Dunia Shuaib – Finding Comfort in Times of Confusion

Dunia Shuaib
AI: Summary © The speaker discusses five tips for managing feeling during this time of crisis, including validating feelings, labeling emotions, and not denying them. They also share personal experiences of feeling overwhelmed and overcoming fear and anxiety, emphasizing the importance of trusting oneself and not letting fear control one's behavior. The speaker provides examples of exercises and breathing exercises together, and emphasizes the importance of rethinking one's behavior and approach to life. They also discuss the benefits of sending energy and creating a routine to stay calm, and encourage listeners to visit their website.
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Are the Billahi min ash shaytani r rajim Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim Allah subhana wa Taala said in his glorious book the Quran,

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panela. I know this is really hard. There's truly no way around it. It's hard for everyone. This is so real. And it's understandable if you feel like you're struggling right now that there's so many uncertainties, and that we've never experienced something like this before in our lifetime. And it can feel overwhelming and scary. We are all overwhelmed. We're all feelings of stress of such drastic change in our lives. And the uncertainty that came with these changes. The past few weeks have been emotionally taxing for many of us. And I just wanted you all to know that it's okay to have all of these feelings. Because none of us have ever experienced this before. And it's bringing

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up so much for each and every one of us in different ways. Many of us are triggered.

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And when we're triggered, it can bring back other feelings and memories and body sensations from the past. And this reminds us of the times when we were really sick. Or it reminds us about the times when we watched loved ones who were really sick, or even died from disease.

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We're also witnessing deep suffering of those around us, the entire globe is going through hardship. I just wanted to start off by reminding you that you're not alone in whatever you're experiencing. And it's really scary to know that our financial security is at risk in addition to our health. Our jobs and our livelihood are compromised. We have a shift in our lifestyle where children are home now. They're not going to school and we have to manage with that and work and all of life's responsibilities. And it's natural and normal that our minds are switching from living to survival mode. It's heartbreaking to have your own metric Council and to see that not only your local Masjid

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is closed, but even the head on is closed. Even the mission of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is closed. And that's not easy. It's okay to feel disappointed that everything is canceled, and that all of our plans are put on hold. Your feelings are valid. Anxiety is normal and it's actually healthy at times like this. And it's possible to feel like you're losing it

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but inshallah it's going to be okay. And Allah created this anxiety in us to protect us from danger, that's its roles, and sometimes it can get a little too much. So inshallah Today we're going to discuss some ways to cope and manage our feelings, and to shift our perspective, and Chela. Today, I'm going to discuss with you five quick evidence based tips to help bring some calm during this time of confusion. And they're all things that you can do from the comfort and safety of your own home. By the way, if you have any other tips or additions that you'd like to share, feel free to share them in the comments below. And feel free to tag friends or family members that might benefit

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from this or who you think would like to join us in sha Allah. And if you have any questions throughout this discussion, feel free to post them in the comments and inshallah if we have time, we'll try to address them.

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So I'm going to try to use one

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Word headings for each of the five tips that I'm going to share with you today.

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Number one, validate. So I want you to remember the one word titles. So that insha Allah later on, you can use them when you need to validate. What do I mean, I want you to label and validate what you're feeling. The first step we need to take in order to validate our feelings is to be aware of them. So perhaps you can take out a sheet of paper, or your phone and open the Notes app. And take a moment to recognize and notice what you are feeling.

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P and stillness and try to recognize what am I feeling right now?

