Friday Night Etiquettes Class – March 26, 2021

Allah and Abby Hill Karim Allah here follow Salah to attempt to slim rubbish rocklea Sadie were silly Emily Why hello cadet Emily Sony of Gabor Kohli, my brothers and my sisters said Mr Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. So is the 26th of March 2021. We are still in the pandemic of the very famous COVID in 19. And we shot a lot of data we'll continue along in our class.

For tonight in sha Allah, I know that we just finished praying mode here in the masjid so some of the brothers that we're here, I think there was only one sister so some of the brothers that were you're probably going to join as they get home. So that's a very shows at 915. So I will need to wrap up by then in case there's any questions or anything at the end any sort of discussions, or you know, any conversations here on clubhouse because I am streaming on clubhouse now as well. So I got it done today and I know brother out there is probably going to get on to YouTube sometime soon and ask if I'm on clubhouse or he's just gonna join there. But it is what it is in sha Allah and

hamdulillah we are able to carry on teaching. I'm looking forward to the month of Ramadan, we finalized a few things with regards to Ramadan, which I will mention at the end of today's class. So a few people could remind me of you know, the couple things that I want to mention about the month of Ramadan afterwards, that would be great. We will carry on with our topic for now.

And open it up afterwards for some questions. inshallah. Bismillah Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah, early your Sufi woman where

we left off when we were talking about backbiting slender, we mentioned the times are the six times when it is permitted to backbite right where backbiting would be permitted or would not technically be considered backbiting, okay?

From those times are actually let's just see,

you all are able to comment or chat. I would love for those who attended who can remember, one, one time right out of the six, if you could just list that in the chat there are more than one times where it is considered permissible to

tobacco backbite. So how you have Bismillah type away time for you to do some revision in your mind.

The worst type of student is the student, the student that just attends and we're not talking about attending a class like these are the weekly classes I'm not referring to this type of class,

or classroom setting. And students, what I'm referring to is these students who are attending actual, you know, courses, regular classes, and if you're considering this regular class, then Bismillah, you should be taking notes. And I always encourage our students to take notes.

You know, it's much, much easier to retain knowledge when you take those notes. If you can great if you can't use paper and a pencil, then use your device. If you can't use your device because you're on Instagram, well then try to write things down afterwards things that you might remember. And if you're just here to you know, learn and benefit for the time being in the moment, then hamdulillah that's great as well because we always are able to pick things up.

So hey, let's see. Alright, someone mentioned when it is for the improvement of a person.

Okay, so to encourage someone to do good, very good.

Over your mentions,

only when you're praising someone knowing they may not like praise.

I don't remember if I mentioned that.

Huh? Hmm. The last type Yeah. Okay, so the last part that we were talking about using a nickname I think you're referring to,

to ask for advice. Very good. So if you're asking someone for advice or asking someone for,

for for their genuine advice on a specific matter, for example, someone's looking to get married to someone and they come to you as a friend of that person. And they say, Hey, you know what? I'm interested in marrying your friend or your brother or your sister, can you tell me about them? Is there anything that I need to know about them, their personality, etc, that is concerning or alarming? When it's for the safety of a person, okay? When it's for the improvement of person mentioned that good complaining, okay, so if we are going to complain to someone who's able to change that situation, very good luck. So these things are coming up. And you all seem to have kept

those pieces of information handy in your minds throughout the week.

Not mentioning names.

So yes, if you're going to speak about a situation that that includes people, then don't mention their names very good.

We also looked at six things to do when someone spreads rumors and we won't go over that insha Allah so we can jump right into our topic for today. Today we're starting off with, we're gonna get into logging and telling lies, we'll start off with something very quick and sweet and sha Allah, a nahi on a leaf be cool Lima Soumya how it is discouraged islamically and we are warned about not spreading and saying or repeating everything that we hurt. And that's because anytime someone speaks, right, the more they speak, the more they are prone to making a mistake. Okay? The more that a person says things, the more you know, when a when a husband and wife are in a discussion, let's

just call it a discussion, not an argument, they're in a discussion. The more you say the more you put yourself at risk of, you know, digging yourself deeper in your grave, right? You put yourself in a position sometimes where the more you say the worst, you're making it for yourself. Okay.

