoring of our women.
about Allah speaks about so much in the Quran. We take zero ground zero for grant. So we say well, and I always say you know, I mean allow fatherless and give to the women that dowdy with a good art.
But if they are of their own good pleasure emit any news, if they want to give something back to you, no problem, enjoy it without any harm,
as elevated lawful to you.
I remember when I got married, this is this is not private. This is personal. I'm taking you into my personal space.
So I got married. I was a student when I got married. In fact, I was a student I was at Egypt and a father died and I came back I got married. And in fact, I know when I got married, I didn't even have anything to wear on my marriage day because I didn't have anything I do try to land by the top and everything I had to learn.
And you know that time
I remember my when I when I worked at Stein in 1796 Stan in 71, I started working. My Saturday was 45 grand
a month and I wasn't qualified I was I had a degree in social sciences working as a social worker, but teachers who are earning the same 45 only people earn more than as was the Ombudsman. Bowman Allah.
So and with 45 minute I tell you, I drove a car and a wardrobe. I mean, I was
I was good.
But if I five day was a lot of money. So when my wife said to me, my wife when I save, you know in our family, the doubt is 25 million. I said oh my god 25
you in 10,000 and maybe 15? Imagine your Magnus is seven and a half 1000 and it is a down payment that's down to give 25,025 grand. Because I learned from my mom, my father just passed away. I didn't have money. So she said, Yeah, 25 bucks.
All the time I'm thinking of this 25 rain, I'm broke. I mean, imagine I'm broke. I'm a student. I'm leaving Qatar in two months, I'm going back to Cairo to continue my studies and completely broke up with nothing.
So we landed Nairobi, Nairobi, remember those days in Nairobi, where you sleep on a piece of cardboard African passport they just fell back at you even if you die in the morning to
wait if you change currency in the toilet, who was in the toilet and the currency change was also in the toilet. So I come from a law
so I'm sitting next to my wife now with no money in my pocket. Just my ticket
So I said to her you know can I make a loan?
I knew I knew that was dBc I mean I know I'm you know, zero bottom in low. No, no, no, no, no, no. My mother said I can't
tell you unless you can give me so he says you are quoted this verse.
Is this okay? Yeah, I make your lonely 25 she gave me the all the money. Mashallah good. That's also Marita.
In fact, I was thinking when I made this lecture, I was thinking I never paid a back up.
So maybe I should give it back to you. All right. So it shows then that woman can ask.
So what I want to say to you now is
that we live not in the time when I married people for 25 cents, wrapped in a piece of newspaper over the mascot
of Chris Norman, those days ago.
We need to go back to the old time what's our time, time?
Time, time, time of us Mantovani when the women had the gumption to say that's my dowry. Now of course the argument is that many people have
purchased the quantity of food be it new is the person
and who says there is no team his mother always says this says you know they want so much daddy but you know, my son just started working. You can't afford it.
But you know, I always say to the mothers in the parents in the future husbands My dear son you have your life to pay it off.
So if he sees 20 krugerrands
you can he can say well pay me over the lifetime of the marriage.
You can't say Well now let's negotiate and your uncle your auntie your neighbor the lawyer the chef the Imam
do me a favor
when you son or somebody to get married and she asked for a dowry accepted immediately Why? Because that is what unless that is a right which unless given to say to is you've asked for 20 grandmas without without give you one now and my son will pay you off over the rest of the marriage.
But never negotiate down
an insult or loss
so dowdy this table known as a deferred dowry,
always say to the girls, I always speak to them and say Don't sell yourself cheap, not not selling. I mean it's bad language. Sorry, I would throw that.
I will throw that.
But it's about to give you know that the Quran describes
will add to the Nissan car to Hina. Sir Ducati, hinda Nicola, Allah says
dowry is a gift from the heart.
And it's not payable immediately small amount can be payable immediately the balance and you know, the beautiful part of the doubt is,
let's assume it was 10 krugerrands of new acid anybody else had ever come across, but let's assume a woman is correct.
She has the right to reduce a dowry during the time of the marriage, which is huge now. The marriage is already gone. 10 years and he's not paid any he's not
only given one program and then nine, he skips it every a skip sees, but he's an excellent as good as a nice guy makes his Salah given a house everything. But he can't just get to pick the other nine programs.
She can say to him Darling, you know you're such a good husband, I rip it off, don't worry. All the opposite can also happen.
He married this woman and he sucks about the 10 krugerrands. And during this subsistence in the marriage, Mashallah this woman turns out to be the best wife.
In children, she's in her job, she's at home, she cooks, she teaches the Tolentino password anyone watches his feed, massages his back? Is he he does everything you know, saves him in bed. Anything Yeah. And one day says, If you know, you asked me for 10 I'm gonna give you 20.
So the husband has got this, let's look at the beauty of Islam. But the beauty of Islam, the husband has the right to increase during the course of the marriage, even now, for example, if he only gave you
and now you're married for like 30 or 40 years, you can see Well, we started dating but I'm gonna give you now 2500 as an increase in your salary, while even putting my wall I'll give you this house as my default dowry. When I died in 1000 years must be don't defer down.
So when we talk about the rights of women, Mashallah, we have the best team that gives the most access.
But the problem lies with parents.
What do we tell our children today, our girls, my cane,
you must go to university, you must get a professional because
we don't know what kind of husband you're going to get.
Instead of telling your son,
my son, remember you are responsible for the maintenance of your wife.
Then your wife is your is going to be gone down the Go team has gone work. That's wrong. It's going against the order of our last Hunter.
Chow, we boys
don't think that you're going to manual when she got up off the bottom of the balance sheet works for the first 10 years. And your marriage collapses after six months?
Because that's what
we tell our children. Yes, we do. I do. And you do. We do.
My daughter is a lawyer.
My total current practice. My daughter travels to Joburg you know London, New York, you know, she's maybe some kind of executive, you know, and where do they live in on that side of
Because he also has a you know, he's the CEO of some company, you know,
well, they never really see each other but the point is that the point is this because
they don't have children yet because you know,
it was first pay the bond is like 20,000 a month. I mean, I you know, they can't afford children now.
So this is the life that we're leading. So now on the given Sharla that we go back to basics, back to the beauty of Islam, and to the laws of Allah, back to the Koran, back to justice, pet to mercy. These are the things that we need in our lives. These are simple things they're straightforward things on the guidance inshallah, Allah alum, Salam Alaikum warahmatullah