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And then label it. I am feeling comfortable. hamdulillah I am feeling anxious. So Pinilla and it's so amazing that this is actually something that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam our ultimate guide and role model did. And in the narration, I'm going to share it's a narration it's really sad and heartbreaking, but at the same time, it is so powerful and beautiful and important, because it shows us that it's okay to be sad, and that the Prophet sallallaahu he was a nun had sad moments. And he showed us what to do. And it's interesting in this specific narration, he labeled his feelings a lot he was a lamb. So this is an authentic hadith that was collected by email Bukhari

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Rahim of mine, his Sahih some other companions said that they were with the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, when he went to go visit was safe. And Abu safe was the husband of the wet nurse of the son of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam whose name was Abraham, and to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam took Abraham. So this is the companions narrating it. And he said that they that the prophet SAW Selim smelt him and hugged him and kissed him. And then the Sahaba sad, but they laughed and they returned. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam was crying, and his tears were falling down his face. And Ibraheem was struggling to breathe. So they knew that he was taking his

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last breaths, and so on the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was crying. Abdur Rahman bin Alfred the Allahu anhu said, Yeah, rasulillah even you cry? And he said, Oh, no, this is a mercy. And then he cried even more.

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And then he said, one of the fav very famous sayings that we know where he said in the liner, Padma, welcome back. Yeah, well, an akula. My europei rabona. Were in beefier Africa, Ibrahim Lama has known that eyes are shedding tears, and the heart is so grieved. And we will not say except what pleases our lord, oh, Ibrahim, indeed, we are so sad by your departure.

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panela the prophets of Allah He leaves and was so aware of his feelings. And he even demonstrated to us to label them, because he did this out loud and the Sahaba were there to narrate this narration to us. And when Allah said that the prophet SAW Sam was the ultimate guide and role model. He's the ultimate guide and role model and everything. And so next time you're feeling overwhelmed, take a few moments to be aware. And to notice what is it exactly that I'm feeling and name and label them? So say something like I am feeling and then think what are you feeling? Are you feeling calm? Are you feeling sad? Are you feeling excited? Are you feeling frustrated? Are you feeling afraid? Are

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you annoyed? are you grateful? And label your emotions. Emotions are meant to be labeled and not dismissed. Labeling our emotions is the first step to emotion regulation. And by labeling our emotions, we can create the distance between ourselves and our experience that allows us to choose how to respond to our situation. And when you're able to name it, you're able to tame it. And it's okay to feel these feelings. It's okay to be afraid. Think of Musa alayhis salaam. Now who was masa? I want you to imagine musala salaam was killing a lot. So he spoke to Allah subhanho wa Taala Musa alayhis salaam was a very strong prophet of a lot. He was so strong that when he accidentally pushed

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a man he killed him. He was

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Such a great prophet that a loss of power that talks about his story over and over and the Quran and even he had fears. Even he was anxious, he was worried. And Allah subhanaw taala quotes him and his brother had one who was also another prophet. In Surah Taha, Allah says to both of them go to for our for he has truly transgressed all bounds, and speak them gently so that perhaps he may be mindful or fearful of my punishment. And then after this a lot quotes musala Sam and huddling, and Allah says they both pleaded, Overlord, were afraid that he may be quick to harm us, or act or act in a way that's tyrant he, because he was a tyrant, and they were afraid of it.

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And so then a loss of an autonomous panel like comfort span an alarm reassures them and says, Have no fear I am with you hearing and seeing. So here Allah subhanaw taala didn't say it's bad for you to be afraid. How could you be afraid you're both prophets. It didn't mean that they had low Eman or they were low in faith, weaken their faith, Allah subhanaw taala assured them so it's okay to be afraid, name your feelings and validate them. And once you do that, inshallah, you'll have more control. Number two, self sooth.

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When we are overwhelmed with our emotions, it's really important that we self soothe. Why? Because we need to reactivate our parasympathetic nervous system, because when we're overwhelmed, we have physical reactions in our bodies, our breathing becomes rapid and shallow. And we're not thinking straight, and span a lot. The latest scientific findings are revolutionary, we can change the way we feel. We can change our emotions by using our breath. Research suggests that certain types of breathing is effective in

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coping with and managing anxious, nervous and overwhelming feelings. So what type of breathing helps intentional breathing? Because I know we're all breathing right now. So you might be saying I'm breathing all the time. How is that helping? Well, intentional breathing is what helps.