So here we're looking at how it is discouraged and advise that we don't speak too much. And that was the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam, that we do not speak too much. We say what's needed. And remember, we learned this in the previous chapters. Men can or you will be lucky will your will accept failure. Earlier smart, whoever believes in Allah subhana wa tada in the last day, then say that which is good or remain silent, don't say anything. And so at times, it might be important for us to actually incorporate this sense of silence, or, you know, the ability to not say anything, could be something that we try to do for ourselves on a regular basis where we want to

speak up. But you know what, I don't really need to say anything, you know, you want to share something, but hey, you know what I don't really need to. And what I mean by that is not necessarily a important conversation, but it happens a lot online. When you're scrolling through Instagram, and you see something that you know, you just want to say something for no reason. You just want to share or express yourself. Now, it doesn't mean that it's not permissible to express yourself. But what we're saying here is that we should try to avoid saying too many things. So sometimes you say something, and you offend another person. Sometimes you say something, and you don't realize it at

the time, but many years later, it might work against you. And that happens a lot when you do public speaking, sometimes you say something in a certain context, and many years later, the way the world is and things have changed, you know, that take that statement of yours or class or, you know, teaching or whatever it is gets taken out of context, and then it ends up working against you. So this is something that we learned when we you know, do a lot of public speaking, try to avoid getting into certain topics that may at some point in time,

you know, work against you, that doesn't mean that we don't address those topics. It just means pick and choose when you actually do address those topics. Some things are meant to be said publicly, some things are meant to be meant to be said internationally. And a lot of things are not meant to be said internationally. And I'm not referring to anything specific or anything particular What I mean is, for example, if we're going through Islamic principles, and someone says

is it Are we allowed to have?

There's examples that I want to give. But see, this is a time when I'm picking and choosing wisely, because I don't want to say something that opens up another can of worms or opens up something that people in certain regions will have issues with. So generally speaking, you know, if we're talking about the dean, for example, someone says, Is it permissible to take a mortgage, right? Now, if we look at certain countries, if I'm delivering a lecture in a country where there is no Islamic banking and finance, there is no option for the Muslims, you know, my answer might be very different than the answer that I would give in another place where there are loads of, of

why do you have to say that?

I'm not even going to say I'm not even gonna repeat it because only the people that are on Instagram will be able to see what you're saying. So, you know, a sister mentioned something else on and on on Instagram, and we're just gonna leave it there as it is, right. So, yeah, there are certain topics that when you get into it ends up causing problems

for yourself. You know, the laws of the land in one place are very different. I know when I was living in Malaysia when we be asked questions about

about certain things, we can answer it based on the Malaysian context. But I know very well that if I was to answer that same question in Canada, I would answer it differently. That doesn't mean that the deen is different and it doesn't mean that I'm changing the deen. Right. What it means is or spreading something different about it? No, it means that certain things can be applied in certain areas in certain lands because of the permissibility within that land, and certain things that are not, you know, an absolute necessity for for Muslim to do

in other lands may not be something that is allowed or permitted to do. And we'll leave it at that.

Someone was mentioning marriage and so on. Yeah. Oh, yeah, you're referring to that.

Hey, let's move on. So let's take an example of the hadith of Abu Ghraib or the Allah and when he mentions that the prophet SAW A lot of it, he was on he says, scholar Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said that it is sufficient for

a person who says everything that they hear to consider that a sin. Right? So it is sinful for someone to continue to say everything that they hear from others. So you hear someone say something, you share it with someone else, you hear someone something, you share it with someone else. Basically, here, you're like the middle person who's spreading rumors, who's sharing tales with others, and you run the risk of saying something that is not true. You didn't verify that news. This happens a lot with social media and the technology that we use nowadays, you know, we share things with the world that we didn't verify. How many times do I get a message on WhatsApp about something,

you know, every single day, even yesterday, remember, yesterday at night, I received something you know, to enter your name into a contest and stuff like that. And I knew right away by looking at the website that this is not something that is legit. And you should be careful with regards to putting your name and your information into these platforms or on these platforms and giving away your your data. So we have to be very careful with what we what we receive a lot of people on groups. This is this happens a lot with Instagram groups, right? A lot of people on Instagram, not Instagram groups, Whatsapp groups, it will receive a forwarded message. They'll not even look at the whole thing.