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And it's so powerful because breathing is the only autonomic function that we can actually control. Think about it, can you control your digestion, you can't, but you can control your breathing. And so using your breath gives you a sense of control. And oftentimes our anxiety is triggered when we feel like we don't have any control. And breathing exercises are amazing because they work. Learning to use your breath is a very powerful tool that's free and easy. It doesn't require any equipment and you can do it anytime and anywhere.

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And practicing breathing exercises, exercises when you're not overwhelmed is really important because when you practice them, when you're not overwhelmed, it'll be easier for you to do it when you are overwhelmed. So I recommend practicing them either every morning when you wake up or every evening before you go to bed. And inshallah if you'd like we can practice together a breathing exercise at the end of this segment inshallah. Another self soothing technique is affirmations. The word affirmation comes from a Latin word, which originally means to make steady or to strengthen. affirmations are positive statements that you can use to challenge and overcome self sabotaging and

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negative thoughts. When you repeat them often you believe in them, you can start to make positive changes in sha Allah. So let's go back to masala Salam in the famous story when he took benissa and Fred fled from farallon. And the army was behind them, and the Red Sea was in front of them. And the children of Bunny is that I yield said in Morocco. Were done. Musa What did you get us into? But look, Musa alayhis salam did not forget a lot comforting him earlier in his life when Allah told him to go to Pharaoh. And he had this beautiful positive affirmation that he said he said Kela in the mayor of BC, Dean, no, my Lord is with me and He will guide me.

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And so remind yourself a loss of Hannah attallah is always watching you. Allah subhanaw taala always hears you. Allah subhanaw taala is with you and if you seek His guidance, help guide you think some positive affirmations that you can use when you're feeling overwhelmed. For example, the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that when you're afraid

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Allah, Allah Robbie Lapchick, OBE and Allah, Allah is my Lord. I do not associate partners with him. It reminds you that Allah controls everything. Everything is in under a lost control and power, and he's the one who makes anything happen. And so when you remind yourself of that, that will inshallah inspire you to act accordingly penalizes thinking that there's a beautiful exercise we can do together right now if you'd like. And it's a mixture of different self soothing self regulating exercises. So let's do this together in sha Allah Bismillah. So I want you to take your hand and place your hand on your heart. And I want you to bring your awareness to the present moment.

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So just take a second and bring your awareness to this moment. Right now. You're sitting in front of your phone, or your tablet or your laptop, and you're listening to Sr dinya.

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We're learning about self soothing exercises.

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Okay, wonderful.

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Now what we're going to do is we're going to take two deep belly breaths, and we're going to inhale for four seconds, we're going to hold it for four seconds, and we're going to exhale for a little longer.

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And while we're inhaling and our first inhale, I want you to imagine some positive things. Think of how the air, that cut that's coming in through your nose is the handler clean and full of oxygen that your body needs to take a deep breath Bismillah.

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And when you're holding it, I want you to just feel gratitude for that air.

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And then when you exhale,

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I want you to exhale all your stress and your worries and your fear and your sadness.

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Let's try that again. Inhale,

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handler I'm safe right now.

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I'm safe, and I choose to trust Allah subhanho wa Taala. I choose to feel calmness,

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hold it. And then exhale, everything's going to be okay. A loss of Paragon is my Lord, a loss of power subhanho wa Taala, a loving and merciful Lord is in control.

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And I want you to take some time to observe how that makes you feel. And I want you to feel the serenity that comes with this exercise, and know that you have more power than you thought you have more control than you thought. And you can do this at any time. Anytime you feel like you're getting overwhelmed. Wherever you are, take two minutes to pause. And to practice this exercise. I would suggest when you're not overwhelmed to write down some positive affirmations that read it resonate with you and to keep those handy so that when you do feel overwhelmed, you can combine both the breathing exercises and the positive affirmations inshallah. Number three,

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realigning our base understanding of this life of the world and shifting our perspective, reminding ourselves of our core beliefs.

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I wanted to share a few of these core beliefs with you. And these are just a reminder I know you all may know this, number one, Allah is in complete control of everything. He said. panatela gave us the ability to control some things and some things we can't control, work and focus on what you can control. We can control what we focus on how we respond, we can control our actions we can control our choices and our attitude. Number two, nothing happens except by the will of Allah subhanaw taala number three, this life has a big test and we will all be tested with ease and difficulty. Number four, everything in this life is temporary, including this current difficulty.

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Number five, Allah subhanaw taala promises ease with and after trials and hardship and difficulty.

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Allah subhanho wa Taala says that in America

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in America is so truly where there's hardship there's also ease surely with that hardship comes more ease, look for the ease and focus on it. Number six, a lot doesn't burn in a soul more than it can bear later you can live alone Epson Illa was aha it's really beautiful because the prophets a lot he was an asked us to recite those two eight that are recited in the beginning.

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Which are the last two verses of Surah Baqarah. Every night before you go to sleep, and in it a lot promises and says later, you can live a lot more neffs and Illa was Haha, a lot is not burden a soul more than it can bear. And we sometimes don't realize how strong and resilient Allah created us as Allah knows how He created us, Allah subhanaw taala knows that we can get through this. And where we as humans have been through so much since the beginning of time, the companions faced plague, the early generations of Muslims faced plague and diseases and pandemics, and we've overcome them before. Have a healthy perspective on your emotions as well. Having a healthy perspective and the

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correct perspective on Allah subhanaw taala. And the reality of this world is important, but also having a healthy and correct perspective on our emotions. Anxiety is natural, it's good, it keeps us safe. Disappointment just means that we had things that were important to us. And sadness is a natural reaction to things when they don't go our way or when something bad happens. So Pamela, you know,

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I cried when I heard them replacing pray in your homes, instead of saying, Come to prayer. And it was really sad to hear that.

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And it was really sad to see that my Messiah did were close. And to be honest, I got to a point the other day where I was going to try get in my car and drive to the machine and just sit in the parking lot. And just

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try to get that feeling of being in my shit. But then I reminded myself that we weren't, we aren't the first to experience something like this during the time of Ivanov, baesler dilemma and how it rained really, really bad. And even our boss who was one of the great scholars, and who was a great companion, he actually told them what to make of that and say pray in your homes. And so the companions went through this and then I reminded myself that

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there's a hadith study mumble honey collected in a site where the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, when someone is sick or travels, the light of the reward of what they used to do

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when they were healthy or they were a resident is written for them. So there is something that is stopping us from going to the masjid but if we were regulars we used to go to that machine and enjoy going to the machine worship Allah Subhana Allah in that way inshallah we're getting that reward inshallah.

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And we have to remember that all because the hot tub and the massage are closed, it doesn't mean that the doors to Allah subhanaw taala are close, the doors open for each and every one of us until we take our last breath. And it doesn't mean that our connection with Allah is gone. There is an inshallah always will be that connection. And it's up to us to call upon Allah subhanho wa Taala and to connect with Allah Spano, tala, and be mindful of the narrative that you say to yourself, because the narrative or the story that we develop about an experience or a circumstance can be more important and can be more empowering than the circumstances themselves. So if my narrative about the

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current situation is that it's debilitating and overwhelming, then it's going to be really hard for me to make a change to work. But if my narrate if my narrative is that this is you know, something that unless paradise showing us our strengths, and we can be courageous, and we can be resilient, then inshallah it'll light up passion and hope within us to work and do what's best. Have has never done of Allah subhanho wa Taala think well of Allah, and hope and his mercy. There are, there are two companions who said that they were going to go visit another companion usee there'll be a loved one who, who was suffering a fatal illness.