Sometimes they won't even watch the whole thing because two minutes long and two minutes is too long nowadays, right? So they'll receive it and be like, press it oh cool and forward it to a whole bunch of other people without ever even watching it or verifying it. They might even they might watch it, but they don't verify it and remember Allah Subhana Allah tells us in the Quran that we are supposed to verify things before spreading them, right. Verify things before spreading it.

Clear. Let's move on. The next part that we're going to look at is a warning within Islam with regards to lying telling lies.

l caribou will be falafel worker lying is spreading news or is telling news. That is the opposite of reality. Right is saying things that is that is not true. We know what lying is right? So you're actually saying the opposite of reality.

And it is something that Allah subhanho wa Taala warned against as well as the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam when he says Allah subhana wa tada says in the Quran, yeah, you are learning German or tequila. We're cool. We're cool new Masada team. Allah Subhana Allah says oh you believe it took a lot. Fear Allah and be mindful of Allah be conscious of Allah subhana wa to Allah wa Kunal, Masada clean and be from amongst those who are truthful. What this means is the opposite of that is

Do not be from amongst those who are considered liars. Don't lie. Don't share or spread tales, false tales, things that are not true. Okay?

Someone's saying that I'm talking too soft. If you're having an issue on Instagram hearing me just let me know. And my wife is on there. So we'll see if she has a hard time hearing me.

Actually, maybe that's a bad thing to ask my wife. She's probably like ignoring me anyways. I don't want to listen to him. I hear him all day when he's at home. I don't need to hear about him or from him when he is not hamdulillah

so Allah Subhana Allah says, Yeah, you're living in Dhaka law well kulu Masada can be from amongst those who are truthful okay who are truthful.

A cidco Amana well, caribou christianna you know, we know that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a saw the call I mean okay, that

truthful the trustworthy one. That is the way of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, we also see in a Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,

and this is narrated by even Mr. Rude or the Alomar and where he says some along where it was some truth leads to piety and piety leads to jamna.

Truth leads to piety and piety leads to Jenna.

Men persists in speaking the truth, until he is enrolled, his name is written down with Allah as a truthful person.

falsehood leads to sin, and sin leads to the fire and the person persists in telling lies, until he is enrolled, his name is written down as a liar. I'll say that again. You're gonna mess ruined. The long run says the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, truth leads to piety and piety leads to jamna, a man persists in speaking the truth, until he is enrolled with a law as a truthful person. False hood leads to sin, and sin leads to the fire and the person persists in telling lies, until he is enrolled as a liar. Therefore, meaning that person is enrolled as the people are from amongst the people of Jannah. Now Allah Subhana, WA to Allah protect us all, mean, another hadith of our era of

the Allah and where he says the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said,

I told him when ethics send us signs of a hypocrite are three, okay? There are three signs of a hypocrite. Either had that said, Kathy, when they speak, they lie.

And when the what you though were the left, and when they make a promise, they break it.

What you that told me no corner. And when he is interested, he betrays his trust. So these are three signs. There are other signs, of course. But these are three signs that are mentioned here by the Prophet salallahu, alayhi wasallam of the hypocrite, what are they once again, the moon ethic is the one who,

when they speak, they tell lies, when they make a promise, they break the promise. And when they are entrusted with something, they betray the trust of that person.

May Allah Subhana Allah to Allah protect us all, from hypocrisy. I mean, there's also a very lengthy Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that we covered in our fifth class. So for those of you that attended it, we went through the entire Hadeeth at length here, I'm just going to pull out this part of the Hadeeth and this is when the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was relating a dream that he had. He used to sit with this little Viola at home and ask them about their dreams. And they would relate their dreams. Oh, last night, I had this dream last night This person says I had that dream. So after fauja, for example, you know, early in the morning, the Prophet sallallahu

alayhi wa sallam asked us a hospital deal or at home, What did you dream about? And so people would tell their dreams to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and he would also share if he had a dream with this, how the of the long run home. So one of the days the Prophet sallallahu wasallam says, I saw in my dream that these two people came and they took me on this journey. And we went and we saw this and we saw that, basically, it's talking about the punishments of the grave.