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And so they said that when they entered upon yazeed they said to him, what do you expect from Allah? And he is he said, by alike said, I expect good from Allah. And they were so happy and they said rejoice for we heard Allah's Messenger sallallahu Sallam say that Eliza Jen said, I am as my servant expects of me. And if he expects good he will have it and if he expects evil, he will have it. So keep reminding yourself that I was merciful and kind and loving, that Alice Pattaya is in control, that Allah subhanho wa Taala is the one who can get us through this and have hope in a less paranavitana and remind yourself of this is so beautiful.

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lies the Wali of those who believe and inshallah we're all believers. Allah says in the Quran, Allah will your loving you hold your home minute automatic Eleanor, Allah is the guardian of the believers he brings them out of darkness into light. And when you will realize that you're able to peacefully surrender to the color of Allah subhanho wa Taala. In the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala talks about special people. These people are so beautiful. And he says about them, the way they handle tragedy and loss is they are the ones who are afflicted, they say, in Melilla, he were invading Iraq. And for them, they get Salawat from their Lord and mercy, they realize that truly, to Allah, we belong,

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everything belongs to a lot of luck, do whatever he wants with us, and truly to Him we will return and what matters. Is that meeting with him, what are we going to do in this life to prepare for that meeting with a las panatela in the next.

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And so, it's really important to have this

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trust and surrender in the color of Allah subhanho wa Taala we do our best but at the end of the day, what Allah wills will happen, what he decreed will take place.

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And look at this other amazing Heidi, where our mother at a Chateau de La Hoya and she said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Whoever in the time of an epidemic plague stays in his place, patiently hoping in Allah reward and believing that nothing will befall him or her except what Allah has decreed for him or her. He or she will get the reward of a martyr panel undecided that was selected by mumble hottie Rahim Allah.

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So have that faith and that surrender in a lot Divine Decree in in sha Allah you will get that great reward

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and have to work on put your trust in Allah your loving and merciful and kind Lord, Allah Subhana Allah in the Quran instruct us and tells us so many times with TOEIC Allah Allah Allah and rely upon Allah with to look and analyze Caesar Rahim and rely upon Allah the Exalted in Might the merciful with a wet pill, Alan Hale levy layer moods and rely and put all of your trust in a last pinata that ever living the one who doesn't die and spend a lot. I recently read something by Issa Tamia is obey me. Bless her and her family that was very powerful on to what God and she said, Truly depending on Allah is seeking benefit and protection against harm with confidence in Allah subhanho wa Taala

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believing that he's able to protect you, having good sophistication of him expecting his help and protection and using means doing whatever is in within your capacity to protect yourself. And so to what goal is standing in front of the Red Sea with an army behind you, but believing with all your heart Kela innama you're obese a dean? Absolutely not my lord is certainly with me. He will guide me believing what a loss Paphitis says in the core and could lay you see better inland marketable moulana who am Alana what Allah He failure to working with our key one or another verse? What Allah He failure to work will not mean one, say nothing will befall us except what Allah has destined for

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us. He's our protector. So in Allah let the believers put their trust. Trust a las panatela put your trust in Allah give your worries to Allah subhana wa Tada. Number four, re frame. Honor your field for thoughts and add calming alternative thoughts to the mix and then reframe the way you look at the situation. reframe the way you look at hardships and change your perspective. I want you to take a look at this image.

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Tell me what do you see.

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I use this image in my practice as a metaphor to help people understand that in the most difficult situations and in any situation in life. What you see depends on which details you focus on, on the perspective that you take.

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So here is an older woman and you can see that she is looking to the left and

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If you reframe the way you look at the image, you'll see that there's also a younger woman who's looking away. It just depends on which angle you look at it from. So like we said, we don't have control over the tests and the hardships and the difficulties that we'll face. But we do have control over how we react and respond to them and how we view them. Whether we view them in a positive light or a negative one, and every second, and every choice we have in life is a test from Allah subhanho wa Taala. It's our choice how we react.