And so actually, No, we didn't cover this in the fifth class. It was another class that I was teaching, I completely forgot to write a class that I did on the boat is

talking about the bottles of the time of the bottles, which is the, the phase between when we leave this world and when we are resurrected on the Day of Judgment, okay, so that stage is called the bozak. And from that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam saw in a dream, the punishment of some of the people in their grave, and from amongst that it's a fairly lengthy Hadith, we will just focus on that part of the Hadeeth from amongst the things that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam saw was a man

for either Roger and Janet journalisten what I do not call him and so a man who's sitting down and another man who is standing up behind him, and in his hand is a hook, a hook, and he takes the hook and he places it in his mouth, and he rips from the side of his mouth to the back. And then he places it in his nose and

He does the same thing. And then he places it in his eye and he does the same thing I know some of you might say, My children are watching, why are you saying this? These are from the punishments of the grave? I'm not going into specific details. That's all that I'm going to mention about it. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam saw this, this is a reality. This is something that's real, in the sense that it was a dream of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, when the young people are Anil Hauer, in who are ill, we're hearing you hear the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam would never say something from his own desires his own, you know, will to just okay, I'm saying this is

from me. It's not from Allah. No, Allah Subhana. Allah says, Well, no young people, Anil Hauer in who are ill, what do you have, whatever the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, is from way it's from Allah subhanho wa Taala it divine. So the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is relating this to the Sahaba that I saw in my dream, this men who's sitting down and another man who's standing behind him, and the men standing has a hook. And he's doing this right to the person

who's sitting down. And he asks the angels right there within the those that took him on this journey,

who is this person that is being punished in this way. And so it is left until the end of the Hadeeth. you fast forward to the end of the Hadeeth, when they're explaining to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in his dream, who these people are, and the person who is there having this done to their face is

a kid, a liar, who used to speak and say things that were not true, this person was a liar and would speak, you know, falsehood would say things that are not true that are lies. And so the punishment in the grave of the person who does this thing, this action in this life, which is lying, someone who lies in his dunya, the punishment for that person in their grave is what we mentioned, and I'll leave it at that, because you heard about it already.

But an interesting thing to add on to that is that that instance will not happen only once or that punishment will not happen only once. It will happen repeatedly as as mentioned in the Hadeeth. If I guess now, our V 11 will carry on that that will continue to happen to that person in their grave over and over and over. And in the heavy dimensions, one side of the face than the other side of the face. And by the time that side is done, and this side is already you know back to its normal form. And that will continue to happen until the day of judgment will lay out to be loved. May Allah subhanho wa Taala protect and save us all, from the punishments of the grave and allow us to be from

amongst those who successfully, truthfully, well, we won't be able to lie in our grave, but who successfully answer the questions of the grave and pass that test.

What is the worst lie, the worst lie that a person can tell? The worst lie of them will Kudu is for a person to lie about Allah subhanho wa Taala and then for a person to lie about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam so what is lying about Allah subhanho wa Taala the scholars say, for your Khun bitter will kill me he would have said he believes that you speak about Allah, or you do Tafseer of his book, right?

without knowledge, okay, so basically you are making to seed of the book of Allah subhanho wa Taala without knowledge of it, you don't understand it, you haven't been taught it, you don't know the linguistics of it and you don't know the shutter IE or Islamic principles behind it. If that's the case, then we should refrain from talking about the Quran.

That doesn't mean that we should not recite the Quran that doesn't mean that we should not learn from the Quran that does not mean that a person is should you know, put a barrier. And I'm saying this because I know in some cultures and this is how many of us were brought up. We were taught that if you are not a scholar, you cannot read the books of Tafseer if you're not a scholar, you cannot read Sahih Bukhari if you're not a scholar, you cannot read in Muslims saya. These are the things that we were taught when we were young being brought up with not many scholars around us to begin with. So to be safe. Many of the people who didn't have much knowledge who were sharing some of the

knowledge they had in the massagin when we were young, I would say it's best to avoid reading those books and read explanations that are simple and easy for us to understand because we don't have knowledge. The reasoning for that is that they didn't want it