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And there's a beautiful example of reframing that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam taught us one day the prophet SAW, Selim was sitting with his companions, and he started to laugh, and the Sahaba were perplexed, like, why is the Prophet sallallahu Sallam laughing. And he said that I Jebin Lee underinvestment amazing wonders is the affair of the believer, for those good for him and every matter. And this is not the case for anyone except the believer. If something that makes him or her happy happens, they're grateful. And they think a lot and that's good for them. And if something harms them, if they experience something that harms them, and they show patients,

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then there's something good for them in that and that's only for the believer. So this is coming from the prophet SAW Selim, who went through every trial you can imagine, who buried six of the seven children who buried his beloved wife, Heidi Jody lavon. Hmm. Who He loved so much that he remembered her until the end of his life. This is the prophet who was starved, who was beaten and abused, both physically and emotionally who bled his face blood whose feet a lot and he was in a blood, who his friends and his companions and his family members were tortured, who was kicked out of his home and lived as a migrant and an immigrant to go to Medina and the list goes on and on. But

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam taught us how to reframe the way we look at life's difficulties. So a prophetic way to reframe our current situation, for example, when limiting contact with people, having the intention to protect others from harm, and to withhold harm from oneself. And it'll be an act of worship because the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said, withholding your harm from others is charity for yourself, from yourself to yourself. So when you hold yourself when you make that intention, I'm not going to mix with people so that I don't harm anyone. If, God forbid, I do carry this virus, and I'm protecting myself from exposing myself to

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this virus, inshallah. It'll be an act of worship. reframe the way you look at this whole situation.

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I know some people are saying it's a punishment from Allah subhanaw taala. And it could be a law only knows. But look that good that came out. Look at the amount of sin that's being reduced on Earth, all the bars, and all these places are being closed. People are home, people are reflecting, they're reflecting on life and what it means they're reflecting on their inevitable reality death. Many of us will handle our turn turning back to a lie I just saw a video out of I think it was Morocco, where you know how in Italy, they're all out on their balcony singing in Morocco, and the last third of the night, they're all on their bed balconies calling upon Allah subhanaw taala making

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bigger, and you can hear the whole entire city is making the good and calling upon Allah subhanho wa Taala. And so reframing the way we look at this, because it's reminding us of Allah subhanho wa Taala reframed the fact that now we have more time for working from home. All those times we made the heart wishing that we can make it to calf. Now we can make it to calf in our homes, we can recite more code, and we can make more bigger and we can pray on time. And we can make with built from the comfort of our homes. And we could spend time in solitude, worshipping Allah subhanho wa Taala reframing the way that this earth is, the Earth is healing. You know, we had a really bad

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climate change and global warming and right now due to the fact that we're not traveling as much so we're not taking planes and we're not driving and the fumes are not being emitted into the atmosphere, the Earth is healing. A loss of health has given us this opportunity to allow the earth to have a break from a hole, the corruption that we've been doing to it. And so what else can we reframe and see in a positive life, I'm sure there's countless examples that you can think of. So how do we reframe? That's a big question.

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that I get asked often by focusing on the reward, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said that there's no fatigue, no disease, no sorrow or sadness nor hurt nor distress, no discomfort that befalls a Muslim, even if it's something so slight like a prick of a thorn, accepted a lot expiate sense. So look at this as an expiation remind yourself that this discomfort, this fear, this stress is all explaining your sins insha Allah, remind yourself of the great reward and keep the end in mind. All of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that if Allah intends good for someone, he actually tries them in this world so that he can reward them, and the profit loss and I'm also sad that a