to do that we have to come up with our own explanation of certain things however when you look at the shutter the explanation of sati hobo hottie even that some people till today that i know will stop someone who's not a scholar or hasn't spent two years studying islam that will stop them from reading it well if you're going to stop people from reading some of the most authentic and genuine texts about islam

how do you expect people to learn islam

you see it it's it contradicts itself you know how do you expect people to learn about islam and to learn more about their deen we're talking about muslims learning more about snap if you tell them you can't read the most

some of the most authentic i won't say the most because nothing is more authentic than than the quran but some of the most authentic texts that are out there that have been written and that have been scrutinized that have been looked into and researched and examined and then preserved for the muslims to benefit from not allowing the muslims to read from it is counterproductive

so

why did i start talking about this because we mentioned the worst type of lying is to lie about the loss of hanaway data and to say things that we that we assume for someone to make their own interpretation of the quran and to say you know and we're not talking about someone who who doesn't we're not talking about someone who has knowledge we're talking about someone who has no knowledge of islam they don't know the principles right they don't have even basic basic arabic knowledge and understanding of the arabic language

it makes it very difficult for someone the sad thing is we live at a time that there are so many people who are putting up videos who are translating things who are doing tough see if they're doing explanation of hadeeth and have grown and so on i will tell you someone who i've spent personally a number of years internationally that doesn't include the years that i've spent here locally studying before as well as after returning from international countries

i've spent a total of 12 years internationally studying islam and i feel really scared when i have to teach or earn i prefer teaching anything else than to teach the explanation of the quran

and that's the honest you know truth about how i feel with regards to teaching the explanation of the quran what i'll do is i will look through the books of tafseer of the other scholars and i will take from what they've said and i will share that right but to make your own interpretation of it and this is sad because many many people will come up with their own interpretations or they will ask their friends for example hey what do you think of this idea what do you think of that how does this verse make you feel and then they'll compile all of that and say some people feel this way about it some people feel that way about it now it's one thing for you and i to read the quran and

to say i feel that this verse motivates me because of this and that and what's mentioned and how the story and so on that's fine okay that's okay but to take that and publish it and put it somewhere come up with videos and stuff like that and then promote it to the rest of the world as this is the interpretation of this verse may allah subhana wa tada guide every single one of us and protect us many of the sahaba many of the scholars of the past you know they need to do against themselves should they say something that's wrong about the quran yet nowadays we have people opening the translation of the quran because they don't understand arabic they're reading the translation and

saying okay this item means this because of that

naomasa panama to protect us on

some of the scholars would say it took with a seal for in the way i neela be careful of doing tafseer because you are basically

you know narrating something from a lot you're narrating something from allah and allah so can we no we are not at his level and so it's very very difficult for the average muslim to interpret and to understand things of the court and to share with others you can understand what you learn from like i said you recite the quran you read through the translation what you feel you know affects you in encourages you you feel blessed by it if you're motivated by it and so on because of whatever reasons have the higher right we're talking about the people that go out there and

As we mentioned, do what they do

with regards to lying about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam okay

with regards to lying about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

That would be to say something about him that he either approved or disapproved of. He said, he did something, you know that someone says he went and did this and stuff like that right to basically attribute something to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, that isn't true.

The person who lies about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam has basically guaranteed or promised themselves a spot in paradise.

No, not in paradise in general. Right, they've made a spot for them in Jannah. The person who lies about the profit selling model at at the center

are highly radi Allahu, Allah, even everybody that on the lower end, said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, letter d mu Allah for inaho men cassava and he fell nearly Jean

idea of the logo and said that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Do not tell a lie against me, for whoever tells a lie against me, then he will surely enter hellfire.

What does this mean? specifically? What it means is a person is promising themselves a place in jahannam. When they say something

intentionally, that isn't true about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam.

Or something he did, or something he said or something he approved or something he disapproved and so on.

So for example, someone says, Oh, don't you know the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam that he did this, and he did that. And it isn't true. Now, if this person heard it from someone else, someone of knowledge, someone who they respect someone who they feel this person should have verified it. And that's different. The person who's conveying it

assumes, but also considers the person who they learned from, to be someone who's trustworthy and truthful and would share, you know, only that which is good and true. And right from the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi wasallam.

We're talking about the person who makes something up, or knows that something isn't true. Or the scholars have said, in their grading of the Hadeeth that these, this Hadeeth is not true. These actions are not true. This is false. This is fabricated from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. But someone says, I don't care. I'm gonna do it anyways.

Give you an example. Many years ago, there was a chef in Montreal, he was telling us

this was actually a chef that was visiting from abroad. And I was attending his classes there in Montreal during the summer when I was a student, and he was saying, he went to a village in a country and I won't say where, and in that village, there were not any learned people. Right. So one of the brothers who,

who knew some Arabic, he knew some Arabic, he saw a book one day.

And you know, the title of it was a Mozart, right? And he's like, Oh, it's topics, random topics, right? Random topics. kitabi. Mobile at Mordor is like a topic, right? So mobile, is the plural. And he's thinking to himself, okay, these, this is a book on various topics, Hadeeth, the various topics of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. So this person in his limited knowledge of Arabic and of Islam, and not having anyone in that village, you know, to teach him better or otherwise, he took this book, and for a couple of years, every Friday, he would make his hotbar, about one of those Hadith that is found in the book. Little did he know that in the sciences of Hadees. When we say

that a hadith is my Lord, that means that that Hadith is fabricated.

It's not true.

It's false.

So this person was thinking, Oh, I got these various topics of Heidi, that I'm going to be teaching. So every single week he was teaching it

His entire village, the Muslims that are there, fabricated Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the people were listening to it every week. And they were like, Oh, this is amazing. And they were, they were implementing those Hadees in their lives.

And the chef was saying, when we went to this village, and we sat, we went for Juma, and this person was delivering the clip, and we're like, Where did you get this Heidi's from? So he brought them, you know, to his home. And he showed them, this is the book that I use. And they're like, this is a book that was compiled to show students of knowledge that all of these Hadeeth fit that category, or that classification of fabricated. Hadeeth. It's basically a book warning you if you come across these high, these know that these ones are fabricated. He didn't know that he was teaching his people these Hadeeth.

May Allah Subhana Allah have mercy upon us?

Was he intending to do bad? No.

Okay, he was not intending to do bad. He didn't know. And there was no one else there. So he was trying. And this is why in cases like that, we should look towards what we know is authentic.

And even better stick to learning from the

right learn from their stories in the court. And there's lessons in the court and there are things there that we can learn from that we can share. You know, there are so many things that we can we can implement in our lives, from the stories that we find within the Quran, Allah Subhana Allah save us all and protect us all from spreading that which is not true about the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Or saying that which is not true about Allah subhanho wa Taala and his book.

Alright, let's move into a last part that we're going to take for today, and then we'll open it up for some questions. We're just very quickly going to look at three times where it is permissible islamically to lie. Well, maybe we'll cover that next time.

Right, I think we should do that. We'll cover that next time. No, I'm just joking. I'm just teasing. All of you will cover it today. inshallah, like I said, we'll go over it very quickly. So three times what it is permitted to lie, okay. And we're not saying lie with the intent of deceit, or the intention to be

to be causing harm, or to put someone in a difficult situation. So let's look at them the first time is Islam, being a nurse, that is permissible to say something, you know, in order to bring two people together in order to rectify, you know, a dispute or something that's happened between two people or two groups and so on, you know, you say something to basically inclined their hearts to want to come together and to speak and discuss to each other, or with each other that matter, and it gets resolved and rectified and handled a lot better time when it could be permissible. The second time is, will help in a battle in you know, if someone is captured or something, you know, revealing

knowledge about the other side, you know, stuff like that is something that, I mean, these are rules of engagement, of course, but within Islam, you know, that's a time when it is, it could be permissible to lie. For example, if someone says, You know what, renounce your deen, okay, or we will kill you. And you can say, you know, it is it is permissible at that point in time as someone fears for their life, to say something with their tongue that their heart does not believe. Okay, so that technically would be a lie, but your heart doesn't believe that, okay, you're saying in order to protect your life in order to save yourself.