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servant will continuously tried in this earth until they walk on this earth sinless. All their sins are gone. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam always taught us and he always thought about us. He wanted to teach us things that will help us in this world. And he taught the companions and the oma. That would follow until the Day of Judgment how to reframe and look at this beautiful example. Even Mr. Avila Ando, and it's so amazing his response, and how the Prophet says on top of the Sahaba to reframe, and how the Prophet Sawsan instilled this mindset. He spent 23 years in greening and changing the way that the Muslims thought. Abdullah even was thrown around the lava and who said

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that he entered upon the Prophet salallahu alaihe cinnamal he was in a really difficult time he was really sick. He was suffering from a fever. And he said, I said Yasuda, la you are suffering from a strong fever. Fever is really bad. You have a soul, Allah. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam said yes, for I am afflicted with a fever like two men among you imagine. What would your response be? If the Prophet sighs and I'm said that to you look at Elon Musk roads response. He said, Is it because you get double through reward? Will you get double the reward because your suffering is double? And the prophet SAW said and said yes. But he didn't just think of himself he

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thought about you and me. He said likewise, there's no Muslim who's afflicted with pain as much as a prick of a thorn or more, but a lot of XP has sends just as leaves fall from the tree.

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panela So just remember that. And remember that the prophet SAW someone got sick, and it's okay, I know it's scary. And if God forbid you or a loved one gets sick, remember the reward? Remember the profits awesome, got sick, and inshallah your reward will be great with a las panatela. And last but not least, number five.

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redirect. Remember, not all your thoughts are facts. When your thoughts come, you have the power to choose. You can control your thoughts by choosing which thought you focus on and what you do with that thought. Use those thoughts to direct yourself into positive action. redirect your energy and focus on what you can control and look at setbacks as opportunities. For many years, have we been waiting for time

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to do things? For many years, we've been wanting more time to do so many things. Look at this as a gift and opportunity from Allah subhanho wa Taala to do all the things we've been wanting to do. I know it's sad that the massages are close. What if we made our homes a place of remembrance and salon? What if we designated a specific room and we made it our little salon? What if we made and then and we prayed together as a family and we made lots of vigor. And remember, your salon is your greatest weapon. It's panela the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam anytime something alarmed him he would haste into prayer. So see, this is an opportunity to pray, to pray on time and try to add

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some sooner and Noah Phil and pm and tahajjud and Charlotte Allah and sencilla walk upon our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. There are so many benefits and virtues of sending a lot upon the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and one of them is that it removes it. It removes distress, and it takes care of our needs. And sending a single kilowatts upon the Prophet SAW Selim invites 10 mercies from Allah soprano I've had to descend. And so spend time every day sending some Salawat upon the Prophet SAW Selim and reconnect with Allah through the Koran.

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There's only a month left until Ramadan. Prepare for Ramadan by reciting Quran there's a beautiful narration we're talking about finding calm during times of chaos reciting quote urn is a healing and it brings Akina tranquility alborada the law and who said that there was a man who was reciting swarthy calf, and in his barn was an animal. And while he was reciting the animal became unsettled. And then he looked outside, and there was clouds and mist overshadowing his entire house. And so the next day he went to the prophet SAW Selim and he told him what happened and the prophet SAW Sam said continue reciting for it was a calm which descended with the Quran. When you recite the Quran, Allah

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paradise and a special tranquility and mercy upon you. So spend some time reconnecting to a lot through the Quran. We connect to a lot through tober Allah Subhana Allah says in the Quran, we tried them with both good and evil so that they may return to us. return in Toba to a las panatela you know, panelo want to read a book of em he talks about there's so many effects ever since. And the way to remove them is through Toba returning to Allah subhanho wa Taala. So reflect on your sins and your shortcoming and turn to a less paradise and repentance. Call upon Allah through the

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How did the Prophet Sal son deal with hardships? What did he do when

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they were in the battlefield and it was getting really tense or when the Sahaba were killed, he would make notes he would make the hat or loss panatela he would raise his hands and call upon Allah subhana wa tada asked a lost powder for strength and solutions and patience and peace and protection and everything you want. And we all know that that is a very powerful tool. reflect upon this beautiful verse. We're a lost paradise as we'll call it, a book on adunni St. Jude Law calm. And your Lord said call upon me to answer you. I'll respond to you.

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Alas, putana hears you. And there's such a beautiful narration where the prophet SAW Sam said Verily or Lord is generous and shy if a servant raises his hands in supplication to him, he's shy to return them empty handed. Every time you make that jolly, you'll get blessings and unimaginable ways and a level always respond in one way or another and give charity, the profit loss and I'm sad that charity in secret extinguishes the wrath of your Lord. And performing good deeds protects you from an evil fate. Charity is such a wonderful way to get close to a loss by helping those in need. And look at your seclusion as a means to do something great. Look at emammal as le Rahim Allah

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He authored one of his greatest works a halothane. While he was in seclusion, think about Imam Rahim Allah even taymiyah Rahim Allah, think about these great scholars who actually took these seclusions as opportunities to do great things, and inshallah you can too. And I just wanted to talk about social distancing, for a moment. And I don't like calling it social distancing. I prefer to call it physical distancing. Because all because we're physically distant doesn't mean we have to socially disconnect. So use this time to make sure your loved ones know that you're there for them. Even if it's through virtual means and calls and texts and messages and social media, connect with your

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loved ones. And remember is that when our bodies are quarantined, our souls aren't reached out.

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And throughout all of this, one of the best ways you can keep calm is to try to create a routine, especially in the beginning and the end of your days. This gives you a sense of control and serenity and Charla.

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Now the last thing I wanted to share

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is that may Allah protect us And may Allah only grant this what's good alumna mean. But if one of us does contract this virus or any virus or disease, it's panela. Maybe it's an answer to one of our drops. Maybe there was one time, we learned about the virtues and the merits of the Shahada, and we asked a lot for Shahada because the prophets awesome said whoever honestly asks a law for martyrdom, Allah will give them the status of the martyr even if they die in their bed. And even harder. Alaska lanie Rahim Allah He said in his book giving generous aid in explaining the virtues of plague that that

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dying from such diseases equals and the reward of the death of a person who dies and the cause of Allah subhana wa Tada. And so, if worse comes to worse and we get sick and we die in sha Allah will be a means of Shahada for us all.

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As panela there's a few more points I wanted to make, especially about the dots for protection and I wanted to share them with you but it's time for Mahadev in Dallas. So inshallah, if you're interested in learning the dots of protection and their meanings and one to say them, inshallah, maybe we can schedule another time. I did post a link in the description so that I can send you the draft. So if you inshallah would like just put your email in the link below. And in sha Allah will send you an ebook that I've created for you all with some dots for protection, and I'll let you know when we have our next class. So inshallah let's end with a sense inshallah, since we can't be

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together physically, this will do what we're being together virtually. And when you're sitting down in a helicopter, the vicar and the angels descend and inshallah Allah will answer our supplications so Bismillah R Rahman r Rahim al hamdu Lillahi Rabbil alameen wa salatu salam ala Sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi at

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all I asked you by your greatest name, the one that if we ask you by you respond, Oh ALLAH forgive all of our sins the past the present and the future the ones we didn't knowingly and the ones we did unknowingly Allah, Allah erase and remove all the ill effects of our sins and replace our sins with good deeds the early mean, yeah, Allah make us everything that you love and that you're pleased with and removed from us everything that you don't love and that you're not pleased with. yada man grant the entire Earth relief from the calamities that have touched us, y'all Allah heal those who are sick guide those who are misguided replace our anxiety with serenity and trust in you and grant us

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all the goodness in this life and all the goodness in the hereafter. And yet Allah gift us the highest station of Paradise along Amina Amina, Ameen to Zach law Haven and inshallah I look forward to having another virtual meeting with you all soon. Panic alone will be handed in the shadow, land and the staff that are going to be like

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