And the third time is, and this one is Be very careful with this one, my brothers and sisters, because I know when people hear this one, they're like, Hey, this is it. This is my golden ticket to enjoyment in life. Right? The third time is when a husband and wife are communicating with each other. Okay? And that is usually taken out of context, right? People start lying to their spouse, and then it goes permissible for me to lie to my spouse. What know Islam is. Islam is not. Islam is not weak that way. Okay. Islam is not weak that way.

For example, you know,

your wife asks you, you know, how do I look today? Or, or you come in, you're like, Oh, you smell so beautiful. And you really don't like that perfume? Right? That she's wearing. But you don't want to say that. You want to bring the hearts closer, like Oh, man, you smell so beautiful. Where do you get that perfume? That's amazing. I love it. So nice. Right? You're saying something to make the other person feel good and it brings the two of you closer together. It's not permissible to lie all the time in generally in marriage. Okay.

Scholars talk about this. Some of them say no, it's not, it's not lying per se that it is written that is permissible. It's to use a play on words. Okay?

It's getting interesting.

So, for example,

you see, I can't give these examples because my wife is watching. And then she might use them against me. And I don't know, because she's like,

for example, you know, a wife buys something.

And she knows that her husband will be upset if he finds out how much it was.

So she purchases something, and he's like, comes home, and he sees it. Like, how much do you spend on this? Now, it's her, it might even be her money. And

she has every right to spend her money, how she wants, right, as long as it's being spent on things that are permissible, and so on. And so

she may have spent her money on something, but she knows that he's gonna get upset and be like, why you spent Why are you wasting your money on that, right? or Why did you buy that you should have let me buy that. Okay.

So he comes home, and he's like, oh, how much did this cost? I can't believe you spent money on that. And then these things are so expensive. And she's like, Don't worry, I got a deal.

I got a deal. Is she lying? Well, she's just twisting it, she got it at a deal price. It might not even be a deal. But she considers it to be a deal. Right? And for the sake of him calming down and just being like, really all martial law. That's awesome. You go You got it. And you know how to do the sales and stuff like that.

I don't know how husbands like

congratulate their spouses and stuff like that. And I'll give them a hug and kiss and stuff like that. But so Pamela, you know, just to say something like that, where you're like, Oh, I got it, I got a deal on it. Right? Or, you know, they they'll say something else about a different topic to avoid answering that question. Right? Like, how would you spend on this? Who check this out? liquid does right? Did you know that this thing could do this is awesome is amazing, right? And starts like distracting him from it. And I'm going to stop there. So my wife doesn't get any ideas. That's all we're going to take for today. In short, a lot of data does that come along? Okay. And I'm robotic

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So yeah, someone's mentioning here, it's my wife. She's like, how does trust build in a relationship if you're able to do this trust and sincerity? Well, again, you don't do this always. And it's usually usually what I what I was taught from our teachers is that in a relationship between the husband and wife, if there's conflict, then one of them could use like a play on words or could say something like this, that would calm the other person down in order to avoid escalation of that conflict or dispute between the two of them. So should not be used regularly. Okay? Remember, these are exceptional times when it could be permissible. It's not that it is permissible to always do

this, because then you would take it completely out of context. You're like, I'm going to see a friend, not going to see a friend, you're going somewhere else, right? I'm going to do this, I'm going to do that, you know, and, and so on. So it's to be used only when trying to, for example, de escalate a dispute.

Or to avoid some sort of conflict. That's what I remember our teacher in Medina, you know, explaining to us that this should not be something that gets taken out of control or used in, in, in any way, shape or form.

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make sure you don't miss your prayers by attending classes, right, attending knowledge classes where you're seeking knowledge is

not not more important. islamically then your prayers, so don't miss your prayers. Okay.

What about when you're mending a relationship between two people? Yes. We mentioned that that was the first thing that we mentioned that it's permissible to do, okay, it is permissible to, you know, say something that will that will bring the two parties together so that they can then have their conversation. Sometimes people are so stuck on one thing, no, he said this, he said this, he said this, I'm not going to speak to him. He said that and cos you know, I'm never going to speak to him again. And that person says no, I'm never gonna forgive them and so on. And then you say, hey, look, you know what he said? If you're willing to speak to him, he'll, that's not how he feels and stuff

like that. And you drop it right? You try to try to basically bring these two people together so that they're going to talk and resolve the dispute and move on and

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